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Before the engagement?
Before a couple starts planning a wedding, they need to
have some serious conversations about life goals, to make
sure they are both on the same path. If couples don’t
share compatible feelings on major topics, they may not
be suited to marriage. When approaching a serious
commitment, people must think with their heads, as well
as their hearts:
A.Roles of friends and family
B.Views on religion
C.Career plans
D.Financial planning
E.Leisure time
F.Views on having children and parenting
G.Housekeeping standards and expectations
H.Roles of each person in a marriage relationship
What is an engagement?
An engagement is a promise to marry… a
public statement or announcement of a
couple’s intentions to wed. A betrothal. It is
the period of time between a ‘proposal of
marriage’, and the actual marriage.
The future bride-to-be is called the fiancée;
the future husband-to-be is called the fiancé
(both words pronounced the same in French).
Engagements may be a long or
short period of time.
Engagements may be
announced at an engagement
party hosted by the bride’s
parents, or with a photo and
announcement in the
newspaper, or by word of mouth.
What is an engagement?
It is customary for the American
man to propose marriage to a
woman, by offering her the gift of
an engagement ring. While this
could be a gem stone or birthstone,
it is traditionally a diamond ring.
Marriage is often
defined differently,
depending on
culture.
What is marriage?
Monogamy is the custom or
condition of having only one
mate. The word "monogamy"
comes from the Greek word
monos, which means one or
alone, and gamos, which
means marriage or union.
The term monogamy,
however, may also be applied
to a couple who are not
formally married, but maintain
an exclusive sexual
relationship.
Playing house?
Is this a problem?
If a Muslim
marries a
Protestant, can
they ever serve
pork in their home?
(Muslims consider
pork as ‘unclean’;
they cannot touch
or eat it)
Mixed marriages …
Marriage usually requires some
compromise, but mixed marriages
require even more problem-solving.
Is this a problem?
A Methodist husband
wants his child baptized
as an infant, so if the
child dies prematurely,
he will go to heaven.
OR
An African-American wife
never sees her parents again,
because they won’t allow her
Caucasian husband in the
house.
Mixed marriages …
Is this a problem?
A United States father-in-law tells everyone that his Italian son-
in-law is probably a crime boss… because he believes ALL
Italians are in the Mafia. He makes Italian jokes and uses slurs.
Mixed marriages …
Is this a problem?
A woman from a very wealthy family wants to marry a man who
was raised in poverty. She is used to an active social life of
debutant balls and 8 course dinners; his idea of an evening out is
‘hamburgers at a fast food place’. She is used to limousines; he
drives a 15 year old, rusty Chevy. She dresses up in long gowns
and heels; he dresses up in corduroy pants and a polo shirt.
Do you know how your
parents and other family
members would react if
YOU entered into a
mixed marriage?
Cutting the cake… the first act of the couple ‘working together’
Feeding each other cake… caring and
nurturance for each other
Sleeping with a few of the crumbs or small
piece of cake beneath your pillow… dream of
your true love or the person you will marry.
Wedding traditions …
If candles lit on the wedding day sputter and
go out it means those evil spirits are nearby,
waiting to cause mischief.
Rain on your
wedding day is bad
luck. The rain
drops represent the
many tears a bride
will cry throughout
her married life.
Marrying when the hands on the clock are on their way down
means your marriage will always be going downhill. It`s
considered far better to marry between the half hour and the
hour, when the hands are moving back up.
Wedding traditions …