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Barbara Hough Roda

For one, a lesson learned

Sometimes, parents, selfrestraint is a virtue that will help you to save face in the long run. True Story No. 1: Upon arriving home from work on an especially sweltering August day, I stepped into my house only to realize that the indoor air offered little respite from the heat. The air conditioning was turned on, but the thermostat read otherwise. No amount of button pushing, switch flipping and circuit-breaker fiddling made a difference. No cooler temperatures. No blowing air. No sounds in the house. Except for me, yelling toward the second-floor bedroom belonging to my daughter. Shed been home off and on all day with two friends and their summer tween sitter: Whats wrong with the air conditioning? I hollered. Huh? What did you say? What are you talking about? Mom, is that you? Whats for dinner? I had to ask, didnt I? A call to the heating-andcooling service was followed by several questions from the dispatcher who ended up sending a technician to the house. He arrived within an hour and politely made a few more inquiries before heading downstairs. In seconds, cool air was circulating through the wall vents. Are you kidding me? Maam, the serviceman said, theres a switch on the side of the unit; someone turned it off. Turned it off?! I didnt even know it was there. Who would have done that? Maybe, he suggested, there were kids down here today and ... But whose kids? Who could have poss-i-b-l-y k-n-o-w-n ... Clarity was instant, and all mine. Theres a $75 charge for the call, he said, apologetically. No problem, I responded with a forced smile as I pulled the checkbook from my purse. I anticipated additional flipping out! But I waited until the serviceman was back outside and in his truck. I closed the front door, and looked up the stairs: COME DOWN HERE! It took little investigative work to know the girls were playing hide-and-seek and found their way into the furnace room where, sliding alongside the unit, they had accidentally flipped the switch. The confined space housing the furnace and water heater is hereby and forever off limits, I told my daughter. End of story. No lectures. No belaboring. I chalked this up to lessons learned, and no one injured. The price was, well, almost worth the eating. Good thing, because that brings me to True Story No. 2: It was a month and a half later, the last Thursday of September to be exact. My daughter was at school. I arrived midday at the newspaper parking garage after a morning meeting in Harrisburg. My salad was in the passenger seat of the car. The briefcase was on the floor below. My security pass into the newspaper building was safely wedged into a compartment near the gear shift and alongside the cellphone. As I got out of the car and prepared to walk to the other side of the vehicle, I slammed the drivers door shut and stopped. Uh-oh. The car keys, work files,

lunch and purse were in clear view but inaccessible behind the doors of my locked car. Yes, theres a security code. No, I couldnt remember it. I had one option other than the locksmith. I got past building security and walked toward my office. On the way, I shared the story with a co-worker, who was aghast at my solution. Dont do it, pleaded the colleague, herself the mother of 10-year-old twin daughters. Youll be very sorry, she continued. Youll never live it down. Youll be reminded of this day for the rest of your life. I ignored her warnings, made my way to the newsroom and picked up the phone to call my daughters middle school. Thats right, the only person who knew the code was a flip-flop-wearing 12-year-old sitting in her seventh-grade science class. The secretary was kind enough not to laugh when I explained Four-year-old Danica Larson picks up a Tootsie Roll during my plight, and promised to have the Millersville Community Parade, Saturday, Oct. 29. my daughter call between class Justin David Graybill/Staff Photo periods. And call she did, speaking in a tolerant, but scolding tone. I got the number and, finally, the lunch out of my car. Lesson learned, at least in the case of the conscientious student who steers clear of the furnace room and long ago taped a homemade Do Not Enter sign on its door. The other, sadly, still cant remember the security code. Barbara Hough Roda is mom to Faith and managing editor of the Sunday News. Email her at broda@lnpnews.com or call 481-7335. Check out her blog at LancMoms.com.

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Carol Wallace
By Maureen Leader Special Features Writer Carol Wallace knows what it takes to run a family. She knows how to run successful relationships. And Wallace also knows what it takes to run both her professional life along with running her personal life. Wallaces way, simply is to RUN. This months Mom of the Month is Carol Wallace of Denver. Wallace is the mother of four children: Paul, 22; John, 20; Leah, 17 and Ken, 13. She and her husband, Mike have been married 23 years. The entire Wallace family runs and throughout their growing up years that has been an activity that they have always been able to do together. Theyve participated in track and field and cross country in school, run local races together and have also incorporated running into their family vacations. They have done the five mile Ephrata Firecracker Run and other local three, five and seven mile races. The Wallaces have also hiked and run during vacations in Maine and in the

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Wallace was born and raised in Pittsburgh. Naturally her family is big Steelers fans. I LOVE football. I was raised on football. Wallace met her husband, Mike, in high school. The two attended Eastern Michigan University together. where she received her degree in Occupational Therapy. Mikes career brought her to Denver. Wallace is very involved with the Denver Swim Team as an officer and a parent volunteer. One way Wallace relaxes is by watching the weather channel.

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Yellowstone, Adirondacks and Grand Teton National Parks. Wallace one day hopes to complete the Garden Spot Half Marathon. Its been an easy and rewarding way for the family to spend time together. Recently Wallace has kicked it up a notch by competing in the York YMCA Womens Triathlon with 17 year old daughter, Leah. Wallace enjoyed the time training and competing with her daughter. She liked the variety of activities: running, swimming and biking. And as with all her races, during the triathlon Wallace didnt worry about her time. Im just out having a good time, she said. Wallace also said thats probably why she has never been injured during any of her training or competitions. So how did mother and daughter compare in the triathlon results? She KILLED me, said Wallace. Wallace admits that she does have trouble keeping up with her children during a race but she says thats what she wants. She wants her children to beat her to the finish line. And while they are waiting, she said, Im out there having a

Carol Wallace, right, with husband Mike and daughter Leah, and son Ken.
great time. Professionally, Wallace is an Occupational Therapist for Eastern Lancaster School District. She helps special needs children. Its very rewarding I love it! She says the children she works with are inspirational and she just loves to see the progress they make. Wallace especially enjoys working closely with the childrens families. As is true with any mother who works fulltime outside the home, it can be stressful for Wallace. But shes been able to strike a balance between her career and her family life and cannot imagine giving one or the other up. Working for a school district enables Wallace to have summers off and that is her time to catch my breath. Wallace also credits her husband, Mike with his support. Ive been very fortunate, she says. If Wallace does ever get overwhelmed, she has her way of coping. I have a sense of humor, she says. I try to be upbeat and if I ever do have a bad day, I apologize.

Wallace adds, Im not perfect. sports and are also musical so Perfect would be boring! there is always a practice or a Wallace is just like any other lesson to get to. mom in having to drive her But Wallace has always children to different activities. - continued on page 9 The Wallace kids participate in

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Wallace loves to bake, especially cookies. She tries very hard to cook healthy meals for her family. I live for my crockpot, she says. Her favorites are soups and stews. Wallace also volunteers at Saint Johns United Church of Christ as a Sunday School Teacher and has also participated on various boards. The Wallace family loves cereal. There are never less than 10 different boxes of cereal in our cabinet or we panic. All members of the Wallace family are early risers. They start their day with coffee, cereal and the newspaper.

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Question: Hi Dr. Fenimore. we are thinking of getting a dog. My son is allergic to dogs and cats. Question: How do you teach your child (6yr old) to focus and keep them from dis-engaging in Im wondering if he spends time around the dog if he would get used to it and grow out of his allergy school? or is that not really realistic? I dont want him to take allergy medicine every day just so we can have a family pet. Thanks!!! Megan Conklin Question: I am a very active person and workout frequently. Lately I have been experiencing Dr. Maria Meliton occassional knee pain with working out. What should be my key sign that I should stop? What Question: My 4 year old already has 2 cavities. I feel terrible about it. He is very good about should I do if the pain begins to occur a while after my workouts. brushing twice a day. Is this a sign that he will have problems with his adult teeth. I dread taking him to the dentist for fear that he will have another cavity. Any suggestions? Thank yo.u. Terry Evearitt Question: My children are 4 and 5 years old. Roughly how much should I be saving each month to pay for their college tuition in full (no loans)? Thank you.

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Foods to bring healthy smiles to kids faces

(NewsUSA) You probably know that sweets and soda are bad for your childrens teeth, but have you stopped to think about what foods are good for their teeth? Some foods support tooth and gum health. Keep these foods in mind the next time you pack your childrens lunches: * Look for vegetables high in vitamin A. Veggies like pumpkin, sweet potatoes, broccoli and carrots are high in vitamin A, which is important in the formation of tooth enamel. Try packing baby carrots in childrens lunchboxes or making homemade, baked sweet potato fries. * Say cheese. Cheese helps balance the pH in the mouth, making it less friendly for destructive bacteria. It also contains calcium. Just be sure to watch portion sizes, as cheese is high in fat and salt. An appropriate serving of natural cheese, like cheddar, is the size of two domino pieces. enough vitamin C. For their size, kiwis have more vitamin C than any other fruit. If green things are a tough sell, try apple slices, strawberries or orange wedges. * Dont Forget Good Oral Hygiene! Remember that there is no substitute for good oral hygiene. Make sure your children brush their teeth twice a day with a fluoridated toothpaste and floss at least once a day. Teach them to drink water after eating, as it will help flush food from their mouth. Of course, children arent always the most diligent brushers and flossers. Some parents give their children an oral care probiotic to help pick up any slack in kids oral care habits. Oral care probiotics work by flooding the mouth with good bacteria, which adhere to tooth surfaces, including crevices, pits and fissures in the chewing surfaces, leaving less room for bad bacteria to grow.

* Snack on fruit. You may know that vitamin The probiotics effectively compete with C is good for your skin, but did you know that certain harmful bacteria for both nutrients and its also good for your gums? Healthy gums help space on teeth surfaces, reaching where brushing support teeth, so make sure your children get and flossing cant.

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ADD/ADHD and the use of drugs

Are we over medicating our children?
By Dr. Arthur S. Seiderman ADD/ADHD is incorrectly diagnosed or misdiagnosed four times for every one time that it is correctly diagnosed. How could that be? Well, lets look at the facts. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention have published research that has shown that 3 to 7 percent of school-aged children suffer from ADD/ADHD. If we can use five percent as the average, then in a class of 25 children only one has ADD/ADHD. Yet six or seven or more kids are on medication for ADD. These medications include: Ritalin, Concerta, and others. TIME Magazine, The New York Times, USA TODAY, Newsweek, The Lancaster New Era, and LANCASTER NEW ERA, and The Philadelphia Inquirer all have questioned how can this be? In fact, it was reported that there were 25 deaths attributed to these drugs and suggested that these stimulant drugs might increase the risks of strokes and serious arrhythmias in children and adults. As a result, the FDA (Federal Drug Administration, a U.S. federal agency), voted to suggest that these drugs carry the most serious of the agencys drugrisk warnings a black box. Dr. Steven Nissen, a cardiologist at the Cleveland Clinic and a panel member stated, I must say that I have grave concerns about the use of these drugs and grave concerns about the harm they may cause. Many believe Ritalin is addictive. Bruce Wiseman, president of the Citizens Commission on Human Rights (a psychiatric watchdog group), notes that the U.S. Drug Enforcement Agency has labeled Ritalin a class one narcotic, sharing the spotlight with morphine, opium, and cocaine. Let it be noted that these are NOT mild drugs. There are potentially significant side effects. It is not like taking two aspirins and call me in the morning. Again, we ask, How can this be? Here is a frequently occurring scenario: some school personnel tell the parent that their child cant concentrate and is fidgety. Better see your doctor and get some medication for your child, the parent is told. Mom or dad take their son/ daughter to see the doctor, as suggested. Doc, the teacher tells us Johnny cant concentrate. The physician responds, No problem. Ill write a prescription for Johnny and that will help him concentrate better. This may be one of the very few places in all of healthcare where an invasive intervention is prescribed without any objective testing being performed for verification of the tentative diagnosis. Indeed, it is a sad commentary on the over-medication of our children today. Symptoms of ADD/ADHD are often the same symptoms that occur in other conditions, e.g. visually-binocular dysfunctions (where the two eyes do not work as a team and therefore concentrating on visual tasks become difficult and laborious the best known of these conditions is convergence insufficiency. Actually, a very recent study performed under the direction of NIH (National Institutes of Health, a U.S. federal institution) showed that these very symptoms that occur in both ADD or convergence insufficiency could be eliminated through the use

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A FREE two hour seminar will be held at The Shady Maple Banquet and Conference Center, Monday, November 14, 2011, from 7 to 9 p.m. Dr. Arthur S. Seiderman, an optometrist and psychologist, along with Dr. Robert Fisher, a clinical child psychologist and educator, will be presenting. If you would like to attend, please call 717-656-0534 to reserve your free seating. Come talk to these doctors and talk to other parents who have experienced the same issues with their children. For more information or questions call 717-656-0534 and ask for Missy. A helpful website address is: www. helpaddvisiontherapy.com.
Canada, and Europe. His work has been translated into six languages. He taught graduate level courses at Penn State University

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of a non-invasive intervention known as vision therapy. Some other interventions which might be helpful in lieu of medication include: psychological, occupational therapy, speech and language specialist, reading specialist, nutritional counseling, etc. However, a complete differential diagnosis with appropriate testing must be performed first, before prescribing. And, you as a parent must speak up and insist on such testing before accepting medication for your child. Please note that the use of medications can be very helpful when prescribed correctly, rather than indiscriminately. Perhaps, the best line of defense in making these important decisions is to become more informed on ADD/ADHD, binocular dysfunctions, etc. Dr. Arthur Seiderman is a doctor of optometry, who has earned a masters degree in child psychology and is a graduate of The Gesell Institutes program at Yale University. He has written several books, lectured throughout the USA,

for many years, is a past president of The Disabled Reader Group of The International Reading Association (IRA), and maintains his private practice in Leola.

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Day Trippin Take a tour of a working dairy farm

By Rochelle A. Shenk Special Features Writer University, and Ginny is a licensed practical nurse. We really enjoy meeting people and sharing our farm with them, Ginny says. We started day tours of the farm four years ago its a natural extension of the B&B. Verdant View is one of the few places in the world where you can truly get a slice of Paradise here on Earth. Farmland Fun tours are available Monday through Saturday. Ginny says that those taking tours have included families, school groups, homeschoolers, senior groups, church groups and scouts. Our guests have included families who are visitors to the area as well as locals. If we have a scout group and theyre working on a particular badge, we can tailor the tour to fit that, she says. Three different types of tours are available, and the fee for each one is different. Farm and Barn Tour Milk a cow, feed a calf, help feed the rabbits, goats, chickens, turkeys, ducks, geese, swan or fish; learn how cows turn feed into milk, let young cows and goats use their long tongues to eat alfalfa from your hand, hold rabbits as they eat clover from your hand, and discover how post-and-beam barns are built. Ginny says that children really enjoy being with the animals and bottle feeding the calves and petting and holding the rabbits. Wagon Ride & Farm Tour The Farm and Barn tour plus adds an excursion by tractor and wagon through fields of corn,

Family fun and education can combine in many ways through hands-on activities, special events or even museums geared toward children. For something different, how about a tour of a working dairy farm?! Farmland Farm Tours at Verdant View Farm, a B&B in

Fun tours on the dairy farm are available Monday through Saturday.

Paradise, offers three different tours. Your hosts for the tours are Don and Ginny Ranck. Ginny explains that Verdant View, which is located near Strasburg RailRoad, The National Toy Train Museum, Cherry Crest Farm, the Railroad Museum of Pennsylvania and the Choo Choo Barn, had been in Dons family, and his parents hosted guests on the farm since 1967. Don and Ginny came to farm at Verdant View after his parents retired from farming in 1975. Prior to taking over the farm, the couple had lived for five years in Recife, Brazil, where they worked in agricultural and community development. Don holds a B.S. in agricultural science and education from Penn State

hay, and other crops waving in the fields. See the verdant view of up to 20 miles, learn about Amish and English ways, ask a farmer about farm life. The wagon was designed by Don and built by a local firm. Ginny says If youre lucky, you might even have the chance to see a cow giving birth to a calf. Farmers Apprentice Farmers Apprentice is a skillbased learning experience for those who would like a more in-depth experience on the farm. In addition to the Farm and Barn tour and the Wagon Ride, there are dozens of hands on farm activities for adults and children. They include cheesemaking, quilting, seasonal corn picking and learning about the history and issues in agriculture. By the end of the stay, participants will have a basic understanding about where the food found in a grocery store comes from, and a first-hand account of life down on a real farm. Activities are seasonal, and some only occur at certain times of the day. Theres always something

to do on a farm, and parents and children learn a lot during their visit. People find the dairy operation really interesting because the end products such as milk and butter. Gathering eggs is also something that both children and parents enjoy sometimes the eggs are still warm, Ginny says. In addition to the tours, Don

and Ginny have cleaned out a silo so that guests can take a look inside to see its structure. Ginny carved out a small office area there. For further information about Farmland Fun tours at Verdant View Farm, please visit www. farmlandfun.com.

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What to wear
By Marci Watterson Special Features Writer Fashion designers are offering a bit of diversity in styles this year. Chances are you already have the basics to work with. Some of these should include; jeans, (a skinny, flared, or boot cut style), dress pants, (black, charcoal and heather gray, along with a rich chocolate and camel tan), leggings, tunics, turtlenecks, polo and buttondown collar shirts, along with hooded sweatshirts, also known as hoodies and maybe even a blazer thats been tucked away for the fall and winter. Time to hang them back up and update! The color factor is based mostly on varied shades of black and brown hues, and sometimes both are present in an outfit. The dominate color of an outfit will lead you to the correct color palette in accenting with jewelry, foot wear, handbags and scarfs. If adding colors, a rule of thumb will place primary colors with black and grays, while pastels or earthy tones work well with

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brown and tan hues. Colors arent fading away during the fall and winter, play with colors. Breaking down the confusion on what to purchase this year could be as easy as relating to a certain period in history. Much of fashion is influenced by imprints in time and identifying with a certain time period will put you

at ease buying and wearing the garment. Any shirt should merge nicely with a pair of jeans; just pay attention to the hues. What are a few of the newly available styles? Animal prints, in both clothing and accents Beaded necklines Geometric accented necklines and edges Woven overlays on clothing Broom skirts or Prairie skirts. All are Aztec, Mayan and Native American Indian influences. Draped shirts and dresses Empire waist tunics Tiered garments Bat winged and/or angel winged shirts and dresses These are mainly Roman influenced fashions. Lace trimmed articles of Abstract/ Paisley prints clothing Block prints Poet sleeves Sweaters and sweater vests Flutter sleeves Faux Fur vests Ruffled blouses Blazers Velour pants, shirts, dresses, Leather jackets (modern version of velvet.) Plaid shirts and skirts Here youll find clothing Crochet wraps and sweaters influenced by United Kingdom Mainly influences from England/ of Great Britain along with Britain, Scotland and Ireland. China. Bronze, copper, gold and Graphic tees silver are a must for accenting. Silk shirts All that glitters is not gold, Watercolor washed shirts and very true, but the shimmer factor dresses is in for the girls with accenting.

Guys should layer graphic tees, or solids with plaids, block prints over one or both shoulders vertically are in too. Sweaters and sweater vests are back, along with their alter ego, the leather jacket, which may require using hair gel and cuffing your jeans, a 70s look. Now thats American. Remember the TV show Happy Days and Grease the musical? Have fun and dont be afraid of time honored trends and multi-cultural wardrobes, its what makes you unique.

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Surprise!!
By Maureen Leader Special Features Writer There are times in every mothers life when we nail it. Absolutely nail it. Maybe its the perfect OMG, How did you ever get this? Maureen Christmas Leader present, the ever so perfect pep talk with the perfect lesson, or the running into school with the forgotten textbook just in the nick of time. Whatever it is, they are the moments that keep us moms going going through the days of questioning our childrens nutrition, agonizing over their choice of friends and beating ourselves up over the swear word that carelessly flew out of our mouth on Route 30. These are the times when we say Yes!! while pumping our fist in the air. Yes! This will be a childhood memory that will ensure them putting me in the nice nursing home I had that experience when I surprised my daughter, Catie for her 12th birthday. Catie and her friends are big fans of the reality show, Cake Boss on The Learning Channel Mondays at 9 p.m. The series centers around Buddie Valastro and his family of Hoboken, New Jersey. They own Carlos Bakery, a family business that has been around for generations. Valastro supervises a team that includes his mother, four older sisters and three brothers-in-law at the bakery. Carlos Bakery makes
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extraordinary cakes, pastries and desserts. The themed cakes are huge works of art and often there is a lot of family drama during the planning, creation and delivery. The girls love it. So working in cahoots with another mom I concocted a plan to surprise Catie and some of her friends with a trip to Carlos Bakery for her birthday. Towards the end of sixth grade I suggested they have a sleepover to celebrate the end of the school year. Three of Caties friends: Emily Eichenlaub, Rachel Woratyla and Katie Hyrb, all fans of the show, thought they would be just be going to school the next day. But at 6:30 a.m. the next morning I woke them up with a big Happy Birthday, Catie! I told them they werent going to school they were going some place special for a surprise. I assured the other girls that their parents knew and they were to quickly get ready. Katies mother, Anne Marie soon arrived and once all the girls were ready and buckled in the car, we announced where we were going: Hoboken New Jersey to see Carlos Bakery and the Cake Boss. Squeals of joy erupted. Priceless. Two hours later we arrived in front of the bakery. We noticed there was not much of a crowd. We parked the car and waited in line. That is when I did my own reenactment of a scene from A Christmas Story. In this classic holiday movie there is a scene where the main

Rachel Woratyla, Katie Hyrb, Emily Eichenlaub and Catie Leader display their autographed Cake Boss photos.

character, a young boy named Ralphie, gets in line to see Santa Claus at a department store. He thinks he is at the end of the line but is quickly told, no, the line ends waaaayyy back there. Thats what happened to us. We were told, no, that wasnt the end of the line right in front of the bakery like we thought. No, the end of the line was another block over. We waited two and a halfhours in 110 degree heat with 100 percent humidity before we finally got into the bakery. Once inside, everything was worth it. The girls had their picture taken with some of the stars of the show real employees of the bakery: Mauro and Andrew. Andrew was kind enough to go upstairs and get Buddie to autograph photographs for

the girls a real thrill. Buddie was upstairs actually taping an episode. The girls loved it. Best Birthday. Ever, I was told. Best. On the surface our trip was ridiculous. Who pulls their daughter out of school to drive

more than two hours to go to a bakery in New Jersey? Who waits that long in that kind of heat to purchase baked goods? For a silly reality show? Who? Me. Thats who the mother with the awesome nursing home room in her future.

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Talking about the topic of circumsion

the ballot. On the flip side the World Health Organization (WHO) recently began recommending circumcision as a way to significantly reduce the HIV epidemic in Africa. Being circumcised reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 60 percent in heterosexual males. WHO is training health care providers throughout Africa to perform the procedure on newborn males whose parents consent. My beloved American Academy of Pediatrics essentially has no statement on circumcision right now because there is so much gray area on this procedure that the details of a policy are still under much debate. So given all these arguments, what is the average American parent to believe? And who can you turn to for advice, since this topic is almost always filled with irrational emotion? Here is what you need to know: There are not enough health benefits to being circumcised for doctors to recommend the procedure. There is a slightly lower incidence of penile cancer (a very rare cancer in the first place), a lower HIV transmission rate, and a circumcised penis is a little easier to keep clean, but overall these are not really significant. So be wary of any health care provider who tries to convince you the procedure is vital. However, contrary to what many Web sites say, circumcision, if done properly, is a very safe, short procedure with a very low complication rate. Pain control is vital to this procedure, and it should never be done without at least a numbing cream called EMLA, and preferably also with a xylocaine injected block. When we do circumcisions, most of the babies fuss a little bit at first, but ultimately lay there comfortably or even fall asleep. The procedure typically takes about 15 minutes. Yes, when the anesthetic wears off, it is probably a little bit sore, and no, we do not provide oral pain medicine, but most experts

By Dr. Pia Fenimore, M.D. The topic of circumcision tends to bring out a lot of emotion, but parents should stay focused on the facts and their feelings about the topic, NOT everyone elses. When I go into the hospital and see new parents, I say a lot of things. We talk about feeding, fever, car seats, etc., and fathers typically have a glazed expression until I say one word circumcision. Then they perk up immediately. Circumcision is in the news a lot. In the city of San Francisco, a referendum to make circumcision illegal was proposed. Anyone performing the procedure would be fined $1,000. The proponents of this law were heralding it as the first of its kind to protect those who cannot speak for themselves against genital mutilation. Most people, including myself, feel that this is a bit dramatic and probably a violation of rights. The courts agreed with this when they forbid it from appearing on

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feel that this pain is minimal. The circumcised penis is very easy to care for by putting Vaseline on the head of the penis until there is a new layer of skin (about 3-5 days). SO, how do you decide to circumcise or not? Ask yourself what feels right. In the United States around 65 percent of newborn males are circumcised. At Lancaster General Health: Women & Babies Hospital last year, it was about 85 percent. Many parents circumcise their son so that they will match Dad, or so they will not look different. Or maybe they do it for a religious or a cultural reason. None of these are wrong, and there should be no judgment

incurred here. It is a decision that the parents should make, and other people should stay out of it. This decision is not any different than the many other irreversible things you will do to your child: like how you feed him, discipline him, or keep him safe. Like with most parenting decisions, you need to do what you think is right and best for your child and ignore everybody else. On more piece of advice do your research and decide how you feel about circumcision long before your baby is born. It is very difficult to make any decision when you are in the emotional throws of having a new child. Parents who wax and wane about whether or not to do it waste precious energy on that topic when they could be focusing on bonding with their new child. Make your decision and stick to it when the time comes. Regrets, regardless of the decision, are very rare.

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10 ideas for Holiday fun for the family

through 400,000 Christmas lights and holiday displays. Located in Rocky Ridge County Park, Christmas Magic also includes five heated pavilions featuring animated displays, opportunities to visit Santa Claus, food, live music and G-gauge train displays. Christmas Magic is now in its 28th season. Since its inception, more than 643,000 people have enjoyed the display. Christmas Magic is located in Rocky Ridge County Park, 3699 Deininger Road, York (a mile and a half north of Route 30, off Route 24, Mt. Zion Road). On the Web: http://www. yorkcountyparks.org/chmagic. html; phone: (717) 840-7443. Tickets are $8 adults; $6 for ages 4 to 12; $7 for seniors age 60 and up; and free for under age 4. the event. Tickets go on sale (717) 626-TREE. Dec. 1. For a listing of 321! 7. Gnome Countryside Lancaster entertainment, visit Christmas http://www.lancastercityevents. Good things come in small com/321lancaster.html. packages. Thats certainly the case when you discover Gnome 5. Dutch Wonderland and Countryside, where the little Hersheypark folks have settled in. Under the Who says amusement park guidance of Richard Humphreys, fun has to end when summer is visitors can experience the over? You can bring the family natural beauty of the woods to either Dutch Wonderland around his home, while learning or Hersheypark for a ton of about the stories and folklore of holiday fun. At Dutch Winter gnomes. During the month of Wonderland, guests can enjoy December, Gnome Countryside rides, games, food and special is open in the evenings for entertainment, including the candlelight tours. Two hours Dutch Winter Wonderland Royal in length, these tours invite Lights Show, featuring thousands everyone to celebrate the season of lights dancing to your favorite among the breathtaking beauty holiday tunes. of Lancaster County. At Hersheypark, visit Gnome Countryside is Christmas Candylane, where located at 63 Bridle Path Road, more than 2 million twinkling Kirkwood. On the Web: www. lights accent holiday-themed gnomecountryside.com; phone: rides, entertainment and (717) 786-4928. Candlelight shopping. The Christmas in tours are $12 per person. Chocolate Town show features Top 40 holiday songs, while 8. National Christmas Hershey Sweet Lights invites Center you to drive through a display Experience Christmas past of more than 600 illuminated, and present when you walk animated scenes along two miles through the displays at this of wooded trails. family attraction, located in On the Web: www. Paradise. Youll view elaborate hersheypark.com; phone: (800) decorations and dioramas in HERSHEY. Admission is $12.95 15 main galleries throughout for ages 3 and up. the building. Smaller displays Dutch Winter Wonderland, change regularly, so theres 2249 Lincoln Highway always something new to see. East, Lancaster. www. The center is located at 3427 dutchwonderland.com; (866) Lincoln Highway East (Route FUN-AT-DW. Nov. 19 - Dec. 30. 30), Paradise. On the Web: Admission is $12.99 for ages 3 www.nationalchristmascenter. and up. com; phone: (717) 442-7950. Admission is $12 for adults and 6. Elizabeth Farms seniors; $5 for ages 3 to 12 and Since 1758, Elizabeth Farms free for under age 3. Discount has been offering trees and other admission coupons can be found landscape items to Lancaster on the Website. County residents. If youre looking for the perfect place to 9. Old-fashioned Christmas find your Christmas tree, look no at Kitchen Kettle and Landis further than this, the largest live Valley Christmas tree farm in the county. If the holiday hustle and bustle Horse-drawn wagons, with sleigh has your head spinning, slow bells, take you through a field of down a bit. Step back in time to evergreens, where you can choose old-fashioned celebrations at from thousands of options. Kitchen Kettle Village and Landis To find Elizabeth Farms, go Valley Museum. to the intersection of routes 501 On Old-Fashioned Christmas and 322. Travel .6 miles east on Friday Nights and Holly Days 322 and turn left onto Hopeland on Saturdays at Kitchen Kettle, Road. Follow signs from there visitors can enjoy carolers, holiday to the farm. On the Web: www. cooking demonstrations, smore elizabethfarms.com; phone: making and lots of shopping.

Spread holiday cheer in your house by taking your family to any of the many Christmas activities and events happening this year throughout Lancaster County. Here are 10 great ideas for making holiday memories with your family. 1. American Music Theatre Christmas Show If taking the family to New York City to see the Radio City Christmas Spectacular is not in your budget, take advantage of the next best thing: A professional holiday stage show right here in Lancaster. The 2011 Christmas Show: Winter Wonderland at American Music Theatre offers an evening of Yuletide whimsy and wonder. The snowy, outdoor-themed show features songs and dancing, including all your favorite sacred and secular holiday carols, hymns and music from past and present. American Music Theatre is located at 2425 Lincoln Highway East, Lancaster; On the Web: www.amtshows.com; phone: (800) 648-4102. Tickets are $39 for adults and $19.50 for children 3 to 17. The show runs through Dec. 30. For a list of performance dates and more information, visit the Website. 2. Christkindlesmarkt at Stoudts On Sundays leading up to Christmas, Stoudts brewery celebrates the season with a traditional Christmas theme. Antiques dealers display their wares, while Christmas crafts and toys abound throughout the Bier Garten and Wonderful Good Market. Live music and festive food provide holiday cheer and fun for the whole family. Stoudts is located at 2800 N. Reading Road (Route 272), Adamstown. On the Web www. stoudts.com; phone: (717) 484-4386. Christkindlesmarkt operates from 7:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. on Nov. 27, Dec. 4, 11 and 18. 3. Christmas Magic Bring the family outside for Christmas Magic, a half-milelong walking trail that winds

4. Downtown Lancaster for the Holidays Downtown Lancaster comes alive for holiday fun beginning Friday, Nov. 25, with the Mayors Tree Lighting and Tuba Christmas. This annual holiday event features a unique concert of a multitude of tubas while the Christmas tree in Penn Square is festive with holiday lights. The event kicks off a month-long holiday celebration downtown, including visits with Santa and more than 30 events. A listing of Downtown Lancaster for the Holidays events and activities will be available later this month at http://www.lancastercityevents. com/holidays.html. Sponsored by the Mayors Office of Special Events, the holiday celebration concludes with 321! Lancaster. This New Years Eve celebration features activities at Clipper Magazine Stadium and the Lancaster Family YMCA. Activities begin at 5 p.m. Dec. 31, and conclude with fireworks at 9 p.m. for the younger set, while older kids and their parents can head over to Binns Park for a concert, fireworks and the lowering of the Red Rose at midnight. Binns Park activities: 10 p.m. to midnight. Advanced tickets for 321! Lancaster are $10 per person; children 3 and under are free. Tickets are $12 the day of

On certain days, Mrs. Claus and Yummie, Kitchen Kettles mascot, will be on hand for even more holiday fun. Kitchen Kettle Village, 3529 Old Philadelphia Pike, Intercourse. www.kitchenkettle.com; (800) 732-3538. Fridays and Saturdays, Nov. 25 - Dec. 23. Landis Valley will also host Holidays at Landis Valley: A Pennsylvania German Christmas, on Friday, Dec. 16. This event features tours of decorated historic buildings, carols around a bonfire and cookies with hot cider. Admission is free, but visitors are asked to bring one or more non-perishable food items, with donations benefiting the Lancaster Food Bank. Saturday, Dec. 17, Landis Valley hosts an oldfashioned Childrens Christmas, from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Families can experience Christmas at the turn of the 1900s. Landis Valley Museum is located at 2451 Kissel Hill Road, Lancaster. On the Web: www.landisvalleymuseum.org; phone: (717) 569-0401.

10. Train displays Celebrating its 50th year, the Choo Choo Barn in Strasburg is the perfect place to take anyone who loves miniature trains. The 1,700-square-foot display features more than 150 hand-built animated figures and vehicles, including 22 operating trains. During the month of December, admission is just one non-perishable food item per person on Fridays, Dec. 2, 9 and 16. The Choo Choo Barn is located on Route 741 East in Strasburg, at 226 Gap Road. On the Web: www.choochoobarn.com; phone: (800) 450-2920. Admission is $7 for ages 12 and up; $4 for ages 3 to 11. At Garden Spot Village in New Holland, train enthusiasts can enjoy open house tours of the Model Railroad Clubs O-gauge and HO-gauge interactive model train displays. Young visitors can interact with a talking Thomas the Tank Engine as well. Garden Spot Village, 433 S. Kinzer Ave., New Holland. www. gardenspotvillage.org; phone: (717) 355-6000. Saturdays, Nov. 26 - Dec. 17, 1:30 to 4 p.m.; and Monday, Dec. 26 and Jan. 2, 1:30 to 4 p.m.

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