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Get in the Habit/Paradigms

and Principles Worksheet
Instructions: Begin reading on page 3 and continue through page 27 in your textbook and
answer the following questions.
1. What is the title of the book used for Project: Success! (RH.9-10.5)

2. Who is the author of the book used for Project: Success! (RH.9-10.5)

3. Finish this quote from page 3: We first make our habits,

__________________________________________________________________. (RH.910.6)
4. List the 7 habits on page 5 and give a personal example for each of the 7 habits.
1. _________________________________________________________________________
Example:________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
2. _________________________________________________________________________
Example:________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
3. _________________________________________________________________________
Example:________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
4. _________________________________________________________________________
Example:________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
5. _________________________________________________________________________
Example:________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
6. _________________________________________________________________________
Example:________________________________________________________________
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7. _________________________________________________________________________
Example:________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
(RH.9-10.4) (RH.9-10.5) (RH.9-10.10)

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5. List the 7 habits of highly defective teens. (RH.9-10.4)

1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
6. What is a habit? (RH.9-10.4)
7. List 3 good habits you have: (RH.9-10.4)
1.
2.
3.
8. List 3 good habits you would like to develop: (RH.9-10.4)
1.
2.
3.
9. Complete the following saying: (RH.9-10.6) (RH.9-10.9)
Sow a thought and reap an act;
___________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________
10. On page 9 is a list of how 7 habits can help you. List at least 5 of the ideas you would like to
use in your own life. (RH.9-10.2)
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
11. List the 3 quotes you think are most interesting from the list of the Top 10 All-Time Stupid
Quotes on pages 11 and 12: (RH.9-10.9)
1.
2.
3.
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12. What is a paradigm? (RH.9-10.4)

13. True or False: Paradigms are all inaccurate or incomplete, even though the people who said
them are convinced theyre true. (RH.9-10.4)
14. Complete: Paradigms are like_____________. The lens affects how you see everything else.
(RH.9-10.4) (RH.9-10.5)
15. What is a paradigm shift? (RH.9-10.4)

16. True or False: Negative self-paradigms do not put limitations on you because of having a low
perception of yourself. (RH.9-10.4)
17. True of False: Positive self-paradigms can bring out the best in you. (RH.9-10.4)
18. Read the story about the son of King Louis XVI of France on page 15. (RH.9-10.9)
a. Why did the princes captors fail in their attempt to destroy him morally?
b. What reason did the prince give his captors for not giving in to them (list quote).
a.

b.

19. How can you fix your paradigm of yourself if it is all contorted? (Page 15- 16.) (RH.9-10.3)
(RH.9-10.2)

20. Read page 16, 17 and 18. Sometimes we judge others without having all the facts. If we had
all the facts we could understand why other people act the way they do. Give a personal
example of how you or someone you know misjudged someone because you didnt have all
the facts. (RH.9-10.3) (RH.9-10.2)
21. If we want to make big changes in our lives, the key is to do what? (RH.9-10.2)

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Page 18. What three questions can you ask yourself to find you what your paradigm about life is?
(RH.9-10.2) (RH.9-10.3)
1.
2.
3.
22. Page 19. List 3 of the reasons listed for why you should not be friend-centered: (RH.9-10.2)
1.
2.
3.
23. What quote best describes being stuff-centered. (RH.9-10.9)
_________________________________________________________________________
25. Complete this sentence: There is nothing wrong with accomplishing and enjoying our stuff,
but we should never our lives on things,
which__________________________________________________________________. Our
confidence needs to come from__________________________________, not from without,
from the _____________________________________________________________, not the
__________________________________________________________________________,
After all, he who dies with the most toys_______________________________________.
(RH.9-10.5)
26. If who I am is what I have, and what I have is lost, then who am I? (RH.9-10.2) (RH.910.9) (RH.9-10.6)
What does this quote mean?

27. Read page 20. Why is it, according to the text, that the more you center you life on someone,
the more unattractive you become to that person? Give 2 reasons. (RH.9-10.6) (RH.9-10.2)
1.

2.
28. Complete this sentence: School centered teens often become so obsessed with getting good
grades that they forget_________________________________________________________
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_________________________________________________________________________.
29. Read the story on pages 22- 23 about the teen who was parent-centered.
a. How did she feel when she did not earn her parents approval? List at least 3 feelings.
1.
2.
3.
b. What principles did this teen start to live by that she thought would bring her happiness?
List at least 3 principles.
1.
2.
3.
30. Page 23. List 5 other possible centers that a person could have.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
31. Page 24. What is another name for a principle?
32. List 5 examples of principles as explained on page 24.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
33. True or False: A person may seem to be getting ahead by lying, cheating, manipulating, etc.,
but breaking principles always catches up to a person in the end.

34. Of all the centers listed, which on is the most stable, immovable, unshakable foundation you
can build upon?

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Habit 1
Instructions: Beginning on page 47, read about Habit 1 and answer the following questions.
1. What is Habit 1?

2. What does proactive mean?

3. List five personal examples of being proactive.

a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
4. What does reactive mean?

5. List five personal examples of being reactive.

a.
b.
c.
d.
e.

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6. Below are various examples of reactive and proactive language. In the space provided, list
whether each phrase is reactive or proactive.
a. ____________ Its not my fault.
b. ____________ I will do that right now.
c. ____________ Thats unfair!
d. ____________ I didnt see it that way. Thanks for letting me know.
e. ____________ I just cant decide.
f. ____________ Who does he think he is anyway?
g. ____________ Leave me alone, you jerk. Its none of your business.
h. ____________ Can we talk about this first?
i. ____________ If only
7. Reactive people make choices based on _________________________________.
8. Proactive people make choices based on _________________________________.
9. What substances does the book compare reactive people to?
_____________________________________.
Explain why reactive people are described by the above answer.

10. What substances does the book compare proactive people to?
_____________________________________.
Explain why proactive people are described by the above answer.

11. Read Scene 1 on page 49. On page 50 read the reactive and proactive choices that could be
made about Scene 1 happened to you:
a.

How would you react?

b.

Would your reaction be proactive or reactive?

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12. Read page 51. For the following quotes, write what the person really means:
a.

Thanks a lot. You just ruined my day.

b.

Thats me. Thats just the way I am.

c.

If only Iattended a different school, had better friends, made more money

d.

If my boss wasnt such a jerk, thins would be different.

13. Reactive language takes __________________away from you and gives it to someone or
something else.
14. Proactive language puts you in _____________________________.
15. What do people infected with victimitis believe?
a.
b.
16. List some excuses that you have heard people say who believe they are victims.
a.
b.
c.
.

Read the example on page 52 about Adreana, a black honor student and answer the following
question.
d.

Is Adreana reactive or proactive? ________________________.

e.

Is Adreanas mother reactive or proactive? ________________________.

f.

Is Adreanas boyfriend reactive or proactive? ________________________.

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18. Read page 52 and list six traits of reactive people with victimitis.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
f.
19. Read page 53 and list six traits of proactive people who do not see themselves as victims.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
f.
20. Read the examples on page 53 and 54 about Mary Beth, a store clerk.
Explain two ways that Mary Beth was proactive:
a.
b.
21. What one thing can we control?

22. We need to stop worrying about things we __________ _________________ and start
worrying about things we ______________.

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23. Read page 54 and 55. Complete the diagram below by answering the following questions:
a. In the inner circle, list three things you have control over.
b. In the outer circle, list six things you do not have control over.

Circle of No Control

Circle of
Control

23. Read the example on page 55 about Renatha, a volleyball player. List three ways Renatha
was reactive:
a.
b.
c.

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24. Read the example on pages 56 and 57 about Mitchells accidents. What two things does
Mitchell list that contribute to his success?
a.
b.
25. Read the section o page 58 and 59 titled Rising Above Abuse. Answer the following
questions.
a. How was Heather reactive?
b.

How was Bridgett reactive?

c.

What did Bridgett do to become proactive?

26. Who is your number one role model?________________________________________

Why?
27. Read page 60. What does a change agent do to be proactive?

28. Read the example on page 60 about Shane. What did Shane do to be proactive and a change
agent for the good?

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Habit 2
Instructions: Beginning on page 73 read about Habit 2 and answer the following questions.
1. What is Habit 2?
Complete this sentence: Control your own destiny or______________________________
_______________ __________________.
2. Read page 74. What does begin with the end in mind mean? List the two things the book
describes as the meaning of begin with the end in mind.
a.
b.
3. Read page 75. List three personal examples of things you made or did that required
beginning with the end in mind.
a.
b.
c.
4. List the two reasons given as the importance of beginning with the end in mind:
a.
b.
5. Read the example on page 77 describing someone who had an important decision to make
about his friend, Jack. Answer these questions about the story:
a. Was the person in the story reactive or proactive regarding his relationship with jack and
his lifestyle?

b.

How did the person begin with the end in mind?

c.

What happened to Jack that made the person glad of the decision he made?

6. Read page 78. Complete the following sentences:

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a.

The movies lie, especially when it comes to issues like_______________________.

b.

The movies dont show you the life-altering reality of contraction a disease like_________
or ______________, or becoming pregnant and having to deal with everything that brings
with it.

c.

We are free to choose our paths, but we cant choose the _____________________ that
comes with them.

7. Read page 78. List three possible bad results of having sex before you are married.
a.
b.
c.
8. Read the negative example on page 78 at the bottom of the page. How does the girl in this
example describe her feelings about her past?
9. Read the positive example on page 79 and 80 about Krista. What did Krista achieve because
she began with the end in mind?

10. Read page 80 and answer the following: Who said: Control your own destiny or someone
else will?
11. Complete the following sentences:
a.
If you decide to just go with the flow, youll end up where the flow goes, which is
usually __________________, often leading to a big pile of _________________ and a
life of __________________.
b.
c.

The road to anywhere is really a life to ___________________________.

Never assume that the herd must know where they are going, because they
____________ ______________.

Read page 81.

12. What is the best way to have and end in mind?

13. What is a personal mission statement?

Read page 82.

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14. Complete Steven Strongs acronym for his personal mission statement:
R___________________
E___________________
S___________________
P___________________
E___________________
C___________________
T___________________
15. Create your own acronym using a word that you believe describes yourself or your personal
mission statement. See the example on page 82 of Steven Strongs acronym.

Read page 83.

16. Read the example at the top of page 83. How did writing a mission statement help the girl in
the example to stick to her standards and not do something she was not ready for?

17. Complete these statements:

a.

A personal mission statement is like a tree with _____________ ______________.

(Gives stability.)

b.

While everything about you changes, a ____________ __________ _____________ can

be your deep-rooted tree that never moves.

c.

You can deal with change if you have an immovable ______________ to hang on to.

18. Name Acronym: Create a positive acronym using the letters in your last name that reflects
yourself and your personal mission. (if you name is less than 6 letters, use your first and
second initial, if necessary, to make 6)

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Habit 3
Instructions: Read Habit 3 of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens and answer the
following questions.
1. What is Habit 3?
Read page 106.
2. Define:
a. Will-power
b.

Wont-power

3. According to page 107, define:

a. Important
b.

Urgent

Read page 107.

4. List the four types of people shown in the Time Quadrant:
a.
b.
c.
d.
Read page 108.
5. What does it mean to be a Procrastinator?

6. According to page 108, we can cause things that are important to become things that are
urgent because of procrastination (you didnt write a paper when you should have, and its
due today). List two personal examples of how you usually procrastinate:
a.
b.
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Read page 109.
7. List three results of being a Procrastinator (quadrant 1):
a.
b.
c.
8. Quadrant 3 lists the activities of the Yes-man as things that are urgent, but that are not
important. What does being a Yes-man mean?

9. Are urgent things always important things?

10. Why doesnt the yes-man say no to activities that are not important to him?

Read page 110.

11. Complete this quote by Bill Cosby: I dont know the key to success, but the key to failure is
to try to _____________ ____________________.
12. List the results of being a yes-man (quadrant 3):
a.
b.
c.
13. A slacker is defined as a professional ______________________.
14. A slacker as defined by the text is someone who likes to do things to excesstoo much of
one activity. Name two things that are not important that take up too much of your time:
a.
b.
Read page 111.
15. List the three results of being a Slacker (quadrant 4):
a.
b.
c.
16. What is the main thing a Prioritizer does to keep important activities from becoming urgent
activities?

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Read page 112.
17. List the three results of being a Prioritizer (quadrant 2):
a.
b.
c.
18. List the ways the text explains how to move out of Quadrants 1, 3, and 4 and into Quadrant 2
(Prioritizer):
a. Out of Quadrant 1:
b.

Out of Quadrant 3:

c.

Out of Quadrant 4:

19. Look at the diagram on page 107. Label each square of the Time Quadrant with the name of
the time manager. For each square, list four personal examples of your activities that describe
how you fit the description of the time manager.
URGENT

NOT URGENT

1.
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2.

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Read page 113.
20. Why should you use a planner or calendar to list your appointments, assignments, to-do lists
and goals?

Read pages 113 to 115.

21. List the three steps of the weekly planning process:
a.
b.
c.
22. List activities or assignments coming up for you that are big rocks (important things). Use
the grid below to help you list the items according to your role. See page 114 for an example.

Your role
Student

Friend

Family

Me (yourself)

Big Rocks
a.
____________________________________________
_
b.
____________________________________________
_
a.
____________________________________________
_
b.
____________________________________________
_
a.
____________________________________________
_
b.
____________________________________________
_
a.
____________________________________________
_
b.
____________________________________________
_

Read page 116.

23. Complete this sentence: One of the few things that cant be recycled is __________________
________________________.
Read page 117.
24. What are two things listed on page 117 that keeps kids from putting first things first:
a.
b.
Read page 118- 119.
25. Fear can keep you from accomplishing goals. List what the following people accomplished
because they did not let fear stop them:
a. Nelson Mandela
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b.

Susan B. Anthony

c.

Winston Churchill

26. Name one fear that is keeping you from accomplishing a goal or an activity that you would
like to do:

Read pages 120-121.

27. Complete this quote by Edmond Hillary: Its not the mountain we conquer, but
__________________.
28. Complete: Winning is nothing more than _____________ ____________ _____________
_______________ _______________.
29. Page 117 discusses the Comfort Zone and the Courage Zone.
The Comfort Zone includes activities that you feel safe and secure doing, and things you are
familiar with.
The Courage Zone includes activities that you are uncomfortable with, such as new activities
that include risks and challenges.
In the diagram below, list 3 activities that are in your comfort zone, and 6 activities that you
would like to try that are in the courage zone.

1.

3.

2.
Courage Zone
1.
2.
3.
Comfort Zone

5.

4.

6.

Read page 121.

30. Failure can be a learning experience. List one failure of the following people:
a. Babe Ruth
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b.

Albert Einstein

c. Michael Jordan
Read page 122.
31. Define hard moments.

32. List one small hard moment that can occur daily, according to page 122.
33. List three large hard moments according to page 122.
a.
b.
c.
34. Complete: Dont sacrifice your future happiness for one night of _______________, a
weekend of _____________ or a thrilling moment of _________________.
35. According to page 123, some of the hardest moments come when facing ________________
__________________.
36. According to page 123 about the girl who would not skip school with her friends. What did
she gain by standing up for herself?
37. What may be the only way to resist peer pressure when it is too strong?
Read page 124.
38. According to the text the key to overcoming peer pressure is to care more about what?

39. Why is peer pressure so hard to resist?

40. What is an example of positive peer pressure?

41. Name the people who influence you in a positive way the most.
a.
b.
c.
d.
Read page 125.
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42. What two things are listed to help you stand up to negative peer pressure?
a.
b.
43. Complete: Putting first things first takes __________________________.
44. According to page 126, what are successful people willing to do?
45. According to the text, which of the 7 Habits is the hardest on to do?

The Relationship
Bank Account
Instructions: Read pages 131-143 in the text, 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens and answer the
following questions.
1. Page 131.
a. What was one of the authors (Sean Covey) favorite quotes?
b.

What does the quote mean?

2. What do you wish you had spent more time doing up to this point in your life?
a.
b.
c.
d.
3. What is it like to be in a relationship with you? Rate yourself on the following chart be
circling the appropriate number. The lower numbers indicate a poor relationship; the higher
numbers indicate a good relationship:
How is your relationship with:
Lousy
12345
Excellent
Your friends
12345
Your siblings
12345
Your parents/guardian
12345
Your girlfriend or boyfriend
12345
Your Teacher
12345

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4. Explain why you gave yourself the rating above for each person:
a. Friends
b.

Siblings

c.

Parents/Guardian

d.

Girlfriend/Boyfriend

e.

Teacher

5. Page 132. What is the first key to mastering relationships?

6. Why is success with self so important to success with others?

7. What did Ralph Waldo Emerson say a persons example (quote)?
8. What does this saying mean: Be responsible for yourself and you can create your own
destiny?
9. What does it mean to be a team player?
10. Page 132-133. In what 3 ways do you influence other people according to the text?
a.
b.
c.
11. What does your ability to get along with others largely determine?
12. Page 132. What so the letter RBA stand for?

13. Page 132. What does RBA represent?

14. Page 133. How can you build a rich relationship or repair a broken one?
15. List 5 deposits that you would like to have deposited in your bank account (not money):
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
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16. Copy page 134s RBA deposits and RBA withdrawals and then add 4 deposits and
withdrawals to each list:
RBA Deposits
RBA Withdrawals
1.
1.
2.
2.
3.
3.
4.
4.
5.
5.
6.
6.
7.
7.
8.
8.
9.
9.
10.
10.

17. Page 134. Why are keeping promises important?

18. a. On page 135 how did Sean not keep his promise?
b. What was the outcome?
19. Page 135. How can you build your relationship with your parents?

20. Read the example on page 136. Tell what happened when Renons brother made $1000
deposit to her RBA:

21. Page 137. What does the Japanese saying mean: One kind word can warm three winter
months.

22. When and what was the last small act of kindness you performed?
23. Read pages 138-139. What does being loyal mean?

24. How does gossiping cause problems?

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25. Pages 139- 140. What describes a loyal person?

a.
b.
c.
26. Page 140. Complete: Cutting against the grain of gossip pile-on takes:
___________________________
27. List 5 ways you can become a good listener:
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
28. Page 141. Why is saying you are sorry important?

29. Page 142. How do you set clear expectations?

30. Read page 143 A Personal Challenge. Describe how you are going to start to repair a
damaged relationship:

31. Select 3 baby steps from the listing of activities on page 144 and explain how you are going
to accomplish them.
a.
b.
c.

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Habit 4
Instructions: Read text The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens pages 146- 161 and answer the
following questions.
1. What is Habit 4?
Read page 146- 148.
2. What does the term win- win mean?
3. What belief dies win-win come from?
4. a. Explain what the win-lose attitude means (who wins; who loses).
b. Give three examples listed in the book to describe win-lose:
1
2
3
Read page 149-151
5. Complete: Lilly Tomlin said, The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, youre
still a ________________.
6. Why does the person with the win-lose attitude end up at the top of the totem pole, but be
at the top alone without friend?

7. Explain what the lose-win attitude mean (who loses, who wins).

8. What traits do people with the lose-win attitude have?

a.
b.
9. People who take the lose-win attitude often hide their true _____________________.
10. Read the example on page 150-151 about Jenny relationship with her mother. She did not
discuss her true feelings with her mother. As a result, what negative emotion began to build
up for Jenny?

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11. Explain what the lose-lose attitude means.
12. What are two of the examples listed in the book of lose-lose?
a.
b.
13. Read the example on pages 152-153 about the girls basketball teammates. What did Dawn
do to turn the situation from lose-win to win-win after her friend Pam quit passing her
the ball?

14. Read the examples of win-win on pages 153-154. Give a personal example of a recent
win-win situation you have been in.

Read pages 154-155

15. What emotion will make it hard for a person to think, win-win?

16. What are the two habits that are described as the tumor twins?
a.
b.
17. Complete: Competition is healthy when you compete ________________ ______________,
or when it challenges you to become your best.
18. Complete: Competition becomes dark when you tie your ____________ _____________ into
winning or when you use it as a way to place yourself______________ ________________.
Read pages 155-157.
19. According to Tim Galway, some people use competition as a means of creating a self-image
relative to others. According to his quote in the text, what does that kind of attitude reveal
that the person believes?

20. Why is comparing ourselves to others a bad habit?

21. What does the author say is the only good comparison?

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22. Complete this quote from Paul H. Dunn. If you base your self-esteem, your feeling of selfworth, or anything outside the quality of your _____________, your ______________ or
your _____________ you have based it on very shaky footing.
23. Read the example on page 157-158 about Anne.
a. What harmful habit did Anne engage in to try to cope with the stress of her boyfriend
comparing her with others?
b.

What was the first step for Anne towards recovery?

c.

Complete: During recovery Annes new friends made her feel she mattered because of
______________ _____________ ________________ and not what she ____________.

24. Compete: Comparing yourself can become an _________________ as strong

as________________ or __________________.
25. One trait of people with a win-win attitude is being committed to help other succeed. Name
three people you know who have a win-win attitude and are dedicated to helping others
succeed, and tell what they do that shows they have the win-win attitude.
Name
Win-win actions
a.
b.
c.
26. Sometimes you will not be able to find a win-win solution to a relationship. What does the
author advise to do when you cannot turn a situation into win-win?

27. Read the example on page 160 about Bryan and Steves business. What steps did they take to
make sure they and their customers had a win-win deal?
a.
b.
28. What will be the results of thinking, win-win in terms of how you think?
a.
b.
29. Identify two areas that you personally struggle with comparisons with others (dress, hair,
etc.):
a.
b.
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Habit 5
Instructions: Read pages 164-179 and answer the following questions.
1. What is Habit 5?
2. Read Page 164. What is the basic communication problem in both examples (the shoe
salesman; girls talking)?

3. What does seek first to understand, then to be understood mean?

Read pages 165-166.

4. What does the author say is the deepest need of the human heart?
5. Complete: People will open up to you (expose their soft middles) when they feel genuine
__________ and ______________.
6. Read the example on pages 165-166 about the girl who was anorexic.
What did the three college roommates do to help the anorexic girl?

7. People dont care how much you know until they know how much you care. How does the
book say to show you care?
Read pages 167-170.
8. Complete: To understand someone you must __________ to them.
9. What are the four primary forms of communication?
a.
b.
c.
d.
10. List the five poor listening styles.
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b.
c.
d.
e.
11. What does spacing out mean?

12. What does pretend listening mean?

13. What does selective listening mean?

14. What does word listening mean?

15. What does self-centered listening mean?

16. Which poor listening style do you have personally have the hardest time not doing?

17. What three ways does the author say a person could respond when he is listening from his
own point of view?
a.
b.
c.
18. Complete: People dont want to be ____________________, they want to be ___________.
Read pages 170-173.
19. When does probing occur?

20. What is another term that could be used for probing?

21. What are the three steps listed for genuine listening?
a.
b.
c.
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b. What percent of communication is body language? __________
c. What percent of communication is in the tone or feelings of what is said? ____________

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23. Complete: To hear what other people are really saying, you need to listen to what they are
____________________.
24. Read the poem PleaseHear What Im Not Saying on pages 171-172.
a. Whose needs is this poem talking about? __________________
b. List the personal traits that the poem says are needed by the person asking for help:
a.
e.
b.
f.
c.
g.
d.
h.
Read pages 172-175.
25. Read the section second, stand in their shoes. What does the term stand in their shoes
mean?
26. What does mirroring mean?

27. How is mirroring different from mimicking? Compare and contrast the terms mirroring and
mimicking.

28. What is the appropriate time to use mirroring as communications skills?

29. Complete: If you want to improve your relationship with Mom or Dad, try _______________
to them, just like you would a ___________________.
30. List the two things that the author says will happen if you take the time to understand and
listen to your parents:
a.
b.
31. The text states that if parents feel you understand them, theyll be more willing to
________________ to you, theyll be more _________________, and theyll
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32. Parents need your help as well as your understanding. List five jobs around your home that
you are willing to do (without being asked) to help your parents/guardians that will take
some of the everyday pressure of them.
a.
b.
c.
d.

Read pages 178-179.

33. What is the greatest fear that most people have?
34. Seeking to be understood requires ____________________.
35. According to the author, why is it important to express your feelings?

36. Giving _____________________ is an important part of seeking to be understood.

37. According to the book, why is it important to give feedback in terms of I instead of
you?

38. What do you think the message is behind the saying You have two ears and one mouth use
them accordingly?

39. Make three rules for yourself for expressing your feelings to your parents in a responsible
way that will hopefully result in them listening to and understanding you better.
a.
b.
c.

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Habit 6
Instructions: Read pages 182-201 and answer the following questions.
1. What is Habit 6?
2. Read the example on page 182 about gees flying in V formation.
a. By flying in formation, the whole flock can fly ________ farther than if each bird flew
alone.
b. What does the example about the geese flying in V formation show?
3. How is synergy achieved?
4. List two examples the text uses to demonstrate synergy.
a.
b.
Read pages 184-185.
5. What does the author say is the foundation of synergy?
6. List five differences the test uses to describe diversity.

7. What are the three possible approaches to handling diversity?

a.
b.
c.
8. Complete: Shunners are ___________ of differences.
9. What are shunners convinced about their own way of life?
10. Complete: Tolerators believe that everyone has the right to be __________________.

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11. What is the tolerators motto (3 different phrases)?
a.
b.
c.
12. Complete: Celebrators value __________________.
13. Does celebrating differences mean that you agree with those differences?
Read pages 186-187.
14. List the seven different ways to learn identified by Dr. Thomas Armstrong.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
f.
g.
15. Which of the ways listed above do you believe is the main way that you personally learn?
16. List the three ways the author says we differ on the inside.
a.
b.
c.
17. How does the author say that we can do to increase our understanding and respect for
differing viewpoints?
18. Complete: Instead of trying to blend in and be like everyone else, be _____________ of and
__________________ your unique _____________ and ______________.
19. List the tree roadblocks to celebrating differences.
a.
b.
c.
20. How does the book describe ignorance?

21. What example of ignorance does the store about Crystal in page 190-191 point out?

22. What does Crystal say people should do to understand people with disabilities?
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23. What negative traits do cliques have?
a.
b.
c.
24. What three words are used to describe prejudice in the section on page 191?
a.
b.
c.
25. Complete: We arent born with prejudices theyre __________________.
26. Read The Cold Within on page 192. List what prejudices each of the six men in the story
had.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
f.
27. Complete: They didnt die from the cold without, they died from the ___________________.
28. What do you think is the lesson of The Cold Within?

Read pages 193-195.

29. The author states that differences are a strength and not a weakness. What two branches of
the U.S Government were created because of differences of opinion by our founding fathers?
a.
b.
30. List the five complete steps in the process of getting to synergy action plan.
a.
b.
c.
d.
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31. List the five types of people teams usually consist of and list of trait of each.
Type of person
Trait
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
32. Complete: The wonderful by-product of teamwork and synergy is it builds _____________.
33. Give an example of teamwork that you admire and that you believe is a good example of
synergy.

Habit 7
Instructions: Read pages 206-241 and answer the following questions.
1. What is Habit 7
2. What is Habit 7 about?

3. What does the author say are four key dimensions of your life?
a.
b.
c.
d.
Read pages 207-209.
4. According to the author, why is the balance between the four dimensions of life so
important?
5. Why does the author think some of the great musicians, writers and artists were emotionally
messed up?
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6. What are the four key ingredients to a healthy body?
a.
b.
c.
d.
7. What are the authors rules about eating?
a.
b.
8. Fill in the USDAs pyramid of foods and the number of servings per day for each.

Read pages 210-212.

9. What does the author say is one of the best ways to feel when we are depressed, confused, or
apathetic?
10. According to the book, what aspect of our lives is more important than how we look?
11. Read the section about model/actress Michelle Phieffers photo that appeared in a magazine.
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Read pages 212-213.
12. What are four possible disorders from being obsessed with looks?
a.
b.
c.
d.
13. List the three leading causes of death among teens that alcohol may be associated with.
a.
b.
c.
14. List the nine proven side effects smoking cigarettes.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
f.
g.
h.
i.
15. According to the Massachusetts Department of Public Health, ____ out of 10 guys and ____
out of 10 girls say they wouldnt date someone who smokes.
16. How much money do tobacco companies spend every hour of every day to promote and
advertise cigarettes?
17. Complete: Many begin drinking, smoking or doing drugs in an attempt to display their
___________, only to find that they eventually develop an ______________ that
___________ their freedom.
18. According to the book, what is one of the worst things about having an addiction?
19. Read the example on pages 213-214 about teenage boy who abused drugs. List five of the
negative effects he experienced.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.

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Read pages 214-215.
20. List the five refusal skills.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
Read pages 215-217.
21. Read the story about Socrates on pages 216. What of the point or moral of this story?
22. Complete: Getting a ______________________ may be the most important price you can
pay, because what you do with that mass of gray material between your ears will determine
your ________________.
23. According to the author, what does the mental dimension of Habit 7 mean?

24. What are at least five things the author says an educated mind will be able to do?
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
25. Complete: Statistics have shown that a college graduate earns about ______________ as
much as a high school graduate.
Read pages 218-219.
26. What is one of the best ways the author says to expand your mind?
27. List three activities you do that you believe expand your mind.
a.
b.
c.
Read page 220.
28. How can you get a good grade but fail to get an education?

Read pages 224-226.

29. What are the six things colleges and companies look for in applicants?
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
f.
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30. List the three mental barriers to building a brain and tell what each means.
Barrier
Meaning

31. Read the example on page 227 about the abuse that Walter Anderson suffered for reading.
Look at the list of books on page 252 and list all of those books you have read, then list two
of the books from the list that you would like to read.
Have read
Would like to read
a.
b.
Read pages 228-233.
32. Complete: The best way to sharpen the saw and nourish your heart is to focus on
_________________________.
33. Complete: Remember that the struggles you are now facing will eventually become a great
source of __________________ for you.
34. Complete: By the time you reach kindergarten you laugh ______ times a day. The typical
adult laughs only ______ times a day.
Why do you think adults laugh less?

35. According to Psychology Today, what are the seven beneficial things that laughter does for
us?
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
f.
g.
Read pages 234-236.
36. Read the section on page 234-235 about ways to feed you saw. These are activities that
help a person to gain inner strength and peace. List three things that you personally do when
you need to feed your soul.
a.
b.
c.
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37. What are two reasons listed for keeping a journal?
a.
b.
Do you keep a journal? ________
Read pages 237-239.
38. Complete: Youre not only what you eat, youre also what you _________ to, __________,
and ___________.
39. List the five negative aspects of any kind of addiction.
a.
b.
c.
d.
e.
Read pages 239-240.
40. Read the example of the young man who became addicted to pornography. What made him
realize that pornography is harmful to someone?
41. In the grid below, list at least three items in each category that you want to improve for
yourself.
Body (physical)
Heart (relationships)
1.
1.
2.

2.

3.

3.
Soul (inner peace)

Brain (mental)

1.

1.

2.

2.

3.

3.

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