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posted0524200112:52AM

Bluepaul
Therewasagirlatagrocerystorewhowasridingaroundwithhercart,
cuteascanbe,filledwithproducts(rejecteditems)tobeputonthe
shelf.
"Hey!Areyoureverseshopping!?"
Silly,butshelaughedandIwasin.
OranothertimeIjustsawachickIlikedandthrewakid'sballather.
Unexpected.Playful.Shelikedit.
IQ
Sure,womenwantattentionandthey'lllatchontowhomevergivesitto
them(likedaNiceGuy:theemotionaltampontobeusedanddiscarded).
ButonethingIhearoverandoveragainisthis:thesexiestthingaguy
candoislisten.Womenmayenjoylaughingthankstothecomedianor
amazementthankstotheWorldlyGuybuttheywilltradethatfor
someonewhoLISTENStothem.
Bylistening,Idon'tmeanbeingquietwhilesheflapshergumswaitingfor
yourturntospeak.ImeanLISTENINGtowhatsheissaying,processing
it,andunderstandingher.
Mostguysdon'tdothis.

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Beaguythatdoes.ItmakesyouRARE.Asmyolderbrotherwasat
dinnerwithhisgirlfriend'sparents,hismotherexclaims,"OHMY
GOODNESS!You(referringtoherdaughter)...yougotaguythat
LISTENS."
Certainlyyoushouldshowwhoyouare,yourownindividuality,etc.But
toooftenmostguystendtodothisTOOMUCH.
It'seasiertospeakaboutyourselfthenitistolisten.Sofocusonlistening
andtherestattendstoitself,foryou'llnaturallyspeakofyourselfand
youraccomplishments.
Mostguysthink:"Iamincredible.IhaveonlyalimitedtimesoImust
expressmyincrediblenesstohersoshewillunderstandandloveme."
No,don'tfocusonillustratingyourself.FocusongettingtoknowHER.Not
onlyisshepleasedandhappy,butyouarefindingoutifsheisGOODfor
you.YOUareconductingtheinterview.Ifyoutalkedaboutyourself,you
wouldnothaveanymoreinformationifsheisrightforyou.
Daneb
ImagineifaHotChickappearsbeforeAverageGuy.
AverageGuygoes,"Whoa!"
ThenAverageGuybecomesexcited,energized,andelectrifiedashe
startschattingwiththeHotChick.WhatdoesAverageGuysay?Lethim
speakforhimself:
"Mycargoesvroomvroomto150mph!"
"...andsothebartendergoes,'Ithoughtitwasyourwife'.HAHA.Iam
SOfunny!"
"Ihateplayerswhotreatwomenbadly.Iamsensative.BOOHOO!"
"Yobaby!Whydon'tyousitonmylapandseewhatpopsup?"
ButIsenseyousaying,"Youexaggerate."ButdoyounottreattheseHot
Chicksdifferentlyfromregularpeople?
WhenIsay,"Thinkofthehotandsteamychickasaguy,"Idon'tmeanto
notshowyoursexuality.
LetmeplaceaDesperateDudeinfrontofmeforpurposeof
conversation.
"DesperateDude,doyoudisagreewithguys?"
"Butofcourse."
"DoyoudisagreewithHotChicks?"
"Onlyafteralongtrainofabusesandneglect."
"Butyouaretoughandhavelargemuscles.Youwouldnotputupwith
crudfromanyguy?"
"Ofcoursenot."
"ButwhataboutHotChicks?"
"..."
"Ihaveheardthatyouareabrilliantconversationalist."
"Thatismostcertainlythecase."
"Andyoucantalkwithguyswithease."
"Absolutely."
"AndyoucantalkwithHotChickswiththesameease."
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"No,Itendtogettonguetiedandextremelyselfconscious."
"Butwhyisthis?Youareabrilliantconversationalist."
"Because...theyarehot."
IfDesperateDudethoughtoftheHotChicksasmerelyguys,his
DESPERATIONwouldevaporate.Allofasudden,DesperateDudewould
becomeabrilliantconversationalistandwouldnottakeanyabusefroma
female.
Whyisthis?
"Itismagic,Pook."
No,itisnotmagic.ItisbecausehisDESIREhasbeentemperedand
contained.Hisdesireisnotlashingoutindesperatespasmsandcreating
embarrassingmomentsforhim.Hewillnolongerwritepoetrytoher
beforedatingher,nolongersendinflowersbeforetalkingtoher,andno
longergivehergiftsbeforehe'sevengoneoutwithher.
Cagethatdesire!PlaceitbehindthebarsofDonJuanTruths.
Howareyougoingtoalterheremotionsfavorablyifyoucannoteven
handleyourown?

Pook
"Asyouthink,youshallbecome."
"Menwillbenicewhenniceguysgetlaid."
IP:209.176.38.146

IQ
DonJuan

posted0524200101:28AM

Pook,
Iabsolutelyagreewithyouonthelisteningpart.Problemisthatifyou
showthatyouareagoodlistenerandremembereverylittledetailabout
hershewillthinkyouaretotallyfocusedonherandassoonasyour
attentiondiverttosomeoneelseshemaytrytogetridofyouasyou
havegivenherthesensethatsheisthecenterofyourattention.Its
almostthecaseofasensitiveniceguywhoisusedbywomen.
Thebesttrickwouldbetonotshowmuchsensitivity,dontalwaysbe
agreeabletoherandsometimesfakethatyoudontrememberthedetails
ofherpreviousconvoorspecificdetailsabouther.Also,anothergood
wayistochangeyourattentionspan.Talktoheronedayforsolong,
nexttimetalktoherforlesstimeandalsotalktootherpeopleincluding
othergirlsinfrontofher.Thatwillbeagoodwaytoavoidfallingintothe
niceguytrap.
Ofcourse,somewomencanbecomeveryjealousorupsetbutthenyou
willfindoutthattheyarecontrollingwomenwhichisgoodforyou.
Ialsoagreewithyouontreatingthegirlslikeguysastheywillknowthat
youwonttakeanycrapfromwomen,onlythingthatshouldbeincludedis
goodconvo,andlittlebitofcharmonsomeoccassionsbecausethe
charmwillletherknowthatyouknowsheistheoppositesex .
IQ.

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IP:206.172.121.189

IQ
DonJuan

posted0527200101:39AM

Hi,
IhaveonemorequestionforPook.Duringtheconversation,shouldaguy
askquestionsaboutheremotions,feelings,herrelationships,whatshe
looksforinaguy,herfantasies,etcandtrytoelicithercorevalues.
Ifyouarelivingtheroleofanidealman,therealmandonttalkabout
love,feelingsandrelationships.Thiswillmaketheconvotooheavy.If
youwannakeepitfunthentalkaboutherlife,family,herchoicesetc.
Likeyousaid,ifyoulovethemshowbyyouractions,donttellthem.
Also,doingfunthingstogether,kinoandkissingwillmakeherfeel
romanticwithyou.
Theelicitingvaluetechnicprobablywouldworkforplayersbecausetheir
purposeistogetlaidbutforLTRitsgoodtodemonstratethealphamale
(funguy)approach.
Please,clarifyontheconvotopics.Also,howshouldweavoidfallingin
thesensitiveniceguytrapwhenusinggoodlistening.
IQ
IP:206.172.121.78

IQ
DonJuan

posted0527200112:00PM

Hi,
Anotherquestionisshouldwetalktoherabouthersexualpreferences,
whatwouldshedotoseduceherdreammen,hertopfavouritesexual
positions,talkingtoheraboutother'ssexlife(notoursexlife),isita
goodideatodoorjusttokeepamysteryonthistopicandjustmake
yourmoves.
Ithinkitwouldbeagoodideatoknowwhatshelikesbutweshouldfind
itoutinaroundaboutwaywithouttalkingabouthowitmakesherfeel
andtalkingtoheraboutherfeelings.
IQ.
IP:206.172.121.112

HB_Hunter
MasterDonJuan

posted0919200108:55AM

Ok....thisabsoultelystunnin....butiwannatellusomethinMr.Pook,what
ifufindthegalu'vebeensearchinforallurlifetime??
uralwayscheerinmeupwithurposts
butit'skindoftoughtofindthewomanuwantnkillurdesirewhenur
havinfunwithher...plushheydidureadthearticlebyRedxlsayinthat
unfulfillnessofdesiresistheroottoinsecurity??!!sohowcanaperson
killhisdesire...ifthisisthecase..whyrwegoinaftergals??isn'tczwe
desirethem!!
IP:62.114.160.166

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posted1203200105:24AM

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MasterDonJuan

Now,Iknowwhatyou'rethinking,"Pook,Ican'tactlikeaPrince
CharmingorTheGreatCatch.IDON'Thavetonsofwomenafterme."
ThisisreversingCAUSEandEFFECT.ASSUMEyouaretheGreatCatch,
THINKthatyouare,andasyouthinkyoushallbecome.Itbecomesa
selffullfillingprophecy.
thisbyfarismyproblemczplentyoftimesespeciallywhentheresults
imgettinrnegative.itrytothinknbelievethatimthecatchbuti
couldn't.sometimesit'shardntoughisn'tit?pook,whenthishappenesi
keepdwellinonthepast,depressed,desperateagainthoughiknowthe
answertoremovethatdesperation
ofcourseu'vefeltlikethisbeforepook.whathaveudoneespecially
whenurjustonthevergetoseeurdateorthegaluwannagettoknow
formeigetnervous&....
thiswhathappenes.
BadPook:
"Wowza!SheisHOT!IhopeIlookandactallright!IreallyreallyhopeI
don'tdoanythingstupidordumbtonight."
soisitreallytruethatwhenurstateofamindisnegativeorastrange
negativethoughtenterssuddnellyustubmble?!czsometimesit'sjustthat
urinsecure,right?
isthatasuthink.ushallbecomeprinciplethatfatal??!
Expectsuccess!(Niceguysareoftenpessimisticandtheirfailuresare
mostlyaresultofselffullfillingprophecy.Someguys,whichIconfessI
amone,actuallyfearsuccess.Wethink,"IfIaskheroutandshesays
yes,THENwhat?"Sincewedon'twantorfearStep5,weoptoutonStep
1andcreateourownfailuresforus.Stopit
uhaven'tsaidhowtostopthat czplentyoftimesican'tstopthinkinof
thefutureandhowcouldimanagetogether?especiallyifatthecurrent
timeherpersonalityisbetterthanme(supermodel,plentyofguysr
afterheretc..,knowlotsoffriends,hangoutmorenvisitgreatplaces
etc..)dougowiththatprinciple(ucan'tjumptothesecondbase..while
urclingintothefirstOrinchinchit'sacinchbyyardit'stoohard)
czthissometimesdoesn'tworkforme.
ihopethatureadthisMasterpookngivemeurthoughtsoranybodyelse
butipreferpookinpersonal.iwannaknowatwhichstatusiamfrom
djin..iusedtogetnumbersprettyeasy,hangoutalotwithchicks,
charminetc...butnowican'ttellthatimnotliketheoneiusedtobecz
wheniamattherightmindseticouldperformthehomeworkasiused
to,
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HB_Hunter
MasterDonJuan

posted1203200106:49PM

tillpookreturns....
isthereanybodyherewhocangivemehisthoughtsnexperiencesabout
that???!

ihopeso
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HB_Hunter
MasterDonJuan

posted1206200104:33AM

whydon'tyaanswermeppl???!
IP:62.114.161.42

HB_Hunter
MasterDonJuan

posted1213200112:05PM

soheypook
doihavetobringurpostuptillureadit??
IP:212.12.228.226

Pook
MasterDonJuan

posted1215200106:37PM

Now,Iknowwhatyou'rethinking,"Pook,Ican'tactlikeaPrince
CharmingorTheGreatCatch.IDON'Thavetonsofwomenafter
me."ThisisreversingCAUSEandEFFECT.ASSUMEyouaretheGreat
Catch,THINKthatyouare,andasyouthinkyoushallbecome.It
becomesaselffullfillingprophecy.
thisbyfarismyproblemczplentyoftimesespeciallywhenthe
resultsimgettinrnegative.itrytothinknbelievethatimthecatch
buticouldn't.sometimesit'shardntoughisn'tit?pook,whenthis
happenesikeepdwellinonthepast,depressed,desperateagain
thoughiknowtheanswertoremovethatdesperation
ofcourseu'vefeltlikethisbeforepook.whathaveudoneespecially
whenurjustonthevergetoseeurdateorthegaluwannagetto
knowformeigetnervous&....
thiswhathappenes.
BadPook:
"Wowza!SheisHOT!IhopeIlookandactallright!Ireallyreally
hopeIdon'tdoanythingstupidordumbtonight."
Whyareyoudwellingintothepast?Therearenogirlsinthepast.
PookopensthedoorlabeledPASTandshouts,"Anygirlsinthere!?"
Nope,noanswer.Rather,theyareallintheFuture.Forgetaboutthe
Past.
TheonlytimeIthinkaboutNiceGuydaysiswhenI'monthisforum.The
onlyreasonthereissoIcanrelatethingstoNiceGuys.HowIthought
thenversushowIthinknow.
Soyou'regettingnegativeresultsandyou'refeelingdownaboutit.Do
this:
Takeabreakfromwomen.Foramonthorso,justenvelopeyourselfin
yourpassion,yourhobbies,yourcareer,whatever.Why?Becausethe
FOCUSisYOURhappiness.
ItistruethatifyouthinkyouaretheGreatCatch,youbecomeso.Butit
requiresmorethanthinking.Actionisnecessary.

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IcansitandtellmyselfhowawesomeIam.Alas,Idowalkoutthedoor
aSuperman.Rather,Imakemyvisionofmyselfbecometrue.Slowly
andsteadily,Ibegandoingmoreathletics,improvingmywardrobe,and
soon.Ididn'tevenrealizeIwasdoingit.Myfriendscommentedonthe
change.Ijustfeltthatthe'improvement'wassimplynatural.
I'veaskedolderwomen(whoknewmebefore)whattheythoughtofmy
changefromNiceGuytoDonJuan,fromShyGuytoCoolGuy.
Theirresponse:"You'vegrownup."
Grownup!?See?MenseeNiceGuysandDonJuans.Womeninsteadsee
ChildhoodandManhood.
Ican'tstressselfimprovementenough.Thinkingyou'retheGreatCatch
does,indeed,helpdetoxifytheNiceGuynessoutofyoursystem.You've
improvedyourselfmassivelyinthatdepartment.Whystopthere?Not
beingNiceGuyisnotenough.BeingaManisall.
soisitreallytruethatwhenurstateofamindisnegativeora
strangenegativethoughtenterssuddnellyustubmble?!cz
sometimesit'sjustthaturinsecure,right?
isthatasuthink.ushallbecomeprinciplethatfatal??!
Expectsuccess!(Niceguysareoftenpessimisticandtheirfailures
aremostlyaresultofselffullfillingprophecy.Someguys,whichI
confessIamone,actuallyfearsuccess.Wethink,"IfIaskherout
andshesaysyes,THENwhat?"Sincewedon'twantorfearStep5,
weoptoutonStep1andcreateourownfailuresforus.Stopit
uhaven'tsaidhowtostopthat czplentyoftimesican'tstop
thinkinofthefutureandhowcouldimanagetogether?especiallyif
atthecurrenttimeherpersonalityisbetterthanme(supermodel,
plentyofguysrafterheretc..,knowlotsoffriends,hangoutmoren
visitgreatplacesetc..)dougowiththatprinciple(ucan'tjumpto
thesecondbase..whileurclingintothefirstOrinchinchit'sacinch
byyardit'stoohard)
czthissometimesdoesn'tworkforme.
Youmaybeputtingtoomuchemphasisonthisonewoman.Goafter
othergirls.Girlswantwhatothergirlswant.Ifyougetanegativeor
neutralvibefromonegirl,justgoforothers.Whentheyrespond
favorablytoyouandthepreviousgirlseesit,thenshetoobeginstothink
ofyoufavoritively.
You'vesaidthatshehasabetterpersonalitythanyou.Thisisabigclue
forme.Itimpliesthatshemaybemoreoutgoing,morewillingtomeet
newpeople,etc.
Thereismuchwrittenhereonphysicalimprovement.Anentireforumis
dedicatedtoworkingout.Iwishtherewasemphasisonsocial
improvementalongwithsocialworkouts.
WhenI'montheDonJuanChat,Ihearthefollowing:
"Speaktoher!?ButifIspeaktoher,whyshouldIsay?"
"Ifshegivesmehernumber,whatshouldwediscuss?"
"ButifIaskherout,whatshouldwedo?"
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Iwasliketheabove.Iwasshy,quiet,kepttomyself.Nature,however,
hasthelastsay.Iverymuchdesiredawoman,particularwomen.How
togoaboutit?
Pictureafrozenguy,shaking,andstutteringtothegirlhelikes.Funny,
eh?AbsolutelyCUTE.Butcuteinababyishway,notinmanlymanner.
Someguysask,"HowcanINOTgetnervousaroundthegirlIlike?"There
willALWAYSbeexcitement.Thisisthesparkoflife.Treasureit.Cherish
itforitmakeslifeworthliving.
Now,howdoyoustopbeingextroadinarilynervous,shy,andstuttering
aroundthewomenyoudesire?Youstopthedesire.
Yourgoalistotalktohernormally.Whenyouhavethoughtslike
'marriage'or'sex'bouncingaroundinthebrain,youwon'tbetalkingto
hercomfortably.TrysayingHI.
Don'teventhinkofdatingforthemoment.GoaroundandTALK.Get
comfortabledoingTHAT.Getcomfortablegoingoutanddoingthings.
Dateyourself
Wouldyoudateyourself?Youhavetohaveaplan,asenseoffun,etc.So
trygoingoutonyourowndoingwhatYOUwanttodo(orgooutwithyour
buddies).
Andwhenyou'recomfortabledoingthat,it'llbesimpleaspietosaytoa
chick,"Youwanttocomealong?"You'llbeconfidantbecauseyou'vedone
itwithyourselfand/orwithfriends.
NowyouhavebecomemoreofanoutgoingHB_Hunterwhohasno
problemstalkingtoanyone,especiallyhotgirls,andhasnoproblems
askingthemout.
Youaretheguy.Theyexpectyoutomakethemove.Thisisexcellentfor
socialpractice.YoucantalktothemallyouwanttoandyouDON'Thave
toaskthemout.Youcangooutanddofuncrazystuffwithoutasking
themout.
Andwhengirlsloveseeingthehappy,funtotalkto,you,andaskYOU
out,youcansimplysayNO.ThegirlswillthenproceedtocallyouGAY.
Becausetheywillthink,"He'scuteandfunandgirlsareafterhim.Yet,he
won'tgoforthem.What'swrong?IsheGAY?"
You'veGOTtohavethosesocialskillsBEFOREyouenterthefray.Ifyou
gobeforethenyouhavepainfullearninglessons.
iwannaknowatwhichstatusiamfromdjin..iusedtogetnumbers
prettyeasy,hangoutalotwithchicks,charminetc...butnowi
can'ttellthatimnotliketheoneiusedtobeczwheniamatthe
rightmindseticouldperformthehomeworkasiusedto
MostguyswhoaresingleJUMPSatthechanceacute/hotgirlgoesfor
them.Thereisasaying,Beggerscannotbechoosers.Niceguysare
thebeggers.
Ifagirlthinksaguywillnotgoforher,shethinksthereissomething
horriblywrongwithher.Butonceshelearnsthatmanygirlsgoforthis
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guyandheisnotgoingoutwiththem(becausehehastheOPTIONtobe
pickyunlikeNiceGuys),shewillwonderifheisgay.It'sthestampthat
saysyou'reDonJuanbecause1)Multiplegirlsarethinkingofyouina
sexualwayand2)Theyallwanttogooutwithyou.
Beggerscannotbechoosers.NiceGuysarethebeggers.
You'llknowwhenyouareDonJuanwhengettingagirlisroutineandeasy
andWHENYOUCANCHOOSE.NiceGuysjustwaituntilagirltheylike
likesthemback,andmarry.Shyguyswaitforagirltoapproachthem.In
bothcases,theyarenotchoosing.ADonJuanisamanwhogetsto
choosehismate.
I'llpostagaintomorrow.

Pook
"Asyouthink,youshallbecome."
"Thebiggestriskyoucantakeisnottoriskatall."
IP:66.100.38.29

HB_Hunter
MasterDonJuan

posted1216200102:05AM

Soyou'regettingnegativeresultsandyou'refeelingdownaboutit.Do
this:
Takeabreakfromwomen.Foramonthorso,justenvelopeyourselfin
yourpassion,yourhobbies,yourcareer,whatever.Why?Becausethe
FOCUSisYOURhappiness.
thanxfirstforurreplyMasterPook
iknowthatquitewell,iknowthatishouldgoformapassionsndreams
nlethercompetewiththem!!butwhatifurboredorsincerelylackthe
motivationtodothatpassionorhobby???utellmeplzabouturpassions
nhobbiesthatalwaysmakeufeelalive!formeit'sgointobewatchinn
playinsoccer,music,meditation,walkin,readingpsychology,writin(but
nowimkindofboredofit),divin,ucansaythatmostofthemrindoors
sothissometimesmakemefeeltotallyboredespeciallywhenallur
friendsrgettinhookedupnurthestilltheloneonethoughurthebest
lookin,uhavethemind,charismanallthat!
ihatetosaythatbutthesedaysi'vereached****tynfilthystateof
mindslikethere'snolightattheendofthetunnelnthattheproblemi
aminisaneverendinissue.imaybecouldbeanalyzinthingssooften
butthisdiseasecalledworryrhuntinmeeverytimeitalkwithanyone
eithergalorguys!!
I'veaskedolderwomen(whoknewmebefore)whattheythoughtofmy
changefromNiceGuytoDonJuan,fromShyGuytoCoolGuy.
Theirresponse:"You'vegrownup."
itreallyhurtswhenu'vechangedaftercreatingreattraitsinuthenu
feelthaturreturinbacktotheolddayswhenuwereshy,quiet,nervousn
allthat!!
thisalwaysforcemetoprovetomyselfthati'vechangedwhichcreate
worrynworrywhileimtalkincziwannagettoknowthepersonbettern
provethatmyconversationskillsrfinetunednstillworkin.soisay

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insidemyseifthatishouldpractice,practicenpracticebytalkinto
strangersanytimentryintoletthemtalkaboutthemselves(ConVers.For
Max.Attraction)whatirecieveisalwaysanegativeoutcome(failedinthe
test)sohowcanitalkwithgals?whenitrytosayinsidemyselfthatour
worriesnfearsrhalfbaselessntheotherhalfdiscreditable
thenigontalkwithgalswoooow.ifailagainwhy??czwhileimtalkin
withher,imnotconcentratin"imthinkinooooh,whereistherealme??
isthatthewaythatiusedtoplay??"that'scziusedtoletgalstalkabout
themselves,thierexbfs,someuniquenessthatthey'vegotnotlikethe
otherguyswhojusttalkabouttheusualstuff(movies,stars,etc..)soi
cometotheconclusionthatican'tlistentothemnletthemtalkabout
whattheyrpassionateabout!istayquietsowhenigetanopportunity
deepinmyselfithinknbeliefthatthere'llbeapartmissininthe
realtionshipnotlikebefore,whenitryczimnevaalooserwhogiveup.
igetwhatiexpectsomesmalltalk,howudoinetc..thenofffistay
quiet!!aselffulfillinprophecyisn'tit???
sotheproblemthatifeelthatimfacinrightnowisthatimnothavinfun
likebeforewhiledealinwithgalsndoinmyhomework.thisstressedup
attitudeiskillinme!!whenuaddthistosituationslikeursittinalone
whileeverybodyelseiskissin,makinoutnhavinthelovethathealways
dreamtof!,i'vecometostageslikeiseecoupleswalkinnsittinalone
enjoyinlifepicturininsidemyselfthatistandoutnthatitreallynow
becameanissueafterreadinalltheposts,layguide,advices,artof
conversations,etc...

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MasterDonJuan

posted1219200107:08PM

quote:

sotheproblemthatifeelthatimfacinrightnowisthatim
nothavinfunlikebeforewhiledealinwithgalsndoinmy
homework.thisstressedupattitudeiskillinme!!whenuadd
thistosituationslikeursittinalonewhileeverybodyelseis
kissin,makinoutnhavinthelovethathealwaysdreamtof!,
i'vecometostageslikeiseecoupleswalkinnsittinalone
enjoyinlifepicturininsidemyselfthatistandoutnthatit
reallynowbecameanissueafterreadinalltheposts,lay
guide,advices,artofconversations,etc...
Youthinkthateveryoneishavinggloriousrelationships.Thereisnosuch
thing.Everythingandeveryonehaswarts.
Youarenotmissingoutifyouaresingle!
I'msingle.Bychoice.Igooutinpublicandachickwillgetsomeoneto
askmeifIhaveagirlfriend.Inmyearlydays,Iusedtodostufflike
Kino,makesureI'conversed'well,etcetera.FormeNOW,itjustgets
easierandeasier.
Butitdidn'tusedtobesoeasy.OneoftheissuesIhadtogetoverwas
seeingsinglenessasadisease,amalfunction,somethingthatneeded
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immediatecorrection."Timeforagirlfriend,"Iwouldsaytomyself.
AlmostgottogetherwiththisonegirlwhenIrealizedIdidn'treallywant
it,Iwasbecomingunhappierwithher.
Beingsingleallowsyoutofocusfullyonimprovingyourself.Though,ina
relationshipyoucanimprove,justnotfully.LosingmyNiceGuyness,I
realizedthatyouhavetokeepyourselfoutofthecomfortzone.Inthe
romanticrealm,ofcourseIimproved.Amazingly,youcanusethatsame
techniquetoimproveeveryaspectofyourlife.
"I'mcomfortableatthisjob."Timetogetabetterone!
"I'musedtotheseclothes.Notcomfortableaboutdressingbetter."Wrong
answer!
"I'mnotuncomfortableaboutbeingscrawny.I'mskinnyandcertainlynot
likeastupidjock."Timetoimprove!
Whendoestheimprovementend?Itneverdoes.Thatisthecurseoflife.
Though,therewardsarefargreaterthenanyobtainedthrough'settling'.
I'vemetmillionaires,scientists,astronauts,etc.Youdonotseeinthem
thaturgetojustsettlelikeawiltingplant.No,theykeeppushing
especiallyaftersuccess.Takeanygreatlysuccessfulpersoninany
industryandIwillassureyouthattheirmindsetisthesame:"I'mgoing
tobethebestIcan."
Whatistheirbiggestfear?Itistheirchildrengrowingupwithluxuries
andnotrealizingthatacertainmindsetthatisresponsibleforsuccess.
Whenyoureachthispoint,youcan'treturntoshyandquietbecause
thosebecomechildhooddays.You'llfindyourselftakingonnew
challengesandlearningnewthingsyouthoughtwereimpossibleforyou
before.
OneofthebestthingsIdidformyDonJuanismistosay,"Hellwith
signs!"
Tohellwhatsizeherpupilsare!Tohellhowshestrokesherhair!Tohell
withherposture!Tohellwithherhintedconversations!Tohellwithher
couldbe/notbeflirtations!Tohellwithanalyzingineveryway!
Itreatedeverywomanthesame.
Itreatedthehotchickthesameastheuglychick.SinceIwasn'tlooking
foragirlfriend,therewerenopotentialsortargets.Bytreatingthemall
thesameIkeptmysanity.Italktothem.Ihavefunwiththem.
Mygutsaid,"Pook,theyareflirtingwithyou."Tohellwiththatgut!I
stayedthecourse.
"Pook,"mymindsaid,"theyareinlustfulthoughtsaboutyouyoucan
seeitintheireyes."ToHELLwhattheirlustfulthoughts!
Mynervesthensaid,"Pook,theyaretouchingyou,initiatingkinowith
you.Theyaremakingexcusestotouchyou,tofeelyou..."TOHELLWHAT
THEYDO!
Ihadplans.Iwasunfoldingmyowndestiny.Iintendedtodothis,this,
andthatandimprovemyselfintheseseveralareasrightnow.Tohell
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whattheydid!
AndyouknowwhathappenedwhenIdidthis?Ioverheard...
"Oh,thatPook!Heissoconfident!"
"Helooksyoustraightintheeyes.Heknowswhereheisgoinginlife."
"Man,IwishIwassinglesoIcouldgoforhim!"
Loandbehold!Whatachangethiswas!Buttohellwiththeirinterestand
theirdreamsofmarriage,Ihadplans.AndasIsteadilyimprove,the
fasterandmoreconsistanttheinterestisbecoming.
Thisiswhyitsimportanttotakeabreakfromgirlhuntingnotinphysical
form(asremovingyourselffromthevicinityofgirls)butinthemental
form(asinwantinggforwonderingwhatisgoingonintheirheads).Stay
thecourse.KeepyourcompasssettoYOU.
ANiceGuyreacts,aDonJuanacts.ApsuedoNiceGuy,onewithaLay
Guideorsomethingelse,startswonderingwhatthegirlsaredoingand
startsREACTINGtoit.ButaDonJuancouldcarelesshowawoman
thinksanddoeswhathedoes.ADonJuanfocusesonhowaManthinks
ratherthanhowaWomanthinks.
Stopreactingtowhatwomenaredoing.Theywillthinkwhattheythink
anddowhattheydo.Tohelpyouout,don'timmediatelydesirea
girlfriend.Treatthemallthesameandkeepyourlife'sfocusonYOU.You
thinkyoudothatnow,butyouaren't.
WheredoYOUwanttobefiveyearsfromnow?Timeisournon
renewableresource.Asyougetolder,themoreandmoretimeflows
faster.Lifeisbutaflashbuttheflashisall.

Pook
"Asyouthink,youshallbecome."
"Thebiggestriskyoucantakeisnottoriskatall."
IP:66.100.38.14

HB_Hunter
MasterDonJuan

posted1221200111:25AM

Wooooow,woooooow
thankusomuchpookforurundividedattentiontomyposts
iamnowadifferentperson,i'vejustreturnedbackfromaoneweek
vacationinagreatplace.
itwasoneofthebestvacationsthati'vehadinallmyentirelife!
tokeepalongstoryshort,allmyproblemwaspsychologicalnidid
knowhowtogetoverit.ifoundoutthatbyselfimprovmentorby
improvininoneself(theregionsnpointsthatuwannaimproveinurself)
anduandONLYUwhocanJUdgenseethis!!
firstofall,youhavetofeelgoodabouturself,soistartedlikethatby
creatinthisprogramcalledContinousSelfImprovinProgramOrC.S.I
ifoundoutthatwhenistudyhardndomyassigsmentsfeelgreat

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thatwheniamfocusinonmyhobbiesanddointhemfeeelgreat
i'vemadeascheduleabusyonewithtofollowinmylifefilledwithall
mymywork,hobbies,studies,meditationetc..
ifoundoutthaticanlivewithuotgals nleadahappylifeandibelieve
thatthisisthekeytowardsbeingadjtostopneedinthemthanxMr.Pook
afterdointhis,i'vereceivedimmediateresults
i'veknownlike5galsinonedaynigottheirnumberssoeasily,found
thaticantalkprettyeasilylikebefore,thatimnotashypersonatall
butacharminguyjustlikerichardgereorbradpittoralpacino.
inowbelieveinmyself,
iamconfidentniknowthaticandoanythinintheworldthatiwannado
icanhearsomepplheresyainthatimisunderstoodnthatthisisfake
successbecausesinceifoundmyselfgoodatconversin,kinoetc..
noitisn'tthecase,czi'llcontinueimprovinmyselfwithorwithoutgals.
idon'tgivea****,imcute,smart,ambitious,confident,charmin,
gotagreatsmile,knowwhereimgoininlife!
afterknowinthese5gals.igotrejectedaswell2timesbutididn'tgive
uporgotupsetcziknowthati'llsucceedinlifeczithinkthatiamthat
succesfullperson!
imjustthinkinofquittinthesitelikeididfrom6monthssincethedj
planenowisonautopilotmood.i'llsurelythinkaboutthat
manythankstothissite,topook,red,neoalliamnowthemannican
dowhatiwannado,i'llfollowallmypassionsndreamsnbeagreat
psychiatrist.
gals'llcomeafterthatorevenafterbeingagreatsoccerplayerlike
M.Owen
IP:212.12.228.219

Mark
MasterDonJuan

posted0107200202:04AM

YouknowwhatPook,Ithinkyoulivedineverycenturyandstudied
womeninallthose,becausethispostisgold.
Keepemcominman.Ireaditanditwaslikemylifestorywithwomen.

Once...Twice...ThreetimesIlaidit.
IP:24.69.255.205

Neophyte
MasterDonJuan

posted0224200201:06PM

bump

Don'tlettheMatrixcontrolreality,takecontrolofyourownlifestarting
now!

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GoConfidentlyinthedirectionofyourdreams.Livethelifeyou've
imagined!
THEDJBIBLE
THEDJMultiPollCenter
IP:212.239.198.30

CaptainSlinky
MasterDonJuan

posted0318200207:03PM

Buuump.
Godilovethisthread.
IP:204.60.25.4

thegraphics
guy
MasterDonJuan

posted0318200208:05PM

OK,sowhereisIntermediateDJwiththeWayneRossposts?

Bro'srule,grrrlsdrool!
IP:65.211.44.240

metty
DonJuan

posted0414200201:42AM

heypookit'smemettyihaveafriendthatwantstotalktousoyeah
here
Zak:yopookyoutalkaboutbeingurselfandbeconfientandstufflike
thatbutwhatifubeurselfanditturnsoutthattherealuisajerk.just
likeme.imeanthinkaboutit.thinkthatursomekindofaprinceandif
someoneisflirtingw/uthehellw/them.andiseethaturtalkingabout
howcanshyguysbecomewhatucall"DJ's"buthowdoesjerksbecome
"DJ's"wellpooki'majerkandursayinbeurselfwellhereiam.sowhati
gotthegirlsandwhyruputtingmedown.hallabackifuwant.

liveandlearnandhavefunwhileustillcan
IP:64.0.99.233

Pook
MasterDonJuan

posted0415200211:48PM

Girlswillreflecttowardsyourconfidence,eveninajerklikeform.
Tarzanwasconfidantandgirlslovedhim.
Yet,hewasabarbarian.
Thus,thefocuscannotbewomenitmustbelife.

Pook
Asyouthink,youshallbecome!
Ohmasculinity!Wehaveseenyoupersecutedbylaws,mockedatthe
courts,shunnedbytheuniversity,naggedintoservitude,chasedfrom
education,jeeredatbythepowersthatbe,insultedbyintelligentsia,

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laughedatbywomen,andbetrayedbyyourmosttrustedguardians,
males.Forifyouareforgottennowinthislastera,whathopeisthere
forthedignityofmanandtheyouththatfollows?
IP:158.135.8.181

sinit
DonJuan

posted0418200208:55AM

Howaboutifsheknowsthatiamdesperateforher,andiwanttochange
that,doesistillhaveachancewithher,onceshehassawthe
desperation?
[Thismessagehasbeeneditedbysosuave.com(edited04182002).]
IP:66.231.170.122

izm
DonJuan

posted0418200201:15PM

GreatpostImeanI'vehadafewwomengocrazyoverme(Idontknow
why?)Buttheywouldjustbeeverywhereandcall,youknowthe
despratebit.Andsomeofthesegirlwerehot...butafterthatthey
seemedunattractivetoome.(ButIstillhittheskins.....justplaying!)
IP:128.172.213.11

Eros
DonJuan

posted0422200209:25PM

HeyPook,yourideashavefreedthedesperateandneedingpersoninus.
Insteadoffocusingonthepursuityoubrilliantlysuggestedthatwe
inversethedirectionofoureffortstobecomehappy.Womenwillcome
along.It'sveryrefreshingandcanliberatemenfromtheirself
enslavementregardingwomen.ButIhavetopressoneissue.Atonetime
oranotheryou'regoingtohavetoletthegirlknowyoulikeher.Imean
youcanbeplayful,interesting,andcharmingbutthatromantic
connectionmustbelaiddown.Ifitisn't,yourenergyiswasted.Flirtingis
defintitelyagoodwaytotestherpossibleromanticinclinationstoward
you.Keepingthisinmind,youdon'tjustwanttohavegreatconversations
withhertoolong.Ifthishappens,she'llbecomecomfortablewithyour
statusasa"friend".Insteadyoushouldestablisharepoirewithherbut
moveinbeforeitgetstoolate.Youcaneventrytokissheronadate.
It'samatteroffeelingherout.Flirtingisthekeysoyoucanbeableto
readher.IFyoucanattractherwithyourpersonalityandkeepthe
romancelight(andthatisalsoimportant)youmayslowlywinyourway
withher.Ittakesexperienceandpracticetobecomeefficientatthis.
Pook,it'sreassuringtoseesomeonewithsuchapositiveattitude.Keep
writingsowecanallexchangeideassowecanbetheoneswholeadthe
directionwithwomen.
IP:216.148.246.134

StuartScott
MasterDonJuan

posted0520200203:36AM

GREATESTTHREADINSOSUAVE.COMHISTORY.
IP:24.174.82.8

CaliMike
DonJuan

posted0622200209:07PM

Again,sorryforbringingupanancientpost...butIhadto.

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IhavetogivemythankstoPook(andtheotherswhocontributed)for
writingthis.Veryverygoodwriting.
I'vemadealotofrealizationsbyreadingthispost.Iamaniceguy.Time
tochangethat...
IP:24.54.225.9

DeLaSoul
Moderator

posted0630200207:06AM

Congratulations,Pook.Excellentthread.
Summariseyourphilosophy.
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