Fundamentals of Family

Upbringing
 * "Family consensus", “Family happiness"
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Family - complex social phenomenon which
is associated the different forms of public
relations and processes.
Family education – the education and
training system which is formed by parents
and relatives
The main objectives of the family:
- provide all the conditions for the development of the child;
- become a child's socio-economic and psychological defender;
- Transmit the ethno-cultural experience of the people;
- promote the dignity of the child, being a man
The basic principles of family education:
- provide charity and kindness to the growing person;
- know a child as a member of family and as an advisor;
- built trust and relationships with children;
- systemize the demand/claim for a child
- provide care depending on their own child abilities, be ready to
answer questions.
The role and functions of the family in the development,
education, socialization of the individual
Reproductive

Economic and
household

Family Primary
socialization
functions

Educational/
upbringing

Recreational and
psychotherapeutic

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 Types of families, peculiarities of their influence
on the upbringing of children

Family classification

By number of children:
By composition:
having many children By nature one generation
small children Relationship : two-generation
one-child
intergenerational
childless

• perfect
• Harmonious
• average • prosperous
• decaying
• negative • dysfunctional
• disintegrated
• (scandalous- • Pseudo-prosperous
• incomplete
irretable)

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Basic functions of the family
 Reproductive – giving a birth and function of the population growth;
 economic functions –organization of family life and living, formation and expenditure of
family budget;
 Generative (regeneratio - rebirth, renewal) – the inheritance of a certain status, patrimony,
property, or social status;
 Educational (socialization) – satisfaction of paternal or maternal needs, close contact with
children, their upbringing, children finding their place in life;
 Primary social control – the moral regulation of the behavior of family members in various
spheres of life, as well as the settlement of responsibilities and responsibilities in
relationships between spouses, parents and children, senior and middle generations;
 Recreational (restoration, modernization) – set a vacation, organization of leisure, care for the
health and well-being of family members
 Spiritual communication – involves the development of family members as individuals, and
the enhancement of spiritual wealth;
 Social status function - assignment of certain social status to family members, growth of
social structure;
 Psychotherapeutic – allows family members to meet their needs such as love, respect,
recognition, emotional support, and psychological support;
 Recovery function – aimed at restoring one's emotional, psychological, emotional and
spiritual energy after work hours
Family structure is one of the key concepts used in describing
family relationships. There are many variants of family
structure:
"Nuclear family" - consists of a husband, wife and children;
" Extended family " is a union that is broader in structure: a
married couple and their children, together with or close
family members, and parents of the previous generation,
such as grandparents, grandparents, aunt and uncle;
"Mixed family" Stepfamily is a "reorganized" family
consisting of divorced persons. The mixed family includes
unmarried parents and unborn children (genetically not
related to the other spouses) as children from a previous
marriage become a new unit in the family.
Three Functions of Family
a) Structural function: defining customs, traditions,
methods of educational influence on children;
b)Organizational function: establishing regime of
rest, labor and educational activities of children;
c) Communicative function: producing norms of
optimal interrelations between parents, parents
and children, relatives, neighbors and so on.
Many parents think that only they know what is best
for the children and therefore expect too much from
them. They force their children into tuition classes
even though they can cope with their studies. Such
as; wrestling, boxing, football, dancing, taekwondo,
music lessons, computer classes and etc.
 Method of upbringing is a system of interrelated
actions caregiver and children currently
enrolled, ensuring assimilation of content of
upbringing. Method of upbringing is characterized by
three features: concrete educational activities; in a
certain way its assimilation; a specific form of
cooperation between the participants of the
educational process. Each method is expressed
originality of the signs, their combination achieves all
the goals and objectives of education.  
 Methods and techniques of education in the family
Reinforcements - forming type of behavior that meets value notions of
family that is "good" and what is "bad."
Identification – parents’ recognition of the child, their authority, imitating
them, to a greater or lesser degree orientation to their example of behavior,
relationships with others, activities, etc. In the education of children do not
to create such conditions and circumstances when the child pay attention
to the behavior patterns of adult activity.
Punishment - impact on the child, which condemns his actions, behavior
contrary to the accepted norms. Meaning of punishment wisely expressed
in Russian proverb: "Punish children with shame, not a whip."
Promotion is more effective educational tool than punishment. The
stimulating role of promotion - focus on the good, good in the developing
personality, aspirations and promote consolidation of the child in this
direction. The main tool to promote – is the word of adult, appeal to the
child, praise.
In pedagogy long polemics about whether the necessary punishment in child
upbringing. V.A. Sukhomlinsky shared with the idea that children should
be brought only good and kindness, it is advisable to organize their family
life, kindergarten, school.
Upbringing system an integrated complex, formed by
the combination of means and education factors, which
includes the goal of education, its content, methods. There are
two main systems of education: humane and authoritarian. 
Humane education system is the formation of creative
capabilities of the individual, its critical attitude towards
himself and others. Authoritarian upbringing system is focused
on suppressing creativity, ensuring the blind obedience of
people authorities. Humanistic education system is the product
of democratic regimes, claiming the priority of the
individual over society's ideals, strengthening its rights and
freedoms. Authoritarian upbringing system is a product of
authoritarian regimes, claiming the priority of an ideal society
and the state over the individual, restriction of rights and
freedoms
 The styles of parental responses and interactions with their children can be
classified into three types (Baumrind, 1971). The three parenting styles are
permissive, authoritarian and authoritative.
 Permissive parent give too much freedom, set no limits or boundaries, and provide
no guidelines for the child to follow socially accepted norms. They employ little or
no punishment. Often these parents are uninvolved in parenting and spend little
time with their children, giving excuses of stress and work such parents allow their
children to face difficult situations. Permissive parenting may result in children who
have less self-control, become aggressive and irresponsible, and have low self-
esteem.
 Authoritarian parents are demanding, strict, give punishment, and do not allow
choices or the freedom to express various opinions. They dislike questioning of
their authority, set very high requirements and demand that their standards be
satisfied. This parenting style may produce a child who lacks self-confidence,
curiosity and creativity, self-control and who has low self-esteem.
 Authoritative parents employ explanations, discussions, reasoning; they balance
their parenting style by using punishment and rewards appropriately. When children
correct their behavior, they are rewarded. Such parenting style results in children
who have good self-control, high self-esteem, self-confidence, responsibility,
independence and control over their emotions
Aistear uses four themes that has great influence on
children’s learning and development
 The theme of well-being is about being confident, happy, and
healthy. Well-being has two main elements: psychological well-
being and physical well-being
 The theme of identity and belonging is about children developing
a positive sense of who they are, feeling that they are valued and
respected as part of a family and community
 The theme of communicating is about children sharing their
experiences, thoughts, ideas and feelings with others with growing
confidence and competence in a variety of ways and for a variety of
purposes.
 The theme of exploring and thinking is about children making
sense of the things, places and people in their world by interacting
with others, playing, investigating, questioning and refining their
ideas and sense.
Classification of upbringing methods — It is built on a
certain basis of system methods. Classification helps to detect in the
methods of general and specific, substantial and accidental, 
theoretical and practical, thereby contributing to their conscious 
choice of the most effective use/application.
By the nature of parenting/upbringing methods are divided into 
belief, exercise, promotion and punishment.
Based on result of methods of influence on a pupil can be divided
into two classes:
 influence creates a moral attitude, motivations, 
installation, form submission, concepts, ideas;
 impact, creating a habit of defining a particular type of behavior.
Classification of educational methods based on orientations:
 methods of formation of the consciousness of the individual.
 methods of organization and formation of social behavior
experience.
 Methods to stimulate behaviour and activity.
By the nature of the impact on student training methods
divided into belief, exercise, promotion and punishment
(N.I Boldyrev, N.Goncharov, F.F.Korolev etc.).
T.A.Ilina, I.T.Ogorodnikov classify techniques more
generally. These are: the methods of persuasion,
organization of activities to stimulate schoolchildren. The
classification I.O.Marchenko identified the following
groups: explanatory - reproductive, problem-situational,
methods of schooling and exercise, stimulation,
inhibition/braking, management, self-education.
Currently, the most common is the classification of training
methods I.G.Schukina based orientation - integrative
characteristics, includes unity of the target, substantive/independent
and procedural methods of upbringing. It identifies three groups of
methods:
1.Metods of forming consciousness (explanation, clarification,
lecture, an ethical talk, exhortation, suggestion, instruction, debate,
report an example);
2. Methods of organization and formation of behavior experience
(exercise instruction, bringing up the situation);
3. Methods of stimulation (competition, promotion, punishment).
All methods have a cumulative impact on all spheres of human
essential. However, each method of education and the
corresponding self-education method differ from one another only
in the scope essential to any person they have the most impact.
 PEARL WORDS
Daughter can not be educated fully without Mother,
Sons can not have a good journey without Father
Dede Korkut

Love to motherland starts from the Family.

V. A. Sukhomlinski
If you want to become a nation formulate the cradle
М.Auezov
Father – the lofty mountain,
Mother – flowing streams
Child – coastal cane or further resort
Proverb
 Match
1. Responsive to children's’ A. Hostile and antisocial
needs. B. Poor self-control,
2. Indifferent to children, difficulty with social
ignore them interactions when
3. Reject their children teenagers.
4. Critical, derogatory, C. Compliant with parent’s
dissatisfied with their wishes
children. D. Happy and friendly
5. Warm, understanding E. Dissatisfied with
and accepting. themselves.
 Matching Key
1. Responsive to children's’ A. Hostile and antisocial
needs. B. Poor self-control,
2. Indifferent to children, difficulty with social
ignore them interactions when
3. Reject their children teenagers.
4. Critical, derogatory, C. Compliant with parent’s
dissatisfied with their wishes
children. D. Happy and friendly
5. Warm, understanding E. Dissatisfied with
and accepting. themselves.
Conclusion: The family is a small state. Therefore,
its important as a provider of education and
preservation of custom and traditions

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situational questions
1 – question
“A little Aysha has filed a complaint from school. The teacher
quarreled and she does not want to go to classes anymore. What will
you do? “
2 – question
"Marat came to school without preparation. The teacher explained
the lesson. Marat did not listen to the lesson either. He also did not
give rest to the students nearby. The teacher warned him, even
though he did give a comment. The teacher demanded that the
student drop out of class. Marat came home and made a complaint.
The parents went to school quarreled and shouted with the director.
Is this the right action of the parents? What would you have done? “
3 – question
“Ali watched TV whole night and had trouble with sleeping. Ali said,
"I have a headache, and I don't want to go to classes." Your action?
Identify and analyze parent-child relationships»
 Project Works
1.Trilogy of V.A. Suhomlinsky: “I give my heart to
my children”, “Birth of a citizen”, “Letters to my
son”.
2. The President N.Nazarbayev’s opinions of
multilingual upbringing of an individual
3. The Peculiarities of Multicultural Upbringing of an
Individual
4. Education in a family of the Kazakh people
5. The child and society: The process of socialization
Seminar Tasks
1. The role of Family education in the formation of an
individual?
2. Objectives of Family educational and its peculiarities
3. Means and methods of upbringing process
4. National rules and norms of behavior in the relationships
with adults
5. Greatest thinkers opinions towards to family education
6. Influences and roles of grandparents in upbringing son and
daughter
7. Opportunities to use national values in modern family
education
8. The family life cycle
9. Childhood and adolescence
10. Family; influences in children’s development and