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Womanhood
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Womanhood
…a guide for mothers for their daughters' first period
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All praise be to Allah who completed the religion for us,
perfected the blessing on us. May the blessings and peace
be upon His Messenger, who called upon people to obey
his Lord.
My dear Sisters,
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Prepare her beforehand:
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Talk to her about:
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-Encourage her to stay calm and practice self-control.
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-Never touch your private parts unnecessarily; like at the
time of sleeping, while thinking about something.
-The more active you are, the less likely you are to have
menstrual cramps. A few minutes of walking could
suffice too. Exercise is your body’s natural pain killer and
mood elevator.
-Do not take pills for postponing your menses, unless for
a very strong reason. Never for the intention of worship
like Fasting or attaining Qiyaam-ul-lail. This condition is
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from Allah. Your rewards of worship will not be
lessened.
-Make sure that every spot on your body gets wet while
making Ghusl. Even the part underneath your ear studs
and rings, your belly button and behind ears.
GHUSL:
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QUICK INFO:
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Points to console her:
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-Music is haraam. It won't leave a soothing effect on you.
Rather, you are inviting the Shayateen.
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Things you, as a mother can do for her:
-Give her privacy (from other siblings). Let her have her
own free time and space.
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-Give her a head massage, body massage, mani cure,
pedicure. You doing this for her will make a difference!
-Surprise her.
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-Don't allow her to use internet when alone with her
friends. The internet shouldn't be teaching them stuffs,
we should be.
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-Give her foods rich in iron, calcium, fiber and water.
Avoid foods that would cause constipation, gas, bloating.
-Start giving an iron rich diet a few days before her date
as it reduces the intensities of PMS.
A few Examples:
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"The struggle you are in today, is developing the strength
you need for tomorrow".
"It's not the load that breaks you down. It's the way you
carry it".
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When the first period comes:
-Do not force her to stop playing with kids just after she
attains Puberty.
-The first thing I told her was "Your pen has now
started!" She is now a 'baaligh' person and shall now be
accountable for all her actions.
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-Tell her to resist the urge to scratch herself. The itching
will be more intense in Summers. The marks will remain.
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as this is supposed to cause body itching. Our elders
actually advise to continue this for 11 days!
-Egg, chicken and fish are avoided in the first few days
as they trigger itching. But in some places, egg is given;
in fact raw egg!
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-Dry fruit mix called 'Panjeri' is to be given which adds a
lot of nutrition and strength. Gond (resin gum) is the
most important element.
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-After the bath, give her something warm to drink,
especially in winters. Like; hareera, hot chocolate,
turmeric milk, saffron milk, masala doodh.
-After the end of her each period (and especially the first
one), I advise her to recite complete Ruqyah on herself.
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-On this milestone, give her a gift, an exceptional one. I
gave her a kit, in which were many things. As I needed
time for assembling this, I presented it to her on her
second cycle. Some ideas for the kit:
KIT:
Dark chocolate
Hot bag
Pocket mirror
Bubble wrap
Stain pen
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Face wash
Stress ball
Pocket calendar
Trimmer
Hair Straightener/Curler
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Summarised Do's and Dont's
DO's:
AZKAAR
Hygiene
Hot shower
Exercise/light walking
Small meals
Massage
Pedicure
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Stress ball/Play dough
Proper sleep
DONT's:
Tight clothes
YES FOODS:
Dark Chocolate
Fish
FIBER
WATER
Yogurt
Green tea
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Honey and cinnamon tea
Bone broth
Liver
Urad dal
Oats
NO FOODS:
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Ice
Chilled foods
Dairy
Caffeine
Sugary foods
Fatty/Oily foods
Salty foods
Processed foods
Microwaved foods
Lemon
Red meat
Refined flour
Rice
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JUST FOR FUN
PERIOD FACTS:
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women are heavier than pre-modern women — fat
produces more estrogen in the bloodstream. Scholars
also suggest that hormones in modern food have led to
earlier menstruation.
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-"Oligomenorrhea" is when a woman has her periods
less frequently than normal. "Amenorrhea" is when she
doesn’t get her period at all.
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-While menstruating, one may bleed from places other
than their vagina! In a very rare medical condition
known as “vicarious menstruation,” women on their
period may also harmlessly bleed from their mouth, ears,
lungs, nose, eyes, and skin! This condition is caused
when endometrial tissue (which normally grows in your
uterus and sheds during your period) is transmitted
through the bloodstream.
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-In some cultures, menstrual huts exist, where the
menstruating women are kept out of the house and have
to live temporarily in this dwelling as they are
considered impure.
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-Types of menstrual products:
*Tampons
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