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Authors
Bryan Bayer, AMP co-founder
Decker Cunov, AMP co-founder


Note: This is only a partial version of the full
"Connection Toolbox: The Top 12 Practices For Deep
Connection"

When you order the full Getting Her World Program, youll receive the remaining 6
practices:

* Get Shared Reality
* Reference Earlier Theme
* Set Context
* Play a Game
* Explore Dissonance
* Genuine Curiosity

For more information and to order, go to: http://GettingHerWorld.com



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Like an NBA basketball player drills on the basics to make art in the moment, or a
martial artist trains in particular moves, these Connection Practices are your chops
for creating deep connection and rewarding interactions.

As you practice your chops, youll find yourself putting these pieces together, doing
combo-moves, and eventually weaving them like a symphony, and as they become
second-nature to you, youll find yourself making ART in your interactions!
THIS IS AN OVERVIEW, NOT A COMPREHENSIVE MANUAL

I could write for days about these practices, but the bottom line is that most of this
stuff is NOT best learned from reading about it. Read through the practices, pick a
couple to explore for a few days, and give it a shot even if youre not completely sure
how it will land, and then adjust from there.

But first, Im going to share with you an article I wrote a couple years ago for our AMP
Inner Circle Members that demonstrates several of these practices in a fun
interaction I had with a woman at a house party.

Im sharing this story with you to show you:

1) How these Connection Practices apply in a real-world situation even with a
woman whos pretty feisty!

2) That this isnt just a Decker-only skill I didnt always relate to women like this,
but I learned it, Decker learned it, and YOU can learn this, too.

And since Im an uber-geek about this stuff, Ill break down the stages of the AMP
Holarchy and the AMP Connection Practices as they come into play during the
interaction and note them in Blue.
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At a house party I noticed a woman -- she was petite, small features, short curly brown
hair, and cute but looked tense and hard somehow.

We happened to make eye contact, and I found myself playing with her wordlessly,
making faces at her, exaggerating my expression, while maintaining eye contact

Me: <solid eye contact> Hi!

Her: >defiantly> Oh, you dont wanna have a staring contest with ME Ill win.

Me: <eyebrow raised> Oh yeah?



And so it begins we square off, and sure
enough, this girl can hold her own.
[Connection Practice: Playing a Game]

I step closer to amp up the intensity, so were
almost nose-to-nose now, full, unblinking eye
contact, in silence I can feel people in the
party out of the corner of my eye starting to
look at us, like, What are they DOING?


After about 30 seconds, Im feeling tired of this challenger gameIm ready to
change things up a bit.

Me: <gently> Im noticing I want to feel more of a connection with you, than
competition with you (Express a Desire [Integrity])


Her: <suspicious, defiant, still holding eye contact> What do you mean?

Me: <pausing to enjoy her defiance> (Embrace Resistance [Appreciation])

Me: Well, It feels like were two plus signs <feeling the sensations of tension in my
body - Speaking the Moment [Presence]>

Me: And Im wanting to feel more of a circuit of connection
(Express a Desire [Integrity])


Her: <nodding, slowly, eyes still narrowed. This chick is HARD>


Me: So I could soften, and be more yin, more receptive <doing this as I describe it,
softening my eyes, inviting her into me Im going to make MYSELF vulnerable, to pave
the way for more connection Share Vulnerably [Wholeness] -- Im enjoying myself,
and the challenge>


Her: <nodding slowly, suspicious/defiant>

Me: <smiling now> cause youre SURE as hell not gonna let go (celebrating her
resistance to opening upthis is fun! - Embrace Resistance [Appreciation])

Her: <face tightening into a tense smile> Damn straight!

<Im laughing at first, then feeling into her softer now>

Me: Oh, I see the times when youve let someone in youve been hurt. (PRESENCE,
APPRECIATION of Shared Humanity between us Offer Reflection [Appreciation])

Her: <lips pursed, nodding, through a tight jaw, face flushing now> Multiple times.

Me: <Nodding, feeling her> So youve hardened yourself with a shell

<shes softening now, involuntarily, struggling, nodding>

<Im totally with her now, very soft and present with her, allowing myself to be
impacted by her>

Me: to make sure it never happens again

Me: WowI can feel you softening now it feels really good (Share Impact
[Appreciation])

Her: Stop it! <tears starting to well up, looking away, struggling to contain herself>

<Im slowly, with regard, smiling gently, enjoying herputting an arm out, around her
shoulders, to bring her in for a reassuring hug>

Me: Its beautiful, your opening (technically not owning my truth, but this is just
what came out)

<Her eyes really tearing up now, pushing me away angrily, but conflicted, half-
heartedly>

Her: STOP IT!

Me: <pausing, checking, feeling her, staying with her> Do you really mean that?
Seems to me you WANT to be seen (Exploring Dissonance [Integrity])

Me: <feeling into her, really starting to see her world> But its scary

Her: <nodding, wiping a tear away, then, almost suddenly catching herself, and
hardening, angrily> I dont even KNOW you. Why the hell should I trust YOU?

Me: <eyebrows raised, pausing> Good question. Youve got no reason to trust me, do
you? We just met. (APPRECIATION & INTEGRITYRemaining Composed, being a YES
to her test/resistance Embrace Resistance [Appreciation])

Her: <IMMEDIATELY relaxing> Whoah. Youre good. Every other guy Ive said that to
argues with me, tries to convince me why I should trust him <pausing, looking
closer at me, REALLY engaged now> Who ARE you? Where are you from?

<Im remaining silent now, smiling broadly now, REALLY enjoying this interactionloving
how things are unfolding>

Her: How old are you? Im probably too old for you (shes getting a little wound up,
not quite sure what to do with herselfits adorable)

Me: <putting a hand out, taking her wrist, to ground her a little bit> Lets slow down
for a moment, and just breathe together for a second (Offer Direction [Integrity])

<snip>
We had a fun adventure from here on out

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Plus, we've gone meticulously through every segment of the Getting Her World
Program and listed examples of where each of these practices is demonstrated, in the
moment, with time codes. So if you're looking to train in a particular practice, you can
simply skip to those spots and watch example after example.


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My friend and former AMP Facilitator Guy Sengstock is fond of saying, You cant see
your own eyeball.

The power of Offering Reflection is that we get to give someone the gift of themselves,
through our eyes. Its a generous way of living in the world.

Man, theres a lot that I could say about this practice. Ill cover some of the main
points:
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Offering reflection can be confused with giving compliments, and theyre very different
in that theres no inherent EVALUATION inside of offering a reflection, as opposed to
compliments, which are generally positive. Whereas the goal of a compliment
Youre great Youre pretty You are very generous is usually to make someone
feel good, the goal(more an opportunity, really) of Offering Reflection is to have them
feel uniquely seen -- and to speak to the deeper layers of BEING, to that persons
ESSENCE.

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This is an excerpt from a blog post written by a girl who Id recently met -- she calls me
Caleb for anonymity purposes. It demonstrates the power of Offering Reflection over
Giving Compliments:
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"You have the most beautiful eyes, DOES NOT BEAT:

"You know what I like about you. You have no filter. You say what you want to say
and it's not awkward or mean. It's just what you want to say." THIS is what Caleb
said.

"Your skin is like...porcelain," DOES NOT BEAT:

"Have you always been this innocent? This full of wonder?" THIS is what Caleb said.

Written down--maybe the innocent thing sounds cheesy, untrue, a ridiculous
exaggeration. But honestly, I am innocent. I am full of wonder. Despite all the men,
despite all the threesomes, despite the recent broken heart, despite the BDSM and
the orgies and the strapons--I'm innocent. I'm full of wonder. I look at this world I'm in
and created for myself and I'm like--ahh. Wonderful.

These are things that Caleb said. Because he was responding to what I was giving him.
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Its not so much the words as the flavor behind the wordshopefully this helps clarify
the tone of Offering Reflection



Offering Reflection isnt inherently positive or negative Ive offered reflection that
most people might consider negative, yet they felt seen, and we felt closer as a
result.

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You know, my experience of you is that you have no morals. It seems that theres a
part of you that actually doesnt care about ANY of this. And while that has me
concerned about whether you have my best interests in mind, I also find you incredibly
trustable, because since you ARE so unplugged from needing anyone to feel good
about you or to like you, it frees you up to say WHATEVER is really true for you and
THAT is something I find really trustable about you.

So, as you can see, it doesn't have to be all positive. And you can see that I mixed in
Offering Reflection with Sharing Impact they go really well together.

There are different types of offering reflection, as well. Here are a couple:
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Emotional-Summary Reflections Feeling into the emotional sentiment behind
someones words, and offering the emotional summary of what theyre sharing.

Example: Someones talking fondly, longingly about their deceased Dad, sharing story
after story the Emotional-Summary Reflection might be, What I'm getting is that you
really love and miss your Dad...

This is powerful for helping people bottom-line what they're trying to say, and reflect
that back to them so they know you get it.

Acknowledgement An acknowledgement is an especially powerful type of reflection,
often woven in with the practice of Sharing Impact the impact and contribution that
theyve had on you and your life. In our AMP/AuthenticWorld community, we often
honor people at their birthdays with an acknowledgement circle, where we share our
experience of them, and who they are for us in our lives.

Example: Garrison, I want to acknowledge you for the idea for Getting Her World, and
your level of attention to detail that has it being as professionally produced as it is.
Even as I feel crazy when we spend too much time working together, I've really enjoyed
this project with you. I feel honored to have worked with you on this, and proud to have
you and this program represent us and our work.

And, there are more types Speaking The Moment is specific practice thats a form of Offering
Reflection as well

Regardless of the type, one important consideration about Offering Reflection is this:
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Be open to being totally OFF about their experience, and willing to co-explore it with
them. If their experience REALLY doesnt match yours, this is where the practice of
EXPLORING INCONGRUITY is useful (covered later in this guide)
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I find myself Offering Reflection ALL the time, with lots of people in my life. My friend
Kal has even commented on it, offering ME the reflection that I tend to Offer Reflection
a lot! !

And, one of the super-powers of our AMP Intensives and our unique circling
methodology is that we offer a LOT of reflection. This tends to take people deeper into
their OWN experience, and deepens the level of trust between us when they know that
were tracking what its like to be THEM, and they often feel safer to go much deeper
than they otherwise would.
GOES WELL WITH OTHER PRACTICES:

Exploring Incongruity
Sharing Impact

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In the bonus video, Intersubjective Meditation Practice, Garrison and Bodhi (one
of our AMP women) go deeply into Offering Reflection, Sharing Impact, Exploring
Incongruity, and Speaking the Moment, facilitated by Decker an awesome
example of these practices.


Other good examples:

In Segment 18 of Getting Her World Decker tells Karina, Youre like most
guys dream girl. And goes on to share why

In Segment 4, Decker reflects to Jennifer his experience of how she tends to
override her resistance at times

Other Examples:

Karina segment 3 (0:54), 4 (0:53, 1:03, 2:11) 5 (0:55, 1:51), 6 (1:23), 7 (1:04), 8
(2:05), 9 (3:00), 11 (2:57), 14 (0:56), 15 (2:54), 16 (0:57, 1:58, 2:23, 4:35), 17
(0:38, 1:45), 18 (0:24, 2:27), 19 (0:41), 23 (4:24), 24 (3:03, 5:11), 25 (0:44), 27
(4:10, 5:33), 32 (4:38), 33 (3:05), 36 (4:10)

Jennifer segment 1 (4:41, 14:06), 2 (1:11, 1:28), 3 (:20, 2:36), 4 (:37, 1:16,
2:57), 5 (4:05), 9 (1:13), 10 (2:54, 5:43), 18 (3:20), 21 (2:45, 4:18, 7:12)

Kendra segment 2 (1:02, 1:18), 4 (2:11), 5 (0:53), 6 (3:44)



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Ok, this one is key, which is why I made a whole video about it on the blog --
http://blog.gettingherworld.com/?p=15

When youre getting another persons world, youre asking questions (often lots of
them), to clarify and flesh out what their world is like. Whenever I do this with women
Ive first met, they sometimes get a little bristly, like, What, are you trying to
psychoanalyze me? And while I might joke with them at first (Embrace Resistance,
right) Yes, Im checking to see how crazy you are, if theyre still wary, Ill Share My
Desire that my reason for asking questions is that Im wanting to understand what
its like to be them

Its actually two parts

The first part is being willing to ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE IMPACTED.

This means being willing to feel what shes feeling. Embrace intense sensations and
emotions (the FULL RANGE) actually LEAN INTO THEM, relish them, savor them
retrain your habitual patterns of recoiling from intensity (whether its to plow through,
dissociate, or withdraw) learn to stay present with intensity.

The second part is to SHARE THAT IMPACT

As I mention in the video, this is an important part of balancing the relationship
between you and the person whose world you are getting. Without it, you may come
off as a therapist, and end up in more of a facilitator role rather than someone youre
co-exploring a connection with.

The steps are listed on the blog post, as I mentioned, and its illustrated with clips from
the Getting Her World Program, so I will only go into them briefly here:

Step 1: Notice What it's like to be with YOURSELF -- what's the flavor? Sensations,
emotions, etc...
Step 2: Notice what it's like to be with THEM -- what's the flavor? Sensations, emotions,
etc...
Step 3: Find the difference between how you feel with YOURSELF, and how you feel with
THEM
Step 4: SHARE with them the impact that they are having on you.
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Ive found that the more I share the impact theyre having on me, the talking about
stuff level of conversation drops away, and in its place is an in-the-moment
exploration -- What am I noticing? What are you noticing? What shows up in the
space of us, together?
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Share Desire (when theyre wondering why youre asking lots of questions ! )

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In the Intersubjective Meditation Practice, Garrison and Bodhi (one of our AMP
women) go deeply into offering reflection, sharing impact, and speaking the moment,
facilitated by Decker an awesome example of these practices. This is an extra bonus
youll receive when you purchase Getting Her World.

Other Examples:

Jennifer segments 5 (4:13), 11 (2:05), 14 (1:40), 21 (0:44)

Karina segments 3 (2:38), 5 (1:05), 6 (1:35, 2:14), 7 (1:16. 1:32, 2:14), 9
(2:32, 3:33), 10 (0:31), 13 (0:19, 1:05), 14 (1:04), 15 (3:05), 22 (0:44), 23
0:44), 26 (2:15), 27 (2:24), 29 (2:03), 30 (1:34)

Kendra segments 6 (6:50, 10:11), 8 (2:45), 11 (2:29), 13 (4:26)


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Whenever her closure/protections/resistance/defenses come up, its often a sign
that she wants to open up deeper, and is checking to see if its really safe to do so.

This protection may show up as testing (jabs, attacks, coldness, defiance, anger,
challenge) or withdrawal and silence.

So, how to respond to it? Well, first, we recommend that you

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If her resistance is coming up, there are more artful ways of dealing with it than
freezing her out -- aka punish by withdrawing attention as some assholish pickup
artist wisdom propagates.


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The practice of Embracing Resistance in this case is to invite out and celebrate the
resistance become a connoisseur of her resistance. Is it more of a tough girl
energy? Or more withdrawn, aloof, cold? Or, is it jabby and abrasive, with an
undertone of You dont really care about me anyway ?

Whats the flavor, the texture, the shape of her resistance?

In any case, theres an opportunity to explore, honor, and acknowledge this protective
mechanism, its here for a reason. These mechanisms are designed to keep us safe,
physically and emotionally, from potentially traumatic experiences.

If we try to convince her, shame/belittle her, plow over it, or somehow get around it,
were shortcutting a massive opportunity for Getting Her World (more intimacy,
connection, juicy depth and richness etc.).

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Her: I dont even KNOW you. Why the hell should I trust YOU?

Me: <eyebrows raised, pausing> Good question. Youve got no reason to trust me, do
you? We just met. (APPRECIATION & INTEGRITYRemaining Composed, being a YES
to her test/resistance Embrace Resistance [Appreciation])

Her: <IMMEDIATELY relaxing> Whoah. Youre good. Every other guy Ive said that to
argues with me, tries to convince me why I should trust him <pausing, looking
closer at me, REALLY engaged now> Who ARE you? Where are you from?


Part of the beauty of connecting in a way that Gets Her World is that if theres
resistance, defensiveness, or guardedness, then THAT is what you connect with her
about an acknowledgement of whats happening, IN THE MOMENT, including
wherever she might be feeling closed, resistant, defensive. See other examples in
Deckers interactions with Karina in the Getting Her World Program
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I find this particular practice really easy, if shes being overtly hostile towards me.
However, if her protective mechanism is one of dismissal or disdain, I tend to get
triggered and reactive, and really have to watch my Composure in those moments.

Deckers the opposite. He can handle a woman being dismissive, but gets triggered if
shes being shaming or hostile. So, it varies from person to person. What is the flavor
of feminine resistance that triggers YOU?

DEMONSTRATED IN GETTING HER WORLD (http://GettingHerWorld.com):

Karina segments 9 (0:18) 11 (1:00) 15 (3:53) 16 1:04) 16 (4:42) 18 (0:57,
2:03) 24 (4:01)

Jennifer segments 3 (0:49) 8 (:43) 8 (1:57) 9 (:36) 10 (1:36) 13 (1:28) 14
(:28, 1:15)

Kendra segments 6 (2:32) 6 (3:13), 7 (3:02), 8 (0:11), 13 (2:50)



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This is a fun one! This practice is about taking the lead, taking her on a ride, making
her feel like a woman, or being the banks of the river for her to flow inside of, to
paraphrase David Deida

For me, this is about checking in with what Im wanting in the moment, then feeling into
her, where shes at, and what SHEs wanting in the moment, then offering a direction
that would have us feeling more love, closeness, connection, joy, aliveness whatever
seems to be called for in the moment.

It may look like

Lets play a game.
Lets take a deep breath together
Give me your hand.
Lets go get some Thai food.
Turn over.
Lets get out of here.

Ive called it Offer Direction rather than Set Direction because at any given moment,
while it may sound like Im issuing orders, Im actually doing simply that offering a
direction, while staying totally open to a different course of action, depending on her
response to what Ive just offered.


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if youre walking down the street together, you can be Offering Direction simply by
steering her aroundI tend to take whatever bags shes holding as were walking
together, to free her up, and then guide us, arm in arm..

Offering Direction wordlessly also shows up during sex, where youre directing her with
your arms, your body, and your breathing

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By vulnerably sharing the intention behind your desire

I want you closercome sit by me.
Im noticing Im wanting to see what happens if we relax out of words for
awhile, and just be here in silence
I want you out of those clothes as soon as possible. Come home with me.
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Ive spent years cultivating this more masculine way of relating, and recently Ive
backed off of it, I realized Id had it as that the guy HAS to be always the one setting
direction and taking the lead but if you listen to the recent interview I did (Getting
Bryans World a bonus for the Getting Her World release), Ive actually had some
pretty profound breakthroughs recently around relaxing into TAKING DIRECTION, being
willing to be led, and letting go of any dogma about how an interaction SHOULD be.

Youll also see Decker be willing to TAKE DIRECTION in GHW when Jennifer ups the
ante (Segment 16) in the Color Echo game Decker initially offers, by suggesting that it
be a PSYCHIC Color Echo Game (much tougher!). And if Decker had decided, No, I
am the man, Im the one whos setting direction, they would have missed out on the
incredible psychic magic that emerged.

So bottom line is, offering direction can be a fun, powerful way of taking the interaction
to new, deep and exciting places but as soon as it becomes dogma (that you HAVE to
do it), its less effective for joy, turn-on & connection, in my experience.
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Own a Desire

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Jennifer segments 5 (3:28), 11 (2:50, 3:02) 20 (0:55)

Kendra segments 13 (0:50, 1:05, 2:45, 6:40)
14 (2:46, 4:05) - playing games, and Decker inviting her to let go and open
deeper a very sweet and powerful pair of segments.


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This practice is often used when she says one thing, but her body seems to be saying
another thing.

Some people would say this is the same as Calling Her Out, or Calling Bullshit, but
one of the principles of AMP is

Own Our Truth: We are not the authorities on another persons experience, only our
own.

So we are staying open to the possibility that we are completely OFF about our
interpretation of their experience. At the same time, were not abandoning or ignoring
our own experience, even if it doesnt match up with theirs.

Calling someones defensive incongruence bullshit is not conducive to inviting out
parts of us that are tender or vulnerable and these are the sweetest places to
explore, in my experience! So, if theres a mismatch between what were experiencing
and what theyre saying, it doesnt mean we let it slide.

It also doesnt mean we have to use NVC (Non-Violent Communication)-style own-your-
experience language, like Im noticing a difference between your experience and my
own. You can put it into common-language. A simple, open-hearted and curious
street-talk, Hmm, that doesnt fit for me can still be a playful way of Exploring
Incongruity, without acting like we know what another persons experience is.

This is a more advanced practice to do artfully, but this is ALSO often where well
discover new things about each other that we never knew before-- exciting places!
GOES WELL WITH OTHER PRACTICES:

Speaking the Moment
Sharing Impact

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Decker and Karina in Segment 9, where hes exploring the situation with the
guy who picked her up in the club, whether she calmly told him, Im going to bite
you

Karina Segment 18, where he explores whether she actually WAS looking
forward to being more available to receive acknowledgements

In the bonus video, Intersubjective Meditation Practice Garrison and Bodhi
(one of our AMP women) go deeply into Exploring Incongruity in part 3 -- facilitated
by Decker an awesome example of this practice.

Other Examples:

Karina segments 5 (2:57) 6 (0:34), 9 (1:53, 7:21), 18 (1:02), 24 (1:38)

(Not much of this practice with Kendra and Jennifer)


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Sharing vulnerably is often used in conjunction with Sharing Impact. Its part of what
balances the interaction from being a one-sided exploration of HER world only

Ive included it as an aspect of Wholeness, because it requires us to be willing to
expose ourselves, and be open to being judged, made wrong, or shamedand this is
made possible through Wholeness --- being completely right with ourselves, and these
vulnerable places.
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Ive found that oftentimes Im content to explore HER world without even going into
mine for a large part of the interaction AND, eventually it seems the conversation will
naturally turn towards, What about you? Ive been doing all the talking here This is
an opportunity for you to bring YOURSELF fully, to meet her (if not go deeper) in terms
of the vulnerability of your sharing with her.
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A lot of what I share in our articles, newsletters, interviews and blog posts are
vulnerable stories about my challenges, edges, and fall-on-my-face failures in fact, I
often open up our AMP Intensive courses by sharing my story of how that bastard
Decker stole the ballet dancer Id fallen in love with. ;) All of this is in support of
creating a space of safety to talk about whats real.

Even at dinner parties or other social situations, Ill share whats most vulnerable for
me at the moment, because it sets the tone for the night that it is actually OK here to
talk about stuff you wouldnt normally be willing to talk about it creates a safe space
for real and authentic connection, that people can step into. A space of, Ok, wow,
theres a lot of places this conversation could go.
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Share Impact
Own A Desire (when theyre wondering why youre asking lots of questions)

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Jennifer segments 3 (1:27, 8:16), 4 (1:52), 5 (0:30), 16 (4:23, 6:10), 18
(0:49)

Karina segments 2 (0:22), 4(0:09), 12 (2:57), 15 (2:47), 17 (1:13), 23
(3:54), 27 (1:35), 31 (0:40), 34 (1:00)

Kendra segments 16 (1:35)


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Share Impact
Offer Reflection
Embrace Resistance
Offer Direction
Explore Incongruity
Share Vulnerably


INVITATION: Pick 1 or 2 of the practices outlined here that appealed to you most,
and take them on for the week apply them in your interactions see what turns
up! If you order Getting Her World, you can post your results on the AMP Dojo,
our interactive learning environment for Getting Her World.



Note: This is an abridged version of the full
"Connection Toolbox: The Top 12 Practices
For Deep Connection"

In the full version youll receive the remaining 6 practices, with examples of
where they show up in the GHW Program, including:

Genuine Curiosity
Reference Earlier Theme
Set Context
Play a Game
Own a Desire
Speak the Moment

And this is one of several free bonus youll receive with your order of the
Getting Her World Program, found here: http://GettingHerWorld.com









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