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M – Mindfully
A – Appear
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Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills:
Lesson 29: Evaluating
Evaluating Options
your & Determining Intensity
Options
Options Intensity
How strongly to use the skill?
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10 Factors to consider in making a request
Summary of this Lesson
• Discussed the components that are part of the IE skills
• Talked about the need to prioritize the IE goal and that
options of timing and who you are asking are important
• Intensity is the component of how strongly to ask or to
say ”no”
• There are 10 criteria to go through to help us assess the
level of intensity to use. Keep in mind that its not a
perfect formula – thus we make a wise minded
adjustment of plus/minus 1.
• Keep in mind – using your best IE skills does not
guarantee you that you will get what you want or
accomplish your goal – it does increase your chances
Participation Week 11
Observe:
Mindful Walking
Practice Considering the Factors
Group Discussion
Which of these factors did you consider before this lesson? Which
ones had you not thought of?
How will knowing about these factors change how you go about
asking for things in the future?
Role Play
Interpersonal Effectiveness
1. Brainstorm different types of arguments or conflicts you might have
with a friend, family member, or significant other
• Remember - Identify your primary objective in the argument