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Touching
Embracing
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Prophetic Hadiths:
On the authority of 'Aisha (may Allah be pleased
with her) who said: “I used to bathe with the
Prophet from a single container of water which
was placed between us such that our hands
collided inside it. He used to race me such that I.
would say: "Leave some for me, leave some for
me!' 1 She added: "We were in a state of major
ritual impurity (i.e. the state of having slept
together’”[Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
KISSING
“A kiss is a pleasant reminder that two heads are
better than one”! Now, who wouldn’t agree with
me on this statement? A gentle kiss from your
spouse can lift your spirits and make you feel
wonderfully happy even when you are depressed.
A relationship is all about trying out new things
to keep away boredom and monotony from
setting in. a fun way to do that is by trying out
different types of kisses.
It can take your relationship to a whole new level
and both will be glad that you tried it, since it
will bond you all the more closer.
KISSING
Other areas for kissing
may include the
partner's:
Ears Breasts
Cheek
Stomach
Neck
Back
Eyelids
Inner thighs.
Shoulders
Whatever turns you
both on,…
KISSING
Kissing during foreplay may be on the mouth or
encompass other areas of the body. Deep kissing,
also, involves the physical contact of tongues and
can also imply the tongue entering another
person's mouth.
KISSING
Foreplay is very important before sex and in
Islam is encouraged.
In the Reference section there are 26 different
kinds of kisses that are explained. Again there is
no limit to creativity as long as it doesn’t venture
into the forbidden.
KISSING
Angel Kiss
A very sweet and comforting kiss, the angel kiss is
one in which you lightly kiss your partner right on
the eye lids or just next to the eyes.
Cheek Kiss
This is the most preferred kind of kiss for a first time.
It gives the friendly signal of “I really like you” to the
other partner. Place your hands on your partner’s
shoulder, lean forward and plant a soft kiss on the
cheek.
KISSING
Butterfly Kiss
A very cute gesture, you don’t
really kiss in this one. Bring your
faces close to each other and
flutter your eyelids together. Of
course, this ignites pleasure and
you go ahead to have a wonderful
kiss!
KISSING
Freeze Kiss
This is a fun kiss to experiment with. Take a
small piece of ice and put it in your mouth. Don’t
swallow! Gently hold your partner and kiss softly
on the lips. While kissing, open your mouth and
make your partner open his/her mouth lightly.
Pass the ice with your tongue for an exciting
sensation.
KISSING
Eskimo Kiss
This is definitely one of the cutest ways to begin
a kiss. Bring your faces together and very lightly
rub your noses together. It is a wonderfully
loving gesture that your partner will adore.
KISSING
Earlobe Kiss
As the name suggests, you need to kiss and very
gently suck on the earlobe of your partner. Be
careful not to nip or bite since ear lobes are very
soft. Make soft groaning noises but don’t squeal
since you are kissing on the ears!
KISSING
French Kiss
Also known as the “Soul Kiss”, the French kiss is
a passionate form of kissing. Start with a soft
kiss on the lips and very slowly start exploring
your partner’s mouth with your tongue.
KISSING
Hand Kiss
This one is ideally done by the dude. Take your
wifes hand in your hand and lightly kiss the top
of her hand. In the days of yore, the man used to
bow or go down on one knee and then perform
this kiss
KISSING
Neck Kiss
This is a very sensual kiss. You need to come up
from behind your partner, embrace gently and
kiss the back of the neck. Slowly proceed to the
side while kissing and withdraw gently.
KISSING
Shoulder Kiss
Known to be a sensual and loving kiss, the
shoulder kiss involves coming from behind your
partner and kissing on top of the shoulder a few
times.
Sip Kiss
This is a fun kiss to try with your partner. Take a
sip of your favorite non-alcholic drink and leave a
bit of it on your lips. Now kiss your partner and
create an enjoyable and sensual feeling.
KISSING
Tiger Kiss
Do it like a playful tiger! They sneak upon their
prey and attack without any noise. Sneak up
behind your partner and grab him/her out of the
blue. While he/she still tries to get over the
pleasant shock, start nibbling and lightly kissing
their neck and don’t forget to growl like a cub!
KISSING
Upside-Down Kiss
Seen Spiderman? He lowers
himself head-first while
dangling from his web and
passionately kisses MJ. Since
you cannot dangle from
anywhere, you kiss your
partner when he/she is lying
down or seated. Come from
behind and have them tilt
their head backwards. Gently
kiss the lower lip and feel
your partner breathing softly
on your neck.
SEX POSITIONS
The following slides are some of the most
common positions
The most common is missionary
Be respectful
http://www.fitnessmagazine.com/health/sex/better-sex-guide/sex-
positions-that-double-as-exercise/?page=2
SEX POSITIONS
http://www.fitnessmagazine.com/health/sex/better-sex-guide/sex-
positions-that-double-as-exercise/?page=2
SEX POSITIONS
http://www.fitnessmagazine.com/health/sex/better-sex-guide/sex-
positions-that-double-as-exercise/?page=2
SEX POSITIONS
Arch
Lunges
http://www.fitnessmagazine.com/health/sex/better-sex-guide/sex-
positions-that-double-as-exercise/?page=2
SEX POSITIONS
Prophetic Hadiths:
The Prophet (pbuh) said concerning the woman,
who is in her menstrual period,
"Do what you want except sexual intercourse.
[Reported by the five most authentic narrators except
Al-Bukhari]
While fasting
http://www.themarriagebed.com/pages/sexuality/splay/whatisokay.shtml
AVOIDING PORNOGRAPHY
Everything a couple includes in their sex life should
build them up, and direct them towards each other.
Sexually explicit material can easily cause unrealistic
or impossible expectations, cause doubt about how we
look, or make us feel inadequate. Obviously these
things are destructive, and any material that causes
such feelings should be excluded.
God is concerned with our hearts, not just our actions.
If what we read or view causes us to desire or
fantasize about sinful sexual activities, then we have
sinned in our hearts.
Finally we are told that there are things which are
not sinful, but are also not profitable. We must decide
if there is any good to come from something, and
weigh that against any bad that could come from it.
REFERENCES
Thes are references I found on the web (http://www.central-
mosque.com/fiqh/kissf.htm)
http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/
Imam al-Daylami (Allah have mercy on him) records a narration on
the authority of Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) that the
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) is reported to
have said: “One of you should not fulfil one’s (sexual) need from one’s
wife like an animal, rather there should be between them foreplay of
kissing and words.” (Musnad al-Firdaws Of al-Daylami, 2/55)
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) also
stated:
“Every game a person plays is futile except for archery, training one’s
horse and playing with one’s wife”. (Sunan Tirmidhi, Musnad Ahmad,
Sunan Ibn Majah).
The following Hadith ought to act as a strong warning and a
deterrent to those guilty of this. Hazrat Abu Saeed (radiyallahu-
anhu) reports that Nabi (sallallahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: "The worst
person in the eyes of Allah on the Day of Qiyamah is that couple who
have an intimate relation with each other and the man then reveals
the (bedroom) secrets to others" -Muslim Shareef
REFERENCES
http://www.zawaj.com/articles/intimate.html
PROHIBITION OF ANAL INTERCOURSE
Anal intercourse, which is forbidden in Islam. A
man may get to his wife from her behind,
provided the male organ is introduced in the
vagina and not in the anus. This was clearly
indicated by the Quran and the Sunna- The
Quran says: "Your wives are as a tilth unto you;
so approach your tilth when and how you will"
(2:223)
His companions were surprised and asked him'
'How come the one of us answers the urge of his
desire and out of this gets the reward of a
charity. To which the prophet answered:
Don't you see that if he does the same but in a
forbidden situation it would be counted against
him as a sin? And so if he does it in legitimacy it
is counted for him as a charity." (Muslim)
Tantric foreplay
The tantric foreplay is only about giving each other time to connect
spiritually and bind. Staring at each other while in a cross-legged
position and touching the other's hand palms is a usual foreplay tactic
used by tantra practitioners. Tantric foreplay may also include
massages. The massage that is applied, according to the tantric
philosophy, has not the purpose to reach orgasms but to give each
other pleasure and connect at a spiritual level
GO SLOW AND ALLOW WIFE TO REACH
ORGASM
"If any of you has sex with his wife let he be true
to her. If he attains his pleasure before her then
he shouldn't hurry her away until she also
attains her pleasure." (Anas )
"Let-not the one of you fall upon his wife like a
beast (camel) falls. It is more appropriate to set a
messenger afore the act"
GO SLOW AND ALLOW WIFE TO REACH
ORGASM
Standard writings in sexology over the past few decades have
described the physiological human sexual response and
classified it into the four phases of excitation, plateau, orgasm
and resolution. Ideally these phases should coincide in both
partners, otherwise there will be sexual dysharmony, often
due to the man getting his orgasm while the woman is still
eagerly awaiting, with inflamed desire, to also achieve her
orgasm.
As orgasm is followed by resolution where the male organ gets
flacid and the man enters into a refractory period after his
sexual desire has been satiated through orgasm, the
conclusion of the act at that stage would be unfair to the
woman having been aroused but not satisfied, and that is
what the prophet warns against. The man should not just turn
his back and go away or go to sleep, leaving his wife
frustrated. The coital exercise should proceed until she is
satisfied. An effective method of correcting this form of
dyshan:nony is to spend time enjoying their intimacy and
helping themselves to one another's bodies in totality, before
moving on to genital intercourse.
GO SLOW AND ALLOW WIFE TO REACH
ORGASM
The pleasures of sex spread themselves over a much wider
area than the genital region, as manifest in kissing,
embracing and caressing the body especially over the
erogenous zones of the female physique. This indeed is the
normal and commendable approach to sex. It adds to the
mechanistic element of sex, the emotional dimension of
tender love and mutual affection beautifully portrayed in
the Quran as: "They are your garments, and they are
yours. " It also ensures that by the time the couple move on
to genital introduction, the woman would have been
aroused over a sufficient period of time and become so
excited that she is already quite near her orgasm. In
modern medical jargon this prelude is called the' 'foreplay',
but again long before it was dreamt in the rest of the world
of such women's rights, the prophet of Islam gave the same
guidance, politely referring to foreplay as the "messenger",
in his saying:
Similarly a woman should be responsive to her
husband's call. Seeing that men are more prone
to sexual arousal by a variety of visual stimuli as
they move about all day, the prophet's advice was
that the wife should always answer her
husband's call:
"The right of the husband is that when he calls
his wife to sex she should not deny him herself."
(Tialissi)
The prophet also advised that whenever a man
sees something that arouses his sexual desire, he
should go and have sex with his wife.
THE PRINCIPLES OF CONJUGAL LOVE IN ISLAM
ARE FEW AND UNCOMPLICATED.
1. Sexual relations are for the pleasure of both the husband and the wife and
for the procreation of children. Sexual intercourse is not limited to vaginal
penetration but includes other forms of sexual caressing, such as kissing and
fondling of various kinds.
2. Nothing should be done that is offensive or harmful to either person. Each
has a duty to be sexually available to the other, but neither has the right to
disgust or injure the other.
3. With a few exceptions, the couple can engage in any activities that they like,
in any manner and in any position. Allah rewards such activities as surely as
he punishes sinful activities. The Qur'an says, "Women are your fields. Go then
into your fields as you please." (2:223)
4. It is forbidden to have vaginal intercourse while a woman is menstruating
(Qur'an 2:222). According to the Sunnah of the Prophet (God's grace and peace
be upon him), a man and his menstruating wife can however give one another
pleasure so long as the woman's genitals are avoided.
5. There are ahadith that forbid anal intercourse and scholars generally agree
that it is not permissible. However, in his tafsir (commentary) Tabaari (3d
century A.H.) while forbidding sodomy, says that earlier authorities were
divided on the question.
OTHER GUIDELINES
6. The Qur'an and the Sunnah are generally silent as to the various forms that
sexual relations may take. Most authorities consider that it is up to the
husband and wife in love and mutual respect to decide how to physically
express their sexual desires.
7. What goes on in bedroom, is a private matter and should not be discussed or
revealed to other persons unless there is some necessity, such as health or
safety. Abu Hurairah narrates that the Prophet (pbuh) said this about people
who reveal and discuss openly their sexual practices: "Do you know what those
who do this are like? Those who do this are like a male and female devil who
meet each other on the road and satisfy their desire while the people look on."
Therefore, in Islam the husband and the wife choose their sexual activities
according to the sure teaching of the Qur'an, in the light of the Sunnah as we
are able to understand and appreciate it, in mutual respect for one another and
knowing that the only witness to the expression of their desires will be Allah
the Exalted, who will judge them according to their deeds and their heartfelt
intentions.
The question of the lawfulness of oral-genital contact is difficult because there
are many opinions. For some, it is forbidden. For others, tolerated. For some it
is lawful. Some consider it to be lawful as long as the couple use such contacts
as foreplay and conclude their love-making with vaginal intercourse.
I believe that this is a matter to be decided by the husband and wife together
after seeking the guidance of Allah, who alone knows best.
LAWFUL SEX
We are to have sex only in marriage; one man with one woman.
We are to lovingly meet the legitimate sexual needs and wants of our
spouse.
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