Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Lydia
Michelle Tavenner
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Success
What makes a person successful? Are they born with it? Is it genetic? Or is it
obtainable? Society might view success as something that runs in the family. Meaning
that if your parents and grandparents were successful, than you will be successful. From
different research I have done and having the opportunity to talk with other people who
come from different walks of life, I have come to the conclusion that success is
embedded inside of everyone. The power of success comes when we find the key to
unlock it and use it. Students are not born with the feelings or knowledge of how to
succeed. They have success inside of them but they need to know where to find the key to
unlock it. It has to be taught to them or modeled to them by a teacher or parent. There are
three main things that would help create more success among students. The first is
helping society to embrace change, second is having better relationships between teachers
and students, and the final thing would be to have an attitude of success.
In society there is a certain way of thinking. One of the mindsets in school and
society is tracking. Tracking is how we group people. There are smart students, dumb,
gifted and talented, lazy, etc. Unfortunately, we are still in a society where tracking is
how we view students. Nietos description of tracking on society is really profound, she
says, Tracking helps prepare them for their place in the larger society. Students in the
top tracks generally end up attending college and having a better shot at becoming
professional; those in the bottom tracks frequently drop out or, it they do finish high
are so used to those students who are born in a good home with a family that can
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maintain a steady income, those are the children who will help carry the world into a
brighter future. Those children, who are born in homes where life is more of a struggle
with income, will most likely lead that life for the rest of their lives. I believe that all
children can be successful in life if given the chance to prove it. Children are more likely
to fail if they dont believe in themselves. If children are surrounded by people who are
telling them that they cant do something, than they wont be able to do it. Children are
successful when they understand that success sometimes comes from the experience of
saying, I will try again tomorrow after they fail at something. This way of thinking
about success has to come from someone who instills it into the childs way of thinking.
There is a PBS news broadcast called, What Immigrants can teach the rest of
American that talks about how Hispanics were known to have a higher dropout rate and
poverty rate. When Hispanic children come to school, teachers already know that they
will come from homes that are most likely broken up and can only speak very little
English. As teachers they dont want to put their time and effort to work with these
students, they rather work with the ones they feel will be successful so they end up
tailoring the curriculum to meeting the needs of the upper class students. There are many
sad things about this way of thinking but I think one of the saddest is that we as a society
miss out on opportunities to learn from different cultures. In America, it is really common
for a woman to go into post partum depression after she has given birth. However, in the
Hispanic culture they have many methods for preventing women to experience post
partum depression (Kolker, 2013). That is only one small example of Nietos theory on
how we could learn from another culture in society. It we really sought to learn from
other cultures and share what we know with other cultures, how much more successful
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would we be as a whole? How many more children would succeed in school and in life?
It is sad that our way of thinking in society is still focused on a hidden stereotype threat.
In an article called Recess it states, Failure and success are not personally
predetermined, rather they are products of the interaction between people, institutions,
and cultural patterns. This article talks about how when there is an increase in
interaction with the students and the teacher this allows more time for playing and
exploring; the students end up being ahead of schedule in school in comparison to the
other schools. Students feel important. They feel valued. They are not being viewed as
robots being told what to do, rather they are being treated as agents in learning to act for
Success comes to students when they feel loved and embraced. When they dont
have to feel embarrassed about their culture or home life situation. Children need to feel
equal to the teacher and be allowed to think for themselves. The need to understand that
they all have the ability to learn despite the weaknesses they might have.
Case Study
Introduction
Idaho, specifically living in Rexburg Idaho. Even though Lydia has been living in
Rexburg for about 4 years now, she claims Allen, Texas as her true home. Lydia has lived
in many places in her short lifetime of 23 years. She was born in Washington but doesnt
remember living there since her family moved when she was really little. Lydia attended
preschool in Plano, Texas, went to Kindergarten for half of the school year and finished
off the other half of the school year when her dad got a new job and her family moved
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again to Virginia. Lydia lived in Virginia until she was in the 5th grade and than her
family decided to move once again. Hoping this was the last time, they decided to settle
down in Allen, Texas. This is currently where Lydias family resides. They have lived in
different house but have still stuck around in Allen. It has been a blessing for her family
Texas. It is a fairly small town in that it only has one high school. However, just in
Lydias graduating class there were 1,200 students. There is a fairly new high school that
is considered apart of Allen but most of the students that attend that school come from
wealthy homes. On the street where Lydias high school was there were three big
churches and then a ranch. These landmarks describe what her town was like. A good
Christian community that took pride in farming and ranching. This is considered one of
the main streets in the town. On one side of the street there is shopping and on the other
side of the street is where Lydias church sits. What Lydia appreciated probably most
about Allen Texas is the neighbors. This part of Texas has good, clean neighborhoods that
had nice houses. Lydia is unaware about any ghettos or slums that could be planted in
Allen. Allen is considered one of the newer towns and that is why things are still clean for
the most part. This part of Texas is picking up with new expansions of buildings and
families.
What Lydia really admires about Allen is how open and friendly the people are. It
is common to see children out playing in the streets with one another. This is because
everyone for the most part is so trusting and it is a safe town to live in. The only part of
town that could be considered questionable is the apartment complexes. Families are
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pretty consistent in living in and out of these places. Mostly Black or Hispanic people
Lydia experienced a huge change from going to a considerably big town where
there was diversity in religious beliefs to moving to a church school in Rexburg. Lydia
will be graduating from this University this semester with an English degree. Her plans
are to move back with her family in Texas for a short period of time until she can figure
Lydia has mixed feelings for moving back. Her home life is very good and her
strong family relationship is not what she is worried about, Lydia is more worried about
the uncertainty of what her future has in store for her. Lydia has hopes of being a
published writer some day. Writing has been her passion since she was about 13 years
old. She has written many stories over her lifetime and looks forward to improving them
and hopefully one day seeing them published. She had an opportunity in high school to
work for her dads friend and get one of her stories published online as an E-Book.
The interview with Lydia reveled three basic themes that have described what has
helped her to be successful in her life. One big theme is that family is vital in developing
and encouraging a person to become their best self, consequences can be an effective
method for learning life lessons, and the final theme is that self-determination is not
something that one is born with, rather it is something that can be obtainable.
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Family
I grew up in a typical Mormon family with a geeky dad, a stay at home mom, and several
siblings. Even though my family might look like the typical Mormon family, I still feel like
we are different from the culture I grew up in. My older brother is 27 and he attends a
community college in Texas. He lives out on his own but still close enough that he can
come and visit often. My brother and I have built our relationship on anime. That shows
how dorky we are together! My brother first introduced my to anime when I was in my
teenage years. In a way, that is how we connect. Every time I skpe home to my family and
My little brother is 21. He still lives at home and is really into gamming. I dont really get
it. I think it is a waste of time but he loves it so I try to understand it. My little brother
hopes to make a living by posting you-tube videos on how to accomplish different video
games. So far he hasnt made any money from it. I really hope that he will go to college
and go into something that will support a family. I dont even know if he cares about
having a family and a stable job. I worry about what will happen in his life. I try to
connect with my little brother through watching marvel movies. I can usually engage him
in a conversation that deals will action packed movies. My little sister is 17. She is in the
typical teenage girl stage where she is moody and wont talk to me when I call home. I
dont know what her problem is. Im pretty sure I never acted like that when I was a
teenager. Even though my family has had some challenges in their lives and even though
they are a little weird, they mean the world to me. Growing up I didnt have friends like
typical kids; my friends consisted of my siblings and their friends. Most of my childhood
was spent playing outside with my little brother and his friends. When I think back on my
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childhood and why I spent most of my time with my siblings, I think it had to do with the
fact that I was bullied in school. I dont remember much about being bullied, I guess it
was just a bad memory that I tried to get rid of when I was younger, but my mom told me
that I would come home from school everyday and complain about going. I would come
up with excuses to not go to school. I think I got good at faking being sick. I was just a
different kid growing up; Im still different from others! I was teased all of the time and I
was an awkward kid. I still feel awkward. My family is really the only people who get me.
They are the ones that understand me the best and I know they wont judge me by the way
I act or what interests me. I think thats why I rather spend time with my sibling instead
I went on a mission. It was one of the hardest things I have done. My older
brother didnt go and my little brother is not going to go. It is so hard to be in a Mormon
culture where certain things are expected of you. For young men, it is expected for them
to go on a mission. Women should get married and have kids. Dont get me wrong about
this idea of thinking, honestly all I really want in life is to be a mom, have kids, and write.
I just dont want my brothers to feel down on them for not going on missions. I dont want
people to judge them. When I go to church with my family sometimes I feel like people
are staring at us. I feel like we are the only messed up family in the congregation. I feel
out of place. Deep down I know that there are other families who have their own
struggles but I still feel like a sore thumb sticking out. I look around the ward and think
Wow they are so perfect and my family is so messed up but I guess it is hard to get the
full picture on peoples lives. Even though my family has had rough patches they are still
really fun. We all get along and joke around when we spend time together. When we were
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younger we hated each other. I think that now we are older we can relate more to each
other because we have similar experiences. My family is really open with one another as
well. Any questions I had or doubts I had in life, my parents were really good at
answering them or helping me find the answers to them. They always helped my siblings
feel loved and accepted. My home was a safe haven from school. During the day I would
be teased by other students and bored by the subject material. I felt like school was a
waste of time but when I would go home, I could relax. It was great to choose a book I
was interested in and then slip into a new world of adventure and acceptance that I
couldnt find anywhere else. I am looking forward to moving home. Not only will I have
more time on my hands to start writing adventures for others, I really hope that my family
relationship will continue to get stronger. Who knows, maybe I will connect better with
my sister.
Consequences
I dont want it to seem like my parents were cool or anything like that. My dad still listens
to 70 and 80s music. I guess my mom is pretty chill when it comes to modern music but I
dont like my dads music. It is sad to think that I have listened to his music so much that I
can now tell what era it is from. I think my family has done a great job at raising my
siblings and I but I do wish they had enforced consequences more frequently in our lives.
I wish my parents had been more consistent with the rules they set up and the
consequences from breaking those rules. My dad has come up with three really good rule
systems but than he never followed through with them or enforced them. He just lets them
kind of slide away. This has caused a lot of problems with my siblings and me because my
parents were never consistent with the punishments. One example of this is the dishes.
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We always knew that my mom hated dirty dishes. Every night my mom goes to bed she
has to make sure that the dishes are done or else she wont sleep. For that very reason my
siblings and I dont do the dishes even when we are told to because we know that my
mom will eventually do them. I also think that if my parents would have been more
forceful with rules and consequences, I would be more diligent in the little things. I
working on being better at getting homework done sooner and not procrastinating or
cleaning up after myself. I feel like my little brother especially would have benefited more
from consequences. If things were more enforced maybe he wouldnt take so much
advantage of my parent. I think about school and how little I cared what the teachers did
to me. The main reason I ever tried was because I wanted to make my parents happy. To
about interested me unless I was able to choose a topic that I really cared about. Things
might have been different in my life and my siblings life if we were held more responsible
and had more consequences. Im sure how the schools are structured are good and they
can be beneficial but I cant see it or I couldnt see it in high school. I wasnt treated in a
way that made me think or care. The only consequence in school was getting a letter on
my report card and to me I didnt really care to understand what that meant. Growing up
maybe I would have cared more about helping around the house if I had been held more
accountable for my actions. Maybe my family would have been different if we were given
Self-Determination
My parents are weird but great. Like I said before, my dad is a nerd. He makes all of
these nerdy jokes about protons and currents and nerdy stuff. He also is really stubborn.
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My dad is a my way or the high way type of guy. He is really focused and likes to take
his time to think through problems and come up with solutions. My mom is very stubborn.
She is very sensitive and you have to be careful on how you say things or her feelings can
get hurt. She is very caring. My mom subs at the elementary school right now and she
loves it. I really admire my mom because she is always trying to do better even though
she is pretty amazing already. She is always trying to make sure that she is being the best
mom that she can be. I think one quality I received from my mom is determination. My
am also. My parents have always taught me to do my best in all I do, even if your best is
getting a C on an assignment. Im grateful for this motto because it helps me feel more in
control and I have a greater desire to try out new things. I never felt pressure for failing.
When I did fail, my parents told me to pick myself up and try again. I think about being in
high school. There were a lot of students that attended my school but I didnt know them.
Im sure there was a good chunk of them that dropped out. I think kids drop out of school
because they dont really care about it. They dont have self-determination. Im sure there
are other reasons as well on why kids drop out. Who knows? Maybe they have to support
their family. Maybe there are different economic reasons that are tied into why they have
to leave school. I hate to say this but I think one of the biggest reasons kids drop out of
school is because they dont have the type of support from families or teachers. In a way,
they cant succeed no matter what they do. Im really blessed to have such nerdy parents!
remember being slightly embarrassed but thinking about it now shows that she really
cared for me. The reason I am successful today is because of my parents and the way
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they have raised me. Both of my parents have modeled for me the importance of doing
your best in all you do and not being afraid of failure, because it will happen. You just
Commentary
After interviewing Lydia and learning more about how school has affected her, it
has been easier to see what has brought Lydia success in her life. There are many theories
that have been created on why students either succeed or fail. The purpose of having
theories is they attempted to explain the reason why peoples lives turn out the way that
they do. In this section of the commentary I will present four theories and prove the
effectiveness of them. Following these theories I will end with my personal theory. Going
over these theories and seeing how they relate to Lydias life will be helpful in
understanding why she is successful today. The theories I will go over will be the deficit
theory, cultural capital theory, and out-of-school factors. Following these three theories,
we will analyze Nietos theory along with multicultural education and end with my theory,
Deficit Theory
The deficit theory states that children who are born in hard conditions depending on
the culture or genes or other differences from the normal population, will struggle. The
reason the child will fail will because of their circumstances from their home lives that
are out of their control. The students problems are predetermined and thus there is no
hope for changing the circumstances that produced them in the first place(Nieto,
2012,p.16). Teachers and the school system are not able to help these children succeed.
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This theory is stating that if students come from homes where they only have one parent
at home, or they live in poverty, or other circumstances will be a reason why they dont
succeed in school (p.257). The actual definition of the deficit theory is School failure
focused on what was assumed to be the inadequacy of students home environment and
culture (p. 257). In the interview with Lydia, she said that she wished her parents had
been stricter with rules and responsibilities in the home. If her parents had focused more
on these areas in Lydias life and her siblings life, Lydia would have been more
motivated in school and probably would have enjoyed it more. This theory can prove why
there was a deficit in Lydias life and why she was not as successful as she could have
been.
When the first day of school rolls around, many student file in the classroom bring
with them many differences including language, background life, different traumatic
experiences, and one of the biggest things is a lunch box. A teacher can tell a lot about
their students on the first day of school by the type of lunch they are bringing, the
clothing they wear, even the color pencils can effect how the teacher will view the
students. The students culturally capital have a big determination on if the students will
be successful or not. There are three main reasons for cultural capital: Disposition of
body and mind, cultural goods (books, material objects), and educational qualifications
(Nieto, 2012, pg.259). This is one of the best ways to tell if a student comes from a good,
middle class home and if they will be successful in school and life. Lydia educational
career proves the cultural capital theory in many ways. For one, Lydias mom took great
care in making sure Lydia and her sibling wore clean clothing to school and had lunch.
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They are a middle-class family that had the normal struggle of bills being tight but
managed to pay the bills and could afford clothing and good school supplies. Lydia also
fits this mold because she was blessed to have her mom involved in her school in various
ways. In elementary school, Lydias mom was on the PTA where she would attend
meeting and plan different events for the students. Having Lydias mom in the school
helped her realize later how important school meant to her mom. Lydia benefitted by this
cultural capitol theory because she grew up being apart of the main culture in Texas.
Unlike other student who came from run down neighborhoods that housed many people
in apartment complexes, Lydia grew up in a middle class neighborhood with the ability to
access many resources for her schooling. Even though Lydia is the mold for a child who
could be distinguished under the cultural capital theory, it still wasnt the reason why she
did well in school. Lydia never paid much attention to her clothes or school supplies. Her
mom being able to volunteer was sometimes embarrassing to Lydia. She was grateful her
parents supported her by going to choir concerts but it didnt matter as much to her to
The final theory that Nieto (2012) describes is OSF or Out of school factors. This
theory is based on the factors that school cannot influence the factors that could be
changed in a students life. It deals with poverty and the effect that poverty has on
limiting what the student will learn or if they will be successful. There is a list of OSF,
which includes: Low birth-weight, inadequate medical care, food insecurities, family
stress and relationships, neighborhood and many other things (265). OSF if a real thing
and can influence many aspects of success. Many student face difficulties depending on
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where they live and when they get to eat as well as the different influences that surround
them. All of these factors school systems cannot control. They can offer little help by
providing lunches to those students whose parents cant afford it but this is a small in
comparison to what they student needs. Lack of heath care, inadequate nutrition,
inadequate housing, and unstable family life impinge on school experience(266). Lydia
was able to have positive out-of-school factors that helped her to succeed. In fact, Out of
school factors was probably the biggest thing that caused Lydia to succeed. Her
experience all through out school was negative. She never felt connected to teachers or
students. Through out her 12 years of schooling, she never felt a profound influence by
the curriculum or staff members at school. What got Lydia through and helped her to be
successful enough to go to college was the fact that her family had a good home
environment where they could be that support system that she didnt receive anywhere
else. Lydia proves this Out-of-school theory wrong. Part of her success came from her
home life.
Nieto/Multicultural Education
Having multicultural education in the classroom will help all students to progress in
explain why some students succeed in school and other fail. Rather, we need to
political, relational, and societal issues, and this requires an understanding of the
The main idea I appreciate about Nietos theory is the fact that it involves many people to
help children to be successful. Children will succeed if they have positive influences
around them. It involves individuals to constantly check themselves and see if they are
being a force for good with the people they associate with. Responsibility for helping a
student succeed is not just the parents or teachers job, it also involves the leaders of this
country, the school nurse, the bus driver, and even the childs dentist. Everyone that
organization called Relief Society. One of the primary purposes of this society is to reach
out to others in need and administer to those who are less fortunate. Okazaki gave a
wonderful talk about differences among people. In her talk she shares how we were all
created for the benefit of helping out the culture we were born in. Everyone will
experience circumstances that are different but can be used to teach others. I too agree
with Mrs. Okazaki about how our differences should not be viewed as negative but
should be a source for learning from others. I found in the interview with Lydia more
about the importance of life and success. Hearing different stories on what has influenced
her and shaped her into the person she is today has opened my eyes to how vital
individual culture is on impacting others around them. It is common for a teacher to judge
a student immediately when they come into schools. First day of class roles around and
teachers can look at each students capital, including backpacks, clothing, lunch boxes,
even colored pencils and start to compartmentalize them into which student will be most
successful and who they should devote most of their time and energy on.
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students, and families and the very way the school conceptualize the nature of teaching
and learning(p.42). The people we grow up associating with influence us in quite but
profound ways.
Based on my case study, I propose a new theory that has been influenced and grown
from Nietos theory and definition of MCE. The Tavenner capability theory states that
students will be successful when home life and school life become apart of one another. I
believe that success in school comes from teachers as well as home life. Teachers have
the biggest impact on the children when they dont tolerate than; rather they embrace
them as their own. Every student, whether they are rich and snobby or poor and hungry,
should be treated as a family member to that teacher instead of just another pupil sitting
in a desk. When teachers plan their lessons, the lessons should be focused on the
individual student instead of how many chapters they need to cover in one day. Teacher
rarely understand the home life that children come from and they dont have any control
on how the parents will treat the children, but teachers have all control on how they will
treat their students. This goes along with Nietos theory because Nieto believes that we
need to understand a childs personal and family life to help them learn more efficiently.
As a teacher we need to get to know the family of the students we teach and go to their
There needs to be a joint effort with family members and teachers. Teachers need to
be willing to reach out to the families of the students they teach because it is the families
that know these children the best. Regular home visits and phone calls should become the
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norm. They shouldnt just happen when the student does something wrong, rather it
should happen when the student tries hard and is successful with the effort they put forth.
There are many different theories and from studying various ones I have come to the
conclusion that there will not be one correct way that can explain success. I am with
Nieto when she says that creating successful students and classrooms is a process. It
involves a big team of people working together for the same purpose. Loving each child
no matter their walk of life and working hard to reach out to that child and their family to
In order for school life and home life to become interconnected, I think the best place
to start is the design of the classroom. A classroom shouldnt be a four-wall room with
desks lined up in rows. When one walks into a multicultural classroom, they are walking
into a home. There are 5 or 6 round tables with comfy chairs around them so that students
have an easier time at working together in groups and discuss what they are learning. In
one area of the classroom there is a sensory spot where children who are feeling
overwhelmed can go and relax. The lighting isnt as bright in this area. There is soft
music playing and many different types of objects like silly putty, pieces of fabric, balls
to squeeze, and other tools that children can relax with. In another corner there is a mini
library with books in different languages and a couch. I particularly like this area because
this is where the families of the students can come and read books with their children.
This area is an escape from the regular routine of things. The classroom will be a model
of a humble home and it will be a place for anyone to come and learn.
The teacher will be dressed in accordance to the students. They will be one of them.
The teacher will hardly lecture but rather she or he will move from table to table learning
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and discovering with the students. The teacher will know every family member that
walks into the room. Most importantly the students will feel like they are capable of
doing anything they desire because the teacher will know the potential and the capability
of each student. Modifications of the classroom will take place on a regular basis
because there are various types of home lives. The only thing that will stay the same in
the classroom will be the feelings of teacher and family support as well as love for the
students.
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