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21 Never
Never singles
singles must
must observe.
observe.
King
King Solomon’
Solomon’s wisdom
Solomon’s wisdom for
for singles.
singles.

Assumption is the lowest level of knowledge, to a

fool assumption
is knowledge.
Pastor Sam Adeyemi

Olufemi Fasanya
08037257479, 08083906405
www.femi-fasanya.blogspot.com
King Solomon’s wisdom for singles is the first book I have written; I appreciate
God for the impact that the book has made in the lives if those that have
read it and those that will yet come across the book.

When I made the first slide presentation of my unpublished quotes for singles
tagged inspiring quotes for singles, I believe that the Lord impressed it in
my heart to extract the quotes in my other books both published and
unpublished for the good of humanity.

I believe that one word from God can change a life forever; I also know that
one positive inspired word can make a person act in ways that is beyond
his/her imagination for the good of man kind.

My prayer is that you as you read this quotes, you will be inspired to act right
in the area of your relationship.
 Introduction

• Experience is the best teacher, o yes, as long as it is

somebody else’s experience.
Pastor Sam Adeyemi

• FEAR= Fantasized Experience Appearing Real.

Brain Tracy

• Fear is indeed a smoke that holds no substance of its

own, yet it chokes. And when its victim yields, it
assumes the character of an Arabian jinni-a tiny smoke
that grows and crystallizes into a monster and consume
the afraid.
Chuba Kechi
• Fear explains why millions of people accomplish little and
enjoy little.
David Schwartz

• Your opinion of a thing is often affected by what you

see around; so many singles live in fear of settling down
because they saw their parent fighting, being unfaithful
to their marriage vow and eventually divorce one
another.

• Singles today are often fed with fear building words,

such as if you make a mistake of marrying the wrong
person, the institution will become hell on earth. The
fear of making a mistake has made some people in the
past to make mistakes they could have avoided if they
had walked according to the instructions of God.
Femi fasanya

• Everyone is ignorant but only on different subjects.

Will Rogers
 Never date someone that is married.
• Do not fall into the trap of dating your former intimate
friend who is now married.

• The lie that will be told by the person is, “The person
that I married was a mistake, I should have married
you, I still love you”. Do not fall for these words, if the
person had made a mistake of marrying someone else, let
him/her live with it, even if he/she married your best
friend.

• Never forget that no one likes to share his or her

spouse with another, you too will not like it if you are on
the receiving end.
Femi Fasanya

• But a man who does the sin of adultery is foolish. He is

destroying himself-he himself causes his own destruction!
King Solomon
 Never seek the spectacular in finding a
partner.
• Christian singles often seek spectacular manifestation
when they feel matured enough for marriage; they want
to see visions, dream dreams and hear an audible voice
saying “This is the person I have chosen for you.

• Your heavenly Father never told you to look for the

spectacular but to simply walk in the truth as written in
the Bible.

• Getting the right person demands your active

participation.
Femi Fasanya

• The gods will not do for man, what man can do for
himself .
Anonymous
If you find a wife, then you have found a good thing. She
shows that the Lord is happy with you.”
King Solomon
 Never look down on anyone.

• Some singles have lost treasures that would have been a

blessing to their future because they paid too much
attention to the container at the neglect of the content.
Femi Fasanya

• Everything has its beauty but not everyone sees it.

Confucius

• A person without good sense says bad things about his

neighbors. But a wise man knows when to be quiet.
King Solomon
 Never say “yes” based on physical
attraction alone.
• The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with
the personality, but we must live with a character.
Peter Deneries

• The problem with beauty is that it is like being born rich

and getting poorer.
Collins Joan

• What if in the future all that physical attraction fades

away, will you still be faithful to your marriage vows?

• There is more to a person than meet the eye.

Femi Fasanya
• Grace of manner is deceitful and beauty of form and
feature will fade, but the woman that fears the Lord
shall be praised.
King Solomon
Never say “yes” or ask a lady out because a
man of
God said so.

• The responsibility of the five fold ministry is to help you

to determine God's will for your life through teachings
and counseling. Their right over you excludes imposing
anyone on you for marriage.

• One error I see among singles is that some of them take

the names of suitors to men of God (“Prophet”),
requesting that they find the will of God among them. I
call this soothsaying…

• Do not forget this, men of God also are susceptible to

mistakes.

• Another error is that very few singles consult their

Pastor when it comes to these vital issue of their life.
Femi Fasanya
• Get good advice before you make plans. If you are
starting a war, find good people to guide you”.
King Solomon
 Never say “yes” because a respected
individual said
“you are God's will for his/her life”.

• Do not be intimidated by a person's position or status.

Just because the individual has attained some level of
spirituality does not mean he/she is right for you.

• Pray about it and be sensitive to God's leading.

Femi Fasanya

• Trust in the Lord completely! Do not depend on your own

knowledge. Think about God in all that you do. Then He
will help you”.
King Solomon
Never say “yes” when you mean to say “no.”

• Do not say “yes” to any relationship based on sentiment,

pity, family tie, customs, etc. Remember, this is the
person that you will be living with all the rest of your
life; you cannot therefore stake your future to please
anyone except God.
Femi Fasanya

• To marry out of pity is to mar one's precious destiny.

Chris Oshundun

• It is better you hurt the person and anyone concerned

today than live the rest of your life as if you are in a
cage.
Femi Fasanya
• Evil people use their words to hurt other people. But the
words of a good person can save people from danger.
King Solomon
 Never Procrastinate.

• Procrastination is not just the thief of time, but it is

also the thief of… destiny, life, joy etc.
Femi Fasanya

• Procrastination is a monster. It gulps down the best of

achievements that could have been; the most successful
business that could have been; the most successful
ministry that could have been. The tragedy of life is not
that it ends so soon but that we wait so long to begin it.
Pastor Taiwo Odukoya

• If you have a release in your heart for a sister/brother,

do not waste time in saying “yes” or asking her out.
Femi Fasanya
• The proof of that person's love is not in how long you
keep him/her waiting; never forget that you do not have
all the time in the world.
Femi Fasanya

• There is a time for everything. And everything on earth

will happen at the right time.
King Solomon
Never be in haste to make a decision about
a person.

• Behind every haste is a mistake.

• When someone wants you to be hasty to get married,

there is a likelihood that the individual wants to hide
something.
Femi Fasanya

• When a man is desperate for anything in life, he opens

himself up to exploitation.
Elijah Ekan-Ndem
• God could have created the world and everything in it in
a day, but He allowed it to take six days, and this is to
let you know that time is needed to let things mature.
Femi Fasanya

• Being excited about something is not enough. You must

also know what you are doing. You should not rush into
something or you will do it wrong.
King Solomon
 Never say “yes” to anyone that loves you
more than God or that you love more than
God.

• One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life;

that word is love.
Sophodes

• Care must be taken not to be deluded to fall in love with

someone, which may affect your intimacy with God.

• There are times as a single that you are attracted to

someone who does not believe in your faith and your God
given principles. Do not fall into the deception that God
will save and change the person when you are married.
Some have departed from the faith because they
succumbed to their feelings instead of obeying God.
Femi Fasanya
• Do not be deceived by the outward show of happiness by
people who live in rebellion against God's word, nothing
lasts when God is taken from it at the beginning.

• To say “yes” to someone who accepts your ungodly

behavior because he/she has assured you that he/she
can live with it, is to marry what will eventually destroy
you.

• Learn from Anannias and Saphira; his life could have

been saved from death or Saphira would have saved
herself if she had spoken against her husband's ungodly
plan.
Femi Fasanya

• Be friends with people who are wise, and you will become
wise. But if you choose fools as friends, then you will
have trouble.
King Solomon
 Never rush into another relationship if you
have just left one.
• If you allow loneliness and the need for love make you to
rush into another relationship, it will eventually end like
the first one.
Femi Fasanya

• Usually the first person someone dates after ending a

relationship is a transition person and it almost never
develop into a meaningful relationship.
Darlene Powell Hopson

• You do not have to suffer continual chaos in order to

grow.
John C. Lilly
• There is need for you to know why the relationship broke
up in the first place; what part did you play in it (do not
deceive yourself that the fault is solely from the other
person) and to allow your wound to heal.
Femi Fasanya

• A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart

enough to profit from them, and strong enough to
confront them.
John Maxwell

• There is a time to kill, and a time to heal. There is a

time to destroy, and a time to build.
King Solomon
 Never get involve in premarital sex.

• Sex is good, sex is sweet, but it will destroy you if it is

done outside of marriage.

• Singles who engage in sex before marriage are laying a

wrong foundation for their future. Outside of marriage,
it results in a curse that is destructive in nature because
it will give access to the devil into your home if you
eventually get married.
Femi Fasanya

• The devil does not need a big opening to come in, all he
needs is a small one.
Pastor Sam Ajana
• When you sleep with your friend, the relationship may
not last.
Anonymous

• Sex is not a parameter for judging if your partner loves

you.
Femi Fasanya

• Wise people see trouble coming and get out of its way.
But a fool goes straight to the trouble and suffers
because of it.
King Solomon
Never agree to a live-in mate arrangement.
• One lie that the devil has fed these generation is that,
“The best way to know if you are compatible with the
person you are engaged with, is to live with one another.
Femi Fasanya

• If you think a thing is right because everyone else

believes it, you are not thinking.
Vivienne Westwood

• For every convenient reasons that the devil gives you to

do a thing, there is a covenant reason not to do it.
Pastor Sam Ajana
• You cannot know a person through disobedience to God's
law.
Femi Fasanya

• Everyone is a moon and has a dark side which he never

shows anybody.
Twain Mark

• You will always need God's help, do not shut Him out of
your home by the actions you take today.
Femi Fasanya

• Good homes are built on wisdom and understanding. And

knowledge fills the rooms with rare and beautiful
treasures.”
King Solomon
 Never despise your parents' advice.

• Some marriages that have ended in divorce would not

have been knotted, if one of them had listened to
parental advice.

• You need to consider their opinion before dashing into

marriage, do not forget that time and the experience of
life had taught them to see what you may not see.
Femi Fasanya

• Do not neglect your parents in your decision making

process. Seek their opinion and advice. Godly parents
can direct you rightly and also pray for you.”
Evangelist Kenneth Onyeme
• Listen to the things your father tells you. Without your
father, you will not have been born. And respect your
mother, even when she is old.
King Solomon
 Never hold on to a person, when it is time
to let go.

• To make a wife merely as an agreeable and rational

companion will commonly be found to be a grand mistake.
Phillip Domar

• Never insist on marrying someone who does not want to

marry you.
Pastor Bimbo Odukoya

• There is a time to look for something, and a time to

consider it lost. There is a time to keep things, and a
time to throw things away.
King Solomon
 Never live in unforgiveness.
• Unforgiveness is simply unforgotten information.

• The wound you had from your former relationship was

not as big as what it is now, but because you keep
revisiting the past, the wound just refuses to heal.

• As long as you hold on to the past, there is no future

for you.
Femi Fasanya

• He who cannot forgive others, breaks the bridge over

which he himself must pass.
Anonymous
The only person I can guarantee will not leave you till the
end of time is the Lord Jesus. If you loose anything, but
still have Him, He will restore what you have lost with
what is better.
Femi Fasanya

• Forgiveness is an act of giving love to the person who

does not deserve it from you.
Pastor Sam Ajana

• The most important thing is for you to be careful in the

things you think. Your thoughts control your life.
King Solomon
Never conclude that all men/women are the
same.

• There is very little difference between people, but that

little difference makes of lot of difference. The little
difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it
is positive or negative.
John Maxwell

• My darling, among other women, you are like a lily among

thorns!
King Solomon
 Never underestimate the power of words.

• The way you see yourself depend on words you have

heard about yourself consistently from your parents,
friends, etc.

• What you see in the mirror (your reflection) can be said

to be an embodiment of words.

• Permit me to ask you this question, When you look into

the mirror, what do you see?

• You cannot always be right at all times.

Femi Fasanya
• If a statement has no strength, go to where a corpse is
lying and say, I killed him.
Anonymous

• No matter what anyone tells you, words and ideas rule

the world.
Robin Williams

• The tongue can speak words that bring life or death.

And people who love to talk must be ready to accept
what it brings.
King Solomon
Never get satisfied with where you are now.
• The reason why familiarity leads to contempt is because,
the person you are familiar with is still the same person
you have always known.
Femi Fasanya

• If I cease being better, I cease being good.

Oliver Cronawell

• It is time to work on yourself; it is good to be heavenly

conscious, however, do not be earthly useless.
Femi Fasanya

• A wise person tries to gain more knowledge. But a foolish

person only wants more foolishness.
King Solomon
 Never get married to a person without
undergoing
medical tests.

• To love someone is good, but you should not go into

marriage blindly.

• I will advice that you both go for the test together at

the same time and same clinic.
Femi Fasanya

• If a person refuses when other people try to help him,

then he will bring trouble to himself. But the person who
respects the things other people tell him, will be
rewarded.
King Solomon
 Never forget that what you do to God is
what your children will do to you.

• The law of cost and effect also applies to your

relationship with your Maker.
Femi Fasanya

• My son, sometimes the Lord will show you that you are
doing wrong. But do not be angry about this punishment.
Try to learn from it. Why? Because the Lord corrects
the people He loves. Yes, God is like a Father that
punishes the son He loves.
King Solomon