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YSLEP MONTHLY

FORMATION MEETING
“LENTEN RECOLLECTION 2019”
(March 17, 2019)
AT THE TMP
8:00 AM
Recollection Master: Dr. Erickson Javier
AGENDA:

I. Collection of Index Cards


II. Distribution of Allowance
III. Opening Prayer
IV.Formation Proper
Topic: Lenten Recollection
V. Sharing
VI.Reminders
VII.Closing Prayer
SSDM/CARITAS
SEPTEMBER FORMATION
(September 9, 2018)
AT THE TMP
9:00 AM

Formator: Sis. Luzviminda T. Docot


EAP Coordinator
AGENDA:

I. Opening Prayer
II. Collection of Index Cards
III. Distribution of Allowance
IV.Review of Last Topic Discussed
V. Formation Proper
Topic: My Limitations
VI.Reminders
VII.Closing Prayer
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
OBJECTIVES:
During the sessions, students should be able
to:
• Describe one’s self.
• Differentiate real self rom ideal self.
• Show some ways of developing one’s self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
RATE YOUR SELF. (SCALE OF 1 – 3) RATING
1. I am easy to like.
2. I like to change a lot of things about myself.
3. I always know what to say to people.
4. I am pretty sure of myself.
5. I am sure of my sexuality.
6. I always tell the truth.
7. I am shy most of the time.
8. I often wish I am someone else
9. I like my physical attributes.
10. I can be depended on.
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MY LIMITATIONS
BRING TO LIGHT:
1. What to you feel while you were rating yourself?
While your seatmate is giving you his/her rating?
2. How does your seatmate rate you? What was your
seatmate’s rating. Does your rating same as his/her
rating?
3. How did you feel when your seatmate’s rating was
different from you?
4. What do you think it tells about yourself?
5. How does a person who’s close to your describe you?
6. After this activity, how will you describe yourself?
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
• “Know thyself” by Socrates.
• Knowing and understanding oneself is the first
important step to one’s growth and development
as a person.
• It is a lifelong process that goes on and on.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
• Self-awareness is the “degree of clarity with which,
we receive and understand all the factors that
affect our lives, whether consciously or
unconsciously.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
• Being able to look at oneself realistically is the
beginning of fully being aware of oneself.
• The deeper we know ourselves, the better is our
self-understanding.
• It is not right to hide out true self and pretend
that we are someone else.
• The way we reveal ourselves to others is the way
they will respond to us.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS

• Uncovering ourselves to others may generate


positive or negative feedbacks.
• These feedbacks give us the opportunity to
increase our self-awareness and could help in
determining consequences of our behavior.
• It could also give us a chance to modify whatever
attitude we have
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
• Responsible feedback is usually given and received
from close and trusted friends who had genuine
concern for us
• If one knows that he/she is accepted he feels safe
and secured.
• Being with our real friends make us throw away
our defenses and makes us feel relaxed, so no
matter how light or heavy the feedbacks given, we
can be assured that these are given because of
their love and concern for us.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
THE REAL SELF
• Real means genuine.
• Being real is being true to you as a human person.
• Real self includes the totality of your person, how you
have been in the past, how you are now, and what
dreams and aspirations you have for yourself
• Having a real self means practicing sincerity, honesty
and integrity
• People will understand and accept you better if you
are real and are willing to make some changes for a
better and ideal self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
DEVELOPING THE REAL SELF
• Starts with knowing first, your real self.
• Traits and qualities of your real self will help you
identify what you should change towards your
ideal self.
• You can identify your ideal self when you make
comments like “I wish I could be stronger and
firm in making the right decisions.”
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
DEVELOPING THE REAL SELF
• The self is the unique core of your personality.
• It represents the center of your significance and
experiences.
• All your experiences are essential elements that
contribute to the development of your real self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
3 ASPECTS OF THE REAL SELF
• Self-Concept
• Self-Image
• Self-Esteem
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
• Being aware of ourselves can help us develop our
weaknesses to strengths.
• Our weaknesses as a person should NOT be the
boundaries of what we can do.
• We have to develop a positive sense our
ourselves.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
3 ASPECTS OF THE REAL SELF
• Self-Concept is the organized set of
characteristics that you have for yourself. This is
consists of the perceptions you have about
yourself.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
3 ASPECTS OF THE REAL SELF
• Self-Image is the picture that you project to
others based on your self-concept.Your self-
concept image becomes the basis of your
reputation for evaluation and feedback from
others.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
3 ASPECTS OF THE REAL SELF
• Self-Esteem affective, evaluate aspect of the self.
This is your innate sense of self-worth and value
as a person.
• Self-esteem has two components:
- Self-Efficacy – confidence in doing something
- Self-Respect – experience of dignity and
personal worth, deserving of love and happiness.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
CHARACTERISTICS OF A HEALTHY SELF
WITH HIGH SELF ESTEEM WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM
Evaluate their own performance Evaluate their own performance
favorably negatively
Perform well even if they are watched Perform poorly when watched and are
and are not afraid of feedback and sensitive to negative comments and
reactions criticisms
Able to defend themselves against Are easily influenced by others in an
negative comments and criticisms effort to please people
Comfortable and confident in dealing Threatened by and have difficulty
with others dealing with other people
Like to think well of others Like to disapprove of others
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
DISCOVERING REAL SELF
• When you start to discover your real self, you will
soon find out that your are slowly replacing some
of your negative traits and qualities with values
and beliefs that are more positive for growth
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self is realistic
• Healthy Self is Flexible
• Healthy Self-processes the will to change
• Healthy Self-processes has the skills to change
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self is realistic – evaluating yourself needs
to be object and based on concrete experiences
and specific situations. To evaluate your blindly and
excessively produces a negative self-concept and a
very low self-esteem. Clinging to an untrue self-
image or picture of your real self can lead to a
wrong image of yourself. To have a realistic self
means being real in accepting both your positive
and negative traits and qualities.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self is Flexible – for a healthy self it is
essential that you engage in a continuing process
of evaluating yourself.You can constantly evaluate
your qualities and traits that need to be changed.
A fixed self-image will prevent you from
responding to experience effectively.You must be
flexible enough to adjust appropriately to the
changing situations and conditions of life.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self-processes the will to change – any change
process that you desire in your real self requires a lot
of willingness and openness to change. Nobody can
make you better but yourself. The will to become a
better person means having the courage and
determination to pursue the desire to change.
discipline and self-control are also essential elements
that can help you initiate and sustain what you need to
change. Being real means having the will to
synchronize your thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self-processes has the skills to change – some
people may be willing to change but are not able to do
so because they lack the skills to change. When people
lack the skills for change, the real self loses its change
to improve itself and might stay stagnant over a period
of time. These skills for change can be developed by
seeking advice from authorities and getting support
from others. This may also be done by observing good
role models and being inspired by their shining
examples.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Identify specific situations and conditions where
you are real and unreal about yourself.
-Examine the reasons for being real or unreal
-Try to identify your basic motivation for being
real or unreal in situations such as being appreciated
by others ,fear of being criticized or rejected
-Evaluated the benefits of being real and the
danger or risks of being unreal
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Be proactive and learn to acknowledge your
positive and negative traits and qualities.
-Seek to evaluate the consistency of your
thoughts, feelings, and behavior. This consistency can
create a lot of opportunities for you to develop your
real and true self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Never make the weaknesses of the real you as an
excuse to hurt other people.
-To be real does not mean to show other people
the worst that you are. Some people think that to be real
means to show even their bad behavior and ill feelings
toward others. As a real person you can freely express
your thoughts and feelings but with courtesy and respect
to other person. Becoming real also means that saying
what you really want to say with a sense of responsibility.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Foster a healthy, positive attitude in life.
-Maintain a habit of keeping track of your
traits, qualities and behavior particularly in situations
where you feel you are being unreal. Deal responsibly
with aspects of your real self that are negative and
disturbing to others. Making excuses and being
defensive are some of the reasons why people cannot
develop a real self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Affirm yourself and other people.
-Avoid behavior that deceives yourself and others.
This means accepting your conditions in life and not
pretending to be something or someone else. Lying and
not telling the truth about you can only create bigger
problems. Unreal persons invite ridicule and even draw
themselves to danger. Honesty, modesty, and humility are
the qualities of a real person. Discipline also makes a
person more real and genuine.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
DISCOVERING AND BEING YOUR REAL SELF
• makes your adolescent years a remarkable one.
• being able to live a real self provides a lot of chances
for you to understand and accept yourself
• once you have already accepted yourself, it becomes
easy for you to identify qualities that you want to
retain and those traits that you desire to change
• with this process, you can easily develop a more stable
and integrated sense of self
TRY THIS
1. What do you think is your worst limitation as a
person?
2. How do you view this limitation?
3. How does limitation hinder you to become a
friend of others?
4. How do you think God views this limitation of
yours?
THOUGHTS TO PONDER
SSDM/CARITAS
OCTOBER FORMATION
(October 14, 2018)
AT THE TMP
9:00 AM

Formator: Sis. Luzviminda T. Docot


EAP Coordinator
AGENDA:

I. Opening Prayer
II. Collection of Index Cards
III. Distribution of Caritas Forms for
New Applicants
IV.Review of Last Topic Discussed
V. Formation Proper
Topic: GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS
VI.Reminders
VII.Closing Prayer
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY
TALENTS
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

OBJECTIVES:
During the sessions, students should be able
to:
• Appreciate all the gifts they have
received
• Develop skills to enhance their gift; and
• Use their gifts responsibly not just for
their personal satisfaction
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

LIST DOWN ALL THOSE YOU CONSIDER


AS YOUR MOST PRIZED POSSESSIONS.
1. Arranged these prized possessions according to
their importance in your life.
2. Discuss amongst yourselves the reasons why
you consider these as your prized possessions.
3. Take note of those similar prized possessions
and those who were mentioned only once.
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

BRING TO LIGHT:
1. What have you discovered in your
sharing?
2. What are the similarities and differences
in your sharing? What are the common
prized possession as shared by your
group?
3. How did you feel?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

BRING TO LIGHT:
4. Among those discussed, what were
different? Those possessions which were
only mentioned once?
5. How do these gifts from God support
you to live comfortable life for yourself
and for your loved ones?
6. What did you realize from this activity?
7. What insight did you gain?
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• You were created with a


purpose.
• What do you think is
your purpose?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• You are given as a gift to


you brothers and sisters.
• How can you be a gift
to them?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• God has given each believer a


combination of opportunities
and fits that is perfectly suited
to his or her situation in life.
• How can you use your
situation as a blessing to
others?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• Every Christian is really a


minister with a unique
contribution to make the
body of Christ.
• What is your ministry?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• The central thrust of your


ministry depends on the
spiritual gifts you have
received.
• How do you use your
gifts?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• Gifts are God’s spiritual


equipment for effective
service an edification of the
body.
• How can you improve your
gifts?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• The possessor is only the


instrument and not the
receiver of the glory (J.
Oswald Sanders).
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• Gifts were given “so that in


all things God may be
glorified through Jesus
Christ” (1 Pet. 4:11).
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

Some of the Gifts


Service (Rom. 12:7) - the ability to identify
and care for the physical needs of the body
through a variety of means.
• How can you use your God-given gifts as
a service to others?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

Some of the Gifts


Giving (Rom. 12:8) – the ability to contribute
material resources with generosity and cheerfulness
for the benefit of others and the glory of God.
Christians with this spiritual gift need not be wealthy.
• How can you use your God-given gifts to
those who are needy?
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GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

Gifts are God’s spiritual equipment for effective


service an edification of the body. They are not
bestowed for the self-aggrandizement of the recipient
, or as an evidence of a special endowment of the
Spirit, but for the profit and edification of the Body of
Christ. The possessor is only the instrument and not
the receiver of the glory (J. Oswald Sanders). Gifts
were given “so that in all things God may be glorified
through Jesus Christ” (1 Pet. 4:11).
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

You were created with a purpose.You are given as a


gift to you brothers and sisters. God has given each
believer a combination of opportunities and fits that is
perfectly suited to his or her situation in life. Every
Christian is really a minister with a unique
contribution to make the body of Christ. The central
thrust of your ministry depends on the spiritual gifts
you have received.
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• “Know thyself” by Socrates.


• Knowing and understanding oneself is the first
important step to one’s growth and development
as a person.
• It is a lifelong process that goes on and on.
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• Self-awareness is the “degree of clarity with which,


we receive and understand all the factors that
affect our lives, whether consciously or
unconsciously.
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• Being able to look at oneself realistically is the


beginning of fully being aware of oneself.
• The deeper we know ourselves, the better is our
self-understanding.
• It is not right to hide out true self and pretend
that we are someone else.
• The way we reveal ourselves to others is the way
they will respond to us.
MODULE 3
GOD’S PURPOSE IN MY TALENTS

• Uncovering ourselves to others may generate


positive or negative feedbacks.
• These feedbacks give us the opportunity to
increase our self-awareness and could help in
determining consequences of our behavior.
• It could also give us a chance to modify whatever
attitude we have
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
• Responsible feedback is usually given and received
from close and trusted friends who had genuine
concern for us
• If one knows that he/she is accepted he feels safe
and secured.
• Being with our real friends make us throw away
our defenses and makes us feel relaxed, so no
matter how light or heavy the feedbacks given, we
can be assured that these are given because of
their love and concern for us.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
THE REAL SELF
• Real means genuine.
• Being real is being true to you as a human person.
• Real self includes the totality of your person, how you
have been in the past, how you are now, and what
dreams and aspirations you have for yourself
• Having a real self means practicing sincerity, honesty
and integrity
• People will understand and accept you better if you
are real and are willing to make some changes for a
better and ideal self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
DEVELOPING THE REAL SELF
• Starts with knowing first, your real self.
• Traits and qualities of your real self will help you
identify what you should change towards your
ideal self.
• You can identify your ideal self when you make
comments like “I wish I could be stronger and
firm in making the right decisions.”
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
DEVELOPING THE REAL SELF
• The self is the unique core of your personality.
• It represents the center of your significance and
experiences.
• All your experiences are essential elements that
contribute to the development of your real self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
3 ASPECTS OF THE REAL SELF
• Self-Concept
• Self-Image
• Self-Esteem
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
• Being aware of ourselves can help us develop our
weaknesses to strengths.
• Our weaknesses as a person should NOT be the
boundaries of what we can do.
• We have to develop a positive sense our
ourselves.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
3 ASPECTS OF THE REAL SELF
• Self-Concept is the organized set of
characteristics that you have for yourself. This is
consists of the perceptions you have about
yourself.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
3 ASPECTS OF THE REAL SELF
• Self-Image is the picture that you project to
others based on your self-concept.Your self-
concept image becomes the basis of your
reputation for evaluation and feedback from
others.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
3 ASPECTS OF THE REAL SELF
• Self-Esteem affective, evaluate aspect of the self.
This is your innate sense of self-worth and value
as a person.
• Self-esteem has two components:
- Self-Efficacy – confidence in doing something
- Self-Respect – experience of dignity and
personal worth, deserving of love and happiness.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
CHARACTERISTICS OF A HEALTHY SELF
WITH HIGH SELF ESTEEM WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM
Evaluate their own performance Evaluate their own performance
favorably negatively
Perform well even if they are watched Perform poorly when watched and are
and are not afraid of feedback and sensitive to negative comments and
reactions criticisms
Able to defend themselves against Are easily influenced by others in an
negative comments and criticisms effort to please people
Comfortable and confident in dealing Threatened by and have difficulty
with others dealing with other people
Like to think well of others Like to disapprove of others
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
DISCOVERING REAL SELF
• When you start to discover your real self, you will
soon find out that your are slowly replacing some
of your negative traits and qualities with values
and beliefs that are more positive for growth
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self is realistic
• Healthy Self is Flexible
• Healthy Self-processes the will to change
• Healthy Self-processes has the skills to change
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self is realistic – evaluating yourself needs
to be object and based on concrete experiences
and specific situations. To evaluate your blindly and
excessively produces a negative self-concept and a
very low self-esteem. Clinging to an untrue self-
image or picture of your real self can lead to a
wrong image of yourself. To have a realistic self
means being real in accepting both your positive
and negative traits and qualities.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self is Flexible – for a healthy self it is
essential that you engage in a continuing process
of evaluating yourself.You can constantly evaluate
your qualities and traits that need to be changed.
A fixed self-image will prevent you from
responding to experience effectively.You must be
flexible enough to adjust appropriately to the
changing situations and conditions of life.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self-processes the will to change – any change
process that you desire in your real self requires a lot
of willingness and openness to change. Nobody can
make you better but yourself. The will to become a
better person means having the courage and
determination to pursue the desire to change.
discipline and self-control are also essential elements
that can help you initiate and sustain what you need to
change. Being real means having the will to
synchronize your thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
4 CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY SELF
• Healthy Self-processes has the skills to change – some
people may be willing to change but are not able to do
so because they lack the skills to change. When people
lack the skills for change, the real self loses its change
to improve itself and might stay stagnant over a period
of time. These skills for change can be developed by
seeking advice from authorities and getting support
from others. This may also be done by observing good
role models and being inspired by their shining
examples.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Identify specific situations and conditions where
you are real and unreal about yourself.
-Examine the reasons for being real or unreal
-Try to identify your basic motivation for being
real or unreal in situations such as being appreciated
by others ,fear of being criticized or rejected
-Evaluated the benefits of being real and the
danger or risks of being unreal
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Be proactive and learn to acknowledge your
positive and negative traits and qualities.
-Seek to evaluate the consistency of your
thoughts, feelings, and behavior. This consistency can
create a lot of opportunities for you to develop your
real and true self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Never make the weaknesses of the real you as an
excuse to hurt other people.
-To be real does not mean to show other people
the worst that you are. Some people think that to be real
means to show even their bad behavior and ill feelings
toward others. As a real person you can freely express
your thoughts and feelings but with courtesy and respect
to other person. Becoming real also means that saying
what you really want to say with a sense of responsibility.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Foster a healthy, positive attitude in life.
-Maintain a habit of keeping track of your
traits, qualities and behavior particularly in situations
where you feel you are being unreal. Deal responsibly
with aspects of your real self that are negative and
disturbing to others. Making excuses and being
defensive are some of the reasons why people cannot
develop a real self.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
STRATEGIES TO DEVELOP THE IDEAL SELF
• Affirm yourself and other people.
-Avoid behavior that deceives yourself and others.
This means accepting your conditions in life and not
pretending to be something or someone else. Lying and
not telling the truth about you can only create bigger
problems. Unreal persons invite ridicule and even draw
themselves to danger. Honesty, modesty, and humility are
the qualities of a real person. Discipline also makes a
person more real and genuine.
MODULE 2
MY LIMITATIONS
DISCOVERING AND BEING YOUR REAL SELF
• makes your adolescent years a remarkable one.
• being able to live a real self provides a lot of chances
for you to understand and accept yourself
• once you have already accepted yourself, it becomes
easy for you to identify qualities that you want to
retain and those traits that you desire to change
• with this process, you can easily develop a more stable
and integrated sense of self
TRY THIS
1. What do you think is your worst limitation as a
person?
2. How do you view this limitation?
3. How does limitation hinder you to become a
friend of others?
4. How do you think God views this limitation of
yours?