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AFFAIR-PROOFING YOUR MARRIAGE
Ten Values That Build Strong Families- Part 7
Oct. 10-11, 1992 re!eated 9"12"9#$
%e&ised as Values7 Purit'.doc ("2)"97
+hen you see off) ra,p -.o /ot 0nter-
Ho1)feel2 -Restrictin ,y free3o,-
For your pain444 or protection2
5o3 has lai3 out 10 ui3elines for your life4
) These rules for your o1n oo36
) !lay 'y rules) you 1in6 / 7nore ) suffer4
Toda'* 7th +
,othing destro's a -amil' -aster than adulter'.
So .od sa's* /0odus 20*1)
5o38s -fa,ily protection plan-
Mention -a3ultery- ) 'rins up painful ,e,ories/sha,e
1erent sure you 1ante3 to co,e6
o purpose /9T to resurrect your past
o 7f confesse3 : chane3)you8re fori;en6
o .ont let Satan $eep con3e,in you6
o To3ay< focus on the future)
5o3 is no $ill=oy6 Re,e,'er he in;ente3 se(4 +hat)reat 5o36
>ut all ifts ,ust 'e controlle3<
o .od made 1ater* satis-' 'ou or dro1n 'ou
o ....Fire- 1arm 'ou " 2urn
F&%T< &ny healthy hu,an ,ale coul3 easily populate a s,all to1n
if left unchec$e34 So 1e ha;e to stop hi,6
5o3 1ants se( < a tool for 'uil3in your ,arriae)not 3estroy it
?se it / not a'use it6
%/34 5/B. 1#*)
3gree* /asier to get married than sta' married6
) per,issi;e ;alues of our society
) constant 'o,'ar3,ent 'y ,e3ia
) se( is use3 sell e;erythin
) entertain,ent 1orl3)o'sesse3 1ith se(
) ,ore 1o,en in 1or$force
) a;aila'ility of 'irthcontrol
Rea3er .< 50@ hus'an3s 35@ 1i;es
0;en a,on %hristians444
So Aay an3 7444
753T +38S/S 3FF39%S6 Mention *
:3dulter' is a tra!...: !r4 22<1* B5/C
+hy are so ,any fallin into this trap2
o 8nmet needs) Aay 1ill ,ention these
o 8n-ul-illed e0!ectations
&// #&/.0RS) sur;eyD 1E0D000 rea3ers
E2@ -3isappointe3 in se( life-
Ma=or reason) Holly1oo3 has sensationaliFe3 se(
: la,ouriFe3 a3ultery4
rarely sho1s the li;es it 3estroys
>y ti,e)teenaer) o;er 100D000 se(ual liasonsB T"C
92@ outsi3e of ,arriae) o33s stac$e3 aainst
o 8nresol&ed con-lict
So,eti,es se( is use3 as a 1eapon to retaliate
o 8nde&elo!ed sel--1orth
The root cause< a search for sinificance : security
7f you nee3 to pro;e your ,asc/fe,)) 5R9+ ?!6
99. 5O7 +3, 9 3FF39%-P%OOF ;< ;3%%93./6 = ste!s...
1. ;3>/ 3 +O;;9T;/,T TO .O4?S ST3,43%4
That ,eans aree 1ith 5o3 ) a'out 1hat he says4
5o38s stan3ar3 has ne;er chane3< Se( is for ,arriae only6
none 2e-ore marriage" none outside o-44
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5o38s stan3ar3 is ;ery clear) &4 is /0"0R an option4
?n3er /9 circu,stances444 no =ustification444
7##< Aose!h ha3 e;ery reason to i;e in44 'ut 3i3nt
)78, youn : sinle444 forein country
)alone : no one 1ill $no144accepte3 in this society
) 78;e 'een a'use34 Mother 3ie3 1hen 7 1as youn
) 9;erin3ulent father/ 'rothers hate3 ,e
9nstead* :9 1ill not sin against m' .od: Turned B ranC
- >ut ,y ,ate is not ,eetin ,y nee3s- /o e(cuse6
19E5) Aay 'e3fast 3urin prenancy)
She coul3nt ,eet all of ,y nee3s4 >ut no e(cuse to sin6
7ssue you ,ust settle< &, 7 ,ore co,,itte3 to 3oin
1hat 5o3 says 1ill ,eet ,y nee3s ) or 3oin 1hat 7 thin$ 1ill444
P%OV. (*1( .,$) not a -suestion-
7 reco,,en3 you pu'licly affir, 5o38s stan3ar3
1st* to mate)
-Rear3less of 1hat you choose to 3oD 7 1ill /0"0R444-
2nd* to e&er'one else around 'ou
o -7 inten3 to 'e faithful to ,y 1ife- -hopelessly in lo;e-
o #et there 'e no)3ou't 1here you stan344 7 a, not a;aila'le6
o -.ont e;en thin$ a'out flirtin 1ith ,e-
Ha3 Aay ans1er suesti;e letter
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P%OV. =*#2 .,$
/othin 3a,aes the e,otions li$e se(ual sin4
The scars are per,anent4 The sha,e 1ill not o a1ay
The sense of loss affects e;eryone in;ol;e3
o -7 1ish 7 coul3 role the cloc$ 'ac$-
o 5o3< -'etter to lose an eye44 than perish44
P%OV. =*2= .,$ 0sau sol3 'irthriht) for a sinle ,eal
Many sell out their li;es for a sinle ,o,ent of pleasure
Gour se( 3ri;e ) 3yna,ic 444or 3estroy you
Fact< /o ,atter ho1 ,uch it costs you to sa;e your ,arriaeD
the price of a3ultery is al1ays hiher6
/&er'2od' losesC .od 1ants to s!are 'ou this !ain
Testimon'* 78;e 'een ,arrie3 17 yrs : 'y 5o38s raceD
,y 1ife is the only 1o,an 78;e e;er $no1n4
&n3 'y 5o38s race444
78;e resol;e3 to 'e faithful to her for ,y entire life4 75<6
14 7 #9"0 H0S?S %HR7ST4 -7f lo;e444$eep co,,an3s-
24 7 #9"0 MG +7F0 : A7.S) to hurt the,)un'eara'le
34 7 F0&R 59.8S H?.5M0/T) Bthat8s healthy6C
5/B. 1#*)2- this is serious 'usiness4 Bthe %rossC
.9/T A7. G9?RS0#F< Gou 1ill not et a1ay 1ith it4
5o3 says ) you 1ill pay for se(ual sin
Fran$lyD 78, 1orrie3 a'out &,erica< ST?.G) of EE past ci;iliFations4
-& ci;iliFation 1ill en=oy either reat acco,plish,ent : enery or
se(ual pro,iscuity4 >ut it can8t en=oy 'oth for ,ore than one
eneration4-
7f schools tauht 3ru e3uc4Ithe 1ay ) se( e3 pass out nee3les
an3 sho1 ho1 to shoot up4 Maic H4 is no hero4
#. ;39,T39, ;< ;3%%93./ BAayC
& ro1in relationship 1ith your spouse re3uces the pull/attraction of
a3ultery4 The person 7 trust ,ost to tal$ a'out this is ,y o1n 1ifeD Aay4
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(. ;39,T39, P%OP/% %/@3T9O,S59PS BAayC
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.on8t place yourself in sit4 1here you coul3 'e te,pte36
3 1ays<
1. %ecogniFe the Gind o- situations. that stimulate"tem!t 'ou*
1 +O%. 10*12 @B$) >e alert6 >e 1ise6 >e a1are6
Ano1 the early 1arnin sins of te,ptation
so you can 'ail out early4
Myth< -7t coul3 ne;er happen to ,e- /o one i,,une6
Fact< 5i;en the riht circu,stance444
o 9ne of the reat threats to your ,arriae is 'us4 tra;el4
Satan 1or$s o;erti,e 1hen you are a1ay fro, ho,e4
Gou 1ho tra;el) 7 un3erstan3 the pressure/ 'een there6
) &lone in a strane city444lonely ,otel roo,44 1ho8s to $no12
so,e steps 7 ta$e<
14.ont tra;el alone) ta$e a co,panion
24 !ut up a picture of fa,ily in ,otel roo,
34 Ha;e the ca'le channels 'loc$e3)state,ent
*4 %all your fa,ily e;eryniht
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2. +hoose 'our -riends care-ull'C 1 +O%. 1(*##
+ell 3ocu,ente3) ,ost affairs occur 'et1een couples 1ho are frien3s4
;aGe sure 'our closest -riends- strongl' committed to their
marriage
#. /sta2lish !rotecti&e guidlines. ;3@. 2*1(
9ffices are ripe for 'u33in ro,ances)
e;ery'o3y loo$s so niceD s,ells nice
Heart'rea$in)so ,any %hristian lea3ers are fallin too4
Hust this 1ee$) another one4
7 thin$ it8s i,portant for you to $no1 the pre;entati;e steps 1e8;e ta$en
at Sa33le'ac$4
o 78, 3eter,ine3 to ,aintain the interity of this ,inistry
o So in 19EJ 7 3rafte3 theSaddle2acG Sta-- Standards
)May soun3 lealistic4 >ut 783 rather o o;er'oar3444
7 1ant to li;e in such a 1ay people ha;e to ,a$e up stuff to accuseI
+@OS/$ T5/ P3T573< B3+> TO P8%9T<
7f you8;e 'een unfaithful to your ,ate) there is still hope4
Gou can co,e to %hrist for cleansin
1. 3cGno1ledge the sin. B.a;i3)!s451C
Stop rationaliFin it4 %all it 1hat it is< Sin
.O4 79@@ ,/V/% +53,./ 59S ST3,43%4
o !re,arital se( ) is unaccepta'le to 5o36
&l1ays has 'een/ al1ays 1ill 'e
o #i;e)in ,arriaes44
o &3ultery444
o Ho,ose(uality4
o4 !ornoraphy44
7f you8re uilt of any of these) Sa33le'ac$ is the place for you
Sa33le'ac$ is a co,,unity of sinners 1ho ha;e 'een fori;en
+e $no1 1hat 1e8re each capa'le of) : 3ont fool oursel;es4
%o,e : fin3 a ne1 life here6
o %onfess : recei;e fori;eness6
2. /nd the relationshi! immediatel'C
-/9+ is the ti,e44T9.&G if you hear 5o38s ;oice spea$in to youD
3o not har3en your heart44- He'4 3<15
o Ta$e action i,,e3iately6 .ont 3elay
o Gou ,o;e3 slo1ly out of fello1ship 'ut ,o;e
Kuic$ly 'ac$ into44
F&%T< &3ultery is 'latant selfishness)
7t8s puttin your o1n percei;e3 nee3s/pleasure ahea3 44
e;erythin else4441hat 5o3 saysD
1hat it 1ill 3o to your ,ate : fa,ilyD their4444
#. 3&oid 3@@ contact 1ith the !erson -rom no1 onC
4o 1hate&er it taGes to do this.
o 0n3 the relationship col3 tur$ey
o Ha;e a oo3'y ,eetin an3 then no ,ore contact
o /o e(planationsD lunchesD lettersD calls
practice hanin up6
%hane =o'sD churchesD 1hate;er
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5o3 a;e you your se( 3ri;e
o ?se3 properly it 'on3s a hus'an3 an3 1ife toether
o ?se3 i,properly) it
3estroys ,arriaes : fa,ilies
3a,aes self)estee,
creates ,iseryD uiltD sha,eD an3 3epression not
,entionin all the 3iseases pro,iscuity has i;en us4
59.8S +&G 7S &#+&GS TH0 >0ST +&G4
Gou can et 'ac$ on trac$ to3ay<
1st) %o,,it your life to Hesus %hrist an3 as$ hi, to help you ,anae
this po1erful 3ri;e that he a;e you4
2n3D Recei;e his fori;enessD an3 'e cleanse3 fro, past sha,e an3
rerets4 Then you can fori;e yourself4
3r34 Ma$e a co,,it,ent to li;e ,orally pure for the rest of your life< That
,eans ha;in se( 1ith only the person you are ,arrie3 to4
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14 May'e you8;e realiFe3 you nee3 to et serious a'out your thouhts4
Gou8;e thouht they 1ere har,less4 They aren8t
24 May'e you8;e 3e;elope3 an e,otional attach,ent to so,eone 1ho is
not your spouse4 Gou nee3 to nip it in the 'u3 no16
34 May'e your ,arriae has 'een sha$en 'y an affair
TH0 599. /0+S< Gou can 3o so,ethin a'out it4 - Hall your ,arriae
into 3ry 3oc$ for refittin an3 repairin4 9nce refitte3 it 1ill sail farther
an3 faster than at any pre;ious ti,eM
!R&G0R
FatherD you create3 the se( 3ri;e to 'uil3 fa,iliesD not to 3estroy the,4
Help those 1ho carry uilt an3 sha,e 'ecause of failure in this area to
fin3 fori;ness an3 cleansin4 May 1e lea;e here 1ith a ne1 resol;e in
our li;es to li;e pure 'efore you4