Professional Documents
Culture Documents
with Military
Families
Through
Deployment
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and Beyond
Julie Anne Laser
Paul M. Stephens
Stages of Deployment
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Pre-Deployment
Deployment
Post-Deployment
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Pre-Deployment
Family Issues
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The family is trying to cope with the contradiction between denial with the loved one leaving and anticipation of loss of the loved one from the family system.
Feelings of fear, anger, resentment and hurt may be present and directed towards one another.
Tempers may flare, feelings may get easily hurt, and individuals may be very defensive.
Service Member
Often training
Making themselves battle ready ( includes emotionally separating from family to focus on war/ assignment)
Children
-Research shows that the most stressful time for the child is pre- deployment
Younger children may not grasp full amount of time the parent will be gone, but can sense the family change which leads to negative reactions.
Youth may openly or covertly have anxiety and stress about their parents departure.
Couple Issues
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Sexual relationships
Marriage
Great stigma for service members who seek mental health services.
Attitudes changing on clinical services for military members. There is an increase on use of clinical services prior ,during and post
deployment.
Military Websites and Veteran affairs websites now both advocate seeking counseling and share information about coping with
emotional issues
www.militaryonesource.com
www.battlemind.org
www.realwarriors.net
www.va.gov
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Exploring Roles
Role playing where each partner assumes the role of the other may
help increase empathy and understanding of each other’s
responsibilities while separated.
This may be a salient point if the service member is less inclined then the partner to be
involved in therapy.
Helping the couple turn towards each other for support, rather than pulling away from
each other should be stressed in counseling during pre- deployment.
- Addressing this fear, allows them to discuss it and their expectations of fidelity to each
other.
Interventions Benefiting the Children
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Activities that help express their emotions: feeling face cards, naming
cards and giving examples of when the emotion has occurred is helpful.
Important for the parents to not bring the older child into the “co-
parenting role”
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Deployment
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Early Deployment
Feelings of loss, abandonment, pain and disorganization are present.
Ambiguous loss
Partner at home
Affects on children
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Symptoms may be aggravated by increased work and responsibility, decreased sleep and economic stability.
Functioning is improved with interventions that are strength- based that helps the partner learn how to reduce stress
and reframe problems.
-muscle relaxation
-meditation
Cognitive behavior techniques that help partner come to realize where he/she is making thinking errors are also effective.
Children and Deployment
z children currently are living in a family where one or both parents are deployed.
Estimated that half- million
Therapy
Support Groups
If living on or near a military base the partner may participate in a Family Readiness Group or as a Reservist family at the National
Guard Armories.
Notorious for rumor mongering. Some instances rumors travel al the way to war zone where they can negatively affect the service
member.
When working with the family it is important to help them connect to organizations and groups that offer support.
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Late Deployment
Partner may have feelings of concern that they will need to relinquish their new found
independence once service member returns.
Therapy
Members can be asked to list areas where they have grown/ changed.
Practitioners can help family anticipate that time is needed for the family system to
readjust.
Service Member Away
Those who have difficulties with separation from family may externalize their behaviors into anger and misbehavior.
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During lengthy deployments members may be granted a week or two of leave. Some may return and reunite with the family for a short period. Others may not in
fear of reverting back to pre- deployment feelings of anger, hurt, and resentment.
Communication
- Keeping connected through deployment maintains stronger relationships.
Even though phone calls are short, they can boost morale for the family and the service member.
-Emails can filter out strong emotions and issues. Best choice for families where there are unresolved conflicts.
-Skype and other visual communication tools are offered at larger bases.
Therapy
-The partner may feel the need to speak of their inability to communicate in the ways they wish too.
-They may miss being able to talk to their partner about behavioral issues of their children, problematic issues at home, and health issues/ loneliness.
-Helping them find a support system helps them with the stresses of daily life and normalizes the experiences they are facing.
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Post- Deployment
Service Member
Service member may want to reassert their role in the family, however the family has learned to cope without their
daily input and may not be a smooth transition back to the old family organization.
Some returning service members report feeling like a stranger in their own home which can be both harmful and
frustrating.
Service Member may return with underlying physical or mental issues that will need to be addressed.
- Estimated that more than 300,000 service members suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
- Estimated that 320,000 service members suffer from Traumatic Brain Disorder from the wars in Iraq and
Afghanistan.
Prior to returning home, service members must go through physical and mental exams, but not all issues may be
visible at the time.
Some members feel that if they share how they are feeling during discharge, it may delay their reunion with their
family or undermine their military career in the future.
Reunification with Children and Spouse
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Children
Spouse
Occurs more frequently in those who have been closest to combat, have
been injured or with someone injured.
Therapy
- Battlemind Training
Family Focused Therapy- uses family as allies and supports returning service
member.
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Domestic Violence
Maria
Struggled this deployment as a single parent and maintaining the home.
Henry
During deployment was involved in accident. Many friends were hurt, one severely.
Laura has no memory of him , wants Maria only. Benji constantly ask to play ball like Henry promised in phone calls, but Henry would
Individual
Both
Helping them both understand why they got married should be stressed.
Both need to learn how to communicate their appreciation of eachothe3r where the other can hear it.
Need to articulate:
Organize a schedule :
Family Time
Couple Time
Personal Time
Resources
Laser, J. A., & Stephens, P. M. (2010). Working with Military Families Through
Deployment and Beyond. Clinical Social Work Journal, 39(1), 28–38.
https://doi.org/10.1007/s10615-010-0310-5