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6.0 Introduction
6.1 Building Intimacy throughout marriage
6.2 Creating and sustaining passion in marriage
6.3 Be open to compromise
6.4 Managing Challenges
Polygamy
Scandal / affair
Building trust
Spending quality time
Cyber world – having cyber affairs
Sexual problems
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Learning Outcomes
TOPIC
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6.0 Introduction
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INTRODUCTION
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6.1 Building Intimacy throughout marriage
TOPIC
THROUGHOUT MARRIAGE
WORD OF AFFIRMATION 1
BUILDING INTIMACY
QUALITY TIME 2
RECEIVING GIFTS 3
ACT OF SERVICE 4
PHYSICAL TOUCH 5
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6.1 Building Intimacy throughout marriage
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2 QUALITY TIME
QUALITY TIME is more than just proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on
your spouse. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is not spending
quality time with her. Unless all of your attention is focused on your spouse end with
no quality time is spent
QUALITY ACTIVITIES are also a very important part of quality time. Many spouse
feel most love when they spend physical time together, doing activities they love to
do
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3 RECEIVING GIFTS
Some individuals respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love
language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and
devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts
represents a lack of love from their spouse. luckily, this love is one of the easiest
to learn.
These gift don’t have to give every day or even every week. They don’t even need
to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your spouse relates to
the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave your spouse
feeling happy and secure in your relationship
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6.1 Building Intimacy throughout marriage
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4 ACT OF SERVICE
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5 PHYSICAL TOUCH
Many spouse feel the most love when they receive physical contact from their
partner. For a who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or
break the relationship.
Sexual intercourse makes many spouse feel secured and loved in marriage.
However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. It is important to learn how your
mate speaks the physical touch language.
Take time to learn the love, gesture your spouse likes. They can be big acts, such
as back massages or love-making, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a
hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That
is how you will make the most of this love language
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6.2 Creating and sustaining passion in marriage
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PASSION IN MARRIAGE
NOT SPEAKING UP : WEAKNESS OF
2 COUPLES
4 CLEANLINESS
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6.2 Creating and sustaining passion in marriage
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1 GIVING COMPLIMENTS
MEMBERI PUJIAN
Sentiasa beri pujian kepada
pasangan anda. Tak kira
Always give credit to your partner. No
samada anda seorang
matter whether you are a husband or suami mahupun isteri.
wife. Start first. Mulakan dulu.
Giving compliment is the way you Memberi pujian merupakan
show you appreciate your spouse's cara anda menunjukkan
presence in your life and it can bring anda menghargai
joy to him. kehadiran pasangan anda
dalam hidup anda serta ia
boleh menggembirakan hati
dia.
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4 CLEANLINESS
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6.3 Compromise
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6.3 COMPROMISE
An agreement in an argument in
which the people involved reduce
their demands or change their opinion
in order to agree
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6.3 Compromise
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6.3 COMPROMISE
BE OPEN TO COMPROMISE
3 SPEAK UP
4 COMPROMISE
5 COLLABORATE
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6.3
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COMPROMISE
It doesn't matter how long you have been together, there will always
be things you don't know about one another.
More than this, all of us grow and change over time. What may
have been your spouse's favorite way of doing something 5
years ago may now have become something else.
Don't assume that things are static and always ideal. Always have
a space to grow and change and your partner will do the same for
you.
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COMPROMISE
If you have gotten into the habit of telling your spouse what to do, it is
time to stop in your tracks and start asking instead.
And do not be put off by initial responses such as "Oh I don't know,
whatever you suggest is fine by me." That is the sign of someone to
just agreeing for the sake of peace or getting things done. Keep
probing gently and asking what your spouse really wants.
When they tell you, listen. It might be all too easy to think you already
know the answer but in 99% of the time, you won't.
So listen and respond to what you hear, not what you want to
hear.
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6.3
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COMPROMISE
3 SPEAK UP
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COMPROMISE
4 COMPROMISE
Whether you have been the leader organizer or the follower, learning
to compromise is the key to a happy relationship.
Learn how to make suggestions that take into account for both parties.
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6.3 Compromise
6.3
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COMPROMISE
5 COLLABORATE
Compromise is a situation in which some things are lost and some are won. It is
a balancing exercise of competing interests and it is a good tool to grow
cooperation.
Activities, pursuits, shared living arrangements etc. that both of you perform
together become a result of collaboration where both of your input is equal,
considerate of the other, builds on all the positive aspects of your contributions
.Instead, choices are made by each individual with love, respect and care for
the other uppermost in their decisions. This can take years to perfect and it's a
wonderful journey
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6.4 Issues
6.5 ISSUES
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1 POLYGAMY
Issues
Ploygamy : the custom of having more than one wife at the same
time
Factors lead to the polygamy
To get fertile descendants of a husband and wife was barren.
To keep the family intact without divorcing his wife, even the wife can not
perform its function as a wife, or he got a disability or incurable illness.
To rescue the husband from the hypersexual of adultery and other moral
crisis.
To save the women of moral crisis living in the State / community of the
number of women far more than men
Effects
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6.4 Issues
6.5 ISSUES
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2 SCANDAL / AFFAIR
Issues
Scandal : behaviour or an event that people think is morally or legally
wrong and causes public feelings of shock or anger
Factors lead to the scandal / affair
Effects
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6.4 Issues
6.5 ISSUES
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Issues
Spending quality time : if people spend quality time together, they
spend a period of time relaxing or doing things that they both
enjoy, and not worrying about work or other responsibilities
The importance of family spending quality time together
Effects
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6.4 Issues
6.5 ISSUES
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Issues
Factors lead to the cyber world – having cyber affairs
Effects
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6.5 ISSUES
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5 SEXUAL PROBLEM
Issues
Factors lead to the sexual problem
Effects
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Activity
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Test Your Knowledge
3 Group discussion
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Preview Next Session
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Chapter 7
Introduction
GOOD PARENTING Becoming good parents
Showing care and love
STRATEGIES Communicating with your child
Being good role models
Assign a child responsibilities
Know when to say “no”
Rewarding positive behaviour/ discouraging negative
behavior
Issues
Quality time with children
The problem child – disabilities, retardation
Negative role models, eg parents’ alcoholism
Children’s behavior problems
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