 What its like to be a healthy person

 Growth stunted or stopped in a

particular stage doesn’t mean that
the growth is stopped forever.
 Psycho-social development rather
than psycho-sexual development.
 Growth is a life long process. He’s
the father of life span development.
 Strengths and weaknesses in each
stage is not a black or white choice,
but a balance between the two.
STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
Integrity vs.
despair
Generativity vs.
Stagnation

Intimacy vs. Isolation

Identity vs. Identity confusion

Industry vs. Inferiority

Initiative vs. Guilt

Autonomy vs. shame and doubt

Basic trust vs. Mistrust

STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
SOCIETY

KIDS AND OTHER

PEOPLE

PARTNER

PEERS

SCHOOL

OTHER FAMILY

SIBLINGS

PARENTS
 FIRST STAGE
Trust vs Mistrust : Birth to 1 1/2
year
Basic Virtue : Hope

 Mouth is the focal point

 Touch builds trust
 Through mother’s or caregivers positive
love and care, the child learns to trust
that life is ok.
 Basic trust affects our spiritual,
physical, and emotional development.
 If the child fails to experience trust,
then a sense of worthlessness,
frustration and mistrust develops as we
grow.
 The foundation of virtue at this stage -
HOPE
GROUP DISCUSSION

 1. What are the things that causes me to have mistrust,

doubts or suspicion in the community?

 2. How will the community be, when there is trust,

hope, and faith?

 3. How will the community be, when there is mistrust,

doubts or suspicion?
SECOND STAGE
Autonomy Vs Shame And Doubt : 1 ½ To 3 Years
Basic Virtue : Will Power

 Favorite words of a 2 year old – “no”, “my”, “mine”,

“I”.
 Autonomy develops as the child develops its own will
 This is called a ‘no stage’
 Shame and doubt develops as a child chooses its own
will and experiences the disappointment of its
mother for not living up to their expectations.
 This stage is important because it builds in us a an
inner conviction, a strong resistance.
PERSONAL REFLECTION
 What are the times when I exhibit a poor will power or
low self-esteem about ourselves?

 How is our inner conviction towards different situations,

persons, or conflicts?
THIRD STAGE
Initiative vs Guilt : 3 to 5 years
Basic Virtue : Purpose

 A desire to copy or imitate adults around us

 It’s called as a WHY stage
 A capacity for guilt comes from the child’s
conscience
 Children scolded with words like ‘bad girl’, ‘bad
boy’ – feeling of a deep self-hatred develops
 The basic virtue Purpose is developed.
PERSONAL REFLECTION
 Am I affected by negative criticisms, corrections, etc.,
which leads me to feel guilty or do I take initiative to
grow from them?

 How is my initiative and collaboration in the community

Life and Mission?
FOURTH STAGE
Industry vs. Inferiority : 6 to 12 years
Basic Virtue : Competence

 Children focus on feeling competent as they learn and

do well, or feel inferior as they fail.
 Creating and accomplishing new skills and knowledge
 Social stage of development
 Student – teacher relationship very important
 Feelings of inferiority and inadequacy with the peer
group
 Feelings of low self-esteem
PERSONAL REFLECTION

 Do I feel incompetent because others say I am and

because I feel I am, lead me to be less creative in
my work, my ideas, my suggestions?
FIFTH STAGE
Identity vs Identity confusion : 12 to 18 years
Basic Virtue : Fidelity

 Up to this stage, development depends upon, “What is done to

us”, but from here on development depends on “ what we do”

 Life becomes more complex as we try to find our own identity

 Positively – start discovering one’s identity, discover who we are

as individuals separate from family

 Become very creative, active and energetic

 Identity confusion – questioning authorities, rebellious, crisis in

faith, sees everything as old – fashioned, stops going to church
or temple…
PERSONAL REFLECTION

 Up to this stage of formation that each one of us are, do

I have the strong conviction and inner resilience with
my identity as an Augustinian Missionary Sister?
SIXTH STAGE
Intimacy vs. Isolation : 18 to 35 years
Basic virtue : Love

The main questions that arise in this stage are:

 Who do I want to be?
 What am I going to do with my life?
 Will I settle down?
 A stage of “Letting go”
 A sense of walk an extra mile
 Intimacy – an awareness with our own selves, God and others
INTIMACY IN MARRIED
LIFE AND COMMUNITY LIFE
 MARRIED
 My spouse is my best friend.
 I like my spouse as a person
 Marriage is a long term
commitment
 Marriage is sacred
 We both agree on aims and goals
 Relationships endure till the end
in the marriage because of
trusting ourselves
 I am proud of my spouse’s
achievements
 We agree about our sex life
 We laugh together
 RELIGIOUS
 Community members are my best companions, who are non-
possessive and non-controlling
 I respect community members as real persons and not as objects
 Intimacy with God, community and people is a long term
commitment
 Religious life is sacred
 Community members have the same goals and respect the ideas
and suggestions of everyone
 Relationships I community endures through mutual trust and
respect
 I am proud of my community members’ gifts, potentialities and
talents
 Our life is based on giving and showing affection and facilitates
emotional and spiritual growth
 Sense of good humor - a strong binding force of unity in the
community
SEVENTH STAGE
Generativity vs Stagnation : 35-65 years
Basic virtue : Care

 Generativity – concern in guiding the next

generation, passing on values , being role modes
 People seek inner growth and wholeness in self-
giving love
 Mid – life crisis – a time for looking into one’s
life, reconciliation with the past and
reorientation for the future
 mid-life crisis if not dealt healthily will lead to
stagnation
 Solution = care
EIGHTH STAGE
Integrity Vs. despair : 65 years to death
Basic virtue : Wisdom
 Integrity – a feeling fulfilled with a
deep sense, that life has meaning and
we’ve made some contribution to life
 Strength comes from wisdom,
accepting death as a completion of
our life
 Questions that arise:
 What is really essential in my life
from now on?
 What do I need to do before I die?
 Some feel despair at their
experiences, failures, fear of death,
feel that time is short, loneliness and
frustration
GROUP DISCUSSION

After going through the 8 stages :

What are the aspects that does not allow me
to grow in intimacy with God?
How do I contribute myself to the building up
of the community?
Sometimes how am I responsible of the
destruction of the growth of the community?
How important is self-awareness and self-
knowledge in my growth as matured religious?
Give examples?