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    Before starting your matching process, it's good to sit down and think about what you are looking for in a spouse. What are your deal-makers and deal breakers, negotiable and non-negotiables... Take some time to write down everything and anything you are looking for in your future spouse. We'll call it the "long list". Here are some topics to help you start off... Topics: humor, faith, culture, language, race, education, profession, ambitions, travel, living abroad, ministry work, children, caring for parents/in laws, school, finances... Once you've written it all out, use this list maker to PRIORITIZE! Start with the Non-Negotiables box... choose only THREE things on you're "long list" that you absolutely cannot live without in a spouse. Then try to think about why those things are so important to you and your future marriage. Then continue by putting six more items from the "long list" into the Things That Would Be Nice box. These are the things you would really like to have in a spouse, but you could possibly be flexible about. Describe how you could be flexible and compromise. For example, "I would like for him to have the same hobbies as me... but if he is willing to try new things, I'd be open to him as a possible match." Finally, choose four things from the "long list" to go in the Bonus Points box. These are the qualities that are just extras. Things you can definitely live without, but would a plus in your marriage. Once your done, you'll probably notice that lots of items on your "long list" didn't make the Priority List. That's ok! Hold on to both your lists as you go through your matching journey. You may find that after some time your priorities have changed and the items on your Priority List have shifted around. The Priority List is simply your reminder of what you value most in a spouse. But your "long list" is still a genuine reflection and prayer that is worth keeping.

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    Before starting your matching process, it's good to sit down and think about what you are looking for in a spouse. What are your deal-makers and deal breakers, negotiable and non-negotiables... Take some time to write down everything and anything you are looking for in your future spouse. We'll call it the "long list". Here are some topics to help you start off... Topics: humor, faith, culture, language, race, education, profession, ambitions, travel, living abroad, ministry work, children, caring for parents/in laws, school, finances... Once you've written it all out, use this list maker to PRIORITIZE! Start with the Non-Negotiables box... choose only THREE things on you're "long list" that you absolutely cannot live without in a spouse. Then try to think about why those things are so important to you and your future marriage. Then continue by putting six more items from the "long list" into the Things That Would Be Nice box. These are the things you would really like to have in a spouse, but you could possibly be flexible about. Describe how you could be flexible and compromise. For example, "I would like for him to have the same hobbies as me... but if he is willing to try new things, I'd be open to him as a possible match." Finally, choose four things from the "long list" to go in the Bonus Points box. These are the qualities that are just extras. Things you can definitely live without, but would a plus in your marriage. Once your done, you'll probably notice that lots of items on your "long list" didn't make the Priority List. That's ok! Hold on to both your lists as you go through your matching journey. You may find that after some time your priorities have changed and the items on your Priority List have shifted around. The Priority List is simply your reminder of what you value most in a spouse. But your "long list" is still a genuine reflection and prayer that is worth keeping.

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    My Priority List

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    Sarah Eide
    Before starting your matching process, it's good to sit down and think about what you are looking for in a spouse. What are your deal-makers and deal breakers, negotiable and non-negotiables... Take some time to write down everything and anything you are looking for in your future spouse. We'll call it the "long list". Here are some topics to help you start off... Topics: humor, faith, culture, language, race, education, profession, ambitions, travel, living abroad, ministry work, children, caring for parents/in laws, school, finances... Once you've written it all out, use this list maker to PRIORITIZE! Start with the Non-Negotiables box... choose only THREE things on you're "long list" that you absolutely cannot live without in a spouse. Then try to think about why those things are so important to you and your future marriage. Then continue by putting six more items from the "long list" into the Things That Would Be Nice box. These are the things you would really like to have in a spouse, but you could possibly be flexible about. Describe how you could be flexible and compromise. For example, "I would like for him to have the same hobbies as me... but if he is willing to try new things, I'd be open to him as a possible match." Finally, choose four things from the "long list" to go in the Bonus Points box. These are the qualities that are just extras. Things you can definitely live without, but would a plus in your marriage. Once your done, you'll probably notice that lots of items on your "long list" didn't make the Priority List. That's ok! Hold on to both your lists as you go through your matching journey. You may find that after some time your priorities have changed and the items on your Priority List have shifted around. The Priority List is simply your reminder of what you value most in a spouse. But your "long list" is still a genuine reflection and prayer that is worth keeping.

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    My Priority List

    MY NONNEGOTIABLES

    Why are these my non-negotiables?

    What is my motivation?

    Things That Would Be Nice


    In which ways would I be willing to compromise ?

    BONUS POINTS

    Sarah Eide, Mitshi Ishioka, Emilie Schuler and Matching Mentor, 2013. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blogs author and/or owner is strictly prohibited.

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