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Table Of Contents
Introduction......................................................................................................................... 4
Are You Letting Your Thoughts Control You?.................................................................. 6
You Are Not Your Thoughts! ............................................................................................. 8
A Little On How Your Mind Works................................................................................. 10
Your Will Your Power! ................................................................................................. 13
Your Emotions .................................................................................................................. 16
Who Are You? .................................................................................................................. 19
Happy and Whole ............................................................................................................. 23
Happy and Whole ............................................................................................................. 23
Its Fear That Stops You!.................................................................................................. 25
Final Words....................................................................................................................... 28
Life Coaching.................................................................................................................... 29
An important point to remember! ..................................................................................... 32
Introduction
You can do anything you want!
This is a bold statement and it is true.
The problem and the reason you fail to achieve your potential is
simple.
You dont know how you work. The human being is complex and
there is much more to you than your physical body. In order to
master life you need to know how you work. In other words you
need access to the secret techniques that govern existence and how
to use them.
A special note if you run a business.
There is a mass of information in the world on how to succeed in
running your business. All businesses are just a collection of
systems. In my experience working with hundreds of people who
own businesses, it is the human element that lets down your
business systems. When you understand how you work you will
understand how others work. You will see why your business and its
systems arent at their potential. When you see, you will be able
to implement changes that explode your profits to higher
levels.
This e-book is a collection of extracts from my Key To Life and
Spiritual newsletters. This e-book will give you a basic
understanding of how you work. For a full and detailed explanation
refer to my Key To Life Manual, found here:
http://www.KeyToLife.info
Remember you can do anything you want. Just learn how, you
work!
People often do not try; your fear of failure often holds you back.
Subconsciously you can say to yourself that you did not fail.
However lack of failure does not mean success.
Overcome your fear:
9 Set your own standards don't let others make your choices.
9 Don't try and be perfect at everything, it's unrealistic and will
rob you of your enjoyment.
9 Go head on, do something that you like, yet fear. Start small.
9 If you think you have failed treat it as a learning experience,
you can learn a lot from your experiences.
The first step in making a positive change in your life is being aware
of what you think. This sounds easy but how many thoughts do you
have each day? I have heard the figure 'fifty thousand' quoted. It
is very hard to be aware of all your thoughts; some are so quick
and habitual that you can easily miss them.
Once you start to consciously 'catch' your thoughts you may be
surprised at how many negative thoughts you have. You may even
be shocked at some of the thoughts you have.
Where to start? Next time you are not happy. Take a look at what
you are thinking. Just think about something that makes you happy.
It's that easy. The past and the future do not exist.
Live in the present moment and create your own uplifting thoughts.
Enjoy life rather than constantly thinking about it.
When you actually take the time to catch one or more of your
thoughts you discover something amazing. Did you notice that
when you do this there are two of you?
If you have gone through this process you must now acknowledge
that there is someone there that actually does the catching as
opposed to the thinking.
Who is doing the catching?
The answer to this is rather complex and to long for this short
article. It is instead contained in The Key To Life Manual.
The manual has all the answers and the techniques that enable you
to radically change your life for the better. I urge you to go to the
web site http://www.KeyToLife.info and find out more now.
Setting goals is not a new concept. All successful people have used
the concept of goal setting. However less than 3% of the western
population set and write their goals.
Setting a goal is putting a new image of what you want into your
subconscious.
Lets say you are overweight and you want to be slim. You need to
do the following four things.
1. Set the goal. (I want to be slim)
2. Be specific with the goal. (I want to be 70kg.)
3. Write an affirmation. An affirmation is a statement of intent and
must be written in the first person, present tense. A statement of
intent has more impact if you add emotional words. (I am a
stunningly slim 70kg and I look wonderful.)
For a full and detailed explanation of these three things and the
fourth and final point please refer to the Key To Life Manual.
Youll also find a full and detailed discussion on the two things
that stop you using one of the most magical sources of
creation - your subconscious mind.
The first of these is if you look for the how. The how is never
apparent otherwise your goal is too easy. The second thing that
stops you is requiring proof before you act. Proof means you have
no faith. Without faith you cannot harness your subconscious mind.
It's your thoughts that create your goals and targets whether you
consciously have a part in them or not.
Remember we have already covered that the average person has
50,000 thoughts per day. That's about 2 thoughts per second. Most
people are only aware of a few of their thoughts.
Here's the important bit. Every time you do NOT follow through and
attain your goal you are weakening your personal power.
Every time that you follow through you are strengthening it. The
first thing to do is to be conscious of what you promise yourself and
other people. Don't promise too much.
I know, I am an advocate of shooting high when it comes to goal
setting. However if you consciously examine your thoughts I believe
that you will find you are promising too much.
You need to focus on less to achieve more.
Here's are some easy examples,
1. A gentleman I know wants to exercise more. He has trouble
exercising once per week and he has many late nights. He sets
himself a target of a grueling workout every morning before work.
It never happens but he continues to set this goal.
2. A salesman I met believes that he can earn a fortune selling his
product. He has a small, established client base and has trouble
making cold calls. Everyday he promises himself that he will make
30 phone calls. His best day so far is two.
3. I have a client that is disorganized; he has hundreds of small
jobs to do. They are not high on his list of priorities and they never
seem to get done. He promises himself everyday that he will
clean up. He never has time.
Your Emotions
Emotions control your life. They are an inexplicable force that you
have to deal with on a daily basis.
Think of your emotions in terms of energy currents. Imagine an
energy field around you, which changes shape, color and texture as
your emotions change. In spiritual terms this is called your astral
body. Some people call this your emotional body or energy field.
Generally, your emotions serve your personality or your ego. If you
wish to achieve a measure of personal development you must learn
to master your emotions and not be ruled by them.
This personal development is one of the first steps on the spiritual
path of initiation and is also known as spiritually evolving. The goal
of our personal development is to exercise control of our emotions.
Energetically this is like calming the stormy sea and symbolically,
emotions are represented by water.
This doesn't mean that we do not 'feel' or that we should 'shut off'
as many people do, on the contrary the only way to master your
emotions is to get closer to them and actually find out what you
really are feeling.
Your emotional needs are often manifested in physical form. A
simple example would be; eating, many people eat too many
sweets. Sweets are often used as a reward by parents or eaten at
celebrations and may be associated with happiness.
People who are not happy have a subconscious craving to eat
sweets. Emotions control this behavior.
Take jealousy for instance. This is based on the fear of losing your
partner. It also has it's origins from the incorrect assumption that
you posses your partner. This shows up as issues of self worth and
it means that you are comparing yourself to another person and
judging yourself as less.
Envy is another negative emotion and again the origin is fear. The
focus with envy is on what we are lacking. What you are really
thinking is "The other person has what I want" This is based on one
of two ideas;
There is not enough for everyone and I might be inadequate or I am
not happy with my situation or myself. This manifests with you
launching an attack or belittling the person or object of your envy.
Statements such as "I didn't want that anyway" "That's no good
because..." mean you are focusing on what you don't have. Change
your thoughts; focus instead on what you do have.
Once you are aware of the mechanics, which come into play when
your negative emotions are aroused, you have come a long way.
What is required to finish the task at hand is a willingness to
confront yourself. Remember, when emotions are raised in YOU,
that is the signal for you to look inside.
A common trap along the way is failure to look at yourself and
instead look to the other person involved. This means you are not
taking responsibility for your self.
You need to shift the focus back onto you. If you are really
interested in working with this concept you need to take a look at
the Key To Life Manual. It teaches you the techniques that enable
you to take responsibility and change your life for the better.
Your identity serves you because you believe that that's all there is.
Ask someone, "Who are you?" You are likely to get an answer such
as,
9 "I am a Writer"
9 "I am a Lawyer"
9 "I am a Basketballer"
9 "I am a Catholic"
People answer with what they do and associate with. Not with who
they really are. The identity that you create and hold onto also
encompasses certain traits. These traits are learned responses to
stimuli that you have encountered.
If the behavior you choose is deemed to be self-serving at the time,
your ego adds it to its repertoire and a habit is in the making. Your
Lower Self behavior usually serves your subconscious desires and
needs. These needs are essentially physical and survival based.
They are based on you moving away from fear.
Imagine a shop-aholic who spends all his/her money. They have to
have all the latest clothes no matter how expensive and how many
other clothes they have to wear. They do this to the detriment of
the other parts of their life, perhaps they run up huge credit card
bills as is common.
The fear in this case may be that they would not be accepted, their
ego tells them that if they have the latest fashions then they will be
accepted. The extent to which this is played out is dependent on
how much control their ego has.
Imagine an angry driver who abuses other drivers for driving too
slow in front of them. This may be a fear of arriving late for work or
an appointment. The anger is their ego enforcing right of way by
intimidation and aggression.
Suppression gives away your power. When you give your power to
others it enables them to have undue influence over you. When
people have too much power and influence over you and
subconsciously you are not doing what you want, you feel helpless
and victimized. This causes you to be frightened and angry. Anger is
a symptom of your loss of power.
The easiest way to suppress feelings is to medicate. Drugs including
alcohol and the use of food are popular methods employed.
Emptiness, boredom and disease are the results of this process. Not
doing what you want means you are not nurturing yourself this
again may manifest in the abuse of food, alcohol or sex. The
substance or behavior becomes a substitute for nurturing.
2. Love yourself and accept yourself as you are.
You need to accept yourself and to love yourself as you are today.
All of us have thoughts and feelings and everyone has, or has had,
what they consider 'bad' thoughts. We have all done things that we
are ashamed of.
There is both positive and negative in you. This is also known as
light and dark. You must acknowledge and accept your dark side to
become whole. No matter what you have done in the past you can
change your behavior today. It is pointless to wallow in your
feelings of guilt as this is based on the assumption that what you
did was wrong. Your behavior always has a positive intent for you,
at the time.
There is a great self esteem exercise that is very quick and simple
to do.
It enables you to dramatically improve your Self Love, Self
Esteem and Self Acceptance.
It can be found in the Key To Life Manual along with the other two
things that you need to do to be happy and whole.
When success finally comes you move from an old pattern that has
held you back, to a new pattern. This can create emotional
turbulence in the lives of those around us.
It is important that you understand that you don't have to hold
yourself back to protect the self-esteem of others. You have a fear
of your own greatness and you can read more about it in the Key To
Life Manual, along with two other major fears that prevent you
moving forward.
Final Words.
"Fear is not of the present, but only of past and future - which
does not exist."
A Course In Miracles
Life Coaching
Life Coaching is a special relationship between you the client and I
the coach. As a coach I help people from all walks of life and each
relationship is different. I guide you in stages at your pace and I
offer you a non-judgmental point of view. This allows you the
recognition of your own enormous potential.
The result is that you achieve your objectives much faster than if
working alone. I assist you in finding happiness and a fulfilling
stress free lifestyle.
Coaching involves weekly sessions, either in person or over the
telephone. (You can be anywhere in the world and I can ring you)
I do things a little differently to other coaches some people say I
am a little psychic. (Youll have to wait and find out about that one!)
Coaching is about Action! Putting into practice what you learn.
Here are nine ways you can benefit from my coaching sessions.