Small Talk Report

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Social Training Lab presents'

"Small Talk Tactics"
How to Make Small Talk Sexy
and Use it to Create Attraction
in a Woman You're Interacting With

Istoodoutsidethedoor.
Isortofleanedintoittotrytohearwhatwasgoingoninside.Iknewitwaswrong
butIcouldn'thelpmyself.
Finally,Isortofnudgedthedooropenandpeakedin.
Herhandwaslikeabunnyrabbithoppingupanddown.Hispantswerearoundhis
ankleandhehadahugesmileonhisface.Itriedtoshutthedoorquickly,butit
squeaked.
Shejumpedbackstartled.Helaughedandyelled"Shutthedoor."
AsImumbledanapology,Icaughtaglimpseofher.I'llneverforgetthewayshe
lookedatmewithsuchcompleteandutterPITY
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DearFriend,
IhopeIwasn'ttoographicinthestoryabove(butifIwasgobuyyourselfaDr.Phil
book,becauseI'mnottheguytohelpyou.)
Unfortunately,thememoryisstillprettyvividinmymind.InaminuteI'mgoingto
tellyouthestoryandIthinkyou'regoingtolearnavaluablelessonfromit.
AndthenI'mgoingtogiveyousome"Jedisecrets"sothatyouneverfindyourselfin
thesamepositionIdid.Iwouldnotwishthatfeelingofunbearablehumiliationon
anyone
BeforeIgetintothestoryIjustwanttolistsomeofmorecommonadviceyoumay
haveheardfrom"gurus"teachingyouhowtoimproveyourconversations
Talkaboutsomethingyou'repassionateabout
Lookforthingsyouhaveincommon
Makesmoothtransitions
Letherdoallthetalking
Avoidflufftalk
I'mcallingBullshitonEVERYpieceofadvicelistedabove.And I'mcallingBullshitonEVERYpieceofadvicelistedabove.And I'mcallingBullshitonEVERYpieceofadvicelistedabove.And I'mcallingBullshitonEVERYpieceofadvicelistedabove.And
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ThestorythatIreferencedatthebeginningofthisreporthappenedfouryearsago
butitisstillcrystalclearinmymind.
Ihadvisitedmyoldfraternity'shouseinhopesofscoringahotyoungpieceof
collegetail.
AfterfinishingcollegeIhadgoneintoabitofa"slump"withwomenandwas
desperatelyhopingthistrekbacktomyoldstompinggroundwoulddothetricktowards
endingthedraught.
Ihadalsorecentlystumbleduponbookslike"TheGame"and"TheVenusiansArts
Handbook"soIwasprettyconfidentthatIwouldraidthatfrathouseofeveryhornycoed
Icouldgetmygrubbyhandson.
Theentirenightmygameconsistedoftwo"gears."InthefirstgearIwasin"dancing
monkey"modetryingtoneggirls,demonstratemassivevalue,dothe"Jealous-
boyfriend-stealing-ring-around-the-Rosieroutine"orwhateverelseIcoulddrawinto
mymindfromrecentforumpostsandeBooksIhadread.
Thesecond"gear"thatIwouldgointowouldbe"singlefocusedrapport"mode.In
thismodeIwouldfindsomethingIhadincommonwithagirl,andthenproceedtodrill
intoituntilIsuckedthattopiccompletelydry.
BacktothegirlwiththebunnyrabbithandstrokeIreferencedearlier
IfirstcaughtaglimpseofherwhenIwasfillingmybeerupinthekitchen.Shehada
MarisaTomeilikequalitytoherthatIfoundirresistiblycute.
Inoticedthatshewaseatingsomething,somyPUAinfestedmindimmediately
thought"NEGHER!"
SoIsay,"Youmusthavesomeappetite,chowingdowninafrathouse?"
Inthecutestlittlevoiceshesays"Yea,Icamerightfromworkandneededtoeat
somethingbeforeIstartdrinking"
Isay,"Whatyoueating?"
Shesortofflashesmesomeorganichealthnutveggiebarorsomething
Thismustbemyluckyday
IhadbeeninahelluvahealthcrazemyselfsoIimmediatelyfelttheneedto
demonstratemysuperiorknowledgeofhealthfoodproducts
SherespondedjustasIhoped!
Soonwewerethickinthemiddleofapassionateconversationaboutourfavorite
fruitsmoothies,yogatechniques,thebestorganicfibersupplements.Andthenwe
touchedupontheHolyGrailofsimilarinterestsGaryNull.
GaryNullwasahealthguruwithacultlikefollowingandwewerebothmembersof
thiscult.
Ithoughtthatthisbasicallysealedthedealforme
WespentthenexthourtalkingaboutourfavoriteGaryNullbooks,quotes,and
recipesWeboth"scoffed"atalloftheotherpartygoerswhodidn'tshareour
vegetarianidealsAndgleefullymadeplanstosomedaygototheGaryNullcenterin
NYtogether.
WhensheexcusedherselftogoupstairstothebathroomIbeganaskingmyfriends
ifanyofthemhadacondomtheycouldspare.Iputoneinmypocketandwaitedforher
tocomeback.
Shedidn'tcomeback.
AfterabouttwentyminutesIgotalittle"sick"anddecidedtolookforher.Istarted
walkingupstairsandsawherchattingwithoneofmyfratbrothers...
Thisguywasanalcoholic,drugusing,wiseasswhowouldhavelaughedatherif
shetoldhimshewasavegansoIwasconvincedshe'dbebackdowntoher"soul
mate"withinminutes.
Shenevercame.
AfteranothertwentyminutesIstalkedheroutupstairs.
ThatwaswhenIpeakedinthedoor,sawhergivingmybuddyahandjob,andshe
turnedandlookedatmewithpityinhereyes,asiftosay,"You'rereallynicebutI'm
heretoparty,nottalkaboutGaryNullloser."
Icouldn'tfigureitout.Ibuiltrapport.Iwaspassionate.Igothertalking.Andwe
completelyavoidsmalltalk.
Is"SmallTalk"YourMissingLinktoDatingandSeductionSuccess? Is"SmallTalk"YourMissingLinktoDatingandSeductionSuccess? Is"SmallTalk"YourMissingLinktoDatingandSeductionSuccess? Is"SmallTalk"YourMissingLinktoDatingandSeductionSuccess?
Nowyoumaybereallyconfusedasthisprobablygoesagainsteverythingyou've
beentaughtbyvariousdatingcoachesandpickupartistsintheseductioncommunity.
Buthearmeout
Ithinkwecanallagreethatsmalltalkisunavoidable,right?
Infact,myconstantneedtoavoidsmalltalk"atallcosts"wasseriouslydetrimental
tomysuccesswithwomen.
ButI'msayingnotonlyshouldyounotavoiditbutyoushouldEMBRACEIT.
Embracesmalltalk?
Yessir.
HowMastering"SmallTalk"CanTransformYourConversations HowMastering"SmallTalk"CanTransformYourConversations HowMastering"SmallTalk"CanTransformYourConversations HowMastering"SmallTalk"CanTransformYourConversations
andCreateSeriousAttractionWhenYou'retalkingtoWomen andCreateSeriousAttractionWhenYou'retalkingtoWomen andCreateSeriousAttractionWhenYou'retalkingtoWomen andCreateSeriousAttractionWhenYou'retalkingtoWomen
Hereismytake:Awomanwantstoknowthatshecanhavefunwithyoutalking
aboutnothing.Shedoesnotwanttofeelthatwhen"GaryNull"talkendsyou'llbothbe
boredsenseless.Shewantstoknowthatthingswon'tgetweird,becauseyou'reafun
guy.
Andsmalltalkiswhereyougettodemonstrateallofthesethingsawomanislooking
for.
Buthereisthething:
Smalltalkisoneofthosethingsthatcaneitherwinyouthegameordestroyyou
withinseconds.
Ifyou'renotgoodatitandcauseawkwardness,uncomfortablesilence,orthe
dreaded"interviewmode"you'redeadinthewater.
Butifyoucanturn"flufftalk"intosomethingthatisfun,exciting,andplayfulthegirl
willbeputtyinyourhands.
ThebestpartissmalltalkiscanbemadeFARmoreattractivewithanamazingly
smallamountoftime,effort,orenergy.
Itsthewaythe"smalltalk"ispresentedthatmakesallthedifference.Say
somethingoneway,andyouboreherbrainsout.Sayitadifferentwayandsheis
imaginghavingyourbabies,rippingyourclothesoff,orgivingyouahandjobinadirty
frathouse
Hereisthemostimportantlessonyou'lllearnoncreatingattractioninwomen:
HowyouSayItMatters HowyouSayItMatters HowyouSayItMatters HowyouSayItMatters
Bysayingsomethinginaslightlydifferentway,youcantransmuteyourvaluefrom
verylowtoveryHIGH.
WhatdoImeanbythis?
Imeanthatoverthecourseofaconversationcertaininformationneedstoget
passedbackandforthbetweenyouandthewomanyouaretalkingto.
Thisisjustthenaturalflowofaconversation
Evenifthegurustrytomakeyoubelievethatanentireconversationconsistsof
these"stealthattraction"buildingtechniquesthecoldhardrealityisthemostwomen
aregoingtocontinuallydirecttheconversationtowardssmalltalk(that'swhatthey
know)
Soyoucanresistthisandkeepplayingthe"GuesswhatIdoGuesswhereI'm
from"lameevasiveanswersthataregoingtoKILLattractionalotquickerthancreate
it.
EvenworseyoucandowhatIdidwiththe"GaryNull"girlandgrabontoonetopic
andbeatittodeathsoscaredtojumpbackintotheconversationwatersthatyouhold
ontodearlifefortheonetopicthatyoubothhaveincommonIcallthem"conversation
lifeboats"butironyis.Theywillsinkyoufast
Oryoucanlearnhowtoturnyouentireconversation,smalltalkandallinto
somethingthatisfun,playful,andsexy
Thereareahandfulofwaystoturnsmalltalksexy,andIampersonally
FASCINATEDwithfindingthesetechniques,methods,andopportunities.
LetmeshareafewofmyfavoritewaystodothisthatIdiscovered.
Itstakenmemanyyearstofindthese,identifythem,testthem,andcreatesystems
sothatIcanteachthemtoyouquicklyandeasily.Pleaserespectthetimeandeffortit
hastakenmetofindthem

WARNING: WARNING: WARNING: WARNING:
TheseareWeapons-UseThem
WithExtremeCaution
Thisinformationis"JediLevel"training.It'sNinjastuff.
WhatIamgoingtotellyouisextremelydangerousforonebigfatreason:
ITWORKS.
ItworkssowellthatYOUNEEDtobereadyfortheresponseyouaregoingtoget.I
saythisbecausesomanymenthathavestruggledwiththeirconversationswithwomen
arenotusedtogettingapositivereactionandtheyLOSETHEIRSHITwhentheydo.
Bereadywhenyouchangethewayyouconvey"smalltalk"yourconversationsare
goingtotakeonanentirelynewdimension.
It'sreallyquiteliberatingandwhenitfinallysinksinthatyoucanmakesmalltalk
sexyyou'llquicklyrealizethatyouhavethegifttotalktoanywoman,anytime
Andevenifyoudon'talwaysgetthegirl(Anyguruthattellsyouthathismethodis
100%foolproofisLYINGtoyou)youwillALWAYSfindthatyouareabletohaveafun
conversationwithawomanthatleavesthebothofyoubetterthanyoufoundone
another
OK,let'sroll!
AlittleearlierItoldastoryabouthowagirlIhadspenthourstalkingtoditched
me.Togiveanotherguyshemetahandjobwithinminutes.
Answerthisquestion,FAST:
WhatwasMYconversationmissing?
Time'sup.Hereiswhatmyconversationwasmissing:
Sexuality
Thesecondquestionis:Whydidn'tIrealizethis?
Ididn'trealizethisbecauseIhadachievedmassiveRAPPORTwiththegirl.Wehad
connectedonatopicsowellthatconversationwasliterallypouringoutofourmouths
AndformethiswasAMAZING
Mythreebiggestfearsinconversationswithwomenhadalwaysbeen:
1. Runningoutofthingstotalkabout
2. Awkwardsilences
3. Resortingto"boring"smalltalk
SothemerefactthatIhadavoidedallthreeoftheseoutcomesledmetobelievethat
Iwasachievingsomelevelofsuccesswiththisgirl.
Butweallknowhowthatstoryended.
Here'swhy
The#1Mistake The#1Mistake The#1Mistake The#1MistakeMenMake MenMake MenMake MenMakethatPreventaConversationFrom thatPreventaConversationFrom thatPreventaConversationFrom thatPreventaConversationFrom
TurningSexual TurningSexual TurningSexual TurningSexual
Thenumberonemistakemenmakethatpreventsthemaddingsexualitytotheir
conversationis.
.drumroll
FEAROFBREAKINGRAPPORT
Andwhydowefearbreakingrapport?
Becauseweconfuserapportwithattraction
AndtheyareNOTthesamething
We'veallestablishedtheIFUCKEDUPthe"GaryNull"chickintheearlierstoryno
moreusetalkingaboutwhatIdidwrong.
Let'stalkaboutwhatIshouldhavedone
Here'sHowToUseThisInformationto Here'sHowToUseThisInformationto Here'sHowToUseThisInformationto Here'sHowToUseThisInformationto
TurnaConversationSexualRightNow TurnaConversationSexualRightNow TurnaConversationSexualRightNow TurnaConversationSexualRightNow
Nexttimeyou'resmackinthemiddleofaconversationwithawomanyou're
attractedto,stopforamomentandconsiderwhyyou'retalkingtoher.
AndIdon'twantthebullshitanswer.
Iwantthetruth.
YouaretalkingtoherbecauseyouHOPEthatyoucanTALKherintobecoming
attractedtoyouinaSEXUALway...
Andyoucan
Butinordertodothisyou'vegotto
BurnYourShipAndLeaveNoAvenueForRetreat BurnYourShipAndLeaveNoAvenueForRetreat BurnYourShipAndLeaveNoAvenueForRetreat BurnYourShipAndLeaveNoAvenueForRetreat
Leavenoavenueforretreat
ThismeansthatifyourINTENTIONistocreatesexualattractioninawomanyou
havetoPASSTHEPOINTOFNORETURN.
Youhavetobewillingtoloseher
IFAILEDmiserablywiththegirlinthestoryearlierbecauseIwasnotwillingtolose
therapportwehadestablished
butwhatIshouldhaveestablishedwasaSEXUALINTENT
ThefirstthingyouneedtodothisistoBREAKRAPPORTwhenyousensethata
womanisgettingtoocomfortablearoundyou
Sexualtensionstemsfromdesiremixedwithuncertainty,suspense,andevenabit
ofnervousness
Ifyou'reinthemiddleofanhourlongconversationwithagirlabouthealthfood(or
theYankees,ortraveling,oryourjobs)thereisnotension,nouncertainty,no
suspense
Yes,thereiscomfortandrapport
Butyou'vegottoBREAKIT
Soforinstance,ifagirlhasgottentoocomfortablewithyouandshebeginsgoing
intoalongrantabouthowmuchshehatesherjob
Stopherandsay:
IfwekeeptalkingaboutthisImgoingtochargeyou200$anhourfortherapy.Do
youhaveyourcreditcardwithyou?
Bydoingthatyou'vebrokenrapportforaminuteandthrownsomesuspenseback
intotheconversationandyou'vesnappedher"he'ssuchaniceguy"thoughtsinhalf.
You'lloftenrunintothisproblemlaterinthenightwhenyouwanttogetphysicalwith
awomanandhavebuiltuptoomuchcomfortoverthecourseoftheeveningandnow
itseemsthetensionisbrokenandakissseemsinappropriate...
Breaktherapport
AdamLyonsoncetoldmeastorywherehehadagirlbackathisplaceandshe
wouldn'tstoptalkingaboutanargumentshehadwithoneofherfriends.Hewas
sittingtherethinking"howthehellcanIgethertoshutuplongenoughtokissher"
AndheKICKEDHERINTHEHEAD.
I'vedonesimilarthingsIfIsensethatawomanhasbecometoocomfortableandI
can'ttransitiontheconversationtosomethingmoresexual
I'lllookatherandsay,"Don'tyouEVERshutup?"
She'llusuallylookatmelikeI'vejustlostmymind
ButtheTENSIONGOESTHROUGHtheroof.Andrapportisbrokenandfrom
thereI'llgiveheralittlesmilethenlightlypushheraflirtywayandsay"OHDidIpiss
youoff"
AndnowweareFLIRTING.
HowtoAvoidthisintheFirstPlace HowtoAvoidthisintheFirstPlace HowtoAvoidthisintheFirstPlace HowtoAvoidthisintheFirstPlace
We'vealreadyestablishedearlierinthisreportthatyourINTENTIONistocreatea
sexualattractionwithher.
Soletherknowyourintention
Ifyoudon'twantawomantogettoocomfortablewithyouandbeginjustseeyouas
afunguytotalkto.
Don'tgiveherthatoption
LETYOURINTENTIONBEKNOWN
WhenIwastalkingto"GaryNull"girlIneversaidanythingtohintthatIsawheras
anythingmorethanagirlwithasimilarinterestinhealthfood.Sothatisthe"role"she
gavemetheguyshetalksabouthealthfoodwith
Ishouldhavemadeastatementofintentearlyon:
Anexampleofastatementofintentis:(ifsheflashesasmile)Youhaveareally
sexyandmischievoussmile,likeyouretotallyuptonogood.HahaIlikethat
Or
"ThatthingyoujustdidwithyourhairisdrivingmecrazyIactuallywasn'tpaying
attentiontoawordyoujustsaid"
Leavenoavenueforretreat Leavenoavenueforretreat Leavenoavenueforretreat Leavenoavenueforretreat
Onceyouintroduceastatementofintentintotheconversationyoucanreturnback
toSMALLTALKbecausenowunderneaththe"fluff"isanunderlyingTENSIONthatis
building
Ijustsharedwhatisprobablythebiggestmistakemenmakeintheirconversations
withwomen.
Mostmenclingtorapport,sounwillingandafraidtobreakittheysuckeveryounce
ofsexualtensionoutoftheconversation
Bybreakingrapportandusinga"statementofintent"youarebackontracktoget
exactlywhatyouwantoutoftheconversation
Avoidthe"rapporttrap"andincreaseyourchancesofsuccess
NowletmeteachsomeTACTICSformakingsmalltalksexy
Ifyouusethetacticsbelowrightoffthebatyoudon'thavetoworryabouther
misreadingyourintentionsoreliminatingsexualtension
Herewego
Small Talk Made Sexy Technique #1:

Create Conversation Momentum By Using a "Role" Keep
the Conversation Flowing, Make Her Laugh, and Build
Sexual Tension
Answerthisquestion:
Whatdothesethreetelevisioncharactershaveincommon(Ifyoureunfamiliar
withthemgotoYoutubeandwatchsomeclipsofthem)
AriGold: AriGold: AriGold: AriGold:(FromHBO'sEntourage)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVhIFhOT6xc
DavidAddison DavidAddison DavidAddison DavidAddison:(fromMoonlighting)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Uy2PqfnXGs
BarneyStinson BarneyStinson BarneyStinson BarneyStinson(fromHowIMetYourMother)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yg9jjs-o35g
PerformingWithinaRole PerformingWithinaRole PerformingWithinaRole PerformingWithinaRole
Whatthesethreecharactershaveincommonisthattheyareallperformingwithina
narrowlydefinedrole.
Thismeanseveryfacialexpression,gesture,banterline,orbitofsmalltalkcomes
fromtheroletheyareplaying.
Andasamemberoftheaudienceyoucanalmostguesshowtheyaregoingtoreact
toasituation,orwhattheyaregoingtosayinresponsetosomeoneelse
Whatdoesthishavetodowithyou?
InMelvinHelitzer'sbookpopularbook"ComedyWritingSecrets"hestates:
"Humordoesn'tgointoacharacteritcomesoutofacharacter.Acharacterneeds
atrademarkapredictablepointofviewthatdoesnotchange.Withoutashtickthe
performerisjustareciterofjokes.Withitacomiccangetlaughsevenwithmistakes
becauseinaway,theperformeristhejoke.Everysuccessfulperformerincomedyhas
developedatleastonebasicandmemorablecharacter.Notonlydoestheaudience
feelcomfortablewiththis,butthematerialiseasiertowrite."
Thematerialiseasiertowrite
Thinkaboutthesignificanceofthatstatementforaminute.
Thebiggestproblemmostmenfacewith"smalltalk"isthattheyfindthemselves
continuallyrunningoutofthingstosay,orturningtowards"boring"conversationtopics,
especiallyearlyonintheconversationbeforeyou'vebothbecomecomfortablewith
eachother.
ButwhatifItoldyouthatyoucantakeany"boring"topicandturnitintoafunand
exciting,flirtatiousconversationAndhaveanendlesssupplyof"conversational
material"bytakingonaroleofacharacter
Whythisworks Whythisworks Whythisworks Whythisworks
ThinkaboutthethreecharacterslistedabovethesethreecharactersareFUNto
watchnomatterwhattheyaretalkingabout.
Thisisbecausehumoractuallyflowsmorefromthecharacter,theresponses,and
thenaturalinteractionthanfromthejokes.Thismeansthatyoudon'tneedtoconstantly
bethinkingofhilariouslinestomakeherhavefuninfact,thefunstemsfromthe
characteryouareplaying,andyourcharacter'sinteractionwithher.
Thecharacterwritesitself...onceyougetthecharacterdownthenallthefunnystuff
takescareofitself.
Andthishumorthisexpectationofhumorcreatestension.Andasyoucontinueto
buildupthetensionthenreleasebuildupthenreleaseyouslowlybegintocreate
SEXUALTENSION
Butyouneedtochoosetherightroletodothis.
ThesecondreasonIchoseAriGold,DavidAddison,andBarnyStinsonisbecause
theyplaycharactersthatworkwellforBANTERINGwithwomen.
Eachofthesecharactersdisplayaslightdegreeof"mentaldominance"overthe
peopletheyaretalkingto.Andthecombinationofmentaldominanceandbantering=
ATTRACTION.
Whenyouchooseacharacteryouwanttochoosearolethatallowsyoutocreate
attraction.Andcertainrolesworkalotbetterforthat.Herearesomeexamplesofroles
thatgenerateattraction:
Youaredominant,sheiscute
Anassumedpositionofauthority
Herjudge,coach,orconsultant
Thevictimofherseduction
Thecoldguy
Theneuroticallyselfishguy
Ahighmaintenancechick
Mimickingher
TheDevilonhershoulder
Exaggeratedlycheesypickupartist
Heradultsupervision
Sheisusingyouforsex
Eachoftheseroleslistedaboveworksowellbecauseitsortofelevatesyouasthe
guywho"getsit."
Andthemerefactthatyou'veassignedyourselftherole,displaysthatyouarethe
oneincontroloftheconversationandyou'recallingtheshots.
InaminuteI'mgoingtoshowyouexactlyhowtousetheserolestoMAKESMALL
TALKSEXYbutfornowIjustwantyoutounderstandthepurposeoftherole
therolewritesitself...onceyougetthecharacterdownthenallthefunnystufftakes therolewritesitself...onceyougetthecharacterdownthenallthefunnystufftakes therolewritesitself...onceyougetthecharacterdownthenallthefunnystufftakes therolewritesitself...onceyougetthecharacterdownthenallthefunnystufftakes
careofitself careofitself careofitself careofitself
Thisrolesetsthe"frame"fortheentireconversation.Eventhoughyouwillmovingin
andoutofthisrolethroughouttheconversationitisALWAYStheretousewhenyou
sensetheconversationneedssomerejuvenation
Whattodo Whattodo Whattodo Whattodo
Therearethreegeneralrulestotakingonarole:
1. Assumetherolerightfromthestartoftheconversation
2. Owntherole/becongruent
3. Andknowwhentodropit
Basicallyyouwanttoexertfullcontrolovertheroleyoutakeon.Rightfromthe
beginningyouaresortofsaying"thesearetherulestoourconversation"Thisis
CRITICALLYIMPORTANTyoumustestablishyour"characterrole"earlyon youmustestablishyour"characterrole"earlyon youmustestablishyour"characterrole"earlyon youmustestablishyour"characterrole"earlyonifnot,it
willbeweirdifyoubustintoitafter30minutesof"normal"conversation.
Andthenyouwanttoowntherole,andbecongruentinit.ThismeansyouDON'T
backdownifshe"shittests"you.Youdon'twaitforherto"approve"thegameyouset
youjustgorightintoit.
Andfinally,youmustknowwhentodropit.Atsomepoint,afterattractionhasbeen
created,therewillcomeapointwheretheroleshouldonlybeusedverySPARINGLY
becauseifyouneverdroptheroleshe'llnevergetfeeladeepersenseofconnection
withYOU.
HowtoTakeaRoleandUseitRIGHTNOWintheRealWorld. HowtoTakeaRoleandUseitRIGHTNOWintheRealWorld. HowtoTakeaRoleandUseitRIGHTNOWintheRealWorld. HowtoTakeaRoleandUseitRIGHTNOWintheRealWorld.
OK.
Hereisacharacterpracticeexercise:
Imagineaparticulartypeofcharacterthatyoucanworkwith.
Pickoneofthesethree:
1. AnOverlyConfidentPlayboy
2. AHighMaintenanceWoman
3. TheDevilonherShoulder
Onceyou'vepickedoneoftheabovecharacters,getintouchwithhowtheywould
respond,react,whatsortoffacialexpressionswouldtheymake,whatwouldtheirvoice
tonesoundlike?
Asyoureadthis,spendaminutegettinginsidethemindofthecharacteryou've
chosen.BecomehimforasecondwhileIwalkyouthroughthisexercise
YourReactionStemsfromtheCharacter YourReactionStemsfromtheCharacter YourReactionStemsfromtheCharacter YourReactionStemsfromtheCharacter
Now,howwouldeachcharacterrespondtothefollowingthreethings?
1. Sheaccidentallytouchesyourass
2. Shedropssomething
3. Sheasksyoutobuyheradrink
NowIwantyoutobethefirstcharacterandrespondtoeachofthethreethings.
Andthenbethesecondcharacterandrespondtoeachofthethreethings.Andfinally
bethethirdcharacterandrespondtoeachofthethreethings.
Dothisrightnow!
Donotkeepreadinguntilyou'vefinishedthisexercise
Alright
I'mgoingtojustgothroughsomeexamplesofhowyoucouldhaveresponded
completelydifferentlyforallthreeofthesesituationsplayingthethreedifferent
characters
REMEMBER REMEMBER REMEMBER REMEMBER:Sheknowsyou'replayingarolesoit'sperfectlyacceptabletobe
cheesy,exaggerated,andtopushtheenvelopealittle.
Her: Her: Her: Her:(accidentallytouchingyourass)So,whatdoyoudoforaliving?
OverlyConfidentPlayboy OverlyConfidentPlayboy OverlyConfidentPlayboy OverlyConfidentPlayboy:(Staringdownatherhandthatjusttouchedyourleg)I
knowthatmoveyoujustdid(Givingherthe"I'montoyou"look)it'soneofmy
favorites.The'casuallygropethelegwhileaskingaseeminglyinnocentquestion'
ShouldIgothroughthecharadeofansweringordoyouwanttojustdroptheselittle
gameswereplayingwitheachother.
AHighMaintenanceWoman AHighMaintenanceWoman AHighMaintenanceWoman AHighMaintenanceWoman:Ohmygod!!Howdareyoutouchmyass.I'mnot
somedimestoregigolothatyoucanjusthaveyourwaywithhoney
TheDevilon TheDevilon TheDevilon TheDevilonHerShoulder: HerShoulder: HerShoulder: HerShoulder:Justslowlyputyourhandbackonhisasshewon't
noticejustdoitleanoverandshowhimsomecleavagewhyyou'reatitto
MoreExamples. MoreExamples. MoreExamples. MoreExamples.
Her: Her: Her: Her:(droppinghercellphone)
OverlyConfidentPlayboy OverlyConfidentPlayboy OverlyConfidentPlayboy OverlyConfidentPlayboy:Youarejustmakingsureyoutakeeveryopportunityto
showmethegoodsaren'tyouhoney?IdoadmitIappreciatetheeffortyou're
puttingintothiswholeseductionthingmostgirlsdon'ttrythishard
AHighMaintenanceWoman: AHighMaintenanceWoman: AHighMaintenanceWoman: AHighMaintenanceWoman:OhpleaseDONOTthinkyou'regoingtotrickme
intolookingatyourass.IamNOTthatkindofguy.
TheDevilonHerShoulder: TheDevilonHerShoulder: TheDevilonHerShoulder: TheDevilonHerShoulder:He'slookingjuststaybentoveralittlelonger...maybe
throwyourhairbackabitandthenmakeacutesystatementabout'howtipsyyouare'
Canyouseehowtakingontherollofacharactermakesthingsinteresting
andallowsyoutointroduce andallowsyoutointroduce andallowsyoutointroduce andallowsyoutointroducesexytopics sexytopics sexytopics sexytopics
Doyouseehowmucheasieritistocompletelytransformthevibeofsmalltalk?
AndcanyouseehowEASYitistoALWAYSKNOWWHATTOSAYwhenyou're
playinga"role?"Youjustsaywhatyouimagineyourcharacterwouldsay
Justtoillustratethedifferenceuseoneoftheaboveexamples(Herdroppingher
phoneortouchingyourleg)andimaginehowyouwouldhaverespondedifyouwere
justbeingYOU.
Youprobablywouldhavejustansweredherstupid"whatdoyoudoforaliving"
questionandcontinuedalongaBORINGconversation
Butthe"role"youwereplayingallowedyoutoINSTANTLYaddsomespiceand
sexintothemix
Sonowyoucanstillanswerherquestionbutyouwereabletomakethesame
pieceofsmalltalkSEXY.
Small Talk Made Sexy Technique #2:

Turn the Conversation Into a "Game" and Allow The Back
and Forth Interaction Take on A Life of Its Own
Didyoueveramuseyourselfforhoursjustthrowingatennisballagainstawalland
catchingitasitbouncedbacktoyou?
Ornot'steppingonthecracks'asyouwalkeddownasidewalk?
Ortriedtopassasmanycarsaspossiblewhiledrivingonahighway?
Orsitinyourdeskand"ratethedoability"thegirlsintheclassroomwithyouwhile
yourprofessorflounderedthroughatortuouslecture?
Ifyouhavedoneanyofthese
You've You've You've You'vefoundTHEGAMEtomakesomethingboringfun foundTHEGAMEtomakesomethingboringfun foundTHEGAMEtomakesomethingboringfun foundTHEGAMEtomakesomethingboringfun
Wedothisallthetimebecausegamesarefun!
"Findingthegame" "Findingthegame" "Findingthegame" "Findingthegame"
Everyinteractionyouhavewithawomanhasthepotentialforagameandonce
youfindthatgamewhatwaspreviouslyatypical,boringconversation,turnsinto
somethingthatyouapartof
Eitherasteammatesorcompetitors
Justfindsomesimplethinginyourinteractionthatyoucanmakeintosomesortof
contest,andseewhocanoutduetheother.
Everybodyenjoysplayinggamesbecausetherulesaresimpleandclear.
Andjustlikeplayinga"role"thesegamesmakecomingupwiththingstosaya
wholeloteasierbecausetheconversationspringsfromthegame
BeforeIgointosomeexamplesof"games"youcanplaylet'sjustexaminesomeof
thereasonstheyaresoeffectiveatmakingsmalltalksexy
Whydo"games"worksowell Whydo"games"worksowell Whydo"games"worksowell Whydo"games"worksowell
Createsasenseofrapportbetweenthetwoofyou(thegoodkind)
Keepstheconversationflowingsmoothlycreatingtheillusionof"chemistry"
Allowsthebothofyoutoshareinformationthatyouotherwisewouldn'thave
Makesbringinganelementof"sexuality"intotheconversationmucheasier

Focusestheconversationonfeeling,emotions,andobservationsratherthan
facts

ThetruthisSMALLTALKMUSTTAKEPLACEthereiscertaininformationthat
needstobepassedbackandforthbetweenyouandawoman
butjustlikesittingthroughaboringlecture,stuckintrafficonthehighway,ortaking
astrolldownthestreet
SMALLTALKcanbeMADEFUNbyfindingthegame
WhataretheGames? WhataretheGames? WhataretheGames? WhataretheGames?
Basicallyanythingcanbeturnedintoagame.
ButtomakethiscookiecuttersimpleforyouI'mgoingtolistsomeofthemore
popularonesthatsomeoftheworld'sbestPUAsuseonregularbasis.
Eachoneofthesegamesaredesignedtoelicitemotionsoutofthewomanyouare
talkingtoandcreatethefeelingofrapportandATTRACTION.
hereareafewofthefavorites hereareafewofthefavorites hereareafewofthefavorites hereareafewofthefavorites
Theimportantthingtorememberis,justlikewhenusinga"role"youMUSTNOT
explaingames.Justjumpintothem.Startwithfunandhighenergyandgetdeeperand
moresincere.

ThreeQuestionsGame ThreeQuestionsGame ThreeQuestionsGame ThreeQuestionsGame
Asyou'retalkingtoagirljustbeginthisgame
You:"We'regoingtoplayalittlegame."
Her:"OK,whatkindofgame?"
You:"It'sreallysimple.Wejusttaketurnsaskingeachotherquestions...butthereare
rules."
Her:"Suchas....?"
You:"1.)Everyquestionmustbeanswered.2.)Noquestioncanberepeatedand3.)
Yougofirst."
"So,IwanttoknowmoreaboutyouWhatsyourfavoriteicecream?MineisBen
andJerry'sCookieDough"
Tradethreequestionsbackandforth.Youask,sheanswers.Thensheasks
question,youanswer.
Startwithverycommonorveryfunstuff(ex.whatsyourfavoriteicecream?)and
bepreparedtoshareyourownanswertogetitgoing.
Secondquestiongoesalittledeeper,likefondchildhoodmemories.
Thirdquestiongodeep,likelove,relationships,etc.
Sinceit'sagame,shewillhardlyblinkaneyewhenyouask"Wherewasthemost
unusualplaceyouhadsex?"
Youjustsortofgiveherasmirkthatsays,"YeaIjustbroughtitthere"
Unlesssheiscompleteprudeshe'llfollowthepathyoucarved.
Canyouseehowmucheasieritwastointroducesexualityintotheconversation
underthepretenseofagame?
EverytimeIuseitthegirlbringsupsomethingsexualwithin5questions.
Fascinationgame/ILikegame Fascinationgame/ILikegame Fascinationgame/ILikegame Fascinationgame/ILikegame
Thisisanotherexcellentwaytoshareinformationinawaythatisfunandcreatesa
playfulbackandforthvibebetweenthetwoofyou
I'mfascinatedby...
Ilike
Remember,startsmall.Dontgofortheimmediatedeeptopics.Gethertalkingfirst
andgetdeep.
Ex.YouknowwhatIreallylikeaboutNYC?Thebestpizzaintheworld.Youknow
whatImean?WhatdoyoulikeaboutNYC?
Thenonceyou'rewarmedup"Ilikegirlswhohaveakinkyside"
Itisallaboutthe"VIBE"thatgoesbackandforthbetweenyouandthewoman.
Insteadoftirelesslytryingtocreateadeepsenseofrapportsimplyfocusontheback
andforthvibethatisoccurringbetweenthetwoofyou.
Yourinteractionshouldbethecenterofattention.NOTtheTOPICbeingdiscussed.
Irepeat:Yourinteractionwiththewomanshouldbethecenterofattentionnotthe Yourinteractionwiththewomanshouldbethecenterofattentionnotthe Yourinteractionwiththewomanshouldbethecenterofattentionnotthe Yourinteractionwiththewomanshouldbethecenterofattentionnotthe
topicbeingdiscusse topicbeingdiscusse topicbeingdiscusse topicbeingdiscussed dd d.
ThisiswhereIhadcompletelyblownitintheearlierstory.Imade"healthfood"and
"GaryNull"thecenterofattention.Whenthecenterofattentionshouldhavebeenthe
playfulbackandforthinteractionbetweenthetwoofus.
Whatiftheinteractionwiththe"GaryNull"girlwentlikethisinstead?
Me:IlikePeanutbutterfruitsmoothies
Her:IlikeGrahamCrackerZonebars
Me:(highfivingher)MetooIalsoliketakingspontaneousroadtripstoweird
obscure places.
Her:OhyeaWellIlikepeoplewatchingontheboardwalkandlaughingatallofthe
freaks.
Me:Well,Ilikehavingsexonthebeachwhilethefreaksarewalkingonthe
boardwalk.
Her:Ilikesexaftercomingbackfromareallytoughworkoutatthegym
Doyouseehowcreatingagameallowsyoutoelevatetheconversationtoasexual
levelwithinminutes.
Whenyouputsomethinginthecontextofa"character"or"agame"thewoman's
defensegoesdownandshefindsherselfplayingalongBECAUSEIT'SFUN.
Remember,awomanisoutlookingtohavefun.Andquitefrankly,mostguysare
boring,lame,andincapableofholdinganengagingconversation(IknowbecauseI
usedtobeoneofthem)sowhenawomanmeetsaguywhocancreatearelaxed
playfulnessshe'llinstantlyrecognize"thisguysdifferent"andshewillfollowyourlead.
Yes,shewantstofollowyourlead
Shejustneedstobesureyou'regoingtotakeherdownanenjoyablepath

RolePlaying RolePlaying RolePlaying RolePlaying
Whatisaroleplay?
Itiscreatinganimaginaryscenarioandpersonasthatthetwoofyoucancarryout
together.
Let'ssayyou'retalkingtoagirlandyoutellherthatyou'regoingtoItalynextweek
andshesaysjokingly"canIcome"
Insteadoflaughingitoffyouwouldsaysomethinglike:

"Yea,I'llhideyouinmysuitcaseWhenyougetthereyouneedtobemy
paparazzi.I'mgoingtogiveyouacameraandyoujustneedtofollowmearoundthe
entiretimesnappingpicturesofme.AndpointatmelikeI'msomeonefamous.Then
youcansellthepicturestoalocaltabloid-andwecanusethemoneytotakeayacht
downtogambleinMonaco.OfcourseI'llwinduplosingyouinapokergametosome
Iraniansheik"
Youseehowyoujusttookthisabsurdsituationandkeptmakingitmoreabsurd...
Yet,itwasplayful,itprobablyhadhergigglinganditprojectedafuturewherethe
twoofyouwereinItalyandMonoco.
It'sverysimple
Startastoryaboutafantasywithyouandher.Letherfillinsomedetails,and
togetheryoucreateafungamewitheachother.
AndforgodsakesDon'tbeafraidtointroducesomesexualityintotheroleplay
that'sthewholepoint

SoThereYouHaveIt SoThereYouHaveIt SoThereYouHaveIt SoThereYouHaveIt
Someofmyfavoritewaystoaddfun,playfulness,andsexualitytoyoursmall
talkandincreaseyourattractivenessintheeyesofthewomanyou'reinteractingwith
MASSIVELY.Andwhatisgreataboutallofthetechniquesmentionedisthatyoudonot
needtochangewhatyoutalkaboutjustthewayyoupresenttheinformation.
Nowitstimeforyoutogoandimplementthesetechniques,andgetsome
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andsoonyoullfindthatyourecreatingthesortofvibethatwomencraveandyouwill
almostbeabletoseetheattractionglisteningintheireyes

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