The document discusses the goals and techniques of counseling. The main goals are: 1) self-understanding, 2) improved communication skills, 3) learning and behavior change, 4) self-actualization or Christ-actualization, 5) support during times of stress, and 6) achieving spiritual wholeness. Effective counselors display warmth, genuineness, and empathy. Key techniques include active listening, reflecting, questioning, informing, interpreting, supporting, and teaching through discussion, homework assignments, and behavior changes between sessions. The counseling process is unique to each individual but generally involves building the counselor-counselee relationship, exploring and addressing problems, evaluating progress, and terminating the relationship once the counse
The document discusses the goals and techniques of counseling. The main goals are: 1) self-understanding, 2) improved communication skills, 3) learning and behavior change, 4) self-actualization or Christ-actualization, 5) support during times of stress, and 6) achieving spiritual wholeness. Effective counselors display warmth, genuineness, and empathy. Key techniques include active listening, reflecting, questioning, informing, interpreting, supporting, and teaching through discussion, homework assignments, and behavior changes between sessions. The counseling process is unique to each individual but generally involves building the counselor-counselee relationship, exploring and addressing problems, evaluating progress, and terminating the relationship once the counse
The document discusses the goals and techniques of counseling. The main goals are: 1) self-understanding, 2) improved communication skills, 3) learning and behavior change, 4) self-actualization or Christ-actualization, 5) support during times of stress, and 6) achieving spiritual wholeness. Effective counselors display warmth, genuineness, and empathy. Key techniques include active listening, reflecting, questioning, informing, interpreting, supporting, and teaching through discussion, homework assignments, and behavior changes between sessions. The counseling process is unique to each individual but generally involves building the counselor-counselee relationship, exploring and addressing problems, evaluating progress, and terminating the relationship once the counse
THE COUNSELOR’S PERSONALITY AND TECHNIQUE 1. SELF-UNDERSTANDING
To understand oneself is often a
first step in healing. Many problems are self-imposed but the one being helped may fail to recognize that he or she has biased perspectives, harmful attitudes or self-destructive behavior. 2. COMMUNICATION
People are unable or unwilling to
communicate. The counselee must learn how to communicate feelings, thoughts, and attitudes both accurately and effectively. Such communication involves the expression of oneself, and the ability to receive accurate messages from others. 3. LEARNING AND BEHAVIOR CHANGE.
Most, if not all, of our behavior is
learned. Counseling, therefore, involves helping counselees unlearn ineffective behavior and learn more efficient ways of acting. 4. SELF-ACTUALIZATION. “Self-actualization” is proposed by some counselors as the goal of all human beings whether or not they are in counseling.
To the Christian, a term like “Christ-
actualization” might be substituted to indicate that the goal in life is to be complete in Christ, developing our greatest potential through the power of the Holy Spirit who brings us to spiritual maturity 5. SUPPORT. Often people are able to meet each of the above goals and to function effectively, except for temporary periods of unusual stress or crisis.
Such persons can benefit from a period of
support, encouragement, and “burden bearing” until they are able to remobilize their personal and spiritual resources to effectively meet the problems of living. 6. SPIRITUAL WHOLENESS.
At the heart of pastoral care and
counseling is helping people deal with their spiritual needs and find spiritual wholeness The Characteristics of Effective Counselors 1. Warmth. This word implies caring, respecting, or possessing a sincere, non-smothering concern for the counselee—regardless of his or her actions or attitudes. 2. Genuineness. The genuine counselor is “for real”— an open, sincere person who avoids phoniness or the playing of some superior role. 3. Empathy. What does a counselee think? How does he or she really feel inside? What are the counselee’s values, beliefs, inner conflicts and hurts? The good counselor is continually sensitive to these issues, able to understand them, and effective in communicating this understanding (by words or gestures) to the counselee. The Techniques of Counseling Counseling is primarily a relationship in which one person, the helper, seeks to assist another human being with the problems of living. Unlike casual discussions between friends, the helping relationship, at least for professionals, is characterized by a clear purpose— that of helping the counselee. BASIC TECHNIQUES USED IN ANY HELPING SITUATION. 1. Attending. The counselor must try to give undivided attention to the counselee. This is done through (a) eye contact - looking without staring as a way to convey concern and understanding; (b) posture, which should be relaxed rather than tense, and generally involves leaning toward the counselee and; (c) gestures that are natural but not excessive or distracting. The Techniques of Counseling 2. Listening. This involves more than a passive reception of word. it is an active process. Effective listening involves: a) —having sufficient awareness and resolution of one’s own conflicts to avoid reacting in a way that interferes with the counselee’s free expression of thoughts and feelings; b) —avoiding subtle verbal or nonverbal expressions of disdain or judgment toward the content of the counselee’s story, even when that content offends the counselor’s sensibilities; c) —waiting patiently through periods of silence or tears as the counselee summons up courage to delve into painful material or pauses to collect his or her thoughts or to regain composure; (d) —hearing not only what the counselee says but what he or she is trying to say and what is left unsaid; (e)—using both ears and eyes to detect messages which come from tone of voice, posture, and other nonverbal clues; (f) —scanning one’s own reactions to the counselee; (g) —avoiding looking away from the counselee as he or she speaks; (h)—sitting still; (i) —limiting the number of mental excursions into one’s own fantasies; (j)—controlling those feelings toward the counselee that interfere with an accepting, sympathetic, nonjudgmental attitude; 3. Responding. It should not be assumed, however, that the counselor does nothing but listen.
Leading is a skill by which the counselor slightly anticipates
the counselee’s direction of thought and responds in a way that redirects the conversation. “ Reflecting is a way of letting counselees know that we are “with them” and can understand their feelings or thinking. “You must feel.. .,” “I bet that was frustrating,” Questioning, if done skillfully, can bring forth a great deal of useful information. The best questions are those which require at least a sentence or two from the counselee (e.g., “Tell me about your marriage”) rather than those which can be answered in one word Informing involves giving facts to people in need of information. This is different from a counselor sharing opinions or giving advice.
Interpretation involves explaining to the
counselee what his or her behavior or other events mean.
Supporting and encouraging
4. Teaching. All of these techniques are really specialized forms of psychological education The counselor is an educator, teaching by instruction, by example, and by guiding the counselee as he or she learns to cope with the problems of life. As with other less personal forms of education, counseling is most effective when the discussions are specific rather than vague, and focus on concrete situations (“How can I control my temper when I am criticized by my wife?”) rather than on nebulous goals (“I want to be happier”) . One of the most powerful learning tools is what psychologists call immediacy responses. This involves the ability of the counselor and counselee to discuss directly and openly what is happening in the here-and-now of their relationship. The Process of Counseling Counseling is not a step-by-step process such as baking a cake, or changing a tire, or even preparing a sermon. Each counselee is unique — with problems, attitudes, values, expectations and experiences that are unlike any other. The counselor (whose own problems, attitudes, values, expectations and experiences are also brought to the counseling situations) must approach each individual a little differently and will discover that the course of counseling will vary from person to person. These steps involve; • building and maintaining a relationship between counselor and counselee; • exploring problems to clarify issues and determine how the problems can be handled; • deciding on a course of action; • stimulating the counselee to act; • evaluating progress and deciding on subsequent actions; and • terminating the counseling relationship by encouraging and guiding the counselee to launch out without the counselor’s continuing help Regardless of how effective the counseling hour might be, its influence can be undermined if the counselee leaves the session and forgets or ignores what has been learned.
To meet this problem, many counselors give
homework assignments—projects which are designed to strengthen, expand and extend the process of counseling beyond the counselee’s time with the counselor. Homework in Counseling Each person has a special way of learning. Some people learn best through hearing— listening to the words of others.
Some learn best through seeing—reading
books, watching movies, and looking at diagrams. Then there are people who learn best through doing—completing projects, doing role plays, or acting out their feelings. Homework assignments enable people to extend their learning beyond the counseling sessions and permit seeing and doing in addition to hearing. Five types of homework task agreements have been used most often: Testing. This includes questionnaires, sentence completion forms, standardized tests, and writing assignments (such as preparing a brief biography, listing life goals, making a list of what one likes and dislikes about a job, and so on). These written responses are then taken back to the counselor where they are discussed. 2. Discussion and Study Guides. These sometimes appear in the appendixes of books but entire volumes have been devoted to guiding home study or small group discussion. Sometimes this study takes place independently of any counseling. Sometimes the study is a task agreement to be completed between counseling sessions and discussed subsequently in counseling. 3. Behavior Assignments. Counselees sometimes are encouraged to change their actions in some small but important ways between counseling sessions. Saying “thank you,” giving periodic compliments, not complaining about some annoying practice of one’s mate, getting to work on time, reading the Bible for ten minutes daily—these are the kinds of behavior change suggestions which counselors give and then discuss with counselees. 4. Reading. Books and articles often contain helpful information which can supplement the counseling sessions. There is always the danger that counselees will misinterpret what has been written or that something will be pulled out of context. Few counselors have time to screen all potentially relevant books and it will be difficult to find written materials with which the counselor agrees totally. In spite of these limitations, articles and books can be a helpful adjunct to counseling, especially if the reading is discussed subsequently with the counselee. 5. Recordings. Music therapy—the use of music to help people with their problems—is at least as old as the soothing melodies that David played to calm the troubled King Saul. Many people today relax by turning on the stereo after a busy day of work. The Counselor and Counseling The Counselor’s Motivation. Why do you want to counsel?
A sincere desire to help people grow is a
valid reason for becoming a counselor, but there are other reasons which motivate counselors and which interfere with their counseling effectiveness. COUNSELOR’S MOTIVATION 1. Curiosity— The Need for Information 2. The Need for Relationships 3. The Need for Power 4. The Need to Rescue. THE COUNSELORS EFFECTIVENESS
Is it possible for every Christian to be
an effective counselor or is counseling a gift which is reserved for selected members in the body of Christ? THE COUNSELOR’S ROLE Counseling, especially pastoral counseling, sometimes becomes ineffective because the counselor does not have a clear picture of his or her role and responsibilities THE COUNSELOR’S ROLE 1. Visiting Instead of Counseling 2. Being Hasty Instead of Deliberate 3. Being Disrespectful Instead of Sympathetic. 4. Being Judgmental Instead of Unbiased 5. Overloading the Session Instead of Pacing the Counseling 6. Being Directive Instead of Interpretive 7. Being Emotionally Involved Instead of Remaining Objective 8. Being Defensive Instead of Empath THE COUNSELOR’S VULNERABILITY There are at least two major ways in which people frustrate the counselor and increase his or her vulnerability. 1. Manipulation 2. Resistance. THE COUNSELOR'S SEXUALITY 1. Spiritual Protection - Meditation on the Word of God, prayer (including the intercession of others) and reliance on the Holy Spirit to protect us are all crucially important 2. Awareness of Danger Signal 3. Limit Setting. 4. Examining Attitudes. (a)Social Consequences. (b)Professional Image. (c)Theological Truth. THE COUNSELOR'S SEXUALITY
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