The Care and Maintenance of Master/slave Relationships Introduction Thanks to Viktor & DsF for inviting us Feel free

ree to ask questions Hoping for lots of audience participation Really should be a panel discussion My opinions only, they do not reflect on the group This weeks opinions catherine has not been given an assigned role, but she has been told she may interject her thoughts and comments freely, as well as answer questions. About the topic We are not therapists Not relationship counselors Perception that D/s relationships tend to be short-lived Might be true but So are most vanilla relationships Doesnt have to be that way About us: Names Affiliations DsF MAsT TES LSM NYFssF D/s Brunch Bunch How we met Time together Transition from internet to real life Club-going Change of focus to D/s and structure rather than S&M and play Then married Issues surrounding getting married Sir Stephen catherine What contributes to longevity in a relationship? First and foremost longevity needs to be a stated and agreed upon goal Structure time and activities to achieve this goal Communication Initial D/s negotiation Rules Rituals

 Protocols Create space for on-going communication Example: weekly chats Caring Not necessarily romantic love Care of and for property Many ways to show caring: Show appreciation for things well done as well as Correction for things done poorly Punishment for wrong-doing Care of and for Owner Give good service, whatever form the service takes: Sexual Bottoming Food preparation Bookkeeping Chauffeuring Take your reward from the service, not the praise, there should be no expectation of praise. Attention to the critical M/s elements of the relationship Such as: Structure Dominance and submission S&M play S&M in our relationship Humiliation Face slapping Needle play Etc. Takes work: Keep the focus on them, keep them invigorated We regularly review rituals, rules and protocols to see if they are still fulfilling their purpose and giving us gratification. If not, we revise, add and delete. Remain creative Remain flexible Impediments to longevity Failures in the above Over-investing in our lifestyle roles Masters are no less Masterful for listening to their slaves slaves are no less submissive for letting their needs be known

However, do not relinquish your role Masters want slave, slaves want Masters Masters still make the final decisions slaves gratification should come from the attention the Master pays in listening and considering their needs not in acquiescing to them. Questions