Professional Documents
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CLINICAL MANAGEMENT
A. THERAPEUTIC COMMUNICATIONS
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relationships. This helps the client “What was your response the last
recognize life experiences that tend time this situation occurred?”
to recur as well as those aspects of
life that are changeable.
technique to use when the client Cl: “My sister won’t help a bit
asks the therapist for advice. toward my mother’s care. I have to
do it all!”
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3. Supportive Relationships
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As a therapist, my role in a person’s life is a unique one. I meet strangers who come to me for help, support, and to take on what I believe is the most
important venture anyone can, to truly know and understand themselves. The trust I am awarded each time a person tells me his or her story is
something that has never ceased to humble and inspire me in my 30-plus years of clinical practice. When I see someone start to break free from
some of the limitations imposed on them by their own past or the pain of their early relationships and experiences, to find their way, uncover
their goals, and start to reveal who they really are, it is genuinely the most rewarding part of therapy. I consider each of the people I’ve spoken to
brave and am grateful to play any role in their journey toward becoming the only thing any of us can hope to be… our real selves. For those reasons
and more, I care deeply about the relationship I establish with the people who come to see me in therapy.
Over the years, research has confirmed what so many therapists have known intuitively, that the therapeutic relationship itself is essential to the
success a patient experiences. Some studies have even called it the most important common factor to successful outcomes. When a task force put
together by APA’s Society of Clinical Psychology set out to identify empirically supported treatments, they found that the “therapy relationship makes
substantial and consistent contributions to psychotherapy outcome independent of the specific type of treatment,” and that “the therapy relationship
accounts for why clients improve (or fail to improve) at least as much as the particular treatment method.”
Dr. John Norcross, who headed up the task force, defined the therapeutic alliance as referring to “the quality and strength of the collaborative
relationship between client and therapist, typically measured as agreement on the therapeutic goals, consensus on treatment t asks, and a
relationship bond.” Along with empathy and genuineness, this alliance represents an integral part of the therapeutic relationship. Research shows,
time and time again, that this alliance plays an extremely important role in the change process.
In his new book, Overcoming the Destructive Inner Voice: True Stories of Therapy and Transformation, my father, Dr. Robert Firestone, invites an
audience into the therapy process, where they can witness how the formation of this relationship can deeply impact the evolution of an individual.
One of the things I most admire about my father’s approach to therapy is his ability to see the possibility of a person without their defenses. With an
almost x-ray like vision, he can almost immediately appreciate the unique essence of a person, separate from the influence of a painful past or the
ongoing abuse of a cruel inner critic. The short stories he tells in his book eloquently and colorfully illustrate exactly how the relationship between
patient and therapist can help people change. In his foreword to the book, my father wrote of psychotherapy that “nowhere in life is a person listened
to, felt, empathized with, and experienced with such concentrated sharing and emphasis on every aspect of personal communication.”
A good therapist has a deep interest in their client as an individual and will see and relate to them in ways that are sensitively tailored to the person’s
specific needs. There is no one proven method of therapy – no one-size-fits-all approach to treatment, because no one person is like the other. In
order to be available to a patient and establish a solid relationship built on trust and understanding, the therapist has to be equally attuned to the
patient and their own state of being. As my father put it, “Above all the therapist must remain an authentic human being with genuine feelings.”
When you consider how many of our problems come from early issues in our relationships, it makes sense that much of our heali ng would occur
within a relationship. An attuned therapist can offer a person, not just a new way of looking at themselves but at relationships in general. Attachment
research tells us that the biggest predictor of our attachment patterns in our relationships is the one we experienced growing up. The attachment
strategy we form in our earliest years can shape the reactions we have and the reactions we create in others throughout our lives. The best way to
form healthier, more secure attachments is to make sense and feel the full pain of our story – to create what Dr. Daniel Siegel often refers to as a
“coherent narrative.” This process of self-understanding is one of the great gifts of the therapeutic process. The genuine curiosity a therapist has in
their patient creates a safe space for the client to explore their own story and start to make sense of it.
When the therapist reacts to someone in a different manner than they’re used to or would expect, with attunement and reflection, the person can form
a new model for attachment. The formation of a secure attachment to the therapist has been shown to be significantly associated with greater
reductions in client distress. By experiencing a secure attachment with the therapist, the person can feel safe to start to r esolve some of their
old traumas and evolve their model of relating. This is why the establishment of trust in the relationship is so crucial to the success of the outcome of
therapy.
It is on this groundwork of trust that a person feels safest to reveal their real selves. As they peel back the layers of their defenses, they can star t to
recognize their unique wants and needs, what they wish to change or who they hope to become. As my father put it, “There is a need to be sensitive
to clients’ real feelings, qualities, and priorities, and to distinguish them from the negative overlay on their personalities that prevents them from
reaching their full potential for living.” This is the principle I aim to live by both in my practice and in myself, because I know that only by knowing
ourselves can we be fully available and of service to others.
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