Every Teen Girl's Little Pink Book On Gab

every teen girl’s
little pink book

on gab
by Cathy Bartel
Harrison House
Tulsa, Oklahoma
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every teen girl’s little pink book on gab

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contents
girls about to become ........................................4
the gift of gab ....................................................5
details, details ..................................................14
gab test ............................................................20
gabsters ............................................................25
chatty cathy ......................................................30
2 ears — 1 mouth ............................................34
gab about everyone! ........................................39
good gab..........................................................48
believe in your gab ..........................................55
get what you gab ............................................61
kind gab............................................................68
listen before you gab........................................73
gab with God....................................................78
gab goop..........................................................84
courageous gab................................................87
recommended reading ....................................91

girls
about to
become
Girls like to gab, and gab is great because all that
talking is what makes you who you are! If what
you think about, you talk about and bring about,
then what you say is very important. You can
make the most of your words in every situation.
Talking and sharing with your friends and family is
fun. Discover how to be heard, enjoyed, and
respected for what you say and who you are!
4 Little Pink Book on Gab

Have you ever heard
the gift
the term “the gift of
of gab
gab”? Gab isn’t always
a gift! But it can be when
we use our mouths to
bless. The Bible says that
when we speak, we
either speak life or death. Our words are contain-
ers of power for good or for evil! I want to use my
mouth for good, and I know you do too.
Life and death are in the power of the tongue. I

have to say, that is one powerful little muscle in
our mouth, and we absolutely need to exercise
control over it! Now, how do we do that?
Well, we need to ask the Lord to help us. For

example, you can say, “Lord, help me to say good
and kind words to everyone in my life.”
Guess what? Included in that everyone is you!

You have got to talk about yourself and to your-
self in a good and kind way! You need to encour-
age your friends, your family, and yourself with
God’s Wo rd .
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A bit in the mouth of a horse controls the
whole horse. A small rudder on a huge
ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets
a course in the face of the strongest
winds. A word out of your mouth may
seem of no account, but it can
accomplish nearly anything—or destroy
it! It only takes a spark, remember, to set
off a forest fire.
James 3:3-5 MSG
Take charge! Think before you speak!
Now, let me be the first to tell you right here and

now that I am so thankful to God for forgiveness.
In the past, my gab has not always been good
gab. We all have areas in our lives where we are
growing and changing. When we confess our sin,
our heavenly Father is so faithful to forgive us and
give us a new beginning. He makes our sin-
stained hearts as white as snow!
Our speech is something we will have to work on

for the rest of our lives. We can’t let our guard
down. We’ve got to stay on our toes. We just
need to daily ask the Lord for help to use our
words wisely.

When I was about 11, 12, and 13 years old, I was
a “cusser.” I’m not proud to tell you that, but I
share it with you for a reason. When I asked Jesus
to come into my heart, it was like He took a bar of
soap and washed my mouth out! One day I had
some really bad gab coming out of my mouth;
the next day it was gone! That made me so
happy, and it was a very obvious change to my
friends. I have never had a desire to cuss since.
I am so thankful I don’t say those words anymore.

That wouldn’t be appropriate for a pastor’s wife!
Really, it’s not attractive for any young woman to
speak like that.
Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul

or dirty come out of your mouth. Say
only what helps, each word a gift. Don’t
grieve God. Don’t break his heart. His
Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in
you, is the most intimate part of your life,
making you fit for himself. Don’t take
such a gift for granted.
Ephesians 4:29,30 MSG
This Scripture isn’t just talking about cussing. I
believe it’s talking about gossiping, backbiting,
telling dirty jokes, and even complaining.
Proverbs 16:28 says that gossip separates the

best of friends. Don’t you know that if you have a
friend that is always gossiping about other
people, there’s a big chance she’s talking about
you when you’re not around?
We all need to check up on ourselves and have a

little mouth-washing ceremony once in a while.
Just as we can whiten our teeth, we can whiten
what comes out of our mouths!
If you are having trouble with your mouth, you

can do these things to get it clean again.
Pray. The Lord will help you if you ask Him to.
Ask a friend to help you. Make yourself account-

able to a friend. Tell your sins to each other, and
pray for each other so you may be healed. “The
prayer of a person living right with God is some-
thing powerful and to be reckoned with” (James
5:16 MSG).
Always trust the Lord to help you conquer bad

habits and develop new habits in every area of

your life. Say this: “I can do all things through
Christ who strengthens me” (Phil. 4:13 NKJV).
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A soft answer turns away

wrath, but a harsh word
stirs up anger.

Conversation is an
exercise of the mind;
gossip is merely an
exercise of the tongue.
—Author Unknowni
gossip
A false witness will not go
unpunished, and he who speaks lies
shall perish.
Proverbs 19:9 NKJV
A man gossiped about his friend. Soon his friend

confronted him, and the gossiper became very
sorrowful for the wrong he had done. He asked for
his friend’s forgiveness, which he granted, and
asked if he could do anything to make things right
between them. The friend said, “Take two down
pillows and go to the center of town; cut the
pillows open and wave them in the air till the feath-
ers are all out. Then come back and see me.”
The man did just as he’d been told and came back
to his friend. The friend said, “I’ve forgiven you.
But to realize how much harm your gossiping has
caused me, go back to the center of town and
collect all the feathers.” The man regretfully real-
ized it would be impossible to find and collect
every feather.
Gossip hurts people, destroys relationships, and

harms the gossiper. Gossiping causes people to

distrust you. They are thinking in the back of their
minds, If she gossips about this person behind
her back, what is she saying about me behind
mine? Respect yourself and others: Don’t gossip.
Girls are detailed.
We love to know exactly
details,
what happened when
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our best friend got her
driver’s license or when
she had her hair done.
And we want to tell every
detail when something happens to us.
The benefit of all those thoughts and details is

that we consider all the aspects of a pro b l e m
b e f o re we decide on a solution. The negative is
that we sometimes have trouble deciding what
to do because we are considering so much
information. You’ve probably heard the saying,
“It’s a girl’s pre rogative to change her mind,”
and that’s right because we have so many diff e r-
ent options!
The challenge is keeping our foot out of our

mouth and staying focused. We are so tempted
to just blurt out those thoughts before consider-
ing what we are going to say.
Proverbs shows us that when we hold our tongue

we are wise.

When words are many, sin is not absent,
but he who holds his tongue is wise.
Proverbs 10:19 NIV
We can all learn from that one, huh? Think of a

time recently when you wish you would have held
your tongue. Would you have been seen as wise
instead of foolish?
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a girl no one wants to marry

(or even date!)
It is better to dwell in a corner of the

housetop [on the flat oriental roof,
exposed to all kinds of weather] than
in a house shared with a nagging,
quarrelsome, and faultfinding woman.

The best way to
cheer yourself is
to try to cheer
someone else up.
—Mark Twainii
6 gabs to avoid
We have all been in relationships in which
we thought someone was our true friend
and then down the road realized she
wasn’t. A true friend doesn’t just call
herself a friend, but backs up her words
with action. Check out the gab fro m
these 6 so-called “friends,” and learn to
avoid them.
1. Backstabber
This is someone who talks one way in front of you,
but says something totally different behind your
back. A backstabber cannot be trusted by anyone.
2. User
The user is just looking for a temporary friend. This
person will sweet-talk you for personal gain and
then toss you out like a dirty dishrag.
3. Control freak
“It’s my way or the highway,” this one will say. The
control freak will not compromise. You’re only

going and doing what this person wants to do.
Your opinion doesn’t matter.
4. Manipulator
If you don’t want to do what the manipulator wants
you to do, this person will find a way to convince
you to do it her way. The manipulator is sly and will
influence you to do things you never thought you
would do—all for her own selfish ambitions.
5. Moocher
This person wants you to provide for her every
need. “Can I borrow your clothes?” “Can I
borrow your car?” “Can I borrow a couple of
bucks?” As you give, you’ll never receive
anything in return.
6. Complainer
You can never please the complainer no matter
what you do. If you gave this person a $100 bill,
she would complain because it’s not two $50 bills.
Save yourself, and avoid this one.
Gab can be a curse
gab test
or a gift, depending
on how we choose to
use it. When we say the
right thing at the right
time, our words can actu-
ally soothe people and
bring healing. Good and kind words can change
someone’s life.
Let’s take a moment and do a little heart checkup.

Be very honest with yourself as you go through
these questions.
1. Am I a blabber gabber?
Definition: One who gossips and spreads
rumors, always saying something negative
about her family and friends.
Yes No Sometimes
2. Am I a crabby gabby?
Definition: One who is constantly grumbling
and complaining about everything. One who

is mad at the world, bent out of shape, bitter,
and cranky.
Yes No Sometimes
3. Am I a drab gab?
Definition: One who is always talking about

negative, depressing things. One who sees the
glass half-empty and sounds a lot like Eeyore.
Yes No Sometimes
4. Am I a jab gab?
Definition: One who continually pokes fun at

people. One who feels better about oneself
by making fun of people.
Yes No Sometimes
5. Am I a stab gab? Ouch!
Definition: One who stabs people in the

back with words. Ve ry “mean girls” do this!
It’s brutal, dangerous, hurts a lot, and is
v e ry deceptive!
Yes No Sometimes
6. Am I a tabs gab?
Definition: One who puts her nose in every-
one’s business. One who feels it is her
responsibility to keep tabs on everyone and
let everyone else know about it. Also known
as a busybody gab.
Yes No Sometimes
7. Am I a fab gab?
Definition: One who uses gab to encourage,
build up, give life, kindness, and wisdom. This
is delightful, beautiful, and extremely pleasing!
Yes Yes Yes

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Gently encourage the stragglers,

and reach out for the exhausted,
pulling them to their feet.
Be patient with each person,
attentive to individual needs.
“Watch your thoughts;
they become your words.
Watch your words; they
become your actions.
Watch your actions; they
become your habits. Watch
your habits; they become
your character. Watch
your character for it will
become your destiny.”
—Frank Outlawiii

Most girls like to
gabsters
talk a lot, and
God made us that
way on purpose.
We’re gabsters! We think
with both sides of our
brain, so we have lots of
thoughts: some creative, some logical, some that
make sense, and some that don’t! With all those
thoughts rolling around in our heads, it’s easy to
speak out. That can help us or can work against
us. Let me share with you some great ways to let
those words work for you.
Death and life are in the power of the

tongue, and they who indulge in it shall
eat the fruit of it [for death or life].
Proverbs 18:21 AMP
We can speak good things out of our mouths

and, as a result, enjoy good things in our lives.
But if we speak negative things, we can generate
negative results in our lives.
Who would think that words could affect your life

so much? But it’s true. Your words count. Make it
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a habit to speak life. Speak good things.
Sometimes that’s hard, especially when you are
faced with a difficult circumstance. You might
want to just complain or cry, but if you can find a
positive Scripture to say in that situation instead,
you will be on the path to success.
Here’s one Scripture to keep in your memory next

time you feel overwhelmed.
You, dear children, are from God and

have overcome them, because the one
who is in you is greater than the one who
is in the world.
1 John 4:4 NIV
Let God’s Word be your motto in tough times,

and enjoy the benefits of good words!

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A word fitly spoken and in

due season is like apples of
gold in settings of silver.
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The reason a dog has so
many friends is that he
wags his tail instead of
his tongue.
—Author Unknown

lift
Do not be deceived, God is not
mocked; for whatever a man sows, that
he will also re a p .
Galatians 6:7 NKJV
Look at some of these creative cut-downs, and see

if you have ever been guilty of using them:
“You got into the gene pool when the lifeguard

wasn’t watching.”
“If I gave you a penny for your thoughts, you’d

get change.”
“When you open your mouth, it’s only to

change whatever foot was previously in there.”
Small people cut others down to feel good

about themselves. A person with a healthy self-
esteem doesn’t need to.
If you want to feel good, help someone else

feel good. Reach out. Be a friend. Give a kind
word. Be the bigger person: Lift others up to
your level rather than cutting them down.
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When I was a little
chatty
girl, I had a doll
cathy
named Chatty
Cathy. (She’s sold in
antique stores now.
Ouch!) Anyway, I would
pull her string and she
would “chat”: “Hi, I’m Chatty Cathy. How are you
today? I love you!” and so on. My mom told me
that I went through a couple of those dolls
because I would wear them right out.
I guess most of us girls need to get control of our

string and give our voice a rest, so we don’t wear
ourselves and others out!
When my husband is watching something on TV

(usually a football or hockey game) and doesn’t
want to be disturbed, he’s been known to try to
mute me with the remote when I try to chat.
That’s not very nice, is it?
But it really is something to think about. We really

can’t mute ourselves with an electronic device.
Therefore, our only option is self-control, not a
remote control!

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Post a guard at my mouth,

God, set a watch at the door of
my lips. Don’t let me so much
as dream of evil or thoughtlessly
fall into bad company. And
these people who only do
wrong—don’t let them lure me
with their sweet talk!
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There are people who,
instead of listening to
what is being said to
them, are already listening
to what they are going
to say themselves.
—Albert Guinoniv

control
For in many things we offend all. If any
man offend not in word, the same is a
perfect man, and able also to bridle the
whole body.
James 3:2
This verse says that by controlling the tongue, we

are able to control the desires and impulses of the
entire body.
We live in a body that has fleshly desires and

wants to commit stupid sins. The way we will be
able to control these desires is by speaking the
right words. If we talk about sex all the time,
guess what we’re going to do really soon?
Our words will guide and direct our life, so we

need to weigh each one carefully and let the
Word of God be a regular part of our vocabulary.
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Have you ever
noticed that when
2 ears— we girls get together,
1 mouth we can talk so fast
and furious? We are
known for this.
Sometimes when I’m with a group of ladies and

we’re just visiting, someone may tell a story that
triggers a story that I want to tell. I find myself just
wanting to get my turn in. I have had to tell
myself, “Calm down, Cathy. Don’t be rude.” I
hate when I have interrupted someone out of just
plain rudeness.
We all like to get our 2 cents in. It’s so much fun

to get together with our friends, but we really
have to remember to bring our manners with us.
When my boys were little and we were going

somewhere, I’d say right before we’d get out of
the car, “Did you bring your manners? Okay, let’s
put them on!”
Have you ever left somewhere and just kicked

yourself all the way home because you got
carried away in your conversation? I’ve done that,

and I’m very thankful for God’s forgiveness. I’ve
learned that I sure save myself a lot of trouble
when I think before I speak.
We need to keep this Scripture in our hearts and

do it:
Don’t think only about your own affairs,

but be interested in others, too, and
what they are doing.
Philippians 2:4 NLT
Remember: 2 ears, 1 mouth. God gave us 2 ears

so we could listen twice as much as we speak.
We’ll be amazed at how much we can learn if we
just make a point to listen once in a while. This
takes practice if we’re not used to it, but I know
we can all learn to be good listeners.
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Even a fool is counted wise when he

holds his peace; when he shuts his lips,
he is considered perceptive.

Men are born with two
eyes, but only one tongue,
in order that they should
see twice as much
as they say.
—Charles Caleb Coltonv
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listen up
A great American leadership and
management trainer recently said, “In
h u n d reds of interviews with people at all
levels, I’ve made this discovery: The
bigger the person, the more apt he is to
encourage you to talk; the smaller the
person, the more apt he is to preach to
you. Big people monopolize the listen-
ing; small people monopolize the
talking!”
There’s a reason God gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth.

Good leaders are great listeners, as are good
friends. Are you more concerned with hearing or
being heard?

guys
gab about
God put it in you to
everyone!
be attracted to guys.
Just don’t go overboard
in your thoughts and
words. Guys are n ’t every-
thing (even though they
may seem to be). The guys you know today might
not even cross your mind in 2 or 3 years. Hold out
for God’s best. Don’t commit too much.
After Eve was deceived by Satan in the Garden of

Eden, the Lord said to her, “Your desire will be for
your husband, and he will rule over you” (Gen.
3:16 NIV). Since that desire is in you, keep tabs on
it. You can control your thoughts and emotions
and save the best for the man you marry.
friends
Proverbs 18:24 NLT says, “There are ‘friends’ who
destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer
than a brother.”
A true friend sticks closer than a brother or sister.

That means true friends don’t slice and dice each
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other with their words. Maybe you and your
friends tore each other down in fourth grade, but
now you’re making friends for life. Wo rds can hurt ,
or words can heal. When you have friends, you
stick by each other—especially with your words.
teachers
Seems like you either love them or, uh, are chal-
lenged with them. You can find favor with either
kind of teacher—even the most difficult one. If
you say positive things over your relationships
with teachers and keep yourself from talking them
down with your friends, you can build favor for
yourself. It might be tough to keep it quiet, espe-
cially when you’d like to rip those teachers to
shreds, but you will win in the long run if you keep
the trash talk out of your life.
Let not mercy and truth forsake you;

bind them around your neck, write them
on the tablet of your heart, and so find
favor and high esteem in the sight of
God and man.
Proverbs 3:3,4 NKJV

You can place “teacher” in that verse instead of
“man.” What teacher can you pray that Scripture
over? I do it like this:
Father God, I thank You that I am

merciful and truthful and that I have
favor in Your sight and with my teachers,
in Jesus’ name.
parents
The Wo rd of God tells us that we should honor our
parents. Of the Ten Commandments, it’s the first
one with a promise. That promise is a long life!
Children, obey your parents in the Lord,

for this is right. “Honor your father and
mother,” which is the first command-
ment with promise: “that it may be well
with you and you may live long on the
earth.”
Ephesians 6:1-3 NKJV
How do you honor your parents? Is it just doing

what they say? Actually, that word “honor” in the
Amplified Bible version is to “esteem and value
as precious.” That means your attitude matters
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too. You honor them by keeping a good attitude
even when you don’t want to. A good attitude
includes saying good words about them. You can
do it! It’s worth a long life, and you’ll win big
points with your parents and God.

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Let your conversation be

always full of grace, seasoned
with salt, so that you may
know how to answer everyone.
Always attempt to be
mannerly and gracious,
seeking never to offend in
word or deed, always
considering the feelings
of others.
—Sharon Daughertyvi
If you can’t say
something nice, don’t say
nothing at all!
—Thumper
3 things to gab with your parents
Communication is the key to victory in any
kind of relationship. Great companies,
great armies, great churches, great sports
teams, and great homes all have 1 thing in
common: They have learned to communi-
cate effectively with one another.
Communication is not just talking. It is
listening, observing, studying, and, finally,
talking. People who only learn to talk are
not communicating; they are spewing. In opening
up good communication lines with your parents,
there are 3 things you must always tell them.
1. Tell them when you need help.

It may be in school, a relationship, or a job, but if
you need help and guidance, let your parents
know. That’s why God gave them to you: to help
you get through tough times.

2. Tell them when you’ve made
a mistake.
It might be easier at the time to try to cover it up.
However, honesty not only will help you avoid
making this same mistake again; it will also earn
you big points in the “trust” quest.
3. Tell them you love and

appreciate them.
Sure, there’s no such thing as a perfect parent,
but most all have made a very significant invest-
ment of time, energy, and money in their children.
Regularly let yours know you love them, even if
they don’t always show the same love in return.
There is one type of
gab that is in a cate-
good gab gory of its own. It’s
(the best
gab of all) the kind of gab that we
can only experience with
God, and it is the most
p o w e rful thing we can
do with our mouths. When we talk with God and
thank Him, and when we remind Him of His words
to us, our mouths are being used to accomplish
His will in this world.
As we spend time with Jesus, it will be very

evident to others that we’ve been in His presence
by how we speak.
For example:
When we take time to worship the Lord and

thank Him for all He’s doing in our lives, our
conversations with others begin to show that
we have a thankful heart. “I will bless the
Lord at all times; His praise will continually
come out of my mouth” (Ps. 34:1).
When we cast our cares on the Lord, as He

has asked us to, our words will be full of faith

and confidence rather than dread and worry.
Our help comes from the Lord, and when we
give our care to Him we are assured that He
will take care of us. (Ps. 121:2; 1 Peter 5:7.)
When we ask for forgiveness (a very impor-

tant part of prayer), we are forgiven! The
Bible says that when we confess (with our
mouths) our sins, God is faithful and just to
forgive us and to cleanse us from all unright-
eousness. That means we are in right stand-
ing with Him. That sin is washed away. When
we receive forgiveness, we are able to hold
our heads up and, therefore, able to look into
other people’s eyes and speak to them of
God’s love and mercy. Our words will bring
joy and peace to people in our lives.
The Lord has called us as His daughters to

stand in the gap for others. What a privilege
to pray for others to receive salvation! Now,
that is the most wonderful way to make
ourselves and our mouths available to God.
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Prayer heals broken hearts, sets people free from
addictions, opens people’s eyes to the truth, and
makes them whole in their spirit, soul, and body.
I’m so thankful for the people who have prayed

for you and me and our loved ones. Let’s always
be thoughtful and ready to pray for others.

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I think before I speak

because the mind of the wise
instructs her mouth.
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A slip of the foot you
may soon recover, but a
slip of the tongue you
may never get over.
—Benjamin Franklinvii

meditate
Let the words of my mouth, and the

meditation of my heart, be acceptable
in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and
my redeemer.
Psalm 19:14
This Scripture ties the words of our mouths to the

meditations of our hearts. See, whatever we think
about is what we’re going to be talking about
with our mouths. Of course, there are always a
few in every crowd who fail to think at all before
they talk, but for the most part our mouths follow
our thoughts.
When someone talks about meditation, the image

that usually surfaces in our minds is a Chinese-
looking guy in a toga, sitting cross-legged, his eyes
closed and his fingers in circles, humming in G
minor. (At least it does in my imagination.)
However, to His eternal credit, this is not what God

has in mind when He tells us to meditate. He’s
simply asking us to take a few extra moments in our
day to really think about and mull over His Word.
g o o d g a b 53
When you do, you’ll gain new revelation and
better understanding about how to make it work
in your life.
C’mon—try it.

Another word to
believe describe a “Christian,”
in your or follower of Jesus
gab Christ, is “believer.”
We should be called
“believers” because we
believe that Jesus Christ
is the Son of God and have accepted Him as our
Lord. Believers believe. It’s important that we
believe in what we say, just as we believe in Jesus
Christ. Jesus tells us this in the book of Mark.
“For assuredly, I say to you, whoever

says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and
be cast into the sea,’ and does not
doubt in his heart, but believes that
those things he says will be done, he will
have whatever he says. Therefore I say to
you, whatever things you ask when you
pray, believe that you receive them, and
you will have them.”
Mark 11:23,24 NKJV
When we pray, if we believe that we re c e i v e

what we ask for, Jesus says we will indeed
receive them. But if you say things that are not
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true most of time, then when it comes time to
pray, it’s pretty tough to believe that you’ll get
what you ask for. When your words are messed
up, your believer is all messed up! Your spiritual
side doesn’t know when to believe or when not
to believe.
Have you ever known someone who just seemed

to lie about everything? You couldn’t trust them.
It’s the same with your spiritual side. If you mix up
your words with some truth and some other stuff,
you can’t trust yourself when you pray. Remember
the quote from Shakespeare’s play Hamlet: “To
thine own self be true.”
In the book of Hebrews, the writer tells us that the

children of Israel did not enter the Promised Land
because they had an unbelieving heart. (Heb. 3:7-
12.) Don’t let an unbelieving heart stop you from
receiving God’s best. If you ask the Lord to help
you, He’ll let you know on the inside when you’ve
crossed over the line of unbelief with your words.
Then you can correct it right then. That will keep
your believer strong!

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H E B R E W S 4 : 1 4 N K J V
Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who

has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of
God, let us hold fast our confession.
Father God, I am a believer and stand

strong in my declaration of faith. You are
my very present help in trouble. You guide
me and lead me into all truth. You cause
my thoughts to become agreeable to Your
will, and so my plans are established and
succeed, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Wise men speak because
they have something to
say; Fools because they
have to say something.
—Platoviii

3 things to erase from your
thoughts and gab
The Bible teaches us in 2 Corinthians 10:5 to
cast down every high thought that would try
to exalt itself against the knowledge of God.
The act of casting down must be aggressive,
and it must be followed with intentionally
thinking what will encourage your walk with
Christ. Guard carefully against the following
thoughts, because they turn into words.
1. “No one cares about you.”

This thought tempts us towards self-pity, but it is a
lie. People do care and, most importantly, God
cares! Say out loud, “God cares about me, and
people care about me.”
2. “You won’t succeed.”

You have every reason to be confident of success if
you are walking with God. Philippians 4:13 says you
can do all things though Christ who strengthens
you. Say out loud, “I will succeed in life. Jesus Christ
strengthens my spirit, soul, and body.”
3. ”Just give up.”
Jesus didn’t quit on you. He doesn’t have a quit-
ting spirit, and He didn’t put a quitting spirit in
you. Persevere and finish the race! Say out loud,
“I will not quit. I have a strong spirit. I will find my
destiny, and I will finish my course.”

The same way you
get what received Jesus as
you your Lord is the
gab same way you receive
all things from God.
You say, “Jesus, come
into my life. I believe
You are the Son of God and that You died for
my sins and rose again.” You find this in the
book of Romans:
That if you confess with your mouth,

“Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your
heart that God raised him from the
dead, you will be saved. For it is with
your heart that you believe and are
justified, and it is with your mouth that
you confess and are saved.
Romans 10:9,10 NIV
This principle of believing with your heart and

saying with your mouth is how you receive from
God. If you are sick and need to be healed, you
can find a Scripture in the Bible that says you are
healed. For instance, 1 Peter 2:24 says that by the
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stripes of Jesus you are healed. You believe that
Scripture is true for you, and then you say that
Scripture over your life. Words and thoughts are
important to God. He made an easy way for you
to connect with Him and change the circum-
stances in your life: talk!

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H E B R E W S 1 1 : 3 N L V
Through faith we understand that

the world was made by the Word
of God. Things we see were made
from what could not be seen.
When God created the world, He
used words. When He spoke,
things happened. God said, “Let
there be light,” and light was. God
said, “Let the earth bring forth
living creatures,” and animals
appeared. His words caused the
science of this world to form.
In the same way, your words
can affect your world. Keep your
words positive, and speak life!

Just as God created the
world with words, you
and I can create our
world around us by the
words of our mouth.
—Kate McVeighix
7 words to remove from your gab
1. “Can’t.”
You can do all things through Christ who
strengthens you. (Phil. 4:13.)
2. “Never.”
All things are possible to those who
believe. (Mark 9:23.)
3. “Quit.”
“Let us not grow weary while doing good, for in
due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart”
(Gal. 6:9 NKJV).
4. “Depressed.”
“Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say,
Rejoice” (Phil. 4:4).
5. “Hate.”
The Holy Ghost sheds the love of God abroad in
our hearts. (Rom. 5:5.)

6. “Doubt.”
“So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by
the word of God” (Rom. 10:17 NKJV).
7. “Broke.”
My God shall supply all of your needs by His
riches in glory in Christ Jesus. (Phil. 4:19.)
Psalm 45:1 says
kind gab
that our tongue is as
the pen of a ready
writer. The book of
P roverbs says we are to
write God’s Wo rd on the
tablet of our heart s .
Let’s use our tongues to write God’s love on
people’s hearts.
In Proverbs 31, the Bible tells us about a woman

who is very wise. It says that when she speaks,
she always has something worthwhile to say and
she always says it kindly. When she opens her
mouth she shares wisdom, and the law of kind-
ness is on her tongue. I just want to encourage
you that you are very capable of being that
young Proverbs 31 woman.
If you haven’t taken charge of your tongue, begin

right now. There is no telling how many lives you
can help and bless by speaking life-giving words.
The bottom line is that our words help bring
people closer to the Lord.

We have good news to share with people. We
can’t leave it all up to the preachers. There are
people who won’t give any preacher the time of
day, but will listen to your testimony. There are
people who won’t otherwise step foot in a church,
but will one day to hear your pastor or youth
pastor because you opened your mouth and
lovingly invited them to come with you. The next
thing you know, they will have received Jesus into
their hearts because you reached out with a wise
and kind word. I’d say that’s using your gab as a
gift! The best gift of all—salvation!
Proverbs 11:30 says the fruit of those who are

right with God is a tree of life, and he who wins
souls is wise!
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P I N K
Make an effort today to minister

words of life to a friend.

There are many men
whose tongues might
govern multitudes if
they could govern
their tongues.
—George D. Prenticex
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3 things God hates
There are six things the Lord hates, seven that
are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying
tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a
heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that
are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who
pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissen-
sion among brothers.
Proverbs 6:16-19
Notice that 3 of the 7 things the Lord hates have to do
with our mouths.
God says He hates:
A lying tongue. We should ALWAYS speak the truth.
A false witness who pours out lies. God’s daughters
shouldn’t lie about others. We don’t want anyone
lying about us, right?
A person who sows discord among brothers and
sisters. In other words, mind your own business.
Wow! If we know how much the Lord loves us and we
know He’s given us these warnings for our protection,
then we must take heed and ask Him to help us keep
our tongue under control. As His girls, our words
should be containers of truth and love.
The Lord simply doesn’t like gossip. We shouldn’t be
spreading lies or negative things about others, even if
it’s true. We always want to help people up, not bring
them down.

Many times, the best
listen
preaching and teach-
before you
ing that Christ did
gab
was a direct result of
listening to someone.
People would come to
Him with sometimes
simple, and other times very difficult, questions.
The Holy Spirit would give Jesus the answer
every time. James 1:19 tells us to “be quick to
listen, slow to speak.” A listening heart attracts
many friends and will always be re w a rded with
wisdom from heaven. Here are 4 reasons to
have a listening heart.
1. Listening gives you time to fully evaluate a

person’s situation before you pass on counsel
or advice that is premature.
2. Listening tells the person you care. It says

that person is important and you are not in a
rush to send them away.
3. Listening gives you time to hear from God.

The Lord will speak to you clearly when you
take unselfish interest in the lives of others.
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4. God believes in listening. What do you think
He’s doing when we pray? He’s listening.
That’s why He gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth:
We ought to listen twice as much as we talk.

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P R O V E R B S
1 2 : 1 5 N L T
Fools think they need no advice,

but the wise listen to others.
Perhaps the most
important thing we ever
give each other is our
attention.... A loving
silence often has more
power to heal and connect
than the most well-
intentioned words.
—Rachel Naomi Remenxi

3 secrets of a good listener
The Bible says that we are to “be quick to
listen, slow to speak” (James 1:19 N I V) .
Unfortunately, many people are just the

opposite and are very quick to speak and
extremely slow to listen. When you take the
time to listen to somebody, you are showing
them that you care and have respect for what
they think. It will cement your relationship
with that person. What does it take to be a
good listener? Here are 3 secrets.
1. Look into the eyes of the person you are listen-

ing to. This, more than anything, says, “I really
do care about what you have to say.”
2. Think about the point or concern they are

sharing. Don’t be rehearsing in your mind your
answer before you’ve fully caught all that they
are communicating.
3. Repeat back a brief synopsis of what they just

told you. For example, “Jill, I know you feel sad
about not making the team. I believe in you,
and if you keep working at it, I think you’ll make
it next time.”
Matthew 4:4
NLV says:
gab with
God But Jesus said, “It is
written, ‘Man is not
to live on bread
only. Man is to live
by every word that
God speaks.’”
God speaks. He gabs, and He created you to

gab, too—especially with Him. He knew you
before the foundations of the earth. He planned
your life in advance.
Ephesians 2:10 AMP says,
For we are God’s [own] handiwork (His

workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus,
[born anew] that we may do those good
works which God predestined (planned
beforehand) for us [taking paths which
He prepared ahead of time], that we
should walk in them [living the good life
which He prearranged and made ready
for us to live].

God has a specific plan for you. When He speaks
to you, take note of it. It may not happen imme-
diately, but when it does, you’ll be ready.
If you need direction from God, you can pray this:
Lord, my heart seeks You. I want to do

the things that You have already planned
for me to do. I’m ready to follow You. I’m
waiting to hear Your direction for my life.
I want Your best, in Jesus’ name.
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P I N K
Write down the times when you

heard God’s direction and
followed it. What was the
outcome? How did you know
it was the Lord? It’s good to
remember the times you heard
from God. He is always ready
to talk with you.

No heart thrives without
much secret converse with
God and nothing will
make amends for the
want of it.
—John Berridgexii
listening to God
However, I (Jesus) am telling you

nothing but the truth when I say it is
profitable (good, expedient, advanta-
geous) for you that I go away. Because
if I do not go away, the Comforter
(Counselor, Helper, Advocate, Inter-
cessor, Strengthener, Standby) will
not come to you [into close fellowship
with you]; but if I go away, I will send
Him to you [to be in close fellowship
with you.]
John 16:7 AMP
Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to fellowship with you.

That means he wants to listen to you, answer
your questions, give you direction, and help you.
But it is tough to receive help from the Lord
unless part of your prayer time is spent listening
to Him. He wants to tell you specific things about
what you are dealing with right now and what is
coming in your future. Remember: Anything the
Holy Spirit tells you will line up with what the
Bible says.

If you want to receive help from the Lord, you can
pray this prayer:
Father God, thank You for sending the

Holy Spirit to be my counselor and my
friend. Help me to make time to listen
for Your leading and to follow Your
direction, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Have you ever made
gab goop
a mess with your gab
and had to be
forgiven? When your
words get you in trouble,
God made a way for you
to be forgiven and in right
standing with Him again.
But if we confess our sins to him, he is

faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse
us from every wrong.
1 John 1:9 NLT
Everyone makes mistakes and God is so good to

have given you a way to receive freedom. This
verse was not written to sinners; it was written to
Christians. Just because you are saved does not
mean you’re perfect. God’s mercy is here for you
right now.
If your gab has made a mess, you can pray this

prayer:
Father God, I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank

You for making me clean. Help me to
start fresh, in Jesus’ name.

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J A M E S 4 : 8 M S G
Say a quiet yes to God and

he’ll be there in no time.
Quit dabbling in sin.
Purify your inner life.
Quit playing the field.
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Prayer is the great engine
to overthrow and rout my
spiritual enemies, the great
means to procure the
graces of which I stand
in hourly need.
—John Newtonxiii

The most coura-
courageous
geous thing you can
gab
do as you become
who you are destined
to be is to remain
faithful to God. As
long as you are okay with
God, you are okay with everything else. He is your
sounding board. Bounce everything off of Him and
get His feedback.
Second Timothy 2:11-13 NKJV says:
This is a faithful saying: For if we died

with Him, we shall also live with Him. If
we endure, we shall also reign with Him.
If we deny Him, He also will deny us. If
we are faithless, He remains faithful; He
cannot deny Himself.
People may not always be faithful to you, espe-

cially with their words, but God and His Word
remain faithful forever.
c o u r a g e o u s g a b 87
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P R O V E R B S 1 1 : 3 0 N L T
The godly are like trees that

bear life-giving fruit, and those
who save lives are wise.

“The very man who has
argued you down, will
sometimes be found,
years later, to have
been influenced by
what you said.”
—C.S. Lewisxiv
c o u r a g e o u s g a b 89
gab about God
As you grow in your relationship with God,
your life will begin to reflect His goodness.
Your gab will be filled with thoughts about
Him and stories about His faithfulness in
your life.
As you gab about God, some people won’t want to

listen. Some may even try to argue with you. Just
remember that you are n ’t fighting with people; you
are fighting the enemy of their souls. (Eph. 6:12.)
Pray that God will open doors for you to share His
goodness, that He will give you favor in every
conversation, and that your friends’ spiritual eyes
will be opened to the tru t h .
As you plant word seeds into their lives and pray

for them, God will send other believers to water
the seeds—and one day you will see the reward of
your work when your friends are worshipping God
with their lives and words, too.
God bless you and your mouth. I believe with all of

my heart that you will use your gab for good!

recommended reading
A Young Woman After God’s Own Heart • by Elizabeth George
Girl Talk • by Sheri Rose Shepherd
Girls Of Grace • by Point of Grace
Teenagers Are People Too • by Joyce Meyer
Little Black Books • by Blaine Bartel
For Such a Time as This • by Lisa Ryan
endnotes
i
http://www.quotationspage.com/quote/8544.html
ii
iii
http://en.thinkexist.com/quotes/frank_outlaw/
iv
v
vi
Walking in the Fruit of the Spirit (Tulsa: Victory Christian
Center, 1998).
vii
viii
http://en.thinkexist.com/quotation/wise_men_speak_
because_they_have_something_to_say/218003.html
ix
Single and Loving It (Tulsa: Harrison House Publishers, 2003)
p. 86.
x
xi
http://www.wisdomquotes.com/002329.html
xii
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quoteshow.php?type=author&id=845
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quoteshow.php?id=32289
xiv
http://en.thinkexist.com/quotes/c.s._lewis/
91
prayer of salvation
God loves you—no matter who you are, no matter what
your past. God loves you so much that He gave His one
and only begotten Son for you. The Bible tells us that
“...whoever believes in him shall not perish but have
eternal life” (John 3:16 NIV). Jesus laid down His life and
rose again so that we could spend eternity with Him in
heaven and experience His absolute best on earth. If
you would like to receive Jesus into your life, say the
following prayer out loud and mean it from your heart.
Heavenly Father, I come to You admitting that
I am a sinner. Right now, I choose to turn away
from sin, and I ask You to cleanse me of all
unrighteousness. I believe that Your Son,
Jesus, died on the cross to take away my sins.
I also believe that He rose again from the
dead so that I might be forgiven of my sins
and made righteous through faith in Him. I
call upon the name of Jesus Christ to be the
Savior and Lord of my life. Jesus, I choose to
follow You and ask that You fill me with the
power of the Holy Spirit. I declare that right
now I am a child of God. I am free from sin
and full of the righteousness of God. I am
saved in Jesus’ name. Amen.
If you prayed this prayer to receive Jesus Christ as your
Savior for the first time, please contact us on the Web at
www.harrisonhouse.com to receive a free book.
Or you may write to us at
Harrison House
P.O. Box 35035 • Tulsa, Oklahoma 74153
about the author
For more than a quarter of a century, Cathy Bartel has served
alongside her husband, Blaine, in what they believe is the
hope of the world, the local church. For the better part of
two decades, they have served their pastor, Willie George, in
building one of America’s most respected churches, Church
on the Move, in Tulsa, Oklahoma. Most recently, they helped
found Oneighty, which has become one of the most
emulated youth ministries in the past 10 years, reaching
2,500–3,000 students weekly under their leadership.
While Blaine is known for his communication and leader-
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Blaine is quick to recognize her “behind the scenes”
gifting to lift and encourage people as one of the great
strengths of their ministry together. Her effervescent spirit
and contagious smile open the door for her ministry each
day, whether she’s in the church or at the grocery store.
Cathy is currently helping Blaine raise a new community of
believers committed to relevant ministry and evangelism.
Northstar Church will open its doors in the growing north
Dallas suburb of Frisco, Texas, in the fall of 2006.
Cathy’s greatest reward has come in the raising of her 3
boys—Jeremy, 21, Dillon, 19, and Brock, 17. Today, each
son is serving Christ with his unique abilities and is deeply
involved in Blaine and Cathy’s ongoing ministry.
To contact Cathy Bartel please write to:
Cathy Bartel • Serving America’s Future

P.O. Box 691923 • Tulsa, Oklahoma 74169
www.blainebartel.com
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Life and death are in the power of the tongue. I

Well, we need to ask the Lord to help us. For

Guess what? Included in that everyone is you!

Take charge! Think before you speak!

Now, let me be the first to tell you right here and

Our speech is something we will have to work on

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I am so thankful I don’t say those words anymore.

Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul

Proverbs 16:28 says that gossip separates the

We all need to check up on ourselves and have a

If you are having trouble with your mouth, you

Ask a friend to help you. Make yourself account-

Always trust the Lord to help you conquer bad

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A soft answer turns away

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A man gossiped about his friend. Soon his friend

Gossip hurts people, destroys relationships, and

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The benefit of all those thoughts and details is

The challenge is keeping our foot out of our

Proverbs shows us that when we hold our tongue

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Proverbs 10:19 NIV

We can all learn from that one, huh? Think of a

a girl no one wants to marry

It is better to dwell in a corner of the

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Let’s take a moment and do a little heart checkup.

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Definition: One who is always talking about

Definition: One who continually pokes fun at

5. Am I a stab gab? Ouch!

Definition: One who stabs people in the

Yes Yes Yes

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Gently encourage the stragglers,

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Death and life are in the power of the

We can speak good things out of our mouths

Who would think that words could affect your life

Here’s one Scripture to keep in your memory next

You, dear children, are from God and