Lesson 2: Appropriate

Communicative Styles for

Various Situations
a.Communicative Styles or
Language Register: Frozen,
Formal,Casual, Consultative
and Intimate

b. Styles of Communication:
Assertive, Aggressive, Passive-
Aggressive, Submissive,
Manipulativ
INTRODUCTION
Different situations call for various language register or
communication styles. The language that we use when we
communicate with our families and friends differ greatly when we
communicate with our teachers and other school authorities;
likewise, what doctors use in communicating their
recommendations or advice to patients differs.
What are these different communication styles or language
register? Is it important to know each of them? What are the
conventions that we should follow when we use each of these
Activity 1: GUESS IT!

Guess the scenario shown in the following

pictures.
 What is communicative style of
speech or language register?
Communicative Style of Speech or Language Register-
✔ It is the form of language that the speaker uses.

✔ It is characterized by the level of formality.

✔ Its types are: frozen, formal, casual, consultative, and

intimate
 1.FROZEN

– At this level,
– Language is literally “frozen” in time and form. It does not
change.
– This type of language is often learned and repeated by rote.
– This is cultural – usually related to religions, customs, or
laws of the community Examples: Biblical verse,
prayers, the Pledge of Allegiance….
 2.FORMAL

– used in formal settings one-way in nature

– follows a commonly accepted format usually
impersonal and formal
– Examples: speeches, sermons, pronouncements
made by judges, announcements
– 3.CASUAL
 Examples of Intensive
Pronouns
1. The queen herself gave the knight the award.
2. The queen gave the knight the award herself.
3. We prepared the menu ourselves.
4. We all enjoyed ourselves at the theatre.
5. Sabrina watered the flowers herself.
 3.CASUAL
– This is informal language used by peers and
friends. Slang, vulgarities and colloquialisms are
normal.
– This is a “group” language.
– One must be a member to engage in this register.
– Examples are the communications among buddies,
 4.CONSULTATIVE
– This is a standard form of communications.
– Users are engaged in a mutually accepted structure of
communications. It is formal and societal expectations
accompany the users of this speech. It is a professional
discourse.
– Examples are communications between a superior and a
subordinate; doctor and patient; lawyer and client; lawyer
 5.INTIMATE
– This communication is private.
– It is reserved for close family members or intimate people. It is the
language used by lovers.
– It is also the language used in sexual harassment. This is the most
intimate form of language.
– It is avoided in public and professional situations.
– Examples of this type of register are the communications between
husband and wife; between boyfriend and girlfriend; between or
among siblings, parent and children.
 Activity 3: Put them together!
Match the picture with the most probable language
register to be used. Write the letter only inside the
box.

A
B D
C
Frozen Consultative Intimate Formal Casual

E
 Activity 4: Name it!
Determine the language register used in the following. Write frozen, formal,
consultative, casual or intimate on the answer line.
1. Do not do unto others what you do not want others do unto you.
2. All students are required to present their Ids upon entrance.
3. Hey Dude, what’s up?
4. You are and will forever be my princess.
5. Teacher: This is what you have to submit by the end of the quarter.
Students: Should we book bind the reports, Ma’am?
6. Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for
they will inherit the earth…
7. Patient: I have a recurring headache and fever for three days now.
Doctor: We’ll do some laboratory tests to find out what’s the cause of your condition.
8. Babe, maybe we can spend our Christmas vacation in Australia.
9. The First Periodical Examination will be on October 16, 17, and 18.
10. FYI, you are not allowed here, duh…
 Know More About It.

As we go about our journey in this world, we create relationships with

other people. As we intend to keep these relationships, we do our best to
nurture and protect them. One of the ways to do this is to know the right
communication style for the right situation. This way, we can react
appropriately when in difficult situations or when confronted by difficult
people as well as enjoy the company of individuals who would help us learn
more about ourselves.
What are the different communication styles?
STYLES OF COMMUNICATION

Styles of Communication
. Aggressive Style People using this style of communication are
concerned about winning - they are out to win and use different
methods such as bullying, intimidation, abrasiveness have the
tendency to be demanding, exploding, unpredictable, intimidating,
frightening, threatening and hostile The other person is likely to
feel defensive, hurt, humiliated, resentful, afraid, and ultimately
does not respect the other person.
3. Passive - Aggressive Style People using this style of communication are
calm and powerless in the outside but resentful in the inside; sarcastic,
unreliable, complaining, patronizing, and even gossiping. appear to be passive
on the outside, but are indirectly acting out their anger their expressions are
inconsistent with their true feelings and will be pleasant to your face but
poisonous behind your back have a sugary sweet voice and sweet innocent
facial expression People on the receiving end will feel confused, resentful,
angry, and hurt.
Submissive Style People using this style of communication are
always pleasing to avoid conflict prioritize people’s needs and often
apologetic behave as if the other person has more rights and more
to contribute try their best to avoid any confrontation and will yield
to preferences of other people feel like the victim and they refuse
compliment
5. Manipulative Style People using this style of communication are good at influencing or
controlling others to their advantage are scheming, shrewd and calculating have an underlying
message when they speak control other people in an insidious way such as sulking, using fake
tears, indirectly asking for their needs to be met, and making the other person feel sorry or
obliged to help them can use a patronizing, ingratiating, envious, and often high pitched voice
The other person will be left feeling guilty, angry, frustrated, irritated, and not sure of where
to stand with them.