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your curiosity towards the other person. This is then taken care of by
acquiring more information about the other person.
Lets base this theory by inflicting the story of how the usual boy meets
girl works, using the scenes in the romantic comedy drama, Crazy
Stupid Love (2011).
Jacob (Ryan Gosling) and Hannah (Emma Stone) met in a club when
Jacob tried to flirt and seduce Hannah similar to what he did to other
girls. This womanizer always succeed on getting his one night stand with
women. In the case of Hannah, he didn't, which made him ask cognitive
question on who this woman is. Hannah's deviance, her rejection to his
never-turn-down proposal, was what made him eager to know more
about her. There was also anticipation of future interaction, similar to
what Griffin said. His strategy to reduce uncertainty about Hannah was
an active strategy: observing the target.
Hannah, on the other hand, had a different motive in mind. The reason
she got back to Jacob, after turning down his preposition, was that she
wanted to accomplish a stated goal. After being angry from her false
hope towards another guy, she was wanting to try something she never
done before, which is to form a relationship based on their physical but
not on trust. That was her motivation to search for information. She
made herself ask behavioral questions, on "what would happen if or
what should i do". Hannah, on the other hand, uses interactive strategy:
talk directly to the target. Another strategy is passive, asking others on
the target, which not used here.
Once they got together, the supposedly be one-night-stand thing, end up
being something different. Self disclosure happened and then uncertainty
reduction happened. They came from being strangers, to lovers. How do
they get there? It's because of how they are now more certain on the
other individual.
During their "self-dislosure" phase, they followed through Berger's 8
different axioms, to reduce uncertainties.