Personal

Development
UNIT 2: ASPECT
OF SELF-
DEVELOPMENT
Lesson: Coping Up with Stress
OBJECTIVES:
 Identifysources of your stress and
illustrate the effect of stress on your
system
 Demonstrate personal ways of coping
with stress for healthful living
STRESS

An emotional factor that causes

bodily or mental tension
A feeling one’s get from
prolonged pent-up emotions.
EMOTIONS ASSOCIATED WITH
STRESS
Anxiety Tension Prolonged stress
can be devasting,
Pressure Anger burnout,
breakdown and
Misery Panic depression are
Strain Dejection some results of
long-term
Desperation unmanaged stress.
STRESS RESPONSE

A collection of physiological changes that occur

when you face a perceived threat.

Stressor- a situations where you feel the demands

outweigh your resources to successfully cope up.
HOW TO HANDLE STRESS?

Understand the cause of stress

Analyze your stress factors and write them
down
Deal with the stressors.
Learn to work under pressure
UNIT 2: ASPECT
OF SELF-
DEVELOPMENT
Lesson: Power of the Mind
OBJECTIVES:
 Discuss that understanding the left and
right brain functions may help in
improving one’s learning
 Exploremind mapping techniques
suited to right brain or left brain
dominant thinking style
BRAIN

A complex organ that controls thought, memory,

emotions, touch, motor skills and vision,
breathing, temperature, hunger, and every
process that regulates our body.

BRAINPOWER- Your intelligence or ability to

think
THREE PARTS OF THE BRAIN

Cerebrum- the largest of the three sections

Has four lobes: frontal (determines
personality and emotions), parietal
(understand what they see and feel),
temporal (hearing and word recognition
abilities), occipital (vision functions)
THREE PARTS OF THE BRAIN

Cerebellum- region that controls voluntary

movement
You form thoughts and the cerebellum
translate it into actions

Nerve cell also called neurons

THREE PARTS OF THE BRAIN

Brain stem- Connect the spinal cord and

the brain
CRITICAL AGE

Critical age of the brain is at

age three, this is where
synaptogenesis occur, it is
the creation of pathways for
brain cells to communicate
DRUG AND ALCOHOL DAMAGE
Effect of drug and alcohol on the brain might be
lasting

Serotonin- is a chemical crucial for control

sleeping, violence, mood swings and sexual urges

People who use drugs is like volunteering to become

a guinea pig where scientist apply grant to start
studying them.
DRUG AND ALCOHOL DAMAGE

Inhalants Marijuana Steroid Ecstasy

• damage • Hinder • Causes • Destroys
outer lining memory, aggression neurons
of the learning, and violent that make
nerve cell judgement, mood the
• Make a and swings serotonin
person reaction
unable to times
communica
te
DOMINANT SIDE OF THE BRAIN
 Brain Dominance
Determines a person preference, problem solving style,
personality, characteristics and even career choices.

There’s no good or bad between the two

preference however one might be
appropriate over the other depending on the
situation
 DOMINANT SIDE OF THE BRAIN
Personal preferences
Left dominance Right dominance
Classical music Popular music
Being on time A good time
Careful planning To visualize the outcome
To consider alternative To go with the first idea
Being thoughtful Being active
Monopoly, chess, scrabble Athletics, art, music
MIND MAPPING
- Invented by TONY BUZAN
- A powerful thinking tool.
- A graphical technique that mirrors the way the brain
works.
- It helps to make thinking visible, help children organize
their ideas and thoughts

Mind maps variety of uses:

 Notetaking, revision planning, planning for writing and
problem solving
How to draw mind
map?
MIND MAPPING
 Can we really say that there is a dumb or smart person?

YOU CAN GROW YOU INTELLIGENCE

Brain is a muscle- it changes and get stronger
when you use it. When you learn, it grows and
get stronger.
Exercise and Practice
-can grow the brain stronger
-can make you smarter
UNIT 3: BUILDING
AND
MAINTAINING
RELATIONSHIP
L1: PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
EXERCISE: STATEMENTS ON
RELATIONSHIP (True or False)
1. It
is important to work on communicating our T
feelings in relationships
T
2. To love someone, we must love our self first
3. Havinga good relationship does not F
contribute to us having a good health.
F
4. Relationship are static, they are unchangeable
5. Expressinggratitude to our friends and family T
help us maintain good relationships.
OBJECTIVES:
 Discuss an understanding of teen-age
relationships, including the acceptable
and unacceptable expressions of
attractions
 Express your way of showing
attraction, love and commitment and
 Identifyways to become responsible in
a relationship
What is Personal Relationship?

It refers to close connections

between people, formed by
emotional bonds and
interactions.

 Relationship are not static, they are continually

evolving, and to fully enjoy them we need skills,
information, inspiration, practice and social support
THREE KINDS OF
PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
FAMILY
 Accordingto the Bureau of Census, family is defined as
“two or more person who are related by birth, marriage or
adoption and who live together as one household
 Characteristics of a family
Support

Mutual trust
Regular interaction
Shared belief and values
Security and
Sense of community
FRIENDS
Can be thought of as a close tie between
two people that is often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interest, proximity and
emotional bonding.

Online friends cannot be counted toward

close ties- a larger online network isn’t
nearly powerful as having a few close real
life friends
PARTNERSHIPS
Romantic relationships, including marriage,
are close relationship formed between two
people.

We usually experience this kind of

relationship with only one person at a time
Why Personal Relationship
Important?
 It can help you:
 Live longer. Blue zone research calculates that committing to
a life partner can add 3 years of life expectancy.
 Deal with stress. Researchers found that people who
completed a stressful task experience a fast recovery when
they are reminded of people whom they had strong
relationships.
 Be healthier. According to research, students who reported
having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a
common cold when exposed to virus.
 Feel richer. Doubling your group of friends has the same
effect on your well being as a 50% increase in income.
Why Personal Relationship
Important?
 Onthe other hand, low social support is like to
health consequence such as:
 Depression. People that has fewer satisfying
social connection experienced high level of
depression and pain
 Decreased immune function. Lack of social
interaction increases your chance of becoming
sick.
 Higher blood pressure. Loneliness could
predict higher blood pressure.
UNACCEPTABLE
ATTRACTION
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
1. Affairs/Infidelity/Cheating
2. Sexual issues
3. Difference in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages. You have “outgrown” each other
5. Traumatic/ life changing events
6. Stress/ Work-related stress/ Illness/Mental health
issue /Financial problems/infertility
7. Bored in/with your relationship
8. Jealousy
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
1. Bended family issues
2. Violence
3. Early marriage
4. Lack of responsibility
5. Unrealistic expectations
6. Addictions
7. Reliance on social media
8. Lack of support
9. Manipulation
25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
1. Poor division/ one-sided responsibility for chores
2. Lack of concern/care/consideration/attentiveness
3. Personal disappointments and traumas
4. Long term depression
5. Difference on how to discipline
6. Long term stress
7. Unsupportive partner during pregnancy
ACCEPTABLE
ATTRACTION
NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
1. Connect with your family. Family support can
provide comfort, support, and even influence better
health outcomes.
2. Practice Gratitude. Gratitude is one of the most
accessible positive emotions and its effect can
strengthen friendship and intimate relationships
3. Learn to forgive. Choosing to forgive can bring
about a variety of benefit, both physical and
emotional. It has a big effect on the healing process
4. Be compassionate. Compassion is the willingness
to be open to yourself and others, even in painful
times, with a gentle, nonjudgemental attitude.
NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
1. Accept others. Have a realistic acceptance
of the other’s strength and weakness and
that change occurs over time
2. Create rituals together. In order to nurture
the closeness and support of friendships, you
have to make an effort to connect.
3. Spend the right amount of time
together. knowing when to give your time to
others and when to take time for yourself can
be crucial in maintaining balanced healthy
relationships.
TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND
CREATING LONG-LASTING
RELATIONSHIPS
 YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
 PARTNERING IS A CHOICE MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO
THRIVE
 CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS
 RELATONSHIP PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW
 COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL
 NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED
 YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGED BY CHANGE
 YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE
 RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY
 YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE
TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND
CREATING LONG-LASTING
RELATIONSHIPS
 YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
 PARTNERING IS A CHOICE MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO
THRIVE
 CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS
 RELATONSHIP PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW
 COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL
 NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED
 YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGED BY CHANGE
 YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE
 RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY
 YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE
EXPRESSING WAY
TO SHOW LOVE,
COMMITMENT AND
AFFECTION
TIPS IN EXPRESSING AFFECTION:
STAY HAPPY
BE EMPHATHIC
KEEP OPEN COMMUNICATION
ALWAYS TRUST
SHOW RESPECT
BE A HELPING HAND
 TO BECOME
RESPONSIBLE IN A
RELATIONSHIP
 MUTUAL RESPECT- a person shall not trespass in his
rights/put someone down when he/she is wrong.
 VALUE QUALITY TIME- learning to love your loved
ones more.
 TRUST AND HONESTY- positive encouragements may
create a positive outlook in life.
 WELL COMMUNICATED LOVE- A love that is well
communicated keeps any relationship
 RELIABILITY AND SECURITY- each one of us dearly
love to have somebody whom we can depend on and
who will guarantee to protect us from any harm.
 NON-JUDGEMENTAL LISTENING AND PRESENCE-
listening is the key factor that makes communication
foster.
 Committing meanings
offering the best version
of yourself while still
learning to accept and
wait until the other party
will be able to do the
same.
 KEEPING
HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
S
IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP, BOTH
PARTNERS:
 Are treated with kindness and respect
 Are honest with each other
 Like to spend time together
 Takean interest in things that are important to each
other
 Respect one another’s emotional, physical and
sexual limits
 Can speak honestly about their feelings
LOVE SHOULD NEVER HURT
It is important that you take care of yourself.

TYPES OF VIOLENCE:
1. PHYSICAL ABUSE- someone cause physical injury or pain
to another person, like hitting, slapping, or kicking
2. SEXUAL ABUSE- involves any unwanted sexual advance
like unwelcome sexual comments to kissing to intercourse.
3. EMOTIONAL ABUSE- anything that harms your self-esteem
or causes shame, like saying things that could possible hurt
your feelings, make you feel worthless and trying to control
you.
HOW TO COMMUNICATE:
 TALKING OPENLY. None of us are a mind reader- its important
to be open about your needs and expectation.
 COMMUNICATE OPENLY on issues of sex and sexual healthy.
You always have the right to say “NO” at any time to anything
that you are uncomfortable with. But if decided to become
sexually active, then think about doing this things first:
 Talk openly with your partner. Like safer sex expectation
 Think about your boundaries ahead of time.

HAVING CONVERSATION BEFORE YOU ARE IN SEXUAL

SITUATION MAKES IT MORE LIKELY TO BE ABLE TO ACT
ACCORDINGLY TO YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES AND PREFERENCES.
WHAT TO TALK ABOUT?
 SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS (STI).
Anybody who engages in sexual activity are prone
to have this one.
 POSSIBILITY OF PREGNANCY. Females have high
percentage to put themselves in this situations.
 RIGHT TIME FOR SEX. Will this make or break your
future as a student?
 BOUNDARIES. Making decision to set your limits
shows your maturity to assert your priorities and
respecting yourself.
TALKING TO YOUR PARENT

 Parentswant to help their kids make smart decisions

about sex. They know its vital for teens to have
accurate information and sound advice to aid the
decision-making process.

 Why is it that we need to talk about sex with our

parents than our friends?
 Friends really don’t know any more than you do.
Remember not every person at your age is having
sex.
How can we avoid peer or date
pressure
 Hang out with friends who believe that its okay not to be ready for
sex yet
 Go out with a group of friends than only your date
 Introduce your friends to your parents
 Invite your friends to your home
 Stick up for your friends if they are being pressure to have sex.
 Think of what you would say in advance in case someone tries to
pressure you
 Always carry money in case you feel uncomfortable
 Be ready to call your mom or dad or friends
 Never feel obligated to pay someone back with sex
 Say no.
BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

 THE RIGHTS TO:

 Emotional support
 Be heard by the other and to respond
 Have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partners
 Have your feelings and experiences acknowledge as real
 Live free from accusation and blame
 Live free from criticism and judgement
 Live free from emotional and physical threat
 Live free from angry outburst and rage
 Be respectfully asked, rather than ordered
Patience
 Communicate your disappointment but give the
person a chance to reflect, then you can ask
yourself if you still want to continue your Respect
relationship or not. - The
Honesty
 Communicate
cornerstone
your feelings openly, and
expect the other person to do the same. of all healthy
This build trust overtime relationship.
Kindness
 You need to be considerate of other’s
feeling and be kind when you
communicate.
UNIT 3: BUILDING
AND
MAINTAINING
RELATIONSHIP
Lesson: Community, Society and Culture
 Adolescentbegin to develop unique beliefs
system through their interaction. These belief
system encompasses everything from religion to
politics.

 Teenagers who join youth groups and other clubs

are happier and less likely to drink. It also
increase their facility to access and become part
of wide-range networks.
COMMUNITY ACTIVITY: GET
INVOLVED
 COMMUNITY ACTIVITY is part of “civic responsibility”
 It’s about doing thing in our community because we want
to or feel we should rather than because we have to by law.

 How to take civic responsibility?

 Joining youth club, scouting or clean up group
 Helping primary school play
 Setting up art space
 Promoting cause- clean environment, recycling etc.
 Online campaign
What can we get in being involved
in community activity?
 Role model- you can come into contact with like-
minded peers and positive adult role models other
than your parents.
 Identity and connection- can give you positive
understanding who you are. A sense of being
connected to your local community
 Skills- chance to apply the skills that you already
have.
 Self- confidence, mental health and wellbeing- can
boost one’s confidence, can learn to deal challenges
Servant Leaders

 was launched by Robert K. Greenleaf

 He defined servant-leader as:
Servant first
Make sure that other people’s highest
priority needs are being served.
“The great leader is seen as servant
first
Characteristics: Servant Leaders

 Listening and understanding

 Acceptance and empathy
 Foresight
 Awareness and perception
 Persuasion
 conceptualization
 Self healing
 Rebuilding company
Descriptions: Servant Leaders

 Initiates action
 Goal-oriented
 Dreamers
 Good communication
 Re-orient themselves
 Dependable
 Trusted
 Creative
 Intuitive
 situational
FAMILY STRUCTURES
AND LEGACIES
FAMILY STRUCTURES:

 Nuclear family- considered as traditional family, consist

of a father and mother and dependable children
 Extended family- consist of parents and children, along
with their grandparents, grandchildren, aunts or
uncles, cousins, etc.
 Step families- two families brought together due to
divorce, separation and remarriage
 Single parent family- can either be father or mother
who is singly responsible for the raising of a child (birth
or adoption)
FAMILY STRUCTURES:

 Adoptivefamily- one or more of the children

has been adopted.
 Bi-racial
or multi-racial family- family
members are of different racial identity group
 Trans-racial adoptive- adopt a child of a
different racial identity group
 Blended-consist of members from two or
more previous families
FAMILY STRUCTURES:

 Conditional separated family-a member is separated

due to work but still remain as member of the family
 Foster family- a child is legally a temporary member of
the household.
 Gay or Lesbian- one or both of the parents sexual
orientation is gay or lesbian
 Immigrant- parents have migrated to another country
as adults.
 Migrant- family moves regularly to places where they
have employment.