DATING,

COURTSHIP
and
MARRIAGE
DATING
It is a part of the human
mating process whereby two
people meet socially
for companionship, beyond
the level of friendship, or with
the aim of each assessing the
other's suitability as a partner
in an intimate
relationship or marriage.
Why do we date?
• Socialization
– To develop appropriate social skills.
– To practice getting along with others
in different settings.
• Recreation
– To have fun and enjoy the
companionship of others.
– To try new and different activities.
• Mate Selection
– To see others in many different
settings.
– To compare the personality and
characteristics of many people.
Am I Ready to Date?
ESTABLISHING DATING
STANDARDS
• Faith and/or value system
• Definition of relationship
• Conflict-resolving skills
• Passions
• Money matters
• Dreams and goals
DATING SKILLS

• Eye contact
• Voice
• Body language
• Touching
• Social skills
ONLINE
HOW DOES IT WORK?
Step 1: Pick a
Step 2: Create a
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DANGERS
• Fraud
• Security and Privacy
• Stalking
• Exposure to Offensive Material
PLAY IT SAFE
- Plan first dates in public areas
- Make sure your friends know
where you are on dates

- Ask a lot of detailed questions

- NEVER send money to someone

online

- Keep your information to a

minimum
Do not look for the
right date, be the
right date.
COURTSHIP
When dating becomes more
serious it may be referred to as
courtship. Courtship implies a
deeper level of commitment than
dating does.
harana
Armed with just a guitar or their
voices, the suitor, oftenly
accompanied by his friends,
posts under the girl's window or
in front of her residence
and serenades her. This is their
way of publicly admitting their
intention. This marks the start of
the courtship.
AG-AKYAT NG LIGAW
This refers to the over-all act of
courtship if you are to use the native
language. However, this only forms a
portion of the whole process since what
I'm actually talking about is the act
of visiting or calling on her in her home.
This is a sign of respect especially for
the parents since it's somewhat
forbidden or frowned upon when a guy
would come up to a girl in
public. Chaperones are mandato
PANINILBIHAN
Once a guy declares his intention
of courting a girl, he is expected to
render some service, particularly
household chores, i.e. chopping of
wood, fetching pails of water from a
manual pump, for the duration of
the courtship.
PAMAMANHIKAN
The guy and his family are expected to
come over to the girl's house and
present some gifts. So, yea. This is the
last step in the whole courtship things.
It leads to marriage because that's what
it means when you go into the whole
thing, that you want to marry the girl
you're going to court. So, you're as
good as engaged when it has been
established and agreed upon that the
feelings are mutual.
engagement
the formal agreement to
marry someone
MARRIAGE PREPARATION

• Marriage preparation
is the preparation for
married life.
ENGAGEMENT
• Spend Time Together
• Get to Know Each Other
Better
• Discover Similarities
and Differences
• Arrange for a place to
live
• Plan the Wedding
 ACTIVITY
A cents of floating
A “Cents” of Floating
WHAT YOU WILL NEED:
– 10 drinking straws (for each
team of two)
– Masking tape
– 1 or 2 pans with about 1 inch of
water
– 100 pennies
– Scissors
 “Prepare for your
Marriage, not just your
Wedding”
BEGINNING MARRIAGES
• PREDICTION OF SUCCESS:
• Until death do us part: Not a fact for mos
marriages.
What general age is best?
• 20-25 Youthful marriages
• Up to age 25, the older you are at
marriage the greater likelihood of marital
happiness.
• Teens have higher divorce
• After age 30 higher divorces
PREDICTION OF
SUCCESS • Age 
• Reasons for marriage 
• Length of the relationship and
engagement 
• Similar attitudes about children and
child-raising
•  Similar interests 
• Commitment to sexual fidelity 
• Good character 
• Parents‧ success marriage 
• Careful selection of marriage partner