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Bodylanguage0211092
Bodylanguage0211092
By Steve Scott
Table of Contents
Disclaimer ................................................................. 4 Introduction .............................................................. 5 What is Body Language ............................................... 7 How Body Language Developed .................................. 10 Eliminating Weak Body Language ............................... 12 13 Traits of High Status Body Language....................... 21 Three Problem Areas to Monitor.................................. 38 Making Adjustments to Your Body Language ................ 43 Speaking in a High Status Manner............................... 46 Conclusion............................................................... 51
Disclaimer
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Introduction
At some point in your life youve probably come across an advertisement which makes large promises about increasing your success with women. In fact, the majority of the products in this niche make you think that their system is the only one that can help you improve your dating success: Discover the Seduction Inferno-Get Laid Now! system! Inside this top-secret course, youll learn everything there is to know about seducing and banging any girl you meet. For the low low LOW price of $19.99, well reveal the real truth about women and what it takes to get into their pants! Even if youre the ugliest guy around, youll have the type of women thatll make you the envy of all your friendsetc, etc The simple truth is the Internet is filled with companies that all make guarantees about their product. (Ill even admit that I made a few promises in the salespage of my product). The truth is almost every seduction system youll encounter will give you the guarantee that their system will work for any guy- Even someone who wasnt born with good looks or a naturally attractive personality. So why do companies make statements like this? Well the truth is they say it because its actually true! While goodlooking guys have an initial advantage when it comes to women, the any guy can have lots of success with women. Even if he has a major flaw thats prevented him from doing well in the past!
In fact, there are numerous stories of no so good looking guys dating uber-attractive women. I personally know 3 or 4 men like this. Whats their secret? The first thing that separates these men is they understand the nature of attraction and how it works with women. Next, they have extreme confidence in themselves which helps them project a powerful vibe. Finally, they understand how to use their body language in a way that makes them attractive to most women. And thats what were going to cover in this report. In the next 40+ pages, were going to focus on what I call the seductive body language system. The truth is 90% of what you say to women is done through your body language. If you get it right, you can easily attract them without saying a word. Its my hope that you take the information in this report and dramatically improve the subtle mannerisms that youre displaying whenever youre talking to a girl. By making a few corrections to your posture and non-verbal communication, youll subtly show that youre a confident guy who has always had incredible success with women. Now with that being said, lets talk about body language and why its important
It can tell people youre dominant guy. However, it can also communicate the message that youre a weak, submissive person. Body language includes things like: Eye movement Social and intimate touching Hand gestures Speed, pitch and modulation of your verbal communication Location and proximity of your hands/arms Posture Personal location in relations to others Facial expressions The way you walk
Pretty much everything you physically do involves body language. A guy who is in total command of his nonverbal communication can easily attract any woman. He knows that a simple look can deliver a powerful message thats simply not achievable with words alone. Whats going to be challenging to you is women are 10x more in tune with detecting and deciphering body language cues. Early on in their lives, they learn how to communicate on this level. So your average girl can look at a guy and have an intuitive ability to decipher his moods and general attitude. Your typical guy, on the other hand, doesnt have a developed ability to pick up on subtle body language
signals. In fact, MOST guys were never taught the subtle nuances of how to communicate without saying a word. In simple terms, YOU are at a disadvantage when talking to women. On a subconscious level, most will know if you are OR arent attracted to them. So you must be constantly vigilant about the message that youre sending. One wrong signal and youll hurt your chances with a woman! The good news is body language is like any other skill. By understanding it, you can use it in your favor. By practicing and implementing the techniques in this report, youll develop your non-verbal communication to the point where you can demonstrate the attitude of a Superior Alpha Male without saying much to a woman.
look. This form of communication was a not-so-subtle way to show a woman that her offspring would have the same genetic qualities that made him stand out from other guys. And as we evolved, females would subconsciously look for guys with these qualities. Any guy who lacked them would have a reduced chance of passing along his genes. The body language of early humans is still used today to communicate our social standing. When a man and woman meet, they unknowingly engage in their own specific mating dance. In fact, much of the dating game is done on a non-verbal level. By understanding the specific qualities of body language, you can deliver the same message that helped your predecessors find a mating partner. Now that you understand why body language is important, lets move on to how you can make sure youre demonstrating a confident appearance whenever youre in a social setting
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1 Leaning In
Leaning towards a person is one of the quickest ways to demonstrate a submissive attitude. Its similar to when a dog rolls on his back and shows you his stomach. When you lean into a person, youre surrendering your power and subconsciously giving an indicator that he or she has higher social status. When it comes to women, you have to approach with the mindset that you have an equal or superior social standing. By leaning in, youre sending the message that this woman has a higher status than you. It basically says: You are the leader in this interaction and what you have to say is more important then anything that comes out of my mouth... What you need to do is adapt a very relaxed posture. In fact, I recommend you lean away from the person youre talking to. This is a subtle way to signify youre comfortable with the encounter, and youre not very concerned with the outcome. Now if youre having trouble with hearing a woman, simply speak louder. By talking in a commanding voice, you communicate that youre a confident guy who is used to people listening to him.
2 Awkward Touching
The way you touch a woman can make or break an interaction. (Thats why I thoroughly cover this topic in my Flirt Mastery course). A guy with weak body language often touch women in a way that sends a skeevy, creepy
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message. Instead of attracting a woman, his touch will actually make her feel uncomfortable. Awkward touching should be avoided at all costs. While its important to touch women to build sexual tension, you should do it in a way where its a natural part of a conversation. So never touch her in a way thatll make her feel uneasy or uncomfortable. When you touch a woman, it should be in the right way and at the right time. This means never touching her unless in a nervous or hesitant manner. If youre establishing physical contact like you're asking for her permission, then shell subconsciously pick up on this vibe. So assert yourself, look for an opening, and be deliberate. One of the best ways to touch a woman is to make it part of the conversation. When you first meet her, you should have high energy and talk about fun topics. With this mindset, youre going to create a lot of sexual tension. When you go to touch her, it should be come from a natural extension of the conversation. At first this will be light touching on the arm to make a point or a quick high five. Later on, youll touch in a more dominant manner like hugging and throwing your arm around her. The important thing to remember about touching is that it should be done from a place of high social status. Act like youre comfortable around women and youll deliver a powerful vibe. Now before we move on, let me quickly mention somethingWhen touching a woman, its important to closely observe her reaction. If she seems uncomfortable, then this is a clear indicator that youre being given 14 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
feedback that you are not doing enough to build her levels of interest. Use your touch to calibrate her level of interest. Not as a way to grope or make her feel uneasy.
3 Approval Seeking
A Superior Alpha Male doesnt seek the validation of others. He moves through life without apology. In a social setting, he does what HE wants rather than what others want. The exact opposite of this man is someone who shows approval seeking body language. This is when a guy has such low self esteem that he feels the need to act a certain way in order to be accepted by the group. Without saying a word, hes saying that he needs that validation of other people to feel good about himself. You demonstrate this behavior by doing the following: Leaning towards women Smiling too much Keeping your head down Make yourself physically smaller when in a crowded venue Raising eyebrows to comments Letting others control or dominate the conversation Using self-deprecating humor too much Agreeing with everything a person says
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tries too hard to win the attention of others. They see it as a weak way to show submission to the dominant members of a social group. So forget what you've heard about mirroring or mimicking a persons body language While this might help you during the rapport stage, itll only make you seem weak when you first approach a woman. Instead, get her to mirror your body language! Showing a high social status personality is one of the quickest ways to get a person to follow your lead and make them sync with your mannerisms. You dont want to show too much interest early in an interaction. Rather then demonstrating an approval seeking attitude, you display body language that makes it seem like you dont immediately care about the outcome of a conversation. Face women at an angle, control the conversation, and take up some space. Be the guy who isnt afraid to show a confident, yet aloof attitude when he first meets people.
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Nervous body language can include a number of different actions. Some are pretty minor, while others can be really obvious. Here are some of the more common nervous tics: Licking your lips Playing with any body piercings you have Nervously laughing after you speak Using a pregnant pause like: umm, well, uh or so Clearing your throat or coughing too much Darting your eyes around the room Scratching anywhere Cracking your knuckles (this one really disgusts women) Smacking your gum or chewing loudly
Remember, the Superior Alpha Male is relaxed and at ease during a conversation. Unnatural or spastic body language gives the opposite impression that youre trying to make. When youre in a social setting, you want to monitor your mannerisms and eliminate any of the tics that could be holding you back.
5 A Weak Handshake
Your handshake is a tool that can communicate a powerful message about your personality and who you are as a man. If its firm, then you give the aura of confidence. On the other hand, if its limp or clammy, then youll seem weak, submissive or just plain creepy. While you dont have to give someone a bone crushing handshake, you should make sure that you at can at least 17 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
command attention when meeting a person for the first time. Simply greet people with a firm grip and give a little bit of pressure if youre meeting a man. If its a woman, use the same type of shake without the pressure. And take her whole hand, not just her fingers. A firm, single up and down shake says many positive things about you. Strength, power, confidence, fearlessness, and authority are all communicated through this type of solid greeting. While this might seem like a minor thing, many guys have found themselves in a weak social position by not giving people the proper type of handshake.
6- Being a Follower
You can learn a lot about a guys social standing by where he positions himself when hes talking to others. A leader is someone who is the focal point of the group. Hes the one everyone else looks to for validation and decision making. You can tell a guy is the leader among his peers by the way he stands. The guy in charge will generally be in the center with the rest of the group facing (even slightly) towards him. When he speaks, the rest of the group will listen to what he says. Many guys demonstrate weak body language when they position themselves as follower, not a leader. A woman will often look at a group of guys and subconsciously try to determine their social standing. By hanging on the fringe and following another guys lead, youll demonstrating to women that youre a submissive person.
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When in a group, you must establish yourself as the leader. Position your body in a way that everyone else has to direct their attention to you! If you have to, stand in the middle and lean back against an object. This will force everyone else to face you during a conversation. Furthermore, think about the way you move with your friends through a crowd. A leader is generally the person in front. Hes the one who determines where to go and the path to follow. And if you're ever in a situation where you MUST follow somebody, don't automatically follow their path through the crowd. Choose you own route and say hello to others on the way. Now you arent a follower; you are a well-liked man who takes the time to visit with his many friends. Followers dont attract many women! At best they get the girls who arent wanted by the alpha males of a group. With your social group be the guy in charge. Make the decisions and show the subtle body language that youre used to being in a dominant position.
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If you feel like you are displaying the wrong kind of body language to attract women, here's what you should do: Go out to social venue, and watch the guys with high social status. (Trust me theyll be very easy to spot! Theyre the ones who are surrounded by attractive and interesting women.) Pay close attention to how they act. Look for the way they stand and how they're interacting with others. I guarantee everyone else's body language gives these guys status (in other words, they lean towards him, they look for approval and they're the Betas to his Alpha.) Youll discover these men do very little to give away their social power. Instead, they position themselves in a way that they become the center of attention. Remember body language is an expression of how we perceive ourselves and our core belief system. If you think badly of yourself, then you'll probably project that kind of attitude. Conversely, if you eliminate the behaviors I discussed in this section, youll develop a powerful mindset which will help develop a confident attitude around women.
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I. No Need to Please
The mark of a true Superior Alpha Male is the ability to avoid seeking the approval from others. Unlike most men, this guy has enough confidence to never display behaviors that indicate a low social standing. He concentrates on what he wants and doesnt really concern himself with the behaviors of others. This is the essence of the no need to please attitude you should demonstrate in a social setting. My advice is to always hold back on giving approval to a woman until she does something that warrants your attention. This shows the woman that you need to get to know her better, and that you arent too eager. As the 21 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
conversation progresses you can you start to open up and adapt a more interested posture. You can demonstrate a no need to please attitude through your body language. While you want to be fun and have high energy in an interaction, you dont want to show that youre overly interested in a girl. Ive found you can quickly show this attitude (and build some serious sexual tension) by doing a little push-pull with your behavior. One minute youre having fun and laughing. Then youre serious when she says something that might disqualify her from your attention. Here are some subtle ways to show this behavior with your body language: Furrow your eyebrows Look around as youre talking Give her a not convinced expression Keep a straight face Lean away from her
Remember you are trying to appear nonchalant, not rude! You want to make her work a little for your attention, but not act in an insulting manner. No movements, a subtle lack of interest, and a straight posture are enough to keep her interested in winning your attention. This behavior should say that you are secure in your abilities and don't have anything to prove. You're indifferent to the outcome of this conversation. If this woman doesn't to be with you, its no big deal. You are a man with options. 22 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
Furthermore, the confident guy is not afraid to take up a lot of space. He spreads out and needs a lot of room to stand. Be like this guy by widening your stance. Anchor yourself to the ground and command your space! You dont have to be physically large to have a big presence. Women are drawn to men who boldly assert themselves. The will not be attracted to men who withdraw and let others to intrude in his personal space.
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So always take your environment into account and make the appropriate adjustments! Establishing strong eye contact with a woman is a hard thing to do at first. Because youre pushing the limits of social norms, you may feel a bit awkward. You want to do it in a confident manner, but also avoid the creep zone thatll scare her off! To avoid coming off as the weird guy, practice maintaining eye contact with women. Make a game out of making connections to the people you encounter every day. You don't even have to engage them in conversation. Just lock eyes with women and hold it for a brief second or two. Youll find that many will be lock eyes back on you and give signals that theyre interested in you approaching them!
Arms swinging from the back and shoulders, not from your elbows Butt tucked into to propel you forward
The essence of a good walk is a relaxed, but confident attitude. You dont want to do anything thatll make you seem weak. This can include mannerisms like slouching or drooping your shoulders. It should be similar to the way you stand Walk with purpose and confidence! A good walk tells people that you have a sense of purpose, but youre not too concerned with getting it. This is a crucial attitude to portray when you are approaching a woman. You want to seem confident without too excited. I recommend you analyze the way you walk. If youre not displaying many of the traits that I describe, then work on these problems areas. A great way to improve your stride is to carefully study the body language of confident people as they walk. Politicians, actors, and rock stars know how to move. By studying and mimicking their behavior, youll adapt a type of movement thats very powerful around women. Another thing is an attractive walk begins with a strong core. One of the quickest ways to improve your stride is to work on your abs, obliques, lower back. Extra crunches at the gym will strengthen your midsection and cause you to stand taller and move with more power. The Superior Alpha Male isnt afraid to take his time to get places. Furthermore, he has a confident gait in his steps which give off a powerful sense of presence. Making small adjustments to the way you walk can have a profound affect on how youre perceived by women. 26 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
V. Always Be at Ease
A Superior Alpha Male should be comfortable in all situations. To make this happen, you need to ensure that your body language gives off an aura of relaxation. Even when meeting a woman for the first time, you want to act in a casual manner, like the outcome of the conversation isnt that important. In other words, lean back, widen your stance, and take up some space. A relaxed attitude is hard thing for many guys to learn. As weve discussed, neediness makes your average guy too outcome orientated. Often hes so obsessed with trying to pick up a woman that he forgets to relax. The successful men are the ones who understand the nuances of a social interaction and can maintain a casual look. Unfortunately, its hard to demonstrate a relaxed look if you dont feel that way. You cant fake this attitude. While you might think youre behaving in a casual manner, a woman will easily spot your anxious attitude. A quick way to develop a relaxed state of mind is to use the affirmations that we discussed in the Superior Alpha Male report. These daily reminders can do wonders for building a more relaxed appearance around women. For instance, here are some affirmations that you could successfully use: I am relaxed in all situations I am not concerned with any drama I am confident no matter what happens I am calm even when others get upset, worried or angry
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A relaxed attitude is another crucial part of being a Superior Alpha Male. When you display this attitude, youll subtly demonstrate that you can handle any sort of problem that might arise.
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Now there is a disadvantage to smiling. While women love guys with a friendly demeanor, they dont want to be around the grinning fool who wont stop smiling. You want to approach with a friendly attitude, but lower it after a few minutes of conversation. Then use it whenever you adopt a playful attitude. The expression on your face should make you appear to be fun. Not like some creepy dude who cant stop smiling!
her level of interest. By invading her personal space, youre testing to see if shes interested in being kissed. If a woman allows you to run your hands along her neck and hair, then this indicates shes ready to be kissed. Another way to communicate sexuality is through the pace and tonality of your voice. When you first meet a woman, youre going to display the fun attitude thats attractive. But after build attraction and qualification, you want to slow down the cadence of your speech. A slow, but deliberate way of talking is an excellent way to show theres a high level of sexual chemistry between the two of you.
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Furthermore, the leader controls the location and speed of an interaction. He doesnt wait for a woman to make a move, hes the one who grabs her hand and moves her to the place he wants her to be. You can demonstrate the leadership by where you place your hands. A guy in control simply puts his hand on a womans lower back and guides her to an appropriate spot in a venue. Hes always in front, and grabs her hand when moving through a crowd. Men often make the mistake of hoping a woman will be the first to make a move. Dont be one of these guys! You can control most of the interaction by stepping up and being the guy who takes command. Youll find that doing this every time is a great way to turn an innocent conversation into something more
IX. Playfulness
Never be the guy who sits sullenly in a bar, hoping a girl will notice and approach you. This brooder personality doesnt attract women. Usually it makes you become the invisible man in a room full of singles. Instead of being the quiet guy in the corner, you want to become the playful person that everyone wants to meet. From the moment you walk into a venue, you want to be the guy who is laughing and enjoying a good time with his friends. Your attitude should be so energized that strangers want to join your group, because you seem like youre having the most fun! Instead of being overly concerned with meeting women, direct your body towards your buddies and simply have fun! Then when you spot an attractive girl (or group of girls) you approach without hesitation. 31 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
Sidebar: One technique that I use for a quick opener is to have fun with my friends for a few minutes. Then pull out my digital camera, and ask a nearby girl to take a picture of me and my friends. Once Ive started the conversation, Ill do light teasing and even promise to take a picture with her When youre around your friends and enjoying yourself, people will take notice. Just relax and have fun. This kind of casual body language is very attractive to women. Women directly correlate fun to feeling sexy. If she sees you laughing and having fun, youll tap into the emotional, pleasure center in her brain. So no matter what you feel like inside, always project a fun attitude when around women. Leave the sullen or boring behavior for home. Youll be surprised at how faking a fun time will actually help you enjoy yourself.
X. Teasing Women
Treat a woman like shes an interesting person who is bothering you. One of the best expressions Ive heard on this technique is to think of her as your bratty little sister who wont leave you alone. This is a great mindset to have because youll project a confident aura where youre not really afraid of what she thinks. Your body language should project this vibe when youre interacting with women. The attitude to have is youre enjoying a conversation with a woman, but teasing her at the same time. In fact, one of the quickest ways to
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initially break the touch barrier is to do it through the frame of teasing and playing around. So while youre saying something, you punctuate your comments with some form of physical contact. Here are some of the things that I recommend you do while verbally teasing a woman: Poke her Hug her Pull her towards you then push her away Squeeze her knee Tickle her
This type of body language is a great way to build sexual tension. Sometimes your saying nice things, then youre teasing her. And sometimes youre giving physical validation then youre pushing her away. Now, youll often hear a woman say stuff like Stop that! or Youre such an asshole! If this is done with a smile or laughter, then you know its time to pay attention to her body language, not her words. On the other hand, if she appears uncomfortable, back off and try something else. A womans non verbal communication is the clearest indicator of a womans thoughts. So pay attention to how shes acting, then directly respond to these cues
XI. Be Dominant
Demonstrating high status body language is not just about teasing a woman or acting funny. There are times when 33 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
you have to show the strong, masculine side of your personality. On a subconscious level, women love to feel safe and protected. With your body language, you can show a woman that youre able to be the guy that protects her. Being dominant is not about acting like an obnoxious, chauvinistic pig. Its more about controlling interactions and subtly showing that youre a guy who can protect women. One way to do this is to do the same things that a gentleman would do. For instance, heres what a dominant male would do around a woman: Position himself to the outside of a curb when walking down a sidewalk Hold a door for her whenever entering or leaving a building Put yourself in front if a dangerous situation happens Guide her through a room with your hand on her lower back Offer his arm to a woman whenever walking to a place Open her car door first
You might think this behavior is kind of antiquated. And thats the reason why its so effective. Modern society has created a ton of confusion about individual gender roles. By behaving like a guy who can take care of a woman, youll stand out from the rest of insensitive assholes of the world. Sometimes youll get a girl who gets really uptight about this chauvinistic attitude. This is actually a good thing! 34 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
Any woman who gets upset over a bit of gentlemanly behavior is someone you probably wouldnt want to date. Therefore, acting in a dominant manner can help you eliminate the girls who would probably turn out to be nightmare to date!
Raising eyebrows to comments Letting others control or dominate the conversation Using self-deprecating humor too much Agreeing with everything a person says
Next, you want to practice minimizing the behaviors that project a low social status attitude. Usually this is the tendency for guys to wait for a specific response whenever they say something funny or make a comment to women. Waiting for a reaction from a woman is one of the quickest ways to show a definite lack of coolness. A lot of the material that I cover in my Flirt Mastery course is designed to help you get an emotional response from women (happiness, laughter, anger and jealousy). The problem lies in being too concerned with a womans reactions whenever doing a routine. A Superior Alpha Male doesnt worry about the reactions from others. He primarily does things to amuse himself. To show a cool vibe with your body language, you want to makes sure youre not acting too concerned with how other people act. In a way, a dismissive, egotistical stance can make you seem like youre confident to not care about what others think.
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both attitudes at the same time without sending a conflicting message A high energy, but cool guy, has fun when he meets people. He engages women in a conversation, tells interesting stories, and is out to have a good time. However, he never seems to really care what people think. When telling a story or showing something to a girl, it almost seems like hes there to amuse himself. So you can be both fun and relaxed at the same time. It all comes down to not really caring what others think. A high energy guy attracts women like a magnet. He is the guy who can bring the party to a group of people. He has the attitude of knowing hes fun and can generate that excitement when talking to people for the first time. With women, you want to use your energy levels to improve their state of mind. If theyre down, then you want to bring them up. And if theyre already in a happy state, youll make them even happier! The energetic guy is someone who enjoys providing value to everyone he meets! Now, theres a rule of thumb for the amount of energy you demonstrate. It should be directly proportional to the environment youre in. In a loud dance club, its important to have extremely high energy. This will help you stand out from the pounding music and flashing lights. However, if you want to meet a girl in a coffee house, then you should reduce your energy level. You dont want to approach somebody and come across as a crazy speed freak. The best thing to do is to meet someone at their energy level or slightly higher. This will help you act in a fun manner, without seeming like a lunatic. 37 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
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At your side In front of you and part of the conversation With a drink in your hand
Or if all else fails Hooked into the front belt loop or over your belt buckle, fingers splayed and pointed towards your crotch. (This is the stance of a guy confident enough to demonstrate sexuality)
Theres another critical ingredient to where you should places your hands. You never want to position in a way that has your arms folded across your chest. This is probably the most common way of showing discomfort and unease. Almost every person in the world knows that a person with arms folded is uncomfortable or bored. I have a recommendation for this dont do it! Folding your arms across your chest is one of those little, but crucial, body language mannerisms that can hurt your success. If you want instant improvement with women, then I suggest you actively monitor your behavior and see if youre folding your arms across your chest. If you find that youre doing it, then immediately stop! If you have to, put an item in each hand, so theres no way you can fold your arms.
While they might be having fun, theyre not showing this attitude to the people around them. A frown (or lack of expression) basically tells people that youre not a fun person worth knowing. A smile can have an amazing effect on people. This positive facial expression can send a powerful message to the people you meet. It tells them that youre happy to see them and youre enjoying yourself. At the right time, a smile can make someone feel special. This is an emotion that you want to create everywhere you go. My suggestion is to practice smiling at every person you meet. This includes friends, co-workers, strangers, and even the cashier at your local McDonalds! While you might think this is easy, its actually a lot harder then you would think. Most people arent used to smiling at strangers. But I promise that giving a smile to everyone you see can dramatically improve the way others treat you! A dazzling smile is probably the best way to attract a woman. If you don't smile naturally, take the time to practice it. Its an incredible tool that can be your secret weapon. By following this recommendation, youll develop the habit of smiling as a reflex every time you approach a woman. Finally, I want to quickly discuss one of the sticking points when it comes to smiling. Some guys have physical problems with their mouth (like stains on their teeth or bad breath) so they avoid smiling.
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In my opinion, theres no excuse for not smiling. If you have a busted grill, then do something about it! Brush 23 times a day, floss and regularly use breath mints. If you have permanent damage to your teeth, then go to a dentist. Never let an easily fixable problem prevent you from attracting a woman.
you try this simple exercise. Spend one day making eye contact with every woman you encounter. Do what I suggested before and hold it just a little bit longer then most guys would. When you do this enough, youll train yourself to give women a powerful gaze!
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Am I demonstrating any approval seeking behavior? Am I giving off the right kind of energy? Am I demonstrating a relaxed vibe? Am I being a fun guy?
With this evaluation, youre quickly monitoring your body language then making the appropriate changes. Doing this on a regular basis can have an amazing impact on how youre perceived by people. Eventuall, youll arrive at the point where you wont even think about what to do. Your body will do it naturally! Now before we move on, I want to emphasize the importance of not obsessing over your body language. While you want to monitor your behavior, you dont want to overanalyze it to the point where you become an emotional basket case. Fix what you can and then move on! If you still have problems, even after doing this exercise, then you might need to get some outside help. An easy way to evaluate your body language is to ask for the opinions from the people you trust. Get your friends to give their honest (even brutal) opinion about your nonverbal communication when youre in a social situation. Furthermore, you can try teaming up with a friend who is also interested in improving his dating skills. After going out, the two of you can give constructive criticism to each other about the mistakes youre making. Finally, I have another quick fix way to improve your body language. You can try my movie technique. One night when you go out, pretend that a camera is constantly recording all of your actions. Go through the whole night 44 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
behaving as if many people are watching your every move. The sensation of being closely monitored, even an imaginary one, will help you identify specific body language that you would like to change. Your body language can communicates all the traits that women find attractive. When you monitor and make adjustments, youll dramatically improve the message that you send women. So do the exercises I discussed in this section and youll experience a dramatic improvement to your body language!
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1 Your Speed
Guys often show their anxiety and nervousness by talking too fast during a conversation. The Low Status Males have a tendency to talk to women in a rapid-fire manner. This is usually resulted from a feeling that they have a limited amount of time to impress a woman. So they feel the need to talk fast as possible to cover the important things. Unfortunately, rapid speech doesnt help you demonstrate a confident personality. It usually comes out as a garbled mess that women find hard to follow. When talking to a guy like this, a woman is often left with her head spinning. 46 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
A confident speech pattern is slow and clear. A guy who talks this way doesnt fly through his conversation. Instead he knows the things he says are interesting, so he isnt too concerned with taking some time. One of the best ways to develop this type of speech is to monitor your speed. Youll find that many times you talk too fast, especially in an uncomfortable social environment. When this happens, make it point to cut your speed down to about half of what it normally would be. Furthermore, another great technique to try is the deliberate pause. This is a conversation tactic where you purposefully stop the conversation right before you say something interesting. Its a powerful way to get a person to hang on your every word. Plus, a little suspense goes a long way. You want a woman to wonder what youre going to say next!
2 Your Volume
The volume of your speech is another way to demonstrate your level of confidence. A Superior Alpha Male speaks loudly because he knows people want to hear what he has to say. Conversely, a weak guy tends to have a soft, low voice. Now in order for you to build attraction through your conversation, you have to be heard. If your voice isnt loud enough, then youll quickly lose interest from women. This is especially true when it comes to noisy venues like bars or clubs.
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Since you generally have to talk over ambient and competing noise, its important to become comfortable with speaking in clear, commanding voice. You may feel uncomfortable speaking this way, but trust me; you will be quickly ignored if you try to engage a woman with a soft meek voice. Try practicing at home by reading from a book. You want to carefully read the words and speak in loud voice in a natural manner without shouting. A quick tip is to pull the air from your diaphragm, not your chest.
3 Your Modulation
A monotone voice can quickly put a person to sleep. A great example of this can be seen in the movie Ferris Buellers Day Off. In one funny scene the teacher (Ben Stein) puts his entire class to sleep with his monotone, boring voice. Dont talk to people like a robot! Nobody wants to listen to a voice with no emotion or passion. An expressionless voice does little to attract attention. Its actually one of the quickest ways to demonstrate that you probably live a boring existence. To develop a more interesting speech pattern, you have to learn how to modulate your voice. To do this, you practice using your voice to express different emotions. This can include humor, anger, sadness, and happiness. Furthermore, try fluctuating the volume and speech patterns whenever telling a story. A great way to learn how to modulate is to listen to a famous comedian or radio personality. Youll hear how 48 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
they can express a wide range of emotions through the power of their voice. Record some of these guys and then practice the way that they speak. After awhile, youll learn how to develop a rich voice thats full of interesting nuances.
4- Your Pitch
Women go crazy over a deep voice. Now, most of us arent blessed with a powerful voice. But it is something you can develop. Through a bit of practice, you can learn how lower the pitch of your voice whenever in a social interaction. The trick to deepening your voice is to speak directly from your diaphragm, not your throat. You should pull all your sound from your core. Take deep breaths and imagine the air being pushed out from your lower stomach. This is similar to the training that they do in the military. Youre simply developing a commanding voice without taking any sound from your throat. To practice this technique, place the palm of your hand on your diaphragm and speak. If you feel that the sound is coming from your throat, then youre doing it wrong. You want to feel a vibration emanate from your chest. Keep practicing till you can consistently pull sound from your diaphragm.
Some Examples
Its been said that one of the physical traits that woman likes in a man is a masculine voice. The problem its hard to describe what this sounds like. So, my best advice is to listen to the men who have a powerful way of 49 Distinctive Advantage Marketing
speaking. For instance, here some men who are widely regarded as having attractive voices. Winston Churchill Barry White Barrack Obama James Earl Jones Sean Connery Howard Stern (and many other radio personalities)
Each of these men have trained their voice to provide a soothing sound to the listener. I recommend you listen to audio recordings of these guys and see how they use all four elements that I discussed in this section. Youll find each one of them talks in a slow, deep manner that uses a wide range of emotion!
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Conclusion
Well weve the end of the Seductive Body Language report. I hope you learned something about communicating with women on a non-verbal level and why its important for creating attraction. Just remember that 90% of the message you send women is done on an intuitive, level where you dont have to speak a word. So if you want to project a confident, masculine attitude, you have to ensure that your body language is telling women the right things. By following the advice that I outlined in the book, youll have a powerful demeanor thatll attract women, on a subconscious, yet primal level! Good Luck!
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