BULLYING

 INTRODUCTION :-
 Bullying has always been a prevalent issue but its
seriousness isn’t always handled properly. Anyone, at any
age, can become a victim of bullying.
 This type of abuse leads to more than just a black eye.
 Bullying extends beyond physical aggression and reaches
mental and emotional abuse. The scars that bullying leaves
can affect the health and wellbeing of your child. It’s
important for parents to understand this issue and how to
take action against it.
 What is bullying ?

• Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among

school aged children that involves a real or
perceived power imbalance with a more powerful
person or group attacking a less powerful one.
•  Bullying is intended to harm or disturb someone.
• Both kids who are bullied and who are bully others
may have serious, lasting problems.
 Let us start with the story of Awinash – a young boy
studying in a boy’s school. He was not fond of football
and other field games like other boys. He was soft spoken
and quiet, but loved dancing and was good in studies.
Some of his class mates started calling him names like
‘girly’ and ‘Awinashi’ instead of his name. They used to
tease him everyday. They constantly made fun of him and
this teasing almost drove him to depression. He was on the
verge of tears everyday after school and used to cry
silently. However, his parents noticed this and gave him
the right support and helped him to fight back. This
illustration is a typical case of bullying.
 SIGNS OF BULLYING :-

 Emotional and behavioural signs of bullying

 Changes in sleep patterns

 Changes in eating patterns
 Frequent tears or anger
 Mood swings
 Feels ill in the morning
 Refuses to talk about what is wrong
 Begins to target siblings
 Continually 'loses' money or starts stealing.
 Physical signs of bullying
 Has unexplained bruises, cuts, scratches
 Comes home with missing or damaged belongings or clothes
 Comes home hungry.

 School signs of bullying

 Doesn't want to go to school

 Changes their route to school or are frightened of walking to school
 Doesn't want to go to school on the bus/train.
 School grades begin to fall.
 Other signs of bullying

Sometimes signs bullying can be far more hidden. They can include:
 Often alone or excluded from friendship groups at school
 A frequent target for teasing, mimicking or ridicule at school
 Unable to speak up in class and appears insecure or frightened
What Kind of People Are Bullies?

 outgoing and aggressive. This kind of bully might make fun of you
to your face or physically hurt you.
 quiet and sneaky. This kind of bully might try to manipulate in
secret. They might anonymously start a damaging rumor just to see
what happens.
 friendly and fake. This kind of bully might pretend to be your friend
so that you tell them things, but then do hurtful things behind your
back.
 Many bullies are a lot a like They:

 have poor social skills.

 might not care about people, or lack empathy
 are often insecure and bully others to make
themselves feel better
 Some bullies don't understand normal social emotions
 like guilt, empathy, compassion. These people need
help from a mental health professional like a
counselor, social worker, psychiatrist, or psychologist.
 TYPES OF BULLYING :-
 Physical Bullying :-
 This occurs when people use their physical force and actions to take control
of someone else. Though it isn't always the case, physical bullies are often
bigger, stronger and more fit than their peers. Knowing this, they use their
strength and power to their advantage, using their body to weaken their target.
 While some forms of bullying can be more difficult to discern or identify,
physical bullying tends to manifest itself in visible wounds
 Some common types of violence enacted through physical bullying include:
 Hitting or kicking
 Shoving or pushing
 Pinching
 Damage of property
 How to stop physical bullying :-

1. Define Physical Bullying

The first step is to increase awareness of the different forms physical bullying takes.
Ensure that students, teachers, and other staff can recognize it, even in its subtlest forms.
2. Try to stay with a group of friends at all times.
• Although bullies want an audience, if they see that you are with your friends they will be less
likely to start something.

3. Responding directly to the bully.

• If you decide to respond to the bully, it might be best to try to do this when others are not
around. This will keep the bully from feeling embarrassed and will keep everyone calm.
 Before you respond:
• Take the time to figure out what to say to the bully
• Be assertive and confident.
4. Tell an adult :-

•If you feel unsafe, always tell an adult.

Parent
Teacher
School staff
Community leader
Coach

5. Avoid places where the bully may be.

• Take a different route to school.

• Take a different way to class in the school.
• Ask your parents to give you a ride to school.
 

 Verbal bullying

 verbal bullying is the most common type of violence in schools. It is

equally present among boys and girls. Still, in many cases, verbal bullying
is the province of girls. Girls are more subtle than boys and use verbal
bullying, instead of physical one, to dominate others and show their
superiority and power.
 Verbal bulling includes name calling, insults, teasing, intimidation,
homophobic or racist remarks, or verbal abuse. While verbal bullying can
start off harmless .
How to stop verbal bullying :

 Ignore the bully: Shrug off insults and provide no reaction; there is a
chance that eventually the bully will move on to someone who
provides a more interesting and responsive target.
 Remain calm. When dealing with this person, you might feel tempted
to cry or scream. However, doing so will only make the bullying
worse. Once you show emotion, they'll know they got to you so don't
give them the satisfaction! Take a few deep breaths, keep your voice
lowered, and do your best not to cry.
 Try to focus on your friends: If your child has loyal friends, encourage him or
her to focus on those friends so that they have some positive influences.
Additionally, a victim that is surrounded by friends can dissuade a verbal bully
from engaging.
 Look for others sources of enjoyment: After school activities and other interests
and hobbies can help you take your mind off of the verbal bullying.
 Treat verbal bullying like war. The fundamental rule of war is “Know your
enemy, and do not play his game–make him play yours.” If you don’t understand
the bully’s game, you will lose. If you understand the bully’s game but play it
anyway, you will lose. If you understand the bully’s game and do not play it, you
will win
 Don’t look upset. If you are bullied, then you can and almost certainly will feel
upset. You may feel close to tears. This is completely normal and expected. Don’t
waste energy.
 Social bullying

Social bullying, sometimes referred to as covert bullying, is often harder to recognize

and can be carried out behind the bullied person’s back.  It is designed to harm
someone’s social reputation and / or cause humiliation.
• Social bullying can include:
• lying and spreading rumours
• negative facial or physical gestures, menacing or contemptuous looks.
• playing nasty jokes to embarrass and humiliate.
• Using bad nicknames.
• damaging someone’s social reputation or social acceptance.
 How to Prevent Social Bullying

 Adopt school policies that recognize and prohibit social bullying

Train school personnel to respond to social bullying incidents effectively.
 Implement whole-school, multi-tiered prevention approaches.
 Provide support to students who have been bullied.
 Involve families and communities.
 Trust your instincts – Friends that care will never bully! The ones who do, were never your
friends in the first place.
 Ask for help – Asking for help to get this stopped is not a weakness, even having someone to talk
to can help enormously! Get your loved ones on board.
 Be yourself – Don’t let the small minded actions of other dull your shine. Be kind, be confident
and love who you are. The bullies will soon get bored when they don’t get a reaction.
 Cyber bullying

• Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place over digital devices like cell phones, computers,
and tablets. Cyberbullying can occur through SMS, Text, and apps, or online in social
media, forums, or gaming where people can view, participate in, or share content.
• Cyber bullying can happen at any time. It can be in public or in private and sometimes
only known to the target and the person bullying.

 The most common places where cyberbullying occurs are:

• Social Media, such as Facebook, Instagram , Snapchat , and Tik Tok.
• Text messaging and messaging apps on mobile or tablet devices.
• Instant messaging, direct messaging, and online chatting over the internet.
• Online forums, chat rooms, and message boards, such as Reddit.
• Email
 How to stop cyberbullying :

•   Tell them to stop

Writing a clear message to the bully telling them not to contact you again probably
won’t prevent them from attempting to bully you further, but it does help when you
present evidence to the authorities.

• Don’t respond to the bully.

Cyberbullies, and bullies in general, thrive off of fear and negative responses to
their abuse. By not responding, you may not completely end the bullying, but
there is the chance that they will get bored with you and your lack of response.
•  Make copies of all contact with the bully.
You cannot make a case to the authorities about a bully if you have no physical
evidence to support your claim. Take screenshots, copy the messages to a
document, print them out, etc. It’s always best to have hard copies anyway, in
case something happens to your computer/phone.
  Block the bully.
Remove their contact information from your phone/computer/social media/etc.
They can’t bother or abuse you if they can’t reach you.

How Parents Can Stop Cyberbullying

• Keep the computer in a common area of the home. Do not allow it in your
children's bedrooms. Monitor their online usage.
•  Learn how various social networking apps and sites work. Become
familiar with Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Ask your children
if they will show you their profile pages.
• Talk regularly and specifically with your children about online issues.
Let them know they can come to you for help if anything is inappropriate,
upsetting, or dangerous.
•  Build trust with your children.
 Set time limits, explain your reasons for them, and discuss rules for online safety
and Internet use. Ask your children to contribute to establishing the rules; then
they'll be more inclined to follow them.
• Tell your children not to respond to any cyberbullying threats or comments
online.
However, do not delete any of the messages. Instead, print out all the messages,
including the email addresses or social media handles of the cyberbully. You will
need the messages to verify and prove there is cyberbullying.
How Kids Can Stop Cyberbullying

• Don't respond to any emails, app messages, or text messages sent

by cyberbullies.
• Don't be an accomplice by forwarding any of the messages to
others kids.
• Save, screenshot and print out all the messages as proof and
evidence of cyberbullying.
• If you are being bullied, tell an adult immediately to get help
solving the problem.
 Sexual Bullying

 Sexual bullying consists of repeated, harmful, and humiliating actions that target a

person sexually. Examples include sexual name-calling, crude comments, uninvited
touching.
 Harmful sexual behaviour between children can happen in any environment. In addition to this,
children may find it particularly difficult to report sexual bullying because of feelings of
embarrassment and shame or fear of repercussions.
 Sexual staring , loudly rating girls looks.
 Blowing kisses.
 Graffiti on the walls of the wash-rooms.
 Writing the names of girls along with boys on the black boards.
 Blaring songs , lewd gestures , cat calling, inappropriate sexual contact.
How to stop sexual bullying

 Talk about sexual bullying and harm .

 Train staff
 Teach consent
 Teach and model respectful relationships
 Do not allow sexual name-calling or comments
 Discuss online behaviour
 )Causes of bullying / motives of bullying:

 Students who bully have strong needs for power and have a desire 1 to 5
dominate in a negative way. They find satisfaction in causing injury and suffering
to other students.
 Students who bully are often rewarded in some way for their behaviour. She/he
may need to cover his own feelings of inadequacy.
 He may lack good adult role models. If he sees parents bullying him or each
other, he may regard this type of behaviour as simply the way one should act.
 Other children fall in with a peer group that uses bullying. They may learn it from
these friends
 The bully has little or no affection at home.
 The bully can be feeling powerless in their own lives.
 The bully can be bullied by someone else.
 The bullying is looking for attention.
 The bully is unable to regulate their emotions.