Can I Just Hold You Down?

Trust. What is trust? What is a relationship without trust? From my experience, I learned that if
you cannot trust your partner, then there is no point in continuing the relationship. It is destined to be
doomed, sooner or later.

I mean come on, are you willing to make a lifelong commitment to not only this person but to
the dreadful and painful task of keeping track of them and their activities on a daily basis. This involves
going through their personal space and items such as their cell phone, computer history, or even their
purse or wallet. How fun is it to question everything your partner does. Want to play mother or father? I
doubt your other half signed up for that when he or she decided to be with you.

If you have difficulty trusting someone, do not waste their time. Sure we’ve all had bad
experiences with ex’s such as cheating or lying and that is probably why we are so hesitant and
untrusting. But you know what, get over it. Everyone is different. Don’t hold your new partner
accountable for past happenings. That is just unfair and you are preventing a possibly wonderful
relationship from developing. You are holding your partner down and at the same time holding your
happiness back.

Remember, sleep is lost when there is no trust! It makes you worry to the point where you just
wish and even try to keep your partner near you at all times. Can’t we just watch them like a guard dog?
How attractive is that. What we just do not realize is that we will never know EVERYTHING that is going
on in their life. It is impossible and unnecessary. Therefore, the appropriate thing to do is trust that
when your partner is out and about and stumbles upon a snake, they will make the right decision and
fight the snake, kill the snake, or just simply run away from it. Fight or flight response of relationships.

Holding your man or woman down so tightly can only end up negatively. Give them room to
breathe. Distance remains a healthy factor in a relationship. Sure your partner sees how dedicated you
are to the relationship. But enough is enough. Your partner can only stand this for so long. This no trust
thing is a lead to jealousy and if you are overreacting and demonstrating constant jealousy, then it won’t
be long before the unfair accusations are acted upon. You think possessing this attitude makes he or she
want to be with you more? I don’t think so. When you look at a jealous person you automatically notice
their lack of confidence and their beaming insecurities. Who wants to fall in love with someone like
that?

If you want your lover closer to you then act oppositely. Show them that you trust them and
remain calm when they go out. They will admire it and have so much more respect for you. The urge to
be unfaithful won’t even be there. What for? The perfect partner is waiting at home. Lastly, don’t worry
yourself so much. Believe me, if something IS going on, it will be revealed on its own without you having
to play investigator. When someone is doing wrong, it is only temporary and then it ends one way or
another. Just enjoy your relationship and live in the moment.