what you want or what you feel. Session objectives By the end of this session you will be able to: • differentiate between aggressive, passive, assertive behaviours • Give examples and find ways to demonstrate assertive behaviour If you are assertive you can, •Express negative feelings appropriately •Express positive feelings •Make a request politely •Say NO when you are being pressurised The Power of Communication • Verbal elements 7%
• Vocal elements 38%
• Visual elements 55%
Competition in behaviour
• I win - you lose
• I lose - you win
• I win - you win
Have you got that? • Shuffle the cards • Deal out amongst the people on your table • In turn, read out the situation on the card. Is this: – Aggressive behaviour – Assertive behaviour – Submissive behaviour (passive) Recognising behaviours 1 Assertive 2 Submissive 3 Aggressive 4 Assertive 5 Submissive 6 Aggressive Five steps to assertive behaviour • Listen • Show you understand • Say what you think and feel • Say exactly what you want to happen • Work out a joint solution Now, over to you… • Pick a case study • PREPARE – work out what you think and feel, and what you want to happen • Play it out with a colleague – have someone else watch to give some feedback • Someone else have a go • Do it all over again How was that? Every Person’s Bill of Rights • The right to be treated with respect • The right to have and express your own feelings • The right to express your opinions and values • The right to be listened to and taken seriously • The right to set your own priorities • The right to say ‘no’ without feeling guilty • The right to ask for what you want • The right to ask for information from professionals • The right to make mistakes • The right to change your mind • The right to decline responsibility for other people’s problems • The right to choose not to assert yourself Summary • Assertiveness is a learned behaviour, not an instinctive one • The objective is to achieve a win:win outcome • Use the five steps for basic assertion • Practice, practice, practice • Remember your rights and the rights of the other person