REFLECTIONS

KNOW YOURSELF TO GROW

What are you being today ?
WHO ARE YOU ?
Please ask yourself that what is your identity in this world, who you really are?, you can answer
this question like..
E.g. I am what I … , What I am today is because of.., I am…. Etc.
MoT-Mental Health
Fact 1
Around 20% of the world's children and adolescents have mental disorders or problems.About half of
mental disorders begin before the age of 14.
Fact 2
About 800 000 people commit suicide every year, suicide is the second leading cause of death in 15-
29-year-olds.
75% of suicides occur in low- and middle-income countries.
Fact 3
Stigma and discrimination against victims and families prevent people from seeking mental health care
support.
5 Regrets Of The Dying- Bronnie Ware
Success is achievable

Success can be created if you know what you want and why ?
You just fail if you are unaware of these two basic questions.
Listen To Succeed

“You might have heard people praising one who dares to

speak but in reality strength is to listen.”
Listening Vs Hearing
1. Listening is not hearing
2. Hearing is physiological act
3. Listening in psychological act.
Human’s Mind Meaning Machine
How We Create Meaning
Humans create two different types of meaning to events .
First is meaning we give to pattern of events.
Second is meaning we give to specific events.
First type of meaning becomes your beliefs and are present in your life as reality of what I
am…or people are…. Or life is….
Second type of meaning is occurring's of life, when these events happen to us we believe are not
able to distinguish between actual event and what occur to us.. we believe latter is true always.
Discover Possibilities
1. When you look beyond beliefs and occurrences as your reality, you start discovering
possibilities.
2. Your reality is changed now and you are ready to work with new possibilities.
3. You become effective in dealing with situation when you drop meaning in your mind in the
form of beliefs and occurrences.
4. You see more possibilities for problem solving.
5. Meaningless events cannot cause feelings, as a resultant you get rid of negative feelings as
well.
6. Create distinctions between events and your meanings to discover new possibilities.
Validation of Others
1. Imagine you tell somebody, “I’m really scared,” and they look at you and they say, “Oh, you
shouldn’t be scared. There’s nothing to be scared of.” How do you feel?
2. Now, imagine you’re telling somebody something that happened, and you’re telling them
how scared you were and they look at you and they say, “I see You were really scared. I am
with you” how do you feel now ?
3. Not validating feelings closes down listening.
4. When you validate somebody’s feelings, they feel seen and heard, and in my experience,
that’s what people really want.
How To Validate
Suppose your teenager kid says to you “I hate you,” instead of saying “how dare you to talk to
me like this”
when you choose words instead as below.
Words like “Wow. You must be really angry to feel like you hate me right now. I got it.” these
words will reflect that you really acknowledged their feelings and will create a good impact.
Choice of Integrity
Integrity is a measure of who you are to yourself.
With integrity you can create a positive impact.
It increases your self esteem and confidence.
It boosts your credibility in society and among people.
It gives back pride for honor and service.
Overcoming Pressure and Anxiety
You have been taught since childhood that you must be nice in order to get likeness from
people.
Authenticity is a safety valve for reducing the pressure.
Speak authentically what you are feeling in the moment.
Speak loud your truth, your feelings are your truth.
Authenticity does not mean to be rude or become blunt.
2 Core Emotions
1. Love
2. Fear

Ask yourself whatever you are doing is originated from Love or Fear.
Confidence
How confident are you ?
What makes you feel confident ?
What are things which makes you uncomfortable ?
Why you are not easy with these things ?

Reality of confidence and how to build it

Know yourself
Prepare yourself
Act on things
Should you be working for increasing your self esteem , you should not compare yourself with
others.
Fear
Fear is the supervisory thought for many of your actions.
Some fears you know
Some fears are hidden and you never identify them as fear
Like shame.. Please others unconditionally.

How many of you want to please their parents, friends, teachers against their own will ?
Call of Action

“Everything happens twice in this world

once in your mind and again in reality.
Be a creator of your destiny”