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TABLE OF CONTENTS
1.0 Introduction
2.1 Selection of a life partner
2.2 Arranged marriages and love marriages
2.3 Marriage restrictions according to Islamic and universal perspectives and
values
2.4 Issues
Problems in choosing a life partner
Same sex marriage: their demands for rights. (Gay/lesbian-
LGBT)
Sexual involvement before marriage
Pregnancy before marriage Establishing paternity of the child
born out of wedlock
Cross culture marriage
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CHAPTER 2: Choosing a Life Partner
Learning Outcomes
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2.0 Introduction
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INTRODUCTION
The process of choosing the person that you are married to from a
group of people , usually according to a
system/religion/belief/custom – social status , economic
SIXTY YEARS AGO if you were of marrying age, you’d most likely
select someone based on
how your parents felt about it,
how healthy the person appeared to be,
how good/moral their Character appeared to be and
how stable their economic resources appeared to be.
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2.0 Introduction
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INTRODUCTION
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2.1 Selection of a life partner
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Where we live
The people we know
Socio-economic background
Other influences that may not be as obvious.
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2.1 Selection of a life partner
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2.1.1 Theory of Mate Selection
Sociologist THEORY OF
MATE SELECTION
Normally, the individual choose a Heterogomy/Complimentary
2 Needs Theory
partner because of the feeling of
love.
3 Ideal Mate Theory
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2.1.1 Theory of Mate Selection
1 SOCIAL HOMOGAMY
SOCIAL HOMOGAMY :
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2.1.1 Theory of Mate Selection
2 HETEROGOMY / COMPLIMENTARY
NEEDS THEORY
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2.1.1 Theory of Mate Selection
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2.1.1 Theory of Mate Selection
4 SOCIAL EXCHANGE
THEORY
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2.1.1 Theory of Mate Selection
5 PROPINQUITY THEORY
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2.1.1 Theory of Mate Selection
6 KAFA’AH / SOCIAL
EQUALITY THEORY
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2.1.2 The Criteria For Selecting A Life Partner
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WEALTH PIOUSNESS
• There have been many cases of domestic troubles due to financial • A good wife will safeguard her
problems. husband’s dignity and
• Thus, it is recommended that stability and security are prioritised criteria in possessions as a sign of
a partner. submissiveness.
• This will create mutual trust,
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LINE OF DESCENT/KINSHIP respect and happiness
• Encouraged to propose or to accept the proposal by first finding out between husband and wife.
about the person’s lineage (genealogy)
• Good families reflect good upbringing (manners/faith/education/etc.)
• Also plays a role in procreation of a society that is healthy, educated,
well-mannered, faithful, etc.
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2.1.2 The Criteria For Selecting A Life Partner
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2.2 Arranged marriages and love marriages
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2.2.1 Categories of Marriage
CATEGORIES OF
1 FORCED MARRIAGES
MARRIAGE
2 ARRANGED MARRIAGES
3 LOVE MARRIAGES
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2.2 Arranged marriages and love marriages
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2.2.1 Categories of Marriage
1 FORCED MARRIAGES
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2.2.1 Categories of Marriage
1 FORCED MARRIAGES
There are numerous factors which can lead to a culture which accepts and
encourages forced marriages. Reasons for performing forced marriages include:
1) Strengthening extended family links;
2) Controlling unwanted behavior and sexuality;
3) Preventing 'unsuitable' relationships;
4) Protecting and abiding by perceived cultural or religious norms;
5) Keeping the wealth in the extended family;
6) Dealing with the consequences of pregnancy out of wedlock;
7) Considering the contracting of a marriage as the duty of the parents;
8) Obtaining a guarantee against poverty;
9) Aiding immigration
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2.2.1 Categories of Marriage
2 ARRANGED MARRIAGES
ARRANGED MARRIAGES were very common throughout the world until the
18th century. Typically, marriages were arranged by parents, grandparents or
other relatives.
In China, arranged marriages - sometimes called blind marriages –were the
norm before the mid 20th century. A marriage was a negotiation and decision
between parents and other older members of two families. The boy and girl, were
typically told to get married, without a right to consent, even if they had never met
each other until the wedding
Until the first half of the 20th century, arranged marriages were common in
migrant families in the United States. They were sometimes called picture-bride
marriages among Japanese because the bride and groom knew each other only
through the exchange of photographs before the day of their marriage.
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2.2.1 Categories of Marriage
2 ARRANGED MARRIAGES
3) LATE MARRIAGE, particularly
past the age of 30, reduces the
Reasons for performing of arranged pool of available bachelors for
marriage autonomous marriages.
1) CHILD MARRIAGE, particularly those Introductions and arranged
below the age of 12, does not prepare or marriages become a productive
provide the individual much opportunity option
to make an informed, free choice about 4) LIMITED CHOICES
matrimony. 5) PHYSICAL DISABILITIES
6) TRADITION/CUSTOM
2) POVERTY : Arranging a marriage of a 7) POLITICS
daughter is a means to reduce this 8) WEALTH AND INHERITANCE
burden. ISSUES
9) RELIGION
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2.2 Arranged marriages and love marriages
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2.2.1 Categories of Marriage
3 LOVE MARRIAGES
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2.3 Marriage restrictions according to Islamic and universal
perspectives and values
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Marriage restrictions
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Marriage restrictions
AGE
Most jurisdictions set a minimum age for marriage, that is, a person must attain a
certain age to be legally allowed to marry.
This age may depend on circumstances, for instance exceptions from the general
rule may be permitted if the parents of a young person express their consent
and/or if a court decides that said marriage is in the best interest of the young
person (often this applies in cases where a girl is pregnant).
Although most age restrictions are in place in order to prevent children from
being forced into marriages, especially to much older partners – marriages
which can have negative education and health related consequences, and lead to
child sexual abuse and other forms of violence – such child marriage remain
common in parts of the world.
According to the UN, child marriages are most common in rural sub-Saharan
African and South Asia. The ten countries with the highest rates of child
marriage are: Niger (75%), Chad, Central African Republic, Bangladesh, Guinea,
Mozambique, Mali, Burkina Faso, South Sudan, and Malawi.
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2.3 Marriage restrictions according to Islamic and universal
perspectives and values
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Marriage restrictions
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2.3 Marriage restrictions according to Islamic and universal
perspectives and values
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2.4 Issues
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Issues
1 PROBLEMS IN CHOOSING
A LIFE PARTNER
Issues
Factors lead to the problems in choosing a life partner
Effects
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2.4 Issues
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Issues
Issues
Factors lead to the same sex marriage: demands for rights. (gay/lesbian-
LGBT)
Effects
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2.4 Issues
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Issues
Issues
Factors lead to the pre marital marriage
Effects
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Issues
Issues
Factors lead to pregnancy before marriage
Effects
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Issues
Issues
Factors lead to the cross culture marriage
Effects
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Activity
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Test Your Knowledge
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Propinquity
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Homogamy
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Heterogamy
D
Ideal mate
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Activity
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Test Your Knowledge
Which statement below is true about The criteria for selecting a life
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partner based on Islamic perspective
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Religion, lineage, wealth, beauty
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Lineage, wealth beauty, religion
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Test Your Knowledge
3 Group discussion
B
A C
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Preview Next Session
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Chapter 3
Marriage restrictions
Introduction
Compulsion versus freedom in marriage
Exogamy
Incest boundaries
Religion and exogamy
Issues
Against from parents
Insufficient of knowledge
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