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CHAPTER 1 - INTRODUCTION
Hey
guys,
welcome,
I'm
Christian
Hudson
and
thank
you
very
much
for
being
here
today.
The
goal
of
the
next
two
days
is
to
get
you
a
girlfriend,
plain
and
simple.
With
that
said,
there's
a
lot
of
stuff
that
we'll
be
learning
that
you
can
use
to
enjoy
your
life
and
play
the
field,
and
all
that
good
stuff
too.
This
is
a
step-‐by-‐step
system
for
getting
a
girlfriend,
from
before
you
meet
her,
to
the
moment
that
she's
your
loyal,
loving
girlfriend,
as
we
like
to
say.
This
is
real,
it's
tested,
it
works.
It's
sort
of
scary
for
me,
as
I
went
through
and
created
this
presentation.
I
was
like,
it
seems
so
contrived
to
me,
the
fact
that
I've
laid
it
out
so
step-‐by-‐step.
I've
been
in
a
relationship
for
the
last
two
and
a
half
years,
but
if
I
were
to
get
out
of
a
relationship
right
now
and
actually
start
dating
new
girls,
this
is
exactly
what
I
would
do.
That
seems
sort
of
weird
to
me
because
it's
like,
wow,
this
has
actually
gotten
results
for
me
in
the
past,
and
it
would
continue
to.
I've
heard
from
a
lot
other
guys.
This
is
version
two
that
we're
putting
together
right
now,
some
of
you
have
seen
version
one,
a
lot
of
guys
have
come
up
to
me
and
said,
"Hey
man,
I
love
version
one,
and
I
watched
it,
and
I
got
a
girlfriend."
We've
just
gotten
a
lot
of
great
feedback
from
that.
But,
I
created
this
version
because
the
course
has
just
been
selling
beyond
my
wildest
expectations
and
I
just
wanted
to
deliver
something
that
was
even
better
than
what
was
in
version
one.
And
I
wanted
to
match
it
up
with
some
of
the
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things
we're
talking
about
specifically
the
obsessions
story
and
so
that's
what
we're
going
to
be
talking
about
today.
Take
a
moment
to
introduce
myself
for
those
who
don't
know
me,
or
don't
know
my
background.
Some
of
you
who
are
sitting
here
probably
have
a
little
bit
more
context,
but
we
sell
a
lot
of
these
to
people
who
never
heard
of
me,
so
I
think
it's
worth
just
taking
a
moment
to
get
some
context
with
who
I
am
here.
I
sort
of
think
of
myself
as
an
entrepreneur,
not
a
dating
coach.
But
the
press
I've
gotten
all
says
dating
coach.
I
was
very,
very
insecure
until
my
early
thirties,
and
I
always
managed
to
cover
it
up
in
various
ways.
Whether
it
was
through
a
nice
car,
or
being
in
relationships,
or
what
have
you.
I'll
go
through
a
few
of
the
phases
here.
Finally
got
a
handle
on
it
in
my
early
thirties.
A
lot
of
what
I'll
be
sharing
with
you
here
and
what
I
share
in
other
courses
like
the
Ten
Code
and
we
just
filmed
Ignition
last
weekend,
is
stuff
that
I've
learned
over
the
years.
The
first
phase
of,
I'd
say
my
ego-‐ic
development,
where
my
ego
started
to
congeal,
was
my
first
girlfriend.
We
dated
for
four
years,
I
was
seventeen
when
we
started
dating,
twenty-‐one
when
we
broke
up.
It
was
a
very
bad
relationship,
that
I
stayed
in
for
far
too
long
because
I
was
insecure
and
didn't
want
to
lose
a
beautiful
girl.
When
we
did
break
up,
it
was
funny,
the
week
we
broke
up,
was
the
same
week
that
my
software
company
got
funded.
We
had
gone
out
and
we
had
raised
some
money
for
the
software
company
we
built,
and
I
went
right
from
being
in
a
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relationship
with
her,
to
having
and
being
a
college
student,
to
dropping
out
of
college
and
having
what
was
at
the
time
a
very
large
income
for
me.
I
went
out,
I
bought
a
bunch
of
really
nice
clothes,
I
got
an
Audi
TT,
and
I
just
really
douched
it
out.
Like
if
you
had
seen
me
walking
around,
I
thought
I
was
cool,
I
was
actually,
major
douche-‐bag.
I
was
just
trying
to
cover
up
my
insecurities
and
be
the
guy
who
I
thought
she
would
want
to
be
with,
and
be
jealous
of,
if
she
saw
me
now.
I
was
having
no
success
with
women
during
this
phase,
not
really
surprisingly.
Then,
there
was
this
phase
where
I
met
this
girl,
Christine,
who
you
all
might
have
heard
of
that
was
the
pivotal
moment
in
my
life,
where
I
was
like,
"OK,
I
have
to
get
this
shit
handled."
I
had
a
major
crush
on
her,
I
spent
$600
on
three
dates
with
her.
That
is
a
true
story.
Guys
see
the
marketing,
they're
like,
"That's
not
a
true
story",
I'm
like,
"Actually,
that
is
a
true
story."
That's
when
I
knew
I
needed
to
get
this
stuff
handled.
I
was
running
a
software
company
at
the
time,
and
really
stuffy
dude,
and
when
I
discovered,
like
when
that
incident
happened
everything
changed.
I
stopped
buttoning
up
my
suits
to
eleven,
stopped
being
so
stuffy.
Started
partying
a
little
bit,
started
going
out,
started
learning
about
how
to
talk
to
girls.
So
much
so,
that
I
just
really
stopped
giving
a
shit
about
what
was
going
on
at
my
software
company.
This
is
also
due
to
some
internal
factors
and
some
things
that
were
going
on
there.
Eventually
I
got
fired
from
my
own
company.
We
failed
to
raise
around
the
capital
that
was
needed
to
keep
operations
going
and
our
CEO
that
I
had
hired
had
to
let
me
go.
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So,
this
led
me
to
return
to
college,
and
at
that
point
I
was
just
planning
on
probably
moving
to
Hawaii
and
getting
a
motorcycle
and
I
was
going
to
the
University
of
Michigan
at
the
time,
I
was,
"You
know
what?
I'm
just
going
to
go
to
the
University
of
Hawaii,
bar
tend,
surf,
ride
a
motorcycle
and
love
my
life."
I
met
a
guy
who
I
would
go
on
to
start
a
company
with
a
few
weeks
later,
who
ended
up
being
featured
in
a
book
called
The
Game
that
some
of
you
all
might
have
heard
of.
Kind
of
popular
for
guys
our
age.
We
started
this
company
together
and
we
were
all
of
the
sudden,
when
The
Game
came
out,
like
the
business
just
exploded.
We
were
traveling
around
the
world,
teaching
guys
how
to
talk
to
girls,
and
I
was
running
the
business
from
the
back
of
my
history
class.
It
was
a
pretty
crazy
time,
and
I
actually
started
to
get
better
with
women.
Things
kind
of
fell
apart
with
this
guy,
we
didn't
really
see
eye
to
eye.
I
had
moved
to
New
York,
and
it
didn't
really
work
out.
I
found
that
I
wasn't
really
happy
living
that
lifestyle.
We
parted
ways
and
I
started,
there
was
a
brief
period
where
I
started
a
Jello
shot
company.
I
don't
know
if
any
of
you
all
have
heard
about
that?
It
was
caffeinated,
alcohol
Jello
shots
in
these
little
foil
packets.
Most
amazing
products
I've
probably
ever
put
my
hands
on,
so
amazing
that
the
Alcohol
Tobacco
and
Trade
Bureau
did
not
let
us
bring
it
to
market,
because
it
was
that
good.
I
was
massively
in
debt
at
the
time,
I
was
close
to
$100,000
in
debt
just
from
being
very
irresponsible
when
I
moved
to
New
York,
I
was
partying
all
the
time,
I
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was
just
going
out,
I
was
trying
to
run
this
company,
I'd
been
living
off
credit
cards,
and
that's
when
I
started
what's
now
The
Social
Man.
I
was
like,
"I
don't
know
how
to
do
anything
else
except
for
teach
guys
how
to
talk
to
girls
and
web
development,
so
I
should
probably
figure
out
how
to
combine
those
two
things".
Started
doing
coaching
again,
put
a
website
together.
This
became
that,
became
the
next
thing
and
that
sort
of
leads
me
to
where
we
are
here
today.
One
of
the
big
phases
of
my
life
that
happened
during
The
Social
Man
was
a
move
from
partying
all
the
time
and
going
nuts
and
club
nights,
and
Tuesday
nights
until
4
AM
being
out,
being
drunk,
and
then
waking
up
and
doing
it
the
next
night.
Which
was
a
very
fun
phase
and
there's
much
to
recommend,
that
sort
of
lifestyle,
but
moving
from
that
phase,
to
one
of
maturation
and
reconciliation
with
my
past.
Again,
a
lot
of
the
things
that
I'll
be
sharing
with
you
here,
especially
about
what
I'll
call
Boyfriend
Value
and
the
things
it
takes
to
be
a
guy
who
a
woman
who
would
ultimately
want
to
be
in
a
long
term
relation
with,
are
things
that
came
to
be
evident
to
me
as
I
was
going
through
that
phase.
Right
now
the
phase
of
life
that
I'm
in
I'd
like
to
call
On
My
Grind.
I
just
work
all
the
time,
and
I'd
like
to
work,
actually,
a
little
bit
less.
I've
been
working
every
night
this
week
till
about
1:30
AM.
But,
I
truly
believe
in
this
business,
we've
got
a
fantastic
team
who
we
work
with.
I
love
the
mission
that
I
have
to
share
these
things
that
I've
learned
with
the
world
and
the
opportunity
that
I
have
to
sit
in
front
of
you
guys
today,
so
that
is
a
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little
bit
of
background
about
me
for
the
rest
of
it,
there
may
be
an
un-‐authorized
biography
at
some
point
in
my
future.
We
shall
see
about
that.
What
you'll
learn
today,
let's
just
do
a
little
table
of
contents
before
we
start
jumping
into
the
main
material
is,
as
you
know,
a
lot
of
what
we're
learning
today
is
based
on
things
that
I
picked
when
I
was
reading
some
Literotica.
For
those
of
you
who
aren't
familiar
with
Literotica,
it's
the
number
one
E-‐book
category
on
Amazon.com.
It
is
every
woman's
deep
dark
secrets,
and
so
a
lot
of
what
we
learn
today
is
stuff
I
pulled
from
there,
started
to
figure
out
how
this
works
and
connected
the
dots
between
things
I
had
learned
and
the
pick-‐up
community
in
my
own
life
and
brought
them
all
together
to
make
this
course
that
we'll
all
be
talking
about
today.
It
starts,
and
this
is
what
we
will
actually
start
with
in
this
program.
It
starts
with
being
a
man
who
women
obsess
over.
Being
what
I
call
the
Obvious
Choice.
We're
going
to
spend
a
little
bit
of
time,
in
fact
most
of
the
time
today,
will
be
spent
talking
about
being
that
man
who
women
obsess
over.
If
you
read
Literotica,
there
are
always
character
traits
that
these
guys
have.
I've
distilled
those
character
traits
and
we
will
be
discussing
them.
This
will
also
happen
today.
I'll
show
you
the
social
dynamics
of
the
game.
So,
like,
we
talk
about
the
obsession
story.
I
basically
be
linking
the
obsession
story
to
some
underlying
dynamics.
We
talk
about
value
and
investment.
To
give
you
a
little
bit
more
context
about
how
that
relates
to
the
obsession
story.
Then,
we'll
actually
link
that
to
check
points
in
the
dating
process,
so
meeting
her,
first
date,
second
date,
all
that.
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As
you're
going
through
and
dating
girls
and
taking
them
out,
you'll
be
able
to
understand
that
you're
like,
"OK,
I'm
in
this
phase
right
now
and
this
is
how
she
feels
about
me."
You'll
have
a
much
deeper
understanding,
because
I
don't
like
to
just
give
step-‐by-‐steps,
I
like
to
be
able
to
give
you
guys
context,
so
if
something
goes
wrong,
and
we're
human
beings
and
there's
always
things
that
go
wrong
with
human
beings,
if
something
goes
wrong,
you
know
the
theory
behind
what's
going
on
and
you
see
it
a
little
bit
deeper,
so
you
can
react
accordingly.
Then,
this
will
be
tomorrow,
we'll
spend
a
whole
day
giving
you
strategies
and
tactics
you
need
to,
I
have
in
my
slides,
to
win
the
game.
That
sounds
a
little
bit,
zero
sum,
like
she
loses
and
you
win.
That's
not
it
at
all,
but
I
will
be
showing
you
the
strategies
and
the
tactics
you
need
to
win
the
game
and
go
from
meeting
her
to
dating
her,
to
sleeping
with
her,
to
being
your
girlfriend.
That
will
be
all
day
tomorrow
and
that's
what
the
course
is
all
about.
So
with
that
introduction
out
of
the
way,
we're
going
to
move
on
to
the
next
segment
here
shortly,
which
is
being
a
man
who
women,
obsess
over.
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We’re
going
to
start
the
day
by
talking
about
how
to
be
the
man
who
women
obsess
over.
What
presumably
brought
a
lot
of
you
here
is
the
“obsession
story”.
I’m
going
to
give
you
the
obsession
story
right
now
in
a
nutshell
and
then
everything
that
flows
from
this
moment
forward
is
going
to
be
based
on
this
little
core
that
we’re
talking
about
right
here.
If
you
had
to
distill
the
obsession
story
down
into
a
few
words,
which
I
did,
you’d
say
that
a
woman
wants
to
feel
your
masculine
power
and
be
overwhelmed
by
it.
I’m
going
to
repeat
that.
A
woman
wants
to
feel
your
masculine
power
and
be
overwhelmed
by
it.
When
I
first
came
up
with
that
I
thought
it
sounded
a
little
rapey
and
that’s
not
what
I
mean,
so
let
me
distill
what
I
mean
by
masculine
power
and
being
overwhelmed
by
it.
It
gets
a
little
dictionary
definition
heavy,
but
I
think
this
will
help
give
you
guys
some
context.
Masculine
power
is
a
distinct
energy
that
comes
from
a
dominant
man.
We’re
going
to
show
you
guy’s
dominance
in
just
a
moment.
Distinct
energy
that
comes
from
a
dominant
man
with
a
good
heart,
positive
intentions
whose
life
is
an
adventure
and
who
strives
for
success.
I’ll
repeat
that
one
more
time
somewhat
slowly.
A
distinct
energy
that
comes
from
a
dominant
man
with
a
good
heart,
positive
intentions
whose
life
is
an
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adventure
and
who
strives
for
success.
That
to
me
in
the
characters
that
I
saw
is
masculine
power.
What
is
it
to
be
overwhelmed
by
it?
That,
again,
I’ve
seen
guys
who
overwhelm
women
and
it’s
never
cool,
but
what
is
it
to
overwhelm
women
through
masculine
power?
It’s
letting
this
masculine
power,
this
energy,
touch
her
and
if
you
want
to
put
it
in
a
mechanical
context,
activate
her
latent
feminine
essence,
her
sexuality,
her
radiance,
and
her
grace.
I
want
to
dwell
on
those
words
for
just
a
moment;
her
sexuality,
her
radiance,
and
her
grace.
These
are
things
that,
when
you
are
able
to
make
a
woman
feel
radiant,
when
you’re
able
to
make
her
feel
sexual,
when
you’re
able
to
make
her
feel
graceful,
those
are
things
that
not
every
man
can
make
a
woman
feel.
By
tuning
in
to
this
masculine
power,
the
strength,
this
dominance,
this
good
heart,
living
your
life
as
an
adventure
and
you
can
almost
think
of
it;
you
come
into
contact
with
someone,
this
beautiful
woman
that
catches
your
eye
and
just
that
energy
activates
this
thing
inside
of
her.
It
lights
her
up
quite
literally.
It
gets
her
a
little
bit
sexually
excited.
It
makes
her
feel
radiant
in
your
eyes.
That
is
the
core
of
the
obsession
story.
If
you
look
through
a
lot
of
the
romance
novels,
a
lot
of
literotica,
you
will
see
this
man
who
just
lights
a
woman
up,
he
does
a
few
things
that
we
will
be
going
through,
but
this
is
the
core
of
it.
I
want
to
break
down
what
the
elements
of
masculine
power
are.
We
talked
about
a
dominant
man,
good
heart,
positive
intentions,
life
is
an
adventure,
strive
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for
success.
Those
are
core
values
but
let’s
break
them
down
so
you
can
actually
cultivate
these
character
traits.
If
you
cultivate
them
in
your
personality
then
this
is
going
to
be
so
much
easier
to
actually
go
through
this
all.
We’re
going
to
start
with
dominance.
This
one
is
an
interesting
one
for
me
to
talk
about
because
I
was
the
most
passive
young
man
in
the
world.
When
I
would
get
checked
in
hockey
I
would
run
off
and
sit
on
the
bench
and
I
don’t
think
I
cried,
but
probably
wanted
to.
I
always
shied
away
from
fights.
I’ve
never
actually
been
in
a
fistfight
in
my
life
so
I’m
not
a
classically
dominant
guy.
This
is
a
personality
trait
that
I
had
to
learn
to
cultivate
in
order
to
have
the
success
with
women
that
I
wanted.
A
lot
of
these
things
we
talk
about
in
great
depth
in
the
ten
code
so
I’m
going
to
give
you
high
level
stuff
here
for
the
distillation
of
these
concepts.
Dominance
starts
with
having
expectations
for
how
things
should
be.
I
walked
in
the
room
this
morning.
Immediately
I
look
around
and
I’m
like,
okay,
the
couch
should
be
over
there
this-‐
Well,
I
actually
didn’t
decide
that
one.
The
couch
should
be
over
there.
We
should
get
the
fan
set
up.
Let’s
turn
the
air
conditioning
on
and
let’s
get
the
music
going.
Just
instantly
come
in;
this
is
how
things
should
be.
Do
it
with
work.
Do
it
with
social
situations,
too.
Any
time
you
walk
into
a
bar,
hey,
people
aren’t
having
enough
fun
in
here.
Come
on,
let’s
go.
Let’s
get
some
shots.
Let’s
get
moving,
if
you
are
a
drinker.
It
starts
with
just
having
expectations
for
how
things
should
be.
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Then
assertively
pursuing
what
you
want.
You’re
at
that
bar.
You’re
starting
to
have
fun.
You
see
a
girl
assertively
pursuing
what
you
want.
You’re
not
assertive
about
it
if
you’re
half
assed
about
pursuing
what
you
want.
That’s
not
dominance.
That’s
just
hoping
the
world
is
going
to
give
you
something
that
you
probably
don’t
deserve.
A
third
component
of
dominance;
this
one
is
perhaps
the
most
important
component
and
this
is
what
most
young
people
who
are
not
dominant
try
to
avoid
is
rejection.
If
you
are
dominant
you
are
willing
to
risk
rejection
to
get
what
you
want
and
what
you
think
is
right.
Think
about
Braveheart,
the
ultimate
dominant
dude.
He’s
willing
to
risk
death
in
order
to
stand
up
for
what
he
thinks
is
right.
That’s
rejection
of
life.
That’s
a
big
deal.
A
dominant
man
is
willing
to
risk
rejection.
He’s
willing
to
approach
a
girl.
He’s
willing
to
go
for
the
kiss.
He’s
willing
to
push
things
a
little
bit
in
order
to
get
what
he
thinks
is
right.
Along
those
lines,
a
dominant
man
doesn’t
really
care
what
other
people
think.
I
remember
when
I
was
twenty,
twenty-‐one;
first
mentor
in
my
life,
he
was
telling
me,
“Dude,
I
stopped
giving
a
fuck
what
people
think.”
This
guy
was
so
dorky
and
stood
like
this;
he
was
really
scrawny,
glasses,
but
he
didn’t
care
what
people
thought.
He
did
very
well
socially
with
women,
with
men.
He
just
didn’t
care
what
people
thought.
These
are
all
some
components
of
dominance.
It
really
is
a
muscle.
It’s
something
that
you
have
to
exercise.
We’ve
got
a
whole
bunch
of
exercises
in
ten
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code
about
this;
pushing
yourself
to
stay
in
conversations
longer,
get
closer
to
women.
We’ll
demonstrate
this
is
just
a
little
bit,
in
a
moment
here.
One
of
the
things
that
we
do
when
we
work
with
guys
in
coaching
is
that
we
actually,
we’ll
sometimes
just
have
them,
we’ll
be
like
nope
you
can’t
leave
the
conversation.
They’ll
turn
around,
I
think
the
conversation’s
over.
We’re
like,
nope,
you’ve
got
to
go
stay
in
the
conversation
longer
and
just
push
them,
or
we’d
see
them
standing
far
away
from
the
girl.
We’re
like,
no,
you
have
to
work
space,
get
closer.
I’m
going
to
give
you
three
stories
of
dominance
to
contextualize
this
and
we’ll
give
you
some
examples.
First
story
of
dominance,
I
was
dating
this
girl.
We
were
eating
dinner
at
a
table
very
much
like
that
one
sitting
across
from
each
other.
It
was
our
second
date,
third
date.
I’ll
be
talking
about
that
dating
strategy
a
little
later
tomorrow.
Got
up,
walked
around
the
table
and
she
was
looking
at
me
and
I
walk
around
looking
at
her
smiling
a
little
bit.
I
looked
down
and
it’s
a
little
edgy
but
I
felt
that
I
could
probably
get
away
with
this
so
I
looked
down
and
leaned
over
like
going
to
kiss
her.
She
turns
away
and
she’s
like
no,
no,
no.
We’d
been
introduced
through
this
friend
who
really
liked
her
and
had
a
crush
on
her.
She
was
like
no,
no,
it’d
be
weird.
I
don’t
know,
I
don’t
know.
I
just
very
gently
took
her
head
and
then
leaning
over
and
just
turned
it
towards
me
and
looked
her
in
the
eye
and
I
said,
“No,
it’s
going
to
be
amazing.”
I
leaned
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MASCULINE POWER
in
and
starting
kissing
her.
Very
gently
but
very
dominantly
I
said,
“No,
this
is
going
to
be
amazing.”
That’s
an
example
of
dominance.
A
third
story
of
dominance
actually
along
those
lines
is
I
used
to
live
in
this
big
party
loft.
It
was
New
Year’s
Eve.
We
were
throwing
a
party
and
there
was
this
girl
who
I
had
kind
of
sort
of
been
seeing
and
she’s
over.
I
knew
this
girl
was
total
trouble.
I
was
not
dating
her
as
wife
material,
but
she
was
fun.
It’s
late
in
the
evening
and
it’s
time
for
people
to
move
on.
I’m
standing
in
the
corner
and
I’m
talking
to
somebody.
I
see
her
making
out
with
this
guy.
A
female
friend
of
mine,
I
said,
“Can
you
go
grab
her
and
stop
her
from
making
out
with
the
guy?”
My
female
friend
walks
over.
She’s
like,
“Hey,
Jonathan
wants
you
to
stop
making
out
with
him,”
or
Christian,
as
the
case
may
be.
You
guys
all
know
Jonathan,
Christian.
She
said,
“Jonathan
wants
you
to
stop
making
out
with
that
guy.”
She’s
like,
“What?”
I
just
walked
over.
I
was
like,
“Yeah,
stop
making
out
with
him.”
She
was
like,
“What?”
I
was
like,
“Yeah,
come
here.”
I
just
grabbed
her,
took
her
to
my
bedroom,
that
was
it.
We’d
already
obviously
been
kissing
a
little
bit
in
the
past.
Like
I
said,
this
girl
was
not
marriage
material.
There
was
a
reason
we
were
engaged
in
that
sort
of
activity
at
New
Year’s
Eve.
That
was
another
good
example
of
dominance,
stop
doing
this.
Let’s
go
through
again
very
quickly
the
traits
of
dominance;
having
expectations
for
how
things
should
be,
assertively
pursuing
what
you
want,
willing
to
risk
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MASCULINE POWER
rejection
and
not
caring
what
others
think.
All
of
those
examples
demonstrates
those
four
traits
in
action.
This
is
a
thing
that
it’s
a
little
scary
when
you
start
doing
it
but
then
it
becomes
very
freeing
and
liberating
to
actually
act
this
way.
With
that
in
mind
I’m
going
to
ask
Alex
to
join
me
onstage,
on
the
creaky
stage
here
and
we’re
going
to
demonstrate-‐
Yeah,
you
can
do
some
dancing
actually.
These
are
things
that
have
happened
in
my
life.
Not
quite
what
I
was
talking
about
a
moment
ago,
but
a
few
other
examples
of
dominance
in
action.
This
one
was,
we
don’t
have
a
taxi
here
obviously,
but
this
one
happened
when
I
was
in
the
Lower
East
Side
and
the
girl
had
just
gotten
into
a
taxi
and
is
sitting
in
traffic.
Do
you
want
to
stand
right
here
so
the
cameras
can
see
my
eyes?
Face
me
a
little
bit
like
this.
She’s
sitting
in
the
taxi
and
she’s
just
standing
there.
I
walk
up
to
the
taxi
and
knock
on
the
window
and
she
opens
it.
Hey.
Alex: Hi.
Alex: Alex.
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Christian:
McFadden’s.
I
can’t
join
you,
but
I
want
to
know
you.
What’s
your
number?
Christian:
That
was
it
and
she
gave
me
her
number.
That
was
it.
It
was
amazing.
Actually,
can
I
borrow
somebody’s
phone
real
quick?
Christian:
Thank
you.
I’m
not
going
to
use
it,
but
use
it
as
a
prop.
That
was
unexpected,
but
dominant.
I
was
just
like,
hey,
I
can’t
join
you
but
I
want
to
get
to
know
you.
Can
I
have
your
number?
I
wanted
to
pause
here
for
a
second
just
to
get
the
first
half
of
that
out
of
the
way.
Now
what
will
happen
if
you
do
that,
and
I’ve
done
that
plenty
of
times,
is
girls
will
usually
have
the
response
that
Alex
had
which
is
um
because
they’re
not
used
to
that.
What
you
can
do
is
we’ll
start
over.
We’ll
just
pretend.
I
would
be
like,
let’s
go
in
back
in
the
situation.
I
can’t
join
you
but
I
want
to
know
you.
Can
I
have
your
number?
Christian:
Yeah?
Okay,
here.
You
just
watched
how
my
eyes
were
on
her.
Can
I
have
your
number?
Just
like
that.
You
wouldn’t
believe
this
actually
works,
but
it
does.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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Next
one
I
just
want
you
to
resist
a
little
bit.
Give
me
your
number
and
like
umm
and
then
I’ll-‐
Okay.
I
can’t
join
you
but
I
want
to
know
you.
Can
I
have
your
number?
Alex: Umm.
Christian: Look, I’ll only text you twenty times a day. Okay?
Alex: Okay.
Christian:
Okay.
Sometimes
you’ll
get
that
pushback
and
if
you
just
say
a
funny
line,
oftentimes
you’ll-‐
I’ll
only
text
you
twenty
times
a
day.
You
just
smile.
Oftentimes
that
deals
with
the
pushback
and
then
you
can
keep
pushing
forward
after
that
if
yours
is
still
I
don’t
know.
Listen,
obviously,
and
I
could
just
go
on.
Obviously
you
could
go
on
your
way
in
your
life.
I
could
go
on
my
way
in
my
life
and
we
could
just
remember
this
moment
or
you
could
think
back
to
this
moment
in
ten
years
from
now.
We
don’t
know
what’s
going
to
happen.
We
don’t
know
what’s
going
to
happen.
Christian:
Right,
exactly.
I
would
just
keep
pushing.
Thank
you
and
thank
you.
This
is
another
example-‐
Actually
you
can
stay
up
here.
We
were
in
a
bar.
I
was
making
eye
contact
with
this
girl
throughout
the
bar.
She
would
be
over
there.
I
would
be
over
here.
This
happens
sometimes.
You’re
in
the
bar
and
you’re
making
eye
contact
with
a
girl.
This
happens
sometimes.
Not
always
but
it
happens.
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My
bar
was
nightclubish.
You’re
going
to
walk
this
way.
I’m
going
to
walk
that
way.
We’re
just
walking
by
and
we
briefly
do
that
whole
I’m
not
paying
attention
to
you
but
I’m
paying
attention
to
you
thing.
I’m
walking
this
way.
You’re
walking
this
way.
I
see
you.
I
just
grabbed
her,
grabbed
her
on
the
arm.
Spin
her
around
and
I’m
like
hey.
Alex: Hi.
Alex: Nothing.
Christian: Alex.
Christian:
I’ve
got
to
go
sort
something
out
over
there,
but
I
want
to
talk
to
you.
You
going
to
be
around?
Christian:
Let’s
demonstrate
that
arm
grab
again
because
you’ve
got
to
be
careful
with
this.
You
can’t
lunge,
but
if
you’re
getting
that
eye
contact
and
you
know
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that
look-‐
Why
don’t
we
actually
turn
around
so
the
guys
can
see
the
look
in
your
eyes
and
you
can
come
a
little
bit
farther,
yeah.
You
know
this
look.
You’ve
been
looking
at
each
other
through
the
bar
and
you
do
the
pass.
We
walk
and
she’s
just
giving
me
that,
right?
Just
grab
her,
pull
her
in,
break
space
a
little
bit
and
now
we’re
talking.
That’s
the
third
one.
The
next
one,
this
is
why
I’m
chewing
gum,
is
because
this
is
a
very
dominant
sexual
turn-‐on.
Alex
has
willingly
agreed
to
participate
in
these
sorts
of
demonstrations.
This
is
something
that
you
do.
You’re
back
at
the
house.
You’re
making
out.
This
will
normally
for
me
start
in
the
kitchen.
We’ll
be
talking
about
dates
after
this
whole
thing.
After
this
segment
we’ll
be
talking
about
dates.
One
of
my
dates
would
be
in
the
kitchen
and
we’d
be
making
dessert
or
be
cleaning
up
after
dinner.
We’d
probably
be
kissing
each
other,
kissing
standing
up
because
she’s
cleaning,
I’m
cleaning;
we’re
kissing
each
other.
I
want
to
use
this
wall
so
you
can
come
over
this
way.
Right
here
is
fine.
I’m
going
to
narrate
while
I’m
talking
to
Alex.
We
agreed
no
actual
kissing
will
take
place,
but
I’m
going
to
narrate
as
I
talk
to
her.
Obviously
we’re
right
up
against
each
other.
We’re
making
out.
We’re
doing
this.
We’re
moving
around
and
everything.
What
I’m
going
to
do,
I
don’t
want
to
break
that
painting;
what
I’m
going
to
do
is
I’m
going
to
push
her
up
against
the
wall
and
look
at
her.
Let’s
see,
maybe
that
wall
so
you
guys
can
all
see
her.
Actually,
I
want
you
to
see
my
eyes.
Let’s
just
imagine
that
this
is
a
wall
right
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here.
We’ll
see
what
we
can
do.
I’m
sorry.
Right
here,
right
here.
This
is
the
wall
right
here.
We’re
talking.
We’re
all
passionate;
we’re
making
out
and
stuff.
I’m
going
to
push
her
up
against
the
wall
and
look
at
her
like
that.
Very
gently
come
in
and
very
tenderly
start
to
kiss
her.
It’s
a
dominant
push.
You
notice
I’m
still
holding
her,
right?
I’m
going
to
prevent
her
head
from
hitting
the
back
of
the
wall.
It’s
a
dominant
push
then
very
gently
coming
back
and
starting
to
kiss
her.
That
is
dominance.
Thank
you.
We’ll
have
more.
Yes.
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This
is
the
next
trait
is
competence.
This
is
a
key
ingredient
to
a
successful
life,
obviously.
Women
want
to
be
with
a
competent
man.
He
doesn’t
have
to
be
a
wealthy
man.
He
just
has
to
be
competent.
You
can
be
a
competent
musician
and
be
on
your
game
and
on
your
path.
You
can
be
a
competent
whatever
you
do
with
your
life
and
still
be
…
Even
if
you’re
not
making
a
lot
of
money,
you
can
still
be
very
competent
at
it.
When
I
think
of
competence,
it’s
ability.
This
is
…
Actually,
my
buddy
came
up
with
this
but
I
thought
it
was
such
a
great
encapsulation
of
it.
Competence
is
:
“ability
plus
responsibility
plus
reliability”.
So,
I’ll
repeat
that.
Competence
is
“ability
plus
responsibility
plus
reliability”.
Competence
is
a
natural
outcome
of
having
a
mission
in
your
life.
I
was
a
very
incompetent
man
when
I
didn’t
have
a
mission.
I
had
my
software
company,
but
I
didn’t
really
give
a
shit
about
it.
It
was
just
an
ego
project
for
me.
It
was
like,
“Oh,
I
went
out,
and
I
raised
some
venture
capital
money,
and
I
bought
an
Audi
TT.”
I
didn’t
give
a
shit
about
what
I
was
doing.
I
just
liked
the
ego
of
saying
that
I
ran
this
business.
Now,
I
give
a
shit
about
what
I’m
doing.
I
wouldn’t
be
re-‐filming
this
if
I
didn’t.
Evan
has
seen
me
in
a
professional
context.
We
don’t
work
…
You’re
not
an
employee
of
mine,
but
you’ve
seen
the
way
I
work
with
people.
It’s
like
I
have
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extremely
high
expectations,
and
a
degree
of
competence
that’s
come
about
from
just
having
this
mission
that
I
feel
a
strong
urge
to
share
with
the
world.
So,
we
talk
about
having
a
mission
in
“Ignition”.
It’s
another
program
in
the
course.
But,
in
short,
I’ll
just
tell
you,
I
mean,
a
mission
is
something
that
gets
talked
about
a
lot.
Having
a
mission
is
something
that
doesn’t
happen
overnight.
It
kind
of
just
finds
you
if
you’re
doing
something
you
love.
Three
hallmarks
of
competence,
of
men
who
are
acting
in
competence,
and
some
of
you
guys
have
heard
me
talk
about
this
already,
letting
your
actions
control
your
emotions.
If
you’ve
never
heard
me
say
this
before,
I
did
not
come
up
with
the
concept.
It
was
given
to
me
by
a
mentor.
But,
as
soon
as
it
hit
me,
the
truth
of
it
was
like,
“That
is
what
a
competent
man
is,
a
man
who
lets
his
actions
control
his
emotions,
not
his
emotions
control
his
actions.”
You
don’t
feel
like
going
to
the
gym?
I
get
it.
You’re
kind
of
down.
Go
anyway.
Let
your
actions
control
emotions.
Imagine
how
great
you
will
feel
when
you
leave
the
gym.
You
don’t
feel
like
approaching
her?
Your
emotions
are
a
little
afraid.
I
get
it.
It’s
cool.
But,
imagine
how
great
you’ll
feel
when
you
go
back
to
your
buddies
with
her
number
or
at
least
like,
“Dude.
I
fucking
did
it!”
There’s
this
high.
If
you’re
not
used
to
approaching
girls
…
Raise
your
hand
if
you
remember
this.
I’m
even
getting
goosebumps
as
I
think
about
it.
Like,
the
first
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few
times
I
would
go
out
and
approach
girls
with
my
buddies,
and
even
if
they
rejected
me,
when
it
was
about
me
and
my
boys
and
like,
“We
fucking
did
it,
man!”
There’s
this
little
high
that
you
get,
just
the
feeling
that
you
get
from
doing
that
and
letting
your
actions
control
your
emotion.
That’s
number
1.
Number
2
is
balancing
fun
and
responsibility.
This
is
a
second
hallmark
of
competence,
I
guess
you
would
call
it,
the
sub-‐bullets
if
you’re
going
that
far
in
your
notes.
Balancing
fun
and
responsibility.
In
my
mid-‐20s,
it
was
all
fun.
In
my
early
20s,
it
was
all
responsibility.
Nobody
wants
to
be
with
either
person.
Right
now,
it’s
a
lot
of
responsibility
and
not
as
much
fun,
and
I
am
aware
of
that,
and
I
talk
to
my
girlfriend
about
it.
I’m
like,
“Listen,
babe.
I
know
we’re
not
having
as
much
fun
right
now.
Just
let
me
get
through
this
phase
of
what
we’re
trying
to
do
in
the
business.”
But,
balancing
fun
and
responsibility,
a
competent
man
is
able
to
do
both.
Finally,
creating
more
than
you
consume.
My
mid-‐20s
were
a
testament
to
the
fact
that
if
you
consume
more
than
you
create
in
terms
of
bottles
at
the
nightclub,
girls
afterwards,
lord
knows
what
else.
But,
I
wasn’t
creating
anything.
I
was
just
consuming,
consuming,
consuming
…
spending.
If
you
create
more
than
you
consume,
that
is
a
hallmark
of
a
competent
man.
I’ve
given
you
some
examples
of
incompetence
as
I’ve
been
talking
through
this,
my
overspending
days.
Another
big
one
of
incompetence,
for
me,
was
staying
in
business
partnerships
for
too
long.
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MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
I
don’t
know
if
any
of
you
guys
are
entrepreneurs,
but
it’s
very
easy
to
stay
in
a
business
partnership
for
too
long
when
it
feels
safe
…
similar
to
a
relationship.
Sometimes,
you’re
in
these
very
nice
relationships.
We
were
talking
about
earlier,
why
do
people
stay
in
relationships?
They
just
don’t
feel
competent
stepping
out
and
being
on
their
own.
A
few
examples
of
competence
…
It’s
a
little
bit
difficult
to
demo
competence
because
it’s
more
something
that
just
comes
out
in
a
day-‐to-‐day
experience
of
your
life.
There’s
something
that
we
call
passive
value.
We’ll
be
talking
about
that
a
little
bit
later.
Passive
value
is
the
world
you
create.
The
more
impressive
the
world
you
create,
the
more
competent
you
appear.
Fifty
Shades
of
Grey
is
a
great
example.
She
walks
into
his
office,
and
he’s
just
sitting
there
like
…
The
way
I
picture
it
is
he’s
like
Monty
Burns,
but
like
really
handsome.
I
don’t
know
if
you
guys
watch
The
Simpsons.
Burns
just
has
that
long
antechamber,
and
he’s
got
this
big,
imposing
desk,
and
he’s
got
a
little
vacuum
that
comes
down
and
sucks
people
away
when
he’s
unhappy
with
them.
That’s
how
I
picture
Christian
Grey,
except
a
really
kind
of
handsome
dude.
So,
that
right
there
is
a
great
example
of
competence.
She
just
walks
in,
and
she
sees
like,
“Holy
shit.”
Like,
“This
guy’s
got
his
shit
together.”
But,
there’s
some
other
ways
that
competence
that
come
out
in
your
own
life,
in
conversations.
One
thing
we’ll
be
talking
about
a
little
later
is
stories
about
values
and
vision.
So,
when
you’re
talking
and
you’re
telling
stories
about
your
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life,
you
want
to
lead
with
the
values
that
caused
you
to
do
what
you’re
doing
in
those
stories
and
your
vision
for
the
future
that
is
the
outcome
of
those
stories.
So,
I
know
that’s
kind
of
conceptual
here.
We’ll
make
it
specific.
Maybe
you
can
join
me
…
Is
this
part
of
the
demo?
I
think
it
is.
Alex:
Yeah.
Christian:
Okay,
cool.
So,
a
few
years
ago
in
the
business,
I
had
to
…
I
had
to
fire
somebody
who
I
was
very
close
to
and
who
was
a
great
friend.
This
is
just
a
little
example
of
me
talking
and
hopefully
displaying
some
degree
of
competence.
So,
I
can’t
remember
exactly
how
this
starts.
Did
you
ask
me
a
question
to
start
it
off?
Alex:
Yeah.
Christian:
Okay.
Alex:
I
asked
you
…
You
were
telling
me
about
your
work,
and
I
asked
you
what
the
toughest
decision
you’ve
ever
had
to
make.
Christian:
That’s
right.
That’s
right.
Yeah,
so
I’ll
start
by
talking
about
work.
So,
yeah,
I
mean,
it’s
just
been
an
amazing
ride.
I
started
with
nothing.
What’s
that
Drake
song
that’s
real
popular?
Alex:
“Started
from
the
Bottom.”
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Christian:
“Started
from
the
Bottom.”
I
totally
identified
when
heard
it.
There’s
been
so
many
hard
decisions
along
the
way,
but
it’s
…
Overall,
it’s
just
been
pretty
amazing.
Alex:
What’s
some
of
the
toughest
decisions
you’ve
had
to
make?
Christian:
Hmm.
I’m
trying
…
Well,
okay.
So,
you
already
know
I’m
really
passionate
about
this,
and
I
feel
the
need
to
share
it
with
people.
Not
just
the
desire,
but
the
need
to
share
this
with
people.
There
was
a
guy
I
was
working
with
for
a
while,
and
he
was
a
really
good
friend.
We
partied
together.
We
hung
out.
We
just
really
enjoyed
…
He
was
like
my
bro,
right?
Alex:
Mm-‐hmm
(affirmative).
Christian:
Not
my
brother,
but
he
was
like
my
bro.
The
problem
was
he
just
…
His
mission
was
not
the
same
as
mine.
He
was
a
little
bit
more
into
just
partying
and
living
his
life
on
a
day-‐to-‐day
basis.
I
don’t
know.
It
was
like
…
I
had
to
let
him
go
basically
is
the
short
version.
I
had
to
fire
him.
It
kind
of
came
down
to
the
simple
choices...
Like,
am
I
going
to
grow
this
thing
and
share
it
with
the
world?
Or,
is
this
going
to
be
about
just
a
little
small
thing
that
I
get
held
back
with?
Alex:
Right.
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Christian:
I
didn’t
want
…
My
desire
to
share
this
with
the
world
was
greater
than
my
desire
to
be
held
back
and
still
keep
him
in
the
business
just
as
sort
of
a
…
like
a
…
I
don’t
know,
as
a
nice
thing
to
do.
Alex:
Right.
I
understand.
Christian:
Yeah.
Alex:
It’s
tough.
Christian:
It
is
tough.
So,
anyway,
thank
you.
That
was
just
…
That’s
great.
So,
yeah,
that
was
just
an
example
of
me
kind
of
talking
in
a
way
that
displays
some
degree
of
competence
because
I’m
leading
with
my
visions
and
my
values.
Right?
So,
my
values
are:
“I
need
to
share
this
with
the
world”.
This
is
important
to
me.
I’m
not
going
to
let
this
be
held
back.
So,
that’s
very
different
than
if
I
were
to
say,
“Well,
you
know
what?
I
thought
I
could
make
a
lot
more
money
without
him,”
or,
“You
know
what?
He
was
just
…
He
was
getting
drunk
all
the
time,”
which
is
true.
So,
that’s
just
an
example
of
leading
with
visions
and
values.
When
you
tell
your
story,
you’re
really
trying
to
connect
with
like,
“I
have
this
bigger
mission.
I
have
this
bigger
thing
that
I’m
doing.”
So,
that
is
competence.
A
third
element
of
being
an
obsession
worthy
man
is
being
“challenging”.
They
are
not
pushovers.
This
is
slightly
different
than
dominant.
Dominant
is
a
guy
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who
just
takes
what
he
wants.
Challenging
is
something
quite
different.
Challenging
is
that
you
expect
that
there
are
people
who
want
something
from
you,
and
you
challenge
them
to
live
up
to
your
expectations.
Being
challenging,
interestingly
enough,
I’ve
found
in
my
life
that
it’s
a
natural
result
of
success
and
competence.
When
I
started
this
business,
I
think
I’ve
mentioned,
I
was
six
figures
in
debt,
and
I
felt
very
incompetent,
and
my
life
was
kind
of
shit.
I
always
felt
like
when
I
was
approaching
people,
I
was
coming
up
with
an
empty
glass,
and
the
glass
was
probably
this
big
because
of
how
much
debt
I
had.
I
was
like,
“Please.
Fill
it.”
These
days,
just
as
a
result
of
having
had
some
success
and
being
competent,
I’m
forced
to
challenge
people.
We
get
a
lot
of
emails
from
people
who
want
this
or
want
that.
Girls
come
into
your
life,
and
they
want
to
be
a
part
of
it,
and
so
you
have
to
…
You
have
to
challenge
people.
So,
this
is
one
of
these
traits
that,
subconsciously,
when
somebody
is
challenging
to
you,
it
automatically
triggers
an
instinctive
thought
about
them
that
like,
“Wow.
This
person
must
be
successful.
This
person
must
be
on
their
grind.
This
person
must
be
somebody
who
I
want
to
have
in
my
life,
who
I
want
to
qualify
myself
to.”
You
can
fake
it
until
you
make
it,
and
a
lot
of
people
do.
But,
as
I
said,
the
more
successful
you
become,
the
more
competent
you
are
in
your
life,
the
more
that
this
will
just
be
a
natural
outcome
of
your
personality.
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As
I
mentioned,
it
comes
from
having
high
expectations
for
others.
Where
do
high
expectations
from
others
come
from?
Start
with
having
high
expectations
for
yourself.
Again,
in
my
own
life,
and
I
hate
to
keep
talking
about
myself.
I
feel
like
it’s
really
like,
“Oh!
It’s
all
about
me!”
But,
that’s
the
place
that
I’m
trying
to
teach
from.
So,
I
have
very
high
expectations
for
my
health,
for
my
fitness,
for
my
work,
for
my
finances,
for
the
people
who
are
in
my
life.
So,
starting
from
that
place,
you
begin
to
have
high
expectations
for
others.
One
of
the
interesting
things
about
literotica
heroes
and
romance
novel
heroes
is
these
guys
are
so
challenging
that
they
almost
can’t
imagine
that
women
have
something
to
offer.
In
some
of
the
edgier
books,
like
some
of
the
books
where
women
kind
of
give
themselves
to
guys,
or
the
guys
just
take
the
women,
it’s
almost
like
the
guys
just
see
this
woman
and
they’re
like,
“Phew.
Whatever.
I’m
off
sailing
a
boat
around
the
world,”
or,
“I’m
off
about
to
fight
a
war,”
or,
“I’m
off
about
to
do
something
big
and
grand.”
Like,
“You
have
nothing
to
give
me.
You
have
nothing
to
offer
me.”
So,
challenging
…
Being
challenging
to
these
women
is
just
like
…
It
is
deep
in
the
DNA
of
every
single
literotica
novel,
and
you
will
see
that
with
every
single
character.
What
does
it
mean
to
be
challenging
to
a
woman?
Like,
how
does
this
work
itself
out?
Well,
I’m
going
to
give
you
some
demonstrations.
But,
I
think
the
place
to
start
is
that
you
challenge
her
to
be
more
than
a
pretty
face.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
Last
week,
when
we
filmed
Ignition,
I
talked
about
developing
sort
of
a
tolerance
to
very
beautiful
women.
This
is
something
that,
again,
comes
with
time
and
comes
with
talking
to
beautiful
women.
But,
I
can
say,
again,
speaking
from
my
own
perspective,
my
…
When
I
look
at
a
beautiful
woman
in
the
eye
these
days,
it’s
a
very
different
sort
of
emotional
experience
for
me
than
it
was
10
years
ago,
and
that’s
just
the
result
of
having
talked
to
them
and
dated
them
and
been
with
them.
So,
having
a
tolerance
for
beauty
and
challenging
her
to
be
more
than
a
pretty
face
is
a
big
key
of
being
challenging.
Another
element
of
this,
and
this
is
like
foundational
for
the
lifetime
of
your
relationship.
Guys
get
into
relationships
and
they’re
like
…
They
just
give
in.
They
become
this
kind
of
…
this
wusses.
That’s
fine.
I’m
not
saying
like,
“Don’t
embrace
your
woman
with
loving
arms.”
But,
you
should
always
try
to
keep
a
little
part
of
yourself
for
her
to
try
to
keep
winning
over
…
always.
There’s
always
something
that
she’s
got
to
kind
of
do
for
you
or
to
prove
to
you
in
a
cute
way,
in
a
fun
way.
But,
challenging
does
not
stop
when
you
get
into
a
relationship.
So,
there
are
some
good
examples
in
here.
All
right.
So,
we’re
going
to
demonstrate
a
few
things
about
being
challenging
right
now,
and
you
are
welcome
to
come
on
up.
So,
the
first
one
is
just
really
easy.
It’s
the
old
line.
Maybe
you
guys
have
heard
this
before.
“It’s
too
bad
it’ll
never
work
out
between
us.”
Everybody
here
has
heard
that
line
or
is
familiar
with
it.
So,
this
one,
if
you
don’t
say
it
to
girls,
you
should
start
saying
it
to
girls
because
it
works
out
amazingly.
It
sort
of
puts
a
frame
on
the
interaction.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
Now,
you’re
going
to
have
to
watch
my
body
language
too
when
I’m
doing
this
because
when
I
challenge
her
…
So,
you’re
going
to
notice
that
I’m
going
to
be
like
coming
in.
Actually,
could
you
move
just
a
little
bit
this
way?
Thanks.
So,
I’m
going
to
come
in
and
invade
her
space.
When
I
challenge
her,
I’m
going
to
come
out
and
actually
break
space.
Then,
when
I
am
going
to
sort
of
reengage
her,
you’ll
see
that
I’m
going
to
come
in
and
re-‐enter
her
space.
So,
maybe
we’ve
met
at
a
bar,
and
it
comes
up
and
like,
“Oh.
So,
what
do
you
do
in
New
York?”
Alex:
I’m
an
actress
and
a
dancer.
Christian:
An
actress
and
a
dancer?
Shit.
Alex:
Yeah.
Christian:
All
right.
It’s
never
going
to
work
out
between
us.
I’m
sorry.
I’m
sorry.
I
just
…
I’ve
dated
a
few
actresses,
and
I
think
I’m
just
sticking
to
librarians
from
here
on
out.
But,
you
are
cute
though.
Well,
what
do
you
like
about
acting?
Alex:
I
just
love
performing.
Christian:
Perform-‐
…
Okay.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
Alex:
Mm-‐hmm
(affirmative).
Christian:
Got
any
performances
to
show
me
right
now?
Or,
like
any
dances,
or
...
So,
anyway,
so
that’s
…
Did
you
see
how
I
kind
of
broke
space
when
I
did
the
challenge,
and
then
came
back
in
and
said,
“But,
you
are
cute.
What
do
you
like
about
acting?”
Just
come
back
in.
So,
that’s
the
first
example
of
being
challenging.
This
next
one
…
This
next
one
is
great,
and
it’s
…
I
couldn’t
actually
remember
what
I
said
to
the
girl
because
this
was
in
my
…
Gosh,
this
was
like
towards
the
end
of
college.
But,
there
was
this
girl,
and
we
were
kind
of
…
We
hadn’t
actually
kissed
each
other
yet,
but
there
was
a
lot
of
flirtation
going
on
and
the
same
social
circle.
So,
we’re
at
the
bar
one
night,
and
I
challenged
her
on
her
sexual
inexperience.
Now,
this
can
be
very
dangerous
because
it
could
just
be
very
dangerous.
So,
as
I
created
this
example,
I
thought
like
…
I
couldn’t
remember
what
I
said
to
her
because
it
was
like
10
years
ago.
So,
this
example
sort
of
comes
from
just
me
thinking
like,
“What
would
I
say
to
a
girl
right
now
if
I
wanted
to
challenge
her
sexual
experience?”
So,
yeah,
so
we’ll
just
start
out
…
We’ll
just
start
talking.
I’d
be
like,
“Okay.
So,
listen.
I
really
like
talking
to
you.
But,
I
don’t
know,
you
just
seem
like
such
a
good
girl.
Tell
me
about
something
dangerous
that
you’ve
done.”
Alex:
What
do
you
mean?
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
Christian:
Well,
dangerous.
Like,
I
don’t
know.
Okay,
so
I’ve
climbed
a
volcano,
looked
down
at
lava.
I’ve
raced
motorcycles.
I’ve
made
love
to
a
woman
while
driving
a
stick
shift.
Yeah,
what’s
something
dangerous
you’ve
done?
Alex:
Hmm.
Christian:
So,
anyway,
we
would
just
kind
of
leave
it
at
that.
I
would
just
leave
it
on
her
at
that
point.
I’d
be
like,
“Okay.
Give
me
something.”
But,
so
I
kind
of
throw
out
these
…
You
notice
those
are
like
high
value
things.
I
don’t
expect
that
everybody
in
the
world
has
climbed
a
volcano,
but
something
that
you’ve
done
that’s
dangerous.
The
last
part
of
it
was
very
specific.
You
actually
noticed
her
face.
But,
I
threw
in
there
like,
“I’ve
made
love
while
driving
a
stick
shift.”
That
was
a
very
specific
verbal
sexual
escalation
technique.
She’s
like,
“Oh.
We’re
going
there,”
and
it
just
introduces
it
to
the
conversion.
If
we
were
at
a
bar,
if
there
was
some
drinking
involved
and
if
there
was
already
a
degree
of
flirtation
between
us,
that
specific
line
would
…
It
would
just
totally
create
a
sexual
vibe
in
the
conversation,
and
she
would
not
miss
it
even
if
she
didn’t
respond
to
it
right
away.
So,
the
third
one,
this
I
need
both
my
hands
for,
is
what
I
call
polarity
escalation.
This
is
where
you
are
the
one
escalating
on
the
girl,
but
you’re
telling
her
…
But,
you’re
talking
to
her
as
if
she
is
the
one
who’s
escalating
on
you.
So,
this’ll
be
…
Normally,
you
would
do
this
over
a
period
of
like
minutes,
and
we
don’t
have
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
minutes
to
make
out
with
each
other.
So,
I’ll
just
show
you
a
condensed
version
of
this.
So,
we’d
be
talking.
We’d
be
all
over
each
other
and
I’d
be
like,
“Okay.
Stop
it.
Stop
it,
okay?”
I’d
be
…
But,
I’d
be
kissing
her.
Right?
So,
I’m
kissing
her.
I’m
like,
“Stop
it.
Seriously,
you
have
to
stop
it.
You
can’t
make
me
do
this,
okay?”
Then,
I
come
back
and
kiss
her,
and
I
come
back
out.
We
look
at
each
other
again.
I
come
back
in,
kiss
her
again.
“Seriously.
I’m
not
giving
myself
to
you
this
way
tonight.”
Just
come
back
in
again.
So,
it’s
really
fun,
right?
You’re
going
to
break
it
up
with
…
Like,
you’re
escalating,
and
you’re
the
one
who’s
doing
this.
You
could
kind
of
do
this
in
the
early
stages
of
escalation
too.
I’ve
done
this
in
nightclubs
where
you’re
kind
of
talking
to
a
girl,
your
hand
is
around
her
back,
and
you’re
like,
“Okay,
look.
You
got
to
stop
this
right
now.”
She’s
like,
“What?”
I’m
like,
“You
really
have
to
stop
trying
to
turn
me
on.”
She’s
like,
“What?”
You’re
like,
“Seriously.
If
you
don’t
keep
doing
this,
I’m
just
going
to
have
to
kiss
you.”
She’s
like,
“What?”
You’re
like,
“No.
Really,
you
have
to
stop.”
So,
it
just
kind
of
rolls
like
that,
and
it’s
a
really
fun
way,
if
she’s
part
of
the
vibe,
to
just
keep
the
sexual
tension
flowing.
So,
thank
you
very
much.
That’s
just
a
great
way
of
being
challenging.
All
right.
The
next
element
of
masculine
power,
and
we
are
…
Let’s
see.
We
have
3
more.
The
next
element
of
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
masculine
power
is
mysteriousness.
So,
a
lot
of
literotica
men,
there’s
this
deep,
dark
mysteriousness
that
they
hold
to
themselves.
I
remember
one
of
the
lines
in
Fifty
Shades
of
Grey.
That’s
the
book
I’ll
always
reference
because
everybody
knows
it.
I
was
reading
it
on
the
Kindle,
and
it
had
…
Does
anybody
have
a
Kindle?
So,
you
know
that
it
shows
underlined
passages
that
everybody
else
has
underlined,
and
there
were
like
58,000
underlines
for
this
one
line.
It
was
…
They
were
laying
in
bed,
and
Ana’s
been
trying
to
get
him
to
open
up.
She’s
like,
“Why
won’t
you
open
up
to
me?”
and
he
goes,
“Because
I’m
50
shades
of
fucked
up,
Ana.”
There
was
like
58,000
underlines.
I’m
like,
“Oh,
my
God.
What
…”
You
know
it’s
not
men
underlining
that.
It’s
women.
I’m
like,
“What
does
that
say
about
women
that
that’s
the
line
that
they
underline?”
It’s
like
there’s
this
mysterious
man
who
all
of
a
sudden
reveals
his
vulnerability
to
her.
So,
it
starts
with
being
mysterious
though,
and
it
starts
with
selectively
holding
back
information
and
also
interest
in
her.
So,
you
don’t
feel
the
need
to
share
anything
about
yourself
or
get
validation
from
others
in
some
ways.
You
don’t
need
to
give
away
your
interests
to
make
her
like
you.
I
remember
back
in
the
early
days,
and
I
think
this
is
something
we
can
all
relate
to,
is
you
feel
like
the
only
move
you’ve
got
is
to
tell
her
that
you
like
her.
Back
in
probably
high
school,
it’s
like,
“Elizabeth,
I
just
…
I
just
love
being
around
you.
I
just
think
about
how
much
I
love
spending
time
with
…”
You’re
just
giving
away
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
your
interest,
right?
That’s
not
the
only
move
you’ve
got.
We’ve
already
shown
you
a
lot
more.
But,
that
is
not
mysterious.
That’s
like
you’ve
showed
your
hand,
she
knows
what’s
up.
A
great
way
to
think
about
being
mysterious,
this
is
a
line
adapted
from
David
DeAngelo,
is:
“give
her
the
gift
of
wondering
about
you.”
If
you
think
about
good
relationships
that
you’ve
been
in
and
women
who
you’ve
really
liked
in
your
life,
the
women
who
you
like
are
not
the
easy
ones.
They’re
the
ones
who
…
It’s
like
3
days
and
you’re
like,
“Aw,
when
is
she
going
to
call
me
back?”
Your
heart’s
beating.
Or,
you
send
her
a
text
and
you’re
like,
“Is
she
going
to
respond
to
me?”
It’s
a
little
hair
raising,
but
if
you
think
back
to
those
romances,
those
are
always
the
sweetest.
Those
are
the
ones
that
are
like
the
ups
and
the
downs
of
life,
just
they’re
fun.
So,
give
her
that
same
gift.
Let
her
wonder
about
you.
There’s
this
one
other
thing
that
I
want
to
mention
while
we’re
talking
about
mysteriousness.
I
know
that
a
past
belief
that
I
had
or
a
past
thought
I
had
was,
“I
just
want
girls
to
like
me
for
me.
I
don’t
want
to
have
to
play
the
game.
I
don’t
want
to
have
to
hold
things
back.
I
just
want
to
be
able
to
sit
there,
tell
her
what’s
on
my
mind,
and
have
her
like
me
for
me.”
That’s
fine,
but
not
really
because
it’s
fun
to
play
the
game
if
you
know
how
to
play
it.
That’s
what
makes
her
get
into
you.
That’s
what
keeps
her
working
for
you
is
that
mysteriousness,
the
challenge.
So,
if
that’s
a
belief
that
you
have,
I
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
just
want
to
suggest
that
that’s
not
a
healthy
belief.
The
real
belief
that
you
should
have
is,
“I
want
to
make
her
work
for
me.
I
want
to
make
her
work
to
get
things
out
of
me.”
So,
a
couple
of
examples
of
mysteriousness
at
this
point.
Please
join
me
once
again.
This
is
something
that
sort
of
permeates
a
lot
of
your
conversations.
It’s
going
to
permeate
your
life.
You’re
going
to
hold
things
back.
But,
we’ll
give
you
a
few
examples.
The
first
one
here
is
watch
my
expressiveness.
So,
one
of
the
key
things
that
we
teach
in
The
Social
Man,
especially
if
you
come
and
do
coaching,
is
expression.
You
see
a
lot
of
guys
who
walk
up
to
girls
in
bars,
and
I
actually
see
this
when
I’m
standing
here
talking
to
you
guys.
When
you’re
either
tired
or
bored
or
nervous,
your
face
goes
like
this.
She
can’t
tell
which
one
it
is.
If
you
are
doing
that
to
her,
as
Nick
likes
to
say,
“You
might
be
thinking
about
cutting
off
her
hair
and
adding
it
to
the
ball
in
your
attic.”
When
guys
are
nervous,
that’s
what
they
do.
So,
we
like
to
teach
expressiveness.
We
like
to
teach
how
to
just
have
a
lot
of
expression
in
your
face.
If
you’ve
noticed,
when
I’ve
been
talking
to
Alex,
there
is
a
lot
of
expression
in
my
face.
A
lot
of
mysteriousness
comes
from
just
the
expressiveness
in
your
face.
So,
if
you
can
move
just
a
little
bit
right
there,
perfect.
Watch
my
eye
contact
as
I
say
stuff.
I’m
like:
“Yeah.
I
really
like
talking
to
you.”
You
just
…
The
narrowing
of
the
eyes,
the
subtlety
of
my
tone.
It’s
kind
of
like,
“I
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really
like
talking
to
you.”
It’s
like,
“Yeah.
I
really
like
talking
to
you,”
something
like
that.
So,
that’s
just
the
expressiveness
is
narrowing
the
tone.
Are
you
recording
right
now?
Okay.
It’s
okay.
It’s
all
on
camera.
So,
the
nervousness
of
the
tone,
okay.
So,
here’s
something
that
I’ll
often
do
is
I’ll
often
do
like
an
open
loop.
Do
you
guys
know
what
an
open
loop
is?
It’s
basically
when
you
open
up
a
loop
that
a
person
…
Well,
I
don’t
know
how
to
describe
an
open
loop.
I’ll
just
demonstrate
it
for
you.
So,
we’re
wrapping
up
our
first
date.
Tomorrow,
I’ll
be
giving
you
guys
the
first
date
strategy,
exactly
what
to
do.
So,
we’re
wrapping
up
our
first
date.
I’ve
just
paid
for
drinks.
I’m
like,
“So,
you
up
for
something
else?
Alex:
What
do
you
mean?
Christian:
Well,
I
might
just
have
something
else
on
the
agenda.
Alex:
I
might
like
something
else.
Christian:
All
right,
cool.
Alex:
What
is
it?
Christian:
I
tell
you
what.
I’ve
got
to
use
the
restroom,
but
I’ll
tell
you
when
I
come
back.
All
right?
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MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
So,
again,
just
notice
a
couple
things
there.
The
open
loop
is
just
that
I’ve
opened
up
this
question
in
her
mind
that
is
unfilled
for
a
while
and
just
kind
of
keeps
her
thinking.
Psychologists
call
this
the
Zeigarnik
Effect.
Also,
again,
just
look
at
my
…
Look
at
the
eye
contact
when
I
do
that,
right?
So,
she
says,
“What
…”
So,
just,
“What
is
it?”
Alex:
What
is
it?
Christan:
I’ll
tell
you
what,
I
got
to
go
to
the
restroom,
but
I’ll
tell
you
when
I
come
back.
So,
I’m
turning
my
back,
but
I’m
still
keeping
my
eye
on
her
with
that
just
mischievous
smile.
She
doesn’t
know
what’s
coming
up,
right?
So,
that’s
mysteriousness.
Another
example
is
what
I
call
selective
attention.
You
guys
might’ve
seen
this
demonstrated,
and
this
is
going
to
require
Alex
to
share
a
little
bit
more
about
herself.
So,
all
right,
it
you
could
stand
actually
right
here
while
you
talk,
yeah.
So,
here’s
what
you
guys
want
to
look
out
for
is
watch
my
eyes
as
she
continues
to
talk.
What
you’ll
see
is
that
my
eyes
are
going
to
fall
away
for
a
little
bit,
and
then
when
she
…
When
I
respond
to
her,
I’m
going
to
have
a
very
specific
response
and
look
her
right
in
the
eyes.
The
point
of
the
eyes
falling
away
is
to
sort
of
let
her
wonder,
“Is
he
getting
bored
right
now?
Am
I
losing
him?
This
is
somewhat
mysterious.”
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MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
So,
we
were
talking
about
the
tattoo,
and
you
have
this
beautiful
tattoo.
So,
I
say,
“Free.
Where’d
you
…
How’d
you
end
up
with
that?”
Alex:
Well,
I
used
to
work
a
very
boring,
conventional
9
to
5
job.
Christian:
Okay.
Alex:
Then,
I
quit
my
job,
and
I
pursued
a
career
in
acting
and
dance.
Christian:
Okay.
Alex:
So,
for
my
first
big
dance
job
in
L.A.,
I
felt
kind
of
liberated
and
sort
of
impulsively
got
a
tattoo,
and
it
says
“Free.”
Christian:
Huh.
So,
I’m
just
trying
to
think
like
…
Because
L.A.
has
…
I
mean,
what
was
…
Like,
what
was
the
feeling
of
L.A.
that
day?
Alex:
It
was
kind
of
surreal.
It
just
felt
like
I
used
to
be
so
confined
and
stuck
in
that
job,
and
then
being
in
L.A.
just
sort
of
felt
like
a
realization
of
some
sort.
So,
that’s
kind
of
where
that
all
came
about.
Christian:
So,
it
was
just
a
spur
of
the
moment
decision
…
Alex:
Totally
…But,
it
means
something
at
the
same
time.
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Christian:
Awesome.
Alex:
Yeah.
Christian:
Awesome.
Those
are
the
best
experiences.
Alex:
Yeah,
they
are.
Christian:
And,
we
might
have
one
tonight-‐
…
No,
I’m
just
kidding.
All
right.
So,
that’s
selective
attention.
Did
you
notice
my
eyes
just
started
to
wander
a
little
bit?
Then,
when
I
responded,
I
didn’t
rush
into
the
response.
I
spent
some
time
thinking
about
something
to
say,
and
I
probably
could’ve
said
something
more
intelligent.
But,
it’s
fine.
It’s
like,
“Man.
How
did
L.A.
feel
that
day?”
I’m
just
trying
to
kind
of
get
into
her
world
and
paint
a
picture
in
my
mind
of
what
her
world
was
like.
But,
again,
for
a
while,
I
just
like
zoned
out.
You
can
do
this
…
I’ve
done
this
on
dates.
Another
great
…
I
remember
this
from
a
date
is
a
girl
was
talking
to
me,
and
she
was
telling
me
about
how
much
she
likes
Friends.
This
girl,
in
fairness,
I
was
really
just
interested
in
hooking
up
with
her.
I
started
to
say
I
didn’t
really
care
what
she
had
to
say
about
Friends.
So,
I
started
to
zone
out
as
she
was
talking
about
Friends,
and
so
she
was
talking,
talking,
talking.
Then,
I
kind
of
zoned
out.
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MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
Then,
I
just
look
her
right
in
the
eye
and
with
a
little
bit
of
a
dead
pan
expression
she’s
like,
“Ah
…
What?”
I
just
kind
of
lean
over
the
table,
I’m
like,
“I
just
really
want
to
kiss
you
right
now.”
Just
lean
over,
like
kiss
her.
So,
that’s
another
way
you
can
use
selective
attention;
just
zone
out
and
if
you
feel
that
there’s
a
sexual
vibe
between
the
2
of
you
or
this
might
work,
just
go
in
for
the
kiss.
That’s
good
for
mysterious.
There’s
also
some
mysterious
compliments
you
can
give
a
girl.
I
wrote
this
one
down.
So,
you
could
say
like
“Is
that
…
Is
that
your
perfume?”
Alex:
Yeah.
Christian:
So,
actually,
could
you
just
come
up
here
for
a
second?
So,
imagine
like
…
Imagine
we’re
out,
and
I’m
standing
next
to
you,
and
we’re
talking
and
I’m
like,
“Is
that
…
Is
that
your
perfume?
Hang
on.
I
love
it.”
Alex:
Thank
you.
Christian:
“It
smells
amazing.”
Alex:
Thanks.
Christian:
So,
but
you
notice
the
way
I
said
it,
she
doesn’t
know
if
I’m
like
…
I
kind
of
said
it
with
the
same
tone
of
like,
“Did
you
just
fart?”
As
soon
as
I
saw
your
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response,
I
was
like,
“Okay.
I
have
to
…”
Another
one
that
I’ve
used
is,
“Have
you
ever
smiled
at
yourself
in
a
mirror
and
seen
what
it
looks
like?”
Alex:
Uh,
yeah.
I
think
so.
Christian:
It’s
amazing.
Alex:
Thank
you.
Christian:
Yeah.
All
right.
So,
that’s
it.
Just
mysterious
compliments
that
are
like
…
It
makes
her
wonder
like,
“What
…
Uh
…”
So,
those
are
some
funny
things
to
say.
But,
the
perfume
one,
especially
at
a
bar,
is
like
…
You
take
it
away,
right?
And,
she’s
like,
“Oh,
my
God.
Did
I
just
…
What’s
going
on?”
Then,
“Nah,
I
love
it.
It’s
amazing.”
So,
that
is
mysteriousness.
The
fifth
element
of
masculine
power
is
genuineness.
Ultimately,
when
Christian
admits
that
he’s
50
shades
of
fucked
up,
he’s
starting
to
become
genuine.
If
you
don’t
have
a
degree
of
genuineness,
and
this
is
something
that
I
lacked
for
many
years
when
I
was
going
through
that
whole
pickup
artist
scene,
going
out
and
hooking
up
a
lot
phase,
you
just
kind
of
hit
a
wall
with
the
girl,
and
she
realizes
…
Really
quality
women
realize
they
just
can’t
get
past
that.
So,
what
is
it
to
be
genuine?
You’re
driven
to
discover
and
seek
truth.
One
of
my
favorite
books
that
I’ve
read
in
the
last
2
years
is
…
Does
anybody
know
Bridgewater
Capital?
Anybody
in
the
finance
world?
So,
Bridgewater
Capital’s
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sort
of
the
Apple
of
hedge
funds.
The
founder
is
a
guy
named
Ray
Dalio.
He
wrote
a
free
PDF.
It’s
called
“Ray
Dalio’s
Principles.”
He’s
actually
a
Long
Island
boy.
He
wrote
“Ray
Dalio’s
Principles.”
It’s
free,
and
it’s
probably
the
best
thing
I’ve
read
in
the
last
2
or
3
years.
One
of
the
things
he
points
out
is
that
nature
gave
us
pain
as
a
messaging
device
to
tell
us
when
we
are
reaching
or
at
our
limits.
Yet,
at
the
same
time,
being
at
or
near
our
limits
indicates
that
we
are
about
to
grow.
So,
it’s
only
when
we’re
experiencing
pain
that
we
can
achieve
growth.
So,
when
I
think
of
truth
and
being
genuine
and
searching
for
something,
I
think
to
myself,
“Maybe
it
requires
that
I
learn
more
about
myself,
that
I
go
through
moments
of
pain
in
my
life,
that
I
seek
a
deeper
truth
about
who
I
am,
become
somebody
who
a
woman
would
actually
want
to
be
with.”
So,
it
starts
with
just
that
holding
onto
that
thought.
You’re
driven
to
discover
and
seek
truth
about
yourself
and
about
others.
Another
thing
that’s
important
about
being
genuine
is
when
you’re
strong
and
you
have
self-‐esteem,
you
don’t
need
someone.
All
right?
You
don’t
need
someone
when
you’re
strong
in
your
self-‐esteem.
So,
your
desire
for
them
is
based
on
your
true
appreciation
and
true
feeling
for
them.
If
you
go
out
to
a
bar,
if
you’re
talking
to
a
woman,
if
you
don’t
feel
like
you
need
a
woman
because
you’re
on
your
path,
you
have
self-‐esteem,
then
you
can
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actually
spend
the
time
deciding,
“Is
this
somebody
who
I
really
want
to
have
in
my
life?
Or,
is
this
somebody
who
I’m
just
reaching
out
to
because
I
need
them?”
One
of
the
things
that
always
used
to
hang
me
up
in
the
past
was
I
would
always
express
emotional
attachment
first
in
relationships.
This
is
the
common
high
school
thing,
right?
You’re
into
a
girl.
The
first
thing
you
say
is,
“I
like
you
so
much.”
You’re
like,
“I
just
think
about
you
all
the
time.”
Like,
“I
really
want
to
be
with
you.
I
want
to
take
care
of
you.”
Or,
at
least
you’re
thinking
those
thoughts
in
your
head.
That’s
where
you’re
expressing
your
emotional
attachment
to
her
before
anything
else
has
happened.
When
you’re
genuine,
if
you’re
kind
of
in
line
with
yourself,
with
your
self-‐esteem,
with
your
mission,
on
your
path,
all
that
stuff
that
we
keep
talking
about,
then
what’s
going
to
happen
is
you’re
going
to
express
your
sexual
desire.
You’re
going
to
express
your
admiration.
You’re
going
to
have
some
danger
with
her,
express
some
excitement
before
there’s
emotional
attachment.
So,
these
days,
the
sexual
attraction
is
really
the
one
that
I
want
you
guys
to
focus
on
here.
A
lot
of
guys
express
their
emotional
attraction
far
before
they
express
their
sexual
attraction.
That’s
a
sure
fire
way
to
end
up
in
the
friend
zone.
So,
being
genuine
with
a
girl,
I
mean,
even
if
you’re
really
feeling
emotionally
attracted
to
her,
I
know
that’s
not
being
genuine,
but
the
genuineness
she
wants
to
feel
is
the
genuineness
of
the
man
who
likes
her
for
who
she
is,
is
getting
to
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MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
know
her,
taking
his
time
to
get
to
know
her,
qualifying
her,
challenging
her,
is
attracted
to
her
sexually,
and
she
kind
of
wins
him
over.
I
know
I’m
speaking
in
some
broad
concepts
here,
so
maybe
this’ll
all
pull
it
together.
“She
becomes
unique
and
special
to
you,
on
a
deep
level,
for
reasons
that
she
didn’t
even
see
herself.”
That,
to
me,
is
truly
what
being
genuine
is
about.
She
becomes
unique
and
special
to
you,
on
a
deep
level,
for
reasons
she
didn’t
even
know
about.
So,
working
towards
being
genuine
with
her
is
about
who
she
is,
not
about
her.
It’s
about
her
motivations,
her
beliefs,
her
values.
What
are
the
things
that
when
you
2
are
raising
children
together
are
going
to
make
her
a
great
mother
of
your
children?
Needless
to
say,
it’s
kind
of
hard
to
demonstrate
genuineness.
You
can’t
like,
“Hey.
We’re
going
to
have
a
genuine
conversation
right
now.”
So,
there
is
no
demonstration
for
that
one.
But,
that’s
fine
because
that
leaves
us
for
the
last
and
perhaps
most
fun
trait,
and
that’s
sexuality.
So,
an
obsession
worthy
man
is
sexual.
He’s
tuned
in
to
his
sexuality.
He’s
comfortable
with
his
sexuality.
I
think
of
sexuality
as
the
gateway
to
in
the
expression
of
lust,
desire,
and
love.
It
starts
with
what
I
would
call
“the
look.”
Has
anybody
here
heard
me
talk
about
“the
look”
before?
I
think
you
heard
me
talk
about
“the
look.”
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
The
guy
who
does
“the
look”
best
is
Tom
Cruise.
If
you
watch
Top
Gun
and
I
tell
everybody,
“Go
watch
Top
Gun
and
watch
that
scene
in
Top
Gun
where
he’s
looking
at
Kelly
McGillis
like,
“I’m
going
to
have
sex
with
you
in
just
a
little
bit.””
That’s
“the
look.”
So,
maybe
you
can
come
up
here
for
just
a
moment,
and
I
could
just
kind
of
demonstrate
“the
look.”
I’ve
been
doing
it
a
lot.
You
just
…
Yeah,
right
there’s
good.
So,
it’s
just
a
deep
look
into
her
eyes,
maybe
a
little
tilt
of
the
head,
a
little
narrowing
of
the
expression.
What
“the
look”
is
saying
is
like,
“I
want
you.
I
could
have
you,
but
I’m
having
fun.
I
appreciate
you…
I
probably
envision
grabbing
your
hair,
but
not
quite
that
much,
and
you
don’t
actually
know
that
just
yet.”
There’s
all
of
these
things
that
“the
look”
is
saying,
but
really
what
I’m
thinking
when
I’m
giving
her
“the
look”
is
just
I’m
just
looking
straight
at
her
and
just
being
attracted
to
her.
So,
if
we
were
talking,
and
you
can
talk
about
just
the
tattoo
or
whatever.
So,
yeah,
so
that’s
it.
Alex:
Yeah.
So,
I
was
in
L.A.,
and
walking
past
a
tattoo
shop
and,
in
that
moment,
just
felt
really
liberated,
so
I
walked
into
the
tattoo
shop
and
I
said,
“Put
“free”
on
my
wrist.”
So,
that’s
kind
of
how
it
went.
Christian:
I
love
it.
Alex:
Thanks.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
Christian:
So,
it’s
just
that
simple,
a
deep
look
into
the
eye,
a
little
bit
of
tilt
to
the
head,
a
narrowing
of
the
eyes.
Thank
you
very
much
for
that.
So,
that’s
where
sexuality
starts.
It’s
just
this
look
like,
“I’m
very
attracted
to
you
as
I’m
talking
to
you
right
now.”
Just
giving
her
some
space
to
talk.
The
next
phase
of
sexuality,
or
at
least
a
thought
that
I
like
to
bring
into
sexuality
is
it
gives
you
pleasure
to
bring
her
pleasure.
It
gives
you
pleasure
to
bring
her
pleasure.
A
lot
of
guys,
they
go
out
into
the
world,
they’re
like,
“Yo,
I
just
want
to
get
off.
I
want
to
fuck
some
sluts,”
whatever
euphemism
you
use.
But,
if
your
approach
is
truly
it
brings
you
pleasure
to
give
her
pleasure,
then
that
will
sort
of
reframe
every
interaction
you
have
with
her
and
it’ll
…
She’ll
really
feel
that.
When
I’m
looking
at
a
girl
and
giving
her
that
look,
I’m
not
thinking
like,
“Holy
shit.
I
want
to
put
her
over
a
rail
and
ju-‐
…”
It’s
like,
“I
want
to
make
love
to
this
woman.
I
want
her
to
feel
that.”
That’s
a
very
different
thing
than
just
the
creepy
like,
“Ooh
…”
want
to
get
off.
Right?
Another
key
element
of
sexuality
is
not
having
shame
or
guilt
about
your
sexual
desires.
So,
I
grew
up
in
a
very
Christian
household.
I
remember
having
pictures
that
I’d
cut
out
from
the
Sports
Illustrated
Swimsuit
Catalog
in
my
closet.
One
day,
I
just
…
I
don’t
know
why.
I
felt
so
guilty,
and
I
went
in
and
just
grabbed
them
all
and
tore
them
all
down.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
I
think
I
had
probably
just
done
some
rosaries
or
some
confessionals
or
something.
Nick,
who
you’ll
be
hearing
from
shortly,
he
came
from
a
similar
background.
Both
of
us
have
talked
about
how
this
is
something
that
we
struggled
with,
our
sexual
desire.
But,
it’s
just
such
a
natural
part
of
humanity.
Fortunately,
Nick
will
be
speaking
about
this
extensively.
Another
key
element
of
sexuality
that
I
want
you
to
bring
into
your
interactions
with
women
is
it’s
not
about
when
you
want
it
most,
it’s
about
when
she
wants
it
most.
So,
this
is
…
This
was
like
a
big
game
changer
for
me.
When
I
got
into
the
whole
pickup
artist
thing
when
I
was
really
trying
to
go
out,
hook
up
with
chicks,
all
that,
I
was
always
pushing
for
sex.
Some
girls
would
go
for
it.
Like,
they’d
just
be
like,
“Okay!”
Like,
“Fine.”
You
know?
Girls
got
to
get
some
too.
But,
what
I
found
was
much
more
effective,
especially
in
developing
quality
relationships,
is
not
pushing
for
it
when
I
want
it
most,
pushing
for
it
when
she
wants
it
most.
So,
that’s
all
about
building
sexual
tension.
That’s
all
about
keeping
it
exciting,
giving
her
romantic
moments,
turning
her
on,
but
not
actually
needing
to
get
off.
Hold
your
power
back
a
little
bit.
Your
desire
for
her
should
be
tempered.
At
least
if
not
in
reality,
at
least
she
should
feel
this
a
little
bit,
your
desire
for
her
should
be
tempered
by
sexual
abundance.
Another
guy
who
we’ll
be
hearing
from
in
a
little
bit,
he
hooks
up
with
a
lot
of
girls.
One
of
the
first
times
he
hung
out
with
my
girlfriend,
he
was
like,
“Yeah.
What
do
I
do?
I
work
out,
and
I
work,
and
I
fuck
girls.”
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
That
is
sort
of
outwardly
offensive
comment,
except
that
if
you
know
this
guy,
he
is
so
congruent
with
it.
He
lives
that,
and
girls
can
feel
that.
They
can
just
feel
this
guy
hooks
up
with
a
lot
of
girls.
So,
even
though
he
might
desire
her
and
he
might
be
very
expressive
of
that
desire,
he
could
still
leave
it
in
a
moment,
and
that’s
where
sexuality
starts
to
become
very
powerful.
So,
a
few
things
about
sexuality,
if
you
can
come
back
up.
We’ve
already
demonstrated
a
lot
of
stuff.
I
don’t
know
if
there’s
a
whole
lot
more
sexual
stuff
we
could
demonstrate
without
clothes
coming
off
and
this
becoming
a
very
different
production
than
we
had
planned
here.
But,
I
want
to
show
you
how
to
initiate
sexuality
at
this
point,
and
then
I’ll
show
you
kind
of
how
to
go
for
the
kiss.
So,
the
first
thing
in
initiating
sexuality
is
just
breaking
space
with
her.
So,
a
lot
of
guys,
if
you
…
I’m
sure
this
has
happened
to
you
before.
A
guy
approaches
you
at
a
bar,
and
he
stands
right
here.
He’s
like,
“Hey.
Nice
to
meet
you.”
Right?
So,
he
hasn’t
broken
space
at
all.
When
guys
are
more
sexual
and
more
sexually
attuned,
what
they’ll
do
is
they’ll
come
in
and
they’ll
stand
close
to
her.
You
see
this
body
language,
and
then
they’ll
be
comfortable
breaking
space.
So,
you’ve
probably
seen
me,
as
I
talk
to
Alex,
rocking
in
and
out
a
lot.
So,
I’d
come
in.
Maybe
I’d
break
her
space
like
this.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
In
the
very
first
part
of
the
conversation
I’m
just
going
to
come
in,
and
break
her
space,
and
talk
into
her
ear.
So,
just
merely
the
fact
that
I’m
breaking
into
her
space
and
not
afraid
of
doing
it.
Now,
here’s
the
keypoint.
I’m
sure
this
has
happened
to
you
is
guys:
They’ll
come
up.
They’ll
talk
to
you,
and
then
they’re
just
like
here.
It’s
like,
“Whoa!
Creepy.”
So,
you
want
to
break
space,
and
you
want
to
leave
it.
Sexuality
is
truly
a
dance.
It’s
something
that
you
come
in.
You
come
out.
You
come
in.
You
break
space.
And
you
come
out.
Now,
we’re
going
to
introduce
a
little
bit
of
touch.
So,
maybe
when
I
come
in,
I’ll
just
touch
her
very
gently
on
the
shoulder.
Could
you
actually
come
around
this
way
right
here?
Yeah.
So,
maybe
when
I
come
in,
I’m
just
going
to
touch
her
real
gently
on
the
shoulder,
and
I’m
going
to
come
back
out.
Maybe
as
we
continue
to
talk,
and
if
you
could
turn
just
a
little
bit
actually
that
way.
As
we
continue
to
talk
…
So,
I’ve
been
breaking
space.
I
come
in,
and
I
talk
to
her
like
this.
Right?
Maybe
now
we’re
standing
next
to
each
other,
and
our
arms
are
rubbing
up
against
each
other.
So,
we’re
like
this.
Now,
the
conversation
looks
a
little
bit
like
this.
Sometimes,
in
the
past,
what
I’ll
actually
do
is
kind
of
rub
against
her
breasts
a
little
bit
and
like
…
It’s
very
incidental.
You’re
in
the
bar.
You’re
just
touching
her,
and
you
come
in
like
that.
Whoops!
You
just
accidently
touched
her
boobs.
So,
as
you’re
getting
closer
and
closer
with
each
other,
maybe
we’re
in
the
bar
like
this
and
we’re
starting
to
talk
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
a
little
bit
more
closely
and
the
heat’s
turning
up
a
little
bit.
Come
this
way
just
a
little
bit.
So,
one
thing
that
might
happen
is
…
If
you
could
open
your
legs
just
a
little
bit.
So,
at
some
point,
we’re
going
to
be
standing
like
this.
Right?
My
leg
might
actually
be
touching
hers.
My
friend,
Richard,
was
the
first
one
to
kind
of
show
me
this,
and
it’s
great.
So,
I
can
be
talking
to
her
like
this
and
just
kind
of
bring
my
leg
in
like
that
and
be
very
close
to
her
leg,
touching
like.
So,
that’s
a
very
kind
of
sexual
move.
You
can
just
see
…
I’ll
do,
very
quickly,
the
body
language
movements
of
one
to
the
next.
So,
start
off,
we’re
talking.
Kind
of
come
in,
break
space,
come
back
out.
Now,
we’re
talking,
and
my
hand’s
on
her
shoulder.
Come
back
out.
Maybe
it
comes
around
behind
her
back
just
for
a
second
and
comes
back
out.
Then,
I
come
back
in.
Now,
we’re
really
talking,
and
you
can
see
my
leg’s
on
hers.
If
you
see
Nick
talk,
you’ll
see
him
kind
of
go
like
this
from
time
to
time,
and
I
can
always
tell
when
he’s
into
a
girl
because
his
hands
are
in
his
pockets
and
he’s
just
kind
of
gently
touching
his
crouch
against
her
leg.
But,
he’ll
give
you
some
more
…
I
haven’t
seen
…
I
haven’t
seen
his
latest
moves,
so
I
don’t
know
if
that’s
what
he’s
doing
these
days.
Finally,
how
do
you
go
for
a
kiss?
So,
in
a
bar
situation
and
even
when
you’re
walking
down
the
street,
it
doesn’t
have
to
be
that
hard.
Right?
So,
you
can
come
in.
You
can
…
Did
you
guys
ever
play
hockey?
Anybody
plays
hockey
here?
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
Do
you
know
what
a
deke
is?
It’s
when
you
fake
to
go
one
way,
and
then
you
actually
go
the
other
way.
So,
in
the
spirit
of
naming
these
techniques
really
dumb
names,
I
call
this
a
“face
deke.”
Because
what
you’re
going
to
do
is
you’re
going
to
come
into
her
face,
and
it’s
going
to
make
it
look
like
you’re
actually
about
to
kiss
her.
But,
you’re
just
going
to
come
to
the
side
very
briefly.
So,
if
you
wouldn’t
mind
moving
this
way.
Yeah,
so
we’re
talking.
Just
watch
my
eyes
as
I
come
into
her
face,
and
then
I’m
going
to
just
move
to
the
side.
So,
I’m
going
to
come
in
like
this,
and
then
just
move
to
the
side
and
say
something
in
her
ear,
and
come
back
out.
So,
again,
I
might
come
in
like
this,
and
then
just
say
something
like
that.
What
you’ll
see
…
and
that
was
it.
Thank
you
very
much.
So,
what
you’ll
see
when
you
do
that
is
as
you
start
to
come
in,
you’ll
see
her
do
1
of
2
things.
Either
she’ll
recoil
a
little
bit,
and
then
it’s
like,
“Okay.
We’re
not
there
yet.
Fine,”
or
she’ll
just
kind
of
give
you
this
eye
like,
“Ooh.
Is
he
about
to
kiss
me?”
You
do
that
a
few
times,
and
it
just
really
builds
the
sexual
tension.
Then,
the
last
time,
you
kind
of
come
in,
and
you
just
gently
plant
a
little
kiss
on
her
lips.
Come
back
out,
look
her
in
the
eye
again,
come
back
and
kiss
her
again
and
allow
it
to
go
from
there.
So,
that’s
how
you
might
go
for
a
kiss.
I’ll
give
you
a
couple
other
examples
as
we
move
through
the
weekend.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
MASCULINE POWER (CONT)
But,
let’s
recap
masculine
power.
That
was
a
long-‐ass
segment.
You
guys
have
been
sitting
down
for
a
long
time
now.
Let’s
recap
what
masculine
power
is
all
about
before
I
move
on.
Masculine
power
is
about
dominance.
You
push
to
get
what
you
want.
It’s
about
competence.
To
put
it
very
succinctly,
you
come
correct.
It’s
about
being
challenging.
You
have
high
expectations
for
others.
It’s
about
being
mysterious
and
not
giving
away
your
power.
It’s
about
being
genuine,
searching
for
and
seeking
truth
in
yourself
and
in
the
women
around
you.
It’s
about
being
sexual.
It
brings
you
pleasure
to
bring
her
pleasure.
There
are
a
lot
of
other
great
character
traits
as
well.
The
whole
Ten
Code
Course
is
12
character
traits
that
I
find
helpful
as
a
complete
man.
But,
these
6
specific
character
traits
are
when
you
start
to
look
at
men
in
literotica
and
romance
novels
and
see
the
sort
of
man
who
woman
really
obsess
over,
these
are
the
character
traits
that
they
have
cultivated
in
their
own
life.
So,
as
we
continue
to
go
through
the
weekend,
I
will
show
you
more
of
these
in
action,
make
sure
that
we
link
everything
back
to
them.
For
the
time
being,
any
questions
about
the
vast
majority
of
things
that
I
just
discussed?
Or,
if
you
guys
want
to
take
a
pause
for
a
moment
before
you
reflect
…
Any
questions?
Not
so
far?
All
right.
If
you
do
have
a
question,
we
can
come
back
to
it.
We’ll
close
up
this
segment
now,
and
the
next
one
is
…
Oh!
Oh.
Oh,
my.
Obsession
Perspectives.
We’ll
have
a
couple
of
my
friends
joining
to
talk
about
various
traits,
perhaps
give
another
demo
or
2,
and
light
up
the
room.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
Q&A WITH ALEX
Christian:
So
for
those
of
you
at
home,
and
also
those
of
you
here,
one
of
our
guests
had
the
brilliant
idea
to
ask
Alex
how
she
felt
when
we
were
doing
this;
what
were
your
emotions
and
what
were
your
feelings?
So
let's
just
go
through
a
couple
of
them.
One
of
them
was,
obviously,
just
breaking
space;
how
did
the
whole
dance
feel?
Off?
On?
Alex:
It
starts
out
being
a
little
bit
uncomfortable,
but
that's
kind
of
what's
exciting
about
it.
It
builds
a
tension
and
then
you
can
get
closer
and
closer
and
the
dance
becomes
even
more
fun
and
more
intimate,
but
it's
that
initial
kind
of
nervousness
and
taken
abackness
that
ignites
it
for
me,
anyway.
Christian: Okay. But if I had to stay here than I probably not-‐-‐
Alex: Yeah.
Alex: Yeah.
Christian:
Okay.
So
how
about
when
we
start
talking
about
serious
eye
contact.
Does
that-‐-‐
how
does
that
make
you
feel?
The
whole
take-‐away,
going
to
the
bathroom,
or-‐-‐
Alex:
Yeah,
it's
naughty.
It's
playful.
The
eye
contact
is
the
thing
that
resonated
with
me
most,
because
it
says
more
then
anything
else
you
can
do
with
your
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
Q&A WITH ALEX
body.
It
speaks
volume
and
it
touches
a
different
part
of
you
than
even
just
a
simple
touch
would
do.
Christian:
I
agree.
It
kind
of
hits
you
like
right
here
here.
How
about
-‐
let's
see
what
else
-‐
is
there
anything
that
you
kind
of
noticed
like...
I
know
there
was
another
that
I
wanted
to
ask
you-‐-‐
being
pushed
against
the
wall?
Christian:
Most
girls
actually
do.
So
there's
that
one.
How
about
selective
attention
where
it
starts-‐-‐
just
lose
interest
a
little
bit.
Did
I
do
that
right?
Alex: Yeah, that's the one that almost pissed me off.
Christian: That’s perfect. That's exactly what it's supposed to do.
Alex:
Yeah,
and
made
me
kind
of
doubt
myself
and
stumble
over
my
words
a
little
bit.
Because
I
was
like,
"What
am
I
not
saying,
what
am
I
saying?"
But
at
the
same
time
excited
me.
Liked
it
a
little
bit.
Made
me
want
to
say
something
right,
get
him
back,
like
win
him
back
over
like
you
were
saying.
Christian:
Okay,
cool,
cool.
I'm
trying
to
think
if
there's
anything
else
that
we've
done.
Anything
that
stood
out
to
you?
You
mentioned
the
eye
contact,
you
mentioned
the
dance;
anything
else
stood
out
for
you?
Alex:
Yeah,
when
you
asked
for
my
number,
the
dominant-‐-‐
I
know
that
was
the
first
thing
that
we
did,
but
the
way
you
asked
for
it
was
almost
like
you
told
me
to
give
it
to
you,
and
there
was
something
about
the
suggestion
that
made
me
want
to
give
it
to
you.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
Q&A WITH ALEX
Christian:
Absolutely.
It
starts
with
a
number
and
then
it
becomes
a
date
and
then
it
becomes
bondage.
It's
like
very
simple
after
that
(laughter).
Literotca,
you
guys;
not
my
life.
Alright,
cool.
Anything
else?
Again,
this
is
just
something
we
thought
to
record
in
a
spare
moment.
Anything
I
did
wrong?
Alex: No.
Christian:
Oh
wait,
one
other
thing.
Was
the
technique
-‐
not
the
technique
-‐
the
thing
I
said...
I
said
a
lot
of
things.
What
was
the
thing
that
I
said
that
you-‐-‐
oh,
the
mysterious
compliment.
And
you're
like,
"I
wasn't
expecting
that
one.
I
don't
think
I
put
that
in
the
notes
that
I
sent
you."
Christian: The “have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror”, right?
Alex:
Yeah,
it's
just
kind
of
weird
and
mysterious.
But
it
makes
you
giggle
and
puts
you
on
the
spot
and
being
on
the
spot
puts
him
in
control
and
me
kind
of
like,
(slaps
hands).
Christian:
You
should
be
teaching
this
stuff.
Absolutely.
Awesome.
Alright,
thanks
so
much.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
I'm
here
to
talk
with
you
guys
about
getting
sexual;
sexuality.
The
reason
why
I
want
to
talk
about
it
and
the
reason
why
I'm
so
excited
to
talk
with
you
is
because
it's
one
of
the
most
common
things,
common
reasons
that
guys
come
to
me
to
work
with
me.
Sometimes
they
want
to
approach
better
and
get
more
comfortable
approaching
everyone.
Sometimes
their
conversations
are
boring
and
they
don’t
really
go
anywhere.
As
you've
seen
already
today,
the
stuff
Christian
has
talked
about
has
really
helped
to
make
that
not
the
case.
Still
by
and
large,
the
most
common
thing
I
get
asked
about,
getting
sexual.
It's
about
escalation.
More
specifically,
guys
saying
that
I
can
get
to
a
friendly
place
with
a
girl;
we
can
go
and
we
can
have
a
nice
conversation
and
we
can
get
along,
but
I
have
trouble
taking
it
to
that
other
place;
I
have
trouble
taking
it
to
a
more
sexual
place.
It
always
seems
like
it's
out
of
my
control
and
sometimes
if
she's
more
forward
in
taking
it
there
and
she's
a
little
bit
more
aggressive
in
it
then
things
are
fine
and
things
work
out.
If
that's
not
happening,
more
often
than
not,
I
have
a
little
trouble
taking
it
to
a
more
romantic
place,
taking
it
to
the
place
where
I
want
it
to
go
when
I
want
it
to
go
there.
Can
anyone
here
relate
to
that?
Raise
your
hand,
please.
Good.
I'm
speaking
to
something
that
you
guys
will
enjoy
hearing.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
It's
a
tough
problem
because
on
one
hand,
we
know
that
it's
our
job
to
make
the
first
move.
You
know
women
have
been
told
their
entire
life
you
don’t
make
the
first
move,
that's
inappropriate,
that's
not
classy,
that's
slutty,
that's
whatever.
It's
your
job
as
a
guy.
If
a
guy
is
interested
in
you,
he
will
make
a
move.
If
he's
not,
he
won't.
You
guys
have
heard
this
your
entire
lives.
You
know
that
it's
your
job
to
do
something,
but
at
the
same
time,
we've
been
told
our
entire
lives
that
being
sexual
is
creepy,
that
being
sexual
is
inappropriate,
that
being
sexual
is
too
aggressive
or
it's
just
wrong.
We've
got
this
dichotomy
like
we're
supposed
to
do
this
stuff,
we
know
it
but
we
have
no
idea
what
the
hell
we're
supposed
to
do
or
how
we're
supposed
to
do
it.
That's
why
more
often
than
not
guys
are
telling
me
Nick,
I'm
having
trouble
with
this.
It's
not
their
fault.
It's
the
society
that
we're
all
born
and
raised
into
that
filled
us
with
all
these
mixed
signals
and
messages
about
what
the
hell
we're
actually
supposed
to
do
with
all
of
this.
What
exactly
are
we
supposed
to
do
about
this?
That's
what
I'll
be
talking
with
you
about.
It's
your
job
to
make
the
move.
You
have
to
take
it
somewhere.
Whenever
you
say
a
girl
is
more
forward
or
she
lets
me
know
she
likes
me
a
little
bit
more
then
I
feel
comfortable
making
the
move.
What
you're
really
saying
is
I
need
her
to
make
the
first
move
for
me.
When
she
does
it
then
it's
fine,
but
when
she's
not,
I
have
trouble
going
there.
I'm
too
afraid
to
make
that
move
because
I'm
not
sure
how,
or
I
don’t
want
to
do
the
wrong
thing.
I
don’t
want
to
be
creepy.
I
don’t
want
to
be
inappropriate.
I
don’t
want
mess
this
thing
up
that's
going
so
well.
I
need
her
to
do
it
for
me.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
As
you
guys
know,
the
success
rate
on
that
is
only
so
so.
Women
learning
that
they're
not
supposed
to
do
this
stuff
very
rarely
will
be
the
ones
to
be
more
forward.
More
often
than
not,
you're
having
this
friendly
conversation
that's
not
going
anywhere,
wondering
if
there
could
potentially
be
something
with
you
and
this
girl.
It's
your
job
to
make
the
move.
It's
your
job
to
take
things
to
a
more
romantic
place.
When
do
you
do
this?
One
of
the
most
common
questions.
It's
really
simple.
When
she's
giving
you
those
signals
that
she's
getting
excited
as
Christian
was
talking
about,
that's
she
getting
a
little
more
turned
on.
She's
smiling
a
little
bit
brighter,
her
real
smile.
She's
starting
to
talk
more,
contributing
more
to
the
conversation
in
those
pauses
that
you're
leaving
for
her
to
fill.
She's
turning
towards
you
a
little
bit
more.
She's
just
getting
a
little
more
excited.
You
have
to
be
careful
because
these
are
the
same
signals
that
a
girl
will
give
you
if
she's
interested
in
being
friends
with
you.
We
all
want
stronger
signals
in
that
but
most
girls
won't
do
it.
Why?
They've
been
told
they're
not
supposed
to.
It
can
be
tough.
Every
woman
that
I've
spoken
to
about
this,
they'll
agree
with
me.
Yeah,
we
get
the
exact
some
signals
whether
a
girl
is
into
us
or
whether
they
just
want
to
be
friends.
It's
still
our
job
when
we
see
that
to
take
the
risk
and
make
a
move
and
go
for
it.
She
might
just
want
to
be
friends.
We
might
have
misread
it.
Still
our
job
to
go
for
it
and
find
out
because
if
she
is
interested,
9
times
out
of
10,
that's
only
the
way
that
we're
going
to
get
anywhere.
How
do
you
do
that?
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
The
secret
here,
the
secret
in
these
mixed
signals
that
we're
getting
and
everything
else
is
to
make
more
subtle
movements
that
to
the
majority
of
people
don’t
look
like
anything
whatsoever
and
that
can
never
get
you
called
out
for
being
inappropriate.
You
know
what
I'm
talking
about.
If
she
likes
you
and
she's
into
you,
she'll
respond
more
powerfully
and
she'll
let
you
know
that
she
likes
that
and
she
wants
you
to
continue
to
go
further.
If
she's
not
into
it,
you'll
see
she
gets
a
little
bit
more
uncomfortable.
She
pulls
away
a
little
bit.
She
stops
those
signals
that
lets
you
know
she
was
into
you,
let's
you
know
that
she's
not
interested
in
anything
further
right
now
at
this
point
in
time
for
whatever
reason.
You
didn't
do
anything
inappropriate.
What
are
you
talking
about?
You're
just
being
friendly.
Can't
get
called
out
on
anything.
Completely
scot-‐free.
That's
really
the
secret
and
that's
what
I'm
going
to
be
talking
with
you
guys
about.
How
to
take
things
to
a
sexual
level
because
you
have
to
because
it's
your
job,
and
how
to
do
so
in
a
way
that
will
never
get
you
flagged
for
being
inappropriate,
creepy,
awkward,
or
anything
else.
A
lot
of
confusion.
Most
guys
think
when
it's
time
to
get
sexual,
they
think
what
do
I
do,
what
do
I
say.
I
got
to
do
something
or
I
got
to
say
something.
Getting
sexual
at
its
roots,
it's
nothing
more
than
an
expression
of
appreciation.
I'll
say
that
again.
Getting
sexual
at
its
root
is
nothing
more
than
you
expressing
the
fact
that
you
appreciate
this
person
in
front
of
you
in
a
special
way.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
Letting
them
know
you
appreciate
the
way
they
look,
the
way
their
hair
is
shiny
and
falls
on
their
neck,
the
way
the
clothes
hug
their
body
showing
off
their
feminine
form,
creating
feelings
inside
of
you
when
you
look
at
them.
The
feminine
form
is
made
by
nature,
God,
whatever,
to
inspire
these
natural
positive
feelings
in
us.
In
a
lot
of
middle
eastern
cultures,
women
are
forced
to
cover
themselves
head
to
toe
because
it's
believed
that
feminine
form
is
too
much
for
men.
It
will
drive
them
into
hysterics
or
whatever.
Whereas
in
our
culture,
we're
bombarded
with
the
feminine
form
all
the
time.
We've
been
taught
those
feelings
are
wrong,
those
feelings
are
inappropriate,
don’t
feel
them,
just
be
friendly,
don’t
push
that
out
of
the
way,
be
professional
as
possible.
That's
how
you
get
a
girl
to
like
you.
You
guys
know
how
well
that
works
out.
There's
still
these
feelings
going
on
in
our
bodies
when
we
see
a
woman,
particularly
a
woman
who
we
have
some
chemistry
with,
that
sets
off
a
little
extra
something
that
makes
our
heart
beat
faster,
creates
these
natural
positive
emotions.
The
real
secret
to
getting
sexual,
the
real
secret
to
getting
more
romantic
escalating
is
simply
to
allow
her
to
feel
the
feelings
that
she's
naturally
creating
in
your
body,
allowing
her
to
feel
the
turn
on,
just
showing
your
appreciation
to
her,
just
showing
the
fact
that
you
love
how
she
makes
you
feel
when
you're
around
her.
At
its
very
core,
that's
all
escalation,
that's
all
getting
sexual
is.
How
do
you
do
this?
Once
again,
it's
got
to
start
and
end
with
the
feeling
in
your
body.
If
you're
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
in
your
head
thinking
what
do
I
do,
how
do
I
get
sexual,
the
whole
thing
is
going
to
feel
analytical.
If
you're
in
your
body
feeling
the
feelings
that
you've
got
going
on,
it's
going
to
create
a
different
vibe
in
the
interaction.
For
example,
if
I
look
at
you
guys
and
I'm
talking,
I'm
thinking
platonically
and
I'm
talking
to
you
like
a
good
friend,
very
platonic,
no
appreciation,
no
sexual
tent
whatsoever.
I'm
just
talking
to
you
guys
about
this,
that,
stuff
I
like,
sports,
cars,
that
stuff.
Now,
if
I
take
a
moment,
and
maybe
there's
a
woman
around
that
can
help
this
process
a
little
bit
and
I
feel
more
that
turn
on
in
my
body,
I
feel
more
of
that
tingling
in
my
chest,
that
natural
God
given
feeling.
Now
when
I
look
at
you,
now
when
I'm
talking,
there's
a
very
different
feeling
to
it.
There's
a
very
different
vibe
in
the
air.
I
could
say
to
someone
what
did
you
have
for
breakfast.
I'm
serious.
What
did
you
eat
for
breakfast?
What's
so
funny?
You
afraid
to
tell
me?
You
embarrassed?
What
am
I
talking
about?
Am
I
talking
about
breakfast
right
there
or
am
I
talking
about
sex?
Thinly
veiled
as
a
breakfast
discussion.
That's
the
thing
about
getting
more
romantic.
That's
the
thing
about
getting
more
sexual
is
at
its
root,
you
don’t
need
to
say
anything,
don’t
need
to
do
anything
because
it
starts
off
with
this
feeling
right
here
in
the
vibe
that
you're
creating.
Notice
there's
nothing
inappropriate
about
this.
This
is
just
flirting.
If
you
ever
wanted
to
know
flirting
was,
you
ever
curious
about
the
definition
of
flirting,
it's
simply
communicating
with
someone
with
this
subtext.
It's
communicating
with
someone
with
a
subtext
of
I'm
into
you,
I
like
talking
to
you,
it
feels
good
when
I'm
talking
to
you,
I
want
to
do
it
more.
That's
all
flirting
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
is.
Notice
you
can
never
be
called
out
for
anything
inappropriate.
The
waitress
brings
me
my
pancakes;
those
pancakes
look
delicious,
thank
you.
Is
anybody
going
to
say
you're
being
creepy,
you're
being
inappropriate?
You're
just
being
charming,
charismatic.
You
need
to
start
very
very
first
and
foremost
interjecting
that
natural
desire,
that
appreciation,
that
sexuality
into
your
interactions
no
matter
what
you're
talking
about,
no
matter
what
you're
saying.
Two
people
could
be
sitting
at
a
dinner
party
and
they're
flirting.
Anybody
who's
watching
them
knows
that
they're
going
to
hook
up
at
some
point
or
another.
Just
looking
at
each
other,
smiling,
laughing.
All
the
guys
who
don’t
know
about
this,
they're
looking
at
this
and
they're
thinking
what
is
he
saying,
what
is
he
doing
to
get
this
response
out
of
her.
He's
not
saying
anything.
Their
conversation
is
boring.
How
did
he
do
that?
They're
just
talking
about
the
weather.
Why
is
she
looking
at
him
like
that?
He
must
have
done
something
before
dinner.
He
must
have
done
something
back
there.
That's
what
it
is.
Can't
figure
it
out.
It's
so
confusing.
What
is
he
doing?
What
did
he
say?
It
doesn't
matter
what
you
say.
The
only
thing
that
matters
is
can
she
feel
the
fact
that
you're
getting
turned
on
by
her,
that
you're
enjoying
her
company.
When
she
smiles
really
big,
are
you
just
soaking
it
in
and
enjoying
it?
Are
you
in
your
head
worrying
about
what
you're
going
to
say
next?
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
If
you're
in
your
head
worried
about
anything,
it's
going
to
feel
analytical,
it's
going
to
feel
awkward,
it's
going
to
feel
platonic.
Your
interaction
is
going
to
go
straight
to
the
friend
zone
every
single
time.
If
I'm
speaking
to
a
woman
like
this,
how
did
you
ever
get
into
that
situation.
When
I'm
feeling
more
sexual
in
my
chest,
the
words
that
come
into
my
brain
naturally
have
a
more
sexual
tent
to
it.
They're
going
to
be
more
laden
with
innuendo.
If
I'm
trying
to
think
how
to
be
sexy,
the
only
words
that
are
going
to
pop
into
my
head
are
boring
and
analytical.
It
starts
and
ends
with
the
feeling
in
your
body.
If
you're
not
communicating,
and
it's
not
always
easy
if
you're
not
used
it.
If
you're
more
used
to
repressing
those
feelings
around
girls
you
like
because
you
think
it's
inappropriate,
actually
being
there
and
actually
allowing
her
to
feel
it
full
on
when
you're
speaking
to
her
can
take
some
practice.
In
my
workshops,
we
really
work
on
this.
You
don’t
need
to
do
that.
It
starts
and
ends
with
a
feeling
when
you're
interacting
with
her.
Then
there's
some
other
things
you
can
also
do
to
speed
up
this
process.
For
that,
I'd
like
to
invite
Alex
back
up
to
the
stage.
Another
round
of
applause
for
Alex.
There
will
be
more
invasion
of
personal
space
right
here,
so
she
deserves
the
round
of
applause.
First
and
foremost
it
has
to
start
off
with
the
look
in
your
eyes.
If
she
can't
feel
the
fact
that
you're
excited
to
talk
to
her,
that
you
appreciate
what
she's
doing
and
that
you
enjoy
it
when
she
smiles
like
that,
you
might
as
well
not
do
anything
else.
It
just
stops
and
ends
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
right
there.
I'm
flirting
with
her
as
I
do
that,
she
responds
a
little
more
stronger
to
me.
She
turns
towards
me
and
giggles
a
little
bit
more.
When
that
happens
where
2
people
are
in
this
moment
and
there's
that
chemistry
brewing
between
them,
once
again,
it's
got
to
come
from
you.
As
a
man,
you
have
to
typically
be
the
source
of
it.
You
have
to
be
the
one
to
set
this
in
motion.
When
you're
in
the
zone
with
a
girl
and
there's
this
chemistry
and
there's
this
flirtation,
one
of
the
other
things
that
happens
if
you're
really
paying
attention
to
the
way
you're
feeling
is
there's
just
going
to
be
a
natural
draw
between
you
and
the
other
person.
You're
just
going
to
feel
like
you
want
to
be
closer
to
them.
You're
just
going
to
feel
like
just
touching
them,
even
a
little
bit,
like
just
sends
tingles
that
go
through
your
body.
That's
what
happens
when
2
people
are
attracted
to
each
other.
It
feels
good
when
you
touch.
You
can't
help
it.
It's
one
of
those
wonderful
amazing
life
things.
When
you're
in
that
moment,
physical
escalation,
touching,
getting
more
physical
sexually.
It's
another
thing
guys
have
a
lot
of
questions.
How
do
I
do
it,
how
do
I
do
it
right,
how
do
I
not
do
it
wrong?
Sexual
escalation
when
done
perfectly
is
nothing
more
than
you,
once
again,
just
expressing
the
fact
that
you
want
to
be
closer
to
her.
That
it
feels
really
good
when
you
guys
touch
each
other,
that
you
just
want
to
break
this
space
that's
there
between
the
2
of
you.
Once
again,
if
you're
in
your
head
thinking
about
what
way
do
I
touch
her
that
will
turn
her
on
the
most,
it's
going
to
feel
super
analytical
like
a
doctor's
appointment
with
her.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
If
you're
really
connected
to
the
feeling
in
your
body
and
you're
touching
her
a
way
that
feel
amazing
for
you
that
you
just
can't
help
that
you're
drawn
to
then
it's
going
to
feel
great
for
her
too.
I'm
going
to
talk
quickly
about
some
of
the
more
specific
things
that
I
do
when
I'm
attracted
to
a
woman,
when
I
find
myself
in
that
moment
where
we
have
chemistry
and
I
want
to
be
closer
to
her.
These
are
just
some
of
the
ways
that
my
own
natural
sexuality
expresses
itself.
These
are
some
of
the
ways
that
my
own
personality
combines
with
my
sexuality
on
to
do
what
I
do.
When
you
do
it,
these
should
just
be
guidelines
for
you.
Just
use
this
as
these
are
the
ways
that
my
body
likes
to
be
closer
to
a
girl
when
I'm
attracted
to
her.
For
you,
these
are
just
guidelines.
I
try
not
to
get
a
feel
for
it
if
you're
not
comfortable
doing
these
things,
to
see
the
positive
responses.
At
first
if
you're
doing
this
right,
you'll
be
terrified
to
do
it.
Think
this
girl
is
going
to
reject
you
if
you
do
it.
Then
you
do
it,
you
see
they
just
light
up
like
never
before.
Then
it
starts
to
feel
good.
This
is
what
I'm
supposed
to
do.
Just
use
these
as
guidelines
but
as
you
get
more
comfortable
as
you
do
this
more,
then
it's
going
to
look
a
little
bit
different.
You'll
be
doing
different
things,
touching
in
different
ways,
just
guidelines.
We're
going
to
start
off
once
again
with
ways
that
will
allow
you
to
express
your
interest,
express
that
appreciation,
express
that
attraction
that
you
have,
but
also
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
can't
be
called
out
for
being
inappropriate
in
any
way
whatsoever
because
those
are
great.
First
thing
that
I'm
going
to
do
is
we
talk
about
this
fearless,
Christian
talks
about
this,
when
you're
talking
to
someone,
you're
just
going
to
be
moving
closer
and
moving
further
away
in
your
movement.
Whenever
you
have
one
human
body
next
to
another
one,
heart
rates
rise.
Whenever
you
move
them
away,
it
dissipates
and
it
makes
her
want
to
come
closer
to
you.
Yes?
Then
this
is
just
hey
it's
loud
in
here
in
this
place,
I
can't
hear
you
very
well.
I
do
this
with
all
of
my
friends,
just
casual
...
I
call
this
hand
checking.
Just
creates
a
little
bit
of
physical
contact
right
there
which
creates
intimacy.
This
is
just
normal
stuff
that
I
do
with
my
friends.
We're
flirting.
She's
opening
up
and
I
want
to
see
does
she
want
to
be
friends
or
is
she
interested
in
something
more.
The
next
time
I
lean
in,
I
might
just
get
an
extra
inch
closer.
I'm
going
to
get
my
cheek
right
there
next
to
her
ear
and
she'll
be
able
to
feel
my
breath
down
the
back
of
her
neck
a
little
bit.
It's
only
an
inch
and
it
can
just
be
an
accident.
You
lean
in
too
close
and
she
pulls
away
a
little
bit;
I
just
accidentally
went
too
far.
It's
loud
in
here,
I've
been
doing
this
already.
What's
an
extra
inch?
That
extra
inch
makes
a
big
difference
in
terms
of
the
feeling
in
your
body.
If
you're
paying
attention
the
way
you're
feeling,
then
just
moving
that
extra
inch
closer
creates
a
much
more
tumultuous
experience.
I'm
sure
as
you're
watching,
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
me
talking
to
her
like
this
versus
me
talking
to
her
like
this
just
raises
the
tension
in
the
room
a
little
bit.
It
might
send
some
goosebumps
down
the
back
of
her
neck,
creates
a
tingling
in
our
bodies
that
feels
good.
Once
again,
if
she's
uncomfortable,
she'll
pull
away
and
I'll
pull
back
and
I'll
keep
on
my
further
things
just
nice
and
friendly
from
then
on.
What
are
you
talking
about?
We're
just
pals.
Get
it
straight.
Don’t
get
any
funny
ideas.
I
don’t
know
what
you're
talking
about.
Once
again,
I'm
flirting
but
she
can't
do
anything
about
it.
Call
me
inappropriate
because
I'm
just
talking
about
breakfast.
You
got
that?
We
need
to
take
a
quick
break?
Sorry.
One
of
the
next
things
that
I'll
do,
it's
very
slow.
you
can't
get
called
out
for
it.
You
place
your
hands
to
your
side.
When
I
lean
in,
I
just
let
my
hand
graze
against
hers.
Hands
carry
a
lot
of
nerve
endings
in
them.
They're
very
very
sensitive.
Once
again,
if
you're
feeling
in
your
body,
it
should
create
a
nice
little
tingle
up
your
arm
when
you
guys
brush
hands.
Once
again,
was
that
an
accident?
When
I'm
just
leaning
in
to
talk.
Is
that
on
purpose?
I
don’t
know.
Nobody
can
tell
me
one
way
or
the
other.
If
she
pulls
her
hand
away
a
little
bit,
probably
more
interested
in
being
friends.
She
keeps
her
hand
right
there,
then
she
probably
wouldn’t
mind
if
I
played
around
a
little
bit.
Once
again,
all
the
nerve
endings
in
the
hand,
hand
holding
is
one
of
the
most
flirtation
sexy
things
in
the
world.
You
want
to
hold
hands.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
It's
a
beautiful
thing.
Once
again,
if
you're
really
paying
attention
how
you
feel
when
you're
attracted
to
this
girl,
it
feels
amazing.
One
other
thing
I
might
do
to
test
the
waters
is
I'm
leaning
in.
Instead
of
resting
my
hand
on
the
arm,
oops,
all
of
a
sudden
it
rested
on
the
hip
instead.
This
is
a
very
sensitive
area
for
any
human
being.
Once
again,
as
I
lean
in
and
my
hand
accidentally
falls
right
there,
you're
going
to
get
a
sense
for
how
she
feels
about
you.
If
she
stays
there,
it's
probably
a
good
sign.
If
she
tenses
up
and
moves
away,
we're
just
friends.
No
harm
no
foul.
Brilliant.
Let's
say
that
she
likes
my
initial
signal.
Let's
say
get
closer,
she
smells
nice,
you
can
just
hang
out
there.
Playing
around
with
her
hand
that
feels
good,
back
of
the
hand.
What
are
some
ways
that
I
might
take
it
to
the
next
level?
This
is
important
right
here
because
every
girl
has
different
levels
of
boundaries
for
what
she
wants.
Every
girl
wants
different
things.
Don’t
make
the
mistake
of
projecting
on
a
girl.
She's
not
that
kind
of
girl.
Don’t
put
her
on
some
porcelain
tower
and
say
that
she's
like
this
because
you
can't
handle
the
reality
of
what
she
really
wants.
Every
woman
has
got
different
boundaries
and
it's
your
job
to
find
out
where
those
boundaries
are.
You're
a
guy.
You
desire
her.
You
want
to
be
next
to
her.
You
want
to
be
close
to
her.
She
knows
it.
Everybody
in
the
world
knows
it.
If
you're
too
afraid
to
express
that,
if
you're
going
to
hold
yourself
back
because
in
your
head
thinking
you're
not
supposed
to
do
this
or
that,
that
she's
going
to
start
to
wonder
is
this
guy
really
into
me
or
is
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
he
just
going
through
these
motions.
She's
going
to
wonder
does
this
guy
not
have
the
confidence
to
express
his
true
desire
for
me.
Either
way,
her
attraction
is
probably
going
to
be
falling.
It's
your
job
to
push
things
forward
until
you
find
out
where
her
boundaries
are
and
then
wherever
they
are,
for
that
particular
day/night,
you
just
swim
around
in
a
happy
place
around
them.
Say
we're
getting
close
and
talking.
She
likes
this.
Another
thing
I
might
do
if
she
likes
that
is
an
open
palm
on
the
hip.
This
is
very
intimate.
If
a
girl
is
letting
you
do
this,
it's
about
as
positive
of
a
sign
as
you
can
possibly
imagine.
Let's
say
that
this
is
a
little
too
much.
She
gets
uncomfortable
there
but
everything
up
to
it
so
far
was
good.
Great.
I'm
just
going
to
swim.
I'm
going
to
be
swimming
with
a
closed
hand.
I'll
do
that
for
the
rest
of
the
night.
Maybe
test
this
out
a
little
bit
later.
I'm
going
to
respect
those
boundaries
wherever
they
are
and
I'm
just
going
to
swim
around
and
play
around
in
that
area.
A
woman
will
always
respect
a
guy
who
pushes
to
find
out
wherever
her
boundaries
are
and
then
respects
those
boundaries.
She
will
not
have
any
patience
or
respect
for
a
man
who's
too
afraid
to
find
that
out.
It's
your
job.
You
might
use
the
open
palm.
If
you
just
move
your
hip
...
Just
moving
the
hip
just
a
little
bit
like
this,
very
sexy,
very
dominant,
very
powerful
move
that
99
out
of
100
women
love.
You
put
your
arm
around
her
and
just
pull
her
ever
so
gently
towards
you.
You
don’t
want
to
do
this
for
too
long.
You
want
to
make
sure
you
keep
the
in
and
out,
the
dance
going.
Otherwise,
if
it's
just
on
too
much,
it
will
start
to
become
awkward.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
NICK SPARKS
If
you're
too
far
away,
it's
going
to
fizzle.
As
you're
coming
closer,
getting
further
away.
Once
again,
you
have
to
smelling
her
hair
and
you
have
to
just
be
connected
to
your
body,
feeling
how
amazing
it
feels
to
be
next
to
this
person.
Then
when
you're
right
here
and
you
notice
as
you're
leaning
in
and
you're
coming
out,
your
bodies
just
get
closer
and
closer
every
single
time
if
you
play
with
the
hands
a
little
bit,
it's
a
little
weird
for
her
to
look
at
me
because
it's
intense.
There's
a
lot
of
feelings
right
here.
When
you're
right
here
and
she's
actually
comfortable
enough
to
look
you
in
the
eyes
because
you
didn't
just
meet
5
minutes
ago,
you're
coming
in
close,
you're
pulling
out,
talking.
When
you're
at
this
point
right
here
and
she's
looking
at
you,
it's
almost
impossible
for
a
kiss
not
to
happen.
Your
faces
are
close.
I'm
not
going
to
kiss
you.
Sometimes
I
might
test
it
out
if
I'm
not
sure
we're
here
but
I'm
not
sure
exactly
how
she
feels.
I
might
go
for
a
cheek
kiss.
Right
there.
I'm
going
to
keep
my
face
around.
If
she
keeps
her
face
there
and
her
face
around
after
a
cheek
kiss,
and
she's
not
turning
away
right
now.
If
she's
giving
me
that
signal,
I
would
not
kiss
her
whatsoever
right
there.
If
we're
right
here
then
it's
impossible
for
a
kiss
not
to
happen.
That's
all
physical
escalation
is.
That's
all
sexuality
is
in
general.
It's,
once
again,
feeling
that
desire
you
have
in
your
body,
allowing
her
to
feel
that,
expressing
that
need
or
that
desire
to
get
closer
to
her
and
how
amazing
that
feels
as
you
do
so.
Then
finding
out
where
her
boundaries
happen
to
be
and
just
enjoying
yourself
along
the
way.
Thank
you.
Another
big
round
of
applause
for
Alex.
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NICK SPARKS
Turn
that
around
to
the
whole
audience.
That's
getting
sexual.
That's
what
you
need
to
do
most
of
the
time
if
you
are
interested
in
a
woman
and
you
want
it
to
go
some
place.
I'll
say
right
now,
if
you're
sitting
right
here,
if
you're
watching
this,
your
ability
to
judge
when
a
girl
is
into
you
and
she
wants
you
to
do
this
stuff,
it's
probably
terrible.
No
offense
or
anything,
but
if
I
would
bet
money
on
your
ability
to
gauge
how
into
a
girl
is
into
you
and
take
appropriate
actions,
I
would
be
keeping
all
of
my
money
to
myself.
For
a
general
rule,
if
a
girl
is
still
talking
to
you
2
to
3
minutes
into
a
conversation,
start
taking
some
of
these
moves.
Trust
me
on
that
one.
When
you
see
how
positively
she
responds
despite
you
being
terrified,
that's
when
you
start
to
change
on
the
inside.
That's
when
you
say
women
like
this,
this
is
what
I'm
supposed
to
do,
this
feels
really
good,
I
can't
believe
it's
this
freaking
easy.
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What
is
up
everybody?
How
did
it
go
this
morning?
Cool,
so
far?
Everyone?
A
lot
of
notes
and
shit
like
that,
or
has
it
been
...
it's
been
good?
OK.
What
I
don't
want
to
do
is
I
don't
want
to
go
crazy
and
go
down
like
a
million
fucking
pathways
where
it
gets
all
discombobulated
and
shit,
so
I
have
three
main
points
that
I
want
to
cove
today
that
have
to
do
with
being
challenging.
I
guess
what
kind
of
differentiates
me
from
Christian
at
least
this
point
in
our
lives
is
actually,
it's
two
things,
one,
he
doesn't
tell
himself
he
loves
himself
in
the
mirror
everyday.
The
second
thing
is
that
he's
definitely
much
more
a
long
term
relationship
guy,
at
least
at
this
point
in
his
life,
and
I'm
much
more
like
until
Wednesday
kind
of
thing.
What
I'm
going
to
talk
about
today
applies
to
when
you
first
meet
a
girl,
the
first
date,
the
first
couple
dates,
and
also
long
term,
forever.
This
kind
of
applies
for
both
of
these
things.
I
literally
flew
in
from
Detroit
this
morning
after
coming
in
from
L.A.,
about
4
days
before;
a
lot
of
flying,
I
don't
know
what
time
it
is,
I've
had
no
food
today,
but
I'm
going
to
fucking
go
hard
for
everyone
here,
so
this
should
be
cool.
On
the
plane,
I
was
like,
"you
know
what,
I
need
like
an
acronym
to
describe
this;
every
cool
thing
has
a
cool
name
or
an
acronym
to
describe
someone's
framework."
The
three
main
point
that
we're
going
to
cover
today
is
simply:
AIM;
A-‐I-‐M.
Actually
it
has
a
deeper
meaning
to
it,
it
actually
worked
out.
I
figured
out
the
letters,
I
was
like,
"yes,
this
is
going
to
be
amazing,
this
is
going
to
be
great."
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
JASON CAPITAL
It's
AIM.
This
is
basically
to
me
these
are
the
only
three
things
you
really
need
to
remember
long
term
in
order
to
remain
a
challenge
to
a
woman,
to
a
girl,
to
your
girlfriend,
to
your
wife,
to
you
harem
of
women
if
you're
a
Mormon,
to
your
eight
wives,
whatever
the
fuck
it
is.
A,
stands
for
attention,
I
stands
for
indifference,
and
M
stands
for
mission.
OK?
Attention,
indifference,
mission.
We
are
obviously
go
a
little
bit
deeper
into
that,
eventually.
I'm
just
curious,
does
everyone
understand?
By
the
way,
I
don't
just
want
to
talk,
if
you
guys
could
also
give
me
feed
back,
verbally
of
some
sort,
that
would
be
cool,
but,
does
everyone
understand
why
being
a
challenge
and
being
challenging
to
your
woman
is
so
powerful
and
so
attractive?
Because
they
have
to
work
for
it.
Yeah.
OK.
That's
one
of
the
major
reasons.
One
of
the
things
I
do
a
lot
when
I'm
giving
workshops
and
stuff,
I'll
ask
this
question
is,
I'll
pose
it
to
you
right
now,
but
basically
if
I
were
to
tell
you,
I'm
on
a
game
show
right
now
let's
say,
and
I
have
curtain
here
and
there
is
a
girl
behind
it,
and
I
have
a
curtain
here
and
there's
a
girl
behind
it,
maybe.
OK?
I
can't
tell
you
how
good
or
how
bad
this
girl
is
over
here,
but
I
can
tell
you
you
can
have
her
right
now
for
the
next
twelve
months
of
your
life,
you
can
just
take
her.
Over
here,
there's
another
girl
behind
curtain
B,
and
I
also
can't
tell
you
how
good
she
is,
but
I
will
tell
you
that
you
will
have
to
work
for
her
a
little
bit,
there's
a
couple
of
tests
you
have
to
past,
once
you
get
her
then
she's
yours
for
twelve
months.
Which
one
you
would
you
take?
You'd
go
with
B,
right.
OK.
For
a
girl
she
would
answer
B
also
but
about
10
times
stronger.
Women
will
always
choose
the
guy
they
have
to
work
for.
If
we
work
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for
something
we
value
more,
our
beliefs
align
with
our
actions
and
everything.
It's
really
common.
But
why?
Number
one,
when
a
guys
is
a
challenge,
women
will
equally
assign
that
guy
a
certain
status
level;
does
everyone
understand
that
woman
are
attracted
to
men
who
are
of
higher
status
then
they
are?
OK,
that
does
mean
cars,
clothes
and
money,
shit
like
that.
Basically
that's
sub
communicated.
That's
a
man
who
is
grounded
in
his
reality
who
is
a
strong
friend,
a
guy
who
is
been
by
her
to,
who
could
look
her
in
the
eyes
when
he's
talking
to
her
and
when
he's
fucking
the
shit
out
of
her.
You’re
getting
a
sense.
OK?
A
guy
who
has
strong
sub-‐communications;
women
are
attracted
to
men
with
higher
status.
When
she
meets
a
guy
who
is
a
challenge,
she
goes,
"oh
shit,
one
of
those
hi
status
mother
fuckers."
"it's
one
of
the
guys
I
sleep
with,
not
one
of
the
guys
I’m
friends
with.
OK?
That's
number
one.
Number
two
in
your
challenge,
you
are
the
opposite
of
most
of
the
guys
that
she
that
she
meets.
Most
of
the
dude's
that
she
meets,
she
obviously,
they're
pretty
eager
to
get
her
phone
number,
to
get
a
date
with
her,
to
see
her
again,
they're
eager,
they're
more
desperate,
they're
more
needy.
She
meets
a
guy
who
is
challenging
her,
what
is
he
not
doing?
He's
not
being
needy,
he's
not
being
desperate,
he's
not
so
eager.
He
flips
the
switch.
She
comes
towards
him
and
now
she's
kind
of
working
for
him.
She's
trying
to,
more
eager
to
get
him.
Deep
down
what
that
says
is
he's
not
trying
to
get
her
so
quickly,
it
say's
he
has
options.
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It
say's
he
has
options,
because
other
girls
like
him.
If
you're
talking
to
a
girl
and
you're
not
all
like,
you're
not
all
like,
"I
need
you,
I
need
you,
I
want
you,
come
over
here
would
be
good.
Give
me
attention."
And
you're
just
kind
of
leaned
back
and
you're
not
like
you
need
it?
It
says
you
have
options.
It
says
you
have
girls
everywhere.
It
says,
you
know
what
I
mean?
That
right
there
is
incredibly
powerful.
People
don't
think
about
being
a
challenge,
it's
more
than
just
she
is
working
for
something.
On
a
deeper
level,
think
about
what
it
ways
about
you
as
well.
That's
number
two,
and
the
last
one
before
we
get
to
attention
...
Has
anyone
read
the
book
Psycho-‐Cybernetics?
You
read
it?
One
person?
It's
one
of
my
favorite
books
of
all
time.
If
you
guys
haven't
read
that
shit,
I
would
definitely
like
give
that
a
read.
It's
called
Psycho-‐Cybernetics
by
a
plastic
surgeon
from
1955
name
Maxwell
Malts.
He
was
this
dude,
he
was
a
plastic
surgeon
and
he
would
make
people
pretty,
them
thinking
that,
"Oh
I
become
pretty,
I'm
going
to
be
more
confident
and
have
a
better
personality
now."
He'd
cut
their
face
up,
make
them
pretty,
they'd
go
into
the
world
and
their
personality
still
sucked.
He
was
like,
"what
the
fuck,
why
is
this
happening?"
He
kind
of
went
deeper,
and
he
went
into
the
subconscious
and
the
mind,
and
it's
an
amazing
book.
It's
really
the
best
book
on
personal
development
that
I've
ever
read.
One
of
the
things
he
talks
about
in
there,
is
that
our
subconscious
brain,
our
entire
subconscious
system,
is
what
he
call's
a
servo
mechanism.
Anyone
know
what
that
is?
A
servo
mechanism?
Anyone
heard
that
term
before?
It's
a
weird
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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term.
Basically,
if
you
think
about
a
missile,
if
someone
shoots
a
missile
from
one
coast
and
it's
going
to
the
other,
something
like
that,
that
missile
has
a
servo
mechanism
attached
to
it.
What
that
means
is
it
knows
exactly
where
it
wants
to
go.
It
has
a
target
and
a
goal
in
mind,
and
it's
going
to
stay
on
course
towards
that
goal.
If
it
goes
off
course,
it
will
get
some
negative
feedback,
it
will
realize
it's
off
course
and
it
will
go
back
on
course.
Basically
what
he
discovered
is
that
our
subconscious
system
is
a
servo
mechanism.
We
need
a
target
always.
All
of
us
need
targets.
We
need
some
goal
or
something
to
be
working
towards.
Obviously
there
is
greater
reasons
then
just
being
a
challenge,
I'm
going
to
wrap
this
around
in
a
second.
Basically
the
point
is,
he
realized
that
all
of
us
in
order
to
be
happy
to
be
fulfilled
to
be
successful,
we
need
a
target
that
we're
aiming
for.
We
need
something
in
our
lives
that
we
value
that
we're
working
towards,
or
that
we're
working
for.
When
you
are
a
challenge
to
a
girl,
this
is
like
sweet
fucked
up
shit,
but
when
you
are
a
challenge
to
a
girl
and
she's
starting
to
work
for
you,
what
is
that
you're
giving
her.
Think
about
that,
you're
giving
her
a
target,
right,
you're
giving
her
something
to
work
for.
If
she's
going
through
life
and
she
really
doesn't
like
her
job
and
her
friends
are
OK
but
they
complain
a
lot
and
they
watch
bad
TV
or
something
like
that,
then
all
of
a
sudden
she
meets
this
awesome
dude
that
she
has
to
work
for
and
think
about,
and
how
can
I
get
him.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
JASON CAPITAL
You
give
her
a
target
to
work
for
just
by
being
a
challenge
which
is
actually
kind
of
a
fulfilling
thing.
On
like
a
cool
comic
level,
that
shit
also
works
too.
Being
a
challenge,
totally
bad
ass,
do
it.
Let's
talk
about
this
AIM
thing.
Alright,
A-‐I-‐M.
AOL
instant
messenger
...
Attention,
OK,
that
was
the
first
one,
attention.
What
most
people
don't
realize.
Some
of
you
may
realize
this
right
now,
some
of
you
may
not,
you
will
after
this
talk.
Is
that
your
attention
is
one
of
your
most
powerful
assets.
Not
just
women
but
in
life.
Your
attention.
Where
your
attention
is
at
any
moment,
that's
one
of
the
most
powerful
things
that
you
have.
Say
when
a
girl
is
talking
to
and
you
are
interested
for
a
second
and
you
guys
are
having
a
really
good
moment
or
a
really
good
conversation.
All
of
a
sudden,
in
that
moment,
the
really
good
conversation,
she's
got
your
attention.
Right.
Everyone
agree
with
that
thus
far?
Having
a
good
conversation,
my
attentions
here.
At
some
point
of
that
conversation
I
just
cut
it
off,
and
I
turn
away
and
I
divert
my
attention
somewhere
else,
she
feels
it,
like
something
is
missing,
like
something,
just
that
spirit,
it's
just
like
something
valuable
was
just
taken
away
from
her.
That
attention
has
a
lot
of
value
to
her
...
When
she
does
not
get
your
attention
right
away,
this
is
talking
about
when
you
first
meet
her,
first
5
minutes,
10
minutes,
first
night,
whatever
it
is,
when
she
doesn't
get
all
of
your
attention,
your
eye
contact,
your
body
language,
when
she
doesn't
get
all
of
that,
when
she
has
to
work
for
it,
that
to
me
is
probably
the
greatest
way
that
you
can
convey
that
you
are
a
challenge.
Some
of
the
examples
here
so
this
actually
makes
sense,
let's
say
I
meet
a
girl,
I'm
out,
I
met
at
a
dinner
party
or
something
like
that,
introduced
through
a
friend.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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She's
like
a
really
hot
girl,
and
let's
say
most
guys
just
really
want
to
fuck
her
and
are
really
into
her.
Most
guys
when
they
meet
that
girl,
they're
going
to
be,
they're
going
to
start
trying.
Boom,
what's
you're
name
that's
awesome,
what
do
you
to,
awesome.
That's
an
awesome
job,
I
love
your
dress,
you
have
great
fashion
sense,
you
must
eat
a
lot
of
green
vegetables,
you're
a
great
human
being.
They're
really
into
it.
They
give
a
lot
of
attention
to
her
right
away.
What
is
that
say
to
her.
She
got
it
right?
Boom,
validated,
I
don't
need
it
anymore.
It
also
says
that
this
is
a
guy
who
isn't
use
to
being
around
girls
of
my
level.
OK?
I
don't
like
to
do
the
whole
numbers
thing,
the
one
through
ten,
but
it's
kind
of
misogynistic,
not
that
that's
a
bad
thing
but
basically
if
a
guy
meets
a
10,
and
he's
like
amazed
by
her
and
he's
giving
her
all
the
attention
just
like
that,
he's
basically
telling
her,
"yeah,
you
usually
sleep
with
5's."
Basically
what
he's
saying.
What
has
she
done
to
really
earn
his
attention
and
his
interest
so
quickly,
OK.
He's
really
a
hi
value
dude
who
really
values
his
time,
his
attention,
his
thoughts,
everything,
if
he
really
values
himself
that
highly,
why
is
he
giving
himself
so
easily
to
a
girl
that
he
just
met?
Who
literally
has
done
nothing
but
look
really
pretty
in
the
first
5
minutes
that
he
met
her.
OK?
She's
not
giving
him
all
her
attention
because
she's
a
normal
human
being.
She's
like,
"Well
yeah,
I
just
met
him
and
he's
cool,
but
I
don't
know
X,
Y,
and
Z
about
him."
When
you
are
talking
to
a
girl,
and
she's
really
happy
when
you
first
meet
her,
you
can
start
off
I
guess
faking
it,
like
being
like
you're
not
that
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interested,
making
her
work
for
it
a
little
bit.
As
your
internal
programming
really
becomes
right,
you're;
when
I
meet
a
hot
girl
now,
I'm
not
like,
"oh
my
god."
It's
almost
the
other
way,
it's
literally
become
the
other
way
around.
It's
not
anything
manipulative,
it's
not
anything
I'm
doing
on
purpose
but
it's
like
I
have,
you
know
we're
going
to
get
to
the
M
part
in
a
second,
but
my
mission
is
just
so
important
that
this
is
just
not
valuable
enough
to
me
yet.
OK?
Does
that
make
sense
to
everybody,
who
we're
talking
about
here?
Can
I
get
some
confirmation?
OK,
cool
...
What's
really
cool
about
this
also,
is
that
when
she
has
to
work
for
your
attention,
not
only
does
she
begin
to
value
that
attention
higher
and
higher,
but
now
every
time
that
she
actually
does
earn
some
of
your
attention,
it's
almost
like
a
quick
shot
of
validation,
like
a
quick
shot
of
dopamine
almost
literally
to
the
brain.
This
is
the
good
kind
of
addiction
when
you
guys
become
really
tight
with
someone.
She
has
to
work
for
it,
she
has
to
work
for
it,
she's
not
getting
it,
she
works
for
it
a
little
more,
she
get's
a
shot
of
it;
she's
like,
"oh,
shit
that
was
awesome,
that
was
great,
I
want
more."
They
get
a
little
taste
of
it
right?
Good
emotions,
good
validation
is
like
the
most
addictive
chemical
in
the
world,
and
she
gets
a
little
taste
of
it
and
then
you
take
it
away?
She
works
for
it,
she
earns
a
little
bit
more,
and
then
you
give
her
a
little
bit
more
attention
or
a
little
bit
more
validation
and
it's
like,
boom,
another
shot
of
Dopamine.
That's
how
you,
I
say
in
my
books,
but
that's
how
you
become
the
source
of
her
good
emotions.
OK?
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Does
that
make
sense
to
everybody
here?
It's
a
really
really
powerful
concept.
But
when
she
has
to
work
for
your
attention,
when
she
does
get
it,
it
becomes
more
and
more
valuable
every
time.
The
more
she
has
to
work
for
it,
the
more
valuable
and
the
more
powerful
the
emotion
that
she
feels
when
you
do
giver
her
that
attention.
One
last
example
before
we
get
to
indifference
here
is,
in
terms
of
her
earning
your
attention,
my
favorite
movie
character,
I
think
everyone
by
the
way
should
have
a
model
from
a
movie,
or
something
like
that,
or
some
role
model
that
they're
like,
"
that
dude
is
bad
ass,
I
want
some
of
that
shit
in
me."
I
think
everyone
should
have
one,
and
if
you
don't
definitely
get
one,
you
at
home
to.
My
guy
is
Tony
Stark.
Tony
Stark
Iron
man,
I'm
just
like,
"that
mother
fucker,"
it's
just
like,
I'll
just
hands
and
knees,
it's
just
like,
"you're
a
bad
ass
dude."
One
of
my
favorite
examples
is,
if
Tony
Stark
is
in
a
relationship,
and
he's
working
on
something
in
a
lab,
he's
in
his
cave,
and
he's
building
some
crazy
awesome
shit,
and
he's
really
into
it
and
he's
passionate
about,
and
he's
almost
there,
and
he's
just
killing
it,
and
then
his
girlfriend
comes
down
stairs
and
she's
like,
"hey,
dinner's
ready."
What
do
you
think
Tony
Stark
is
going
to
do
in
that
scenario.
Is
he
going
to,
"oh,
OK
great.
Boom."
Is
that
happening?
What's
he
going
to
do?
Someone,
anyone
want
to
say?
He's
not
going
to
stop,
right?
How
does
that
relate
to
where
his
attention
is
in
the
moment?
Of
course.
We're
going
to
get
to
that
in
a
second.
Exactly.
Basically
it's,
he's
not
purposely,
"oh
I'm
going
to
keep
attention
and
validation
away
from
her
to
fuck
with
her
and
make
her
lower
here
self
esteem."
It's
none
of
that.
It's
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like,
"No
dude,
I'm
fucking
into
this,
I
fucking
love
this
shit,
and
I
understand
dinner
is
ready,
but
this
is
more
important
right
now."
It's
real.
My
attention
is
here
right
now.
She
comes
down
and
she's
got
a
plate
of
like
chicken
and
broccoli
or
something
like
that
and
she's
like,
"ugh,
OK."
She'll
bring
it
back
but
it's
like
she
won't
get
mad,
she
goes
"this
is
a
man
on
a
mission,
I
respect
that,
and
as
long
as
he
comes
and
fucks
the
shit
out
of
me
later
tonight,
I'm
cool.
I
get
it."
Do
you
know
what
I
mean?
"I
get
it."
Of
course,
lastly
that
he's
being
a
challenge.
He's
not
just,
"yes
sir,
yes
ma'am."
It's
like,
"no
I'm
working
on
this."
We're
going
to
learn
about
how
to
say
no
in
a
second.
That
to
me
is
really
fucking
important,
the
whole
attention
thing.
Before
we
get
to
indifference,
anyone
have
any
questions
about
what
we've
just
talked
about?
We're
all
good.
OK.
One
of
the
worst
mistakes
you
guys
in
terms
of
like
approaching
if
you're
at
like
at
a
bar
or
restaurant
or
something
like
that,
everyone
know
what
the
Bee
Line
approach
is?
The
Bee
Line
approach
where
...
Hi.
OK
this
is
scary.
I'm
scared
right
now,
I'm
not
lying.
Don't
do
that,
OK.
A
lot
of
times
with
the
approach.
Does
everyone
understand
why
I
say
don't
do
that?
Does
she
already
have
your
attention
before
you
even
open
your
fucking
mouth?
This
is
it,
right,
the
game's
already
over,
OK?
Don't
do
that.
A
lot
of
times
what
I'll
do,
my
favorite
approaches
in
bars
is,
say
she's
ordering
a
drink.
Right
here.
So
you're
ordering
right
here,
is
that
I'll
slide
up
next
to
her,
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and
I
don't
turn
I
don't
give
her
all
this
attention.
She
hasn't
earned
it
yet,
she's
not
like
got
it
or
anything.
SO
I'm
here,
I'm
ordering
a
drink,
and
my
shoulders
are
here,
my
waist
is
here,
my
head
is
here.
She's
there.
A
lot
of
times
the
girls
will
notice,
and
you
can
tell
me
if
I'm
correct,
I
assume
I
am,
but
if
you're
at
a
bar
ordering
a
drink,
and
a
guy
comes
up
next
to
you,
do
you
expect
him
to
probably
try
and
say
something
to
you?
You've
been
programmed,
"I
know
this
dude's
probably
trying
to
spit
something
at
me
right?"
Alex: Close.
Jason: you're here, and he could have gone here instead?
Alex: Right.
Jason:
Right
OK.
If
I
come
up
here,
and
I'm
next
to
her
and
I'm
ordering
a
drink,
and
I
don't
look
at
here
for
20
seconds,
in
her
mind
do
you
know
what
she's
thinking?
Did
he
not
come
to
approach,
what's
going
on?
Just
like
that
because
I
didn't
give
her
my
attention
yet.
It's
really
simple.
I'll
be
here
20
seconds.
I'll
turn
over.
My
favorite
line
in
this
situation,
which
is
always
is,
"hi."
And
she'll
be
like
"hi."
Alex: Hi.
Jason: And I'll be like, "so, what kind of drink do you want to buy me."
Alex: (laughter)
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Jason:
And
then
she'll
do
that
(laughter).
That
will
usually
happen,
and
half
the
time
she'll
go,
"is
that
you're
pick
up
line."
And
I'll
say,
"yes,
and
I'll
take
a
shot
of
Patron
please
thank
you."
Attention
away.
Just
like
that.
Most
guys
in
that
situation,
they
will
drop
the
line
and
then,
here's
the
worst
thing
you
do,
they
wait
for
a
reaction,
and
they'll
say,
"and
a
shot
of
Patron
please."
Yes.
Is
she
going
to
say?
How
would
Tony
Stark
say
it,
it's
really
simple,
how
would
he
say
it,
"and
a
shot
of
Patron
please
thanks."
And
it
just
assumes
it's
like
done,
I've
never
had
a
girl
not
by
me
a
drink,
like
it
always
happens.
It's
simply
because,
I'm
not
there
waiting
for
a
reaction,
I
don't
need
her
attention,
I
don't
need
her
confirmation
that
she's
going
to
actually
do
it,
I'm
just
being
fun
and
playful
and
kind
of
challenging.
I'm
just
like,
"Patron,
thanks."
"Lime,
by
the
way.”
"Thanks,
have
a
good
night."
No,
I'm
just
kidding.
It's
a
game
right
it's
a
game.
A
big
mistake
especially
when
I
use
to
take
guys
out
is
that
they
would
get
into
a
good
conversation
and
there
would
be
a
little
bit
of
banter
like
we
just
had
here,
but
then
they
would
just
give
it
all
up
after
60
seconds.
She
would
still
be;
like
you'd
still
be
here,
and
they'd
be
like
waiting,
they'd
still
be
kind
of
talking.
Understand,
if
she
gives
you
a
little
bit,
doesn't
mean
you
give
her
the
whole
fucking
kitchen.
Just
because
she
gave
you
a
snack,
give
her
a
little
snack
too,
and
close
the
pantry
door.
Close
it
up
again,
close
that
shit
up.
Then
make
here
earn
a
little
bit
more,
and
then
you
give
her,
does
that
make
sense
to
everybody
here.
Can
everyone
see
how
this
might
apply
to
not
just
at
a
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bar,
but
at
a
restaurant
or
an
a
date,
or
anything
like
that?
Can
everyone
make
that
connection?
...
Yes?
Cool?
Thank
you
very
much.
Cool
cool.
We
have
attention,
and
now
we're
on
to
indifference.
Indifference
it
can
manifest
itself
a
lot
of
different
ways.
To
me
if
I
had
to
define
it,
it
would
simply
be
an
absence
of
need.
Actually
came
with
that
one
laying
in
bed
last
night,
about
one
in
the
morning,
seriously.
I
was
stuck
at
home
with
the
family
for
a
couple
of
days,
so
I
was
so
excited
to
leave
the
next
morning
so
I
couldn't
sleep.
That
one
just
kind
of
popped
up.
To
me
indifference
is
absence
of
need.
You
don't
need
anything
from
the
other
person,
and
that
means
you
don't
need
attention
from
them,
you
don't
need
approval
from
them,
you
don't
need
validation
from
them,
you
don't
need
anything;
you
are
full
on
your
own;
you're
cup
is
full
on
it's
own,
does
that
make
sense
to
everybody?
Because
when
you
are
full
on
your
own,
and
you're
complete
on
your
own,
you're
not
going
to
be
affected
by
things
externally
outside
of
you.
That's
going
to
naturally
feed
your
indifference
anyways.
What
were
the
two
main
points
I
wanted
to
talk
about
with
indifference?
In
a
relationship,
or
even
when
you're
just
kind
of
having
sex
with
somebody
for
a
while,
there
will
be
times
when
the
girl
will
freak
out.
Girls
just
do
it.
Part
of
their
emotional
circuitry.
Let's
see,
you
didn't
even
talk
to
her
and
she's
already
freaking
out,
just
kidding.
But
they
at
points,
you
know,
small
things,
they
blow
out
of
proportion
and
their
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emotions
get
wild
and
one
thing
builds
on
another,
and
it
lasts
five
or
ten
minutes
but
it
just
happens.
Sometimes
girls
just
freak
out
about
shit.
And
as
a
dude,
you're
like
"really.
What?
Who
fucking
cares
about
that
or
this."
Now
the
big
mistake
that
a
lot
of
guys
make
who
don't
have
indifference,
who
don't
understand
this
who
are
too
reactive
to
things
going
on
around
them.
Literally,
it's
like
they
have
buttons
on
their
body
that
girls
can
just
push,
and
a
girl
knows
she's
going
to
get
a
certain
reaction
out
of
that
guy.
You
don't
want
that.
When
you're
indifferent,
there
are
no
buttons.
It's
like
steel.
It's
unaffected
by
the
environment.
When
a
girl
is
freaking
out
about
something;
when
you're,
say
you've
been
dating
a
girl
for
six
months
and
you
guys
are
going
to
a
dinner
party
to
some
friends
house
and
you're
twenty
minutes
late,
and
you're
driving
the
car,
and
she's
there
and
she's
talking
about,
"oh
my
god,
they're
going
to
be
so
made
at
us
for
being
late."
And
she's
flipping
out
and
everything.
The
worst
thing
that
you
can
do
is
be
affected
by
her
emotional
storm.
Anyone
know
David
Data?
The
book
it's
called
the
way
of
the
superior
man?
It's
one
of
the
best
books
I've
ever
read.
But
one
of
the
things
he
talks
about
in
their
is
that
woman
want
a
rock
when
they
are
going
through
some
type
of
emotional
storm.
They
want
a
rock
that
they
can
lean
against
when
they
are
kind
of
freaking
out
who
will
not
be
affected
by
their
emotional
storm.
It's
almost
like
there's
this
rock,
and
he's
going
crazy
for
a
second
and
he's
strong
right
there.
Until;
because
he
is
that
calming
effect
and
he's
not
effected
by
her
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emotions
and
he's
not
freaking
out
either,
and
he's
just
calm
and
he's
indifferent,
it
allows
her
to
calm
down
too.
It's
one
reason
why
indifference
is
so
important
in
a
relationship.
If
a
girls
dating
a
guy
for
six
months,
and
she
freaks
out
about
something,
and
it
effects
him
and
he
freaks
out
and
all
the
emotions
are
bad
for
the
next
three
days.
She's
not
going
to
want
to
stay
with
that
guy
for
very
long.
Things
just
they'll
negatively
kind
of
downfall
and
that
will
be
it.
But
when
there's
a
guy
who
is
indifferent,
and
is
just
a
rock
when
she'
freaking
out,
it
won't
happen
that
often,
but
when
it
does,
she
can
feel
that
indifference,
she
can
feel
that
calming
presence,
that
calming
masculine
presence.
Everything's
good.
That's
built
on
being
indifference.
Being
able
to
cultivate
your
own
personal
indifference.
When
you
first
meet
a
girl,
first
couple
of
dates
or
whatever,
when
you
have
indifference
it
means
you're
not
easily
impressed.
It
is
more
of
challenge
to
get
emotion
out
of
you
then
it
is
for
others.
When
there's
something
she
can
do
to
other
guys
and
get
a
rise
out
of
them,
but
she
can't
get
it
from
you,
how
much
of
a
challenge
do
you
just
become
in
her
eyes.
When
there's
something
that
she's
done
with
a
hundred
guys
in
the
past,
maybe
fifty
guys
in
the
past,
she's
just
a
huge
whore,
maybe
a
thousand
guys
in
the
past.
I'm
not
judging,
it's
all
good,
but
if
she's
done
something
to
guys
in
the
past
where
she
knows
that
she
can
get
a
rise
out
of
them,
and
she
knows;
she
goes
out
with
a
guy
on
a
first
date
or
with
a
group
of
friends
and
their
kind
of
interested,
and
she
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knows
that
if
she
goes
and
talks
to
some
other
dude,
that
she
knows
this
guy's
going
to
freak
out
or
pull
some
shit.
If
that's
a
pattern
that
she's
learned,
and
she
goes
out
with
you
and
she
does
that
and
it
doesn't
even
affect
you
at
all,
what
does
that
say
to
her
about
you?
How
much
of
a
challenge
did
you
just
become.
The
last
fifty
guys
have
all
freaked
out,
this
one
she
can't
even
get
an
emotional
reaction
out
of,
how
much
of
a
challenge
did
you
just
become,
and
what
was
that
based
on?
It
was
based
on
your
indifference.
Does
that
make
sense
to
everybody?
Everyone
cool
with
that?
You
all
good?
All
right,
I
feel
good
too.
A
couple
of
examples
here
before
we
get
to
the
mission.
The
mission
is
really
important.
It
makes
me
feel
like
Tony
Stark.
About
two
months
ago
I
actually,
I'll
just
tell
you
guys,
I
started
dating
this
girl
that
I
met
in
Vegas.
She's
actually
from
California,
she's
a
little
bit
older
than
me,
but
like
for
the
last
three
years
before
that
I
was
just
fucking
everything,
it
was
just
ridiculous.
I
really
was
just
a
huge
man
whore.
About
three
years
before
that,
there
were
no
relationships,
there
was
nothing,
nothing
serious
at
all.
It
was
just
purely
physical
relationships,
and
stuff
like
that.
But
I
met
this
girl
in
Vegas,
she's
fucking
awesome,
she's
one
of
the
coolest
chicks
I've
met
probably
in
my
life,
and
we
started
seeing
each
other
on
a
more
regular
basis,
probably
three
or
four
days
a
week
for
the
last
couple
of
months
now.
She's
one
of
these
girls
though
like
in
Southern
Cali,
she
lives
in
Orange
County,
where
every
singe
promoter
in
L.A.
knows
her.
Every
single
promoter
in
Vegas
knows
her.
They
have
her
on
speed
dial.
They
text
her
every
day,
"are
you
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coming,
we
love
you
here."
Literally
every
club
in
the
Southwest
United
States
knows
her
and
is
trying
to
get
her
to
come
to
their
club
just
because
she
is
awesome
and
really
hot.
Not
only
that,
but
like
the
Dj's
know
her.
We
go
to
these
pool
parties
in
Vegas,
and
it's
Afro
Jack
playing
and
he
stops
the
show
to
go
talk
to
her,
because
he
knows
her.
She
is
just
one
of
those
girls.
There
are
a
lot
of
situations
that
can
happen
where
if
a
normal
guy
was
seeing
this
girl,
and
they
walk
into
a
Vegas
pool
party
and
the
DJ
where
they're
is
3,000
people
watching
him;
he
stops
the
show
to
talk
to
her.
How
would
most
guys
feel
in
that
situation?
A
little
jealous,
a
little
envious,
a
little
scared,
right,
there's
some
status
things
going
on,
there
is
a
lot
going
on.
In
those
situations
do
you
know
how
I
feel?
Cool.
Awesome.
Fuck
it.
He
probably
knows
more
hot
girls
he
can
introduce
me
to
I
guess,
cool.
That
indifference
is
powerful.
Every
other
guy
that
she's
been
with
in
the
past
who
probably
saw
that,
do
you
know
what
they
probably
did,
they
probably
freaked
the
fuck
out.
She's
actually
mentioned
to
me
a
couple
of
times
when
she's
seeing
guys
in
passing,
it
just
couldn't
work
because
they
just
freaked
the
fuck
out.
Because
every
guy
knew
her,
every
guy
was
trying
to
find
to
fuck
her,
all
these
famous
people
knew
her,
all
that
type
of
shit,
and
I'm
just
there
and
I'm
like,
"cool"
and
I
go
talk
to
him.
Boom,
"you
go
talk
to
him,
I'm
going
to
talk
to
these
girls."
Literally
she's
talking
to
this
guy,
and
she's
got
one
eye
here,
and
one
eye
looking
at
me
because
I'm
talking
to
other
girls.
I'm
not
like
hitting
on
them,
but
we're
just
all
having
a
good
time
because
I'm
indifferent
right,
I
have
total
abundance.
Total
abundance.
I
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trust
her,
she
trusts
me.
It's
all
good.
She's
literally
verbalized
to
me
a
couple
of
times
already
the
fact
that
I'm
so
nonchalant
about
it
and
so
cool
about
everything.
Jason:
Just
makes
her
want
me
more
and
more.
OK.
Every
guy
in
that
situation
freaks
out,
gets
envious,
gets
reactive,
whatever,
cool.
Awesome.
Just
cool.
That's
one
example,
you
miss
a
situation
like
that
with
a
girlfriend
or
something
like
that,
don't
freak
out;
maintain
indifference,
maintain
abundance.
And
if
you
have
to
go
talk
to
other
girls
because
that
will
make
her
jealous.
One
other
thing
that
I
do,
actually
I
had
this
pointed
out
to
me
by
a
friend,
me
and
Christian
both
know,
it's
kind
of
an
indifferent
thing
but
it's
kind
of
conversational
Judo.
Share
with
you
guys
I
figure.
Basically
our
friend
David
who
we
both
know
pointed
this
out
to
me
a
week
ago.
Mr.
S.
He
was
like,
do
you
know,
every
time
you
are
trying
to
talk
to
someone
and
they
start
talking
about
something
you
don't
want,
and
you
stare
at
them,
just
waiting
for
them
to
finish,
and
when
they're
done
you
go,
"awesome,'
and
then
you
go,
"so
anyways."
And
I
just
start
talking
about
whatever
I
want
to
talk
about.
The
point
is,
I
didn't
realize
I
did
this,
but
the
key
that
that
works,
the
reason
it
works,
and
you
guys
might
notice,
if
you've
ever
talked
to
anyone
who
is
trying
to
prove
a
point
or
anyone
is
suppose
to
be
a
guru
or
anything.
Let's
say
you
meet
a
big
famous
dating
guru
or
something
like
that.
And
he's
talking
to
you,
you
ask
him
a
question
and
he's
like
talking
to
you,
and
if
you
just
stare
at
him
like
this.
And
you're
giving
him
no
conformation,
no
validation,
no
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reaction,
you're
totally
indifferent,
you're
just
like,
he's
just
going
to
keep
going,
he'll
talk
for
20
minutes.
This
is
a
guy
who
usually
is
use
to
people
trying
to
prove
himself
to
him
and
he
just
will
go
off
on
a
huge
tangent
trying
to
get
some
time
of
positive
reinforcement
back
from
you
because
you,
that's
how
powerful,
indifferent,
I'm
just
boom.
It
can
kind
of
be
mean
to
people,
like
it's
kind
of
mind
fucking
a
little
bit
but
if
you
are
ever
in
a
conversation
and
someone
tries
to
change
to
something
you
don't
want,
just,
"awesome."
Boom.
Your
off.
OK?
Indifference.
Everyone
kind
of
get
it?
Everyone
kind
of
get
that
care
free,
nonchalance,
you
carry
yourself
with
total
abundance,
not
reactive,
the
rock
in
the
storm?
We
good?
Bad
ass.
So.
A-‐I-‐M.
The
mission.
The
last
component
to
being
a
forever
challenge,
to
being
a
genuine
challenge.
It
is
hardwired
in
her
DNA
that
a,
say,
real
man
here,
I
don't
know
how
to
define
that,
a
real
man,
and
Alpha
may,
whatever
you
want
to
say,
it
is
hardwired
in
her
DNA
that
a
real
man
puts
his
mission,
his
current
life
purpose,
whatever
it
is
at
that
moment,
ahead
of
her.
...
Forget
what
modern
family,
whatever
TV
show
people
watch
nowadays,
taught
you,
OK.
It
is
hardwired
in
her
DNA
that
a
real
man
puts
his
mission,
or
his
current
life
purpose,
whatever
it
is
at
that
moment,
ahead
of
her.
Number
one,
mission,
number
two,
her.
Does
that
make
sense
to
everybody?
Does
that
go
against
what
most
of
culture
and
society
would
tell
you,
would
feed
you,
what
you've
been
taught
up
to
this
point
for
the
most
part,
yeah.
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It's
important
you
mentioned
that.
It's
hardwired
in
her
DNA
that
a
real
man
puts
his
mission
and
her
current
life
purpose
or
whatever
it
is
ahead
of
her.
This
is
the
ultimate
challenge
that
she
always
wants
to
fight
for,
but
never
wants
to
win.
She
always
wants
to
fight
to
be
number
one,
but
she
never
actually
wants
to
win.
That
is
how
you
maintain
being
a
challenge
for
the
rest
of
your
life.
That's
how
you
want
to
think
about
it.
To
me
it's
like,
"cool,
I'm
on
my
mission.
That's
more
important
to
me."
However
you
want
to
think
about
it.
This
is
the
ultimate
challenge,
that
she
will
always
want
to
fight
for
but
she
never
actually
wants
to
win.
Even
if
she
tells
you,
you
should
put
me
first.
You
are
always
about
this,
I
don't
get
the
attention,
whatever
it
is.
She
says
like,
"this
other
couple,
he
always
taking
her
out
and
buying
her
flowers."
She'll
always
tell
you
she
wants
to
be
number
one,
she
never
actually
wants
to
be.
If
this
does
not
exist
in
your
relationship,
there
will
be
no
sexual
polarity
between
you
guys,
OK?
If
she
becomes
number
one,
and
your
mission
becomes
number
two,
there
will
be
an
obvious
and
indefinite
lack
of
sexual
polarity
in
the
relationship
which
translates
to,
you
guys
won't
fuck
each
other
ever.
And
when
you
do,
it's
like
gross,
star
fish
sex
that
no
one
ever
wants
to
have.
The
reason
why
the
divorce
rate
is
54%
in
America
now
everyone
is
getting
divorced,
married
couples
don't
have
sex.
Me
personally
I've
had
an
inordinate
amount
of
women
tell
me
they
were
single
at
night,
and
tell
me
they
were
in
a
relationship
in
the
morning,
OK,
shit
like
that.
It
is
because
there
is
a
very
obvious
lack
of
sexual
polarity
in
the
relationship,
and
it
is
because
the
guy
is
always
trying
to
put
the
girl
first
instead
of
the
mission.
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He's
doing
it
because
she's
telling
him,
"I
want
to
be
first."
He
does
it,
and
then
she
goes
and
fucks
other
people
who
don't
put
her
first.
I
see
like
mind
fucking
going
on
right
now.
It's
crazy.
It
seems
crazy
because
we've
been
conditioned
from
a
very
young
age
that
its
the
other
way
around,
when
in
reality,
that's
not
how
we're
hardwired.
I
literally,
one
of
my
favorite
things
to
do
is
that
I
read
biographies,
of
like
bad
asses
in
history,
not
bad
asses
from
10
years
ago,
but
bad
asses
in
history.
I'm
finishing
this
600
page
epic
on
Alexander
the
Great
right
now.
He's
bad
ass
dude.
I'm
just
reading
it,
but
all
these
men
are
going
off
to
war
for
their
country,
and
he's
conquering
Asia,
like
"I'm
just
going
to
take
over,"
that's
his
mission.
You
don't
have
to
take
over
the
world
but
that
was
his
mission
at
that
moment.
All
these
men
from
these
different
Greek
cities,
they're
hiring
all
these
professional
soldiers
and
stuff.
I'm
just
imagining
each
and
everyone
of
these
soldiers
has
a
family
at
home.
Each
and
every
one,
he
probably
has
kids
at
home
too.
If
his
whole
village
is
going
of
to
war,
to
conquer
the
world
and
protect
their
village
or
whatever
it
is.
That
one
soldier,
call
him
Adam.
Adam
the
soldier
is
chilling
in
Greece
he
has
to
go
fight
for
his
country,
and
he's
leaving
the
house.
Everyone's
going;
"I've
got
to
go."
He's
packing
up
his
shit.
The
kids
are
crying,
the
wife
goes,
"here
take
the
last
bit
of
food."
And
he's
like
getting
ready
to
go.
She's
like,
"god
I
wish
you
didn't
have
to
go,
I
might
never
see
you
again."
Then
that
moment,
he
was
like,
"fuck
this.
Fuck
that
I
don't
want
to
die.
It's
chill,
let's
go
hang
out."
He
goes,
"fuck
the
war,
I'm
just
going
to
stay
here."
He
puts
his
bag
down.
"This
shit's
good,
you
got
more?"
He
just
stays
at
home?
In
that
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moment
she
might
be
exited
right.
"Yes,
he's
going
to
stay
here,
I'm
going
to
get
to
be
with
him,
this
is
great."
How
do
you
think
she's
going
to
feel
the
next
morning
when
all
the
other
men
are
gone
on
their
mission,
and
he's
at
home
next
to
her
in
bed
snoring?
What
a
fucking
pussy.
Seriously.
She'll
tell
you
she
wants
to
be
number
one,
she
actually
doesn't.
When
your
mission
is
number
one,
you're
also
always
willing
to
walk
away.
You're
always
willing
to
walk
away.
That
doesn't
mean
you're
constantly
threatening,
like
she
doesn't
you
do
anything
you
want,
like
all
right
I
could
walk
away
right
now
so
I'm
going
to
walk
away.
No.
What
I
mean
is
that
you
respect
yourself
so
much
that
if
certain
boundaries
are
crossed,
OK,
everyone
should
have
specific
boundaries,
that
are
just
like,
not
a
lot
of
them,
just
a
couple,
these
are
the
unbreakable,
and
if
someone
disrespects
you
and
crosses
a
certain
boundary
at
a
certain
level,
you
maintain
your
power
to
be
able
to
walk
away.
A
lot
of
guys
they
sacrifice
their
boundaries
and
their
values
to
stay
in
a
relationship,
and
then
they
stop
having
sex
with
the
woman
because
she
can't
respect
him
anymore
because
he
can't
respect
himself,
and
they
end
up
getting
a
divorce.
She
meets
one
of
you
in
a
bar
who
asks
her
to
buy
him
a
drink,
and
then
you
end
up
having
sex
with
her.
But,
when
you're
mission
is
number
one,
that
is
going
to
feed
into
your
ability
to
always
walk
away.
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If
you
make
your
girlfriend
or
your
wife
or
whatever
it
is
the
center
of
your
universe,
can
you
walk
away
from
that?
If
that's
the
center
of
your
universe,
how
can
you
walk
away?
That's
it,
that's
all
you
have.
But
when
your
mission
is
always
number
one,
you
always
know
it.
At
the
end
of
the
day,
if
this
isn't
what
you
wanted,
you
can
walk
away,
and
you
have
something
even
greater
that
you
will
always
be
able
to
come
home
to,
something
internal.
Your
mission.
Whatever
it
is.
One
second,
my
mom
just
texted
me
...
Let's
talk
about
communicating
this,
communicating
that
your
mission
is
number
one.
Because
you
can't
really
go
to
a
girl,
even
if
it's
your
girlfriend
after
three
months
and
be
like,
"what's
for
dinner."
And
she
tells
you.
And
then
you're
like,
"all
right
cool;
you
know
just
to
remind
you,
you're
always
going
to
be
number
two."
Probably
not
going
to
work,
right?
"Just
want
to
remind
you,
you'll
always
be
number
two."
You
actually
probably
could
say
that,
that's
kind
of
funny.
But
one
of
the
best
ways
that
you
can
communicate
this,
and
kind
of
like
talk
about
it,
especially
because
something
that
I
at
least
in
the
past
couple
of
years
really
focused
on,
and
this
was
one
of
my
missions,
was
learning
how
to
fuck
chicks
in
20
minutes.
That
was
like
my
number.
I
wanted
to
know
how
to
go
zero
to
a
hundred
in
20
minutes.
One
of
the
things
I
learned
on
that
mission,
is
that
if
I
could
communicate
this
in
the
right
way,
it
was
like
instant
boom.
For
whatever
reason,
maybe
because
that
communicates
masculine
polarity,
maybe
it
communicates
that
we'll
just
have
sex
and
I
won't
become
attached,
whatever
it
is.
For
a
lot
of
reasons.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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But
the
way
that
I
would
communicate
it,
and
you
guys
feel
free
to
like,
if
you
ever
want
reinforcement
to
follow
up
on
what
I'm
saying
here
to
find
out
that
it's
actually
true
and
that
I'm
not
just
spewing
nonsense,
you
can
say
this
to
a
girl
to:
basically
you
say
something
like;
basically
I
bring
up
relationships
in
the
conversation
and
we'd
be
talking,
and
like
so,
"what
was
the
best
relationship
you've
ever
had?"
And
then
you
know
you
can
share
your
opinions
on
good
and
bad
relationships
and
what
you
think
makes
a
good
one
or
whatever,
a
lot
of
times
I
would
say
something
along
the
lines
of
"a
girl
hates
it
when
a
man
makes
her
the
center
of
his
universe.
Like
she
fucking
hates
it
when
he
makes
her
the
center.
She
wants
a
man
who
is
on
a
mission.
She
wants
a
man
who's
on
a
mission
in
motion
on
his
path
who
is
creating
this
amazing
world
for
himself
and
he
can
bring
her
into
that
already
amazing
world.
That's
what
she
wants.
You
hate
it,
like
I
know
you,
you
hate
when
a
guy
makes
you
the
center
of
his
universe
and
you
become
his
everything
and
he's
constantly
checking
up
on
you,
he
calls
you
ten
times
a
day.
You
fucking
hate
when
guys
do
that."
Out
of
a
1000
or
100,000
girls,
whatever
it
is,
"of
course,
yes.
I
hate
that.
That's
the
worst.
I
had
this
boyfriend
..."
You
know
every
girl
has
a
story
of
a
boyfriend
who
was
like
that,
and
she
hated
it.
That
was
one
way
that
I
use
to
communicate
it.
And
then
after
that
conversation
I
would
start
challenging
her
sexually,
which
is
basically
how
I
got
the
20
minute
pulse.
One
of
my
favorite
question
was
like,
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
JASON CAPITAL
"please,
what
do
you
know,
do
you
even
know
more
than
like
5
sex
positions."
One
of
the
greatest
questions
you
can
ask
somebody.
That
was
one.
Then
the
other
one
that
I
want
to
talk
about.
In
more
of
a
relationship
scenario,
let's
say
you're
back
in
you're
lab,
or
something
that's
really
important
or
something
you're
really
passionate
about.
It's
11:00
at
night
and
you're
like
in
beast
mode
like
now
and
you're
just
like
killing
it,
and
she's
in
bed
like,
"honey,
just
take
a
night
off,
just
come
lay
in
bed
with
me,
just
relax."
"Let's
just
watch
T.V.
tonight,
OK?"
In
that
moment
you
are
at
a
crossroads.
DO
I
stay
true
to
my
mission,
or
do
I
go
number
two.
If
you
do
it
once
in
a
while,
that's
fine,
she
won't
feel
a
difference
in
the
polarity
of
the
relationship
or
anything.
But
if
you
do
it
once,
that
usually
leads
to;
you
probably
go
to
bed
and
you're
like
"damn,
this
is
kind
of
comfortable.
This
is
kind
of
interesting.
Oh
we
have
sex,
and
it's
kind
of
good."
And
the
next
night
it
happens
and
you're
like,
"you
know
what,
last
night
was
pretty
good
too."
I'm
going
to
go
do
that
again,
"fuck
work."
And
then
day
two
becomes
day
ten
and
it
becomes
a
pattern,
and
then
pretty
soon
she's
your
number
one.
Your
mission
kind
of
falls
to
the
wayside.
That's
one
example
that
guys
they
see
a
lot.
Late
at
night,
you're
working,
she's
in
be,
she's
like
"chill
out,
stop
working.
Just
come
relax
with
me
for
a
while."
Once
in
a
while
it's
fine,
but
in
that
moment
your
actual
masculine
energy
is
like,
"no,
mission.
Conquer."
Just
keep
that
in
mind.
Scenarios
that
relate
to
that.
There
could
be
other
things
that
are
very
similar,
maybe
it's
not
late
at
night,
but
just
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
JASON CAPITAL
remember
that.
Remember
where
is
she,
and
where
is
your
mission,
and
on
a
deep
genetic
level
what
does
she
really
want
from
you?
What
does
she
really
want
from
you?
Definitely
don't
apologize
for
it
later.
That's
one
of
the
worst
things
I
see.
The
guy
is
like,
"no
I'm
going
to
work,
and
then
he
comes
back
to
bed
at
1:30
and
he's
like,
"sorry
honey,"
he
becomes
all
apologetic
and
shit
and
that
just
pisses
her
off.
She's
like,
"dude
if
that's
what
you
wanted
to
do
then
fucking
do
it,
don't
come
back
to
me
and
apologize
later.
Stay
true
to
your
mission."
Don't
go
back
and
apologize.
I
see
that
sometimes
and
I'm
like,
"dude,
what
are
you
doing."
Never
apologize
for
being
a
fucking
pimp.
Don't
apologize
for
being
a
pimp.
And
allow
her
room
to
feel
grateful.
That's
what
I
wrote
down.
That's
so
narcissistic.
That's
really
what
I
wrote
down.
I
said,
"never
apologize
for
being
a
fucking
pimp,
allow
room
for
her
immense
gratefulness."
And
I'm
like
half
joking
there,
but
at
the
same
time
some
truth.
Because
truthfully
a
lot
of
the
guys
she
meets
fucking
suck,
and
when
she
meets
a
bad
ass
who
is
like
taking
over
the
world,
that
is
pretty
cool,
that
really
is
pretty
fucking
cool.
That
is
AIM.
The
reason
I
like
that
acronym,
I
want
to
like
close
this
here,
is
always
remember
your
AIM.
Your
mission
is
number
one,
always
keep
your
aim
on
what's
most
important
for
you
and
for
her
in
the
relationship.
Attention,
indifference,
the
mission.
With
that,
she'll
always
have
to
and
want
to
work
for
your
attention
on
some
level.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
JASON CAPITAL
You'll
always
maintain
your
interpersonal
indifference
because
your
passion
is
invested
in
your
mission.
Let
me
say
that
one
more
time,
I
think
that's
pretty
fucking
cool.
You'll
always
maintain
your
interpersonal
indifference
because
your
passion
is
invested
in
your
mission;
this
stuff
cannot
affect
you
that
much,
because
no
matter
how
hard
it
try's,
your
emotion
and
your
energy
and
your
passion
is
going
to
be
invested
in
your
mission,
at
least
the
majority
of
it.
You
want
to
talk
about
you're
like,
"how
do
I
become
more
indifferent;
how
do
I
become
more
non-‐reactive?"
Become
obsessed
with
you
mission.
That
little
shit
that
use
to
get
to
you
doesn't
really
get
to
you
anymore.
Because
your
mission
in
life,
whatever
that
may
be
will
always
be
more
important
than
her,
you'll
always
be
the
interesting
the
exiting
challenge
she'll
always
get
to
work
for
and
be
highly
highly
turned
on
by.
One
of
the
things
Data
talks
about
with
the
mission
thing,
is
like,
definitely
read
that
book:
The
Way
of
the
Superior
Man
if
you
haven't.
Definitely
give
that
a
read.
It's
a
shit
book,
is
what
I
call
it.
That
doesn't
mean
it's
shitty,
it
means
when
you
take
a
shit
you
read
it.
It's
like
two
pages,
chapters,
you
can
just
bang
one
out,
depending
how
long
your
shit
is.
Three,
whatever.
One
of
the
things
he
talks
about
in
there
is
just
admit
it,
stop
being
affected
by
all
this
bullshit,
and
just
fucking
admit
it,
that
your
mission
is
always
going
to
be
more
important
than
her,
or
your
family,
or
whatever
it
is
because
if
you
don't
have
that
mission
in
life,
your
core
feels
empty.
Just
admit
it,
and
what
he
says
to
do,
you
can
even
explain
to
her
if
you
have
to
but
"just
understand
like
this
is
what
I'm
doing,
this
is
my
mission
in
life,
this
is
like
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
JASON CAPITAL
so
important
to
me,
and
if
I
were
going
to
come
hang
out
with
you
now
instead,
you
would
not
get
my
full
attention.
You
would
get
part
of
it,
because
part
of
my
mind
would
be
back
on
my
mission
because
I
didn't
finish
what
I
wanted
to
do.
So
here's
what
I
can
do,
I
can
kill
this
for
you
while
you
go
whatever
you
have
to
do,
and
then
later
on
I'll
give
you
my
time,
I'll
give
you
a
whole
hour
of
my
time,
whatever
it
is,
and
you're
going
to
have
my
full
attention
then.
You’re
not
just
going
to
have
my
undivided;
you're
not
just
going
to
have
part
of
my
attention,
because
I'm
thinking
about
this
and
I'm
kind
of
here
with
you
but
I'm
worried
about
this
thing
that's
happening
tomorrow
for
my
business,
or
whatever
it
is,
but
I'm
going
to
do
this,
and
then
later
on
when
I'm
with
you
because
I
respect
you
so
much,
and
I
don't
want
to
just
give
you
part
of
my
attention
or
whatever
it
is,
I'll
be
there
fully
present
with
you
later
on.
That's
kind
of
how
you
if
you
were
wondering
how
do
I
make
that
mission
thing
work,
that's
how
you
do
it.
When
you're
on
your
mission,
on
your
fucking
mission
and
when
you're
with
her,
then
you're
with
her.
All
right.
Thanks
guys.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
I
get
to
talk
about
a
subject
that's
one
of
my
favorites.
I
don't
teach
dating.
I
teach
sex
and
intimacy.
This
subject
has
a
great
overlay.
Of
course,
both
those
subjects
have
a
great
overlay,
but
I'm
going
to
be
talking
about
what
it
means
to
be
genuine.
I
know
that
Christians
outlined
a
bunch
of
stuff
to
talk
about.
Dominance,
competence,
challenge,
and
all
these
other
things,
mystery,
and
I
think
the
beauty
of
really
understanding
authenticity
and
genuineness
is
that
it
brings
out
all
those
things
in
a
relationship
between
you
and
a
woman.
I
think,
by
the
time
I'm
done
talking,
I’m
going
to
have
enrolled
you
in
the
idea
that
it's
the
single
most
attractive
thing
that
you
can
bring
to
a
woman
or
to
a
man
in
your
friendships.
That
it's
really
the
depth
of
courage
and
reveling
yourself
to
be
a
man
of
quality
and
mystery
and
challenge
and
all
those
other
things.
So
I
kind
of
want
to
attack
this
from
a
couple
of
levels.
I'm
going
to
start
with
kind
of
a
basic
structure
of
why
you
should
know
this
stuff.
Why
it's
such
a
big
deal.
Why
it
has
such
a
powerful
effect
on
the
humans
around
you.
The
second
thing
I'm
going
to
talk
about
is
what
it
means
to
be
genuine.
What
does
it
really
mean?
Because
you
kind
of
can
go
into
the
complex
almost
immediately
in
your
head
of,
"Okay,
how
do
I
act
genuine?"
Then
you
kind
of
see
the
contradiction
there.
You
can
blow
a
few
fuses
in
your
brain
trying
to
figure
out
how
to
be
genuine.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
How
do
we
manufacture
genuine
if
genuine
is
genuine.
If
it
really
is
authentic.
Then
I'm
going
to
give
you
a
how
to.
A
couple
of
things
you
can
go
and
do
in
the
real
world
that
will
actually
build
this
character
within
you,
and
then
finally
maybe
we'll
get
into
a
little
what
if,
which
is
how
you
might
take
it
into
the
world
in
a
bigger
perspective.
So
the
why
is
simply
this.
We
as
humans
are
incredibly
insecure
and
we
are
incredibly
bound
up
in
our
story
and
it's
true
of
everyone.
The
most
confident
guy
you
know,
put
him
in
the
right
situation
and
he
will
collapse.
So
if
you
take
somebody
you
know
who
can
hold
a
conversation
with
anybody.
He's
so
intellectual
and
you
put
him
in
a
room
full
of
MAA
fighters
and
they
suddenly
feel
like,
"Wow,
I'm
not
cool
in
this
environment."
The
same
way
you
can
take
an
MAA
fighter,
put
him
in
a
room
full
with
some
billionaires,
and
watch
him
kind
of
collapse
and
feel
like,
"Women
wouldn't
be
interested
in
me
among
these
men."
Because
we're
all
epically
tuned
in.
We're
just
infused
with
this
ugly
gift
that
we're
super
aware
of
the
shit
we're
not
good
at.
We
think
the
stuff
that
we
are
good
at
is
like,
"Well,
anybody
could
do
that."
We
devalue
our
excellence.
We
really
feel
like
those
areas
where
we're
a
genius
like,
"Anybody
could
do
that
shit."
But
when
we're
in
a
room
full
of
people
that
have
competencies
we
don't
have,
we're
very
quick
to
judge
ourselves.
So
most
of
us
play
some
forms
of
roles.
And
there's
a
sniff
test
that
other
people
have
that
says,
"Oh,
yeah,
he's
like
everybody
else.
He
plays
some
roles."
There's
nothing
bad
about
it.
It's
ordinary.
Everybody
plays
some
roles.
Everybody
wants
to
look
cool.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
I'm
present.
I
want
to
look
cool
right
here
and
now.
I
want
you
guys
to
think,
"Wow,
that
guy
said
some
smart
shit,"
you
know.
And
to
the
degree
that
I
let
that
piece
of
me
run
this
talk
is
the
degree
that
I'm
going
to
fail.
I'm
going
to
fail
you
.
I'm
going
to
fail
me.
I
won't
be
cool.
I'll
be
ordinary
because
that's
what
people
do.
They
come
up
here
they
want
to
impress
you.
They
want
to
sound
smart.
However,
to
the
degree
that
I
can
be
vulnerable
and
expose
myself
and
be
genuine,
is
the
degree
to
which
I
can
connect
heart
to
heart
with
each
of
you
and
really
demonstrate
something
that
can
recreate
your
life
so
powerfully
that
this
talk
will
change
you.
If
I
can
do
that,
then
I've
actualized
myself.
Then
I've
really
reached
the
highest
level
that
I
could
reach
personally,
which
would
be
that
contribution.
I'm
going
to
go
out
on
a
limb
and
say
hold
me
to
that.
Hold
me
to
that
standard.
Don't
let
me
off
with
anything
less
than
that
because
that
is
the
power
of
being
genuine,
of
being
authentic.
When
you
dare
to
be
genuine
and
I'll
draw
this
out
more
fully
for
you,
but
I'm
going
to
call
genuine,
authentic,
synonymous,
and
the
other
synonym
is
vulnerable.
Vulnerable
is
intensely
courageous.
You
can't
be
genuine
without
vulnerability
because
it's
easy
to
be
genuine
when
you're
already
a
rock
star.
Anybody
can
do
that
and
it
doesn't
set
you
apart
in
an
attractive
way.
I'm
not
a
pickup
artist.
I
never
had
been.
‘Till
this
day,
I
will
get
tongue
tied
if
I
approach
a
bunch
of
beautiful
woman
in
a
bar.
It's
just
nothing
I’ve
ever
learned
how
to
do.
I'm
not
super
good
at
walking
up
to
a
woman
and
saying,
"Hey,
babe,
let
me
get
a
female
opinion
on
it."
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
I
don't
know
how
to
play
that
game.
There
was
even
a
time
when
I
got
kind
of
interested
in
it
because
I
was
friends
with
a
lot
of
these
guys
and
I
saw
the
success
they
were
having.
It
looked
pretty
cool
and
it
made
me
insecure
and
nervous
about
these
things
that
I
couldn't
do.
With
all
of
that
said,
all
of
these
friends
of
mine
who'd
been
in
this
business
for
a
long
time
starting,
by
the
way,
way
back
with
Project
Hollywood
and
Mystery
and
RSD
and
all
those
guys.
I've
known
those
guys
for
10,
15
years
through
a
weird
side
door,
but
all
those
guys
have
always
had
this
sort
of
strange
paternal-‐like
respect
for
me
because
I'd
represented
something
that
they
hadn't
obtained
yet.
I
was
a
little
older
than
them
and
I
represented
through
the
simple
means
of
not
having
learned
the
tricks
to
get
women
attracted
to
me,
but
simply
reaching
the
maturity
where
women
were
like,
“Oh,
this
guy's
cool.
I
would
totally
be
with
this
guy."
So
I've
always
had
plenty
of
beautiful
women
to
date.
I've
been
in
a
lot
of
great
relationships
with
amazing,
incredible
women
and
I'm
married
to
the
most
amazing
woman
that
I
personally
ever
met.
They
kind
of
looked
at
that
and
they
were
like,
"Well,
he's
a
natural.
He's
a
natural."
But
that's
bullshit
because
their
definition
of
a
natural
was
some
guy
who
could
walk
into
a
bar
and
get
a
bunch
of
chicks
and
I
could
never
do
that.
So
I
was
kind
of
breaking
their
model
in
a
way.
The
answer
to
all
this,
the
reason
I've
always
had
these
beautiful,
engaging,
heartfelt,
sexually
juicy,
trusting,
easy
relationships
with
women
is
because
this
other
thing.
This
genuine
thing.
This
thing
that
I
keyed
into
early
enough
to
realize
that
your
mom
was
right.
You
just
have
to
be
yourself.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
What
you
mom
didn't
tell
you
is
how
fucking
hard
that
is.
It
sounds
easy.
Like,
"Be
yourself,"
should
be
the
easiest
thing
on
earth
because
who
knows
you
better
than
you,
but
it's
the
hardest
thing
on
earth
because
you
don't
like
you.
On
some
level
you
don't.
And
the
reason
I
know
that
about
you
is
because
you're
a
human.
That
comes
prewired
in
the
human
beast.
Are
all
of
these
areas
in
which
we
don't
totally
trust
ourselves
and
we
are
filled
up
with
the
voices
of
every
other
fucken
person
in
our
life
and
their
approval
or
disapproval
of
the
way
we
dress,
the
way
we
speak,
and
the
way
we
come
across
in
every
situation.
Every
decision
we
make
there's
this
voice
of
our
father,
living,
dead,
doesn’t
matter
if
you
ever
met
him.
There's
this
voice
of
your
father
in
you
and
you're
like,
“Okay,
so
if
I
did
this,
how
would
I
play
this
for
dad?
How
could
I
make
this
cool
to
my
parents?
So
I'm
dating
this
girl
now.
How
do
I
explain
why
she's
cool
to
my
friends
because
they
don't
think
she's
cool.
Then
that's
going
to
reflect
bad
on
me."
So
this
is
the
dialogue
that
every
human
has.
This
sense
of
all
the
other
stakeholders
in
your
life
that
aren't
you.
Being
able
to
peel
that
shit
away
and
learn
how
to
trust
yourself
is
what
we
call
maturity.
You
don't
get
it
in
one
day.
"I'm
a
man
now."
You
get
it
piece
by
piece,
brick
by
brick,
and
you
get
it
on
the
climb
and
the
most
beautiful
the
most
engaging,
the
most
intense,
the
most
powerful
way
of
getting
it
is
in
relationship
to
women.
Unless
you're
gay,
in
relationship
to
men,
but
in
your
romantic
relationship.
In
this
confronting,
shame-‐filled,
ego-‐bruising
wrestling
match
between
you
and
every
attracted
women
you
meet
and
ultimately
the
woman
you
fall
in
love
with
who
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
you
have
to
have
the
guts,
the
fucking
balls
if
you
really
want
epic
love,
to
trust
with
your
heart
knowing
full
well
that
she
could
destroy
it.
That's
love,
by
the
way.
Love
is
that
trust.
You
take
care
of
it.
Trust
you
on
this.
It's
a
huge
barrier
for
most
men
to
cross.
Your
capacity
to
do
that,
your
capacity
for
real
love
is
immediately
sniffable,
testable,
tasteable
by
every
women
you
meet.
That
quality
is
so
attractive
that
if
you
never
learn
how
to
say
boo
to
a
woman
in
a
bar
or
walk
up
to
a
women
in
Starbucks,
you
will
always
have
women
in
your
life.
High
quality
women,
beautiful
women,
women
who
you
light
up
for
like
in
Schindler's
List.
The
girl
in
the
red
coat
against
the
black
and
white
scene.
You
are
visible
to
women
when
you
learn
this
genuine
quality.
That's
the
why.
That's
the
why.
If
there's
Q
and
A
after
this
and
anybody
really
wants
to
put
me
to
the
test
on
this,
I
will
go
at
this
as
long
as
necessary
to
make
you
understand
that
I
am
not
full
of
shit.
That
this
is
real,
and
that
if
you
get
this,
you
don't
have
to
ever
get
anything
else.
And
furthermore,
that
your
relationships
with
other
men,
your
capacity
to
form
strong
and
trusting
friendships
and
to
be
able
to
say
to
a
man,
"Look,
I
need
you
to
do
this."
And
he'll
go,
"Got
it.
I
got
it.
I'm
going
to
do
that."
And
know
that
they'll
take
you
seriously
immediately
is
all
bound
up
in
this
ability
to
be
vulnerable
about
the
shit
that
you're
not
comfortable
being
vulnerable
with.
It's
all
in
that.
All
of
it.
It's
some
scary
shit.
It's
scary
for
me
right
now,
right
here.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
So
what
is
it?
What
is
it?
What
it
is
is
the
permission
you
give
other
people
to
finally
let
down
their
guard
and
be
a
little
more
genuine
too.
That's
what
it
is.
So
if
I
can
articulate
something
in
my
life
that
scares
me
or
that
I'm
ashamed
of,
if
I
can
talk
to
you
about
an
issue
that
I
had
with
my
penis
size,
I
could
get
that
across
to
you
in
an
authentic
way
and
you
can
tell
that
I'm
confronting
my
fear
to
get
there,
it
gives
you
permission
to
be
a
more
authentic
man
with
me.
It
lets
you
go,
"Right.
I
don't
have
to
be
ashamed.
I
can
be
me
because
when
that
guy
was
being
real,
when
he
was
being
himself,
I
didn't
think
less
of
him.
I
didn't
think
that
guy's
a
loser."
When
I
admitted
my
fear,
it
let
you,
across
from
me,
get
a
little
closer
to
admitting
your
fears
and
insecurities
not
just
to
me
but
to
yourself.
You
realize,
“Oh,
I
don't
have
to
hold
this
shit
so
tight.”
When
you
can
do
that
with
a
woman,
it
gives
her
permission
to
open
to
you.
When
I
say
open,
I
mean
open
in
the
scariest
place
possible
for
her.
That
shame
feel
world
of
sexuality.
Like
I
said,
I
teach
sex,
not
dating.
The
delta
for
a
woman
between,
"Wow,
this
guy
was
attractive
and
he's
fucking
me
right
now.”
And,
“I
just
got
in
my
head
that
no
matter
how
long
he
does
this,
it's
never
going
to
get
good.
He's
seen
a
lot
of
porn
and
he's
going
to
drill
me
for
a
while
and
I'm
going
to
deal
with
that
because
he
seems
pretty
cool,
my
friends
all
thought
he
was
cute,
now
here
I
am
in
his
fucken
apartment.
Oh,
God."
So
that's
the
way
a
woman
feels
when
you're
not
authentic
sexually.
When
she
feels
your
vulnerability,
when
she
feels
that
capacity
to
be
real
in
herself,
it
allows
her
to
be
surprised
almost
in
the
first
moment.
You'll
find
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
women
who
can
become
orgasmic
with
you
from
a
kiss,
from
the
brush
of
your
hands,
and
they're
suddenly
like
so
turned
on.
Why
is
that?
It's
because
they
get
to
be
more
vulnerable
with
you.
They
get
to
be
because
who
you
showed
up
as
because
you're
not
a
douche.
So
for
all
the
attraction
of
the
douche,
which,
by
the
way,
is
that
kind
of
opposite
attraction.
It's
that,
"Well,
he's
playing
such
a
thick
game."
It’s
an
L.A.
phenomenon,
I
call
it.
L.A.
is
a
place
…
And
I
love
L.A.
I
have
wonderful
friends
in
L.A.,
but
the
L.A.
phenomenon
is
a
place
where
a
cab
driver
can
say,
"Yeah,
I'm
a
screen
writer
with
a
3
picture
deal,"
to
a
bartender
who
pretends
to
believe
him
in
exchange
for
which
he
gets
to
say,
"Yeah,
so
I'm
directing
this
thing
with
Tri
Star
and
I
had
a
meeting
with
Spielberg,"
And
we
can
kind
of
agree
that
we'll
all
pretend
that
this
is
real.
That’s
kind
of
an
L.A.
conversation.
So
there
is
a
safe
hiding
space
for
a
women
with
this
douchey
guy.
There's
a
safe
hiding
space.
He's
attractive,
he
pretends
to
be
confident.
I
can
pretend
to
be
confident,
and
then
we
can
pretend
to
be
the
good
looking
people
in
the
bar,
but
it
doesn't
go
anywhere.
It
goes
nowhere.
It
goes
to
sexually
unsatisfying,
but
maybe
it'll
get
better
if
we
keep
trying
relationships.
It
goes
to,
"I'm
dating
this
girl,
but
I
need
to
maintain
my
power
here.
She
needs
to
think
I
have
a
lot
of
options,
so
I
could
be
the
powerful
one
in
the
relationship.
Then
I
can
call
the
shots.
I
don't
have
to
be
jealous
as
long
as
she's
attracted
to
me.
She'll
be
attracted
to
me
as
long
as
she
sees
that
I'm
cool
with
other
women.”
I've
heard
an
awful
lot
of
these
guys
talk
about
this
thing
that
if
a
woman
that
you're
talking
to
in
a
bar
goes
to
the
bathroom,
she
comes
back,
she
better
find
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
you
talking
to
another
woman
or
she's
going
to
think
you're
no
value,
right?
So
that
little
game
space
is
real
and
you
can
dismiss
it
when
you
get
this
because
you're
trading
it
in
for
something
bigger.
You're
trading
it
in
for
what
it
was
that
you
were
faking
before.
The
truth
of
it.
That's
the
what.
The,
what
is
the
opportunity
that
people
feel
when
they're
with
you
to
be
their
real
self
because
you
had
the
balls
to
be
your
real
self?
It's
permission.
Powerful
permission
to
engage
in
something
real
and
not
have
to
be
jealous
and
possessive
and
needy
and
playing
stupid
games
all
the
time.
You
get
to
pass
by
all
that
when
you
get
to
really
the
genuine
space.
Now,
how
do
you
do
it?
Won’t
you
see
me
in
my
real
light.
Real,
genuine,
and
authentic.
Which
means
occasionally
poorly
lit.
So
how
do
you
do
it?
It
is
the
easiest
hard
thing
you'll
ever
do.
It
is
the
easiest
hard
thing
you'll
ever
do.
The
truth
is,
we
all
have
this
sense
that
we
could
be
a
bad
ass.
We
really
could.
Like
I
could,
maybe,
I
can
put
on
the
cool
clothing
and
I
can
walk
up
to
a
girl
and
I
could
just
say
some
cool
stuff,
and
she'd
think
I
was
cool
because
somewhere
in
me
there's
a
cool
guy
dying
to
get
out.
We
have
that
sense
of
our
own
attractiveness,
but
we
don't
trust
ourselves
enough
to
do
it.
We
feel
like
if
we
did,
there
would
be
a
train
wreck
and
she'd
laugh
at
us
and
whatever.
Somewhere
in
there
the
vulnerability
of
the
truth
of
it
is
what
sets
you
free.
Here's
the
practice.
Here's
the
practice.
Notice
what
you’re
ashamed
of
and
afraid
of
in
your
life.
Ask
yourself
the
question,
"What
am
I
secretly
afraid
might
be
true
about
me
that
other
people
might
now
that
I
wish
they
didn't
know?"
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
Then
find
a
solid
man
that
you
trust
and
admit
it
to
them.
Find
a
stranger.
A
cab
driver,
guy
that
cuts
your
hair.
Admit
it
to
them.
Say
it
out
loud.
Shame
grows
in
the
dark
like
a
fungus
or
a
mold.
In
the
light,
it
dies.
So
get
into
the
practice
of
doing
this
and
just
watch
what
happens.
Notice
the
response
when
you
walk
up
to
a
black
friend
of
yours
and
say,
"You
know,
I
sometimes
make
racist
jokes
when
you're
not
in
the
room.
That
happened,
so
try
to
sort
that
out.
I
think
it's
kind
of
funny.
What
do
you
think
about
that?"
Try
and
get
into
what
it
would
be
to
be
genuine
where
it's
scary.
If
it's
not
scary,
you're
cheating.
If
you
don't
feel
your
heart
in
your
throat
you're
cheating.
If
you're
in
a
relationship,
start
talking
to
a
woman
about
the
sexual
fantasies
that
you
think
she
might
not
approve
of.
A
couple
of
things
are
going
to
happen
when
you
start
doing
this.
The
first
thing
is,
you're
going
to
notice
that
people
sigh
in
relief
because
it's
like,
"Oh,
God,
breath
of
fresh
air.
Genuine,
real,
authentic,
vulnerable.
This
is
the
real
shit.
There's
something
that's
true
here.
That's
possible.
I
get
to
let
down
some
of
my
guards
down."
The
second
thing
you're
going
to
notice
is
they
already
knew.
That's
the
crazy
shit
is,
they
knew
and
they
knew
you
were
lying.
On
some
level
they
were
playing
that
L.A
game.
They
were
pretending
that
they
didn't
know
and
you
were
pretending
that
it
wasn't
true.
Like
people
that
are
married
and
the
guy
says,
"No,
honey,
of
course,
I'm
never
attracted
to
other
women.
What
are
you
talking
about?
You're
the
only
one
for
me."
But
the
denial
of
your
human
maleness,
and
by
the
way
her
eager
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
acceptance
of
that
is
killing
your
masculinity.
It's
killing
you
as
a
man.
It's
making
you
less
than
a
man
because
you're
saying,
“My
sexual
desire,
my
impulse
as
a
man
is
bad,
wrong,
and
shameful.
I
better
hide
that
shit."
That's
a
recipe
for
a
relationship
that
very,
very
quickly
goes
into
sexual
boredom
because
you
can
only
live
on
variety
at
that
point.
There
ain't
nothing
else.
You've
cheated
yourself
out
of
all
the
possible
authentic
attraction
where
you
can
trust
your
cock.
You
can't
trust
your
cock
when
you're
lying.
You
can't
trust
yourself.
You're
lying.
You're
lying
to
yourself.
You're
lying
to
her.
You're
lying
to
everyone
around
you.
So
there's
a
process,
there's
a
real
process
of
figuring
out
what
it
is
that
you’re
afraid
to
talk
about
and
talking
about
it.
Be
real
about
it.
Finally
the
what
if,
which
is,
how
far
could
you
take
this.
The,
what
if
here,
the,
if
you
actually
follow
this
process
is
that
it
remakes
you.
It
ultimately
remakes
you
into
somebody
who
has
the
balls
to
be
authentic
in
those
difficult
places
of
all,
which
is
not
the
things
that
you’re
ashamed
of,
but
the
things
that
you're
ashamed
you
might
not
pull
off.
That's
when
you
get
to
show
up
as
masculine
with
all
your
desires,
all
your
truth,
all
your
real,
and
all
your
bad
ass,
and
be
able
to
be
this
with
women
and
discover
that
they
won't
go,
"Oh,
God,
you
really,
you
think
you're
cool,
but
you're
actually
a
boy."
This
fear
that
we
have
that
if
we
actually
step
into
the
space
of
claiming
what
we
want
as
men
and
really
being
the
cool
guy,
the
fear
that
we'll
be
rejected
is
that.
That
nobody
will
accept
us
with
that.
“He
thinks
he's
cool."
Like
you
can
just
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
imagine
the
whole
horror
movie
of
all
these
people
pointing
and
laughing
at
you
and
sepia
black
and
white
looking
down
on
you.
It
never
happens
in
real
life.
100%
of
the
time
that
you
dare
to
be
your
deepest
most
powerful
self,
women
find
it
intensively
relieving
and
relaxing.
When
you
can
be
your
sexually
true
self,
when
you
can
admit
to
your
desires
and
your
capacities
and
really
step
into
your
role
as
a
leader,
you
are
soothing
to
be
around
to
women.
You're
not
threatening.
They
don't
think,
"Oh,
God,
this
guy
wants
something
from
me."
No.
They
think,
"Aw,
he's
open
and
honest
about
what
he
wants
from
me
and
they
get
to
be
with
a
man
that
they
dreamt
of.
The
real
deal.
The
real
thing.
Authentic.
We
could
do
something
with
that
homophobia
too.
What's
so
good
about
the
question
is
that
it
really
is
a
potentially
tight
thing
to
differentiate
between
what's
vulnerable
and
what's
needy.
They
are
completely
separate.
There's
funny
and
there's
tasteless.
Things
could
be
funny
without
being
tasteless
and
thing
could
be
tasteless
without
being
funny
or
they
could
be
funny
and
tasteless,
right?
Needy
is
needy.
Needy
is
needy.
Vulnerable
is
the
willingness
to
go
down
in
flames.
The
willingness
to
be
real
at-‐risk
to
yourself.
In
some
ways
it
really
strongly
differentiates
from
neediness
because
when
you're
needy
you
need
it
to
go
a
certain
way.
You
need
it
to
go
a
certain
way.
Vulnerable
is
standing
in
your
truth.
Standing
in
it.
It's
what's
true
about
me.
If
that's
not
cool
with
you,
I'm
not
cool
with
you
and
that
scares
me
a
little
bit
because
I
would
like
you
to
think
I'm
cool.
That
scares
me
a
little
bit,
but
I
don't
need
to
be
needy
there.
I
could
be,
right?
I
could
be
like,
"Mommy,
you
have
to
like
me
even
though
I'm
like
this,"
right?
I
mean,
you
get
that
there's
a
distinction.
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ALEX ALLMAN
The
value
is
unwiring
and
really
figuring
out
how
these
things
got
nodded
together
is
exactly
in
am
I
using
this
poor
me
sense.
This
sense
of,
“I’ve
got
this
insecurity
for
me.
Am
I
using
this
to
get
attention?”
Am
I
getting
attention
from
it?
If
I’m
using
it
to
get
attention,
then
it's
doing
authenticity.
You
know
what
I
mean?
That's
what
I
said
at
the
beginning.
There's
this
little
thing
about
how
do
I
do
authentic
if
once
you're
doing
it,
you're
not
authentic
anymore.
By
definition
you're
immediately
off
somewhere
else.
It
really
has
to
do
with
that
attention
seeking
behavior.
First,
it's
really
trying
to
get
to
the
depth
of
who
you
are
and
unwire
that
shit.
“I've
been
ashamed
of
this
in
the
past
and
I'm
determined
not
to
be
in
the
future.
I'm
going
to
talk
about
this.”
Let’s
talk
about
how
to
give
a
woman
an
authentic
complement?
How
do
you
be
genuine
with
your
attraction
to
her
without
losing
your
power
or
coming
across
as
needy
again
or
creating
a
place
where
she
feels
socially
superior
to
you
and
maybe
less
interested
in
you
because
you're
just
one
of
the
many
guys
who
happen
to
notice
that
she's
rocking
ridiculously
hot.
The
answer
is
that
it's
non-‐
transactional.
It's
non-‐transactional.
This
idea
of
non-‐transactional
interactions
with
other
humans
is
a
category
onto
itself,
but
of
course,
when
a
man
walks
up
to
a
woman
and
says,
"Wow,
babe,
you
look
great
in
them
shoes."
He
means,
"I'm
interested
in
you
and
maybe
you
should
talk
to
me
because
I
think
you're
cute.
Maybe
you'll
pay
me
a
complement.
Maybe
you'll
like
me
back
because
I
said
something
nice
to
you."
We
all
know,
in
this
world,
that
when
somebody
does
something
nice
for
us
we
want
to
do
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
something
nice
for
them.
It’s
basic
reciprocity.
The
question
is
can
you
give
a
women
a
complement,
can
you
pay
her
a
complement
in
a
way
that's
non-‐
transactional.
The
root
of
this
is
so
devious
because
the
only
way
to
get
this
right
is
to
be
able
to
do
it
right.
You
have
to
feel
it
right.
I
guess
you
could
fake
it,
but
it's
pretty
detectable.
It's
pretty
detectable.
So
when
you're
complementing
a
woman
is
it
because
you
really
want
to
say
something
to
her.
You're
dying
to
have
something
to
say
and
that's
the
only
fucking
thing
you
can
think
of.
In
which
case
if
you
say
to
her,
"You're
cute
and
I'm
wrecking
my
brain
trying
to
think
of
something
to
say
to
you,
and
the
only
thing
that
comes
into
my
mind
is
wow,
you're
really
cute,
which
makes
me
a
poor
conversationalist,
I
guess
or
just
stymied
by
how
good
looking
you
are."
Now,
it's
non-‐transactional
anymore.
Now
it's
authentic.
Now
you're
telling
the
truth.
Like,
"I
kind
of
suck
at
this
and
I'm
probably
making
a
fool
of
myself
and
it's
confronting
to
me
to
have
this
conversation
with
you."
That's
real,
right?
Now,
will
that
work?
Well,
depends
on
if
it's
true.
It
won’t
work
as
a
line.
I'm
telling
you
it
won’t
work
as
a
line.
Memorize
it,
go
do
it,
it
will
work
as
well
or
not
well
as
hello.
But
when
it's
real,
when
you're
feeling
it,
when
you're
allowing
yourself
to
be
seeing
as
afraid,
it'll
work.
It'll
work.
By
the
way,
I'll
have
to
put
some
exceptions
in
there.
The
exceptions
are
there
are
people
who
are
so
bound
up
in
their
own
self-‐fear
that
it
is
not
welcome.
You
will
run
into
that.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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There
are
people
who
will
find
you
freaky
and
hard
to
be
with
when
you
become
authentic.
The
good
news
is
you
can't
trust
those
people.
You
don't
want
to
be
with
them
and
you
can't
have
an
authentic
and
real
relationship
with
them
anyway.
Other
than
as
their
kind
of
teacher,
their,
"I'm
going
to
help
you
to
better
yourself
in
life,"
maybe,
but
you're
never
going
to
approach
somebody
like
that
as
an
equal.
The
beauty
of
authentic
people
is
that
we
can
smell
each
other.
We're
willing
to
go.
Being
in
this
room,
by
the
way,
it's
an
authentic
move.
Say,
"I
need
to
help
in
this
area."
For
men
say,
"I
need
help,"
is
an
authentic
move.
It
makes
you
likable.
It
makes
you
likable
to
the
teachers
and
to
the
other
men
in
the
room.
We're
likable
to
each
other.
Why?
Because
we're
vulnerable
to
each
other.
The
nature
of
this
paying
the
complement
is
you
have
to
sniff
yourself.
You
have
to
find
it
in
yourself.
“Am
I
doing
this
transact?
Am
I
doing
this
transactionally.
Am
I
trying
to
get
some
reaction
from
her
or
am
I
being
intensely
generous
of
spirit?”
By
the
way,
that
is
the
next
level
here.
That
is
the
next
level
of
the,
what
if
you
kept
being
authentic?
Which
is,
you
begin
to
discover
that
people
love
it.
They
eat
it
like,
"Aw,
it's
delicious.
It's
fucken
delicious."
I
mean,
when
somebody
says
something
really
vulnerable
to
you,
particularly
somebody
who
you
hold
at
high
esteem
and
they're
like,
"Wow,
I
was
really
scared
back
there
when
we
were
doing
that
thing.
I
walked
up
to
that
girl
and
I
was
afraid
she
was
going
to
reject
me
in
front
of
all
you
guys."
That
makes
them
so
fucken
likable
and
you'll
see
it.
People
light
up
when
you're
vulnerable
with
them
and
it's
delicious
to
them.
So
the
next
step
is
can
you
give
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
people
your
genuine,
can
you
give
them
your
vulnerable
as
a
matter
of
generosity?
As
a
heart
expression?
As
an
expression
of
your
generosity
as
a
man?
This
kind
of
masculine
generosity
of,
“I’ve
got
enough
for
both
of
us.
You
have
a
piece.”
Sometimes
a
man
needs
to
hear
your
vulnerability
because
he's
feeling
so
small
in
that
moment
that
if
you
don't
give
him
some
vulnerability
too
he's
just
going
to
disintegrate.
It's
a
generous
act.
When
you're
with
a
women
and
you
say
to
her,
"You
are
literally
flaming
my
eyeballs
right
now,"
and
you
say
it
from
a
place
of
generosity
and
non-‐transactional.
You
don't
expect
a
gift
a
return.
You
have
no
idea
if
this
interaction
is
going
to
go
further.
If
it
did,
delightful,
but
if
it
doesn't,
it's
not
why
you
said
it.
There
was
no
transaction.
You
were
doing
as
an
act
of
generosity.
That
generosity
of
spirit
will
make
it
come
across
as
vulnerable
and
powerful.
Just
now
someone
asked:
“When
there’s
somebody
that
you're
very
attached
to
or
somebody
in
your
life
who
is
very
important
to
you
and
maybe
you
have
all
these
fears,
but
you
haven't
expressed
them
before
but
this
person
is
very
important
to
you
how
do
you
go
into
that
from
not
doing
it
before?
Because
it's
not
just
a
fear
of
saying
it.
The
finding
your
fear
and
the
fear
of
saying
it.
You
have
the
fear
of
what
the
other
person
is
going
to
think
of
you
or
how
they're
going
to
react
and
they're
going
to
leave
you.
Is
there
any
way
of
practicing
or
things
you
should
do
or
how
you
should
go
about
getting
into
that?”
I
told
them:
“The
answer
is
bound
up
in
what's
at
stake,
right?
That's
why
I
said
it's
easier
with
a
guy
that
cuts
your
hair
or
a
bartender
than
it
is
with
your
dad
or
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
the
woman
you're
in
love
with
or
men,
right?
Because
there's
something
at
stake.
“If
they
reject
me,
this
could
be
fucken
bad."
To
the
degree
that
it's
scary,
is
the
very
degree
to
how
powerful
it
will
be
received.
The
scarier
it
is,
the
bigger
the
payoff.
Almost
100%
of
the
time
my
experience.
Now
there's
two
little
issues
that
are
the
kind
of
how
tos
here.
You
have
to
do
it
right.
If
you
do
it
wrong,
you'll
destroy
the
universe.
I
mean,
you'll
destroy
the
universe.
You'll
have
broken
it.
The
first
one
is,
and
it's
a
big
one
is,
you
need
to
clean
it
internally
first
to
make
sure
there's
no
accusation
in
it.
To
make
sure
that
your
fear
is
yours
alone
and
not
some
projection.
“You
did
this
and
when
you
did
that
that
made
me
scared
that
you
didn't
take
me
seriously,”
right?
Because
as
soon
as
you
do
that,
there's
this
sniff,
this
possibility
that,
"Oh,
you're
saying
I'm
bad
and
wrong."
Now,
here's
the
thing,
it
doesn't
matter
what
your
intention
was.
It
literally
doesn't
matter
if
your
intention
was
to
be
vulnerable
because
all
humans
are
incredibly
insecure
and
will
blame
themselves
first
every
time.
So
when
you
say,
"So,
I
was
really
scared
and
it
was
all
my
fault.
I
know
this
was
me.
It
was
my
weird
fear
and
I'm
really
embarrassed
and
I
want
to
admit
it
to
you.
When
you
did
that
thing,
it
made
me
feel
blah,
blah,
blah,
blah."
Even
though
you
did
all
you,
that
little
piece
that
it
might
have
been
their
fault,
will
just
make
them
angry.
They'll
literally,
immediately
say,
"So
you're
accusing
me
of
not
being
somebody
who
can
handle
the…"
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
Like
you're
putting
it
on
them.
Because
it's
a
high
stakes
game,
you
need
to
sniff
through
the
whole
message
and
clean
it
in
your
heart
and
in
your
words
and
make
it
about
you.
It
can't
be
about
them.
It
just
could
never
be
about
them.
It's
got
to
be
about
you
and
your
stuff.
And
it
could
be
true.
That's
the
other
piece
of
it.
So
the
question
then
becomes,
what
price
are
you
willing
to
pay
to
live
in
truth?
There's
a
clear
piece
that
you
need
to
get
here.
I
want
to
be
super
fucken
clear
about
this.
If
you
want
a
relationship
where
we
lie
to
each
other,
we're
good
partners
in
life,
we
can
raise
children
together.
I
occasionally
fuck
my
secretary
when
I'm
on
business
trips.
I
sometimes
hire
call
girls.
She's
sleeping
with
the
pool
boy,
but
we
pretend
that
we're
cool.
If
that's
okay
with
you
this
ain't
for
you.
This
is
not
the
game
for
you
to
play.
This
is
the
game
you
play
when
you
want
the
real
thing.
When
you
want
to
sink
in
full
surrender
with
another
person.
This
is
love
I'm
talking
about,
not
laid.
It
works
to
get
your
laid,
funny
enough,
but
it
works
to
get
you
laid
in
a
way
that
you
can
part
friends
because
you
never
blow
smoke
up
either
of
each
other’s
asses.
May
have
used
a
little
too
many
...
too
much
syntax
there.
One
is
you
have
to
clean
your
message
and
realize
that
your
suspicions
might
be
right.
You
clean
your
message
and
your
vulnerable
properly,
you'll
get
a
true
response.
Like,
I'm
a
little
scared
that
you
might
be
really
attracted
to
my
sister.
If
you
clean
that
message
enough
and
you
really
make
it
about
yourself,
you
can
have
your
man
come
back
and
say,
"I
am
and
I
occasionally
fantasies
about
her."
Is
that
okay?
Is
that
okay?
Is
the
truth
okay?
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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If
the
truth
isn't
okay,
you
could
end
up
needy
in
your
message.
You
have
to
be
okay
with
what's
real.
With
what
is.
With
what's
true.
Are
you
willing
to
play
on
the
field
of
what's
true?
That's
first.
Is
clean
your
message.
Make
sure
you
want
authentic,
right?
Then
the
second
thing
is
what
one
of
my
mentors
Nathan
Auto
calls
top
truth.
Top
truth
is
as
far
down
as
you
can
go
and
maintain,
which
is
not
always
the
bottom.
Sometimes
we
feel
like
it's
all
or
nothing.
“I
literally
just
can't
talk
to
my
lover
about
this
because
I'll
burst
into
flames
or
I
know
we'll
fight.
I
know
we'll
fight.
We're
not
ready
for
this.”
So
the
question
is,
it's
not
well,
that
means
you
can't
talk
at
all.
The
question
is,
how
far
down
the
deck
of
cards
can
you
get?
Where
is
your
top
truth
that
you
can
talk
about
it?
That
you
can
maintain?
That
you
can
clean
the
message
and
know
you're
cool
with
it.
So
it
could
be
something
like,
"You
know,
sometimes
I
feel
jealous."
And
they're
like,
"Oh,
honey,
everyone
feels
jealous
sometimes.
I
feel
jealous
sometimes
too."
"Yeah,
so
you
know,
my
sister's
really
pretty.
Sometimes
I
feel
jealous
of
my
sister."
"Yeah,
I
know.
I
can
see
that.
Your
sister's
beautiful.
I
have
a
friend
who's
really
good
looking.
I'm
kind
of
jealous
of
him
too."
Now
maybe
you
can
get
down
another
layer.
"So
I
think
you're
into
my
sister."
Sometimes
you
have
to
deal
them
out,
right?
To
get
to
what's
vulnerable,
you
have
to
play
the
game
of
top
truth.
Which
is
sometimes
as
far
as
you
can
go.
It’s
a
powerful
exercise.
Amazingly
when
you
play
the
game
of
top
truth,
you're
constantly
given
more
permission.
Constantly
given
more
permission.
I've
never
played
top
truth
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
without
getting
more
permission
to
go
down
deeper.
Again,
if
you're
willing
to
play
non-‐transactionally,
what's
true,
what's
vulnerable,
and
what's
your
own
and
not
a
sneaky
way
of
actually
making
somebody
bad
and
wrong?
It's
really,
really
easy
to
play
this
game
in
a
sneaky
way
because
what
you
really
want
to
do
is
get
an
apology
at
the
end
of
this.
You
have
to
be
careful
with
that
shit.
It's
not
the
same
thing.
It's
valid,
but
understand
it's
a
different
game.
I
think
that
the
stand
that
I
would
love
for
people
to
make,
the
place
that
I
began
to
recognize
...
let
me
tell
the
truth
about
this,
actually,
because
there
is
actually
a
deep
truth
of
where
it
began
with
me.
I
don't
want
to
take
credit
for
it
by
saying
the
next
thing.
I'll
say
the
next
thing
next.
My
truth
is
that
I
surrounded
myself
with
people
who
were
so
authentic
and
had
so
much
integrity
that
they
called
me
on
my
bullshit.
They
did
it
for
me.
I
was
forced
through
the
door.
I
was
kicked
through
the
door.
My
friends
Rose
and
Nat
and
Evan
on
New
Year’s
Eve
about
10
years
ago
kicked
me
through
this
door
by
telling
me
that
they
could
sniff
my
game.
By
the
way,
not
only
was
it
not
where
anybody
could
see
it,
but
I
wasn't
totally
where
I
was
doing
it
and
they
told
me
that
they
loved
me
for
what
was
true
about
me,
not
what
I
was
pretending
was
true
about
me.
I
was
forced
through
this
door.
That's
the
truth.
I
wasn't
so
cool
that
I
found
my
way
to
it.
How
you
could
be
so
cool
that
you
could
find
your
own
way
to
it
is
to
simply
ask
yourself
the
question,
“Would
I
rather
expertly
play
a
game
that
is
acceptable
to
others?
Am
I
willing
to
go
on
doing
that?
Or
will
I
fucken
make
a
stand
for
what's
true
about
me
and
only
accept
the
love
of
people
who
love
me
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
for
what's
real
about
myself?”
I
mean
this
amongst
your
friends,
your
family,
and
your
lovers.
Now
it
is
possible
that
you
are
willing
to
be
accepted
for
a
game
you
play
to
get
laid
on
Saturday
night.
That's
fine.
You're
not
a
bad
person.
Women
do
it.
Men
do
it.
People
want
sex.
It's
fine.
You
don't
need
to
judge
yourself.
Now
what'
true
about
you
is
that
you're
a
person
who
will
do
that
and
that's
a
vulnerable
truth
to
admit
and
that's
okay.
I'm
that
person.
I've
done
it.
I'm
not
proud
of
it.
I'm
a
little
bit
ashamed
of
it,
but
I
know
that
it's
human
and
I
can
accept
it
in
myself.
So
from
that
place
I
am
unwilling
to
have
a
real
relationship,
a
friendship,
or
a
love
based
on
what
I
have
become
skilled
at
playing.
I
require
of
my
friends
that
they
love
me
for
who
I
really
am.
To
get
that,
I'm
going
to
have
to
tell
them
who
I
really
am.
With
all
my
flaws
and
all
my
fears
and
all
my
insecurities.
When
you
get
to
the
point
where
you'll
accept
nothing
less,
than
you
can
begin
taking
the
first
steps.
The
first
steps
really
are
noticing
in
yourself
the
things
that
you're
secretive
about,
ashamed
of,
hope
nobody
finds
out.
That
thing
that
you
lied
about
years
ago
and
have
been
living,
tell
somebody
that
you
lied
about
it.
The
thing
that
you're
most
afraid
of
and
then
top
truth
it.
How
far
can
you
go?
Find
those
things.
There's
a
secret
here.
There's
something
I'm
kind
of
renascent
to
tell
you
because
this
is
really
…
If
you
play
this
game
...
Like
I
just
want
to
say,
do
this
for
a
while
and
you'll
notice
people
are
more
attracted
to
you.
You'll
have
better
friends
and
more
women
are
going
to
be
interested
in
really
wanting
to
be
with
you,
and
you
won’t
be
thinking
to
yourself
obsessively,
"Is
she
going
to
be
with
somebody
else?"
Well,
that
conversation
goes
away
because
it's
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
real.
You
know
you're
telling
each
other
the
truth.
It's
like
the
whole
conversation
disappear.
So
the
jealousy
disappears.
It
all
disappears.
But
the
little
thing
I'm
not
telling
you
is
that
his
is
going
to
explode
you.
It's
going
to
burn
you
down.
It's
going
to
remake
you
like
the
phoenix.
You
will
be
the
person
you
don't
even
know
you
are
yet.
The
truth
is
that
as
you
begin
to
play
this
vulnerability
game,
what
you
discover
is
not
where
you've
been
lying
to
other
people.
What
you
openly
discover
is
where
you've
been
lying
to
yourself
and
you
didn't
fucken
know
it.
You
were
so
genius
about
how
you
lied
to
yourself.
You
were
so
genius.
You
covered
your
tracks
so
brilliantly
that
your
conscious
mind
never
suspected
what
a
fucken
wackadoo
you
are.
Then
when
you
get
to
that
place,
when
you
get
to
being
the
truth
of
your
wacky,
delightful,
individual,
completely
authentic
expression
of
the
authentic
unice,
you're
a
different
person.
You're
a
powerful
person.
You're
powerful
and
self-‐
fulfilled
in
ways
that
you
just
can't
get
until
you
play.
It
remakes
you.
I
don't
want
to
make
the
grandiose
promise
because
I'm
afraid
it
kind
of
makes
it
less
playable,
but
this
is
a
playable
game.
This
is
a
playable
game.
You'll
get
instant
results.
The
results
come
fast
at
the
beginner
level,
but
something
really
wacky
happens
in
there.
Like
something
transformational.
You
will
burn
yourself
down
in
the
most
beautiful
way.
So
someone
in
the
audience
asked
me
“what
if
you
do
not
have
the
people
around
you
to
actually
speak
to
these
issues
with?”
People
often
don’t
have
many
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
male
figures
around
them,
so
they
find
that
in
these
moments
they
sometimes
don't
know
what
to
do
and
stuff.
I
want
to
get
clear
that
what
you’re
doing
right
now
in
being
vulnerable
is
intensely
courage
and
attractive
to
every
other
person
in
the
world.
This
is
in
real-‐
time.
You're
seeing
it.
This
is
a
guy
showing
that
he's
got
the
balls
to
tell
the
truth.
It's
delicious
to
everyone
else.
It
gives
us
permission
to
talk
about
the
shit
that
we're
a
little
bit
ashamed
of,
right?
Now,
look
around
you
because
here
we
are.
Here
are
the
men.
Here
we
are.
We're
the
ones
playing
that
game.
We're
the
ones
vulnerable
enough
to
come
in
here
and
talk
about
this
stuff.
Here
we
are.
For
somebody
who's
watching
this
at
home
gets
that.
They're
like,
"I
don't
have
a
fucken
person
in
my
life
like
that."
Know
that
that
is
the
nature
of
culture
in
America
today.
That
according
to
the
latest
studies
the
average
person
has
.3
best
friends.
Meaning
that
more
than
half
the
people,
more
than
half
the
people
who
took
the
survey
said,
"I
don’t
have
a
best
friend."
Right?
“I
don't
have
somebody
I
can
really
fucken
trust
balls
to
the
wall.”
That's
most
people.
That's
the
truth
of
America
today
and
probably
a
lot
of
the
rest
of
the
world.
So
mission
one
is
to
find
a
man
you
can
look
in
the
eye
and
tell
the
truth
to
who
you
know
will
tell
you
the
truth
back
and
won't
blow
smoke
up
your
ass.
The
beautiful
thing
about
the
first
kind
of
throw
it
out
there
to
the
barber
or
the
chatroom
or
the
whatever,
is
that
you
being
to
exercise
the
muscle.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
Well,
it's
not
the
end
it's
the
beginning.
The
end
is
being
able
to
look
at
somebody
you
love
like
your
mom
and
tell
her
the
truth
about
something
that's
scary
to
say.
By
the
way,
I
bring
up
parents,
mom,
dad,
because
these
are
vulnerable
relationship
that
if
you
get
them
right
will
serve
you
powerfully
in
life.
The
single
most
important
relationship
you'll
ever
have
is
going
to
be
the
relationship
with
your
lover
if
you
have
it.
It's
kind
of
like
best
friends.
People
have
.3
of
them.
In
this
case,
I'm
going
to
say
the
numbers
probably
tragically
much
lower.
Much,
much
lower,
but
the
capacity
for
you
to
grow
yourself
in
relation
to
others
versus
sitting
alone,
no
comparison.
Step
one
is
find
the
man
that
you
can
trust.
Find
the
brothers.
And
I'd
start
in
this
room.
I'd
start
in
this
room.
I'd
get
some
emails
and
I'd
give
you
mine.
Like,
really
because
you
just
said
something
that
pulled
me,
right?
Because
you
were
real.
That's
the
shit
right
there,
right?
But
the
more
you
do
it,
the
more
you
show
up
at
a
deeper
level,
like
I
said,
the
results
come
fast
and
early.
It's
a
game
I
invite
you
to
experiment
with.
Play,
play
and
see
what
happens,
but
they're
in
this
room
right
now.
Look
left.
Look
right.
These
are
the
men.
These
are
men.
In
relationship
with
others,
is
in
relationship
with
the
universe,
right?
These
are
all
manifestations
of
what
the
universe
is
throwing
to
you.
Everything
from
moonlight
to
a
conversation
we're
having
is
your
interaction
with
the
other
person
with
duality,
which
eventually
when
we
get
too
spooky,
but
you
being
to
realize
is
you
that
that's
the
distinction
you
begin
to
make.
That
other
humans
are
you.
That
they
have
the
same
insecurities
and
the
same
layers
of
stuff.
Identical
at
the
core
and
it's
revelatory.
Yeah?
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
ALEX ALLMAN
Earlier
someone
mentioned
that
people
are
closed
off
in
every
aspect
of
their
life.
They
wanted
to
know
how
to
deal
with
that?
I
believe
that
you
need
to
use
intelligence.
I
would
deal
with
it
in
a
mature
way.
This
stuffs
addictive
by
the
way.
Like
I
said,
the
results
come
fast
early.
The
value
of
your
question
is
a
good
one
because
it's
good
warning.
When
you
begin
becoming
vulnerable,
there's
a
temptation
to
just
start
doing
it
everywhere
all
the
time.
You
get
excited
about
it
because
it
works
so
well.
It
makes
people
like
ya.
And
a
lot
of
people
overcorrect
and
become
weird
for
a
little
while
with
it.
Then
they
find
their
way
back.
So
I'll
give
you
a
warning
up
front
that
it's
having
privacy,
having
some
boundary
where
you
share
your
internal
world,
the
people
you
share
it
with,
and
the
people
you
don't
is
totally
appropriate.
It
may
not
be
appropriate
in
your
workplace.
What
I
do
for
a
living,
the
more
vulnerable
I
can
be,
the
stronger
my
message
is
going
to
be.
The
same
for
Christian.
The
more
he
can
really
dig
out
what
his
stuff
is
or
was,
the
more
he
can
serve
you,
right?
The
more
he
can't
recall
what
it
was
to
be
nervous
around
women,
the
less
he
can
serve
you.
But
that’s
not
true
in
every
profession,
right?
Stockbroker
doesn't
need
it.
It's
not
the
place
for
it.
“I
just
need
to
know
right
now,
do
you
think
I
should
buy
this
shit
because
it's
selling
at
this
much
a
share.”
I
don't
need
to
hear
about
your
vulnerabilities.
It's
not
appropriate.
It's
not
the
right
place
for
it.
So
I
would
be
mature,
judicious,
and
trust
yourself.
Really
trust
yourself.
You'll
know.
When
you
put
it
up
against
the
ratio
of
self-‐trust
and
not
the,
"Alex
said
I
should
be
vulnerable,
but
what
do
I
think?"
You
can
always
trust
yourself.
Always.
100%
of
the
time,
guaranteed.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
What
women
are
looking
for
is
dominance.
I’m
talking
about
dominance
from
the
second
you
meet
them.
Not
passive.
It’s
amazing;
because,
if
you
think
about
it,
we’re
wired
as
cavemen
and
cavewoman.
If
you
got
back
to
the
time,
okay
man
is
a
man,
woman
is
a
woman.
Man
goes
into
the
cave
at
the
end
of
the
day,
brings
a
Saber
Tooth
Tiger
by
his
hand.
Looks
at
a
woman.
The
woman
wants
to
be
thrown
down
on
that
stone
bed
and
times
have
not
changed.
I
don’t
care
how
dominant
women
are
in
the
business
world.
I
don’t
care
if
they’ve
got
a
boss
that’s
this
ball
busting
woman
or
whatever
it
is.
I
don’t
care
if
the
woman
who
showed
you
a
condo
is
this
dominant
woman.
Every
woman
wants
to
be
dominated
right
from
the
very
get-‐go.
That’s
our
role
as
a
man.
The
problem
is
we
live
in
a
very
passive
society.
Men
don’t
know
what
to
do
or
when
to
do
it.
It’s
shall
I
send
a
text?
Shall
I
call
her?
When
should
I
ask
her
out?
How
should
I
ask
her
out?
What
should
I
do
on
the
first
date,
and
it
shows.
Fear
shows.
We’re
animals.
That’s
all
we
are.
We
are
animals.
We
walk
around
and
we
give
out
energy
to
each
other,
right
from
the
get-‐go.
Life
is
just
energy
and
that’s
it.
When
you
approach
a
woman
for
the
very
first
time
and
you
look
at
her.
If
it
triggers
off
in
your
brain,
like
this
that
you
like
her.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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Immediately,
you’re
here
and
she’s
here.
How
do
you
like
somebody?
How
do
you
physically
like
somebody?
How
do
you
emotionally
like
somebody?
How
do
you
mentally
like
somebody
you’ve
never
talked
to
before?
All
it
is
is
your
penis
transmitting
to
your
little
brain
up
there;
because,
the
penis
has
a
bigger
brain,
right?
Obviously.
The
penis
going,
oh
my
God,
we’ve
got
to
get
this.
I’ve
got
to
tap
into
that
thing.
Man,
I
like
her.
Because,
if
you
think
about
it,
99%
of
the
women
that
you
approach
in
your
life,
99%
of
them
you
will
never
see
again
in
any
romantic
light.
Ninety-‐nine
percent.
That’s
what
the
odds
of
life
are.
You’re
looking
for
that
1%.
To
me
that’s
huge.
One
percent,
that’s
great.
Some
of
you
guys
might
think
to
yourself,
like
1%,
shit,
that’s
not
enough.
I
want
like
10%.
One
percent
to
me
is
perfect.
Because,
we
live
in
a
world
where
there’s
so
many
people
out
there
and
there’s
so
many
men
that
are
not
dominant.
The
number
one
complaint
and
I’ve
been
coaching
women
too
for
15
years
is
that
men
aren’t
dominant.
Where
are
the
real
men?
Where
are
the
men
that
are
going
to
claim
me?
You
hear
this
all
the
time.
All
the
stupid
romantic
comedies
is
about
a
woman
being
claimed.
The
guy
did
the
right
thing
at
the
right
moment.
You
think
about
it,
if
you
break
down
that
script,
that
right
thing
was
absolutely
nothing
except
using
voice
tonality,
body
language
and
owning
her
from
the
get-‐go.
How
do
you
go
and
do
this?
How
do
you
make
somebody
your
girlfriend
from
the
get-‐go
and
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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that’s
something
you
need
to
think
about.
With
every
woman
you
approach
she
could
be
a
potential
girlfriend.
She
could
be
somebody
that
you’re
going
to
be
sleeping
with.
Somebody
that
you
might
marry.
Somebody
who
might
be
the
mother
of
your
kids.
Somebody
who
might
give
you
best
sex
of
your
life
for
the
next
25
years
if
you
believe
in
that,
or
the
next
25
minutes
whatever
you
want
to
do.
The
plain
and
simple
is
that
if
you
don’t
approach
her
with
authority
and
dominance
right
from
the
get-‐go,
you
will
lose
her
interest
right
away.
It’s
not
the
words
you
say,
it’s
the
tonality
of
your
voice.
When
you
walk
over
to
a
woman
it’s
the
way
you
look
at
her
and
you
want
to
claim
her
with
your
eyes.
One
of
the
best
mindset
tricks
that
I
do
with
guys
all
the
time
is
this.
If
you
see
a
woman
and
you
think
you
like
her,
immediately
don’t
approach
her.
Don’t
approach
her;
because,
you’re
showing
weakness.
Because,
if
you
like
somebody
before
you
approach
them,
think
about
the
power
trip
in
that,
right?
I
like
you,
I
don’t
know
if
you
like
me.
Think
about
what
you’re
doing.
You’re
asking
to
be
liked.
You
asking
to
be
like
me,
like
me
please,
please
like
me.
You
go
over
and
you’re
not
the
dominant
person
that
you
are.
You’re
not
strong.
You’re
not
coming
from
a
sense
of
conviction.
You’re
not
like
this
beast,
this
mountain,
this
dominant
guy
that
she’s
looking
for.
You’re
weak;
because
you’re
going
up
to
her
and
you’re
saying,
like
me.
I
like
you.
I
want
you.
I
like
you.
Why
won’t
you
like?
I
need
to
say
something
that’s
going
to
be
clever.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
I
need
to
say
something
that’s
going
to
be
smart.
I
need
to
do
something
right
here.
This
is
what
triggers
off
in
every
single
male
brain.
Whenever
a
guy
comes
to
me
whenever
I’m
coaching,
they
say,
I
like
this
girl.
I
want
to
go
talk
to
her.
You
don’t
like
her.
She
can
have
really
bad
breath.
She
can
have
a
yeast
infection
so
bad,
that
Budweiser
won’t
even
use
her
to
brew
beer.
There’s
so
many
things
that
can
be
going
on
down
there,
you
don’t
have
no
idea.
She
can
have
herpes.
She
can
be
a
bitch.
Her
last
boyfriend
she
dominated.
She
could
be
bad
in
bed.
She
hasn’t
blown
a
guy
in
her
entire
life.
You’re
going
to
beg
for
sex
every
day,
but
you
have
this
visual
imprint
in
your
brain
that
you
like
her.
In
reality
you
don’t
like
her.
You
are
the
man.
You’re
the
man.
You’re
the
gift.
You’re
going
to
rescue
her
from
her
shit
life.
You’re
going
to
rescue
her
from
being
single
and
having
to
deal
with
all
the
idiots
on
Match.com
that
breathe
down
her
neck
every
single
day.
You’re
the
guy
that’s
going
to
rescue
her
from
all
the
drunken
guys
that,
those
frat
boys
that
are
out
on
every
Friday
and
Saturday
night.
Drunk
as
can
be.
Walking
and
looking
at
her
like
they
haven’t
eaten
in
25
years.
They
always
look
and
go,
“Hey
Sal,
hey
you,
man
look
at
her.
Man
I
could
go
do
her.”
No,
you
can’t.
Because,
if
you
could
do
her,
you’d
be
talking
to
her
and
you
wouldn’t
be
elbowing
your
buddy.
You’re
going
to
rescue
her
from
her
annoying
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friends
that
are
in
these
beautiful
relationships
and
they
don’t
want
to
hear
it
anymore.
You’re
the
rescuer.
You’re
the
prince,
that’s
what
they’re
looking
for.
Women
are
looking
for
their
Prince
Charming.
They’re
looking
for
this
guy,
this
guy
that’s
going
to
rescue
them,
that’s
going
to
give
them
their
dream;
because,
women
are
fantasy
driven.
You
ask
women
all
the
time,
what
they
describe
marriage
and
it’s
never
the
version
we
describe
it
at.
Women
have
planned
their
marriage
out
since
Barbie
and
Ken
started
making
out
in
the
box
at
five-‐years-‐old.
Since
Barbie
took
Ken’s
hand
and
they
started
walking
there.
Women
want
to
be
claimed.
Men
don’t
know
how
to
do
it.
When
you
walk
over
to
a
woman
for
the
very
first
time,
think
of
it,
I
own
you.
I
own
your
pussy.
Your
pussy’s
mine
man.
Nobody
and
this
is
the
mentality
I
always
give.
You
have
to
think
of
this
and
visualize
it.
Close
your
eyes
and
visualize
this.
No
guy
is
going
to
give
you
an
orgasm
bigger
than
I
can
ever
give
you.
That’s
what
I
think
about
all
the
time.
When
I
walk
over
to
a
woman,
I
claim
her;
because,
you
have
to
unlock
that
sexual
energy.
That’s
what
we
need
to
unlock.
I’ve
seen
so
many
guys
walk
with
zero
sexual
energy.
None
whatsoever.
They
walk
around.
They
don’t
know
how
to
turn
it
on
and
the
women
walk
away,
like
oh
okay.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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That’s
why
they’re
always
throwing
that
friend
zone.
That
dreaded
zone.
You
know
that
awful
zone,
it’s
like
the
end
zone.
You
have
all
these
women
there.
You’re
on
the
20
yard
line
and
you
think
you’re
about
to
go
out
and
go
in
and
hangout
with
her
and
give
her
a
kiss.
The
next
thing
you
know,
you’re
thrown
back
in
the
end
zone
again
and
there
you
are
in
that
friend
zone
box.
That
awful
box.
That
box
that
you
just
seem
to
get
stuck
in
over
and
over
again;
because,
you
haven’t
turned
on
the
sexual
energy.
When
I
walk
over
to
a
woman
I
look
at
her
like
I’m
going
to
eat
her,
literally.
I
look
at
her
like
I’m
going
to
get
her
naked,
spread
her
legs
wide
and
fucking
taste
her
and
see
exactly
what
she’s
all
about.
She’s
mine
and
I
turn
it
on.
I
look
at
her
right
in
her
eyes.
I
pierce
her
eyes.
I
don’t
hesitate.
My
eye
contact
is
so
strong;
because,
I
want
to
know
she
can
stand
up
to
me.
I
want
her
to
know
she’s
in
the
presence
of
a
dominant
person.
If
you
think
about
what
women
desire,
look
at
all
these
scrawny
rock
stars
that
women
throw
themselves
at.
Look
at
these
athletes
that
they
know
are
idiots
that
women
throw
themselves
at.
Look
at
all
the
politicians
with
their
bad
comb
overs,
but
yet
they
have
affairs
with
the
most
beautiful
women
in
the
world.
Look
at
these
little
nerdy
business
men
that
women
are
craving;
because,
women
crave
dominance
and
power.
Every
guy
has
that.
That’s
what
you’re
about.
That’s
what
being
a
man
is
all
about.
A
man
is
being
about
being
dominant,
being
powerful,
being
dynamic.
If
you
want
her
to
blow
off
every
other
guy
she’s
seeing
and
to
become
your
girlfriend,
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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she’s
got
to
see
you
as
that
guy
that
none
of
the
rest
of
the
guys
are.
That’s
what
I
love;
because,
to
me
the
world
is
not
competitive.
The
world
is
full
of
passive
people.
Because,
if
everybody
was
dominant
and
everybody
was
aggressive
and
everybody
was
secure
and
everybody
was
strong,
guess
what
would
happen?
It
would
become
competitive.
To
me
I
don’t
look
like
it’s
competitive
at
all.
Most
guys
are
so
passive,
it’s
great.
When
I
walk
over
to
a
woman.
I
walk
over
and
say
your
pussy’s
mine.
It’s
in
my
head
and
I
do
it.
I
look
at
that
and
I
go
your
pussy’s
mine.
I
can
play
with
you
better
than
everybody
else.
I
can
finger
you
better
than
everybody
else
and
I
can
fuck
you
better
than
everybody
else.
I
think
about
that.
If
you
think
about
owning
that.
You
think
about
owning
her,
you’re
going
to
turn
her
on
so
much,
she’s
not
going
to
know
what’s
going
on.
You’re
going
to
have
eye
contact.
You’re
going
to
talk
to
her.
You’re
going
to
listen
to
her.
You’re
going
to
turn
her
on;
because,
it’s
all-‐subliminal.
Ninety
percent
of
what
you
do
is
all
in
your
body
language,
in
your
eye
contact,
in
your
voice
tonality.
If
I
was
speaking
to
you
right
now
in
a
voice
tonality
like
this,
you
now
when
you
go
and
meet
a
woman
and
if
you
just
own
her
pussy,
man
that’s
what
you
need
to
do
dude.
Fucking
A
man,
just
own
her
pussy
like
you
own
the
X-‐box,
right?
If
you
think
about
that
tonality,
if
I
didn’t
tonality,
guess
what?
You’d
be
bored.
You’d
think
to
yourself,
really
man?
This
guy
can’t
get
laid.
There’s
no
way
in
the
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world.
There’s
no
way.
There’s
no
way
in
the
world
he
could
dominate
a
woman.
There’s
no
way
in
the
world
a
woman
is
going
to
see
him
as
dominant.
Now,
I’m
not
talking
about
being
an
ass
hole;
because,
it’s
not
about
being
that.
It’s
about
being
strong
and
having
a
conviction
and
all
of
you
have
it
in
your
DNA.
All
of
you
have
it
in
your
genes.
When
I
look
at
men
I
see
a
man.
I
don’t
see
a
guy
that’s
go
approach
anxiety
or
fear
or
the
last
girl
kicked
his
butt
too
much.
I
look
at
him
as
a
man.
A
man
that
could
claim
a
woman.
When
you
walk
up
to
every
woman
this
way,
you’re
going
to
be
head
and
shoulders
above
every
single
guy
that’s
out
there.
You’re
going
to
be
the
guy
that
she’s
going
to
look
at
and
say
to
herself,
this
is
a
real
man.
How
many
times
do
you
get
sick
of
meeting
a
woman?
You
text
her.
You’ve
done
everything
you
think
is
right
and
then
all
of
a
sudden
she
flakes.
They
flake;
because,
it’s
what
they
perceive
you
to
be
in
the
process
of
how
they
met
you.
What
do
you
do?
How
do
you
do
this?
When
you
claim
them,
you
need
to
claim
them
a
certain
way.
You
look
at
them,
you
own
them,
you
think
to
yourself
I
own
your
pussy.
It’s
all
mine.
I
can
play
with
you
better
than
anybody
else.
I
can
have
sex
with
you
better
than
anybody
else.
It’s
mindset.
Life
is
mindset.
If
you
look
at
everything
in
life,
you
look
at
Danny
Woodhead
who
plays
for
the
Patriots.
He
used
to
play
for
the
Patriots,
now
he’s
with
the
Chargers.
The
guy’s
a
midget.
He’s
5’5”
and
145
pounds,
but
he’s
playing
in
the
NFL,
mindset.
Life
is
mindset.
Everything
in
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life
is
belief.
If
you
believe
in
yourself,
she’s
going
to
believe
in
you.
It
sells.
It’s
marketing.
When
you
go
to
a
car
dealership
and
you
walk
up
to
the
salesman.
I
can
go
to
seven
car
dealerships
before
I
finally
find
the
salesman
that
actually
believes
in
the
product
and
believes
in
himself.
I’m
going
to
buy
from
him.
I’m
going
to
buy
the
car,
but
I’ll
go
to
seven
Audi
dealerships
just
to
find
the
one
guy
that
I
feel
secure
with.
That’s
what
people
are
looking
for.
That
secure
feeling
and
that’s
what
women
are
looking
for.
They
want
to
feel
so
secure
around
you.
When
you
walk
over
to
her,
if
you
want
this
woman
to
be
your
potential
girlfriend.
You
don’t
hesitate.
You
don’t
look
like
a
child
molester
in
the
background,
like
playing
mental
masturbation
inside
your
brain.
Looking
around
and
going
my
god,
should
I
talk
to
her?
She
sees
that.
Trust
me,
she
feels
it.
Every
time
you
don’t
approach
and
I
literally
say
if
you
don’t
approach
her
in
seven
seconds
or
less,
you’re
done.
If
you
see
a
woman,
you
look
at
her
and
you
say
to
yourself,
this
woman
could
be
my
potential
girlfriend.
I’m
going
to
go
over
there
and
I’m
going
to
claim
her.
You
walk
over
and
you
say
whatever
is
on
your
mind.
I
don’t
care
what
it
is.
Nice
day
out
today
or
wow
those
are
really
cool
shoes,
or
have
enthusiasm
in
your
voice.
Man,
are
you
eating
that
muffin?
I
wouldn’t
eat
these
muffins
here.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
Have
an
opinion.
Be
strong,
be
strong
in
your
conviction.
Hello,
is
one
of
the
most
powerful
words
in
the
entire
world.
I
have
met
so
many
girlfriends
by
uttering
the
word
hello.
Hey,
how
you
doing
today?
But
mean
it,
mean
it.
Be
authentic.
Be
real,
mean
it,
feel
it.
Feel
the
words
that
you’re
saying.
Don’t
think
about
what
you’re
saying,
just
say
what’s
on
your
mind.
That
way
she’ll
know
that
she’s
with
a
guy
that’s
a
predominantly
dominant
guy.
When
you
talk
to
her
you
listen
to
her;
because,
all
women
want
what?
They
want
to
be
listened
to.
They
want
to
think
of
you
as
a
potential
boyfriend.
The
man
that’s
going
to
rescue
them
from
the
perils
of
Match.com,
from
the
drunken
wolves
out
on
a
Friday
night.
From
the
annoying
friend
that’s
kicking
her
butt
all
the
time,
asking
her
why
she’s
still
single.
Listen
to
her.
Pick
up
things
about
her.
Learn
three
things
about
every
woman
you
talk
to
in
the
first
minute
or
less.
Two
minutes,
three
minutes;
however,
long
you
talk
to
her
for.
When
you
learn
something
about
her,
you
close
her;
because,
you
think
of
it,
that
this
woman
can
be
a
potential
girlfriend
for
me.
She
can
be
somebody
that
I
can
be
with.
She
can
be.
That’s
what
every
encounter
is
all
about,
right?
If
you
think
about
it,
deep
down
we
approach
every
single
woman
hoping
that
maybe
this
is
the
last
woman
we
ever
approach.
We
would
all
like
to
fall
in
love;
because,
it’s
a
great
feeling.
We’d
all
like
to
have
a
girlfriend.
We’d
all
like
to
have
this
great
relationship
we’ve
not
had
before.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
We
want
to
have
a
better
relationship
than
the
last
one;
because,
we
learn
so
much
about
ourselves.
When
you
do
that
and
you
ask
her
out,
you
want
to
claim
her.
You
want
to
stake
your
claim,
literally.
You
want
to
tell
her
that
she’s
in
the
position
of
a
very
dominant,
strong
powerful
man.
I’ll
look
her
right
in
the
eyes
and
I’ll
close
her
with
information
I
get;
because,
information
is
key.
A
woman
wants
one
thing
and
one
thing
only
and
your
mother
taught
you
this
lesson
when
you
were
a
kid.
You
mother
always
said,
“Why
don’t
you
listen
to
me?
I’m
always
telling
you
to
clean
your
room,
how
come
you
don’t
listen?”
If
you
listen
to
women,
women
will
do
everything
for
you.
Sometimes
I
know
it’s
painful;
because,
some
of
the
stuff
they
talk
about
is
just
brutal.
Like
you
really
could
care
less
about
the
friend
at
work,
the
controversy
over
the
water
fountain
and
everything
else,
but
plain
and
simple
remember
things.
The
more
you
remember
the
greater
it’s
going
to
be
for
you
to
claim
her
as
a
girlfriend.
When
I
ask
her
out,
let’s
say
I
met
her
at
Starbucks
and
there
was
coffee.
We
talked
about
it,
I
don’t
drink
coffee,
but
I
remember
this
one
cup
of
coffee
and
I
share
stories
all
the
time;
because,
life
is
about
sharing
a
little
bit
about
yourself;
because,
a
predominantly
dominant
guy
has
no
problem
sharing
something
about
himself;
because,
he
knows
he’s
interesting.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
He
knows
that
he’s
shared
his
life
experience
and
no
matter
what
age
you’re
at,
you
all
have
different
levels
of
life
experience
to
share,
but
you’re
dating
women
in
the
same
age
range
that
will
actually
enjoy
the
life
experience
you
have
to
share.
Being
older
is
great;
because,
I
can
date
them
all;
because,
I’ve
got
more
life
experience
than
all
of
them.
I
can
just
wow
them
with
stories
all
day
long,
but
use
your
stories.
If
I
meet
a
woman
in
a
coffee
shop
and
she’s
drinking
this
coffee,
I
say,
uh,
this
coffee
at
Starbucks
stinks.
It’s
nothing
like
the
Italian
Roast
that
I
had
when
I
was
in
Rome
and
I
create
a
story.
When
I
was
in
Rome
and
I
was
walking
around
the
Coliseum,
I
had
to
go
have
a
cup
of
coffee.
I’m
never
a
coffee
person.
When
you
do
your
stories,
practice
your
stories.
Actually
stand
in
front
of
a
mirror
and
see
how
you
deliver
it.
When
I
was
in
Rome,
is
there
enthusiasm?
Are
you
smiling?
What’s
your
eye
contact
like?
Look
at
yourself
in
the
mirror
and
say
to
yourself,
when
I
was
in
Rome,
look
at
yourself.
See
what
it
is.
How
do
you
feel?
If
you
were
talking
to
you,
would
you
be
excited?
Would
you
be
mentally
turned
on?
Would
you
be
emotionally
turned
on?
Really
important
things
to
do.
Then
when
you
look
at
her
and
you’re
talking
about
the
coffee.
You
look
at
her
afterwards
and
you
say,
you
know
what,
screw
Starbucks.
I’ve
got
this
great
little
place,
I’m
going
to
take
you
there.
You
and
I
are
going
out.
Give
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
me
your
number.
Give
me.
Don’t
ask
if
she’s
single.
God,
you
wanted
her
to
be
your
girlfriend,
you
never
ask
if
she’s
single.
I
presumed
every
woman
out
there
is
single
or
even
if
they’re
not
single
they
still
want
a
real
man.
I
always
presume.
Give
me
your
number
is
a
power
command.
Give
me
your
number.
Give
it
to
me.
Just
like
we
say
on
our
voice
mail
message,
leave
a
message.
People
like
to
be
told
what
to
do.
Women
love
to
be
told
what
to
do.
They’re
looking
for
a
guy
that’s
going
to
tell
them
exactly
what
to
do.
Give
me
your
number.
Give
it
to
me
without
your
stupid
phone.
Hand
it
to
her
and
go
you
know
what
I’m
an
idiot.
I
love
this.
I
use
this
all
the
time.
God,
I’m
an
idiot
with
these
things.
I
just
can
never
figure
out.
Just
punch
it
in.
They’ll
go
and
they’ll
punch
it
in.
Have
something
really
cute
on
your
home
screen
that
shows
something
emotional.
I’ve
got
my
daughter
on
my
home
screen.
Is
that
your
daughter?
Yes,
it
is.
She’s
so
adorable.
Have
something
that
allows
her
to
see
who
you
are.
Not
a
picture
of
your
car.
Not
a
picture
of
your
favorite
football
team,
but
something
emotional.
Maybe
a
picture
of
your
dog
or
a
family
shot
or
whatever
it
is.
This
is
going
to
create
an
emotion;
because,
she’s
going
to
see
you
as
a
family
guy.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
She’s
going
to
see
you
as
a
guy
that
can
have
relationships.
She’s
going
to
see
you
as
a
guy
that
is
rock
solid
and
stable.
It’s
a
great
little
trick.
Hand
her
that
little
phone.
She’ll
punch
it
in.
She’ll
see
it
and
in
her
brain
she’ll
be
like
oh
my
God,
look
at
this
guy.
Look
at
his
niece.
He
loves
his
niece.
You
can
put
the
most
candid
picture
in
the
world
of
you
holding
your
niece
up
in
the
air
like
this
and
your
niece
smiling
and
you
kissing
her.
Pick
the
picture
that
will
create
an
emotion;
because,
you’re
leaving
her
with
an
emotion
from
the
get-‐go.
You
want
to
trigger
this
woman’s
emotions
right
from
the
get-‐go,
so
you
can
dominate
her
right
from
the
get-‐go
and
take
her
down
that
path
that
she
wants.
Then
when
you
say
give
me
your
number,
you
get
her
number.
Then
what
I
do
is
I
literally
count,
I
do
things
very
different.
Two
or
three
hours
later
I
will
text
her.
Something
from
the
conversation
that
we
had
in
that
coffee
shop
or
in
that
bar,
or
at
that
grocery
store.
I
will
text
her
and
say,
“How’s
that
awful
cup
of
coffee
you
had
.
.
.
Looking
forward
to
that
Italian
Roast,
smiley
face.”
I
always
put
smiley
faces
in
for
one
reason
and
one
reason
only.
I
don’t
want
my
texts
misinterpreted.
I
use
exclamation
points
when
I
need
to.
I
smile
when
I
need
to;
because,
I
don’t
want
her
to
show
her
friends
and
assume
that
maybe
something
else
is
going
on.
I
don’t
get
sexual
right
from
the
get-‐go.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
There’s
no
reason
to;
because,
if
you
are
full
of
body
language,
meaning
your
shoulders
are
erect.
Your
eye
contact
is
great.
Your
voice
tonality
is
strong.
She’s
going
to
be
turned
on.
I
don’t
use
sexual
innuendos
to
turn
her
on
from
the
get-‐
go;
because,
that’s
fucking
creepy
man,
creepy
stuff
when
guys
do
that.
I
don’t
send
her
sexual
texts;
because,
I’m
in
command.
Remember,
when
you’re
driving
the
car;
because,
that’s
all
women
want.
When
you
drive
that
car
she
will
get
sexual
with
you
quicker
than
you’ve
ever
imagined.
Now
you
text
her
a
couple
of
hours
later;
because,
what
you’re
doing
is
you’re
validating
in
her
brain,
that
this
was
a
right
decision,
to
put
your
phone
number,
to
put
her
phone
number
in
your
phone.
Because,
a
lot
of
women
just
don’t
like
to
put
their
numbers
in
there.
They’ve
met
you
for
two
minutes.
They’ve
met
you
for
five
minutes.
They
need
to
be
validated;
because,
that’s
what
women
are
all
about.
A
dominant
guy
will
validate
a
woman.
Good
girl,
good
girl.
They
like
that.
Plus
that,
they’ve
already
called
their
friends.
Trust
me,
they’ve
already
texted
their
friends
and
their
friend
will
go,
ah,
remember
the
last
idiot
you
met
at
Starbucks.
Remember
the
last
guy
that
picked
you
up
at
Whole
Foods.
He
never
called
you
back;
because,
there’s
always
that
negative
Nellie,
that
girlfriend.
Man,
there’s
cobwebs
down
there;
because,
nobody’s
allowed
down
there.
She’s
just
the
bitch
of
all
bitches.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
What
she
does
is
she
drives
the
car
of
all
these
girls.
She
dominates;
because,
she’s
so
miserable,
so
usually
she’ll
get
the
group
text.
She’ll
be
the
first
one
back
and
going
remember
that
last
guy.
She’ll
throw
the
curve
ball.
Now
immediately
you’re
thrown
under
that
bus.
You’ve
now
planted
doubt
in
a
woman’s
mind.
You’re
thing
is
when
you
are
in
the
process
of
courting
a
woman
from
the
very,
very
beginning,
you
want
to
erase
all
doubt,
all
the
time.
This
text
will
erase
the
doubt;
because,
now
she’s
going
to
send
it
back,
see
look
how
cute
he
is.
Right
now
in
her
brain
she’s
seen
the
picture
of
you
kissing
your
niece
or
holding
your
dog
or
holding
a
puppy.
It’s
got
to
be
something
emotional.
You’ve
sent
her
that
text.
You
started
the
banter
going
back
and
forth.
You’re
following
through
like
most
guys
don’t
do.
You’re
claiming
her.
Meanwhile
her
friend
now
goes,
well
let’s
just
see
what
happens.
Then
you’ve
got
a
little
text
banter,
okay
maybe
two
or
three
texts
going
back
and
forth.
Then
at
the
end
go
listen.
Listen
is
a
great
term.
Love
the
term
listen.
Listen
means
listen
up.
Listen.
Friday
night
this
coffee
place
is
hosting
a
speak
easy,
or
there’s
a
band
playing
at
it.
We
can
go
get
some
Italian
coffee
and
listen
to
this
music
Cancel
all
plans,
we’re
going.
Cancel
all
plans,
we’re
going.
Very
dominant
once
again.
Listen
and
cancel
all
plans,
we’re
going.
First
off,
women
they
have
all
these
plans
all
the
time,
but
when
you
tell
them
cancel,
all
plans.
They
will
cancel
all
plans;
because,
they
want
that.
They
want
a
guy.
They
also
want
a
guy
that’s
pursuing
them;
because,
it’s
what
it’s
all
about.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
Listen
is
a
great
terminology.
It’s
a
command.
It’s
a
command,
listen.
She’s
listening.
Cancel
all
plans.
She
comes
back
to
you.
She
goes
oh
let
me
see
what
I
can
do.
Then
I
always
come
back
and
go,
do
your
best;
because,
this
night
is
a
night
that
you’re
really
going
to
appreciate
.
.
.
Always
.
.
.
afterwards.
Nine
times
out
of
ten,
nine
times
out
of
ten,
if
you’ve
done
it
right,
she
will
cancer
her
plans.
Now
if
she
can’t
cancel
the
plans,
she’ll
come
back
and
go
God,
I’m
so
sorry.
It’s
my
friend’s
birthday.
I
can’t
do
it
Friday
night.
Then
instead
of
getting
into
a
text
banter
with
her
write
once
again,
I’
need
15
seconds.
Pick
up
the
phone.
I’m
calling.
Send
that
text.
Count
15,
20
seconds.
Let
the
text
go
through.
Pick
up
the
phone
and
just
go
like
this,
all
right,
your
friend’s
birthday
Friday
night,
obviously
we
can’t
change
it;
because,
if
we
could
we
would,
laughing,
playful
banter.
Luckily
for
you,
you
know
I
always
say
this
playfully,
luckily
for
you
this
band’s
going
to
be
playing
a
couple
of
more
times.
What
does
your
schedule
look
like
Saturday,
Sunday
or
Monday?
I
don’t
have
any
friend’s
birthdays
throwing
her
friends
back
at
her
that
will
conflict
you
and
I
hanging
out.
You
just
let
me
know
and
you
just
tell
me.
Immediately
she
will
give
you
the
alternate
day,
you
secure
the
date.
Really
important
and
you’re
using
her
words
back
at
her
and
you’re
being
dominant
and
you’re
not
being
afraid.
What
do
most
guys
do
in
that
situation?
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
Once
they’ve
been
cancelled
upon?
They
go
weak.
They
go
oh
okay,
they
tend
to
text
back,
okay,
just
let
me
know
what
works.
Weak
right?
You’re
telling
her,
listen
we’re
hanging.
I
like
you.
I’m
interested
in
you.
We’re
hanging.
She
loves
it.
She
gets
so
turned
on
by
this.
Now
when
you
go,
you
meet
her.
You
don’t
need
to
text
her
that
much
in
between.
You
can
text
her
Friday
night
when
she’s
out
with
her
friend;
because,
you
have
all
this
information.
Your
brain
does
not
work
very
well
and
you
can’t
remember
things.
Write
stuff
down.
Keep
a
word
document
with
the
girls
that
you’re
dating
and
the
personal
things
that
they
said
to
you.
Just
don’t
ever
let
them
see
it,
ever.
Password
protect
all
your
devices
and
then
delete
the
word
document
when
she
becomes
your
girlfriend.
Write
it
down.
Send
her
a
text
on
Friday
night.
Wish
your
friend
a
happy
birthday.
Meanwhile,
she’s
out
with
her
friends.
She’s
talking
about
the
potential
date
with
you
coming
up,
even
though
she
might
be
dating
other
guys.
She’s
really
excited
about
you;
because,
you’ve
used
command
words.
You’re
turning
her
on.
You’re
dominant,
you’re
more
dominant
than
the
passive
guy
that
she
just
had
a
booty
call
with,
that
drunk
texted
her.
You’re
going
to
compete
with
a
couple
of
guys
in
the
beginning
usually,
so
you’re
going
to
send
her
a
text
about
9:30,
10:00
at
night.
The
wine
has
kicked
in.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
The
conversations
have
kicked
in
and
strategically
you’re
going
to
look
at
her
and
just
say,
“How’s
the
birthday
celebration
going?
Wish
your
friend
a
happy
birthday
from
me
.
.
.”
That’s
it.
Just
plain
and
simple.
She’s
going
to
pass
the
phone
around.
Look,
look,
look,
look
what
he
did.
Look
what
he
did.
Look
what
he
did.
It’s
so
great.
Meanwhile,
the
guy
who
she’s
been
dating;
because,
there’s
always
a
guy
that
she’s
dating.
You’re
always
replacing
something
in
her
life.
The
guy
that
she’s
dating,
the
booty
call
meanwhile
texts
her
at
midnight,
uh
what
are
you
up
to?
Caveman
style.
Totally
non-‐connecting
emotionally
whatsoever.
She’s
going
to
compare
that
text,
to
the
one
that
you
sent
her.
You
care
about
her
friend’s
birthday.
This
guy
just
wants
her
pussy.
Birthday,
pussy,
hmm,
which
one
is
she
going
to
go
with?
She’s
now
going
to
blow
off
the
booty
call;
because,
she’s
feeling
really
secure
about
something
that’s
brewing.
Now
when
you
go
and
get
her
and
you
have
this
date,
you
listen
really
careful.
You’re
very
interested
in
her
as
a
person.
You’re
not
afraid
to
share
personal
stories.
Don’t
ever,
once
again
okay,
to
be
a
man
that’s
dominant,
a
man
that
claims,
if
she
asks
you
and
they
will
probe.
Man,
they
are
just
little,
little,
little
weasels
that
way.
Women
will
always
probe.
Tell
me
about
your
last
relationship.
This
is
where
you
get
the
dominant
powerful
man
territory.
Whatever
it
is,
you’ve
got
a
story
about
it.
If
you
need
to
practice
that
story,
practice
it.
If
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
anything
negative
comes
out
of
your
mouth,
you’re
over,
you’re
done,
end
of
story.
Conversation
done.
Girlfriend
potential
done.
Relationship
potential
done.
I
always
look
at
it
this.
My
past
relationship;
because,
I
have
kid.
I
always
tell
women,
my
past
relationship
was
absolutely
one
of
the
best
lessons
I’ve
ever
learned
and
delivered
one
of
the
best
gifts
I’ve
ever
had
in
my
entire
life.
I’ve
got
a
beautiful
daughter
now
that
I
share
with
a
woman
that
I
absolutely
love,
that’s
my
really
good
friend,
but
as
a
couple
we
just
didn’t
know
how
to
make
it
work
with
each
other.
We
didn’t
understand
each
other’s
love
language.
Which
is
really
important.
If
you
want
to
read
a
good
book,
read
the
Five
Love
Languages.
It’s
a
great
book;
because,
it
teaches
you
how
you
want
to
be
loved
and
how
you
can
give
love
in
a
relationship.
It’s
a
really
powerful
read
for
a
lot
of
reasons;
because,
when
I
sit
here
and
I’m
opposite
a
woman
and
she’s
probing.
She’s
trying
to
find
out
if
she
hangs
out
with
you,
how
you’re
going
to
treat
her
after
the
potential
breakup.
In
her
mind,
she’s
thinking,
how
is
this
going
to
go
down
if
we
don’t
work
out?
How
is
he
with
his
ex’s?
I’m
always
positive
about
my
ex’s.
My
ex
is
really
a
wonderful
person.
I
wish
her
lots
of
love.
I’m
going
away
on
a
family
vacation
with
her.
I
think
she’s
amazing,
but
as
lovers
we’re
not
really
good
for
one
another.
We
just
don’t
know
how
to
love
one
another
in
the
way
that
we
need
to
love.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
You’re
opening
up
a
conversation
that
most
men
and
women
just
don’t
have
on
that
first
date.
You’re
being
really,
really
positive.
She
might
say
to
you,
how
do
you
like
to
be
loved?
Well,
you’ve
read
the
Five
Love
Languages,
you
just
look
at
her
and
you
go,
well
you
know
what,
this
is
how
I
like
to
be
loved
in
a
relationship.
I’m
a
giver.
You
want
to
know
who
you
are
in
a
relationship.
If
you
don’t
know
who
you
are
in
a
relationship,
how
are
you
going
to
have
a
relationship?
I’m
a
nurturing
person,
so
I’ll
say,
I’m
very,
very
nurturing.
I’m
very
giving.
I’m
very
generous.
I’ll
talk
about
how
I
am
and
what
I’m
about
and
what
I
really
love
and
how
I
like
to
receive
love;
because,
I
have
really
done
a
lot
of
work
on
myself.
It’s
important;
because,
to
me
a
relationship
is
a
gift.
A
relationship
gives
you
an
opportunity
to
grow
more
than
you’ve
ever
grown
before.
A
relationship
gives
you
an
opportunity
to
open
your
heart
space,
more
than
you’ve
ever
opened
your
heart
space.
A
relationship
gives
you
an
opportunity
to
connect
with
another
person
in
ways
you’ve
never
connected
before.
I
want
to
know
if
this
woman
is
somebody
I
can
connect
with.
It’s
something
that
a
lot
of
guys
don’t
do,
so
you’re
talking
very
positive
about
your
ex.
A
lot
of
guys
will
go,
oh
man
that
ended
so
badly.
The
minute
you
say
stuff
like
that,
you’re
done.
Ended
so
badly.
She’s
going
to
look
at
you
and
go
well
you
ended
it
badly.
Everything
you’ve
ever
done
in
your
past
needs
to
be
embraced.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
If
you’ve
got
issues
in
your
past
and
you’ve
got
a
relationship
that
broke
your
heart,
or
you
have
somebody
that
burned
you
or
somebody
that
cheated
on
you
or
somebody
that
stole
money
from
you,
write
them
a
letter.
Write
them
an
e-‐
mail.
Send
out
a
long,
long
e-‐mail.
Write
it
down
in
your
computer
and
never
send
it.
Forgive
somebody.
Actually
thank
people
in
your
life
that
have
come
into
your
life
for
all
the
lessons
they’ve
given
you;
because,
this
is
what
a
woman
wants
to
see,
an
emotionally
strong
man.
A
man
that’s
done
work
on
himself.
If
you
haven’t
done
work
on
yourself,
you’re
going
to
go
back
into
the
position
of
being
weak
again.
When
you’re
in
the
position
of
being
weak,
she
doesn’t
want
to
be
your
girlfriend.
She’s
already
been
with
weak.
She’s
already
been
with
the
broken
guy.
She’s
already
been
with
a
guy
that
hasn’t
done
the
work
on
himself.
The
guy
that
doesn’t
know
what
love
is
all
about.
Whatever
stage
you’re
at
in
your
life,
figure
out
what
it
is;
because,
it
all
changes.
What
love
was
to
me
in
my
20’s
is
a
lot
different
than
it
is
for
me
now.
The
experience
that
I
have
with
a
woman
right
now
is
entirely
different
than
it
was
20
years
ago.
Everything
changes,
so
your
answer
is
not
something
you’re
going
to
be
graded
on,
but
your
answer
is
more
of
a
self-‐awareness
and
that’s
what
women
are
really
looking
for.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
A
man
that
is
self-‐aware.
A
man
that’s
in
tune
with
himself;
because,
here’s
a
woman
wondering
if
you’re
going
to
be
the
guy
that’s
going
to
take
him
away
from
the
annoying
booty
call
guy.
The
drunken
frat
guys
on
a
Friday
night
that
are
chasing
her.
The
idiots
on
Match.com
that
post
pictures
of
themselves
that
are
ten
years
younger
than
them.
It’s
like
being
set
up
by
their
grandmother
when
they
go
down
to
Florida
on
vacation.
It’s
like
you’re
going
to
be
the
guy
that’s
going
to
rescue
her
and
take
her.
She
wants
to
be
saved
from
this
awful
world
of
dating;
because,
if
you
think
about
it,
dating
sucks.
I
don’t
date
and
I’ll
talk
about
what
a
dominant
guy
does
and
how
a
dominant
guy
dates.
I’m
not
a
dater.
I’m
not
somebody
who
goes,
I’m
dating
right
now.
We’re
dating.
I
hate
dating.
That
terminology
is
do
dumb,
dating,
what
the
hell
is
it?
You’re
hanging
out
and
that’s
what
you
need
to
do.
When
you’re
on
this
date,
you’re
speaking
positively
about
your
last
relationships.
You’re
asking
her
questions.
Don’t
be
afraid
to
ask
her.
If
she
asks
you
a
question,
about
love
or
what’s
important
to
you,
don’t
be
afraid
to
look
at
her
and
go
what
do
you
want
in
your
life
right
now?
Ask
her.
What
do
you
want?
Don’t
ask
her
the
five
year
plan.
This
isn’t
a
business
venture.
What’s
your
five
year
goal?
Do
you
have
the
spread
sheet?
You
got
the
Excel
sheet
right
here?
Let’s
take
a
look
and
see
if
we
can
match
these
numbers
together.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
Don’t
get
in
your
brain
and
be
so
scientific
about
it.
Say,
what
do
you
want
right
now?
What
do
you
desire?
Using
action
words
like
that,
desire
is
very
strong.
It
means
that
you
want
to
hear,
what
do
you
desire
in
your
life
right
now?
What
are
you
looking
for?
Ask
them.
Allow
her
to
talk.
Listen
really
carefully
when
she’s
talking.
Eye
contact
with
her.
Lean
in
a
little
bit.
Lean
back
a
little
bit.
Keep
eye
contact.
If
something
doesn’t
sound
right
to
you,
ask
a
question.
When
she
tells
you
what
she
wants,
if
she
tells
you
that
she
wants,
I
want
to
be
married
in
three
years.
I
want
to
have
kids,
blah,
blah,
blah,
if
that
is
not
your
agenda,
do
not
allow
your
penis
to
start
talking
at
that
moment.
No
matter
how
hot
she
is
and
how
beautiful
she
is,
right
now,
if
you’re
not
looking
for
a
relationship
at
that
moment,
and
you’re
not
looking
to
connect
on
a
deep
level
like
that,
you
need
to
man
up
and
this
is
something
that
to
me
is
one
of
the
greatest
things
that
most
guys
don’t
do.
Most
guys
look
at
it
and
say
to
themselves,
well
I’ve
done
all
this
work.
I’ve
learned
approach.
I’ve
learned
to
meet
woman
and
so
forth.
I
really
don’t
want
to
be
single
anymore,
but
I
do
want
to
have
sex
with
a
bunch
of
different
women,
but
I
haven’t
met
anybody
this
hot
ever,
I
can’t
believe
this
is
really
working.
I
want
to
sleep
with
her;
because,
I
need
the
validation
inside
my
brain.
This
is
where
you
start
getting
weak.
This
isn’t
dominant.
I
need
to
be
validated
right
now.
What
you
do
is
you
tell
her,
I
want
the
same
thing,
when
you
don’t.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
Immediately
you’ve
lied
to
her.
When
you
lie
that’s
not
the
sign
of
a
dominant
guy,
that’s
the
sign
of
a
weak
guy.
That’s
the
sign
of
a
man
that
doesn’t
respect
the
opposite
sex.
What
happens?
You
take
her
down
the
romantic
journey
a
little
bit.
You
sleep
with
her.
You
conquested
her
and
then
all
of
a
sudden
you
say
to
yourself,
I
don’t
want
her
anymore.
This
is
what
a
dominant
guy
will
do
every
single
time.
Look
at
her
right
in
her
eyes
and
say,
you
know
what,
I
am
not
at
that
stage
right
now.
I
just
ended
this
relationship
three
months
ago.
I’m
doing
some
personal
work
on
myself
and
I’m
not
really
there
right
now.
Your
vision
is
absolutely
beautiful.
I
want
that
for
you.
You’re
a
beautiful
person.
You’re
an
amazing
woman.
From
what
I
know
the
hour
and
a
half
we
spent
together
I
think
you’re
absolutely
amazing,
but
I
said,
I’m
not
there
right
now.
I
don’t
want
this
relationship
right
now.
I
do
in
the
future,
but
right
now
I’m
not
emotionally
ready
for
it.
At
that
moment
you
have
taken
her
somewhere
that
she’s
never
been
before.
Oh
my
God,
an
honest
guy.
You
finish
up
your
date
with
her
and
you
look
at
her.
You
give
her
a
big
hug
and
say,
you
know
what;
hopefully,
in
the
future
our
paths
will
cross
again.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
You
know
what
happens
in
the
future
your
paths
will
cross
again;
because,
let
me
tell
you;
whatever,
path
you’re
on
right
now,
it’s
only
temporary;
because,
everything
in
life
is
just
being
in
the
present
moment.
When
you’re
in
that
present
moment
and
you’re
on
this
path,
the
path
of
just
trying
to
get
laid
or
whatever
it
might
be,
that
path
is
going
to
end
eventually.
Then
all
of
a
sudden
this
beautiful
woman
that
you
were
honest
with,
open
with,
dominant,
strong
with,
is
still
going
to
be
out
there.
Let
me
tell
you
something,
there’s
a
50/50
shot
that
she’s
still
going
to
be
floundering
out
there,
still
single
and
so
forth.
Guess
what
you
can
do?
You
can
send
her
a
text
and
go,
hey
are
you
still
in
my
phone,
or
do
you
remember
me,
or
how
you
been?
Guess
what
happens?
You
can
reignite
that
passion
that
was
established
that
night;
because,
you
were
the
one
guy
that
was
honest
with
her.
Now
if
you
want
a
relationship
at
that
moment,
you
can
look
at
her
and
see
if
her
relationship
values
are
aligned
with
your
relationship
values.
It’s
really
important
to
do
that;
because,
she
could
tell
you
that
she
wants
to
be
married
and
have
three
kids
and
move
to
the
suburbs
and
you’re
a
city
guy.
Once
again
relationship
values
are
not
aligned.
Don’t
think
you
can
change
somebody
or
sell
somebody.
If
you’re
a
traveler
and
you
want
to
travel
the
world,
and
you
tell
a
woman
I
want
to
go
live
in
Africa,
Asia
and
all
these
other
places
and
she
says
I
want
to
live
next
to
my
mom
and
dad
in
Long
Island.
You’re
never
going
to
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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bring
her
on
your
journey.
Once
again,
in
order
to
be
a
dominant
guy,
you
have
to
have
the
practice
of
abundance.
Life
is
abundant.
You
have
to
believe
that
there
are
so
many
beautiful
women
to
be
your
lover,
so
many
women
to
be
your
girlfriends,
so
many
women
that
you
can
have
a
relationship
with,
so
many
women
out
there.
You
have
to
believe
that.
If
you
don’t
believe
that
then
you’re
going
to
go
and
you’re
going
to
mesh
with
somebody
whose
journey
is
not,
and
I’ve
done
this,
whose
journey
is
not
the
same
journey
as
yours.
Hence,
that’s
probably
the
reason
why
I’m
not
with
my
ex.
Her
journey
was
so
different
than
my
journey.
She
wanted
something
totally
different.
I
met
her
and
I
was
enamored
by
her.
She
was
beautiful
and
just
dynamic.
I
was
at
that
stage
where
I
wanted
a
relationship,
you
know
when
that
just
triggers
all
of
a
sudden.
We
want
a
relationship.
She
said
the
right
words,
but
the
words
weren’t
the
words
that
I
needed
to
hear.
Her
words
were
beautiful,
but
they
weren’t
my
beautiful
words.
One
of
the
most
important
things
that
you
can
do
as
a
man
is
write
down
in
a
girlfriend,
this
is
what
I
want.
In
a
relationship
this
is
what
I
want.
In
love
this
is
what
I
want.
In
marriage
this
is
what
I
want.
Clearly
define
that
every
single
day.
Literally
write
that
down.
It’s
an
amazing
thing.
Write
it
and
handwrite.
Don’t
type
it,
handwrite
this
thing
down.
Keep
it
in
a
journal.
Call
it
your
love,
your
personal
journal,
whatever
it
is.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
Write
it
down
and
as
you
write
it
down,
re-‐read
it
and
change
it.
Each
woman
you
go
out
with
on
a
date,
it’s
going
to
change.
Also
write
down
how
you
want
to
be
loved.
I
want
to
be
loved,
this
is
important
to
me.
Do
you
like
to
be
nurtured,
not
mothered,
okay,
do
you
like
to
be
nurtured?
Do
you
like
a
woman
that
brings
you
gifts?
Do
you
like
a
woman
that
gives
you
your
space?
Do
you
like
to
be
with
your
woman
three
nights
a
week,
five
nights
a
week?
Can
you
live
with
somebody?
Write
this
stuff
down;
because,
the
clearer
you
are
in
your
vision,
the
clearer
you’re
going
to
be
when
you
go
out
with
her
and
the
more
she’s
going
to
feel
things
from
you;
because,
if
you’re
wishy
washy
in
in
anything,
she’s
not
going
to
feel
like
she’s
with
a
dominant
guy.
She’s
going
to
feel
like
she’s
a
man
that
doesn’t
have
a
sense
of
purpose.
A
man
that
doesn’t
have
a
plan.
You’ve
got
to
have
a
plan.
When
you
have
a
plan,
a
relationship
based
plan,
she’s
going
to
feel
it.
Not
only
that,
you’re
practicing
abundance.
When
you
practice
abundance,
you’re
really
going
to
start
attracting
some
amazing
women
into
your
life.
Right
now,
and
your
plan
can
change;
because,
my
plan
is
always
changed.
Right
now
I’m
dating
a
couple
of
different
women
of
all
age
ranges,
and
I
know
exactly
what
I
want
and
I’m
getting
a
little
bit
from
every
single
one
of
them,
but
I
know
there’s
somebody
who
will
give
me
all
the
things
that
I
want,
but
right
now
I’m
just
enjoying
the
sex
from
one
woman,
the
emotional
connection
from
another
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
woman.
The
companionship
of
another
one
right
now.
It’s
okay.
I’m
not
taking
any
of
them
down
a
path
that
I
know
that
we
can’t
go
down.
I’m
also
being
very
honest
too.
Every
step
of
the
way
you
want
to
be
really
honest
with
who
you
are,
your
convictions
and
everything
else.
You
want
to
be
honest
with
your
feelings.
If
a
woman
tells
you
she’s
falling
in
love
with
you
and
you’re
not
feeling
that,
you’ve
got
to
look
at
her
and
say
I’m
not
there
yet.
I
don’t
know
if
I’m
going
to
be
there
or
when
I’m
going
to
be
there,
but
I’m
enjoying
this
time
with
you
right
now.
Really
important
to
be
really
honest.
Don’t
utter
the
words
I
love
you
unless
you
mean
them.
Also
when
you
utter
the
words
I
love
you
to
a
woman,
utter
them
and
not
expect
anything
back.
Tell
her
you
love
her;
because,
you
love
her
as
a
person,
but
don’t
expect
it
back.
This
isn’t
a
reward
thing.
When
you
give
love,
give
love
100%.
Don’t
just
expect
it
back.
Don’t
be
like
I’m
going
to
rub
your
head
tonight,
you
better
rub
my
head
tonight.
In
a
relationship
and
being
a
dominant
guy
is
being
able
to
give
yourself
freely
and
not
expect
anything
back.
It’s
really
important
in
the
dating
process
being
a
dominant
guy
is
stating
who
you
are,
what
you’re
about,
claiming
her.
Let’s
go
back
to
the
first
date.
You’ve
had
the
first
date,
you’ve
enjoyed
her.
You
ask
her
out
for
a
second
date.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
I
always
ask
a
woman
out
for
a
second
date
at
the
end
of
the
first
date;
because,
I
just
want
to
hang
with
her.
If
I
like
her
I’ll
even
tell
her,
you’re
cool.
You
and
I
think
alike,
using
those
terminologies;
because,
once
again
it’s
very
powerful.
It’s
all
very
subliminal.
You
and
I
really
think
alike.
You
and
I
have
this
energy
that
we
share
together.
You
and
I
are
really
aligned.
I
really
like
what
you
talked
about.
Maybe
reconfirm
and
validate
her.
Validate
her
and
say,
it’s
really
beautiful
what
you
and
I
have
just
talked
about.
It’s
amazing.
I
haven’t
met
anybody
that
shares
the
same
perspective
on
whatever
it
might
be.
At
the
end
of
that
first
date
you
can
tell
her,
and
I
tell
all
women
this.
You
remember
when
we
were
little
kids
and
we
used
to
just
go
steady
and
I
bring
back,
I
remember
I
got
on
the
phone
and
I
was
in
sixth
grade.
I
called
this
girl
Amy
up
on
the
phone.
I
said,
Amy
do
you
want
to
go
out?
She
said
no.
I
was
like
oh
damn.
It
took
me
four
more
years
to
get
a
girlfriend
again;
because,
I
was
so
blown
away
by
that.
In
10th
grade
I
called
this
girl
Pam
up
on
the
phone
I
said,
do
you
want
to
go
out?
She
said
yes.
The
next
day
we
were
boyfriend
and
girlfriend.
The
whole
high
school
was
talking.
That’s
how
you
want
to
be.
You
want
to
bring
them
back
to
the
days
of
the
Snowball
Dance,
bring
them
back
to
the
days
of
high
school.
You
want
to
go
out.
You
want
to
go
steady.
You
want
to
hang
with
them.
You
don’t
want
to
go
do
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
this
dating
stuff.
You
can
look
at
her
and
go,
you
know
I
really
enjoy,
I
really
enjoy
hanging
out
with
you.
Ask
her
out
again
at
the
end
of
that
first
date.
You
know
what,
you
and
I
are
going
to
go
do
this.
Once
again
being
dominant.
You
and
I
are
going
to
do
this,
based
on
what
you
learned
about
her
over
the
course
of
that
date,
you
and
I
are
going
to
do
this
on
Sunday,
on
Tuesday,
whatever
it
is.
Always
have
a
plan.
It’s
so
important
to
have
that
plan.
When
you
have
a
plan,
you’re
able
to
take
her
down
an
emotional
journey.
At
the
end
of
the
second
date,
have
a
plan
for
the
third
date.
Cook
her
dinner.
Bring
her
back
to
your
house.
It’s
like
don’t
worry
about
the
sex.
The
sex
is
always
going
to
come;
because,
if
you
have
a
plan
and
you’re
dominant
it’s
going
to
feel
natural.
If
the
sex
doesn’t
feel
natural,
you
feel
like
you
can’t
grab
her
and
kiss
her,
then
you
know
what,
your
energy
with
her
is
not
aligned.
Because,
when
it
comes
down
to
the
sex,
you
want
to
just
grab
her.
You
want
to
hold
her
and
grab
her
and
go
come
here.
Once
again,
action
words.
You
see
everything
that
I’m
talking
about,
it’s
all
an
action
word.
Come
here.
Get
over
here.
Get
over
here.
Don’t
ask
her
to
kiss.
My
God,
that’s
the
worst
thing
of
all.
Can
I
kiss
you
right
now?
No
grab
her
and
kiss
her.
Grab
her.
When
you
kiss
her
for
the
very,
very
first
time;
whether,
it’s
date
one
or
date
two
or
date
three,
whenever
you’re
really
comfortable.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
Kiss
her
lips
softly
and
allow
her,
feel
her
lips.
Don’t
jam
your
tongue
down
her
throat,
like
you
want
to
go
eat
her
dinner.
Take
her
lips,
put
your
lips
on
hers
and
feel,
feel
where
her
tongue
is
going.
Is
her
tongue
moving
soft
in
your
mouth?
Is
it
moving
hard
in
your
mouth?
Feel
where
she’s
at.
Touch
her,
but
don’t
touch
her,
don’t
grab
her
ass
or
anything
like
that.
Just
touch
her
and
hold
her
and
make
her
feel
safe.
A
dominant
guy
will
make
a
woman
feel
safe
from
the
get-‐go.
If
you
look
at
the
process
of
this,
action
words,
commands,
telling
her.
Having
a
plan.
Sexually
showing
her
you’re
in
control
which
is
something
really
important.
Don’t
try
to
dry
hump
her
leg
in
the
middle
of
the
parking
lot.
Don’t
bring
her
up
to
your
house
if
she
doesn’t
want
to
go
up.
If
she
comes
to
your
house
and
watches
a
movie
and
she
just
says,
I
really
love
cuddling.
Cuddle
her.
Don’t
sit
there
and
just
start
pulling
her,
trying
to
get
her
on
your
lap
so
you
can
just
hump
her.
It’s
like
a
dog
in
heat.
Show
control.
When
you
show
control
you’re
dominant.
I
don’t
care
if
you
haven’t
been
laid
in
six
months.
She’s
going
to
sleep
if
you
show
control.
She’s
going
to
sleep
with
you
if
you
don’t’
grab
her
and
paw
her.
Allow
her
to
feel
safe.
That’s
the
number
one
thing
women
want.
A
dominant
guy
will
allow
a
woman
to
feel
safe
in
his
presence
and
a
dominant
male
will
command
a
woman
and
tell
a
woman
exactly
what’s
going
on
in
that
relationship
and
drive
that
car.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
It’s
not
like
it’s
a
one-‐sided
relationship,
that’s
a
whole
other
conversation.
It’s
not
like
you’re
telling
her
what
to
do.
You’re
setting
an
intent.
You’re
setting
plans.
You’re
telling
her
when
you’re
going
to
meet.
You’re
setting
it
up.
You’re
doing
things
for
her.
You’re
romancing
her.
You’re
cooking
her
meals.
When
she
comes
to
your
house,
your
house
is
clean.
There’s
no
pubes
around
the
toilet
bowl.
The
sheets
are
clean.
The
towels
are
clean.
You
have
an
extra
toothbrush
there
in
case
she
spends
the
night.
You’ve
got
a
clean
shirt
for
her
to
sleep
in.
You
know
how
to
romance
a
woman.
This
isn’t
your
first
rodeo.
You
understand
how
to
romance
a
woman.
You’re
showing
her
that
you’re
in
control
and
she
is
the
chosen
one
and
that’s
what’s
important.
If
you
show
her
that
she’s
the
chosen
one,
she
is
going
to
say
goodbye
to
every
other
male
suitor
that
she
has
ever
seen
in
the
last
six
months;
because,
she
knows
that
you
are
the
guy
for
her.
She’s
built
it
up.
You’re
doing
everything
right.
You
are
leading
the
way.
You
have
plan
for
every
single
date.
When
you
hang
out
at
her
house,
when
she
hangs
out
at
your
house
you’re
making
her
feel
comfortable.
Allow
her
to
sleep
over
for
the
very,
very
first
time
and
don’t
have
sex
with
her.
The
first
night
she
sleeps
over,
women
do
this
all
the
time.
I’m
going
to
leave
you
guys
at
this,
that
yawn,
oh
God,
it’s
getting
late.
I
love
that,
like
I
haven’t
heard
that
a
hundred
times.
Here
we
go,
it’s
getting
late
conversation.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
No,
I’m
having
a
good
time.
I’m
enjoying
talking
and
connecting
with
you.
See
the
terms,
I’m
enjoying
and
connecting
with
you.
Half
an
hour
later
she’ll
do
it
again.
Oh,
God,
it’s
getting
late.
God,
really
I
could
talk
to
you
all
night
long.
Say
that;
because,
that’s
what
they
want.
They
want
to
talk
to
the
wee
hours
of
the
morning;
because,
they
want
to
have
a
sleepover.
Sleepovers
are
so
much
fun.
Make
it
a
sleepover.
Then
look
at
her
and
say,
“You
know
what?
Let’s
just
go
lay
down.
I’ve
got
these
pajamas.
I’ve
got
these
Cookie
Monster
pants
that
my
daughter
made
me
buy.
I’ve
got
these
great
pajamas
you’re
going
to
want
to
wear.
Why
don’t
we
just
get
into
bed?
Why
don’t
us
just
cuddle
and
that’s
it.”
You
hand
her
the
Cookie
Monster
pajamas
and
a
t-‐shirt
and
she
comes
out
and
she
looks
really
cute.
You’re
laying
bed.
You’ve
got
your
boxers
on.
You
lay
in
bed
and
you
open
it
up
and
you
just
grab
her
and
you
grab
her,
you
hold
her
arm
and
you
grab
her
and
you
hold
her
close
to
you
and
you
hold
her.
You
rub
her
head
to
sleep
and
you
tell
her
a
bedtime
story.
It’s
perfect.
Make
her
feel
safe.
Make
her
feel
secure.
Kiss
her
cheek
a
few
times.
Tell
her
a
bed
time
story.
You’re
going
to
say,
“What’s
your
favorite
bedtime
story?
I’m
going
to
tell
you
this
and
I
do.”
I
make
up
these
bedtime
stories
about
the
prince
and
the
princess
or
whatever
it
is.
It’s
really
cute
and
it’s
really
fun
and
I
don’t
make
a
move
on
her.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
DAVID WYGANT
I
wake
up
in
the
morning
and
I
cook
her
breakfast.
I
don’t
make
a
move.
I
give
her
a
little
kiss
good
morning
on
her
lips
and
that’s
about
it.
I
show
that
I
am
in
control.
When
I
send
her
back
out
there
she
is
going
to
be
dying,
dying
to
have
sex
with
you
the
very
next
time;
because,
she
knows
that
she’s
in
the
position,
in
the
possession
of
a
very
dominant
secure
guy
that
didn’t
try
to
sleep
with
her.
She
feels
safe.
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We
just
heard
some
very
interesting
and
different
perspectives
from
three
awesome,
awesome
guys.
I
hope
you're
starting
to
see
how
the
dots
all
connect.
Certainly,
when
you
see
some
of
the
body
language
demonstrations
and
the
way
that
we
all
talk
with
women,
you
probably
see
there
are
some
common
threads
here
that
you
can
implement
in
your
own
life.
We're
going
to
move
beyond
being
an
obsession-‐worthy
man
at
this
point.
We're
going
to
talk
about
being
boyfriend
material.
Evan
and
I,
when
we
were
working
on
this
program,
we
were
joking.
Apparently,
there's
this
Ryan
Gosling
line.
You
guys
know
the
Ryan
Gosling
meme?
"Hey,
girl."
You
know
the
Hey
Girl
meme?
Anybody
know
it?
I
know
you
know
it.
"Hey,
girl."
It's
like
just
Ryan
Gosling
walks
up
to
you.
"Hey,
girl."
Feel
the
sweater?
It
feels
good,
right?
It's
boyfriend
material.
That's
how
I
like
to
think
of
this
segment
is
like
you
keep
your
edge,
you
keep
your
Ryan
Gosling
edge,
but
you
still
got
this
amazing
softness
and
sweetness
that
you're
able
to
bring
to
her.
This
is
the
stuff
that
makes
you
into
a
great
boyfriend.
It's
the
stuff
that
makes
her
feel
uniquely
beautiful,
feminine,
and
appreciated
in
her
eyes.
In
the
marketing
for
this
program,
I
talk
about
the
seven
things
that
you
can
give
her
that
require
no
looks,
money,
et
cetera,
et
cetera.
Everything
in
here
is
free
to
give
to
a
girl,
but
it's
amazing.
In
the
obsession
story,
if
we
relate
this
back
to
literotica,
this
is
the
part
that
comes
out
when
the
girl
starts
to
win
the
guy
over.
There
is
always
a
shift
in
the
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obsession
story
where
he's
gone
from
this
indifferent,
non-‐caring
man
who's
challenging
her,
who's
dominant,
who
takes
her
and
then
leaves
her.
Then
all
of
a
sudden,
something
happens.
Something
uniquely
human
happens
between
the
two
of
them
that
allows
him
to
see
this
part
of
her
that
he'd
never
seen
before.
It's
this
latent,
almost
lost
part
of
the
male
character's
presence
that
her
love
brings
to
the
surface
and
her
attention
brings
to
the
surface.
This
part
of
you,
it's
in
you
the
whole
time,
but
it's
not
the
thing
that
gets
expressed
right
up
front.
Over
the
course
of
dates,
over
the
course
of
interactions,
and
really
going
to
the
relationship,
this
is
the
stuff
that
starts
to
become
more
manifest.
That's
really
the
key
point
here,
is
these
are
not
techniques.
This
stuff
almost
precedes
everything
that
we're
talking
about.
I
know
there
were
times
in
my
life
when
I
wanted
a
girlfriend
but
I
was
not
ready
for
a
relationship,
and
it
was
because
I
wasn't
this
way.
I
didn't
have
this
stuff
handled.
One
of
the
big
lessons
I
learned
in
my
mid-‐20s
was
in
the
long
run,
the
truth
comes
out.
If
you're
not
this
way,
as
I've
said,
you're
probably
not
ready
for
a
girlfriend
anyway.
I
had
quite
a
few
relationships
in
my
mid-‐20s
where
I
got
into
them,
they
lasted
for
maybe
three
months,
five
months,
six
months,
we'd
get
to
the
point
of
I
love
yous
and
whatnot,
and
then
it
just
collapses.
Why?
It's
because
this
stuff
wasn't
really
in
me
or
a
part
of
me
at
this
point.
What's
really
interesting
about
this
stuff
is
that
when
you
get
into
relationships
with
really
incredible,
stunning,
nines
and
tens,
so
to
speak,
this
becomes
more
important
than
everything
else.
This
becomes
more
important
than
the
money,
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the
looks,
the
cars.
What
my
friend
doctor
David
Tian,
I
like
to
call
the
bigger,
better
deal,
or
the
BBD.
Really
attractive
girls
have
seen
everything.
We're
here
in
New
York
right
now.
I've
dated
girls
who
have
been
in
hot
tubs
at
the
Trump
Towers.
They've
been
flown
down
on
vacations
on
a
whim.
They've
been
served
thousands
and
thousands
of
dollars
of
the
Dom
Perignon
poured
out
of
shoes
in
nightclubs.
They've
seen
everything.
They've
eaten
at
the
best
restaurants,
danced
at
the
best
nightclubs,
spent
time
at
Saint
Trope.
It's
like
that
stuff
it's
common
for
them.
The
stuff
that
we're
going
to
talk
about
now
is
what
these
really
wealthy
guys
aren't
giving
to
them.
It's
secretly
the
stuff
that
most
of
them
really,
really
want.
Most
bigger
better
deals
don't
do
this
stuff.
Let's
get
into
the
seven
things
that
we're
going
to
talk
about
here.
The
first
thing
that
you
can
have
for
her,
that
you
can
give
her,
is
vision.
The
best
way
to
think
about
this
is
you
see
her
in
the
spotlight.
How
do
you
see
her
when
the
spotlight
is
upon
her?
When
she's
all
lit
up?
When
she's
at
her
most
beautiful
and
at
her
best?
How
do
you
see
her?
You
have
a
vision
for
her
life
and
for
what
success
means
to
her.
You
see
possibilities
and
you
see
potential
in
her.
You
see
the
things
that
she
may
not
even
see
for
herself.
The
best
way
to
ask
this
question
to
the
girl
or
to
bring
this
out
of
a
girl,
what's
the
beautiful
vision
that
you
want
your
life
to
be?
This
is
a
fantastic
take
question.
What's
amazing
is
many
women
have
never
given
themselves
the
indulgence
or
the
luxury
of
thinking
this
through.
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We're
so
caught
up
in
making
it
day-‐to-‐day
and
we
never
really
give
ourselves
the
luxury
of
what
is
the
beautiful
vision
that
we
want
our
lives
to
be
if
anything
is
possible.
That's
a
wonderful
thing
to
explore
with
a
girl.
It's
a
wonderful
thing
to
encourage
her
to
pursue,
because
most
of
us
do
not
take
these
risks,
we
don't
have
these
visions
for
ourselves.
So
if
you
have
a
little
bit
...
What's
amazing
here
is
if
you're
a
little
bit
older
…
A
lot
of
older
guys,
they
talk
to
us,
they’re
like,
“Man,
I'm
older,
I
don't
think
younger
girls
like
me.”
I’m
like,
“Man,
you
have
one
of
the
biggest
benefits
possible
if
you
can
have
a
vision
for
a
girl
that
she's
not
going
to
see
for
herself,
because
you
have
not
age
but
experience,
and
you
have
wisdom.
With
your
wisdom
and
with
your
experience
you
can
have
a
vision
for
a
girl
that
she
is
not
going
to
see
for
herself.”
How
might
this
play
out
in
a
conversation?
What's
an
example
of
how
you
might
discuss
this
with
a
girl?
You
can
flirt
with
her
about
it.
You
could
say
…
This
is
a
great
date
conversation.
“Okay,
look.
You've
made
it.
You're
sitting
there
on
Oprah.
What's
the
conversation?
What's
Oprah
asking
you
about,
and
what
are
you
sharing
with
her?”
You're
putting
her
in
the
state
where
she
is
allowed
to
express
her
values
and
her
vision,
what
she
really
wants
to
share
with
the
world.
All
these
things
that
we've
been
talking
about
today,
everybody
wants
to
share
something
beautiful
with
the
world
unless
they're
a
horrible
human
being.
Most
women
are
not
horrible
human
beings.
Most
women
want
to
share
something
beautiful
with
the
world.
This
is
where
we
get
into
a
little
bit
of
role
playing
about
it.
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Or
if
she's
into
books,
like,
“Okay,
there's
an
unauthorized
biography
written
about
you.
What's
the
best
thing
in
there,
and
what's
the
worst
thing?
What's
the
thing
that
you
never
wanted
to
come
out?"
Then
you
can
flirt
and
tease
about
that.
“What's
the
best
thing?
What's
the
thing
that
you
want
to
accomplish,
and
your
unauthorized
biographer
captures
and
talks
about
with
you?”
So
trying
to
find
a
vision
for
her
and
trying
to
help
her
see
what's
possible
for
herself.
That's
the
very
first
thing
that
you
can
give
her
that
very
few
other
men
will
ever
try
to
give
her.
The
next
thing
and
this
is
along
these
lines
of
what
I
call
growth.
This
is
perhaps
the
cheesiest
metaphor
I've
ever
used
but
I
find
it
very
appropriate.
If
she's
a
seedling,
you're
the
water
and
the
sunshine.
You
are
the
thing
that
helps
nourish
her
growth.
You
help
her
with
her
goals
and
her
ambitions.
You've
got
this
vision
for
her.
She
has
a
vision
for
herself.
You
help
cultivate
that.
Then
you
help
her
create
goals
and
you
help
fuel
her
ambition.
You
don't
do
the
work
for
her.
You
just
help
her
find
the
path.
Maybe
it's
just
a
little
gentle
nudge,
maybe
just
a
little
reminder.
A
great
example
of
this
I've
been
on
an
insane
health
kick
lately
and
when
I'm
tempted
to
eat
burgers
my
girlfriend
says,
“Tsk-‐tsk-‐tsk.”
She
just
reminds
me.
It's
not
because
she
wants
me
to
be
in
good
shape.
It’s
because
she
knows
it's
a
goal
for
me.
She's
keeping
me
on
my
path.
So
it
goes
both
ways.
You
challenge
her
to
do
things,
to
pursue
things,
to
become
things.
You
challenge
her
to
become
something
better.
You
challenge
her
to
pursue
something
that
is
a
risk,
that’s
secretly
something
she
always
hoped
for,
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because
she
knows
she
has
you
there
to
support
her.
You
got
her
back.
You
become
her
teammate
or
maybe
in
some
cases
her
mentor
where
you
have
experience,
but
you
become
her
team
mate
first
and
foremost.
Then
also
you
celebrate
her
achievements
when
she
achieves
something.
You
celebrate
that.
You
make
her
feel
amazing
about
having
achieved
that
thing.
That
is
growth.
That
is
the
second
thing
that
you
can
give
a
girl.
The
third
is
thrills.
Thrills,
I'm
not
talking
about
roller
coasters.
Those
are
fun.
I
encourage
you
to
take
girls
on
roller
coasters.
I
think
creating
emotions
and
excitement
in
an
otherwise
mundane
life.
Most
of
us,
again,
this
is
a
common
theme.
You
hear
this.
We
go
through
our
lives
on
autopilot.
They're
a
little
bit
mundane.
We
come
home,
we
smoke
our
joint,
and
play
some
XBox,
we
go
to
bed,
call
it
a
day,
and
do
the
same
thing
the
next
day.
It’s
a
mundane
life.
That's
not
what
I
think
anybody
in
here
really
wants.
Certainly
most
women
wish
they
would
get
just
picked
up
and
taken
away
and
transported
away
from
the
female
equivalent
to
that.
That's
what
the
obsession
story
is
all
about,
is
being
that
guy
who
just
pulls
her
out
of
this.
So
creating
emotions
and
excitement
in
an
otherwise
mundane
life.
How
do
you
do
this
though?
The
first
thing
we
talked
about
give
her
the
gift
of
wondering
about
you.
But
let's
take
that
one
step
further.
Let's
make
it,
give
her
the
thrill
of
wondering
about
you.
Has
anybody
read
"How
to
text
her?"
It's
my
texting
program.
If
you
have,
then
you
know
about
my
very
favorite
texting
technique.
It's
called
the
short
text.
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The
short
text
is
the
easiest
to
overlook
because
it's
the
least
flashy,
but
it's
also
what
I
would
say
is
the
most
effective.
The
short
text
is
you're
going
back
and
forth
with
the
girl
over
text
messaging.
Maybe
you're
in
what
I
call
rapid
rapport.
So
you
guys
are
exchanging
texts
pretty
quickly.
You're
going
back
and
forth
and
then
she
says
something
like,
“So
you
got
a
busy
day
ahead
of
you,”
and
you
say,
“Yes.”
Done.
You
don't
talk
to
her
for
the
next
eight
hours.
Or
she
says,
“How
was
lunch?”
“Great.”
Done.
So
you've
been
texting
a
lot
up
to
that
point
and
then
one
word
response
and
then
done.
I
know
this
has
happened
to
you
guys.
You're
texting
with
the
girl
and
then
all
of
a
sudden
you
get
a
really
short
text
from
her
and
you
don't
hear
from
her
and
you're
like,
“What
did
I
just
say?
Did
I
screw
it
up?”
You
send
another
text
message
maybe
and
then
you're
thinking
about
her
for
the
next
eight
hours
until
you
get
that
Ziegarnick
effect,
that
open
loop.
The
short
text
is
a
great
way
to
give
her
the
thrill
of
wondering
about
you.
What
is
this
guy
thinking
of
me?
That
creates
some
excitement
in
her
life,
some
drama.
Another
great
example
surprise
dates.
This
is
like
when
she's
your
girlfriend,
one
night
you
come
home,
“Hey
babe,
get
a
dress
on,
we're
going
on
a
date
tonight.”
Or
changes
in
plans
when
you're
on
the
date.
You
told
her
you
were
going
to
do
this
thing.
You
actually
take
her
to
do
this
other
really
fun
thing.
You
told
her
you
were
going
to
see
Jazz,
you
actually
take
her
to
Dave
&
Buster’s.
Some
other
thrills.
Another
great
thrill
that
I
thought
about
in
the
past
is
spraying
champagne
on
her
when
you're
having
sex.
Whoa,
where
did
that
come
from?
It's
not
going
to
feel
amazing
but
it's
going
to
feel
incredible.
I
don't
know.
It's
not
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going
to
feel
like
the
best
thing
ever
on
a
sensual
level
but
it's
going
to
be
that
thrill,
that
shock,
that
excitement.
That's
what
I
mean
by
giving
her
thrills.
The
next
thing,
so
we've
talked
about
vision,
we've
talked
about
growth,
we've
talked
about
thrills.
The
next
thing
to
talk
about
is
betterment.
Helping
her
become
better
and
healthier
in
mind,
body,
and
spirit.
So
how
is
this
different
than
growth?
I
mean
you
can
dissect
your
words
as
you
want.
I
think
of
growth
as
you're
helping
her
grow
towards
the
goal.
Betterment
is
just
she's
becoming
a
better
human
being
all
around,
she's
becoming
healthier,
she's
becoming
happier,
she’s
becoming
more
fulfilled
in
spirit.
Growth
is
specific
to
her
own
goals.
Betterment
is
everybody
knows
what
it
is
to
become
a
better
person.
So
encouraging
her
to
eat
healthy,
encouraging
her
to
exercise
with
you,
pushing
her,
“Hey
babe,
let's
go
for
a
run.
Hey,
I
feel
like
a
burger
now
but
we
should
do
salads.”
Not
every
night.
Encouraging
her
to
eat
healthy
and
just
feel
better.
You
feel
better
when
you
do
these
things.
You
want
her
to
feel
better
too.
Meditating
or
praying
together
if
you're
into
spirituality.
Encouraging
her
to
join
you
in
prayer.
Maybe
giving
her
transformative
books
and
reading
through
them
with
her.
If
there's
a
book
that's
meant
a
lot
to
you,
that's
changed
you
into
a
better
person,
giving
it
to
her,
sharing
it
with
her,
talking
about
why
it's
so
important
to
you.
“The
power
of
now”
is
a
real
obvious
one
if
you'd
never
read
“The
Power
Of
Now.”
Chicks
dig
that
book
guys.
Everybody
digs
that
book.
It's
amazing.
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Then
finally
if
you
are
so
inclined
what
I
would
call
mind-‐altering
experiences
and
if,
yeah,
the
raised
eyebrow
…
I'm
not.
I'm
not
kidding
at
all.
If
your
girl
is
into
mind-‐altering
experiences
and
you
are
as
well,
I'm
not
one
to
advocate
the
use
of
anything
illegal,
but
if
you
find
your
way
into
it
and
you
find
it
to
be
something
that
you
enjoy
in
your
life
and
she
may
be
interested
in
joining
you
in
that
as
well.
It's
just
speaking
from
experience.
That
is
betterment.
The
next
thing
is
pleasure.
It's
the
next
thing
that
you
can
give
a
woman.
It’s
pleasure.
We
talked
about
it
before.
Simply
making
her
feel
good.
How
do
you
make
her
feel
good?
How
do
you
make
her
smile?
This
is
the
question
I
ask
myself
for
many
years,
how
do
I
make
a
girl
smile?
I
used
to
think
it
was
in
a
technique,
or
in
some
words
I
would
say,
or
in
a
joke
I
would
tell.
You
make
a
girl
smile
by
smiling
yourself,
and
by
laughing
yourself,
and
by
being
a
smile,
by
being
laughter,
by
being
happy.
It
starts
inside
of
you.
You
guys
have
been
in
a
bar
one
time
or
a
party
or
whatever,
you're
standing
there
and
like
somebody
is
just
laughing,
and
they're
happy,
and
they're
talking
to
each
other.
Jason,
really,
we're
talking,
we're
shooting
the
shit,
we're
just
laughing,
we're
smiling.
I'm
just
smiling
because
I'm
happy
to
be
there
and
chatting
with
them.
All
of
a
sudden
my
eyes
go
this
way
and
you
just
see
the
smile,
and
you
feel
it.
I'm
not
like
we're
talking,
talking.
It's
not
like
that.
That's
not
how
you
make
your
own
smile.
You
smile
because
you
feel
it,
you
feel
happy.
You
just
fucking
share
it
with
her.
You
can't
help
it.
It's
who
you
are.
That's
how
you
make
a
girl
smile.
Because
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that's
the
pleasure
that
you're
going
to
give
her,
it
starts
inside
of
you,
feeling
happiness,
feeling
pleasure.
Same
thing
with
sex.
Giving
her
amazing
sexual
experiences.
Rather
fucking
the
shit
out
of
her
or
just
seeing
sex
as
artistic,
as
a
canvas.
You
guys
ever
seen
Don
Juan
DeMarco?
Beautiful
sex
scene
in
the
beginning.
“A
woman's
body
is
like
a
violin.
You
must
learn
how
to
play
it.”
What's
another
element
of
pleasure?
I've
spoken
of
this
already
before
but
it's
so
important
that
it’s
worth
driving
the
point
home.
Is
don't
push
as
soon
as
possible
for
sex,
for
sexuality
until
she
wants
sex
as
soon
as
possible.
Let
me
repeat
that.
Don't
push
for
ASAP
sex,
push
sexuality
until
she
wants
sex
ASAP.
It's
just
another
way
of
saying
create
sexual
tension.
That's
the
pleasure
for
her,
it's
the
chase,
the
thrill,
the
excitement,
the
unknowing,
the
danger
of
it.
One
of
the
things
that
I
try
to
remind
myself
and
often
forget
especially
in
the
last
few
months
that
I've
become
overwhelmingly
busy
with
work
is
that
you
have
to
create
space
in
your
life
and
remember
to
bring
pleasure
into
your
own
life
and
into
that
of
your
girlfriend
and
live
a
sensual
life
of
your
own.
I
was
reminded
of
this
the
other
day
when
I
left
work
to
go
to
Central
Park
for
a
boat
ride.
When
you're
leaving
work
you're
like,
“Shit,
I
got
that
to
do.
I
got
to
get
this
thing
done,
I
got
to
sign
this
contract,”
and
then
I
just
realized
I
was
sitting
in
the
boat,
my
girlfriend
and
I
were
there,
it’s
the
most
amazing
time
in
our
week.
You
just
need
to
create
space
for
stuff
like
that,
to
create
space
for
pleasure.
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The
next
thing
for
boyfriend
material
is
you
are
an
example
to
her.
This
is
I
think
number
six.
Yes,
you
are
an
example
to
her.
Are
your
actions
something
that
you
would
want
others
to
emulate,
that
would
make
the
world
better,
that
would
make
relationships
better?
I'm
certain
that
I
feel
that
way,
I'm
certain
that
Jason
feels
that
way,
I'm
certain
that
our
friend
Alex
feels
that
way.
So
just
being
an
example
of
what
a
man
should
be
in
her
life.
This
can
be
very
simple.
It
can
be
chivalry,
holding
open
doors,
putting
her
in
a
taxi,
walking
her
out
to
the
street
when
she's
leaving
your
home.
Something
simple
like
when
she
returns
to
the
table
standing
up,
if
she
returns
to
the
table
on
a
dinner
date
standing
up,
just
ever
so
slightly,
allow
her
to
sit,
chivalrous
and
respectable
things
to
do.
You're
not
giving
shit
up.
You're
not
giving
up
your
power
by
being
a
gentleman.
If
this
is
a
core
value
of
yours,
then
you're
not
giving
up
any
power.
This
is
just
something
you
always
do.
One
of
the
places
that
I've
failed
in
my
life
is
in
honesty.
I
think
honesty
is
the
most
important
thing
in
a
relationship.
I
have
failed
with
this
in
the
past
to
my
everlasting
regret.
Sort
of
a
duh,
right,
you're
supposed
to
be
honest.
I
was
talking
to
my
trainer
the
other
day
and
he's
like,
“Man,
you
know,
like,
the
secret
for
staying
in
a
good
relationship,
don't
do
stupid
shit.
And
if
you
do
stupid
shit
tell
her
about
it.”
I
was
like,
“I
know
man,
I
know.”
He
was
like,
“But
it's
hard
not
to
do
stupid
shit.
And
when
you
do
stupid
shit
you
don't
want
to
tell
her
about
it.”
I’m
like,
“I
know,
I
know.”
But
being
example,
trying
your
damn
just
not
to
do
stupid
shit
when
you're
in
the
relationship
with
her.
And
if
you
do
stupid
shit,
being
honest
about
it
and
accepting
what
comes
your
way.
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This,
all
of
the
stuff,
being
an
example,
it's
very
attractive
if
it
comes
from
the
position
of
leadership
and
core
value.
If
you're
just
doing
this
because
you
think
it's
the
right
thing
to
do
to
have
a
girlfriend,
then
it's
not
very
attractive
to.
If
you're
standing
up,
if
you're
opening
doors
for
her,
if
you're
doing
like
these
nice
like
putting
her
on
a
taxi
first,
that's
like
...
If
she
feels
like
she's
it's
just
put
on,
it's
not
something
that's
truly
important
to
you
it's
going
to
lose
its
attractiveness.
But
if
it's
something
that
is
truly
important
to
you,
treat
her
like
a
woman,
be
an
example
of
how
a
man
should
treat
a
woman,
it
will
be
very
attractive.
The
final
thing
in
boyfriend
material,
it's
very
simple,
it’s
what's
best
for
her.
What
is
best
for
her?
Being
together
for
the
right
reasons.
Knowing
if
and
when
someone
can
give
more
to
her
than
you
can,
and
knowing
if
there's
someone
else
out
there
who
can
give
more
to
you.
I'm
sure
I'm
not
the
only
one
who's
stayed
in
relationships
too
long.
Not
because
I
thought
that
there
wasn't
somebody
out
there
better,
but
just
because
I
was
scared.
On
the
same
token
in
the
last
four
or
five
years
of
my
life
I
found
it
necessary
to
break
up
with
girls
when
I
was
not
the
best
for
them
or
they
for
me.
A
few
examples
I'd
like
to
talk
about,
there
was
a
very
beautiful
girl
I
was
dating
who
was
very
insecure.
We
broke
up.
We
continued
to
have
sex
for
quite
some
time.
I
finally
realized
one
morning,
I
woke
up
next
to
her,
I
just
saw
this
look
in
her
eyes.
It
was
somewhere
between
panic
and
sadness.
I
realized
she
just
kept
coming
back
to
me
and
into
my
bed,
and
it
was
a
temporary
fix
for
a
deeper
existential
problem
in
her
life.
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The
sex
was
amazing.
The
girl
was
beautiful.
I
did
not
want
to
give
her
up,
but
I
just
looked
at
her
that
morning.
I
was
like,
“You
need
to
get
my
number
out
of
your
phone
book.
Stop
calling
me.
It's
very
hard
for
me
to
say
that.
But
I
am
not
best
for
you
right
now.
And
if
you
keep
calling
me,
I'm
going
to
keep
answering,
and
we're
just
going
to
keep
doing
this,
and
neither
of
us
are
going
to
move
forward.”
That
day
was
a
big
day
in
my
life.
I
was
like,
“Holy
shit,
I
can't
believe
I
have
the
strength
to
do
this.”
But
it
had
to
happen.
She
ended
up
finding
Jesus.
No
joke.
Speaking
of
Jesus,
another
good
example
of
this
is
I
dated
a
very,
very
Christian
girl
for
a
few
years.
We
tried
to
make
it
work,
and
I
tried
to
go
to
church,
and
I
tried
to
get
in
the
whole
thing
and
just
wasn't
a
fit
for
me.
Towards
the
end
of
our
relationship
there
were
a
number
of
fights
about
Genesis
and
about
fall
festivals
as
Halloween.
Finally
we
hired
this
girl
who
was
a
lesbian
to
do
some
coaching,
or
bisexual,
and
she
was
very
unhappy
about
that,
my
ex.
I
just
realized
I
was
like,
“I've
been
trying
to
make
this
thing
work
for
a
long,
long,
long
ass
time,
but
our
beliefs
just
don't
work.
We
are
headed
for
a
life
of
non-‐stop
disagreements.
And
if
we
bring
kids
into
this,
good
lord,”
like
literally
good
lord
or
whatever.
So
we
broke
up.
I
said
look,
“I
love
you
to
death
but
this
is
just
not
what's
best
for
you.
I
am
not
what's
best
for
you.
I
can't
give
you
what
you
want.
I
won't
sing
at
church,
I
don't
feel
God
in
my
spirit
and
my
soul
the
way
you
do,
and
I'm
not
what's
best
for
you.
I
need
to
let
you
go.”
I
did
and
we
both
found
love
in
other
wonderful
places.
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So
that's
it.
Let's
recap
boyfriend
material
here.
It's
very
simple
but
there's
so
much
depth
in
this,
vision,
seeing
what's
possible
for
her,
growth,
helping
her
achieve
what's
possible
for
her,
thrills,
making
her
life
exciting,
betterment,
improving
together
the
two
of
you,
pleasure,
taking
pleasure
and
giving
it
to
her,
an
example
of
how
relationships
ought
to
be,
what's
best
for
her
and
for
you.
If
you
can
truly
bring
those
seven
things
into
a
relationship,
you
will
be
giving
her
something
that
very
few
other
men
can.
And
you
will
be
one
of
her
best
boyfriends
ever.
That
is
boyfriend
material.
We're
going
to
move
on
now
and
we're
going
to
get
into
the
dating
game.
The
obsession
story
and
all
that
good
stuff.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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I
thought
I
was
done
with
that
last
segment
and
for
once
I
didn't
ask:
did
anybody
have
any
questions,
and
then
people
have
questions,
so
I
figured
if
you
guys
have
questions
then
people
at
home
might
have
questions
too.
I
should
probably
answer
those
questions.
The
question
that
came
up,
let
me
make
sure
I
phrase
this
appropriately,
is
the
things
we
just
talked
about
for
boyfriend
values,
are
those
things
that
precede
the
relationship
or
do
they
happen
when
you're
in
the
relationship,
and
she's
your
girlfriend,
or
do
they
happen
when
you're
starting
to
date
her?
Is
that
a
fair
way
of
asking
that
question?
Yeah,
the
question
is
when
do
these
things
begin
to
express
themselves?
I
think
the
thing
that
had
confused
you
a
little
bit
was
hey
wait.
On
one
hand
you're
telling
me
to
be
challenging
and
mysterious
and
all
these
things.
On
the
other
hand
you're
telling
me
to
be
the
seed
to
her
rock
and
her
sunshine,
which
sounds
so
sweet.
So
nice.
How
do
you
combine
these
things?
How
do
they
work
together?
Well,
as
I
mentioned,
these
are
sort
of
things
that
you
want
for
a
very
special
woman
in
your
life,
so
when
I
meet
a
special
woman,
I
want
to
find
a
vision
for
her.
I
want
to
help
her
grow.
But
if
I
meet
her
at
the
bar,
is
that
the
first
thing
that's
going
to
come
out?
No.
I'm
going
to
challenge
her
a
little
bit.
I'm
going
to
be
playful.
I'm
going
to
run
some
game,
right?
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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Have
fun.
All
the
same,
I'm
going
to
have
a
vision
for
her.
How
would
I
do
that?
Well,
we’ll
get
to
that
tomorrow,
but
there's
a
specific
technique
where
we
start
to
create
visions
together.
It's
called,
the
broad
form
is
called
future
projecting.
You
familiar
with
future
projecting?
Yeah,
very
simply
it's,
"Hey,
we
should
go
do
this
together."
So
you're
going
to
start
having
visions
for
her.
You
can
still
be
challenging
and
you
can
still
take
it
away.
"OK,
cool.
We
got
to
take
an
amazing
trip
together."
Just
like,
don't
get
me
too
drunk
because
then
I'll
stat
hitting
on
other
girls.
That's
something
Jason
Capital
might
say.
I
don’t
know
if
I
would
actually
say
that.
You
take
it
away.
You
give
her
something
and
then
you
take
it
away.
You
can
have
visions
for
her
right
when
you
meet
her
and
then
this
is
also
something
that
you're
really
going
to
talk
about
on
second
dates.
This
stuff
might
come
up
on
first
dates
like
vision
will
definitely
come
up
on
first
dates.
I'm
sorry,
second
dates,
but
it
might
come
up
on
first
dates.
So
what
you
see
for
her.
That
doesn't
mean
that
you're
not
going
to
be
mysterious.
You
could
talk
about
a
vision
for
her
without
telling
her
anything
about
yourself.
I'm
not
encouraging
you
to
do
that,
but
you
could
have
a
vision
for
her
without
talking
about
anything
about
yourself.
Growth
and
wanting
her
to
grow.
That's
definitely
something
that's
going
to
start
to
express
herself
in
what
I'll
call
the
intimacy
phase.
We
haven't
gotten
to
the
obsession
story,
we’re
about
to,
but
this
is
something
that's
going
to
start
to
express
itself
in
the
intimacy
phase,
the
two
to
six
week
period
where
you're
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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sleeping
together
but
you're
not
boyfriend
and
girlfriend
yet
and
onwards
into
the
relationship.
You
want
to
help
a
girl
grow.
I
hope
you
do.
I
do.
That's
something
that
if
I
were
to,
if
I
were
to
break
up
today
and
be
single
the
next
girl
who
became
my
girlfriend,
I
would
want
that
for
her.
I
would
want
growth.
That's
not
something
I'm
going
to,
I'm
not
going
to
go
out
to
the
bar
and
be
like,
"Hey,
shot
of
tequila
for
me
and
wheat
grass
for
you.
I
want
you
to
stay
healthy."
It's
not
going
to
be
like
that.
Yeah,
that's
really
something
that's
going
to
express
itself
as
you
start
to,
as
it
starts
to
congeal
as
a
relationship.
Thrills.
There's
a
great
question
about
thrills
I
want
to
make
sure
I
sort
of
encapsulate
it.
Thrills
is
something
that
you're
going
to
give
her
every
step
of
the
way.
It's
something
that
you
want
to
continue
to
give
her
in
the
relationship,
something
you
want
to
give
her
at
the
beginning
of
the
relationship.
We
talked
about
the
short
text.
We
talked
about
the
thrill
of
wondering
about
you.
That's
stuff
that
requires
no
money.
Now
I
sympathize.
You
said
I
work
all
the
time
and
I
gotta
keep
my
money
coming
in
and
I
gotta
like,
I'm
tired
and
I
want
to
work
out
and
this,
that
and
the
other
thing
to
do.
Someone
also
asked
what
to
do
if
you
work
a
lot.
I
think
this
is
a
case
for
a
lot
of
guys.
I
mean
Alex
has
talked
about
this.
Jason
talks
about
this.
Being
on
your
mission
and
if
you're
working
a
lot
presumably
there's
hopefully
a
correlation
between
the
work
you
do
and
the
mission
that
you
have.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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I
feel
the
same
way.
I've
been
working
12,
14
hour
days
lately.
It's
tough.
A
couple
things.
First
of
all
just
consciously
taking
the
time
and
space
away
from
work.
You
can
have
your
mission,
but
if
there's
one
thing
I've
learned
from
Buddhists,
it's
chill
the
fuck
out.
Buddhists
would
probably
be
like
well,
that's
not
actually
what
we're
saying,
but
take
some
time
and
take
some
space
to
have
fun
and
enjoy
your
life.
The
first
segment
of
the
ten
code,
the
very
first
thing
I
teach
is
about
having
fun.
Even
if
you're
working
a
lot
man,
you
gotta
make
space
to
have
fun,
you
gotta
make
some
space
for
yourself.
That's
not
a
technique,
that's
just
make
some
space.
I
find,
we're
getting
a
little
bit
off
topic,
but
I
hope
it's
a
useful
thought.
I
find
that
in
my
life,
I
go
real
hard
for
periods
of
time,
maybe
a
week,
two
weeks,
a
month
and
then
I
just
stop.
I
own
the
business,
so
that's
kind
of
OK
for
me.
If
you
can
work
with
your
employers
to
structure
something
like
that
in
your
life
and
maybe
not
take
a
full
week
off,
but
maybe
just
a
long
weekend
and
just
stop.
Just
no
work.
Get
away
from
it.
Enjoy
your
life.
Go
do
something
else.
Reward
yourself.
You
go
nuts
if
you
don't.
Today
we're
recording
this
at
the
end
of
a
two
month
work
period
where
I'm
surprised
I'm
actually
with
my
thoughts
right
now.
On
Monday,
I'm
off
for
a
week.
That's
number
one.
Number
two,
you
talked
about
what
do
you
talk
about
to
create
that
spark,
to
create
that
desire
if
not
work?
Right?
I
love
to
talk
about
my
work.
I
love
to
talk
about
my
mission.
I
mentioned
this
earlier
and
I'll
talk
about
it
more
tomorrow,
lead
with
vision
and
values.
Lead
with
what's
important
to
you.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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I'm
not
going
to,
if
I
was
on
a
date
tomorrow,
I
wouldn't
tell
a
girl
my
week
leading
up
to
today
has
been
trouble
shooting
post
back
pixels
in
our
affiliate
tracking
software,
signing
contracts
and
getting
anti-‐fraud
software
in
place
for
our
order
processing
and
just
boring
shit,
right?
Does
that
even
mean
anything
to
you?
Trouble
shooting
post
back
pixels.
It
means
nothing
to
anybody
in
the
world
except
for
20
people.
That's
not
what
I
would
talk
about.
That's
not
what
I
would
talk
about.
I
would
talk
about,
like
I
might
mention
that
and
I
would
be
like,
"Yeah,
you
know,
I
spent
this
week
doing
the
most
skull-‐numbing
of
activity.
It's
OK,
because
I
love
it.
What
that
allows
me
to
do
is
I
can
share
this
with
a
few
more
people
and
get
a
few
more
people
to
promote
my
program
and
that's
going
to
let
them
share
with
a
few
more
guys."
So
I'm
going
to
bring
it
back
to
my
values.
What
I
really
want
is
for
these
guys
to
experience
what
I
have
to
share
with
them.
If
you
are
talking
about
work
and
we'll
talk
about
this
more
tomorrow,
but
lead
with
vision
and
values.
In
terms
of
other
stuff
to
talk
about,
we're
going
to
give
you
a
whole
bunch
of
great
questions,
really
fun
conversation
topics
that
are
great
for
first
dates,
great
for
when
you
meet
a
girl.
All
that
stuff.
If
there's
one
thing
that
I
hope
nobody
missed
today
or
if
you
did
let
me
just
make
sure
it's
clear,
the
thrills
that
you're
going
to
give
a
girl
when
you
first
meet
her
are
like,
it's
all
in
the
body
language,
it's
all
in
the
eye
contact,
it's
all
in
your
attitude.
You
saw
Nick
talk
to,
do
you
remember
what
Nick
was
saying
looking
at
you
like,
"What
did
you
eat
for
breakfast
today?"
That's
the
thrill
right
there.
I
think
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something
that
hangs
up
a
lot
of
guys,
it
hung
me
up
for
years,
is
the
idea
that
I
have
to
say
something
interesting
in
order
to
create
that
spark.
That's
not
what
it
is.
What
creates
that
spark
is
that
obsession
worthy
guy.
The
guy
who's
on
his
mission.
Who
knows
howto
focus
his
attention.
The
guy
who's
confident
and
dominant
and
challenging.
It's
when
he
looks
at
her
and
he
just
knows
it.
That's
when
it's
on.
Right?
When
you
saw
me
demonstrating
with
Alex
earlier,
I
could
have
just
been
talking
about
whatever.
Oh,
she's
not
here
now,
but
it
could
have
been
like
"Yeah,
I
got
a
new
iPhone.
This
thing
is
incredible.
When
I
touch
it,
have
you
touched
this
yet?
Here,
touch
it.
Touch
it."
She
touches
it.
"Oh,
your
fingerprint
doesn't
match.
It's
not
going
to
let
you
in.
Look
at
that."
That's
like
the
thrill
that
you're
giving
her
at
the
beginning
of
the
relationship
in
that
first
conversation.
It's
just
you
getting
off
of
work.
You
can
be
talking
about
whatever
but
it's
in
that
playful
attitude,
that
challenging
attitude
that
you
have.
That's
where
the
thrill
is
really
going
to
be
experienced
in
the
first
phase
of
the
conversation.
I've
been
trying
to
figure
out
how
to
teach
that
and
how
to
communicate
those
words
for
the
last
five
years.
It's
one
of
these
things
that
you'll
hear
it
20
different
times,
20
different
ways
and
then
you'll
hear
it
another
200
different
times,
200
different
ways.
One
day
it's
going
to
click
for
you.
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You're
going
to
be
talking
to
a
girl
and
maybe
you
watch
these
videos
like
20
times
and
you're
just
watching
Nick
talk
to
Alex.
Watch
me
and
you're
just
going
to
watch
it
and
watch
it
and
something's
going
to
click.
You're
going
to
be
like
Oh.
Wow,
that's
so
simple.
It's
so
simple.
I
can
just
talk
about
whatever
and
look
her
in
the
eye
and
create
that
sense
of
excitement
in
her.
That's
how
you're
going
to
get
beyond
mundane
work
topics
and
how
you're
going
to
talk
about
mundane
whatever
topics
but
still
create
excitement
for
her.
That's
thrills.
Just
to
return
to
the
bigger
picture
question
here
which
is
how
do
these
express
themselves
in
a
relationships
and
during
dating?
Helping
her
become
better
in
mind,
body
and
spirit.
You
can
do
this
on
a
date
if
you
wanted
to.
You
could,
I
know
some
people
who
are
super
hardcore
Paleo's
and
others
who
are
like
crazy
vegan's.
If
they
were
to
take
a
girl
on
a
date,
they
would
take
her
to
a
Paleo
restaurant.
My
buddy
John,
he
would
not
take
a
girl
to
a
pizza
place.
He
does
not
touch
gluten
and
so
the
date
itself
would
be
like
right
at
the
start
of
the
relationship
he's
trying
to
bring
her
into
his
values
of
like,
I
want
what's
better
for
everybody
and
I
believe
in
healthiness,
so
here's
some
chicken
liver
baby.
For
him,
that's
where
he's
bringing
betterment
into
the
relationship.
Right
upfront.
Some
of
the
other
stuff,
meditating
or
praying
together.
If
you're
part
of
the
Christian
community
then
that's
probably
something
that
you're
going
to
be
doing
anyway
or
some
other
religious
denomination.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
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Mind
altering
experiences,
well
if
you're
into
that
stuff,
you'll
probably
know
if
the
girl
is
into
it
pretty
early
on.
Let's
see.
Giving
her
pleasure.
Making
her
feel
good.
We
talked
about
leading
with
laughter
and
smiles.
When
I'm
talking
to
a
girl,
right
at
the
start
of
the
conversation
it's
like
yeah,
I
want
to
give
her
pleasure.
I
want
to
give
everybody
pleasure.
My
goal
when
I
walk
down
the
street,
except
in
New
York.
Sometimes
I
want
to
smack
people
in
the
face,
but
all
the
other
times
I
want
to
make
people
happy.
I
just
want
to
give
people
pleasure.
It's
cool
way
to
live
your
life.
The
same
token,
there's
that
old
Steve
Jobs
line,
my
job
isn't
to
make
people
feel
good
about
themselves.
My
job
is
to
make
them
work
harder
or
become
better.
Something
like
that,
but
that's
growth.
That's
growth.
An
example.
An
example
of
how
you
treat
a
woman.
Here's
a
great
example.
It's
something
that
was
drilled
into
me
as
a
kid,
not
drilled
so
to
speak,
but
that
I
saw
again
and
again
as
a
kid,
is
every
time
my
mother
would
come
back
to
the
table
when
we
were
out
to
eat,
my
dad
would
stand
up
ever
so
gently.
I
don't
know
if
you
guys
have
seen
this.
It's
kind
of
a
polite
dude
thing
to
do.
Is
the
woman
walks
back
from
the
bathroom
and
the
dude
stands
up
ever
so
gently
and
then
he
sits
back
down
to
eat.
I
just
saw
that
as
a
kid
again
and
again
and
again,
so
I'm
going
to
do
that
on
the
first
date
unless
it's
maybe
the
second
date.
It's
a
nice
restaurant.
Maybe
not
a
pizza
place,
but
that's
where
I
would
like
...
And
you
can
still
be
challenging.
You
can
still
mysterious.
You
can
still
be
all
those
things.
If
that's
just
a
characteristic
of
like
hey,
I
think
that's
how
a
man
should
treat
a
woman.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
Q&A
Another
great
one
is
walking
down
the
streets,
we
always
laugh
about
this
one,
whenever
we
walk
down
the
street
it's
been
drilled
into
me,
stand
on
the
outside.
Right?
Which
is
silly
because
if
a
car
comes
...
The
idea
is,
if
you
guys
haven't
heard
this
one,
if
a
car
comes
down
the
street
and
careens
off
the
side
of
the
road
the
man
will
die
instead
of
the
woman
because
you're
standing
on
the
outside
of
the
street.
It's
the
chivalrous
thing
to
do.
When
I
say
drilled
into
me,
it's
not
like
it
was
beaten
into
me
or
anything.
It's
just
I
saw
it
all
the
time
so
it
became
core
value
of
mine.
It
sort
of
became
something
that
happens.
It
happens
on
first
dates,
second
dates
very
early
on
and
it
still
happens
to
this
day
most
of
the
time.
What's
best
for
her.
That's
something
that's
going
to
express
itself
later
in
the
relationship.
So
I
hope
that
helps
give
you
some
context.
Does
that
answer
your
question
with
a
little
bit
more
depth?
How
do
you
use
these
things?
When
do
you
use
these
things
when
they
express
themselves?
All
right.
Cool.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
So
the
last
segment
of
the
day
is
called
the
Dating
Game.
And
one
of
the
things
that
I've
found
over
there
years
and
I'm,
no
I'm
not
the
only
one
who
feels
this
way,
and
I
know
that
because
one
of
the
lines
in
our
sales
letter
talks
about
how
dating
seems
like
a
labyrinth,
like
there
are
a
thousand
ways
to
get
it
wrong
and
only
one
way
to
get
it
right.
That's
how
dating
felt
for
me
for
years,
so
in
this
segment
all
I
want
to
do
is
give
you
an
overview
of
the
dating
game
from
the
three
different
layers.
The
first
layer
is
the
obsession
story
itself.
Four
different
phases
that
she's
going
to
go
through
that
sort
of
mirror
the
heroin
in
the
Literotica
books.
That's
the
first
phase
or
layer
that
we
talked
about.
The
next
one
is
investment.
Investment
is
a
real
key
concept.
Jason
talked
about
it
a
little
bit
earlier.
You
probably
heard
me
mentioning
it
on
and
off,
basically
the
question
is
how
invested
in
you
is
a
woman.
I'm
going
to
show
you
the
different
levels
of
investment
she
can
have.
The
third
phase
is
what's
called
the
check
points.
The
check
points
is
how
we
commonly
refer
to
dating.
It's
going
to
be
very
obvious
stuff;
when
you
meet
here,
when
you
get
her
number,
first
kiss
and
all
of
that.
I
want
to
show
you
guys
how
those
three
things
align;
bless
you;
how
those
three
things
align,
the
obsession
story,
the
investment
ladder
and
the
checkpoints,
so
that
when
you
are
on
the
second
date
you're
like,
"OK,
here's
where
we
are
on
the
obsession
story.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
Here's
probably
what
she's
experiencing
right
now
in
terms
of
her
feelings
for
me,
and
here
are
the
emotions
and
here's
how
invested
she
is
in
me.
And
that's
going
to
give
you
the
flexibility
to
react
and
manage
the
situation,
and
have
a
little
bit
of
strength
in
yourself.
One
of
the
things
that
I
think
is
so
so
so
pivotal
in
being
great
with
women,
Jason
talked
about
indifference.
It
was
funny
when
I
heard
him
talk
about
that,
excuse
me
(clear
throat),
because
when
I've
liked
a
girl,
I've
never
been
indifferent.
I
know
it.
I'm
like
"shit,
I
like
this
girl,
I'm
in
trouble."
And
I
try
not
to
speak
about
personal
life
too
much,
but
to
just
borrow
a
quick
anecdote
from
my
current
relationship,
I
remember
we've
been
on
two
dates
and
there
had
been
one
kiss
on
each
date,
a
small
one.
Actually
there
had
been
a
kiss
on
the
first
date,
and
then
a
kiss
when
we
saw
each
other
on
the
west
side
high
way.
I
was
nervous.
"OK
does
she
like
me,
does
she
not
like
me."
I
remember
I
was
at
the
Mets
Game
with
my
buddies,
and
it's
kind
of
a
close
game
which
I
think
strange
for
the
Mets.
...
I
was
at
the
Mets
game,
it
was
a
close
game,
and
I
was
inviting
her
to
a
party
later
that
evening.
And
I
sent
here
a
text
message.
We'd
been
texting
back
and
forth,
and
I
had
a
pretty
good
indication
that
she
liked
me;
we
had
been
texting
back
and
forth.
I
asked
her
to
go
to
the
party
and
I
didn't
hear
back
for
quite
a
while.
Maybe
like
40
minutes
or
so.
And
I
know
we've
all
been
there.
That
was
one
of
the
longest
40
minutes
of
my
life
for
that
year
period.
Because
I
was
like,
"Is
she
going
to
respond."
And
I
was
not
paying
attention
to
the
game,
I'm
kind
of
in
my
head,
and
I
realized
something
in
that
moment.
And
this
is
why
I
talked
about
earlier
"giving
the
gift
of
thrills
to
someone."
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
Because
this
is
amazing
that
I
feel
this
way
right
now.
I
don't
have
control
over
my
emotions
at
this
moment.
Maybe
if
I
could
go
to
a
psychologist
ans
ask
for
a
Xanax
prescription
and
like
pop
one,
then
I
could
calm
down
a
little
bit.
But
I
don't
have
control
of
my
emotions
at
this
moment,
and
I
am
focused
on
her.
What
should
I
do
about
this
right
now?
I
realized
that
the
only
thing
that
I
could
do
in
that
moment
was
just
enjoy
the
fact
that
I
felt
this
way
about
that
girl.
And
that
wherever
it
went
from
here,
I'm
not
indifferent
to
her.
I
care.
I
care
about
this
outcome.
If
we
don't
continue
to
date,
I'm
not
going
to
go
out
and
bang
20
other
girls,
I'm
going
to
mourn
the
loss
briefly
but
I
will.
And
If
we
do
continue
to
date,
amazing,
that
tells
me
something.
That
tells
me
that
these
feeling
that
I'm
feeling,
this
fear,
this
anxiety,
is
she
going
to
write
me
back,
these
emotions
that
don't
feel
great,
that
kind
of
capture
us
and
take
us
away
from
everything
else,
I
kind
of
don’t
want
them
to
be
there,
but
god
dam
I'm
glad
that
they're
there.
That
says
something
about
me,
that
says
something
about
this
girl;
that's
really
magical.
While
we
are
going
to
understand
and
dissect
the
dating
game,
I
just
wanted
to
share
that
with
you
guys
because
we
often
get
caught
up
in
those
zones,
and
sometimes
those
zones
can
last
for
weeks
or
months.
If
you're
dwelling
on
a
girl
for
weeks
or
months
then
you
are
probably
in
the
friend
zone,
and
you
need
to
do
some
other
stuff,
which
we'll
talk
about
tomorrow.
But
if
you
feel
that
way
about
a
girl,
that's
not
a
bad
thing.
I
just
want
to
point
that
out.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
So
with
that
in
mind
let's
jump
into
the
obsession
story.
We'll
talk
about
the
obsession
with
a
man.
As
I
broke
down
the
obsessions
story
in
the
Literotica
books
it
was
basically
four
phases.
Impression,
inspection,
intimacy,
and
love.
Let's
review
those
again.
Impression,
inspection,
intimacy,
and
love.
Impression
is
from
meeting
her
to
getting
her
number.
You
made
an
impression,
you
got
her
number.
Inspection
is
from
texting,
it
use
to
be
phone
calls
right,
but
these
days
from
texting
to
sex.
Intimacy
is
from
sex
to
relationship,
and
then
in
love
is
from
relationship
and
on
words.
As
Evan
and
I
were
talking
about
this,
we
like
the
metaphor:
Resume,
interview,
internship;
job.
Something
like
that.
So
I'm
just
going
to
give
you
a
very
high
level
overview
of
what
we're
going
to
be
learning
in
each
of
these
phases
because
tomorrow
the
whole
day
is
going
to
be
talking
about
what
to
do
in
each
phase.
Right
now
this
is
just
the
table
of
contents
for
what
we're
going
to
learn
tomorrow.
That's
an
open
loop
by
the
way.
As
I
said,
impression
is
from
when
you
meet
her
to
when
she's
decided
she
wants
to
see
you
more.
That's
when
you
know
impression
is
over.
And
that's
when
you
can
ask
for
her
phone
number.
One
of
the
things
Nick
talked
about
is
like,
"dude
if
you
don't
ask
for
her
phone
number,
she's
not
going
to
offer
it
to
you."
Now
impression
can
be,
it
can
take
an
instance,
you
saw
earlier
when
I
was
demonstrating
with
Alex,
"I
find
you
very
attractive,
give
me
your
number."
In
that
moment
I
can
make
an
impression
or
I
can
take
two
minutes,
five
minutes,
ten
minutes
in
deep
conversation.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
But
the
key
point
of
impression,
here's
how
you
know
you're
moving
down;
here's
what
it
should
feel
like
to
her,
is
you
are
occupying
space
in
here
mind.
If
you
made
the
right
impression
and
at
the
end
of
this
phase
what
you
have
done
is
that
you
are
occupying
space
in
her
mind.
And
that's
the
key
part
of
the
obsession
story
is
the
heroin
meets
this
guy,
and
she's
kind
of
been
going
about
her
life,
and
her
life
is
fine,
maybe
a
little
mundane,
but
she
meets
this
one
guy
and
this
one
guys
stands
out
and
occupies
space
in
her
mind.
That's
what
you
want
to
do
with
your
first
impression.
The
goal
of
this
phase;
what
is
the
goal?
Is
to
get
her
to
start
opening
up
about
her
life
a
little
bit.
You
can,
again,
I
showed
you,
she
didn't
open
up
about
her
life
at
all.
It's
at
that
first
conversation
maybe
at
a
party,
maybe
at
a
bar,
maybe
through
friends,
if
you
can
you
need
to
get
her
to
open
up
about
her
life
a
little
bit.
So
what
are
we
going
to
cover
tomorrow
in
the
impression
phase,
we've
already
given
you
a
fair
amount
of
examples
today,
but
here's
what
we're
going
to
specifically
cover
tomorrow:
how
to
make
and
impression
on
her
before
you
even
meet
her,
before
you
even
open
your
mouth.
How
to
talk
to
her
if
you
are
introduced
to
her,
how
to
actually
do
the
mechanics
of
it.
How
to
approach
her.
We
showed
you
a
fair
number
examples
of
approaching,
Nick
is
going
to
come
back
tomorrow
and
talk
all
about
approaching
girls.
Because
I
don't
know
anybody
who
is
better
at
it.
Maybe
Jason,
but
probably
not.
I
don't
know;
I
put
them
toe
to
toe.
Conversation
stuff.
So
what
do
you
actually
say
to
a
girl
to
make
that
strong
impression
on
her?
This
is
something
that
I
became
quite
good
at,
and
it's
not
actually
that
hard.
And
finally
resetting
an
impression.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
It's
funny.
One
of
the
things,
it's
in
our
sales
letter
is
"subtle
but
sneaky
technique,"
that
you
can
use
to
turn
a
girl's
impression
around
if
she's
put
you
in
the
friend
zone.
Warning,
girls
can
be
very
sexually
aggressive
if
they
want
to
prove
themselves
to
you.
I
forgot
to
include
that
last
time
in
the
product.
You
wouldn't
believe
how
many
guys
write
in,
"yo,
I
bought
the
product
for
that
specific
technique."
"Gosh."
So
I
email
it
to
them.
But
it's
not
in
the
version
one
of
the
products.
I
just
can't
wait
to
tell
you
guys
about
this
because
it's
really
funny
how
it
works,
and
it
works
very
well.
So
we
are
going
to
show
you
how
to
reset
an
impression
if
you're
in
the
friends
zone.
That's
impression
and
that's
what
we're
going
to
learn
tomorrow.
Stage
two,
Like
I
said
is
inspection,
this
is
where,
and
to
answer
your
question
from
earlier,
if
Impression
is
from
where
you
meet
her
to
where
she
decides
she
wants
to
see
you
more,
inspection
is
where
boyfriend
value
starts
to
express
itself.
This
is
where
all
of
those
things
where
we
talked
about
in
the
last
segment
really
start
to
come
out.
It's
the
dating
process.
The
question
that
she's
going
through
in
this
process
is,
"am
I
going
to
give
myself
to
this
man?"
What
we
want
to
flip
it
too
is,
"will
this
man
let
me
give
myself
to
him?"
And
of
course
there's
going
to
be
some
mutual
inspection.
We
love
it
if
we
always
had
the
power,
always
had
the
control.
I'm
going
to
give
you
guys
the
tools
to
have
as
much
control
as
I
can,
but
there
will
be
some
woman
who
are
always,
they're
beautiful,
they're
smart,
they're
intelligent,
maybe
they're
none
of
those
things
but
they
still
manage
to
maintain
their
power.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
The
goal
of
this
phase,
you
know
this
phase
is
over
when
you've
entered
a
sexual
relationship.
And
that's
sort
of
a
gross
generalization
right,
because
there
are
girls
who
you
will
go
out
and
you'll
have
sex
with
that
night,
and
you're
not
in
the
inspection
stage
yet
because
you
just
met
her
and
you
need
to
have
a
moment.
If
you
follow
a
normal
dating
protocol,
you
meet
her,
a
couple
of
dates,
and
then
you
end
up
having
sex,
this
phase
ends
when
the
sexual
relationship
really
begins.
What
we
are
going
to
teach
you
tomorrow,
we're
going
to
teach
you
one
of
my
very
best
and
most
important
texting
techniques.
Texting
is
something
that
hangs
up
a
lot
of
guys.
We
got
a
whole
program
about
it,
I
know
some
of
you
guys
have
seen
it,
how
to
text
her,
but
I'm
going
to
teach
you
the
very
best
stuff
from
that
course.
I'm
also
going
to
give
you
step
by
step
dates:
first
date,
second
date,
third
date,
these
are
the
things
to
do.
I'm
going
to
have
another
wonderful
woman
in
here
to
demonstrate
dating
conversations
and
how
to
talk
to
her,
how
to
grab
her
hand
when
walking
down
the
street,
stuff
like
that.
How
to
create
conversation
chemistry
and
Romance,
and
how
to
create
amazing
sexual
excitement.
I'm
going
to
give
you
a
preview
of
all
this
stuff
today,
I'm
going
to
show
you
how
and
when
to
apply
it
tomorrow.
As
I
mention
we'll
go
from
she's
expecting
me
to
at
least
paradi,
where
you
guys
are
inspecting
each
other,
or
possible
the
reverse
where
you
are
inspecting
her.
So
that's
the
inspection
phase.
The
third
phase
is
intimacy.
Intimacy
is
the
2
to
6
week
period
where
you
are
sleeping
with
a
girl
but
you
don't
have
a
label
on
the
relationship
yet.
The
way
I'd
like
to
think
of
this
phase
is
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
you're
giving
her
space,
but
at
the
same
time
you're
lighting
up
here
life.
So
you're
not
overwhelming
her,
but
every
time
she
sees
you
she
feels
happy,
she
feels
elated
she
feels
excited.
The
goal
of
this
phase,
is
an
emotional
relationship.
So
if
the
goal
of
the
last
phase,
the
goal
of
inspection
is
to
get
to
a
sexual
relationship
with
her,
the
goal
of
the
intimacy
phase
is
to
have
an
emotional
relationship
with
her.
One
where
she
opens
her
heart
to
you.
When
we
were
working
through
this
program,
Evan
and
I,
we
were
really
trying
to
like
figure
out
what's
the
configuration,
how
do
we
pull
all
these
concepts
together,
and
we
came
up
with
a
slightly,
offensive
is
the
wrong
word,
but
a
slightly
crude
way
to
describe
the
two
phases,
the
three
phases.
In
impression
she
opens
her
phone
book
to
you,
in
inspection
she
opens
her
legs
to
you,
in
intimacy
she
opens
her
heart
to
you.
So
intimacy
ends,
the
phase
ends,
and
you
know
you've
gone
past
the
intimacy
phase,
when
she
trusts
in
your
masculine
strength,
and
feels
like
the
woman
who
she
always
wanted
to
be
with
the
man
who
she
is
dating.
I'll
say
that
one
more
time.
She
trusts
in
your
masculine
strength.
All
those
things,
those
six
things
that
we've
showed,
those
six
traits
that
we've
showed
in
the
beginning
of
the
course,
she
trusts
that
that
is
real.
"He
is
a
challenging
man."
He
is
mysterious
but
he's
opened
up
to
me,
he's
opened
his
heart
to
me.
He
is
dominant.
He
didn't
just
come
pick
up
me
in
a
bar,
I
see
how
he
interacts
with
other
guys,
he
is
a
dominant
mother
fucker.
So
she
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
learns
to
trust
in
your
masculine
strength
at
the
end
of
this
phase,
and
she
feels
like
the
woman
she
always
wanted
to
be
in
your
eyes.
What
you
will
learn
in
this
phase,
this
is
much
shorter
but
I
will
give
you
more
step
by
step
dates,
I'll
tell
you
how
to
keep
her
hooked
without
pushing
her
away.
There
is
always
that
tension,
I
know,
you
sleep
with
a
girl
once
or
twice,
you're
like,
"oh
great
it's
on,
it's
amazing,"
and
then
somehow
she
just
fizzles
into
thin
air,
so
I'll
show
you
how
to
not
have
that
happen.
Finally
we'll
talk
about
how
to
become
official,
how
to
have
the
talk.
Most
of
what
we
will
be
covering
tomorrow
is
going
to
be
impression
and
inspection.
Those
are
the
bulk
of
it.
Intimacy
is
just
going
to
be
like
just
more
of
the
same
but
with
slightly
different
tactics.
The
final
phase
is
in
love,
that's
when
you
are
enjoying
the
love
of
your
life.
This
is
where
you
have
given
in
and
so
has
she.
You
are
going
to
start
deal
with
new
challenges
in
this
phase.
You
are
dealing
with
Jealousy,
you're
dealing
with
trust.
You're
dealing
with
ongoing
excitement,
keeping
the
relationship
spicy,
and
everything
else
that
comes
with
relationships.
Frankly
that's
not
the
focus
of
this
program,
we're
going
to
leave
that
for
another
course
that
I
hope
I
have
the
time
to
create
one
day.
I
probably
need
to
develop
a
little
bit
more
wisdom
before
I
do
in
that
area.
But
that
is
In
Love.
And
we
will
be
covering
a
lot
of
inspection
and
intimacy
tomorrow.
So
that's
in
a
nutshell,
the
obsession
story.
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
I'll
just
repeat
it
one
more
time.
Impression,
inspection,
intimacy
and
love.
We
have
an
idea
of,
to
be
very
crude,
she
opens
her
phone
book,
she
opens
her
legs,
she
opens
her
heart.
That's
what's
going
on.
The
next
layer
of
the
dating
game
is
what
I
call
the
investment
ladder.
It's
how
invested
in
you
is
she.
How
invested
in
the
relationship
is
she.
There
is
about,
I
don't
know
how
many,
six,
seven;
one,
two,
three,
four,
five,
six,
there
are
seven
phases
of
investment
that
I'm
going
to
walk
you
guys
through
in
a
moment.
And
this
will
really
give
you;
you
will
be
like,
"OK
she's
doing
this,
great
I'm
here."
But
before
I
give
you
that
stuff,
I
want
to
talk
a
little
theory,
and
if
you
hadn't
had
your
caffeine,
now
might
be
a
good
time,
or
suck
on
that
e-‐cigarette
or
whatever.
This
just
gets
a
little
bit
technical
and
a
bit
heavy
but
I'm
going
to
try
to
keep
it
as
fun
as
possible.
So
why
do
we
invest
in
something?
We
invest
in
something
that
we
value.
We
value
something,
we
invest
in
it.
I
value,
to
dates,
I
value
Iphones,
so
I
invest
in
it
with
my
money.
I
value
Facebook
as
a
company
so
to
date
so
I
valued
it
a
long
time
ago
so
I
invested
in
it.
We
invest
in
things
that
we
value.
A
good
relationship
with
a
woman,
is
where
there
are
equal
levels
of
value
and
investment,
where
you
value
her,
and
where
she
values
you
at
equal
levels.
And
we're
investing
in
each
other
equally.
Now
Alex,
Jason,
gave
us
some
great
ways
to
make
her
work
for
you
and
invest
more,
we
all
heard
about
how
chasing,
or
creating
a
chase,
and
being
challenging,
is
a
great
way
to
get
a
woman
to
invest
in
you.
And
being
on
your
mission
being
on
your
path,
is
a
great
way
to
get
a
woman
to
invest
in
you.
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The
reason
that
we
talk
about
this
stuff
so
much,
is
because,
and
we
talked
earlier,
"lead
with
vision
and
values."
Why
do
you
lead
with
vision
and
values?
Is
because
that
she's
not,
you
could
have
the
nicest
car
in
the
world,
you
could
take
her
on
nice
trips,
if
she
doesn't
buy
into
who
you
are
as
a
human
being,
the
values
that
drive
you,
the
things
that
make
you
you,
then
it's
not
a
real
relationship,
she
just
bought
into
the
surface
level
of
you.
You
are
going
to
get
her
to
invest
in
you
by
leading
with
you're
vision
and
you're
values,
who
you
really
are.
The
second
part
of
it
is
creating
compelling
emotional
experiences
for
her.
And
that's
again
a
lot
of
what
we're
going
to
talk
about
tomorrow.
So
there
is
the
game,
this
whole
dating
game,
the
way
I
like
to
think
about
it
is,
it's
finding
a
girl
who
you
value
enough
to
invest
in.
And
being
the
value
that
she
wants
to
invest
in.
I'm
going
to
say
that
one
more
time:
Finding
the
girl
who
you
value
enough
to
invest
in
and
being
the
value
that
she
wants
to
invest
in,
because
let's
face
it,
there's
going
to
be
a
day
when
you're
out
on
a
date,
and
the
bill's
going
to
come,
and
she's
going
to
look
at
you
and
you're
going
to
look
at
her,
and
there's
going
to
be
that
moment
of
who's
paying
for
this.
If
you
asked
her
out,
it's
probably
the
right
thing
to
do
to
cover
the
check.
Some
women
are
totally
OK
taking
care
of
it
for
themselves.
But
at
that
moment
you
have
to
make
a
real
monetary
investment
in
her.
A
lot
of
guys
these
days
find
this
unfair.
It's
just
kind
of
how
the
dating
game
is.
Economically
we've
advanced
in
our
society.
Women
have,
I
won't
get
too
far
off
topic
on
this
but,
the
middle
class
jobs
that
use
to
be
held
by
men
are
largely
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being
replaced
by
women,
and
women
are
on
average,
earning
the
same
or
more.
Not
at
the
highest
end
but
on
average
they're
earning
the
same
or
more
than
men.
Most
men
find
this
very
unfair.
We
live
in
this
age
where
in
the
last
30
years,
women's
economic
development
has
just
exploded
but
the
rules
of
the
dating
game
we're
playing
by
are
still
rules
that
have
existed
for
hundreds
of
years.
Is
it
unfair?
Maybe.
Are
those
the
rules?
Yeah.
I've
been
doing
this
for
15
years,
I
know
no
way
around
it
other
than
the
fact
to
accept
the,
if
you
want
to
call
it
injustice
you
can
call
it
that,
or
if
you
just
want
to
call
it
progress
in
society,
that's
how
I
like
to
think
of
it
too
because
I
think
it's
great
that
women
have
made
the
progress
that
they've
made.
I
think
it
just
requires
that
we
step
up.
We're
in
a
transitionary
phase
right
now,
and
maybe
it
won't
always
be
like
this,
but
this
is
the
age
that
we
live
in.
Seek
truth.
This
is
the
truth
at
the
moment.
Deal
with
it
as
it
is.
With
that
in
mind,
you're
going
to
have
to
invest
in
a
woman.
The
first
part
is
finding
a
woman
who
you
value
enough
to
invest
in.
You've
heard
a
lot
today
about
abundance,
about
being
challenging,
about
being
a
great
guy
about
being
on
your
mission.
If
you
truly
believe
in
your
own
value,
then
you
are
going
to
challenge
women,
you
are
going
to
screen
women,
you
are
going
to
wait
until
you
find
that
woman
who
you
really
value,
to
really
start
investing
in
her.
SO
we'll
talk
about
how
that
plays
out
in
a
dating
context
in
a
little
bit.
Dating
is
really
determining
there
is
a
value
fit.
DO
you
guys
really
value
each
other.
Not
just
physically,
but
in
terms
of
the
real
values
that
the
two
of
you
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have.
Could
you
raise
a
family
together,
could
spend
time
together,
do
you
like
the
same
things.
One
more
thing
on
value
before
we
move
on.
This
is
what
I
think:
One
of
the
most
important
things
I
had
to
share
with
anyone,
is
three
forms
of
value
that
you
can
develop
in
yourself.
We
talked
about
earlier
today
we
talked
about
a
whole
bunch
of
traits,
again
challenging,
mysterious,
so
on
and
so
forth.
Those
are
a
few
good
things
that
you
can
develop
within
yourself
to
become
a
session
worthy
man.
To
become
what
I
would
like
to
think
of
as
a
whole
man,
some
of
you
will
be
familiar
with
the
terms,
primary,
passive
and
active
value
if
you've
read
my
material.
This
is
a
big
revelation
to
me
years
ago,
when
I
was
fucking
up
in
my
life
again
and
again
and
again,
I
thought
I
need
a
framework
for
developing
myself,
and
becoming
a
better
man.
I
need
to
figure
out
a
way
to
stop
fucking
up.
I
need
to
elevate
myself
on
a
number
of
levels.
And
I
thought
about
it,
and
thought
about
it
and
thought
about
it,
and
this
is
the
framework
that
I
came
up
with.
When
you
maxed
out
all
these
things
and
it's
not
surprising,
I
build
a
program
called
the
Ten
Code
that's
all
about
maxing
these
things
out
in
your
life.
When
you
max
out
these
things
you
become
this
incredible
man
of
value
who
maybe
he's
not
indifferent,
maybe
he's
not
needy,
he's
on
his
mission,
he's
fucking
awesome.
Those
three
things
are
primary,
passive
and
active
value.
Primary
value:
The
fire
that
burns
inside
of
you.
If
you
don't
feel
that
on
a
daily
basis,
I
would
suggest
that
you
are
not
living
the
best
life
you
can
live
as
a
man,
if
you
don't
wake
up
everyday
and
feel
a
fire
burying
inside
of
you
to
do
something
epic,
to
do
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something
important,
to
do
something
meaningful
to
you.
If
you
don't
feel
that,
I
would
suggest
are
not
living
your
best
life
as
a
man.
That
is
primary
value
because
everything
else
comes
from
primary
value.
The
strength
that
I
have
when
I
speak.
The
love
that
I'm
able
to
share.
The
energy
that
I
have
to
just
live
my
life
it
comes
from
that
primary
value.
When
I
was
living
kind
of
a
fucked
up
existence,
I
didn't
feel
any
of
that.
That
is
primary
value.
Everything
flows
from
the
fire
inside
of
you.
Passive
value
is
the
world
you
create.
A
lot
of
getting
a
woman
to
approach
you
has
to
do
with
creating
great
passive
value.
The
world
you
create.
The
example
I
always
like
to
use
at
passive
value
is
Jay-‐Z.
If
you
go
out
to
night
clubs,
you've
no
doubt
danced
to
a
JZ
song.
Or
Avici,
let's
say
Avici,
he's
very
popular
right
now.
"Wake
me
up."
An
incredible
song.
So
you
go
out.
You
dance
to
Avici.
Now
all
of
a
sudden
Avici
enters
the
venue.
He's
created
value
before
he
even
met
you
because
you've
danced
to
his
songs,
and
been
happy,
and
smiled
to
them,
and
pored
champagne
on
your
friends,
all
to
the
tune
to
Avice.
See
he
created
value
before
he
even
met
you.
That's
a
perfect
example
of
passive
value.
Very
few
of
us
will
be
able
to
create
that
in
the
world.
Not
at
least
at
that
level.
But
we
can
create
passive
level
on
our
own
lives
that
women
find
very
attractive.
I'm
going
to
tell
you
guys
about
how
to
do
that
tomorrow.
Then
active
value
is
how
you
make
people
feel
when
you
are
with
them.
It's
the
intensity
of
mixed
eye
contact.
It's
the
strength
of
Jason's
conviction.
It's
just
the
dance.
It's
the
mechanics
for
sure.
The
things
that
we've
been
showing
you
how
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to
do.
Things
we'll
continue
to
show
you
tomorrow,
but
it's
also
the
intention
that
you
bring
into
it.
We've
talked
about
eye
contact,
we've
talked
about
just
what
I'm
thinking
when
I
talk
to
a
girl.
You
guys
were
telling
me
earlier
sort
of
those
mental
shifts
that
you
have,
so
it's
all
of
those
things.
As
a
frame
work
to
think
about
for
self
development,
I
think
that
those
are
three
great
areas
to
develop
in
your
own
life.
Again,
in
the
Ten
Code,
I
have
shared
my
frame
work
for
what
I
developed
in
my
own
life.
I'm
pretty
happy
with
who
I
am.
That's
why
I'm
happy
to
share
it.
Other
people
might
find
other
ways
to
develop
it.
If
you
max
out
those
things
your
primary,
your
active,
your
passive
value,
and
when
I
say
max
amount,
there's
never
a
ten.
You
are
always
growing,
you
are
always
going
to
another
level.
But
if
you're
working
on
maxing
them
out
women
will
invest
in
you.
So
let's
talk
about
the
investment
ladder,
This
is
where
we
bring
it
back
to
practical.
The
investment
ladder
is
what
here
levels
of
investment
in
you,
emotionally
and
with
there
time,
that
she
is
going
feel
as
part
of
the
dating
process,
and
we
can
actually
match
these
up
to
the
obsession
story.
The
very
first
phase
of
investment
is
neutral.
She
doesn't
know
you,
she
doesn't
care.
She
don't
give
a
fuck.
That's
the
first
phase
of
investment.
She's
totally
un-‐invested.
The
next
phase
of
the
investment
ladder
is,
Intrigued.
She's
aware
of
you
and
she's
curious.
SO
you
can
intrigue
her
by
talking
to
her,
but
you
can
also
intrigue
her
without
talking
to
her.
If
you're
able
to
create
a
lot
of
passive
value,
which
I'll
show
you,
again
and
we
will
talk
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about
all
this
stuff
tomorrow,
you
can
make
her
intensely
intrigued
without
ever
having
met
you.
That's
a
great
way
to
enter
into
a
conversation.
Next
phase
after
intrigued
is:
engaged.
She's
thinking
about
you
and
she's
spending
time
with
you.
'OK
she's
engaged
with
me,
cool."
The
next
level
is
compliance.
She
does
little
things
for
you
when
you
ask
her.
Simple
example
would
be,
"of
hey
I'm
about
to
use
the
restroom
would
you
mind
watching
my
drink."
A
lot
of
guys
fuck
this
up.
That
was
a
classic
pick
up
artist
technique,
is
try
to
get
a
girl
to
watch
their
drink
when
they
go
to
the
bathroom,
and
they
would
do
it
before
they
actually
were
in
that
phase,
to
try
to
get
the
girl
to
be
in
that
phase,
because
they
weren't
able
to
read
it.
But
compliant
is
that
she
does
little
things
for
you
when
she
asks.
The
next
phase
is,
investment.
And
by
the
way,
just
to
add
some
more
clarity
to
that,
compliant,
and
another
one
is,
she
goes
out
on
a
date
when
you
ask.
She
responds
when
you
text.
So
that's
like
compliant.
The
next
phase
is
invested.
Usually
this
will
be
one
date,
maybe
two
dates,
and
she
wants
to
see
if
a
successful
relationship
is
possible
with
you.
She's
invested
in
the
idea
of
a
future
with
you.
Phase
after
that
is
chasing.
So
she's
actively
going
out
of
her
way
for
you,
and
she's
actively
thoughtful.
And
the
final
phase
of
investment
is:
committed;
she's
chosen
you
to
the
exception
of
all
the
other
options
out
there.
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I
know
that's
heavy
conceptual
stuff,
I'll
run
through
them
again
real
quickly.
Neutral,
she
doesn't
know
shit
about
you.
Intrigued,
she's
aware,
she's
curious
about
you,
engaged
she's
thinking
about
you,
she's
spending
a
little
bit
of
time
with
you;
compliant,
she's
doing
little
things
when
you
ask
her
to
do
little
things.
Invested;
she
wants
to
see
if
a
successful
is
possible,
she's
like
kind
of
in
it
right
now.
She's
like,
"OK,
I'm
in
it."
Chasing,
she
goes
out
of
her
way
to
do
things
for
you.
Committed,
she's
chosen
you
to
the
exception
of
other
options.
That's
the
investment
ladder.
Now,
chances
are
that
makes
sense
intuitively.
You
guys
are
like,
"oh
I've
gotten
to
that
phase
with
a
girl,
like
I
got
there,
I
got
here;
I
get
it
I
get
it."
The
thing
is,
you
can
get
stuck
in
these
phases
of
the
investment
ladder;
"I
can't
get
her
from
engaged,
or
from
compliant
to
invested."
Like
she'll
respond
to
my
texts,
but
she
doesn't
actually
want
to
go
out
with
me.
How
many
guys
has
that
happened;
like
everybody
in
this
room.
"she'll
respond
to
my
texts,
but
she
doesn't
want
to
go
out
with
me."
You
can
get
stuck
in
these
phases.
And
the
thing
that
I
just
want
to
point
out
to
you,
it
could
be
because
of
you
and
you're
own
issues,
very
much
a
possibility,
it
could
also
be
that
she's
just
fucking
crazy.
And
you
don't
want
to
rule
that
one
out.
You
really
don't.
I'm
not
going
to
dwell
on
it
for
too
long;
but
I
want
to
dwell
on
it
long
enough
to
make
sure,
that
you
guys
remember
that
there
might
be
a
day
when
you're
dating
some
girl,
and
you're
texting
her,
and
she's,
you're
not
getting
the
responses
you
want,
you
kind
of
like
this
girl,
I
just
want
you
to
remember,
it
might
be
her.
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She
might
be
fucking
crazy.
And
this
has
happened
more
often
than;
this
happens
so
often.
I
look
back
on
my
years
of
dating
and
all
of
these
times,
when
I
was
like,
"I
need
this
technique;
I
need
to
do
this
thing;
it's
my
fault
if
she
doesn't
respond
to
me."
I'm
texting,
I'm
calling
her;
there
was
one
girl
"god
dam,"
I
really
liked
her,
and
I
invited
her
over.
I
called
her
up
one
day
because
I
had
this
terrible
cough,
and
my
doctor
had
prescribed
me
some
Codeine,
because
my
throat
was
just
killing
me.
And
I
texted
her
up
one
day
and
she'd
been
really
difficult.
I
texted
her,
I'm
like
"Hey,
I
got
some
Marijuana,
I've
got
some
Codeine
why
don't
you
come
over
and
we'll
be
Kurt
and
Courtney?"
Kurt
Cobain
right,
they
were
into
the
whole
drug
thing.
And
she's
like,
"yeah
it
sounds
amazing,"
I'll
be
by
a
little
later.
And
I'm
like,
"oh
great.
I'm
finally,
I'm
going
to
see
her.
Her
schedule
freed
up."
What
happened,
she
came
over,
she
smoked
some
weed,
she
drank
some
Codeine,
she
passed
out
on
my
be.
I'm
like,
"I
thought
we
were
moving
in
the
right
direction
here."
The
girl
ended
up
getting
a
bunch
of
cats.
And
now
she's
a
cat
lady.
The
point
is,
I
was
putting
so
much
pressure
on
myself
to
do
the
right
thing,
and
to
like,
and
I
don't
know,
she
was
hot,
and
I
was
dating
a
few
girls
at
the
time,
and
I
kind
of
thought
she
was
hotter
than
the
other
ones,
I
was
putting
so
much
pressure
on
myself
to
do
the
right
thing,
and
it
just
turned
out
that
her
head
wasn't
screwed
on
straight.
I
just
want
to
remind
you
guys,
you'll
go
through
these
phases,
you
might
get
stuck,
you
might
not
get
passed
this
phase
of
investment.
It
could
be
that
the
girl
is
crazy.
She
might
not
be
ready
to
invest
in
you.
She
just
might
not
feel
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comfortable
opening
herself
up.
That
might
be
a
relationship
pattern
in
her
life.
Those
girls,
coincidentally
are
often
heart
breakers.
I
was
out
to
lunch
with
my
buddy
John
the
other
day
and
I
know
this
girl
who
I
never
really
had
anything
with,
we've
always
been
friends,
she
dated
one
of
my
other
buddies,
she
dated
John,
and
we
were
just
talking
about
her
relationship
patterns.
And
I
was
like,
"I
bet
she
did
this,
and
I
bet
she
did
that,
and
I
bet
she
did
that."
He
was
like,
"yup.
She
did
that,
she
did
that,
she
did
that."
And
it
drove
me
up
a
fucking
wall.
Crazy.
Maybe
she'll
give
herself
to
a
man
one
day,
but
John,
if
there's
a
man
who
a
woman
should
give
herself
too,
it's
this
guy.
Just
amazing
dude.
She
was
just
kind
of
nuts
with
him.
SO
I
will
close
my
thoughts
on
this,
that
some
girls
are
just
fucking
crazy,
and
just
realize
that.
So
that's
enough
of
that.
When
is
investment
locked
in?
We
go
through
this
ladder:
Neutral,
engaged,
compliant,
so
on
and
so
forth.
I'll
in
the
course
itself
there
will
be
a
slide
and
all
the
stuff
will
overlay
on
each
other
and
it'll
be
very
clear
to
you
guys,
but
when
is
a
girl
invested;
when
is
investment
locked
in
so
to
speak?
Well
there's
two
answers
to
this.
The
first
is:
8
months.
The
second
answer
is:
never.
Eight
months
is
about
the
amount
of
time
that
if
you're
dating
a
girl,
and
it's
going
well,
it's
going
to
keep
going
well
for
that
period
of
time.
What
I
find
is
relationships,
usually
go
in
like
these
phases.
There
is
three
month
relationships,
six
month
relationships,
two
year
relationships,
and
then
like,
forever
or
a
long
freaking
time
relationships.
If
you
get
past
the
eight
month
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THE OBSESSION STORY
mark,
that
means
that
you've
gotten
past
that
phase
where
up
to
six
months
you're
probably
just
having
sex
everyday
all
the
time,
and
it's
amazing,
then
your
body
chemistry
starts
to
change.
This
is
actual
science.
If
you
spend
enough
time
in
the
same
room
in
the
same
relationship
with
a
girl,
your
body
chemistry
changes,
your
hormones
change,
and
excessive
sort
of
assertive
aggressive
hormones
that
you
produce
start
to
fade
away
and
you
start
to
produce
more
nurturing
dad
hormones.
I
can't
remember
what
they
are
called,
this
is
in
a
book
called
the
Happiness
Hypothesis,
by
Johnathan
Hype.
Eight
months
your
hormones
are
starting
to
change,
the
relationship
is
starting
to
take
on
a
slightly
different
flavor.
If
you
make
it
past
that
six
month
point
and
you're
still
happy
with
her
and
you
guys
probably
haven't
broken
up,
probably
pretty
good.
That's
when
it's
sort
of
locked
in.
Now
on
the
other
hand
I
said
never.
Has
anybody
in
here
read
50
Cent's
50th
law?
A
few
of
you,
yeah.
Amazing
book,
right.
One
of
the
things
that
struck
me
when
I
was
reading
that
book,
I'd
read
that
right
around
the
same
time
when
I
read
the
Four
Hour
Work
Week.
I
love
the
Four
Hour
Work
Week,
but
I
also
hate
it,
because
in
the
Four
Hour
Work
Week
he
paints
this
picture
of
this
amazing
life
you
live
when
you
just
do
enough
work
and
then
you
kind
of
leave
it
all
behind,
and
work
for
four
hours.
I
know
it's
more
than
that
but,
you
know,
that's
what
a
lot
of
people
take
away.
I
was
thinking
to
myself
one
time,
"I
just
want
to
not
do
work,
I
just
want
to
like
enjoy
my
life.
I
just
want
to
kick
back,
travel
the
world
and
just
kind
of
take
it
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THE OBSESSION STORY
easy.
I
want
to
take
it
easy."
And
I
think
that's
something
that
a
lot
of
people
can
relate
to,
I
want
to
take
it
easy.
What
I
also
read
at
the
time
was
50
Cent's
50th
law,
and
it
occurred
to
me
that
50
never
takes
it
easy.
Every
fucking
day,
he's
grinding.
He
might
enjoy
himself,
he
might
take
a
short
vacation
but
he
never
takes
it
easy.
We've
talked
a
lot
about
masculinity
today,
and
one
of
the
hall
marks
of
a
man
is
he
never
takes
it
easy,
he
never
kicks
back
his
feet,
he's
always
ready.
He
can
take
a
vacation,
he
can
take
a
break,
he
can
take
an
extended
break
if
you
want,
but
your
work
on
this
earth
is
never
done.
There's
always
someone
else's
life
to
change,
there's
always
someone
else
to
help,
there's
always
a
woman
to
make
happy,
there's
always
a
child
to
help
raise,
your
work
is
never
done.
So
when
you
think
about,
when
is
investment
truly
locked
in,
it's
never
really
locked
in.
It
you
take
your
wife
for
granted,
what
does
the
ring
even
mean.
So
just
a
reminder
of
our
role
as
men,
the
work
that
we
always
have
to
be
doing.
That's
investment
right.
The
final
thing
that
we
have
in
this
whole
matrix
is
check
points,
dating
checkpoints.
This
is
just
going
to
be
head
slappingly
obvious.
You
meet
a
girl,
you
get
her
number,
first
date,
first
kiss,
second
date,
third
date,
maybe
sex
on
that
date.
More
sex,
and
then
the
check
points
get
a
little
bit
off,
but
my
check
points,
the
way
I
like
to
think
about
them
is,
after
the
third
date,
and
after
you
guys
have
sex,
there's
a
phase
of
more
sex,
and
there's
usually
a
point
where
you
guys
spend
Sunday
together.
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THE OBSESSION STORY
The
Sunday
together
is
a
big
check
point.
The
next
point
is
meeting
each
others
friends,
and
next
check
point
after
that
is
boyfriend/girlfriend.
Putting
it
all
together,
and
I
will
just
kind
of
hold
this
up
because
I
don't
have
handouts,
you
can
see
that
there's
this
beautiful
matrix
here
of
impression,
inspection,
intimacy,
and
love,
and
then
the
nice
investment
ladder,
and
then
all
the
stuff
that's
going
down
during
that
process.
I
will
be
sharing
that
with
you
guys
when
we
have
access
to
a
printer,
and
it
will
also
be
online
for
those
watching
it
at
home.
But
you're
just
going
to
have
to
take
my
word
that
it
matches
together
beautifully.
So
that's
that.
It
kind
of
brings
to
a
close
what
we
have
to
talk
about
today.
What
I
gave
you
is
very
high
level
stuff.
We
talked
about
being
an
obsession
worthy
man
and
the
six
traits
of
men
who
women
obsess
over.
We
talked
about
being
boyfriend
material,
seven
things
that
women
deeply
desire
out
of
their
relationships
out
of
their
men.
I
gave
you
30
thousand
foot
view
of
the
dating
game
on
multiple
levels.
If
you
had
that
chart
in
front
of
you,
you'd
see
it
how
it
all
works
together.
Tomorrow
we're
going
to
jump
into
the
dating
game
itself.
We're
going
to
start
with
impression.
We
got
some
really
good
stuff;
how
to
make
a
great
impression
of
a
girl.
I
wish
I
could
get
into
it
right
now,
I
wish
I
could
keep
rolling,
I'm
just
looking
at
the
slides
right
now.
But
yeah,
we're
going
to
have
a
great
day
tomorrow.
Its
going
to
be
full
of
specifics,
full
of
really
detailed
stuff,
like
here's
what
to
do,
here's
what
to
say,
but,
yeah,
I
guess
you
guys
will
just
have
to
wait
for
it
until
tomorrow.
That
is
the
day.
Any
questions
before
I
close
this
segment.
I
know
GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM
THE OBSESSION STORY
that
was
sort
of
heavy
concepts
there.
Any
thoughts
or
questions.
Anything
unclear.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTRO DAY 2
Hey
guys.
Welcome
to
day
2
and
for
those
of
you
at
home,
who
knows
how
long
it's
been
taking
you
to
watch
this,
but
it
might
be
like
hour
5
right
now.
Before
we
move
on
into
the
second
half
of
the
course,
I
wanted
to
just
take
an
opportunity
to
reflect
on
what
we
learned
and
discussed
in
the
first
half
of
the
course,
answer
any
questions
that
you
guys
had
and
also
just
share
a
couple
thoughts
about
what
we
discussed
yesterday
and
what
we
discussed
today.
As
I
was
going
through
everything
that
we're
going
to
be
going
through
today,
I
was
reviewing
it
this
morning
and
a
little
bit
last
night.
I
was
like,
"Wow,
it's
so
mechanical."
A
lot
of
the
stuff
that
we're
going
to
be
doing
today,
it's
very
step-‐by-‐step
and
very
mechanical.
Of
all
the
men
who
we
heard
from
yesterday,
there's
so
many
different
perspectives.
There's
Jason
Capital
with
his
hard
edge
see
you
'til
Wednesday
attitude.
Then
there's
Alex
Allman
with
his
I
love
you
forever
and
ever
and
let
the
universe
merge
our
existence
together
perspective.
Maybe
that's
an
unfair
way
to
encapsulate
the
totality
of
what
those
guys
had
to
share,
but
I
think
it
was
a
really
good
and
diverse
perspective
to
share
those
2
things.
I
wanted
to
reflect
on
just
the
diversity
of
opinions
that
we
had
yesterday
and
then
bring
that
back
into
what
we
are
going
to
be
talking
about
today.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTRO DAY 2
When
I
heard
what
Jason
was
talking
about,
it
reminded
me
of
a
phase
in
my
life,
in
a
time
in
my
life,
when
I
was
going
out,
and
I
was
having
a
lot
of
fun
and
I
was
really
playing
the
field,
if
you
want
to
call
it
that,
and
the
dogmatic
attitude
that
he
has
is
something
that
I
remember
was
very
useful
for
me
when
I
was
going
through
that
phase
of
life.
That
intensity
of
purpose,
of
mission,
of
passion
and
the
0
compromise
approach
to
she's
number
2
is
something
that
I
know
serves
Jason
very
well
and
served
me
very
well
in
a
phase
of
evolution.
You
contrast
that
to
Alex,
and
Alex
and
I
have
an
attitude
which
is
that
your
woman
is
on
equal
and
par
with
your
mission
and
your
work,
and
you
have
to
figure
out
a
way
to
balance
the
2
if
you're
going
to
have
a
successful
long-‐term
relationship.
I
know
that
I
did
not
have
the
attitude
for
a
long
time,
for
a
long,
long
time.
That
attitude,
that
internal
set
of
values
changed
as
it
became
more
useful
to
me
and
as
I
realized
I
truly
do
want
a
long-‐term
relationship,
and
I
truly
do
want
to
have
a
loving,
giving
relationship
where
I'm
able
to
surrender
myself
to
a
woman.
I
think
this
is
where
a
lot
of
guys
get
things
wrong
and
mess
things
up
and
end
up
hating
women
is
they
surrender
themselves
to
a
woman
who's
not
fully
matured
or
not
a
whole
human
being
or
has
issues
of
her
own,
and
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTRO DAY 2
let's
face
it,
we
all
have
issues
of
our
own.
Then,
something
goes
wrong
in
the
relationship.
Maybe
it's
the
guy
who
messes
it
up.
Maybe
it's
the
woman
who
messes
it
up,
but
whatever
the
case,
they
end
up
having
a
very
polarizing
attitude
about
a
woman's
place
in
their
life.
I
don't
want
to
say
that
there's
1
right
way
or
1
wrong
way.
What
Jason
does
works
extremely
well
for
him,
and
I
know
that
as
he
continues
to
grow
and
mature
as
a
man
his
personality
and
his
character
will
go
through
transition,
and
we'll
see
where
he
ends
up,
but
no
matter
what,
I
know
that
what
he's
doing
is
going
to
be
right
for
him.
I
know
that
what
Alex
does
is
incredibly
right
for
him.
I
saw
different
people
in
the
audience
resonating
differently
with
both
of
those
guys.
It's
like
you
listen
to
Jason
talk,
and
you're
like,
"Yeah.
Yeah."
That
makes
sense.
Then
you
listen
to
Alex
talk,
and
you're
like,
"Wow.
That
sounds
amazing."
I'm
not
picking
those
2
for
any
particular
reason
other
than
that
they
represent
such
polar
perspectives
on
a
woman's
role
in
your
life.
What
I'd
suggest
to
you
is
that
there
is
no
1
right
way
to
approach
it.
It's
just
this
is
really
going
to
be
a
process
of
your
own
maturation
and
your
own
ability
to
be
truthful
in
a
relationship
and
to
be
truthful
to
yourself
in
that
relationship
and
whichever
path
you
choose
to
pursue
is
going
to
be
the
right
one
for
you.
This
is
one
of
those
things
we
have
to
leave
to
the
universe
and
let
happen.
Along
those
lines,
leaving
things
to
the
universe
and
having
genuine
conversations,
so
much
of
what
we
teach
here
and
this
course
specifically
is
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very
structural,
very
do
this,
then
do
that,
then
do
that.
The
thing
that
has
catapulted
this
business
to
success
and
certainly
if
you're
watching
this
at
home,
the
reason
you’re
probably
watching
this
is
you
saw
our
marketing,
and
you're
like,
"Okay,
a
step-‐by-‐step
system
for
going
from
meeting
a
girl,
to
number,
to
date,
to
girlfriend."
That's
as
much
as
possible
what
I've
attempted
to
provide,
but
sitting
there
listening
to
Alex
yesterday
reminded
me
of
something
I
almost
lost
in
the
development
of
this
program
and
that's
the
magic
and
mystery
of
each
new
relationship.
I
spoke
to
that
a
little
bit
yesterday,
that
nervous
feeling
I
got
when
my
current
girlfriend
and
I
were
texting
each
other,
and
I
wasn't
sure
if
she
was
going
to
get
back
to
me
about
that
1
party
date.
That
is
the
magic
and
the
mystery
of
this.
Even
though
I'm
going
to
be
giving
you
the
very
step-‐by-‐
step
stuff
here,
I
want
you
to
think
of
this
stuff
as
a
baseline
and
a
foundation,
and
I
think
that
the
real
fun
of
it,
and
the
real
joy
of
dating
isn't
going
through
the
process.
It
is
in
experiencing
that
mystery.
It
is
in
wondering
if
she
really
likes
you.
It
is
in
that
moment
when
she
writes
you
back,
and
she's
like,
"Yeah.
I'm
on
for
the
date."
It's
that
moment
right
before
the
kiss
when
you're
not
sure
if
she's
going
to
actually
kiss
you,
and
then
you
go
for
it,
and
it
happens,
and
it's
amazing.
I
just
wanted
to
make
sure
we
got
that
out
there
before
we
get
into
all
this,
"do
this,
then
do
that
stuff"
today
because
if
that's
lost,
that
to
me
is
the
magic
of
being
a
human
and
the
magic
of
relationships.
If
that
stuff's
lost,
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then
you're
really
missing
out
on
what
I
would
argue
is
the
best
part
of
the
relationship
which
is
the
mystery,
which
is
the
discovery
process,
which
is
just
falling
in
love
and
discovering
a
real
human
being.
That's
my
little
thought
before
we
head
into
all
this.
I
also
want
to
pause
and
ask
does
anybody
have
questions
or
comments
or
thoughts
based
on
things
they
learned
yesterday,
things
they
experienced
last
night,
or
anything
else
that
came
up
yesterday?
I
see
a
hand
going
up.
Brian:
I
was
making
out
with
this
chick
last
night
after
...
Thank
you.
Thank
you.
Christian:
Yes,
all
right.
You
were
making
out
with
this
chick
...
So,
I'm
closing
this
chick,
right.
Brian:
We
were
at
a
party,
and
I
grabbed
her
arm,
and
I
was
like,
you're
really
pretty.
Then
I
told
her
to
dance
with
me.
Brian:
Yes.
We
were
making
out,
and
I
got
her
number
and
texted
her
so
she
could
have
my
number
while
we
were
making
out.
Then
she
texted
me
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back
at
4:53am
which
was
like
5
hours
later.
My
question
for
you
is
when
should
I
text
her
back
and
what
should
I
say?
Christian:
Right.
Your
text
to
her
at
night
...
What
was
the
text
you
sent
her?
Brian:
I
just
said,
"Hey,
it's
Brian,"
but
that's
while
I
was
still
with
her,
so
she
could
have
my
number.
Christian: Was it yo with just 1 "O" or multiple "O"s?
Christian:
5
"O"s.
That's
a
big
deal.
The
more
vowels
that
someone
adds
to
certain
words
in
texting
the
more
playful
they
are.
It's,
I
don't
know,
one
of
these
stupid
rules,
but,
that's
awesome
dude.
That's
awesome.
Congrats.
Brian: Thanks.
Christian:
1st
text,
so
we've
got
a
whole
bunch
of
1st
texts
in
our
"how
to
text
her"
course.
1
of
my
favorite,
the
one
that
I'll
always
tell
a
guy
to
use,
it
comes
from
my
buddy
Rob
Judge.
He's
got
a
great
course
called
magnetic
messaging.
It's
something
like,
"Hey,
having
a
cup
of
coffee
crafted
by
the
hand
of
God
himself
...
What
are
you
up
to?"
A
great
first
text
...
The
way
that
I
think
about
great
first
texts
is
they
...
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTRO DAY 2
We're
going
to
talk
about
this
a
little
later,
but
they
paint
a
very
funny
picture
in
a
woman's
mind.
The
way
to
think
about
them
is
if
you're
writing
it,
and
you
think
to
yourself,
"Wow,
this
is
a
really
funny
visual
picture,"
then
it's
probably
a
really
good
first
text.
One
of
my
first
texts,
I
think
this
is
in
"how
to
text
her"
is
something
like,
"There's
this
pigeon
staring
at
me
from
the
window
sill
right
now
...
He's
got
this
look
on
his
face
like
he
knows
something
evil
that
I
did
...
How
is
your
day
going?"
It's
like
this
funny
visual
image
and
sort
of
compels
a
response
because
it's
very
different
than
anything
that
other
guys
are
going
to
send.
That's
number
1.
Number
2,
she
sent
you
a
text
at
4:53,
so
context
is
massive
in
text
messaging.
I
really
go
into
this
in
"how
to
text
her."
The
amount
of
time
it
takes
to
respond
is
really
important
and
in
this
case,
she
texted
you
at
4:53.
It's
currently
10:30am.
She
is
likely
sleeping
or
hungover.
If
you
were
to
text
her
right
now
after
making
out
with
her
last
night,
she'd
probably
be
like,
who
is
this
healthy,
got
his
life
together
guy
who
is
texting
me
so
early
after
making
out
with
me
last
night.
I
would
just
give
this
some
space.
I'd
probably
send
her
a
text
like
3:00,
4:00.
You
could
also
respond
with
something
like
...
This
is
just
coming
to
mind
right
now.
You
could
respond
with
something
like,
"Just
had
the
most
amazing
pineapple
macadamia
pancakes
fro
brunch
...
so
necessary
today
...
how
are
you
doing?"
It's
not
a
massive
laugh
that
you're
going
to
get,
but
you're
empathizing
with
her
situation
which
is
the
fact
that
she's
probably
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having
a
late
lunch,
and
you're
having
a
late
lunch,
and
yeah,
that's
how
I'd
go
about
that.
Thanks.
Other
questions
or
comments?
Audience:
I
was
out
at
a
bar
last
week,
managed
to
get
3
numbers,
shot
them
a
text.
I
think
it
was
later
than
night
or
the
day
after.
Didn't
really
hear
anything
back,
and
then
yesterday
2
of
them
randomly
shot
me
a
text.
I
was
curious
what
was
up
with
the
time
gap,
and
how
do
I
move
forward
with
that.
Christian:
First
of
all,
it
could
always
be
AT&T.
I'm
just
kidding.
We've
always
had
those
issues.
No,
a
week
would
be
a
little
bit
of
time.
What
was
the
text
that
you
sent
to
them?
Audience:
One
was
the
day
after.
"Crazy
night.
In
desperate
need
of
a
Tylenol
and
a
prayer."
That
one.
Audience: No.
Christian:
Not
at
all.
Okay.
Maybe
it's
not
such
a
good
text.
The
other
2,
was
it
the
same
text
that
you
responded
with
or-‐
Audience:
Just
joking
about
something
that
had
happened
the
night
before
within
the
interaction
with
the-‐
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Christian:
Call
backing.
Got
you.
It
could
be
any
number
of
things.
One
of
the
things
we'll
talk
about
today
is
it
could
be
that
girls
are
crazy.
It
could
be
that
they've
got
a
boyfriend
in
their
life.
It
could
be
that
...
It
could
be
something
external
that
you
can't
control.
That's
always
a
possibility,
but
then
there's
also,
"Hey,
I
want
to
get
better
at
this,
and
there's
things
I
can
do."
I
would
say
that
number
1
is
maybe
she
didn't
feel
as
strong
a
connection,
and
the
impression
you
made
wasn't
like
(snaps
fingers).
It
didn't
grab
her
the
way
we
want
it
to
grab
her
and
the
way
that
I'll
talk
about
how
to
grab
her
in
this.
That's
probably
the
biggest
reason
is
the
connection
and
impression
that
you
made
did
not
stick,
so
hopefully
some
of
this
stuff
we'll
talk
about
today
will
make
it
stick
better.
In
general,
I
think
we
talked
about
this
yesterday,
it's
that
right
combination
of
being
really
fun
...
Actually
I
don't
think
we
talked
about
fun
yesterday,
but
the
impression
stage
to
me
is
about
being
very
fun.
It's
about
being
dominance
and
about
introducing
just
a
little
bit
of
sexuality,
getting
those
things
together
and
getting
them
right,
so
she
has
really
good
feelings
associated
with
you,
and
there's
a
little
bit
of
mystery
and
all
that.
Audience:
I
would
say
one
of
them
it
was
a
plan
text
that
they
texted
back,
"Hey
stranger."
Christian: "Hey stranger," that's what they wrote back to you?
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Audience:
Yeah.
Yesterday.
Then
another
one,
late,
around
1am.
It
was
like,
"Oh
my
God.
I'm
so
sorry
I
didn't
text
you
back.
I
got
really
busy."
Christian:
There's
a
number
of
things
you
could
say.
One
of
them,
the
one
who
was
really
sorry,
I'd
be
like,
"You
know
it's
okay.
I've
only
been
crying
all
week
...
Now
you
owe
me
a
glass
of
wine
for
breaking
my
heart."
Something
like
that,
or
"Now
you
owe
me
a
pint
of
Ben
&
Jerry's."
I
always
like
fat
chick
jokes,
the
stuff
that
...
If
somebody's
at
home
trying
to
console
themselves
and
watching
TV
...
That's
the
visual
image
that
I
like
to
...
Because
obviously
it's
not,
so
it's
a
funny
contrast.
I
would
do
something
like
that
and
just
a
little
bit
of
qualification
like,
"Guess
who
owes
me
a
glass
of
wine
right
now,"
something
like
that.
Then
I
would
...
did
you
get
abducted
by
aliens.
We
can
work
through
it.
It's
so
funny,
man.
Texting
is
always
like,
"Oh
gosh."
It's
always
the
thing
that
hangs
everybody
up,
and
I
get
that,
but
we'll
be
talking
about
that
a
little
bit
today,
too,
so
cool.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
Hi,
guys!
What
I
want
to
talk
about
right
now
is
what
I
affectionately
refer
to
as
King
Game,
which
is
where
you
are
the
king,
and
this
is
something
that
...
If
you
think
about
it,
you
spend
a
lot
of
time
going
out,
talking
to
girls,
going
to
bars.
Every
time
you
go
out,
you're
starting
afresh
more
or
less.
If
you
build
up
your
life
with
great
passive
value,
if
you
become
the
king
of
your
own
life,
then
you
start
to
generate
what
I
would
call
compound
interest
on
your
social
investments.
As
a
strategy,
as
a
social
strategy
in
my
own
life,
what
I
started
to
do
several
...
probably
10
years
ago,
I
was
like,
"I'm
not
going
to
work
so
hard
at
going
out
to
bars
and
learning
pick
up.
I'm
going
to
learn
or
work
on
having
really
cool
friends,
either
having
a
great
place
to
go
or
being
friends
with
somebody
who's
got
a
great
place
to
go,
and
bringing
a
lot
of
value
to
social
situations
so
that
I
can
be
the
boss,
the
king,
whatever."
In
those
social
situations,
the
big
win
is
that
women
are
generally
very
responsive
to
value
and
status.
If
you
are
one
of
the
highest
value
or
highest
status
of
men
in
the
room,
because
of
the
value
that
you
created,
no
wonder
he's
naturally
attracted
to
you.
A
lot
of
the
hard
work
is
done.
The
core
of
King
Game
is
putting
yourself
in
the
best
possible
light
that
women
want
to
be
a
part
of.
I'll
repeat
that.
Putting
yourself
in
the
best
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
possible
light
that
women
want
to
be
a
part
of.
It's
not
going
to
be
all
women
because,
listen
if
you
want
to
do
the
models
and
bottles
crowd,
you're
going
to
need
a
certain
type
of
woman,
and
you're
going
to
have
to
be
a
certain
type
of
guy.
For
me,
it
was
just
very
simple.
Have
really
cool
friends
who
reflect
the
values
that
I
share,
have
cool
spaces
to
get
people
together,
and
have
fun.
It's
just
that
simple.
You're
going
to
establish
alpha
status
in
that
way
by
being
a
leader
of
this
cool,
high
value
scene.
Again,
how
do
you
describe
the
owner,
the
facilitator,
the
connector?
You
can
add
value
simply
by
being
the
connector.
I
always
tell
guys,
"Hey,
listen,
if
you
don't
have
a
place
to
throw
a
party,
just
be
the
one
who
finds
the
guy
who's
got
a
really
cool
place
and
he's
not
having
parties
and
be
the
one
who
brings
the
party
to
him
because
that
guy
needs
to
party."
In
my
life,
I've
got
a
few
examples.
I've
been
the
DJ.
Sometimes,
I've
been
the
cook.
I've
had
a
friend,
who
he
lived
with
his
father
for
years,
but
he
and
I
are
really
good
friends.
He'd
come
to
my
house
and
he
would
always
be
the
cook.
He
was
in
charge
of
the
kitchen,
like
woe
betide
you
if
you
fuck
with
him
when
he
was
in
the
kitchen.
He
would
have
people
do
stuff.
He
was
a
king
of
the
kitchen.
I'd
be
the
host,
the
host
of
the
party,
kind
of
obvious.
Or
even
I
had
a
friend
who
...
we
called
this
guy
the
99
Bananas
Guy.
You
all
know
99
Bananas?
Anybody?
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I'm
so
not
surprised
both
of
you
know
99
Bananas.
It's,
in
my
opinion,
one
of
the
best
liquors
ever
invented,
but
depending
on
who
we
talk
to,
it
could
also
be
the
worst.
It's
a
very
high
proof
liquor
that
is
flavored
like
bananas.
There
is
a
guy,
who
every
party
he
showed
up
to,
he
showed
up
with
99
Bananas.
You
don't
sip
it.
You
shoot
99
Bananas.
This
is
not
a
sip
in
alcohol.
If
there's
that,
there's
going
to
be
shots,
and
where
there
are
shots,
there's
going
to
be
people
having
fun.
This
guy
Chris,
he'd
get
a
lot
of
stuff
going
for
him,
but
whatever
party
he
went
to,
he
was
the
99
Bananas
guy.
He'd
just
show
up.
When
Chris
walked
in
the
door,
everybody
knew
what
he
was
carrying
with
him.
It
was
like,
"Oh
shit!
It's
that
time."
He'd
be
like,
"It
is!"
He'd
pull
it
out,
and
everybody
knew,
and
the
girls
who
didn't
know
him
would
see
everybody's
attention
go
to
Chris,
and
he'd
be
holding
up
this
fucking
bottle
of
99
Bananas.
All
of
a
sudden,
everybody's
attention's
on
him.
He's
not
the
host.
He's
just
one
of
the
esteemed
guest
of
the
parties,
but
he's
a
rock
star
because
he's
established
that
value
for
himself.
A
more
domesticated
version
of
that,
my
girlfriend
makes
what
I
would
argue
to
be
the
best
artichoke
dip
in
the
world.
These
days,
when
we
show
up
to
parties,
we
bring
the
artichoke
dip,
and
you'd
better
believe
that
we
are
like,
everybody's
sort
of,
they're,
"Ah,
did
you
bring
the
artichoke
dip?"
Just
being
the
person
who
brings
that
one
thing
that
everybody
wants
and
everybody's
excited
about
and
establishing
that
pattern
for
yourself.
I
used
to
do
this
thing,
and
I
got
into
a
little
trouble
doing
this
because
I
didn't
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
have
enough
money
at
the
time,
but
I
would
do
this
thing
where
I
went
out
to
night
clubs
and
my
shtick
was
10
shots
of
Patron.
I
would
be
with
my
crew,
and
I'd
use
some
promoters.
I'd
be
like,
"Waitress,
10
shots
of
Patron."
There
is
something
about
10
shots
of
Patron
showing
up
at
the
table
that
you're
creating
a
party.
Just
a
few
examples.
I
got
known,
is
that
I'd
walk
in
and
people
would
know.
Then
you're
expected
to
keep
buying
10
shots
of
Patron.
It
sucks
me
to
switch
to
Don
Julio.
People
don't
like
that.
Or
not
Don
Julio.
What's
the
shitty
one?
The
second
part
is
get
your
friends
to
pimp
you
out.
I
know
this
sounds
weird,
but
you
should
have
honest
conversations
with
your
friends.
If
they
like
you,
if
they
respect
you,
they
know
you're
single,
just
be
honest
with
them.
Be
like,
"Yo,
can
you
talk
to
her
about
how
awesome
I
am?"
You'd
be
surprised.
They'd
be
like,
"Actually,
yeah,
I
can."
How
do
you
engender
this
respect
that
allows
them
to
do
that,
is
you
be
an
awesome
friend
to
them
first.
This
is
just
human
being
awesomeness
101
is
be
an
awesome
friend
to
your
friends.
Take
care
of
them.
Go
out
of
your
way
for
them.
If
something
goes
wrong
for
them
...
I'm
not
going
to
dwell
on
that,
but
be
an
awesome
friend
for
them,
you
can
expect
them
to
be
awesome
in
return.
There's
been
plenty
of
times
where
I'd
been
like,
"Hey,
man,
listen,
this
girl,
I'm
really
interested
in
her.
I'm
going
to
leave
you
alone
with
her
for
just
a
second.
Can
you
just
talk
about
how
fucking
great
I
am?"
My
buddy's
like,
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
"Yeah,
sure.
Cool."
I'm
gone.
I
come
back.
The
girl's
like,
"He
was
just
telling
me
how
you
did
this
and
that."
I'm
like,
"Was
he
telling
you
that
stuff?
Gosh,
that's
so
nice."
Just
ask
your
friends
to
talk
you
up.
If
you're
a
good
guy,
if
you're
an
honest
guy,
they
will.
The
things
that
you
want
them
to
be
talking
about
if
you're
really
going
to
start
guiding
them,
then
I've
had
this
conversations
with
a
couple
of
my
buddies.
We'll
deal
with
each
other.
This
is
winging.
I
want
them
to
talk
about
how
hardworking
I
am,
what
a
risk-‐taker
I
am,
and
what
a
leader
I
am.
Those
are
the
three
things.
Hardworking,
risk-‐taker,
and
leader.
I
don't
necessarily
want
them
to
be
like,
"Yeah,
he's
the
best
partier
in
the
world.
Every
time
we
go
out
to
the
club,
he's
the
one
dancing
on
the
couch
with
all
the
model
chicks."
That's
probably
not
what
they
should
be
saying
to
the
girl
who
I
want
as
my
girlfriend.
They
should
be
saying
like,
"This
guy,
he's
just
so
solid.
Just
the
way
he
takes
care
of
his
employees,
the
way
he
works
with
his
customers.
He's
always
coming
up
with
new
things
and
new
plans."
Sometimes
they're
a
little
crazy,
but
it's
like
those
are
the
conversations
you
want
him
to
be
having
with
her.
Then
a
third
party
King
game
is
just
bringing
a
girl
into
your
life
the
right
way.
That's
the
big
point.
What
do
I
mean
by
that?
Just
bringing
a
girl
into
your
life
with
fun
activities
that
you've
already
planned,
stuff
that
you're
already
planning
to
do
with
your
buddies.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
You
have
the
surfing
day
or
the
snowboarding
club.
Or
you
are
doing
Wednesday
wine
and
classic
movie
nights.
Something
like
that.
I'll
give
you
a
few
examples
later.
These
really
cool
things
that
you're
just
doing
as
a
part
of
your
life,
invite
the
girl
to
them.
It's
worth
taking
a
moment
to
say
this
because
I
know
that
I
used
to
be
...
I
remember
when
I'm
24,
my
whole
winter
was
I
stayed
at
home,
and
I
got
stoned
every
night,
and
I
cookie
dough,
and
I
watched
South
Park
on
my
laptop.
You
couldn't
pick
a
more
crappy
single
life.
It
was
sad.
I
looked
back
on
my
life
in
the
last
10
years.
I'm
34
now,
and
I
looked
back
in
my
life
the
last
10
years,
it's
like,
I
had
to
break
out
of
the
rot,
and
I
start
doing
awesome
shit.
Sometimes
we
go
on
to
YouTube
and
we'll
post
comments.
I've
got
this
Mexico
story
you'll
be
hearing
in
a
moment.
It's
a
great
story,
this
awesome
thing
I
did.
Guys
listen
a
little
bit.
Dude,
I've
never
done
something
like
that,
I'll
be
honest
with
you.
I
would
just
say
to
anyone.
I
don't
mean
to
sound
like
a
dick,
but
this
is
your
fucking
life,
and
if
you're
not
living
it
as
awesomely
as
you
can,
then
you're
missing
out.
I
was
sitting
at
home
watching
South
Park
and
cookie
dough
and
getting
high,
what
a
waste
of
fucking
life.
I
always
wanted
to
go
skydiving.
I
finally
did
it.
Swam
with
whale
sharks,
climb
a
volcano.
These
are
things
in
some
cases,
they
might
take
money,
in
some
cases
they
don't,
but
just
...
I
know
it
sounds
like
a
dick
as
I
say,
but
this
is
your
fucking
life.
Do
cool
things
with
it
and
make
it
a
point
to
do
cool
things
with
it.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
Orient
your
life
so
you
do
cool
things
with
your
life,
and
that's
how
you
have
awesome
stories
to
share
with
girls,
and
that's
how
you
bring
girls
into
these
things.
Just
a
little
wake
up
call
if
you're
like
I
was.
You're
sitting
at
home
and
just
letting
life
pass
you
by.
To
recap
that
section,
King
Game
is
very
simple.
It's
just
do
cool
stuff
with
your
life.
Invite
girls
into
it.
Create
value,
and
let
other
guys
look
up
to
you
because
you're
the
one
who
created
all
these
value.
Now
that’s
the
light
side
of
King
Game.
That's
how
you
create
the
environment
for
girls
to
be
attracted
to
you.
How
do
you
manage
and
manipulate
the
social
situation
on
your
end?
This
is
what
I
can
the
dark
side
of
King
Game.
This
is
where
we
start
to
apply
some
social
dynamics,
and
we
start
making
things
a
little
bit
more
useful
in
our
favor.
There's
a
story
about
my
friend
David
Tian.
When
he
was
getting
into
the
world
of
dating
advice,
somehow
he
crossed
paths
with
a
Chinese
mafioso.
We
always
thought
this
is
a
great
way
to
illustrate
the
notion
of
what
we
call
value
transference.
In
the
Chinese
mafioso
world,
what
he
noticed
is
he
had
this
...
I
don't
know
how
he
got
connected
with
these
guys,
but
he's
going
to
these
gang
rooms
and
there'd
be
a
gang
boss
in
the
gang
room.
There'd
be
the
gang
members,
and
the
gang
members
were
beneath
or
lower
in
status
to
the
gang
boss.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
The
gang
boss
never
talked.
He's
the
boss.
He
didn't
have
to
talk.
Everybody
worked
for
him.
Every
now
and
then,
a
gang
member
would
bring
a
girl
in,
and
he
would
be
interested
in
her.
The
boss
would
be
interested
in
the
girl.
He'd
call
the
gang
member
over,
and
the
guy
would
start
talking
to
him.
The
gang
member
is
so
differential
to
the
boss
that
the
girl's
attraction
would
just
transfer
right
from
the
gang
member
on
to
the
boss.
That's
really
what
we're
working
with
here
is
we're
working
with
what
we
call
value
transference,
where
a
girl
values
either
the
scene
you
create
or
some
people
in
it,
and
where
if
you
are
the
alpha
and
you're
able
to
do
some
of
the
stuff
that
I'm
going
to
share
with
you,
her
interest
in
the
value
that
she
ascribes
to
that
scene
and
those
people
is
going
to
transfer
on
to
you.
That
clear
that
concept
of
value
transference
and
how
it
can
work.
Maybe
we've
seen
this
happen
in
our
own
lives,
with
people
who
are
higher
status
are
more
alpha
male.
How
do
we
establish
that
alpha
status.
Here's
a
few
steps.
I've
been
through
some
of
these
already,
but
this
should
be
the
step-‐
by-‐step.
Create
and
be
the
leader
of
a
high
value
scene.
Could
be
dinner
parties.
Could
be
DJing,
what-‐have-‐you.
Second
thing
is
find
cool,
unique
guys
to
complement
you.
Some
cool
and
unique
guys
in
this
room
right
here.
Proportionally
many
of
you
will
be
spreading
across
the
continental
USA.
Find
some
cool
unique
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
guys
to
complement
you.
You
want
to
be
a
part
of
that
scene.
You
can
call
them
wing
man.
You
can
call
them
your
boys.
You
can
call
them
whatever.
Step
three.
Lead
by
creating
value
for
everyone.
This
is
where
you
do
the
work,
you
get
the
perks.
Create
the
value.
You're
the
one
who's
combing
through
the
blogs
and
trying
to
find
a
cool
new
bar
that
everybody
wants
to
check
out
but
nobody's
heard
of
yet.
You're
the
one
who's
doing
the
work
organizing
the
party,
who's
finding
the
best
mountain
to
go
to
for
snowboarding,
who's
contacting
the
skydiving
company
and
doing
all
the
research
to
see
which
skydiving
company
is
the
best
one
to
be
a
part
of.
You're
the
one
doing
the
work.
You're
creating
the
value.
You're
the
leader.
When
you're
able
to
do
that,
when
you
are
the
leader,
what
happens
is
you
put
yourself
in
a
position
to
get
tasks
and
approval
to
the
guys
in
the
group.
This
is
a
pivotal
part
of
doing
it.
We're
throwing
a
party
here.
I'm
saying,
"Hey,
we
need
to
move
that
couch
over
that
way.
Evan,
can
you
push
the
couch?"
On
one
hand,
when
I
talk
about
this,
this
sounds
very
conscious.
It
sounds
like
I'm
trying
to
tool
Evan.
On
the
other
hand,
when
I'm
creating
value
by
just
being
the
leader,
it's
not
that
I'm
trying
to
be
alpha.
I've
got
a
vision
of
how
things
need
to
be.
"Hey,
can
you
put
the
couch
over
there?
Awesome,
thanks,
man.
Can
you
guys
move
that
and
actually
when
you
do
this
and
that,
thank
you
so
much.
All
right."
I'm
giving
tasks.
I'm
giving
approval
when
people
complete
the
tasks.
Very
subtle.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
The
next
part
is
the
scene
starts
to
happen.
Things
are
going
down.
Maybe
it's
a
party.
Maybe
it's
skydiving.
Doesn’t
have
to
be
skydiving.
I
just
thought
skydiving
a
good
example.
We
went
with
a
big
group.
Everybody's
really
excited
to
go
up
in
the
air.
Of
course.
I
was
freaked
out,
but
everybody's
excited.
They're
asking
me,
"How
are
you
guys
feeling?"
Everyone's
like,
"Woo!"
My
response
is
like,
"Yeah,
really
excited
about
this."
Your
responses
are
just
a
little
bit
muted.
Think
about
the
gang
boss.
The
gang
boss
is
not
going
to
...
You
take
everybody
to
skydiving,
and
he's
like,
"All
right!"
Unless
he's
the
leader,
that
he's
the
leader
of
the
group,
that
he's
the
one
who's
got
to
get
everybody
excited,
then
that's
him
creating
the
value,
but
if
somebody
else
is,
battle
start
going
off
in
the
nightclub.
Everybody's
excited,
they're
like,
"Bring
it
this
way."
It's
a
very
subtle
approval,
subtle
acceptance.
You're
not
too
excited
by
everything.
You
just
expect
this
is
what's
going
to
happen.
You're
also
going
to
selectively
ignore
people
when
they
talk.
We'll
demonstrate
that
in
just
a
little
bit,
but
this
is
a
very
powerful
one.
Selectively
ignoring
people.
Then
finally,
you
can
actually
withdraw.
I've
done
this
quite
a
few
times
where
I've
created
the
party.
Everybody's
having
fun.
I've
created
the
value.
I've
given
my
gift
to
the
moment.
Then
I
get
bored
of
it.
I
think
I
want
to
go
read
in
my
room,
something.
There's
a
girl
who
I
was
attracted
to.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
When
you
withdraw,
she
will
come
find
you,
only
if
you
created
the
value
first.
I
have
done
this
time
and
time
and
time
again.
This
was
my
social
strategy.
Create
the
party,
get
everybody
there,
get
everyone
excited,
lead,
bring
the
energy
up,
get
a
few
people
drinking,
taking
shots,
having
fun,
make
sure
that
music's
good,
shake
some
hands,
be
happy,
smiling,
etcetera.
Thing
is
I'm
an
introvert
by
nature,
so
I
naturally
just
get
fatigued
when
I'm
in
social
situations.
They
start
it
off,
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00:16:45]
"I'm
tired
right
now.
I
got
to
go,
chill
out,
take
a
break
from
social
life
for
a
second."
All
of
a
sudden,
there's
a
girl
in
my
room.
"Hey,
where'd
you
go?"
"Just
a
little
tired."
Started
getting
a
little
bit
more.
I
realized,
"Wow,
this
is
a
pattern."
Every
time
I
withdraw,
the
girl
who's
interested
in
me
comes
and
finds
me.
Or
maybe
a
couple
girls
come
and
find
me.
Then
all
of
a
sudden,
there's
a
little
party
in
my
room
and
crazy
shit
happens.
Create
that
value
in
the
room
when
you
withdraw
from
it.
You
are
the
cook
at
a
dinner
party.
You're
leading
everything,
pull
everything
together.
You
get
it
all
on
the
table,
and
you
just
sit
down.
You
chill
out.
People
enjoy
your
creation.
You
don't
have
to
totally
withdraw
at
that
point.
Chill
out.
Those
are
a
couple
of
social
dynamics
you
can
use
to
establish
alpha
status.
Now
there's
another
thing
that's
...
Have
you
guys
seen
the
first
version
of
the
course?
You
heard
me
talk
about
this
before,
the
Genius
Acolyte
and
the
Bozo
Strawman?
Is
this
familiar
with
anyone?
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Again,
it's
something
that
came
out
naturally
in
some
of
my
conversations.
David
Tian
actually
called
me
out.
He
was
like,
"You
do
this
every
time
you're
talking
to
a
girl
who
you
like.
You
got
to
know
this
is
very
effective,
but
it
could
piss
people
off."
I've
heard
a
few
friends
we're
doing
this.
I
didn't
mean
to.
It
just
came
about
once
I
became
conscious
of
it.
I
learned
to
selectively
use
it
rather
than
just
every
time.
The
point
of
this
is
when
you're
talking
to
a
woman,
there's
going
to
be
two
men
in
your
life
who
you
talk
about,
the
genius
acolyte,
the
guy
who
he
learned
everything
from
me,
to
put
in
very
crude
terms,
and
the
bozo
strawman.
The
strawman
is
obviously
someone
who
we
knock
down.
The
bozo
is
this
other
dude
in
your
life.
He's
trying
to
get
it
together,
but
he
just
not
quite
there.
These
are
two
characters
that
you're
going
to
talk
about
in
your
life,
and
the
story
that
you're
going
to
tell
to
the
girl
presumably
on
the
first
date,
maybe
the
second
date
that
comes
out.
It
could
come
out,
the
first
impression
when
you're
meeting
her,
but
less
likely.
The
key
is
to
talk
approvingly
or
disapprovingly
about
these
people.
I'll
use
a
specific
example
in
my
life.
My
genius
acolyte
would
be
this
guy
Fran.
Some
of
you
have
heard
of
Fran
or
talked
to
Fran.
He
started
off
years
ago
as
a
client,
and
now
he
does
a
lot
of
our
marketing,
and
I'm
training
him
to
manage
the
business.
He's
become
amazing.
If
I
were
to
talk
to
a
girl,
maybe
on
a
date,
"Yeah,
I
got
to
tell
you
this
awesome
shit
happening
in
my
company
this
week.
This
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guy
who
I've
been
working
with
for
the
last
few
years,
I
just
saw
him
step
up
to
another
level.
I'm
so
impressed
with
it.
Just
the
way
he's
taking
responsibility,
he's
solving
problems
that
I
didn't
even
expect
him
to
solve,
he's
taking
things
out
that
I
didn't
even
realize
were
issues.
It's
just
awesome
to
see
this
happening."
You
see
how
I'm
talking
about
him
there.
I'm
not
talking
about
him
in
the
sense
like
he
did
this
and
he
did
that
and
I
taught
him
everything
he
knows.
I'm
like,
I
took
this
little
bird
and
I
nurtured
him
a
little
bit,
and
now
he's
out
of
the
cage
and
he's
flying
free
in
the
air.
I'm
not
having
ownership
of
him,
but
I'm
still
discussing
him
in
a
way
that
puts
me
in
a
high
status
position
relative
to
him
and
shows
that
I
have
authority
over
other
men.
That's
the
key.
The
bozo,
on
the
other
hand,
the
bozo
strawman.
I'll
use
a
great
example
from
my
last
relationship,
from
my
current
relationship,
is
when
I
met
my
current
girlfriend,
there
were
two
guys
living
in
my
house.
They're
on
my
couch,
and
they
were
living
there
for
about
...
they've
been
there
for
about
two
and
a
half,
three
weeks.
I
actually
told
her,
"Look,
I'd
love
to
have
you
over,
but
there's
these
guys
who
just
set
up
a
commune
in
my
apartment.
It's
just
a
little
messy
in
there,
so
I
just
want
to
warn
you
about
that
right
now.
She's
like,
"What's
going
on?"
I'm
like,
"I
don't
know.
I
call
them
my
Taco
Bell
Boy
1
and
2
because
I
feel
like
if
there's
Taco
Bell
has
a
target
demographic
of
people
who
watch
and
resonate
with
their
commercials,
it's
these
two
guys."
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Immediately,
you
can
see
I'm
putting
them
down,
kind
of
toying
them,
but
you
got
to
bring
it
around.
You
got
to
say
like,
"But
you
know
what?
I
don't
like
one
of
them
that
much,
but
the
other
one,
he's
a
really
good
dude.
I'm
just
trying
to
give
him
some
space
to
get
his
life
together,
get
a
head
start.
I
was
able
to
go
home
to
my
parents
when
I
fucked
up
my
life.
He
doesn't
really
have
that,
so
he's
just
chilling
there
right
now."
The
key
is
you
talk
about
the
bozo
strawman.
You're
subtly
putting
him
down,
but
you're
at
the
same
time,
being
like,
"But
you
know
what?
He's
a
good
dude.
I'm
trying
to
help
him
out."
That
is
what
makes
you
not
an
asshole
when
you
talk
about
him.
I've
done
this
in
the
past
with
other
guys,
but
like,
"Gosh,
I
really
wish
he
can
get
a
girlfriend.
He's
just
such
a
nice
guy.
He's
really
good
dude.
He
would
treat
somebody
so
well.
I'm
not
quite
sure
what
he's
...
He's
not
getting
it
right
right
now.
Sometimes
we'll
go
out.
He
just
says
the
wrong
thing.
You
can
see
girls
turned
off,
and
I
just
want
to
step
into
it.
No,
no,
no,
but
wait,
he's
a
really
nice
guy."
You
say
that
about
a
guy
in
your
life,
and
it
shows
that
you've
got
some
status
over
him.
I'm
like,
"Look,
I
try
to
help
him
out
a
little
bit.
I
talk
to
him
here
and
there,
but
he
can't
pull
it
quite
together
yet.
Those
two
characters,
when
you're
talking
about
those
people
in
your
life
it's
great
conversation
to
have
on
probably
a
second
date.
You
bring
her
into
your
life.
Those
two
characters
go
long
way
in
establishing
this
alpha
status,
this
idea
that
you're
the
king
of
something.
It's
more
on
a
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
subconscious
level
that's
registered
in
a
girl's
mind,
but
believe
me,
she
will
notice.
How
do
you
balance
against
this
dark
side
that
we're
talking
about
because
we're
talking
about
some
pretty
manipulative
stuff.
We're
talking
about
throwing
one
of
our
friends
under
the
bus.
We're
talking
about
being
a
dick
in
some
ways.
How
do
you
balance
against
this?
Very
simply,
you
cultivate
excellence
in
your
own
life,
and
you
expect
excellence
from
those
around
you.
I
expect
excellence
from
Fran,
and
he
delivers
it,
and
that's
amazing,
so
I
don't
feel
like
I'm
throwing
him
under
the
bus.
I
cultivate
excellence
in
my
life,
and
when
my
friends
don't,
when
they
can't
come
through
on
that,
I
get
disappointed
in
them.
That's
it.
These
things
are
truly
reflections
of
your
feelings
for
other
human
beings
if
you
do
cultivate
excellence
in
your
life.
That
is
that.
Let's
do
a
couple
of
demonstrations
now
of
...
We
talked
about
a
few
ways
to
manage
situational
value
in
the
King
Game
context.
We're
going
to
do
a
few
demonstrations
of
Evan
and
with
Alicia,
and
we're
just
going
to
show
how
I've
...
my
booze
or
game
value.
You
guys
want
to
come
on
up
here?
The
first
one
I
want
to
demonstrate
is
being
introduced
to
a
girl.
This
happened
a
lot.
This
happened
all
the
time
when
I
was
throwing
parties,
is
people
would
bring
their
girls
to
my
house.
There's
worse
things
that
can
happen
if
you're
a
single
guy.
Now
whenever
I'd
meet
the
girl
who
I
really
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liked,
inevitably,
there'd
be
some
really
pretty
girl
who
got
brought
to
the
house,
and
I'm
like,
"I'm
going
to
try
to
see
what
happens
with
her
tonight."
When
I
met
her,
I
did
the
opposite
of
what
you
might
expect.
I
just
ignored
her
a
little
bit.
Let's
imagine
that
you
guys
are
coming
in.
I'm
here,
maybe
I'm
cooking
food.
I'm
in
the
middle
of
dinner.
This
is
exactly
a
play
of
a
scenario
that
happened
with
one
of
my
exes.
I'm
here.
I'm
cooking
food.
You're
going
to
come
in.
You're
going
to
introduce
Alicia,
and
we're
going
to
do
a
little
demonstration
with
my
friend
Evan
and
Alicia.
Jonathan:
I
haven't.
I'm
going
to
look
in
her
eyes
very
briefly,
look
in
her
eyes
very
briefly.
I
look
in
her
eyes.
Come
in.
A
little
kiss
cheek.
Come
back
out,
and
I'm
going
to
look
in
her
eyes
as
I
pull
away,
so
come
and
kiss
check.
"Nice
to
meet
you,"
and
then
just
off.
My
attention's
off
her.
This
is
really
important.
The
direct
eye
contact
when
you
meet
her.
It
makes
that
first
impression,
that
little
jolt
of
electricity.
You
come
in
for
the
kiss.
You
pull
her
a
little
bit.
Little
kiss
on
the
cheeks,
so
you're
a
welcoming
host.
It
introduces
a
slight
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amount
of
sexuality
in
the
conversation.
You
pull
back
out.
You
make
the
eye
contact
again,
so
you're
making
that
connection
one
more
time,
and
you're
just
off.
She's
like,
"Whoa!
Where
did
that
attention
go?"
In
the
past,
when
I
didn't
really
understand
these
dynamics,
what
I
might
look
like,
it'd
be
like,
"Hey,
nice
to
meet
you.
How
do
you
guys
know
each
other?"
All
of
my
attention
is
on
her.
That
doesn't
create
the
mystery.
This
exact
scenario
is
...
I
love
demonstrating
this
because
this
is
...
my
very
first
cover
model
girlfriend,
this
is
how
we
got
introduced.
She
told
me,
subsequently
she's
like,
"The
fact
that
you
ignored
me
as
soon
as
you
met
me
but
made
that
eye
contact
with
me,
I
was
just
thinking
about
you
for
the
next
40
minutes.
Who
is
this
guy?"
Maybe
I
didn't
have
the
same
effect
on
you.
I'm
a
little
rusty
these
days.
That's
example
number
one.
Number
two,
we're
going
to
show
how
to
deal
with
a
guy
who
you
want
to
put
down
a
little
bit
in
status.
What
we're
going
to
do
here
is
I'm
going
to
walk
up
to
a
conversation
that
you
guys
are
already
having,
and
I'm
going
to
...
We'll
just
play
it
by
ear.
I'm
just
going
to
ignore
you
for
a
little
bit.
I'm
going
to
grab
my
phone.
This
is
the
key
prop.
A
little
bit
of
context
on
this
one.
I'm
friends
with
a
couple
guys,
who
one
of
them
owns
a
nightclub
in
town.
The
other
one
is
one
of
the
top
promoters
in
Miami.
These
guys,
when
they're
out
at
night,
I
don't
know
if
promoters
every
now
and
then,
but
then
guys
are
out,
they'll
be
talking
to
you
and
they'll
be
in
mid
conversation
and
they'll
just
whip
out
their
phone
and
start
texting.
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I
just
realized
it's
part
of
the
job.
That’s
because
they
got
to
get
people
into
the
club,
but
it's
huge
...
You're
just
talking
to
them,
and
they're
talking
to
you,
and
all
of
a
sudden,
they're
just
like,
"Where
the
fuck
did
his
attention
go?"
We'll
do
a
little
demo
on
that
right
now.
You
guys
are
in
the
middle
of
your
conversation
or
whatever,
maybe
talking
about
Sri
Lanka.
Evan: This is great, man. It's just like middle school all over, right?
Evan: We're just talking about how we are dressed like middle school.
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Jonathan:
I
got
the
memo
that
says
I'm
supposed
to
look
cool,
but
you
look
beautiful.
Those
colors
look
great
on
you.
I
don't
about
why
you're
wearing
that.
Actually,
this
isn't
working
out
at
all,
but
I
did
tool
you.
I
guess
it's
a
good
demo
in
one
way.
Let's
do
this
instead.
I'll
start
talking
to
you.
We'll
be
in
the
middle
of
the
conversation,
and
you'll
come
join
us.
Sorry
about
that.
We'll
be
in
the
middle
of
the
conversation.
You'll
just
come
join
us.
What's
really
important
is
you
really
engage
in
the
conversation.
You
really
try
to
engage
Alicia.
I'll
be
like,
"Oh,
yeah,
we're
just
talking
about
cool
places
that
we've
gone
in
the
world."
Then
you'll
be
like
...
Jonathan:
I
really
want
you
to
be
like,
"Oh,
yeah,
I
just
got
back
from
...
or
I'm
just
going
to
...
or
whatever."
We're
in
the
middle
of
this
conversation.
It's
got
Evan
over
there.
I'm
like,
"Costa
Rica's
got
to
be
one
of
my
favorites."
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Evan: Hi.
Alicia: Hi.
Alicia: Alicia.
Jonathan: We're just talking about cool places we've been in the world.
Alicia: I know. I've been, yeah. It's weird, but it's awesome.
Evan:
I'm
headed
to
actually
to
Sri
Lanka
in
a
couple
of
weeks.
I
have
a
new
job,
and
we
won
this
award
from
the
UN.
We're
going
there
to
accept
it,
and
meet
the
prince
or
something
like
that.
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Jonathan:
Dude,
your
story's
too
fucking
good.
That's
about
ideal.
That's
the
idea.
I
can't
do
that.
I
can't
compete.
We're
meeting
the
prince.
I'm
looking
at
my
cellphone.
Evan: You put up the phone, I'm going like this.
Jonathan:
It's
hard
to
compete
with
the
person
who's
going
to
Sri
Lanka
and
meeting
the
prince.
That's
a
demonstration
of
the
technique,
and
most
guys
do
not
have
that
cool
of
a
story.
You
noticed
I
looked
down.
I
looked
away.
I'm
just
ignoring
him,
whip
out
my
phone.
I'm
like
bored.
I'm
like,
"Okay,
fuck
this.
Whatever."
Just
really
not
paying
attention.
That's
how
you
selectively
ignore
a
guy.
Another
thing
that
we
can
do
is
if
you
want
to
repeat
that
same
thing,
I'm
just
going
to
burn
a
hole
in
your
skull
while
you're
talking.
You'll
watch
the
lack
of
expression
on
my
face
is
the
key
thing.
You and I are talking. "So you've never been to Costa Rica."
Alicia: I've never been. It's on my list. I'd love to go, but ...
Evan: Hey, guys. How's it going? Good to see you, man.
Evan: Hey
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Jonathan: We're just talking about cool places to go in the world.
Alicia: I've been to India. I've never really gone to waterfalls. I'd love to go.
Evan:
I
haven't
been
to
India,
but
I'm
going
pretty
nearby.
I'm
going
to
Sri
Lanka.
Evan:
For
work.
I
just
started
this
new
job,
and
we
won
this
award
from
the
UN.
I
get
to
meet
the
princes
and
accept
the
award
and
do
all
the
cool
stuff.
I'm
excited
about
it.
Evan: Totally.
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Jonathan:
Good,
that
was
it.
Just
like
burning
a
hole
in
his
skull
and
get
the
fuck
out
of
my
conversation.
It's
basically
what
my
body
language,
my
body
is
saying
at
that
moment.
That's
one.
Here's
another
one
though.
Here's
the
flip
side
of
this,
and
this
is
great
for
when
you're
winging
somebody
or
work
with
your
wing
man
on
this
so
that
they
do
it
to
you.
I'm
going
to
introduce
Alicia
to
Evan,
and
I'm
going
to
tell,
make
a
little
accomplishment
intro
is
what
we
call
them,
and
now
you're
going
to
watch
my
expression
as
Evan
talks.
I'm
going
to
be
very
expressive.
I'm
giving
him
all
of
my
body
language.
I'm
going
to
actually
position.
I'm
going
to
almost
turn
my
back
to
Alicia
as
I
talk
to
Evan.
Jonathan: Great to see you, too. This is my friend Alicia.
Alicia: Hi.
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Jonathan:
Dude,
we
are
just
talking
about
awesome
places
we've
been
in
the
world,
waterfalls,
places
we
want
to
go.
Aren't
you
going
to
somewhere
cool
to
meet
someone
important.
Evan:
Yeah,
man.
This
is
really
awesome.
I
just
started
this
new
job,
and
we're
going
to
Sri
Lanka.
We
won
an
award
from
the
UN.
Evan: Crazy.
Jonathan:
Very
subtle,
but
that
was
good
enough.
I
don't
know
if
you
guys
caught
that.
Just
you
watch
my
shoulder,
it
almost
became
like
Alicia
was
not
in
the
room.
It
was
like
just
me
and
Evan
for
a
moment.
Jonathan:
Here's
what
I
was
going
to
do.
The
key
part
is
if
Alicia
in
that
moment
had
been
attracted
to
me
or
at
least
wanted
to
be
a
part
of
this,
let's
say
not
attracted,
but
at
least
she
puts
a
value
on
me.
She
has
some
value
because
of
our
conversation.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
She's
enjoying
it.
Unfortunately,
I'm
taken
and
I
just
can't
give
her
the
love
that
she
needs,
but
Evan
is
a
great
pick
for
her,
and
I
want
her
and
Evan
to
just
something
to
work
between
them.
What
I'm
going
to
do
is
all
that
value
that
she's
ascribed
to
me,
I'm
just
going
to
give
to
Evan.
You
can
almost
think
of
it
like
energy
transfer.
She's
into
me
a
little
bit.
Or
at
least
she's
friendly
with
me
and
she
likes
me
and
I'm
not
a
threat.
She
thinks
of
me
as
a
nice
dude.
When
Evan
comes
in,
I'm
just
going
to
be
expressive.
I'm
going
to,
I
made
this
accomplishment
intro.
I've
given
him
all
of
my
attention.
I've
given
him
all
my
expression,
and
then
at
the
last
moment,
I'll
be
like,
"Hey,
listen,
by
the
way,
guys,
I
got
to
go
grab
a
drink
right
now
because
I
see
my
cup
is
empty.
Do
you
want
something?"
Jonathan:
Notice
the
order
of
this.
Evan
first,
Alicia
second.
The
person
who
I'm
giving
the
value
to,
I'm
just
totally
trying
to
prop
him
up.
That's
the
key
point
here.
This
is
hopefully
what
you
and
your
buddies
can
do
for
each
other.
Ideally,
this
is
what
your
want
your
buddies
to
do
for
you
when
you
are
the
king
or
if
you
want
to
make
this
stuff
work,
but
it's
really
just
giving
all
the
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
value
to
your
buddies
almost
blocking
the
girl
up,
but
not
like
that
because
you
just
lose
focus
on
her
and
you
focused
on
him.
You
take
care
of
him
first.
It's
all
about
him,
and
then
you
make
your
way,
and
you
let
them
...
You
see
what
happens
when
you
leave.
That's
it.
Thank
you
guys
for
that.
I
think
that
was
the
demonstration
we
needed
for
that.
That's
the
end
of
the
segment.
Thank
you
very
much.
That's
King
Game,
guys.
You,
guys
can
have
a
seat.
Do
you
have
questions
about
that?
Yes,
let's
give
them
a
round
of
applause.
Evan
is
always
amazing.
You
guys
have
any
questions
about
that.
I
know
it's
some
theoretical
stuff.
I
know
it's
a
lot
of
manipulating
situations
in
your
favor
and
so
on
and
so
forth.
Someone
mentioned
that
“it
looks
like
initially
I
meet
the
girl,
and
I
ignore
her.”
He
wants
to
know
if
I
also
have
some
best
practices
for
when
I
go
back
in
or
was
that
coming
later?
I
love
what
he
said
about
best
practices.
Do
you
have
some
best
practices
for
when
you
come
back
in?
Really,
what
you
want
to
do
here,
that's
a
great
question.
What
you
want
to
do
is
just
continue
to
create
value
in
the
room,
and
what
you
will
notice
is
if
you
do
the
intro
that
I
showed
you
and
you
continue
to
create
value
in
the
room,
she
will
be
watching
you.
Unless
she's
married
or
taken,
but
she
will
be
watching
you
if
she's
single
and
if
you
made
that
right
first
impression.
Her
eyes
will
be
on
you.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
What
I've
done
in
the
past
is
usually
I'll
bring
somebody
over.
In
that
particular
scenario,
I
was
like,
"Hey,
so-‐and-‐so,
you're
not
doing
anything
right
now,
are
you?"
She
was
in
a
conversation.
"You're
not
doing
anything,
are
you?
Can
you
come
chop
these
vegetables
for
me?"
She
comes
in.
I'm
like,
"No,
you're
doing
it
all
wrong."
I
come
over.
"No,
no.
Just
like
that."
Then
leave.
Getting
her
to
do
little
tasks,
getting
her
to
participate
in
stuff.
Maybe
if
you're
just,
if
it's
at
a
party,
"Hey,
can
you
help
me
pour
these
drinks?
I
got
to
get
drinks
for
three
people.
Can
you
get
the
wine?
I'll
get
the
..."
whatever
that
just
came
to
mind.
You'll
see
her
eye
on
you.
At
various
points
of
the
evening,
you
can
just
...
If
you
don't
get
her
approaching
you,
which
she
will
if
you
have
enough
status
in
the
room,
she
will,
I
promise.
If
you
don't
or
she's
just
not
that
quite
that
receptive
to
guy's
status,
maybe
she's
responsive
to
it,
but
not
like
she's
going
to
chase
it,
then
you
just
make
the
eye
contact
back.
One
thing
that
I
love
to
do,
this
is
silly
but
it
works
dangerously
well
is
a
little
wink.
I
might
just
do
a
little
wink
across
the
room.
I
see
her,
and
I'm
smiling.
I'm
in
a
conversation.
I
give
this
stupid
little
wink
and
a
smile.
She
doesn't
know
what
it
means.
It
could
be
friendly.
It
could
be
sexual,
but
I
could
catch
her
attention
with
that.
Then
maybe
I'd
walk
up
to
her.
I'll
be
like,
"Did
I
catch
you
looking
at
me
from
over
there?"
It
depends
on
how
on
you
want
to
make
it.
You
can
just
play
it
by
ear.
You
can
go
straight
on.
You
can
do
the
wink.
Did
I
catch
you
looking
at
me
because
I
was
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
definitely
looking
at
you."
You
could
go
direct.
You
could
bring
her
in,
have
her
do
little
tasks.
You
could
...
all
sorts
of
things
like
that.
We
got
another
great
question.
He
asked
if
you
continue
the
challenge
or
do
you
go
out
for
friendly
conversation?
Just
trying
to
put
myself
in
situations
where
I've
done
this.
What
it
is,
it's
on
selectively
giving
her
more
and
more.
You
just
have
to
use
your
social
intelligence
in
that
moment
and
whatever
social
intelligence
you
can
summon.
In
the
cooking
example,
I'm
going
to
tease
her
a
bit.
"No,
no,
you
did
it
all
wrong.
That's
good.
Perfect."
Now
I'm
rewarding
her
a
little
bit.
"That's
great.
Thank
you."
Run
over
to
make
the
soup,
then
come
back
to
it.
"How
do
you
know
so
and
so.
Maybe
now
I
have
rapport.
Here's
the
thing.
You're
asking
this
question.
I'm
so
glad
the
way
you're
asking
this.
It
just
made
me
realize
something.
You're
asking
this
from
the
perspective
of
a
man
who
does
not
have
women
do
stuff
for
him
frequently.
The
idea
that
you
have
to
be
proactive
in
getting
her
to
do
stuff
is
something
that
King
Game
if
we
want
to
call
it
that,
completely
obvious,
because
if
you
do
the
stuff
right,
then
she
will
be
trying
to
build
rapport
with
you.
That's
usually
what
happens
because
usually
what
happens,
she'll
be
asking
you
questions.
"So
how
long
have
you
lived
here?"
"So
how
did
you
learn
how
to
cook?"
"So
how
do
you
know
so
and
so?"
She'll
be
the
one
building
rapport
with
you.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
At
that
point,
you
can
let
out
a
little
bit.
You
can
tease
her
a
little
bit.
You
can
be
like,
"I
got
the
place
last
night
for
a
party."
You
just
break
rapport
for
a
second.
"I
just
got
the
place
last
night
for
a
party.
I
actually
live
in
a
box
down
the
street."
She'll
laugh.
"No,
I've
been
living
here
for
three
years.
Usually,
it's
like
I'm
going
to
break
rapport
for
a
second.
Be
a
little
flirtatious,
and
then
give
here
the
real
answer
to
the
question.
Come
back
in.
"Where
in
the
city
do
you
live?"
Start
to
build
a
little
rapport.
Generally,
if
I
notice
that
she's
starting
to
work
towards
building
rapport,
I
don't
know
if
these
concepts
make
sense
to
you,
guys.
If
she's
working
to
build
rapport
with
me
and
she's
asking
me
questions
and
she's
trying
to
get
me
to
open
up,
I'm
going
to,
again,
take
a
programmatic
approach
to
this,
but
maybe
the
rule
is
something
like,
give
her
a
snappy
answer
one
out
of
every
four
times.
"I
just
rented
the
place
last
night.
I've
lived
in
a
box
down
the
street.
Give
her
that
snappy
answer
maybe
one
of
out
four
times
and
the
rest
of
the
times
be
genuine.
As
we
establish
the
playfulness
and
the
flirtatiousness,
start
to
move
into
more
genuineness,
and
actually
break
into
her
life
and
reward
her
for
trying
to
build
rapport
with
you
by
doing
the
same
and
by
learning
about
her
life.
We
talked
about
these
things
like
punishments
and
rewards
and
breaking
rapport.
When
I
say
reward
her,
I
don't
want
it
to
sound
like
she's
a
dog.
At
a
certain
point,
if
a
girl's
then
trying
to
build
rapport
with
you,
start
to
share
with
her.
You
just
start
to
explore
with
her
and
see
the
mystery
of
it.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
Another
audience
member
asked
“what
if
some
is
trying
the
King
Game
and
try
to
subordinate
you.
How
do
you
counter
that?”
I’ll
respond
with
another
a
little
anecdote:
Have
any
of
you
ever
watched
The
Wire?
If
you
have,
you
may
remember
that
scene
where
Marlo
walks
into
a
candy
store,
and
he
steals
some
candy.
The
security
guard
comes
running
after
him.
He's
like,
"Hey,
man.
You
can't
steal
that."
He
knows
who
Marlo
is.
Marlo
just
looks
at
him.
He's
like
...
It's
right
up
in
his
face.
He's
like,
You
think
it's
one
way.
It's
actually
the
other
way.
What
he's
saying
in
that
moment.
He's
saying,
"Your
badge
makes
you
think
that
it's
one
way?
I
own
this
place.
I
can
do
whatever
the
fuck
I
want.
I
can
kill
you
if
I
want
to.
You
think
it's
one
way.
I
think
it's
the
other
way."
If
someone
is
trying
to
King
Game
you,
let's
take
a
couple
of
different
scenarios.
There's
the
reality
of
the
situation.
If
somebody
has
more
status,
they
have
more
status.
There's
little
things
you
can
do.
I
gave
you
some
things
to
do
and
break
status
and
change
status.
You
can
withdraw.
That
can
be
like,
"I
don't
approve
your
status."
You
can
withdraw.
You
can
give
subtle
approval.
You
could
do
all
those
things,
but
if
somebody
has
status
and
its
actual
status
and
everybody
else
recognizes
that
that
person
has
status,
then
you
have
to
have
like
Steve
Jobs
as
to
reality
distortion
to
feel
to
break
that.
I
don't
have
that
and
I
don't
know
too
many
other
people
who
have
that.
There's
a
certain
point
where
it
just
is
that
way.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM KING GAME
The
King
stays
king.
In
a
certain
sense,
yes,
somebody
has
status.
There's
not
a
lot
you
can
do
to
break
that.
What
you
can
do
is
you
can
withdraw.
You
create
your
own
scene.
You
do
your
own
thing.
One
of
the
things
that
I've
told
people
who
have
trained
with
me
...
David
Tian
is
a
great
example.
He
was
always
very
subordinate
in
status
to
me,
and
he
put
himself
in
that
situation
because
he
was
learning
from
me,
and
I
was
his
first
coach.
There's
a
point
where
we
had
a
conversation
where
he
was
like,
"Listen,
man.
I
realized
I
need
to
break
off.
I
need
to
create
my
own
thing.
I
need
to
be
my
own
guide
because
if
I
want
to
be
the
leader,
if
I
want
to
make
this
work
for
me,
then
I
can't
always
be
subordinate
to
you."
I
said,
"Okay,
I
get
that."
Totally
fine,
and
he
created
his
own
reality
and
people
lived
in
it
and
people
loved
it.
That's
the
best
answer
I
can
give
you.
Make
new
friends
if
somebody's
constantly
tooling
you.
I
have
been
told
that
I
have
the
habit
of
constantly
tooling
other
guys,
and
I
really
don't
mean
to.
It's
just
like
I'm
very
driven.
I'm
very
motivated.
I
have
a
vision
of
how
things
should
be,
and
I
have
a
low
tolerance
for
when
things
aren't
that
way.
In
social
situations
in
business
and
all
that,
I
don't
mean
to
do
that.
It
just
happens.
Your
decision
at
that
point
is,
do
I
want
to
put
myself
around
somebody
like
that
following
their
lead
and
take
part
in
what's
created
or
do
I
want
to
create
my
own
thing,
take
the
risks
of
that,
and
build
up
my
own
legacy.
I
know
we're
talking
big
words,
legacy
here.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM NICK ON IMPRESSION
I'm
here
today
to
talk
to
you
guys
about
approaching
women.
Now,
my
assumption
is,
is
that
if
you've
been
reading
up
on
this
stuff,
you've
been
studying
this
stuff,
trying
to
learn
about
it
for
a
while,
you've
already
heard
a
lot
about
approaching
women.
Is
that
a
fair
assumption?
Read
a
lot,
heard
a
lot,
all
sorts
of
stuff
in
your
brain
about
this
…?
You
can
just
nod
if
that's
the
case.
I
know
we're
on
the
same
page,
yeah?
I'm
not
going
to
try
to
just
dump
a
whole
bunch
more
general
information
to
lump
into
all
the
other
stuff
you've
already
learned.
What
I
want
to
do
is
I
want
to
talk
about
three
specific
things
when
it
comes
to
approaching
that
I
feel
is
going
to
be
the
most
beneficial,
I
feel
will
make
the
biggest
impact
if
you
take
these
things
and
you
put
them
into
effect
immediately,
you're
going
to
see
the
most
results
from
women
you're
attempting
to
talk
to.
The
first
one
that
I
want
to
talk
about
is
something
that
I
probably
get
asked
more
than
just
approaching
in
general.
It's
about
approaching
and
talking
to
women
during
the
daytime,
in
daytime
environments.
That
seems
to
be
more
often
than
not
what
guys
are
struggling
with
a
little
bit
more
than
the
bar
time
stuff
and
I'll
talk
about
the
bar
time
stuff
sure
because
I
love
it.
But
it
seems
that
daytime
is
really
where
guys
stumble
up
a
lot
when
it
comes
to
starting
conversations.
They
don't
feel
as
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comfortable.
It's
not
like
a
bar,
where
you
have
an
excuse
because
everybody's
there
to
talk
and
mingle.
It's
a
little
bit
trickier.
What
I'll
say
about
daytime
is
you're
maybe
success
numbers
are
going
to
naturally
just
be
a
little
bit
lower,
why?
Because
as
I
mentioned,
people
aren't
going
out
and
about
all
day,
every
day
just
for
the
sake
of
socializing,
just
for
the
sake
of
meeting
guys
like
girls
do
in
bars.
When
people
go
out
during
the
day
time
you're
running
errands.
You've
got
a
million
things
you're
trying
to
do
and
that's
kind
of
the
last
thing
that's
on
your
mind.
Just
in
general,
the
numbers
are
going
to
be
a
little
bit
different
than
the
night-‐
time.
However,
there's
still,
as
I'm
sure
you're
all
aware,
a
ton
of
people
out
there
who
you'd
probably
love
to
talk
to,
a
bunch
of
women
out
there
you'd
love
to
meet
who
you
don't
see
in
bars.
Who
you
don't
always
have
the
opportunity
to
talk
to
when
you
go
out
at
night
and
you
want
to
see
what
the
chances
with
them.
You
want
to
see
what's
going
on?
You
want
to
see
what
might
possibly
be.
Not
let
those
situations
pass
you
by,
not
miss
out
on
a
girl
that
you
could
possibly
have
something
with
just
because
you
didn't
know
what
to
say
or
do.
That's
why
I'm
talking
about
this
right
now.
The
secret
to
talking
to
women
during
the
day,
the
big
secret,
I'm
going
to
say
it
and
then
I'll
just
kind
of
explain
it;
the
secret
is
to
not
treat
pretty
girls
any
differently
than
anyone
else.
You've
heard
this
before,
"Beautiful
women
don't
want
to
be
treated
different
than
anyone
else."
In
fact,
that's
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one
of
the
things
they
hate
the
most.
They
want
to
be
treated
exactly
the
same,
right?
We
all
know
this.
How
do
you
do
this
when
it
comes
to
approaching
during
the
day
time?
The
secret
to
approaching
during
the
day
time,
talking
to
strangers
is
that
it's
a
muscle.
It's
a
skill.
The
more
you
do
it,
the
better
you
get
at
it.
The
more
confident
you
are
when
you
do
it.
The
more
you
do
all
the
things
that
we
teach
you
that
really
matter,
which
I'll
talk
about
in
a
moment.
If
you
try
to
just
do
something
or
just
save
something
that
you're
trying
to
do
for
pretty
girls
you
see
and
you're
not
doing
it
any
other
time
in
your
life,
it's
like
anything
else
you
do
only
rarely,
you
only
try
to
do
in
the
most
difficult
circumstances
for
you
to
do
so.
You're
going
to
be
terrible
at
it.
You're
going
to
suck
and
you'll
probably
get
a
majority
of
negative
responses
when
you
try.
But
just
like
anything
else,
the
more
you
do
it,
the
more
you
practice
it,
especially
in
situations
that
don't
terrify
you
that
are
a
little
bit
easier
for
you
to
do
what
you
need
to
do,
you
get
better.
You
improve.
You
become
more
comfortable
and
you
get
more
positive
responses
from
everyone,
simple,
super,
super,
simple.
The
secret
about
approaching
women
during
the
day
is
to
not
treat
them
any
differently
than
anyone
else.
How
do
you
get
good
at
this?
How
do
you
get
good
at
talking
to
girls
during
the
day?
Simple,
you
talk
to
everyone.
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What
I
always
say
is,
"The
more
you
get
used
to
making
just
a
little
passing
comment
to
a
woman
at
the
bus
stop,
the
older
lady
sitting
there,
just
to
say,
'Beautiful
weather
out
today.
Man,
the
bus
is
taking
a
little
longer
today.'
Just
getting
used
to
making
that
first
comment,
starting
that
interaction,
talking
to
a
stranger,
not
looking
for
anything,
not
trying
to
make
anything,
just
getting
used
to
making
that
first
comment."
The
guy
who's
working
the
cash
register
in
the
drugstore.
Well,
he
asked
me,
"How
is
everything
going
to
do?"
Getting
used
to
making
that
first
comment
to
another
human
being
to
initiate
some
sort
of
dialogue.
It's
just
scary
in
general.
It's
just
awkward
in
general.
The
more
you
practice
this
generally,
universally
awkward
action,
the
easier
it
is
to
do
with
the
people
that
intimidate
you
the
most.
It's
I
always
like
to
say,
"A
basketball
player
can't
just
hop
into
game
seven
of
the
NBA
Finals.
The
pressure
is
so
high
right
there
that
he's
going
to
crack."
You
got
to
play
high
school
ball,
develop
your
skills,
play
college
ball,
play
in
the
early
prose.
Even
with
Lebron,
how
many
seasons
did
it
take
for
him
to
not
crack
under
that
pressure
in
the
Finals
in
the
playoffs
to
finally
win
one,
to
develop
his
own
muscles
in
less
intense
situations?
So
if
you
think
you
can
just
walk
up
to
the
prettiest
girl
that
makes
your
heart
beat
out
of
your
chest
and
be
confident
and
charismatic
when
you've
never
actually
practiced
this
stuff
or
barely
practiced
this
stuff,
it
just
won't
happen.
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Saying
something
to
the
mama
in
the
grocery
store,
"Hey,
have
you
tried
this
cereal
before?
Those
carrots
look
really
good
day."
Getting
used
to
making
that
first
statement,
that
first
introduction
of
dialogue
with
another
human
being.
The
more
you
do
this
with
everyone
you
come
into
contact
with,
easier
it's
going
to
be
when
you're
now
next
to
a
girl
in
line
at
Starbucks.
Because
this
is
what
you
do
with
everyone.
This
is
your
standard
"MO."
It
would
be
weird
if
you
didn't
say
something
to
her
in
that
situation.
Treating
pretty
girls
no
different
than
you
treat
everyone
else.
That's
the
secret
to
talking
to
women
during
the
day,
really,
really
simple.
That's
the
first
thing
I
wanted
to
share.
The
rest
we're
going
to
get
a
little
bit
more
less
simple,
a
little
bit
more
complicated.
But
for
guys
that
are
struggling
in
this
area,
it
really
couldn't
be
simpler
if
you
take
the
actions
and
you
work
on
the
skills
that
you
need
to
develop
in
order
to
get
the
results
you
want
in
life,
just
like
anything
else.
The
next
thing
I
want
to
talk
about
is
another
skill,
another
thing
to
develop,
another
thing
to
work
on
with
the
old
lady
on
the
bus
stop.
Another
thing
to
practice
with
the
guy
at
the
grocery
store
that
the
more
you
develop
it,
the
more
you're
going
to
see
positive
responses
from
every
person
that
you
talk
to.
This
is
what
I
call
the
most
important
thing
when
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you
approach
another
stranger.
The
most
important
thing,
the
thing
that
matters
more
than
anything
else
in
those
first
five
seconds.
People
talk
about
those
first
five
seconds
when
somebody
makes
a
judgment
on
you,
one
way
or
another,
a
woman
knows
if
she
wants
to
sleep
with
a
guy
within
the
first
five
seconds
and
yeah,
that
can
change,
of
course.
But
if
you've
ever
read
the
book
"Blink"
by
Malcolm
Gladwell,
you
know
that
human
beings
have
this
incredibly
high
tuned
and
advanced
system
of
being
able
to
make
snap
judgments
about
things
and
they're
usually
right,
so
this
first
five
seconds
really
matter.
This
is
the
only
thing
that
matters
in
those
first
five
seconds.
This
is
the
only
thing
that
you
will
be
judged
on
that
will
make
a
difference
when
you
approach.
Of
course,
you
have
to
factor
in
the
woman
could
you
be
interested,
not
interested.
You're
still
just
kind
of
finding
out
whether
she's
in
the
mood
to
chat
and
socialize
or
not,
but
within
that
window
of
whether
she's
available
and
interested
or
not,
this
right
here
is
going
to
make
the
biggest
difference
in
influencing
which
way
she
might
possibly
go.
The
most
important
thing
when
you
approach,
the
only
thing
that
matters
when
you
start
a
conversation
is
something
I
call
"Presence."
Is
what
I
call
your
"Presence."
There's
a
couple
more
minor
aspects
to
presence,
the
distance
you're
using
to
carry
yourself
with.
How
slow
and
strong
your
voice
is
when
you
speak,
if
you're
speaking
from
your
chest,
instead
of
your
voice.
But
the
main
part
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of
Presence,
the
most
important
aspect
of
your
Presence
when
you
approach
is
something
that
I
call
"Focus."
This
is
really
it,
Focus.
If
there's
one
thing
that
you
do
that
matters
not
only
just
in
the
first
five
seconds,
but
all
throughout
your
interaction,
this
is
it.
If
you
do
one
thing
for
the
rest
of
your
life,
do
this
and
you'll
see
more
positive
responses
then
you
could
have
ever
imagined.
What
do
I
mean
by
focus?
A
human
being
can
always
feel
how
strongly
you
are
focused
on
them
versus
dividing
your
attention
between
them
and
any
other
of
the
million
things
in
your
surroundings
or
your
head.
A
better
example
of
exactly
what
I
mean
by
focus,
like
you
guys
all
just
do
and
exercise
with
me
and
you
can
do
this
at
home
as
well.
I'd
like
you
to
go
ahead
and
look
at
me,
but
also
as
you're
looking
at
me
just
kind
of
take
in
all
of
your
surroundings.
Get
as
peripheral
as
you
possibly
can
and
I'm
going
to
do
it,
too.
I'm
speaking
and
I'm
seeing
something
in
the
distance,
but
I
can
also
take
in
my
whole
surroundings.
Now,
as
you're
doing
this,
you'll
notice
something.
You'll
notice
that
yes,
you
can
see
more,
but
everything
else,
all
of
the
details
of
everything
becomes
more
blurred.
Everything
is
just
a
little
hazier
and
blurry.
You
notice
things
that
are
bright,
are
shiny.
If
there's
any
movement
going
on,
you
can
pick
that
out
a
little
bit
and
you
feel
a
little
bit
more
anxious.
As
you've
got
this
peripheral
view
going
on,
you
feel
a
little
bit
more
anxious.
You
feel
a
little
bit
more
tense.
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Why
do
you
feel
more
tense?
Because
this
mode,
this
peripheral
mode
is
more
about
defensive
mechanism.
When
we're
being
hunted,
we
go
into
this
alert
mode
where
we
can
see
danger
around
us.
We
can
see
shiny
things.
We
can
see
movement.
We're
on
this
alert
of
where
the
danger's
at.
It's
a
naturally
weaker
position.
Whenever
we
get
anxious
because
she's
really
pretty
or
we're
just
not
comfortable
talking
to
strangers
or
whatever
reason,
we
naturally
go
into
this
defensive
mode.
We
naturally
go
into
our
brains
trying
to
keep
tabs
on
as
many
things
as
possible,
jumping
around
in
a
million
different
directions.
We
become
more
anxious,
not
very
attractive.
Now,
I'd
like
you
to
take
your
wide
angle
view.
I'd
like
you
to
take
your
peripheral
view
and
just
focus
in
on
one
thing
as
strongly
as
possible,
make
it
me
just
for
the
sake.
I
want
you
to
put
all
your
attention,
all
your
focus,
clear
out
everything
from
your
head,
clear
out
everything
from
your
periphery
and
just
focus
on
me
as
strongly
as
possible.
You'll
notice
when
you
do
this
there's
almost
like
a
little
tunnel
that
forms
between
the
thing
that
you're
focused
on
and
you.
Everything
else
kind
of
becomes
blurry.
Everything
else
just
…
But
the
thing
and
your
focus
is
crystal
clear.
You
can
see
every,
little,
tiny
detail
of
that
thing
that
you're
focused
on.
If
you
notice
it
also
feels
differently
in
your
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chest.
You
feel
stronger.
You
feel
more
in
control.
You
feel
more
confident.
Why
is
that
the
case?
Because
this
is
a
naturally
kind
of
hunter
mechanism.
When
we're
in
control,
when
we're
pursuing
some
prey
of
some
sort,
we
snap
into
this
mode.
We
have
greater
control
over
our
muscles.
We
feel
more
in
tune
with
our
body.
We're
ready
for
action
and
we
feel
good
about
it,
focus.
This
is
the
most
powerful
thing.
How
strongly
you're
focused
on
another
person
versus
being
in
your
head
thinking
about
15
different
things
versus
being
distracted
by
your
environment
because
you're
nervous.
Focus
is
the
most
important
thing
when
you
interact
with
any
other
human
being
that
will
determine
how
strongly
they
respond
to
you,
how
strongly
they
relate
to
you.
You
want
to
test
this
out?
Go
to
a
crowded
bar
and
try
to
get
a
drink
and
if
you
know
every
guy
a
drink,
especially
if
it's
a
male
bartender,
getting
a
drink
isn't
always
the
easiest
thing
if
it's
crowded,
right?
Get
up
to
the
bar,
manage
to
squeeze
in,
square
your
shoulders
up
and
just
focus
on
that
bartender
as
much
as
you
possibly
can.
What
I
like
to
usually
do,
I'll
make
a
bet
with
a
girl
next
to
me,
easy
way
to
get
a
free
drink.
You'll
say,
"Hey,
I
bet
I
can
get
a
drink
before
you?"
If
there's
a
male
bartender
every
girl
in
the
world
will
take
that
bet
because
she
thinks,
"There's
no
way
this
dude
is
going
to
get
a
drink
before
me."
I
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square
my
shoulders
up
to
the
bar,
focus
as
strongly
as
I
can
on
the
bartender.
As
a
defense
mechanism,
we
can
always
feel
when
another
animal
is
focused
on
us.
We
just
get
this
sensation
in
our
body.
As
I'm
focused
on
this
bartender,
half
the
time
I'll
see
him
shift
a
little
bit
uncomfortably
because
he
just
has
this
feeling
in
his
body
that
he
doesn't
know
what's
going
on?
Then
nine
times
out
of
ten
as
his
head
circles
back
around,
nine
times
out
of
ten
the
first
eyes
he
comes
into
contact
with
are
mine.
I
just,
"Two
drinks,"
yell
out
my
drink
order
and
let
her
pay
for
them
since
she
lost
the
bet.
I
usually
buy
the
second
round
if
I
like
talking
to
her.
In
those
first
five
seconds,
now
there
is
nothing
that
matters
more
than
how
strongly
you're
focused
on
the
other
person
you're
interacting
with.
You
come
up
with
this
strong
focus
like
this
expectation
that
they're
going
to
respond
back
to
you
and
respond
back
to
you
with
respect
and
respond
back
to
you
with
enthusiasm
because
why
wouldn't
they?
Then,
you're
probably
going
to
get
a
positive
response
out
of
them.
If
you
come
in
and
you're
distracted,
you're
in
your
head
and
you're
everywhere
else,
you
probably
will
not
get
a
positive
response.
Once
again,
this
is
the
only
thing
that
matters
in
the
first
five
seconds.
If
I
walk
up
and
I've
got
the
most
clever
line
in
the
world,
this
is
just
some
brilliance
…
I
don't
know.
Some
social
genius
came
up
with,
maybe
me
in
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my
very
best
days.
I
could
get
very
clever
sometimes,
but
if
I
don't
deliver
that
with
any
presence,
if
I
come
up
and
I'm
just
like,
"Hey
…"
and
the
most
clever
line
in
the
world,
I'm
probably
going
to
get
a
negative
response
nine
out
of
ten.
But
what's
my
usual
go-‐to
line,
my
usual
most
common
online?
"Hey,
how's
it
going?"
Once
again,
if
you
deliver
that
without
any
presence
you'll
get
blown
right
out
of
the
water.
If
you
walk
up
to
her,
all
your
focus
strongly
on
her
and
you
just
say,
"Hey,
how's
it
going?"
You're
probably
going
to
get
a
good
response,
crazy,
but
it's
the
only
thing
that
matters.
The
other
thing
that
this
means,
what
doesn't
matter,
what
I'm
not
saying
here
is
once
again,
anything
that
you
could
possibly
say.
What
I
love
about
this
is
that
one
of
the
most
common
excuses
that
guys
make
for
not
approaching
is,
"I
didn't
know
what
to
say?
I
couldn't
think
of
anything
to
say.
If
I
would
have
had
something
to
say,
I
would
have
said
something."
One
of
the
most
common
excuses
and
we
see
when
we
look
at
that,
at
this,
that's
all
it
is.
It's
just
an
excuse,
why?
Because
what
you
say
doesn't
matter.
Guys
who
are
good
with
girls,
they're
not
thinking,
"Oh,
what
do
I
say?
I
got
to
say
something
clever
that
she's
going
to
like."
They're
just
looking
for
any
excuse
they
can
use
to
say
something.
It
doesn't
matter
what
it
is.
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They're
just
looking
for
the
first
dumb
excuses
that
pops
into
their
head
so
then
go
up
and
say
something
to
this
girl,
deliver
it
with
as
much
presence,
deliver
it
with
as
much
confidence,
strong
focus,
maybe
a
little
bit
of
the
flirtatiousness
that
I
talked
about
yesterday
and
see
how
she
responds,
knowing
that
if
he
comes
up
strong,
he's
going
to
be
more
likely
to
get
a
positive
response.
Every
girl
that
responded
positively
to
you
because
you
had
some
clever
line,
she
would
have
responded
positively
to
you
if
you
would
have
just
said,
"Hey…"
as
long
as
you're
doing
the
only
thing
that
matters.
Man,
I
dare
you
to
test
this
out
as
strongly
as
possible
just
to
see
how
people
respond
to
you
and
it
will
blow
your
mind,
guarantee
it.
The
third
thing
I
want
to
talk
about,
a
little
bit
more
specific
still,
I
want
to
talk
about
the
most
common
ways
that
I
start
conversations
in
bars,
shift
back
to
bars.
I
like
them.
Great
for
socializing,
mixing,
mingling,
having
a
great
time.
The
most
common
way
that
I
start
conversations
in
bars
and
yeah,
as
I
mentioned,
"Hey,
how's
it
going?"
is
my
usual
go-‐to
line,
but
that's
usually
not
how
I
start
interactions
in
bars.
The
most
common
way
that
I
start
interactions
that
I
basically
approach
the
girl
and
I
find
out
whether
or
not
she's
interested
in
me,
I
do
all
that
simply
with
eye
contact.
Before
I
even
walk
up,
before
I
even
approach,
the
majority
of
my
interactions
start
with
the
eye
contact
that
I'm
making.
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What
eye
contact
says
to
a
girl
when
you
look
at
her,
I
contact
says,
"I'm
into
you.
I
think
you're
pretty.
I
find
you
attractive."
If
a
girl
looks
at
you
and
she
sees
you
looking,
she
can
assume,
"Oh,
he
must
think
I'm
cute."
But
now
if
you
look
away
really
fast,
she's
going
to
wonder,
"Oh,
well
why
is
he
looking
at
me
now?
At
first
I
thought
he
was
cute.
Now
he's
looking
away.
Maybe
he
wants
to
kidnap
me
or
something?
I
don't
know?"
It's
important
when
I'm
checking
out
a
girl
that
I'm
attracted
to,
I'm
not
ashamed
of
it.
So
many
guys
are
terrified
to
look
at
a
woman,
"I
can't
look
looked
at
her.
I
can't
just
stare.
What
if
she
catches
me?"
Like
yeah,
what
if
she
catches
you?
I
hope
she
catches
me.
I
pray
that
the
girl
catches
me
looking
at
her
because
I'm
going
to
say
that's
me
saying
and
to
her
right
there,
"I
think
you're
cute."
What
are
you
going
to
do
about
it?
What
are
you
so
afraid
of
by
letting
a
girl
know
that
you're
into
her
and
that
you're
attracted
to
her?
One
of
the
things
that
will
turn
it
on
a
woman
most
is
when
a
confident
man
isn't
afraid
to
just
say
that
he
likes
her
in
some
way,
shape
or
form.
Once
again,
if
she's
not
into
me,
great.
What's
she
going
to
do
about
it?
I'm
still
attracted
to
her.
Whether
or
not
I'm
looking
at
her
a
little
extra
or
not
isn't
going
to
change
how
attracted
she
is
to
me.
In
fact,
my
confidence
in
the
fact
that
I'm
not
afraid
to
express
that
is
going
to
make
her
more
attracted
to
me.
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Now,
she
might
still
be
in
a
relationship.
I
might
not
be
her
type.
She
might
just
not
be
in
a
good
mood
that
night
or
whatever,
but
if
she
is
single
and
looking
and
possibly
attracted
to
me
in
the
least,
the
fact
that
I'm
confidently
not
afraid
to
express
the
fact
that
I'm
into
her,
attracted
to
her
is
one
of
the
most
confident,
charismatic,
attractive
means
I
could
ever
look
to
start
and
interaction
with
her.
If
a
girl
catches
my
eye,
I'm
going
to
check
her
out.
At
first,
I
just
want
to
find
out,
"What's
going
on
with
this
girl?
What
kind
of
mood
is
she
in?
Is
she
just
in
a
quiet
conversation
with
her
friends
not
looking
to
mix
and
mingle,
not
giving
any
signals
that
she's
interested
in
socialize?
I'll
leave
that
on
the
back
burner.
I'll
check
her
out
later
to
maybe
see
if
she's
opened
up
a
little
bit,
but
I'll
usually
look
to
see
if
there's
any
other
people
that
catch
my
eye
first."
Look
around
and
maybe
sees
looking
around?
Maybe
she's
got
that
whole,
"I'm
bored
and
I
wish
that
somebody
would
come
up
and
talk
to
me
right
now,"
on
her
face.
Usually
if
a
girl's
looking
around,
even
if
she's
talking
to
her
friends,
but
she
still
scanning
out,
looking
around,
she's
saying,
"I
wish
some
guy
would
come
up
and
talk
to
me
right
now."
I'm
observing
her.
I'm
finding
out,
"What's
going
on
with
this
girl?
What
kind
of
mood
is
she
in?"
My
favorite
type
is
as
I'm
checking
her
out,
sometimes
she'll
look
back
at
me.
Now
it's
rare
for
a
girl
to
hold
eye
contact
when
they
look
at
you,
why?
Just
like
us,
you
get
nervous.
You
make
eye
contact
with
someone
it's
a
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little
nerve-‐racking
and
most
people's
first
response
is
to
look
away.
It's
very
rare
that
somebody
actually
holds
that.
If
a
girl
holds
that,
well
man,
it's
on
like
Donkey
Kong,
but
nine
times
out
of
ten
she
makes
eye
contact.
She
looks
away
and
that's
great.
I
love
it
because
it's
cute.
I
can
relate
to
it
and
then
I'm
always
waiting
for
the
look
back.
I'm
not
breaking
myself.
I'm
not,
"Oh
that
was
awkward.
She
doesn't
like
me.
I
better
never
looked
again,
otherwise
she
might
think
something
and
I'm
going
to
blow
my
chances
with
her."
No.
I'm
going
to
keep
looking
at
her.
I'm
going
to
wait.
Most
of
the
times
there's
going
to
be
a
look
back.
There's
going
to
be
a
little
peek
back
again
and
as
soon
as
I
get
that
peek
back
again,
once
again
it's
on
like
Donkey
Kong.
I
smile
as
if
I
just
caught
her
peeking
back
at
me.
It
was
cute.
I
might
waive
or
something,
but
nine
times
out
of
ten
if
she
looks
back,
I
smile.
I'm
going
to
be
approaching
her
right
there,
why?
She's
already
said,
"I'm
into
you.
Please
come
talk
to
me."
If
there's
one
other
bit
I
could
give
you,
it's
start
to
become
so
much
more
aggressive
with
your
eye
contact.
Eye
contact
really,
it's
the
currency
by
which
all
of
this
romantic
stuff
happens.
When
you're
speaking
to
someone,
it's
going
to
be
that
extra
look
that
you
give
them,
doing
the
stuff
that
I
talked
about
yesterday,
just
letting
your
gaze
linger
for
a
second
after
they're
done
talking.
When
somebody
else
is
talking
when
they're
finished,
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just
kind
of
checking
back
in
with
them
and
holding
that
eye
contact
for
a
second,
just
because
you
like
looking
at
them.
One
other
thing
I
could
give
you
is
to
just
get
so
much
more
confident
and
aggressive
with
your
eye
contact
and
not
be
so
ashamed
of
it,
not
to
be
so
apologetic
of
it,
like,
"Yeah,
I'm
looking
at
you.
What
are
you
going
to
do?
I
think
you're
cute,
actually."
"Oh
no,
what's
going
to
happen?"
Nothing,
actually.
She'll
smile,
take
the
compliment
whether
she's
interested
in
me
or
not.
Really
start
observing,
really
start
looking.
Do
about
ten
times
more
eye
contact
than
you're
used
to
and
you're
going
to
notice
a
lot
more
opportunities
for
girls
to
talk
to
when
you're
actually
observing
what
kind
of
mode
they're
in
instead
of
looking,
"She's
hot.
What
do
I
say?"
When
you're
really
paying
attention
and
seeing
where
they're
coming
from
and
to
see
a
lot
more
opportunities
and
your
interactions
are
going
to
start
off
a
lot
more
flirtatiously,
a
lot
more
sexual
than
when
you're
just
kind
of
walking
up
to
say,
"Hi."
When
it
all
starts
with
the
eye
contact
that
just
lays
out
exactly
what
kind
of
interaction
this
is
going
to
be,
where
this
is
going
to
go,
how
I
feel
about
you,
no
question,
no
confusion.
We're
talking
to
each
other
because
we're
attracted
to
each
other.
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Also,
I
want
to
just
compare
what
a
stark
break
away
this
is
from
the
usual
thought
about
approaching
because
most
of
the
stuff
that's
out
there
on
approaching,
most
of
this
knowledge
that
you've
soaked
in
and
you've
heard
for
how
long,
it
all
kind
of
reinforces
the
same
idea
that
you're
supposed
to
impress
her.
You
have
to
win
her
over.
You've
got
to
say
the
right
thing.
You've
got
to
do
the
right
thing
in
order
to
get
this
girl
to
like
you.
Kind
of
like
how
much
of
a
tap
dancing
monkey
can
you
be
to
hopefully
get
a
positive
response
out
of
her?
It's
kind
of
what
nine
times
out
of
ten
materials
on
approaching
has
you
doing.
One
of
the
most
attractive
things
that
a
woman
can
find
in
a
man
is
that
he's
not
trying
too
hard.
That
he
makes
it
easy.
That
he's
not
trying
to
stress
himself
out
to
do
this
song
and
dance.
That's
why
when
I
approach,
it's
just
done
with
the
eye
contact.
That's
when
I
approach
my
most
common
line
is,
"Hey,
how's
it
going?"
and
then
I
usually
follow
it
up
with
a,
"What
are
you
up
to
tonight?"
Because
I'm
not
trying
to
demonstrate
that
I'm
trying
to
dance,
jump
through
some
hoops
for
you.
I'm
demonstrating
that
I'm
good.
That
I'm
interested
in
you.
That
I'd
like
to
find
out
more
about
you,
but
I
don't
need
to
jump
through
some
hoops
for
your
approval.
I
don't
have
to
try
to
work
for
you.
I'm
just
interested
in
finding
out
who
you
are.
I
don't
have
to
prove
myself.
I'm
great.
"How's
it
going?
What
are
you
up
to?"
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That's
why,
even
though
it's
simple
and
even
though
guys
will
say,
"That's
stupid.
You
can't
just
say
that?
You've
got
to
say
something
else."
That's
why
that
is
the
most
attractive
way
that
you
can
approach
and
you
can
start
a
conversation.
As
long
as
you're
doing
the
only
thing
that
matters,
the
rest
of
it
just
comes
down
to
not
trying
to
do
too
much,
trying
to
see
what
she
has
to
offer,
trying
to
see
what
she
can
contribute
and
showing
her
that
you
want
to
keep
talking
to
her
more,
as
long
as
you
like
doing
it.
I
just
heard
an
audience
member
ask
a
great
question.
He
said:
“earlier
we
were
talking
about
how
when
you
approach
you
don't
want
to
come
right
at
them.
You
want
to
come
kind
of
at
an
angle.
How
do
you
give
them
all
the
focus
while
you're
still
coming
at
an
angle?
Especially
if
you’re
approaching
them
in
a
public
place
like
a
subway.”
It’s
the
exact
same
thing,
even
more
so.
Eye
contact
on
a
bus
that's
an
interesting
thing.
On
a
train,
I
feel
that
people
tend
to
be
more
closed
up.
I
feel
bad
for
girls
on
a
train
actually
because
I'll
see
a
girl.
A
girl
will
catch
my
eye
and
I'll
check
her
out,
but
then
I'll
notice
and
I'll
notice
six
other
dudes
just
staring
with
these
death
looks
on
their
face.
I
can
appreciate
how
girls
would
be
a
little
less
comfortable
with
train
ride
things,
but
the
same
time
it's
just
all
about
feeding
them
know
differently
like
you
treat
anybody
else.
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Next
time
you're
on
a
train
and
somebody's
playing
a
game
that
you
like
or
has
a
phone
that
you
like,
reading
a
book
that
you're
interested
in
and
I
don't
care
what
they
look
like,
hopefully,
it's
actually
somebody
that
doesn't
intimidate
you,
a
guy,
an
older
woman,
whatever,
say
something
to
them
and
you'll
see
talking
to
someone
on
a
train
isn't
that
weird.
It's
actual
a
nice
way
to
spend
your
time.
I've
had
tons
of
wonderful
interactions
with
people
on
trains.
It's
better
than
just
sitting
there
playing
"Candy
Crush."
Get
used
to
doing
this
with
everyone
you
see.
It's
not
a
big
deal.
It's
actually
a
very
pleasant
and
enjoyable
way
to
spend
your
commute
and
in
that
way,
once
again
when
it's
a
pretty
girl,
just
treat
her
exactly
the
same
as
you
would
treat
everyone
else,
instead
of
trying
to
think
of
some
weird
thing
to
do
with
her.
This
isn't
approaching
girls,
isn't
some
weird
thing
that
we
should
be
ashamed
of
that
we're
doing
some
…
No,
it's
just
basic
socializing.
It's
no
different
than
retreat
any
other
human
being
and
we
shouldn't
be
ashamed
or
anything
else.
It's
normal.
It's
actually
more
abnormal
for
us
to
live
in
our
isolated
bubbles
and
not
interact
with
each
other.
Whoever's
first?
We
just
got
another
great
question
about
how
long
you
should
hold
eye
contact
I
hear
this
one
a
lot.
My
answer
to
this
one
is
always
the
same.
There
is
a
line
out
there.
I'll
use
this
way,
since
you're
going
right
to
left.
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There
is
a
line
out
there
where
it's
just
too
much,
but
the
thing
is
that
if
you're
here
right
now,
you're
so
far
behind
that
line,
no
offense
or
anything,
you're
so
far
behind
that
line
that
you
could
try
to
overdo
it
and
you
could
try
to
make
too
much
eye
contact,
you
wouldn't
even
come
close.
That's
why
I
always
say
to
guys
ask
that
question,
"Don't
worry
about
this."
If
you're
concerned
about
for
this
it's
just
going
to
hold
you
back
from
getting
anywhere
close
to
it
in
the
first
place.
I
challenge
guys
I
work
with
on
the
very
first
night,
"Try
to
get
shot
down
by
making
too
much
eye
contact."
I
have
yet
to
meet
a
guy
who
could
do
that.
I
could
probably
do
it,
but
I
have
yet
to
meet
another
guy
who
could.
Yeah,
don't
even
worry
about
this
out
here.
Try
to
overdo
it
as
much
as
possible
and
you
probably
won't
even
come
close
and
you're
going
to
get
ten
times
more
powerful
responses
from
the
people
that
you're
interacting
with
along
the
way,
promise.
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So
we
just
heard
yet
another
amazing
speech
from
Nick
Sparks
about
how
to
approach
women.
Yet
I
know
that
one
question
remains
and
that
is,
what
do
I
say?
And
that
is
always
the
perennial
question.
I
hope
that
you're
starting
to
get
this
sense,
as
you've
been
sitting
here
this
weekend
and
perhaps
as
you've
been
watching
this
program
at
home,
that
what
you
say
is
not
always
something
you
plan
out.
It's
not
always
something
you
perfect.
It's
not
always
something
that
you
script.
In
fact,
I'm
so
glad
you
asked
what
you
did
early
because
what
I
find
is
that,
in
many
of
my
conversations,
if
I'm
able
to
do
a
few
of
the
things
I'm
going
to
show
you
in
this
segment,
the
girl
works
to
build
rapport
with
me.
What
do
I
say
becomes
dialog
and
not
a
monologue
of
me
just
pushing
to
keep
the
conversation
going.
This
is
something
that
over
time,
with
practice
and
as
your
confidence
elevates
you'll
become
better
and
better
at.
That's
something
that
I
can
promise
you.
It's
something
that
we
work
on
when
we
do
coaching
and
men
are
so
amazed
at
the
simplicity
of
not
having
to
know
what
to
say
and
just
approaching
women
and
the
responses
they
get
when
they
start
doing
what
we
teach,
what
Nick
teaches
for
example.
I
can
promise
you
guys
that
if
you
were
to
go
out
and
just
put
into
place
what
Nick
showed
you
just
now
and
accept
the
fact
that
you're
going
to
fail
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM WHAT TO SAY
and
fuck
up
once
or
twice
as
you
try
to
work
through
the
mechanics
of
it
all
of
a
sudden
it
will
just
solve
itself.
You
just
mess
up
a
few
times
but
you
keep
working
on
the
very
foundational
stuff
and
just
kind
of
run
your
mouth
you'll
screw
up
a
few
times
but
if
you
just
do
that
stuff
you
will
be
successful.
With
that
said,
there
are
always
inevitable
questions.
I
remember
when
I
was
sitting
in
the
same
place
that
you
guys
are
sitting
right
now
and
I
sucked
at
talking
to
women,
not
to
say
that's
where
you
guys
are,
but
I
remember
when
I
was
challenged
to
talk
to
women,
I
didn't
know
exactly
what
to
say.
I
want
to
give
you
a
little
bit
of
stuff
to
get
you
going.
Before
we
do
that
though
I
want
to
talk
about
how
do
we
actually
get
attraction
before
we
approach
the
girl?
This
is
a
big
thing.
I'd
say
that
a
lot
of
my,
if
you
want
to
call
it,
game
if
I
were
out
at
a
night
club
or
a
bar
is
going
to
be
based
on
trying
to
get
as
much
attraction
as
I
can
before
I
even
approach
her
or
before
she
looks
at
me.
That's
the
big
goal
here,
is
get
attraction
before
the
approach.
There's
a
few
things
we
can
do.
The
first
one
is
a
term
that
Nick
came
up
with
which
is
called
'bro
circling'.
Evan
do
you
mind
if
I
borrow
you
again
for
just
a
moment?
So
bro
circling,
if
you
think
about
most
guys
who
stand
in
a
bar,
what
do
they
look
like?
...
Hey,
so
yeah.
Um
how's
your
night
goin?
Evan: Eh.
Christian: Yeah I know me too. Yeah I wish some girls would talk to us.
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Evan: Yeah.
Christian: Yeah. I think she noticed I was looking at her shirt ...
OK,
so
that's
most
guys
in
a
bar
right?
Bro
circling
is
the
opposite
of
that.
Normally
you'd
have
it
with
a
bunch
of
bros.
But,
bro
circling
is,
we're
in
our
own
world
and
we're
having
fun
and
we're
just
laughing
about
shit
and
doing
all
the
stuff
that
we
need
to
do.
We're
being
expressive,
we're
enjoying
our
conversation.
So
we
do
that.
So
last
time
I
talked
to
you
said
you
were
going
to
India
was
it?
Christian:
I've
never
been.
I've
been
to
Asia.
I
almost
rode
an
elephant.
I
got
peed
on
by
a
monkey.
Did
I
tell
you
about
getting
peed
on
by
a
money?
Christian:
Well
it
sat
on
my
shoulder
and
started
urinating
on
me.
Have
you
ever
been
urinated
on
before?
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Christian:
OK.
So,
this
right
here
is
what
you
do
when
you
go
into
a
bar
with
your
buddies.
This
is
bro
circling.
It's
a
very
...
and
that's
it
thank
you
very
much
...
Evan: Yeah.
Christian:
it's
just
putting
a
term
to
a
very
simple
phenomena
which
is
having
fun
with
your
buddies
when
you're
out.
Talking
shit,
getting
into
little
competitions
like:
you
know
I
think
the
Yankees
are
going
to
with
this
year,
or
I
think
the
Red
Socks
are
going
to
win
this
year.
Not
really
paying
attention
to
what
is
going
on
in
the
rest
of
the
room.
Maybe
every
now
and
then
you
notice
a
girl
walk
by
and
you're
like,
aw
yeah.
But
you're
really
in
your
own
world.
If
you
do
this
at
the
same
time
that
you
are
near
a
high
traffic
area.
At
a
cocktail
party
maybe
it's
the
kitchen.
At
a
bar
maybe
it's
the
bar.
Women
will
just
magically
appear.
They
will
just
show
up
and
you're
like,
"Oh
girls
are
around!"
You
know
why?
Because
you're
creating
value
in
the
room.
People
are
out
to
have
fun,
they're
out
to
enjoy
themselves
and
they
see
these
people
enjoying
themselves
and
they
want
to
be
near
by
it.
Now,
it
might
not
be
the
woman
who
you
want
to
approach.
It
might
not
be
that
one
girl
off
in
the
corner
who
you've
got
your
eye
on.
But,
when
you
start
to
do
this
you
create
value
in
the
room
and
people
are
going
to
notice
and,
you're
going
to
have
some
attractive
girls
around
you.
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Then
you
want
to
do,
what
I
call,
'going
for
the
layups'.
We
all
know
what
a
layup
is
in
basketball,
you're
going
to
go
up
for
the
easy
shots.
You're
going
to
see
some
girls
around
you,
you're
going
to
be
talking
to
your
buddy
and
you're
going
to
be
like,
"Hey
have
you
been
peed
on
before?"
That
would
not
be
a
good
conversation
starter
...
maybe
it
would
if
you're
like
in
a
really
crazy
place
and
the
girl
...
but
you're
just
going
to
grab
a
girl
who
is
near
by
you
and
bring
her
into
the
conversation
somehow.
You
can
bring
her
in
directly,
you
can
be
like,
"Hey
come
here,
come
here
we
need
a
girl
to
talk
to
about
this."
Or,
just
in
passing
you
could
be
like,
"Hey
quick
question
for
you."
A
good
example
of
this
is,
one
time
my
buddies
and
I
were
talking
about
Friends,
that
TV
show
Friends.
I
was
like,
"Hey
guys
real
quickly
what's
the
name
of
Jennifer
Aniston's
character
on
Friends?"
And
everybody
jumps
and
is
like,
"It's
Rachel!"
And
I'm
like,
"Cool
thanks."
Back
to
my
conversation.
So
I'm
just
having
fun
and
maybe
a
moment
later
I
might
reopen
the
conversation.
But,
I'm
going
to
go
up
for
the
layups.
Another
layup
is
just
the
girls
who
look
open.
Nick
talked
about
the
girls
who
are
giving
you
attention
and
eye
contact.
Just
look
for
the
girls
who
are
standing
there
the
same
way
that
Evan
and
I
were
when
we
were
like
being
the
weird
dudes.
There
are
just
certain
girls
who
just
go
to
the
bar
and
they're
very
open
and
you're
just
going
to
look
for
those
girls
and
go
talk
to
them.
Another
one
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that's
great;
so,
you're
going
to
bro
circle
up
you're
going
to
get
some
girls
talking
to
you.
Next
thing
you
might
do,
and
this
is
definitely
part
of
my
social
program,
is
go
find
the
hottest
girl
in
the
room
and
talk
to
her.
This
is
a
line
I
came
up
with
years
ago,
it
was
rooted
in
reality,
I
was
jean
shopping
with
my
friend
Brie
that
day
and
I
realized
how
difficult
it
is
to
buy
jeans
for
themselves
and
make
their
butts
look
nice
...
Maybe?
Yes?
Is
this
a
phenomena?
So,
apparently
this
is
a
phenomena
and
after
trying
on
twenty
pairs
of
jeans
she
was
dissatisfied
with
all
of
them.
So
what
I
found
to
be
an
effective
conversation
starter
was,
I
would
walk
up
to
a
very
attractive
girl
and
I'd
be
like,
"Hey
listen,
the
dress
you're
wearing
or
the
jeans
you're
wearing
or
what
have
you,
I
have
a
friend
who
has
a
very
similar
physique
to
yours
and
this
outfit
just
looks
amazing
on
you.
I
was
just
shopping
with
her
earlier
today
and
she
was
looking
for
jeans.
Do
you
mind
if
I
ask
you
what
brand
that
is?
Or
do
you
mind
if
I
ask
you
what
dress
that
is?"
You
just
get
that
initial
conversation
going
with
the
really
attractive
girl.
You're
not
hitting
on
her.
Your
body
language
is
doing
everything
that
I
told
you.
Your
focus
is
on
her
but
you
don't
even
have
a
flirtatious
vibe
at
that
point.
If
she
hasn't
been
giving
you
anything,
if
this
is
the
first
time
that
you've
entered
her
awareness,
then
you're
not
trying
to
pierce
it
and
make
it
super
flirtatious.
All
you're
doing
is
just
building
a
little
bit
of
rapport
with
her
and
that's
it.
So
when
you
get
the
hot
girl
talking
to
you,
every
other
girl
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in
the
room
is
going
to
be
like,
"Whoa,
that
girl
is
talking
to
this
guy.
He
must
have
some
value."
That's
the
real
magic
of
this.
You're
not
talking
to
the
hot
girl
to
hit
on
her,
you're
talking
to
the
hot
girl
to
get
every
other
girl
in
the
room
to
pay
attention
to
you.
And
that
is
what
is
going
to
happen.
Then,
you
can
take
your
pick
from
there.
Move
around
and
you'll
find
girls
come
up
to
you,
approach
you
and
maybe
you
just
get
some
eye
contact
from
one
and
you
keep
doing
all
the
stuff
that
we've
been
talking
about.
Another
real
easy
thing
to
do
to
get
attraction
before
the
approach
is
talk
to
the
couple
or
the
guy.
I
hear
that
one
of
the
men
in
our
midst
was
doing
that
a
fair
amount
last
night.
Now,
when
I
talk
about
doing
that,
I
mean
in
a
very
platonic
way.
What
I'll
often
do
is
I'll
find
a
very
friendly
open
couple
and
maybe
they're
standing
at
a
bar,
maybe
they're
at
a
table
and
I'll
just
position
myself
nearby
them
and
wait
to
hear
what
they
are
talking
about.
Great
example
I
always
tell
is,
I'm
at
a
bar
one
time
and
I
hear
these
people
talking
about
Brave
Heart
and
I
just
jump
into
the
conversation.
I
was
like,
"That
was
one
of
my
favorite
movies
ever.
Mel
Gibson's
character
in
that
is
like
such
a
representation
of
what
a
man
should
be."
It
was
just
a
fun,
friendly
group.
I
think
there
were
like
three
or
four
of
them.
They
just
jumped
in,
picked
up
and
we
kept
vibing.
So
if
you
go
into
a
bar
and
you
find
just
find
people
who
look
open
and
look
like
they're
having
a
lot
of
fun
and
have
good
conversations.
You
want
to
be
careful
not
to
find,
like
you
can
have
a
foursome
of
people
who
are
just
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there
and
they're
in
their
own
world.
You
have
to
differentiate
the
people
who
are
closed
off
and
the
people
who's
body
language
is
just
a
little
bit
more
open
and
they're
laughing
a
lot.
So
make
friends
with
the
couple
or
the
guy
or
what
have
you.
Then
we
said
pick
the
social
spot.
Finally,
when
it
comes
to
actually
approaching
the
girl,
I
find
what's
hopeful
is
either
being
the
first
guy
in
or
the
last.
Traditionally,
I'm
the
last
guy
in.
I'm
not
going
to
lie,
I'm
not
great
about
approaching
women,
just
going
up
and
starting
that
conversation.
I
do
it
if
it
presents
itself
as
an
opportunity
but
I
don't
actively
like,
"Oh
that
girl,
I'm
going
to
go
talk
to
her."
It's
a
lot
more
of
what
we
were
just
talking
about
now
and
just
seeing
what
comes
of
the
night.
Usually
what
will
happen
is
if
you're
doing
all
these
things,
you'll
get
eye
contact
from
the
girl
you
want
or
you'll
find
yourself
in
a
conversation
with
another
girl
who
you're
really
into.
Then
what
will
happen
is,
maybe
Nick
will
go
and
approach
her.
That
often
happens.
It's
really
helpful
if
you've
got
a
guy
who
is,
what
we
call,
an
asset.
The
asset
is
the
one
who,
in
the
Bourne
Identity
they're
always
like,
"Call
in
the
asset
to
go
murder
the
person."
In
our
world
the
asset
is
the
guy
who
goes
in
and
does
the
approach.
It's
a
very
valuable
skill
to
have
if
you
can
develop
it.
If
you
can't
or
that's
just
not
your
personality,
find
a
guy
who
is
and
just
be
the
guy
who
comes
and
really
makes
him
look
good
and
closes.
So
those
are
a
few
ideas
about
getting
attraction
before
the
approach.
A
general
bar
strategy
that
you
might
use
when
going
out.
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What
are
you
going
to
talk
to
the
girl
about
though?
Where
does
the
conversation
go?
Is
this
kind
of
on
everybody's
mind,
what
do
I
say
to
girls
when
I
first
meet
them?
Yes?
Because
I
can
skip
it.
Yeah?
I
can
skip
it!
You
guys
want
to
hear
this?
OK,
alright.
Honestly,
the
start
of
the
conversation
is
usually
going
to
be
fluff
talk.
It's
usually
going
to
be
a
really
simple
fluff,
like,
"Hey,
how's
it
going?
Where
are
you
from?
How
do
you
know
the
host?
What
brought
you
out
tonight?"
If
you
are
so
inspired,
you
can
always
use
different
lines,
"Hey
I
saw
you
from
across
the
bar
and
I
just
had
to
come
talk
to
you.
I
find
you
very
attractive."
I'm
trying
to
think
of
some
other
opening
conversation
lines
that
I've
used.
Often
times
it
will
be
situational,
so
like
last
time
I
was
out
and
actually
talking
to
girls
winter
was
becoming
spring
so
I
noticed
a
girl
wearing
sandals
and
was
standing
next
to
her,
it
was
one
of
these
bro
circle
situations,
I'm
out
with
my
buddies
and
we're
just
having
fun.
I
see
her
standing
next
to
me
and
I
say,
"Oh
my
god
you're
wearing
sandals!"
And
she's
like,
"Yeah
I
know."
I
was
like,
"First
sandals
I've
see
all
year.
You're
making
me
very
happy
right
now."
"Why
is
that?"
"Spring
is
coming!
Winter
is
over.
And
you're
in
the
mood
already,
you're
in
the
spirit."
And
she's
like,
"I
know."
And
we
just
start
vibing
about
that,
having
fun
talking
about
it.
This
is
a
very
situational
approach.
So
there
is
that.
We
already
talked
about
your
body
language,
tonality,
eye
contact
and
getting
all
that
stuff
right.
The
next
thing
that
I'm
normally
going
to
do
once
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we
get
past
that
fluff
talk
is
I'm
going
to
start
to
try
to
get
a
little
bit
personal.
I'm
going
to
try
to
drop
in
some
kind
of
high
value
story
about
my
life.
This
is
my
own
programming,
everybody
has
their
own
thing.
My
thing
is
normally,
to
try
to
drop
in
some
high
status
or
high
value
story
about
my
life
and
do
it
in
a
way
that's
not
bragging
but
just
where
it
is
like,
I've
got
a
fucking
cool
life.
My
goal
with
this
is
to
establish
in
her
mind,
I
want
her
to
remember
me
as
the
guy
who
did
'x'.
So
there
is
a
couple
stories
that
I'll
always
go
to
that
demonstrate
that
I'm
adventurous,
that
I
take
risks,
that
I
really
value
certain
things
in
life.
These
go
to
stories
are
thing
that
I'll
just
try
to
take
the
conversation
in
that
direction.
Two
tuna
rolls
for
muah,
por
favor.
So
the
key
point
of
this
is,
if
this
is
your
life,
if
you
really
do
have
high
value
things
to
talk
about
then
that's
the
better
way
to
roll
...
we've
already
talked
about
that.
Once
you
vibe
on
some
high
value,
you
share
a
little
bit
about
yourself
but
it's
really
all
about
getting
her
to
open
up
and
learning
more
about
her.
The
next
thing
that
you
are
going
to
drive
towards
is
her
motivations.
What
lead
her
to
do
what
she's
talking
about?
What
lead
her
to
be
this
way?
We're
going
to
do
a
demonstration
where
this
should
become
pretty
apparent.
But,
again
the
third
thing
is
I
want
to
drive
towards
the
who
of
who
she
is.
Why
does
she
do
what
she
does?
What
about
her?
This
way
we're
getting
past
the
topic
we're
talking
about
which
could
be
travel
and
we're
getting
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into
a
personal
situation
or
personal
understanding
of
each
other.
What
lead
her
to
be
this
way?
The
fourth
part
of
this
is,
what
I
call,
qualification.
This
is
where
I'm
affirming
that
I
like
that
she
is
that
way
...
"Wow
that's
amazing
that
you're
so
spontaneous.
We
could
have
an
amazing
time
traveling
the
world
together."
Something
like
that.
Then
the
fifth
step,
if
you
want
just
accelerate
it
right
there,
is
asking
for
her
number.
So
we're
going
to
demo
that
whole
process
right
now.
We
haven't
really
practiced
this
yet,
so
I
may
completely
screw
it
up
but
I
think
it
will
probably
go
just
fine.
So
come
on
up.
Is
that
semi
clear
at
least?
Give
you
guys
a
little
bit
of
a
structure
to
start
to
work
off
of.
So
here
we
are.
We're
just
going
to
start
talking.
What
we're
going
to
start
talking
about
is
I
was
going
to
ask
how
you
know
...
yeah
we're
at
a
party,
we've
just
met
each
other.
I
saw
her
across
the
way,
maybe
we're
in
the
kitchen.
This
will
happen
sometimes,
you
just
see
somebody
and
you
start
talking
and
you're
like,
"So
how
do
you
know
everybody
here?"
And
that's
what
we're
going
to
start
rolling
with.
Alicia,
how
do
you
know
everybody
here?
Alicia:
I
actually
don't
know
any
people
here.
I'm
friends
with
one
person
and
they
invited
me.
Christian:
OK.
Well
honestly,
I
don't
know
too
many
people
here
either
so
we
can
be
conspiratorial
party
judgers.
As
we
look
around
the
room,
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andyou
know
when
it's
your
friends
you
don't
always
want
to
be
like,
"Aw
that
person
is
a
piece
of
shit."
But
we
don't
know
any
of
these
people...
Christian:
We
can
completely
judge
away.
Do
you
get
invited
to
things
randomly
like
this
a
lot?
Alicia:
I
kind
of
do.
I
feel
like
my
friends
know
I'm
like
a
yes
man.
I
always
love
being
spontaneous.
Christian:
Interesting.
Because
normally
you
hear
yes
men,
people
don't
think
that's
a
good
thing.
You
are
a
woman
right?
I
mean
I
haven't
checked
completely
yet
...
Alicia: Yes.
Christian:
Good
to
know.
Just
wanted
to
get
that
out
of
the
way.
So
anyways,
normally
people
think
that's
like
a
bad
thing,
but
yet
you're
here.
Christian:
So
mean
this
in
the
spontaneous
way,
you
don't
mean
this
in
like
you
just
always
telling
your
boss
yes,
yes,
yes,
yes.
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Alicia:
I
mean
maybe
a
little
of
both,
but
more
like
spontaneous.
I
love
it
for
the
aspect
of
having
stories
and
life
experiences.
Christian:
Actually
I
love
that.
I
love
that
you
said
that
because
sometimes
I
go
out
and
like
I've
live
some
really
crazy,
spontaneous
adventures.
Every
now
and
then
I'll
meet
somebody
and
be
talking
about
one
of
these
things
and
they'll
be
like
...
and
I
just
kind
of
look
in
their
eyes
and
they're
like,
"Ummm
you
know
that
seems
like
a
little
too
much."
You
just
see
that
look.
Do
you
ever
get
that
from
people,
where
they're
just
like,
"Whoa.
What
you're
talking
about
I
just
can't
relate
to
at
all."
Christian:
It
kind
of
sounds
like
we
understand
each
other.
What's
something
spontaneous
you've
done?
Christian: Exactly.
Alicia: I got invited to go to India with a two week notice.
Alicia: Yeah.
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Christian:
That's
spontaneous!
Gotcha.
Well
two
weeks
notice,
that
gives
you
enough
time
to
what,
book
your
ticket
and
...
Christian:
Well
you
look
friendly,
like
you
just
show
up
and
like,
"Hey
let
me
in."
Yeah.
Did
you
ride
any
elephants
when
you
were
there?
Christian: I feel like that's kind of the cliché thing to do.
Alicia: They're like cars, they like go with traffic with the cars.
Christian: Interesting. Wouldn't you be sitting up above the cars?
Christian:
Did
you
have
the
urge
to
like
stomp
on
any
cars
when
they're
like
down
below
you?
Alicia: No.
Christian:
I
would
totally
want
to
do
that.
I
would
totally
want
to
stomp
on
the
cars
with
the
elephant
and
be
like,
"Yo
that
guy,
he
just
cut
us
off."
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Christian:
Exactly.
Not
to
be
too
vindictive
but
like
that's
every
boy's
little
fantasy
is
to
ride
around
in
an
elephant
and
stomp
on
cars.
Did
you
know
this?
Christian:
Secret
of
male
physiology
that
I've
just
shared
with
you
right
now.
If
you
ever
meet
a
man
and
you
really
want
to
win
his
heart
a
great
date
to
take
him
on
would
be
on
top
of
an
elephant.
Just
kidding,
I
have
no
idea
what
I'm
talking
about.
I
did
hang
out
with
some
monkeys
one
time.
I
was
in
Bali
and
we
went
to
this
monkey
forest
and
we
had
the
monkeys
climbing
all
over
us
and
they
were
opening
bags
and
trying
to
get
to
gum.
And
I
actually
might
have
gotten
peed
on
by
one
of
the
monkeys.
Christian:
Yeah.
I
mean
I
don't
know
you
that
well.
I
don't
want
to
tell
you
that
it
definitely
happened
'cause
that
could
be
kind
of
weird
if
you
...
I'm
not
a
guy
that
normally
likes
to
get
peed
on.
Christian:
Exactly.
But
it
was
awesome,
the
whole
trip,
Asia
is
just
so
foreign
and
so
different
and
there's
always
this
mystery
about
it
to
me.
When
I
would
go
out
to
Asia
it
felt
like
there
was
some
puzzle
to
be
unlocked
when
I
was
out
there.
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Then
I
realized
it's
actually
just
a
lot
of
poverty
and
a
lot
of
people
struggling
and
a
lot
of
people
hawking
cigarettes.
Were
you
anywhere
else
besides
India?
Alicia:
A
while
ago
in
college
I
went
to
Greece
for
a
study
abroad.
It
was
awesome
but
I
was
in
college
so
it
was
like
...
Alicia: Yeah.
Christian:
OK
that's
cool.
I'm
getting
this
sense
that
you're
very,
very
spontaneous
and
very
outgoing.
Alicia:
I
feel
you
have
to
be.
I
have
stories
to
tell
and
it's
exciting
and
it's
fun
and
even
if
it's
bad
you
can
make
it
into
something
good.
You
know?
Christian:
That's
such
a
positive
attitude
that
you
have.
You
should
at
least
start
a
blog
or
start
tweeting
the
positively
tweets
everyday.
Alicia: I should.
Christian:
Are
we
past
the
age
where
its
like
crap
to
have
a
twitter
account?
I
think
the
Iranian
president
just
got
a
twitter
account
or
something.
So
maybe
it's
like
...
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Christian:
Maybe
it's
time
for
us
to
get
twitter
accounts.
I
just
feel
so
weird
being
like
I
just
tweeted
this.
Alicia: Right.
Alicia:
Yeah
I
do,
here
and
there
when
I
do
something
exciting
and
I
know
my
mom
wants
to
know
about
it
and
maybe
I
don't
have
time
to
call
her
all
the
time,
I'll
post
it
and
she
gets
really
excited.
Christian: Do you remember the moment your mom joined Facebook?
Alicia: I do.
Christian:
It's
kind
of
a
big
moment
because
you're
like,
"Oh
my
gosh
my
private
life
is
being
exposed
to
my
mother."
Alicia:
And
she
doesn't
quite
get
it
yet.
So
everything
is
in
all
caps
and
she
doesn't
understand
it.
Alicia: I did. It's like she's yelling at me all the time.
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Christian:
That's
amazing.
Alright
lets
pause
right
here.
We're
trying
to
work
through
that.
Some
of
it
worked
exactly
as
I
wanted,
some
of
it
didn't.
I
normally
wouldn't
dwell
on
monkeys
peeing
on
myself
but
apparently
we've
been
talking
about
that
today
so
it
just
stuck
in
my
mind.
I
hope
I
didn't
recover
too
poorly
from
that
one.
What
I
did
try
to
do
is
throw
in
a
little
bit
of
a
story
about
my
own
like,
just
a
little
bit
of
stuff
that
I
could
relate
to
to
keep
you
talking.
Any
thoughts
from
your
end?
Honestly,
thoughts
on
how
that
went
...
what
worked?
What
didn't?
Alicia:
No,
its
good.
I
get
what
you're
saying
because
it
made
me
feel
good
about
the
experiences
I've
had
and
I
was
excited
to
tell
you
about
them
and
talk
about
it.
Christian:
Cool.
The
eye
contact
was
OK?
The
body
language
was
not
too
bad?
So
that
would
be
like
a
normal
conversation
I
would
have
at
a
cocktail
party.
Then
I
thin
we
would
normally,
if
I
was
getting
along
with
you,
I'd
be
like,
"Hey
you
know
what?
Why
don't
we,
I
need
a
drink
right
now,
lets
go
grab
a
drink
somewhere."
It's
really
going
to
be
that
simple.
At
a
bar
where
there
is
alcohol
it's
going
to
be
a
little
bit
more
charged
but
it's
going
to
be
a
lot
of
the
same
stuff.
You're
welcome
to
have
a
seat
at
this
point.
Thank
you
very
much
for
that.
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An
audience
member
mentioned
that
the
pause
in
the
conversation
could
be
kind
of
awkward,
and
was
wondering
if
there
was
a
way
you
could
do
something
akin
to
a
“half
pause.”
I
mean,
that
could
work.
Be
like,
"Hey
listen,
I'm
going
to
go
grab
some
buddies
or
I
really
got
to
use
the
restroom.
I'll
catch
up
to
you
in
a
little
bit."
Honestly
another
thing
you
could
say
is
like,
"Hey
listen,
I
really
liked
talking
to
you.
I'll
catch
you
up
in
a
little
bit."
I've
done
that
before
plenty
of
times.
I'm
just
going
to
go
off
and
find
someone
else
to
talk
to,
go
reconnect
with
your
buddies.
If
it's
not
totally
connecting
in
that
first
moment,
and
this
is
something
else
to
keep
in
mind,
there's
been
times
when
I've
had
conversations
like
that
which
were
good
but
not
amazing.
We
got
along
very
well,
but
sparks
weren't
flying
right
away.
But
maybe
the
party
goes
on,
there's
another
drink
that's
had
and
maybe
we
connect
and
we're
like,
"Oh
hey,
how's
it
going
again?"
Maybe
we
find
ourselves
talking
to
each
other
again
and
after
two
or
three
or
four
subsequent
conversations
it
really
starts
to
click.
If
you're
first
conversation
is
good
but
not
amazing,
don't
feel
bad
about
it,
don't
write
it
off.
Because
plenty
of
times
I've
had
conversations
just
like
that
and
maybe
ten
years
ago
I
would
have
had
that
conversation
and
been
like,
"Aw
shit.
I
totally
messed
that
up.
I
talked
about
how
I
don't
like
being
peed
on
and
I
didn't
really
share
that
much
about
myself.
And
she
just
gave
me
this
look
when
I
was
saying
this
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM WHAT TO SAY
one
thing.
Like
it
totally
ruined
it."
Now
if
I
had
a
conversation
like
that,
I'd
be
like,
"Alright,
it
felt
good.
I'm
still
going
to
keep
talking
to
her."
I
would
just
not
get
too
hung
up
on
that.
I
hope
that
gives
you
an
answer.
Thanks.
Something
else
to
keep
in
mind,
there
were
a
few
points
where
I
said
stupid
stuff.
I
say
stupid
stuff
a
lot,
no
matter
what
my
position
in
the
world
might
be
as
a
coach
who
teaches
guys
how
to
talk
to
girls.
I
say
stupid
stuff
pretty
frequently
because
I
just
say
a
lot
of
stuff.
When
you
say
a
lot
of
stuff,
inevitably
you
will
say
stupid
stuff.
The
goal
is
to
not
get
too
hung
up
by
it.
Recover
from
it
and
just
move
on.
I
was
talking
about
that
and
then
I
immediately
went
back
to
like
Asia
and
blah,
blah,
blah
...
and
went
on.
That
was
just
not
getting
hung
up
by
that.
I'm
actually
really
glad
the
conversation
went
that
way
and
not
like
so
like
sparks
perfectly
because
I
feel
like
that’s
the
conversation
that
more
guys
have
than
like
the
smooth,
amazing
like
this
is
the
best
conversation
I've
ever
had
in
the
world.
Other
questions
about
that
one?
OK,
cool.
So,
there
are
five
things
in
the
initial
conversation
that
you
can
work
in.
I
didn't
work
in
that
high
value
story,
I
kind
of
dropped
it
for
a
second.
But
if
we'd
continued
talking,
I
didn't
want
to
take
up
all
of
our
time
today
by
talking,
I
would
have
definitely
driven
towards
more
about
myself,
gotten
more
to
open
up
and
share
certain
things
about
me
that
I
just
wanted
her
to
have
in
my
mind.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM WHAT TO SAY
I
probably
would
have
really
stuck
with
the
Asia
thing,
about
my
travels
to
Asia
and
how
much
Asia
means
to
me.
The
one
other
thing
that
I'm
curious
about,
did
you
like
the
story
about
the
elephants
and
smashing
cars?
Like
Alex
was
saying
yesterday,
just
being
genuine
and
allowing
myself
to
say
stupid
things.
One
other
thing
along
those
lines
is,
I
notice
that
I
did
this
...
I'm
noticing
this
retroactively.
I
kind
of
gave
you
advice.
I
was
like,
"If
you
ever
want
to
take
a
guy
on
a
date
and
really
impress
him
you
can
put
him
on
an
elephant
..."
You
responded
pretty
favorably
to
that
but
in
that
moment
that
was
like
definitely
a
status
move.
I
was
like,
"I'm
giving
you
some
advice.
I'm
telling
you
something
to
do."
I
was
also
almost
disqualifying
myself
as
somebody
who
she'd
be
dating.
I
was
like,
"If
you
ever
want
to
take
out
a
guy
on
a
date
and
impress
him."
So
that's
definitely
something
I
didn't
plan
to
do
in
that
conversation.
I
suppose
it
came
out
unconsciously.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
Right
now
I
want
to
talk
about
how
to
reset
a
girl's
impression
of
you.
You
haven't
made
a
good
impression
on
her
or
whatever
the
case.
Maybe
you've
been
put
in
the
friend
zone,
maybe
it's
been
for
a
day
or
maybe
for
a
week
or
for
a
month
or
a
year.
Whatever
the
case,
of
the
dynamic
is,
she
does
not
think
of
you
sexually.
That's
what
happens
when
you're
in
the
friend
zone.
She
likes
you,
but
she
does
not
think
of
you
sexually.
The
objective,
if
you
want
to
turn
that
around,
is
to
introduce
sexuality
to
the
dynamic
of
the
relationship
and
what
we
would
call,
flip
the
frame.
The
frame
up
to
that
point
is
you're
the
one
who
wants
her,
and
she
doesn't
see
you
sexually.
You
want
to
flip
it
around
so
that
she
is
like,
"Wait,
does
he
not
want
me?
Maybe
..
Wait,
but
there
is
sexuality
...
uh,
oh
wait,
maybe
he's
a
sexual
guy,
and
I
need
to
prove
myself
to
him."
That's
kind
of
what
we
want
to
do
here.
Up
to
this
point,
you've
been
trying
to
get
sex
from
her.
Now
we
want
to
try
to
have
her
thinking
about
sex
with
you.
There's
a
4
to
5
step
process.
It
starts
with
getting
your
shit
together.
We've
talked
about
exercise,
good
diet,
and
being
social.
If
you
are
currently
in
the
friend
zone
with
a
girl,
then
I
would
just
say
take
this
opportunity
to
get
your
shit
together.
Get
your
diet
together.
Start
exercising
more
and
start
going
out
and
being
social.
That's
going
to
give
you
some
momentum,
and
it's
going
to
give
you
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
a
different
more
positive,
more
attractive
energy
that
she's
going
to
notice
and
respond
to.
What
I'm
also
going
to
tell
you,
if
you're
in
the
friend
zone,
is
the
first
step
to
being
successful
with
getting
a
girl
back
is
to
give
up
on
getting
her
back.
In
1
way
you’ve
already
lost
her.
She
doesn't
think
of
you
as
a
perspective
sexual
partner.
Now,
you've
got
to
get
to
the
point
where
you
are
willing
to
take
some
risks
in
order
to
flip
that
around
or
perhaps
lose
her
as
a
friend.
The
decisions
you
make
around
this
are
really
going
to
be
up
to
you.
They're
going
to
be
in
your
heart
how
much
you
value
her
as
a
friend,
how
much
you
want
her
as
something
more.
I
find
that
I've
been
friends
with
girls
who
have
had
these
guys
who
really
want
to
hook
up
with
them
and
who
just
keep
them
around.
I
feel
that
it's
mutually
disrespectful.
I
feel
it's
disrespectful
to
the
girl
to
keep
around
a
guy
who
just
makes
her
feel
good
and
affirms
her
value.
I
feel
it's
disrespectful
for
the
guy
to
not
be
honest
with
the
girl
about
what
he
really
wants
and
to
stay
in
that
situation
is
disrespectful
to
himself,
so
the
second
thing
is
give
up.
Then
do
what
I'm
going
to
teach
you
guys.
Give
up
the
fact
that
you've
lost
her
already.
What
is
the
4
to
5
step
process
once
you've
given
up
and
once
you're
getting
your
life
together.
The
first
thing
is
you
want
to
create
some
space.
If
you
see
her
regularly,
if
you
see
her
all
the
time,
if
you
have
a
pattern
established
of
how
often
you
see
her,
if
she's
used
to
calling
on
you
for
things
like
picking
her
up
or
driving
her
home
or
helping
her
out
with
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
something
...
I've
talked
to
these
guys
who
are
like,
"Yeah,
I
drive
her
home
from
work
every
day,"
or
"I
do
this
or
that."
Create
some
space.
You
don't
want
to
dramatically
change
the
dynamic
of
the
relationship.
When
you
see
her,
you
still
want
to
be
the
same
guy.
You
just
want
to
start
creating
some
space.
Don't
change
who
you
are
with
her.
Just
create
space.
Then,
at
some
point,
you're
going
to
have
what
I
call
the
50
Shades
of
Grey
conversation,
and
we're
going
to
demonstrate
this
conversation
very
shortly,
but
this
is
a
great
conversation
that
starts
to
turn
the
frame
around.
The
next
thing
you'll
do
at
that
point
once
you've
had
this
conversation,
it's
going
to
really
reset
the
frame.
Then,
in
all
the
subsequent
interactions
you
have
with
the
girl,
you're
just
going
to
reinforce
that
frame
with
your
body
language
and
with
little
jokes.
What
you
will
find
is
if
you
have
done
this
right,
and
if
she's
responsive
to
it,
she
will
start
trying
to
sexually
qualify
herself
to
you.
You
can
do
this,
if
a
girl
who
is
not
in
the
friend
zone,
too.
You
can
just
be
playful.
You
do
it
at
a
bar.
You're
going
to
do
some
things
like
you're
going
to
have
a
...
When
you're
around
her,
you're
going
to
check
out
other
girls,
and
you're
not
going
to
be
ashamed
of
it.
You
can
do
all
the
stuff
that
Nick
was
talking
about
earlier
like
looking
at
girls
when
they
walk
by,
giving
them
wry
smiles,
doing
the
things
you
need
to
do
to
share
her
that
your
focus
is
not
100%
on
her.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
You
can
tease
her
about
other
guys.
Look
at
...
He'd
be
really
good
for
you.
Pick
like
the
dorkiest
guy
you
can
find.
He'd
be
really
good
for
you.
Then
a
lot
of
it
again,
in
terms
of
how
you
show
this
interest
is
just
body
language.
Before
you're
probably
always
giving
her
all
your
body
language.
Now
it's
like,
you're
on
your
mission.
You're
on
your
path.
You're
in
your
zone,
and
she's
just
like
there.
If
you've
done
this
all
right,
then
what
you
will
find
is
that
9
out
of
10
times
although
I
haven't
done
this
10
times,
but
I'm
guessing
9
out
of
10
or
8
out
of
10
times,
she
will
start
to
work
to
sexually
qualify
herself
to
you,
and
she
will
work
within
the
frame
that
you've
now
established,
and
she
will
put
some
effort
in
to
making
things
flirtations
with
you.
At
that
point,
it's
back
to
everything
else
that
we
teach.
She
may
make
a
move
on
you.
That
has
happened.
Sometimes
though,
you'll
need
to
make
the
move
on
her,
but
at
least
you've
flipped
the
frame
around.
If
none
of
that
works,
the
next
thing
you
can
do
is
you
can
buy
this
book
called
sexstrology.
SEXTROLOGY.
This
book
is
all
about
what
your
astronomical
sign.
It's
what
your
astrological
sign
says
about
you
in
a
sexual
relationship,
what
kind
of
sexual
partner
you
are.
I'm
not
the
one
who
discovered
this
book.
I
can't
remember
where
I
heard
about
it,
but
it
is
like
crack
for
every
girl
I've
ever
talked
to
or
showed
it
to
in
my
life.
I
don't
know
why,
but
a
lot
of
girls
seem
to
be
into
astrology,
and
it
combines
the
naughtiness
of
sex
and
the
cold-‐reading
allure
of
astrology.
You
buy
this
book,
and
at
some
point
you
just
make
sure
that
it's
wherever
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
that
she's
going
to
be.
Maybe
you
give
her
a
ride
home
from
work.
It's
in
your
car.
It's
not
just
sitting
there
on
the
passenger
seat.
Maybe
it's
one
of
3
books
in
a
Barnes
&
Noble
bag,
but
her
eyes
will
land
on
that
one.
That's
going
to
introduce
even
more
sexuality
to
the
conversation.
You
can
talk
about
her.
She
can
talk
about
you.
This
can
all
be
combined
very
quickly.
You
can
have
that
sextrology
conversation
the
exact
same
time
you
have
the
50
shades
conversation,
and
we'll
demonstrate
the
50
shades
conversation
in
a
little
bit.
Finally,
if
none
of
that
works,
and
I've
never
done
this.
I'm
just
including
this
because
my
buddy
Adam
Lyons
told
me
that
this
has
worked
quite
well
for
him.
Does
anybody
know
Adam
Lyons
or
know
of
Adam
Lyons?
You
know
Adam
Lyons.
Adam's
a
great
guy.
We
were
hanging
out
the
other
week,
and
we
were
talking
about
our
various
techniques
to
get
a
girl
who's
friend
zoned
you
to
get
you
out
of
the
friend
zone.
He's
like,
"Oh,
mate.
All
right.
Technique
is
a
full
body
orgasm
technique."
This
is
my
best
Adam
Lyons
impression.
It's
still
pretty
terrible.
It's
like,
"What's
the
full
body
orgasm
technique?"
"All
right,
what
you
do
is
you
create
the
space
from
the
girl."
You
create
space
from
the
girl
for
a
while,
maybe
2
months,
and
then
you
get
coffee
with
her,
and
when
you
see
her
you
tell
her
...
She's
like,
"So
what
have
you
been
up
to?"
You
ask
her.
She
asks
you.
You
say,
"And
life's
just
been
crazy
lately.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
You
know
a
few
months
ago
I
went
to
this
seminar
that
kind
of
changed
my
life.
At
this
seminar
we
learned
how
to
give
women
full
body
orgasms,
so
I've
been
doing
that.
And
I
go
out,
and
I
talk
to
people,
and
they
want
to
experience
this
because
they've
never
experienced
something
like
that
before,
so
I've
just
been
meeting
a
lot
of
women,
and
they
all
want
to
experience
this
full
body
orgasm,
so
I've
been
doing
that
a
lot
lately,
and
uh
..."
She'll
be
like,
well,
how
does
it
work?
And
you'll
be
like,
"Well,
I
can't
show
you,
obviously,
not
right
here."
It
kind
of
starts
and
you
just
lead
it
into
a
sexual
conversation.
I'll
leave
you
to
seek
out
Adam
Lyons
if
it
gets
to
that
point.
I
don't
want
to
take
credit
for
what
he
did,
but
he
said
that
that
works
very
well.
If
it
gets
to
that
point,
I'd
love
to
hear
about
it
if
that
works
for
you,
but
I
thought
I'd
throw
it
in
there
because
he
was
so
excited
about
it.
He's
like,
"Mate,
it
works
every
fucking
time.
Every
time.
All
right.
Maybe
not
every
time,
but
most
of
the
time,
it
works.
Really
well."
That's
how
Adam
talks,
so
...
Let's
talk
about
the
50
shades
conversation
because
this
is
something
that
I
know
works.
This
will
work
over
text
messaging.
If
you're
texting
with
a
girl
a
lot
you
can
ask
her
this.
It
works
in
real
conversations,
so
if
you
wouldn't
mind
joining
me
once
again.
Imagine
that
I
have
friend-‐zoned
myself
with
Alicia.
By
the
way,
most
of
the
time
if
you're
put
in
the
friend
zone
it's
because
you
did
not
initiate
touch
or
sexuality
soon
enough
in
the
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
relationship.
You
notice,
even
in
that
earlier
conversation,
I
was
still
touching
Alicia
a
lot.
If
I'm
in
the
friend
zone
right
now,
and
I'm
friends
with
Alicia
and
she
just
sees
me
as
a
nice,
sweet
guy
who's
a
total
non-‐threat.
We're
just
going
to
roll
with
this.
Alicia,
I
got
to
tell
you,
I
just
feel
like
girls
are
so
weird.
Have
you
heard
of
this
book
50
Shades
of
Grey?
Christian:
Okay.
Interesting.
I
just
found
out
how
popular
this
is
with
women.
It's
really
strange.
Have
you
read
the
book?
Alicia: Yeah. Sure have. Yeah. It's like break up therapy.
Christian:
How?
What
do
you
mean
by
that?
Go
ahead.
What
were
you
saying?
How's
it
break-‐up
therapy?
Alicia:
It
just
creates
the
perfect
dominant
male,
and
he
just
tell
her
what
to
do.
He
just
shows
total
dominance,
but
he
still
totally
respects
her.
It's
like
the
best
balance
of
both.
Alicia:
He
gets
rough
with
her
which
is
something,
too,
that
most
women
don't
always
get
to
do,
but
he
totally
takes
hold
of
the
situation
and-‐
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Christian: I'm sorry. I'm just really weirded out right now.
Alicia: Why?
Christian:
I
don't
know.
I
just
never
...
It's
just
weird
for
me
to
hear
you
talking
about
sex
and
dominance
because
I
just
never
think
of
you
I
that
way.
You're
my
friend.
It's
just
weird
for
me
to
think
about
you
reading
that.
What
I
understand
is
every
woman,
they
read
it,
and
it's
like
porn
for
the
female
mind.
Alicia: Right.
Christian:
That's
so
strange.
I'm
sorry.
I've
never
seen
you
that
way.
You're
like
my
friend.
I
just
don't
really
...
I
don't
know.
Alicia: Every woman has that side. That's what's so appealing.
Christian:
I
guess.
I
never
really
thought
you
...
I've
just
never
seen
you
that
way.
Forgive
me
for
that.
I've
just
never
seen
you
like
that.
This
is
kind
of
bad,
but
you
know
those
starfish.
They
reproduce
without
having
sex
...
That's
always
how
I've
...
Alicia: What?
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
Christian:
You're
like
a
starfish
to
me.
It's
wonderful.
It's
so
sweet.
Now
I
hear
this,
and
it
totally
ruins
my
...
I
don't
know.
You've
always
been
my
sweet
friend
and
you're
like
my
starfish.
Now
you're-‐
Christian:
Okay.
Listen
we're
friends,
so
I
don't
want
to
think
of
you
that
way.
It's
just
fine
as
it
is,
and
I've
liked
it
up
to
this
point.
Anyway,
that's
the
50
Shades
Conversation.
You're
just
going
to
have
this
conversation
where
you're
like
I
can't
believe
that
you're
a
sexual
human
being,
and
you're
starting
to
turn
around
the
frame
of
the
conversation
to
this
is
a
shock
to
me
that
you
are
a
sexual
human
being.
Then
you
give
her
that
nickname.
You're
like
a
starfish
or
like
a
lima
beans.
Lima
beans
also
reproduce
monozygotically.
This
is
a
very
constricted
version
of
the
conversation
or
compressed
version
of
the
conversation.
It
can
go
on
a
little
bit
longer.
You
can
talk
to
her
a
little
bit
more
about
what
is
it
about
the
book
that
makes
you
like
it?
Usually
discovery
is
going
to
be
a
little
bit
longer,
too.
The
discovery
that
she's
a
sexual
human
being
is
a
surprise.
I
was
really
trying
to
get
it
out
very
quickly
there,
but
in
the
past
when
this
conversation
has
happened
it's
always
been
more
of
a
slow,
wow,
I
just
didn't
really
...
I
don't
know.
Then
you
start
talking
about
I
know
you've
had
boyfriends
in
the
past,
but
I
was
never
sure
if
you
actually
hooked
up
with
them
or
what.
It's
a
slow,
long,
protracted
process.
The
effect
is
has
is
somewhat
magical.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
That's
it.
The
body
language
you're
going
to
have
from
that
point
forward
if
you're
a
guy
who
has
traditionally
given
a
girl
all
your
body
language,
you're
like
this
when
you're
talking
to
her.
Imagine
you're
out
with
her
at
the
bar,
and
you're
just
like
...
We're
out
at
the
bar
now,
and
we're
friends
or
what
have
you.
My
body
language
is
just
going
to
be
a
lot
less
interested.
Once
we've
had
this
conversation
maybe
it's
a
week
later
we're
hanging
out.
We're
talking,
but
I'm
just
like
this.
I'm
not
giving
you
a
whole
lot
of
my
body.
I'm
just
standing
here
looking
out,
talking
like
that.
That's
the
real
key.
Your
body
language
is
going
to
be
a
lot
less
interested
from
this
point
forward.
Thank
you,
very
much
for
that.
I
love
the
shock
on
your
face
by
the
way
because
it's
always
like
that.
It's
like,
is
he
really
saying
this
to
me.
Does
he
really
mean
this?
You're
getting
a
little
impudent
right
now.
Would
you
care
to
comment?
Alicia:
It
is
a
total
...
Even
someone
like
a
guy
friend
of
yours
or
something
to
have
them
say
I
don't
think
of
you
as
a
sexual
person
...
I'm
just
like
"uh."
Alicia: Of course. Everyone's sexual. Why would you not ... It kind of-‐
Alicia: It makes me want to challenge you and prove to you that-‐
Christian: You're sure it does? Kind of, sort of, a little bit?
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
Alicia: It makes me want to play with the idea, yeah.
Alicia: No, totally. It's like a challenge. Why would you not?
Christian:
All
right
good.
I
just
wanted
to
make
sure
that
I
wasn't
saying
shit
that
didn't
match
up
to
your
reality.
That's
really
...
Thank
you
very
much.
That's
really
the
principle
here.
It's
like
you
tell
a
girl
that
she
can't
do
something
or
you
don't
see
her
in
a
certain
way,
most
girls
will
respond
to
the
challenge
and
step
up
to
it.
I
was
talking
to
my
friend
Ashley
last
weekend.
She's
like,
"Oh
yeah,
we
were
out
with
some
guys
the
other
night,
and
they
were
like,
'Yeah,
you
know
we're
going
skydiving
tomorrow
morning,
but
you
guys
don't
really
seem
like
the
type
who
would
be
down
for
something
like
that."
She's
like,
"Fuck
that.
You
don't
tell
me
I'm
not
down
for
something
like
that.
I'm
going
to
go."
It's
that
sort
of
challenge,
that
same
principle
that
you're
putting
to
work
here.
Again,
we
did
it
in
a
very
compressed
way.
I
would
have
probably
been
a
little
smoother,
and
a
little
more
protracted
with
it.
You
can
start
this
over
text
messaging
and
go
from
there.
It's
great
when
it
happens
over
text
messaging
because
the
moment
you
say,
"I'm
shocked
that
you've
read
this,"
or
"Oh
my
God,
that's
so
weird,"
she's
going
to
...
It
just
captivates
her
attention.
Why
is
that
weird?
What
about
that
is
weird.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
That's
about
it.
I
want
to
make
a
quick
impression
of
the
summary,
or
a
quick
summary
of
impression.
We're
towards
the
end
of
impression,
and
we
still
have
inspection
to
get
through,
the
whole
dating
process,
and
that's
a
whole
lot
of
stuff,
too.
We've
dwelt
on
this
for
a
long
time.
The
key
point
that
I
hope
you
guys
take
away
...
We've
seen
a
lot
of
body
language
demonstrations,
a
few
conversations,
demonstrations.
This
stuff
does
not
have
to
be
hard.
Impression
really
does
not
have
to
be
hard.
The
magic
of
standing
out
is
really
in
the
simple
stuff.
It's
in
being
genuine
and
being
dominant
if
you
can
be
dominant,
if
the
situation
calls
for
it.
It's
in
making
that
eye
contact,
allowing
your
sexuality
out,
allowing
yourself
to
make
that
connection
with
her.
All
of
the
stuff
that
we
discussed
on
day
1,
it's
just
allowing
that
to
flow
in
conversation.
The
magic,
I
want
to
make
this
clear,
the
magic
of
standing
out
is
in
the
simple
stuff.
Furthermore,
the
higher
value
of
a
guy
that
you
can
be,
the
easier
that
this
stiff
gets.
I
showed
you
how
you
can
engineer
social
situations
in
your
favor,
how
you
can
make
it
so
that
girls
approach
you,
so
that
you
have
them
working
to
build
rapport
for
you.
The
higher
value
of
a
guy
you
are,
and
the
more
that
you
create
those
social
situations,
the
better.
You
don't
have
to
be
rich
to
do
any
of
this
stuff,
either.
That's
a
common
objections
guys
have.
You
do
not
have
to
be
rich
to
do
this
stuff.
You
just
have
to
be
resourceful
with
your
time,
with
your
focus.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM RESETTING IMPRESSION
This
is
all
about
creating
value
for
others
if
you're
going
to
do
it
that
way.
Then,
at
that
point
forward,
it's
a
pretty
simple
conversation,
pretty
similar
to
the
one
that
you
saw
just
a
few
minutes
ago,
and
something
that
simple
can
lead
to
a
phone
number,
that
leads
to
great
dates,
and
leads
to
a
girlfriend.
We're
going
to
show
you
how
to
get
to
that
from
this
point
forward.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INSPECTION
We're
moving
into
stage
two
of
the
obsession
story.
Inspection.
This
is
the
dating
phase.
This
is
when
you
guys
are
dating
each
other.
It
often
feels,
for
many
guys
like
you're
the
one
being
inspected,
like
she's
inspecting
you.
A
lot
of
material
in
this
section
is
going
to
help
you
flip
that
around.
A
big
part
of
that,
and
you're
going
to
hear
me
say
this
again
and
again
and
again,
is
giving
her
space
and
creating
mystery.
I
want
you
to
embrace
the
uncertainty
and
the
excitement
of
this
phase
as
a
healthy
attitude
to
go
into
it
with.
A
lot
of
men
find
it
frustrating.
I
just
find
it
uncertain.
I
embrace
it
and
somehow
that
embrace
of
it
has
led
to
great
success.
If
she's
emotionally
healthy
and
if
you
are
emotionally
healthy
and
you
two
get
along
and
you're
attracted
to
each
other
then
this
should
proceed
pretty
easily.
Now
there's
a
lot
of
things
that
I
just
said
there.
She
might
not
be
emotionally
healthy.
You
might
have
some
things
that
you
need
to
work
on.
You
guys
might
not
be
attracted
to
each
other.
She
might
not
be
attracted
to
you
in
the
way
you
wish
she
was.
Maybe
you
guys
just
don't
click
or
don't
connect.
Any
of
those
things
can
get
in
the
way,
but
the
biggest
thing
that
I
see,
the
biggest
reason
that
this
doesn't
happen
is
usually
she's
not
emotionally
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healthy
or
you
do
something
that
indicates
that
you're
not
ready
for
a
relationship.
We
were
just
talking
during
the
break
and
she
was
like,
"So
I
was
on
a
date
with
a
guy.
It
was
going
really
well.
It
was
just
a
fun
date
and
blah,
blah,
blah.
Everything's
good.
He
looked
at
me
and
he's
like
'Are
we
going
to
have
sex
tonight?'
To
me
that's
kind
of
the
sign
of
an
emotionally
unhealthy
human
being.
We
all
might
want
that
but
at
least
some
of
us
have
the
good
sense
not
to
proceed
in
that
manner.
Just
keep
that
in
mind.
What
is
the
feel
of
inspection?
I
have
another
one
of
these
wonderful
graphs
here
which
when
we
actually
edit
the
video,
we'll
make
sure
to
cut
this
in,
but
her
interest
and
her
investment,
if
you
think
about
it
on
a
line
from
zero
to
one
hundred
and
kind
of
going
up
where
time
is
on
the
X
axis
and
interest
is
on
the
Y
axis,
a
lot
of
guys
would
like
to
think
it
just
kind
of
goes
like
that.
There's
a
straight
shot
up
from
meeting
her
to
being
in
a
relationship,
it's
a
straight
shot
up.
For
a
lot
of
guys
too,
if
they
really
like
a
girl,
maybe
if
you're
sitting
at
home
watching
this,
maybe
you
really
like
a
girl,
it's
like
you're
already
up
here.
Your
investment
in
her,
we
talked
about
investment
yesterday,
whereas
if
this
is
time
zero
and
this
is
interest
level
zero,
you
meet
her,
you
get
her
number,
you're
already
in
your
head,
you're
like,
"Oh,
we're
in
a
relationship."
You've
already
thought
that
far
ahead.
This
has
happened
to
everybody.
The
reality
of
this
phase
works
is
that
it's
more
like
a
zigzag.
It
goes
up
and
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down,
so
you
meet
her,
you
get
her
number.
You
get
her
number
and
then
she
leaves
you
and
her
investment
drops
off
a
little
bit.
You've
made
a
strong
impression
but
maybe
her
investment
drops
off
a
little
bit.
Then
you
start
texting
and
her
investment
goes
up
again.
You
guys
have
your
first
date.
It
goes
really
well.
Then
the
investment's
going
to
drop
a
little
bit.
Not
as
much
as
it
did
last
time,
but
then
you
guys
start
texting
again.
You
have
a
second
date.
It's
kind
of
this
zigzag,
back
and
forth.
I
want
you
to
just
remember
that
you're
never
really
locked
in
at
the
level
of
investment
that
you
would
like
to
be
at
until
you're
probably
eight
months
into
the
relationship.
Just
accept
that
fact
of
it.
Some
caveats
to
that,
depending
on
the
girl,
it
might
move
much
more
slowly
or
it
might
move
much
more
quickly.
I've
dated
girls
and
had
relationships
with
girls
where
we've
had
sex
on
the
first
date
and
everything
was
great.
It
was
like,
wow.
They
say
that's
not
supposed
to
happen,
but
that
happened
and
it
worked
out
amazingly
and
it
was
a
good
date
and
everything
was
good.
I've
had
other
relationships,
one
of
my,
actually
my
last
relationship,
we
didn't
sleep
together
for
eight
months.
That
always
shocks
everybody
but
there
were
some
religious
values
there
and
we
had
to
work
through
those
and
we
had
to
develop
a
lot
of
trust
and
intimacy
outside
of
a
purely
sexual
relationship.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INSPECTION
There
was
a
lot
of
physicality;
there
was
a
lot
of
sexuality,
but
not
the
thing.
Not
sex
itself.
It
just
kind
of
depends.
It's
going
to
depend
on
the
girl.
It's
going
to
depend
on
you.
A
reminder
and
I've
said
this
a
few
times,
there
may
be
flags
on
the
play,
so
you
could
get
a
weekend,
two
weeks
into
dating
a
girl
and
she
could
just
disappear.
I've
seen
this
happen
plenty
of
times.
I'm
sure
it's
happened
to
you
guys.
Don't
always
put
it
on
yourself.
An
ex-‐boyfriend
could
have
showed
up.
She
could
be
crazy.
She
could
have
to
travel
for
work.
If
it's
not
proceeding,
in
the
texting
course
I
gave
you
some
really
good
stuff
to
use
if
she's
not
getting
back
to
you,
but
if
it's
not
proceeding
exactly
has
you
planned,
just
remember,
shit
comes
up
in
people's
lives.
Lots
of
girls
in
the
world.
Finally
what
I'm
going
to
share
with
you
here
is
what
works
for
me.
I
seem
to
be
pretty
good
at
this.
I'm
not
a
master
pickup
artists.
I'm
not
the
type
of
guy
who
goes
out
and
has
a
lot
of
one
night
stands.
That's
really
never
ever
been
my
thing.
What
has
been
my
thing
has
been
developing
meaningful
relationships
with
girls
over
time
and
not
pushing
it
and
just
allowing
myself
to
fall
in
love
with
a
girl
and
play
it
slowly.
If
I
lose
her,
I
lose
her
and
if
I
win
her,
I
win
her.
What
follows
is
sort
of
the
pattern
that
has
proceeded
from
all
that,
but
you've
heard
from
some
other
guys,
there's
plenty
of
other
dating
coaches
out
there
who
kind
of
have
a
different
thing
than
me,
so
everything
I'm
going
to
share
here
just
happens
to
be
my
thing.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INSPECTION
Before
me
move
on
and
get
to
the
first
date,
I
just
want
to
give
you
guys
once
again
I've
touched
on
all
these
things,
the
most
important
rule,
most
important
rule
in
the
dating
game
is
give
her
the
gift
of
wondering
about
you.
If
you're
in
doubt
at
any
point
in
the
dating
game
about
does
she
like
me?
Does
she
not?
Should
I
text
her?
Shouldn't
I?
Should
I
tell
her
how
I'm
feeling?
Shouldn't
I?
At
almost
every
point,
give
her
the
gift
of
wondering
about
you.
There's
a
concept
I
call
live
in
the
moment,
flirt
with
the
future.
Some
of
you
might
be
familiar
with
this.
The
notion
of
life
in
the
moment,
flirt
with
the
future
is
this,
when
you
are
with
her
you
are
with
her
and
you
are
having
fun.
You're
not
trying
to
confirm
the
future.
You're
not
trying
to
say
oh,
so
what
are
you
doing
next
Friday?
I
remember
yesterday
David
Wygant
was
saying
I'll
try
to
plan
the
date
right
then
and
there.
I
never
do
that.
Ever,
ever,
ever.
It
works
for
David,
I
just
don't
do
it
as
a
matter
of
principle.
I
always,
like
I
never
say,
"Oh,
what
are
you
doing
Friday?
What
are
you
doing
Tuesday?"
It's
none
of
that.
What
I
do
do
a
lot
of
is
make
a
lot
of
plans
about
things
that
we
should
do
together.
Say,
"Oh,
we
gotta
go
see
that
movie
together.
It
looks
amazing.
Oh,
you
haven't
had
artichoke
pizza?
I'm
definitely
taking
you
down
to
artichoke
pizza.
OK,
I
love
the
planetarium.
I
didn't
know
girls
like
science.
That's
amazing
you
like
science.
We're
definitely
going
to
the
planetarium."
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INSPECTION
Stuff
like
that,
so
living
in
the
moment
and
I
say
flirt
with
the
future.
I'm
just
touching
on
the
future,
but
not
holding
onto
it.
This
single
principle
is
the
core
of
almost
all
of
my
flirtation.
Almost
all
the
girls
I've
dated
have
remarked
upon
it,
how
they
love
it
and
they
love
it's
like,
I
make
all
these
plans
with
you
and
I
think
about
us
doing
all
these
things
and
they
had
to
verbalize
it,
I
get
really
invested
in
having
a
future
with
you
because
we
talk
about
all
these
amazing,
fun,
awesome
things
we're
going
to
do.
The
fact
that
I'm
not
holding
onto
them,
"Oh,
you
love
the
planetarium?
Great.
What
are
you
doing
next
Thursday
at
eight
o'clock?"
It's
very
touch
and
go.
You
still
keep
that
element
of
mystery
of
like
is
he
into
me
or
not?
I
think
Alex
would
call
this
an
LA
thing.
You
don't
really
know
if
somebody
means
it
or
not.
You
do
mean
it
with
her,
but
you're
just
not
going
to
let
her
know
that.
She's
going
to
wonder
about
you
if
you're
flirting
with
the
future
a
lot.
Along
those
lines,
don't
over-‐confirm
stuff.
Don't
over-‐confirm
dates,
don't
over-‐confirm
whether
she
likes
you
or
not.
There's
always
these
guys
who
go
out
on
dates
and
are
like,
"Oh,
are
you
having
fun
so
far?
Is
everything
up
to
your
standards?"
You're
just
over-‐confirming
everything.
You're
looking
for
confirmation
from
her.
Assume
that
if
she's
with
you,
she's
having
fun
with
you.
Assume
that
if
she's
at
a
place
that
you
like
that
she's
liking
it
too.
She's
not,
maybe
it's
not
a
good
value
fit.
Don't
over-‐confirm
things.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INSPECTION
A
third
element
of
giving
her
the
gift
of
wondering
about
you
is
let
her
feel
your
intention,
but
leave
it
unstated.
When
you
look
at
her
in
the
eye,
actually
this
would
be
a
great
demonstration
for
Mona.
Please,
join
me.
So
let's
imagine
that
we're
on
a
date
and
if
you
could
stand
right
there,
just
so
the
camera
can
see
me.
Let's
imagine
we're
on
a
date.
You've
just
said
something
really
amazing.
What
I'm
going
to
say
with
my
eyes
is
going
to
be
somewhat
different
than
what
I
say
with
my
words.
She's
just
told
me
that
she
saves
children
in
Africa.
Pick
your
cause.
You
do
something
amazing
and
I'm
going
to
look
at
you
and
my
eyes
are
going
to
be
saying
wow,
I
think
you're
the
most
incredible
person
in
the
world
and
my
mouth
is
going
to
say
that's
cool.
Alicia: I donate a lot of money to rescue animals, especially cats.
Christian:
So
cool.
So,
you
can
feel
my
intention,
right?
I'm
really
appreciative
of
you
in
that
moment.
She
loves
cats.
Do
you
love
every
type
of
cat?
Do
you
know
what
I'm
talking
about?
Do
you
want
to
hug
them
all
and
put
them
in
a
basket
with
little
bow
ties
on
them
and
watch
them
on
a
rainbow?
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INSPECTION
Christian:
Do
you
get
what
I'm
doing?
OK.
You've
seen
the
cat
video?
All
right.
Thank
you
very
much.
Thank
you
very
much.
Yeah,
that
was
it.
Does
anybody
know
the
cat
video?
I
love
cats,
all
right.
I
got
that
song
stuck
in
my
head
on
a
motorcycle
drive.
I
was
like,
for
about
two
hours
I
was
just
sitting
on
my
bike
with
that
song.
So
you
want
her
to
feel
your
intention,
but
leave
it
somewhat
unstated,
so
my
eyes
are
like,
I'm
looking
at
her
like
wow,
this
is
an
amazing
woman.
She
donates
to
help
cats.
Maybe
that's
not
the
most
amazing
thing
in
the
world,
but
it
is
good.
It
is
good.
It's
your
sense
of
humor
that
I
appreciate.
Alicia: No.
Christian:
Right,
right.
Cats
need
love.
She's
just
like,
I
donate
to
cats.
I'm
like
that's
the
most
amazing
thing
in
the
world.
But
that's
a
good
demonstration.
You
want
her
to
feel
your
intention,
but
leave
it
unstated.
Right?
Or
you
could
be
looking
at
her
and
this
is
a
lot
with
sexuality,
right?
You
can
be
thinking
holy
cow,
I
cannot
wait
to
just
make
love
to
you
violently,
passionately
and
amazingly.
You
can
be
thinking
that
and
kind
of
feeling
it
in
your
body,
and
you
might
state
that
every
now
and
then,
but
you
might
just
say,
"You
look
amazing
tonight."
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INSPECTION
What
you're
stating
is
very
different
than
what
you're
allowing
your
intention
to
feel.
That's
again,
giving
her
the
gift
of
wondering
about
you.
What
do
you
really
mean?
What
do
you
really
say?
Finally,
when
in
doubt,
give
her
space.
When
in
doubt,
give
her
space.
If
you're
doubting
whether
you
should
text
her
or
not,
whether
you
should
call
her
or
not,
whether
you
should
say
that
thing
you
were
going
to
say
or
not,
when
in
doubt,
give
her
space.
That
last
relationship
that
I
was
on
or
that
I
was
in,
it
took
about
four
months
between
when
I
met
her
and
when
we
started
like
actually
dating
each
other
and
when
we
had
our
first,
I'm
sorry
when
we
had
our
first
kiss.
What
I
realized
was
she
really
liked
me,
but
because
of
our
religious
differences
there
was,
she
wanted
to
put
space
between
us.
That
was
the
one
thing
that
she
could
use
as
power
over
my
charms,
was
space.
Every
time
we
would
make
progress,
like
if
we
went
on
a
date,
I
wouldn't
hear
from
her
for
a
week.
We
kissed
each
other,
didn't
hear
from
her
for
a
week.
Touched
each
other,
didn't
hear
from
her
for
a
week.
I
just
realized
space
was
her
way
of
kind
of
allowing
herself
to
say
I'm
still
in
control
here.
That's
the
case
with
a
lot
of
girls.
They
just
don't
want
to
feel
like
they're
being
pushed
into
something,
jammed
into
something
that
they're
like
being
led
into
a
relationship
by
your
need.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INSPECTION
They
want
it
to
feel
like
a
dance,
like
it's
something
that
they
want
to
be
a
part
of
too,
so
when
in
doubt,
give
her
some
space.
Be
strong.
Say
a
prayer.
Do
some
meditation.
Do
whatever
you
need
to
do.
Go
fishing.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
First
date.
That
thing
that
gets
your
heart
racing,
and
you're
like,
"Oh,
my
God.
This
is
going
to
be
amazing,
or
it's
going
to
be
terrible."
Mechanics
of
it.
You
start
on
Monday,
Tuesday,
or
Wednesday.
That's
a
good
first
date
night.
Friday,
hell,
no.
She's
probably
got
plans.
You
should
have
plans.
Thursday,
probably
not.
Saturday,
no
thank
you.
Monday,
Tuesday,
or
Wednesday.
Great
first
date.
First
date
activity.
What
are
you
going
to
do?
Drinks
and
an
activity.
Usually
two
different
locations.
You're
going
to
do
drinks
and
an
activity.
We
were
just
talking.
He
said
he
did
lunch
and
activity
before.
That
worked
out
very
well.
I
give
you
a
couple
example
of
dates
that
I've
taken
girls
on
here
that
really
liked.
One
of
them,
there's
a
jazz
club
called
NuBlu
here
in
East
Village.
It's
Brazilian
jazz.
I'll
take
a
girl
there
to
dance.
A
little
bit
of
Brazilian
jazz.
I'm
not
a
great
dancer,
but
it's
still
fun.
It
gets
us
close.
We
don't
have
to
dance.
We
can
just
go
there
and
watch
people
dance.
It
depends
on
the
chemistry.
After
that,
take
her
to
Ace
Bar.
Ace
Bar
has
a
skeeball
table.
We're
able
to
go
straight
from
NuBlu
to
playing
skeeball
and
having
a
little
game
that
we
play
with
each
other.
That's
a
good
example.
Another
one
that
I
used
to
love
was
before
it
closed
down
there's
a
bar
called
the
Oak
Room,
and
it
was
at
the
Plaza,
and
it's
real
classy.
You
go
in
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
there
and
there's
a
3
piece
jazz
ensemble
all
1920s
style,
bow
ties,
and
they're
just
rocking
it.
You
go
in
there,
have
a
martini
or
2.
She
has
to
dress
up
really
nice
to
go
into
that
place.
You
will
too.
You'll
wear
a
suit.
You
leave
the
Oak
Room,
and
you
say,
"Okay.
I've
got
one
more
spot
in
mind."
You
take
her
to
Dave
&
Busters.
You
guys
play
some
basketball
and
some
other
stuff.
It
creates
a
really
nice
contrast
for
the
date.
Another
one
we've
got
a
ping
pong
club
here
in
town.
That's
definitely
been
another
one.
When
I
lived
in
Flat
Iron,
I
would
do
this
bar
called
Live
Baits,
and
go
right
next
door
to
Spin.
Depending
on
where
you
live,
find
something
fun.
Find
a
cool
activity.
Honestly,
if
you
can,
make
it
like
clockwork.
Pick
the
spot
that
works,
pick
a
spot
that
works
for
your
geography.
When
I
was
living
downtown,
Ace
Bar
was
a
really
easy
one.
Then
I
started
uptown,
and
it
was
Dave
&
Busters,
because
that's
...
For
those
who
don't
know
Manhattan
it's
a
20
minute
cab
ride
between
the
two,
and
you
don't
want
that
on
a
date.
The
one
thing
I
would
say,
for
God
sake,
don't
do
a
wine
bar,
or
a
nightclub
on
the
first
date.
Wine
bars
are
cliché,
and
every
day
has
been
on
a
million
fuckin'
wine
bar
dates.
If
you're
an
amazing
conversationalist
it
can
work,
but
it's
cliché.
A
nightclub,
just
don't
do
a
nightclub
on
the
first
date.
It's
such
a
bad
idea,
because
you
don't
have
value
in
the
nightclub
unless
you're
the
owner
of
the
nightclub.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
She
just
wants
to
talk
to
you.
I'm
saying
this
because
I've
done
nightclubs
on
first
dates,
and
it
was
terrible,
terrible
idea.
There's
that.
Should
you
pay
for
the
first
date?
If
you
can
you
should.
You
were
probably
the
one
to
ask
her
out.
A
lot
of
guys
hate
it
when
I
say
this.
We
live
in
this
time
where
the
economy
has
changed
quite
a
bit.
I
think
we
talked
about
this
yesterday.
Women
have
more
middle
class
jobs.
They're
earning
at
the
same
level
that
men
were.
There's
this
whole
nanosphere.
Does
anybody
know
the
nanosphere?
It's
a
bunch
of
bloggers
who
are
really
angry
about
feminist
rights,
and
who
want
to
take
the
power
back.
The
thing
is
...
Here's
what
I
would
say
broadly.
Guys
who
get
angry
about
the
state
of
affairs
of
whether
they
should
pay
or
not
and
masculine
feminine
power,
guys
who
get
angry
about
that
usually
don't
get
laid
and
they
usually
don't
have
girlfriends.
They're
just
angry.
It's
like,
"Okay.
You
know.
That's
fine."
Whatever.
If
you
want
to
really
ridgedly
adhere
to
your
principals
about
it
should
be
equal
then
you
can
do
that,
but
you're
going
to
lose
out
on
having
a
lot
of
great
relationships
in
the
meanwhile.
One
thing
that
is
cool
is
a
lot
of
women
will
offer
to
pay
for
the
second
round.
You
can
actually
say
that.
You
can
be
like,
"All
right.
I'll
tell
you
what.
I
got
this
round.
You
get
the
next
one."
It
depends
on
how
much
you
like
the
girl.
If
I
really
like
the
girl,
if
I've
got
a
great
vibe
from
her,
I'm
not
even
going
to
make
her
worry
about
it.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
If
I'm
not
really
sure
about
her,
and
I'm
trying
to
keep
it
upbeat,
but
I
don't
want
to
make
that
much
of
an
investment,
the
first
drinks
I'll
be
like,
"Okay.
Tell
you
what.
I've
got
this
round,
you
get
the
next
one."
Something
like
that.
She'll
be
like,
"All
right.
Cool."
If
you
go
to
somewhere
with
a
game
like
Dave
&
Busters
or
Ace
Bar,
Ping
Pong,
any
of
those
places,
you
can
also
have
a
loser
pays.
You
can
say,
"Okay.
First
rounds
on
me,
second
round
loser
pays."
That
can
work
very
well
too.
If
you
don't
drink,
you
can
do
this
with
coffee.
Coffee
and
an
activity.
Meet
her
up
for
coffee.
Meet
her
up
for
lunch.
Great
daytime
activity
is
wandering
around
and
trying
on
sunglasses.
Everybody
feels
like
and
looks
like
a
rock
star
when
you're
in
sunglasses.
That's
never
a
bad
little
thing
to
do.
Like,
"Hey,
let's
get
some
lunch,"
and
like,
"Oh,
let's
go
sunglass
shopping.
I've
been
needing
some
new
sunglasses
anyway.
Try
them
on,
annoy
the
clerk
at
Sunglasses
Huts,
because
you
see
people
doing
shit,
but
maybe
tip
her
$5
bucks,
and
be
like,
"Yo.
Look
the
other
way."
Those
are
the
mechanics
of
the
first
date.
How
about
the
conversation?
We're
going
to
walk
through
the
conversation
step
by
step.
This
is
where
I
will
enlist
your
services.
When
you
meet
her,
you
might
meet
her
...
If
you
live
in
New
York
...
We
were
just
talking
about
this,
and
you
meet
her
in
New
York,
you're
probably
going
to
meet
her
at
the
venue.
If
you
don't
meet
her
at
the
venue
then
you
might
have
her
come
to
your
house.
Sometimes
at
work.
Sometimes
they'll
say
yes,
sometimes
they'll
say
no.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
Whatever
the
case,
when
you
meet
her,
you're
going
to
do
a
couple
things.
Compliments,
and
a
small
tease.
I'll
give
her
a
kiss
on
the
cheek.
I'm
going
to
give
her
direct
eye
contact,
I'm
going
to
be
a
little
bit
nonchalant,
I'm
going
to
make
a
little
compliment,
and
we're
going
to
start
going
in
the
direction
that
we're
going.
Let's
say
I
told
her,
"Hey.
Meet
me
outside
of
NuBlu
at
9:00."
I
see
her
there.
I
start
to
walk
up.
I'm
like,
"Hey
Alicia."
You
know,
we
see
each
other.
I
come
up.
I
say,
"Hey.
How
you
doing?"
A
little
kiss
on
the
cheek,
come
back
out.
"You
look
amazing
tonight.
I
almost
wore
the
exact
same
outfit,
but
I
think
you
make
it
look
a
little
bit
better
then
I
do.
You
ready
to
go?"
Alicia: Sure.
Christian:
"All
right.
Cool.
Let's
go."
I'm
just
going
to
grab
her
hand,
and
bring
her
in.
It's
just
that
simple.
Eye
contact,
kiss
on
the
cheek,
and
then
try
to
smoothly
...
Watch
my
body
language.
I'm
going
to
do
that
one
more
time.
I
just
start
to
walk,
and
I
put
my
hand
down
and
expect
that
she's
going
to
grab
it.
Let's
see
that
one
more
time.
Hey
what's
up?
How
you
doing
tonight?
Alicia: Good.
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Christian: You look great. I was actually going to wear that same thing.
Christian:
I
know.
That
whole
memo
thing.
People
would
have
been
making
the
jokes.
You
make
it
look
amazing
anyway.
Alicia: Yeah.
Alicia: Sure.
Christian:
Awesome.
Let's
go.
Something
like
that.
Cool,
nonchalant.
All
right.
What
do
you
say
when
you
get
in?
You're
going
to
make
some
small
talk.
If
you're
standing
there
waiting
for
the
host,
or
waiting
to
be
seated,
you're
just
going
to
make
a
little
bit
of
small
talk.
"How's
your
day
been
going.
How's
your
week
going,
and
all
that."
Usually,
you're
going
to
want
to
kick
off
the
date
with
a
real
fun
conversation.
Imagine
now
that
we
are
at
...
Not
Dos
Caminos.
Diablo
Royale.
There's
a
couple
of
good
lines
to
start
a
date
with.
One
of
them,
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
let's
say
we
just
got
seated,
and
we're
sitting
at
the
bar.
We're
sitting
down.
Maybe
we're
at
the
bar
next
to
each
other,
or
maybe
we're
across
from
each
other.
Nevermind
that
right
now.
One thing that I've said before is, "Have you ever been here before?"
Christian:
Awesome.
I'm
glad.
It
was
between
this
and
coal
mine
for
our
first
date.
I
thought
this
is
slightly
better
environment.
Have
you
ever
been
to
a
coal
mine?
Alicia: No.
Christian:
See
that
could
have
been
something
new
that
we
did.
You're
thinking
that
far
ahead?
We
haven't
ordered
drinks
yet
girl.
You
already
want
to
go
plow
coal.
Anyway,
it's
between
this,
or
...
It's
that's
whole
false
choice
thing.
It's
between
this
or
I
don't
know.
Going
goldfish
shopping.
It's
between
this,
or
...
Be
creative.
Come
up
with
something
on
your
own
that
makes
you
laugh.
That's
one
thing
you
can
do.
Another
thing.
This
always
...
One
of
my
favorite
date
spots
is
this
place
called
Diablo
Royale.
The
reason
is,
and
maybe
you
know
this
about
me
if
you've
watched
some
of
my
Youtube
videos.
I
had
an
amazing
experience
that
started
at
Diablo
Royale
where
I
started
going
tequila
shots
there
on
a
Sunday
night,
and
that
Monday
morning
I
woke
up
in
Mexico.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
The
intervening
time
involved,
more
tequila
shots,
and
shōchū,
and
karaoke,
and
my
friend
Alice
pushing
us
to
go
to
Mexico,
and
then
her
getting
kicked
off
the
airplane.
It's
this
amazing
story.
Besides
the
Diablo
Royale
having
a
pretty
cool
vibe,
it
also
allows
me
to
lead
the
date
with
that
story.
I
don't
expect
everybody
to
have
a
story
like
that,
but
if
you
have
some
sort
of
cool
story
associated
with
the
venue,
then
that's
a
great
thing
to
start
with.
If
you've
got
a
cool
spot
that
you
like
to
go,
and
something
cool
has
happened
to
you
there.
What
I
would
do
if
I
was
at
Diablo
Royale,
I
would
be
like,
"So,
you
haven't
been
here
before?
Okay.
Cool.
So,
they've
got
this
drink.
It's
called
a
beergorita.
You
ever
had
one?"
Alicia: "Okay."
Christian:
"First,
is
you
have
to
try
one.
The
second's
we
can't
have
too
many."
Alicia: "Okay."
Christian: "Okay."
Alicia: "Why?"
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
Christian:
"Why?"
Notice
the
pause
where
I
allow
it.
"Well,
it
depends.
It
depends
on
what
kind
of
night
we
want
to
have.
The
last
time
this
happened
to
me,
I
ended
up
in
Mexico
on
Monday
morning
when
I
had
too
many
beer
...
If
this
is
going
really
well,
then
maybe
we'll
just
order
a
bunch,
and
like,
...
Yeah,
that
happened."
That's
another
good
way
to
lead
into
the
date.
A
little
recap
about
the
venue.
She'll
probably
ask,
"Well
how
did
that
happen?"
or
"Tell
me
about
that
story."
Now
you've
got
a
story
going.
Now
you're
in
a
conversation.
This
story
happens
to
be
a
particularly
good
story,
so
we're
off
to
the
races.
A
great
first
date
story
is
a
crazy
thing
that
happened,
or
a
spontaneous
thing
that
happened,
or
an
adventurous
thing
that
happened.
A
time
you
went
sky
diving,
or
a
time
you
saw
a
great
white
shark
and
almost
pooped
your
pants.
I
don't
know.
I
hope
that
didn't
happen.
Don't
share
that
second
part
of
the
story.
Some
cool
thing
that
happened
to
you
that's
going
to
get
them
to
open
up.
The
theme
of
that
story
should
really
be
spontaneity,
or
excitement,
or
adventure.
Something
like
that.
As
it's
going
to
cause
the
date
to
become
more
fun
by
talking
about
that
particular
topic.
As
the
date
wears
on,
you
can
talk
about
a
game
that
you
might
like
to
play.
If
I
know
I'm
going
to
take
her
to
play
skeeball,
I'm
going
to
say,
"I've
got
a
question
for
you.
Did
you
ever
go
to
Chuck
e
Cheese's
as
a
kid,
or
Major
Magics?
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
Christian:
"Right.
One
of
the
best
childhood
spots
in
the
world
as
long
as
you
don't
allow
yourself
to
get
traumatized
by
the
giant
mechanic.
I
remember
one
time
I
was
there
and
the
mechanical
robot
just
froze.
I
was
old
enough
to
remember
what
was
going
on,
but
my
sister
was
really
freaked
out.
Yeah,
that
was
...
That
kind
of-‐"
Alicia: "Traumatizing?"
Christian:
"Yeah,
a
little
...
Anyway,
did
you
play
skeeball
when
you
were
there?"
Christian:
"
...
As
in
you
think
you
think
you
could
beat
me
at
skeeball?
Hmm.
We
might
just
have
to
put
that
to
the
test.
We
might
just
have
to
play
a
game
of
skeeball
or
two
at
some
point
in
the
future."
Christian:
Anyway.
If
I
know
the
activity
is
coming,
I'm
going
to
figure
out
a
way
to
seed
that
activity,
but
not
actually
tell
her
that
we're
going
to
play
it.
It's
something
that
becomes
something
that
we
do.
Flirt
with
the
future
on
that.
I'm
going
to
flirt
with
the
future
on
other
things.
What
else?
No,
I
want
to
show
you
think
conversation
structure.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
I've
demonstrated
this
a
lot.
This
is
what
I
can,
I
don't
know,
I
don't
really
have
a
name
for
technique.
We'll
leave
the
names
out
of
it.
What
we're
basically
going
to
do
is
I'm
going
to
tell
a
story
of
my
own.
I'm
going
to
end
by
saying,
"And
it
was
the
most
x
thing
I've
ever
done."
In
my
case
the
most
spontaneous
thing
I've
ever
done.
Alicia's
going
to
tell
a
story.
She's
going
to
vibe
on
it
a
little
bit,
and
then
I'm
going
to
talk
to
her
a
little
about
it,
and
then
I'm
going
to
future
project
the
two
stories
together.
That's
how
it's
going
to
go.
You're
going
to
see
this
in
action,
but
the
structure
again
is,
you
tell
a
story,
you
end
by
saying,
"It
was
the
most
x
thing
I've
ever
done.
What's
something
x
that
you've
done?"
She
tells
the
story.
You
guys
talk
about
it
for
a
while,
and
you
future
project
the
stories
together.
Going
to
the
Mexico
story,
"Yeah,
My
friend
Alice
she's
this
pint
sized,
but
monumental
amount
of
trouble.
We
were
out
at
this
exact
restaurant,
sitting
at
that
table
over
there."
Alicia: "Okay."
Christian:
"She's
like,
'Hey,
guys.
Wouldn't
it
be
great
to
go
to
Mexico
today?
It'd
be
so
nice
to
be
in
Mexico'"
"We're
like,
'Yeah,
whatever
it's
fine.
It's
April.
Sure.
Of
course.'
The
night
wore
on.
We
had
some
tequila
shots
as
sometimes
happens."
"That's
what
one
does.
We
had
some
tequila
shots.
Somehow
by
the
end
of
two
hours
we'd
had
enough
that
when
she
was
like,
'Hey,
guys.
Let's
go
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
to
karaoke.'
We're
like,
'Oh,
yeah.
Sounds
like
a
good
idea.'
I'm
sure
you've
had-‐"
Christian:
"Correct
me
if
I'm
wrong,
but
usually
karaoke
is
not
a
sober
decision."
Christian: "Yeah."
Alicia: "No."
Christian:
"It's
always
like,
'Ah,
gosh.
I'm
so
fucked
up.
Let's
go
sing
songs'
It
was
totally
one
of
those
nights.
She
gets
us
to
karaoke,
and
then
the
shōchū
starts
coming
out.
We're
drinking,
and
drinking,
and
drinking.
Finally,
we're
at
2:00,
2:30
am.
She's
like
'Guys
remember
when
I
said
we
should
go
to
Mexico
earlier?'
Why
don't
we
go
to
Mexico
right
now.'
I'm
looking
around,
and
I'm
looking
the
room,
and
everybody's
not
certain
what
to
say.
Our
friend
Pam,
she
had
just
happened
to
go
through
a
job
loss,
and
a
lot
was
going
on
in
her
life."
"She's
like,
'You
know
what.
Fuck
it.
I'll
go
to
Mexico.'
Then
my
friend
Geo
who
is
a
paragon
of
responsibility,
and
I
look
up
to
in
that
way,
he's
like,
'You
know
what?
My
company
screwed
me
out
of
my
bonuses
here.
Fuck
it,
I'll
take
work
off
tomorrow.
I'll
go.'
Then
I
am
looking
up
to
Geo.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
I'm
like,
'Well,
if
Geo's
going
to
go,
then
I
have
no
excuse
not
to
go.'
Then
there
was
only
one
other
person
in
the
room,
this
girl
Desire,
and
she's
like,
'Well,
if
Y'all
are
going,
then
I
can't
not
go'
We
paid
our
bill.
We're
calling
each
other
all
the
way
home.
Get
passports,
pack
3
pairs
of
underwear,
and
some
bathing
suits.
We
made
our
way
to
the
airport.
We
had
the
last
5
tickets
on
this
flight.
The
story
goes
on.
Alice
passed
out.
She
ended
up
making
it
down
their
ladder."
Christian:
"She
got
kicked
off.
Actually,
this
is
funny.
We
were
sitting
next
to
each
other
on
a
plane,
and
I
fell
asleep
finally
when
I
got
on
the
plane.
She
fell
asleep
on
my
shoulder.
I
wake
up
to
see
little
Alice
being
escorted
off
the
plane
by
a
federal
air
marshall
because
she
was
too
drunk.
I
remember
her
last
words.
She's
like,
'This
is
so
unfair.'"
Alicia: "No."
Christian:
"Geo's
such
a
nice
guy.
He
got
up
and
hung
out
with
her
off
the
plane.
Got
her
some
coffee.
They
took
the
next
flight
down."
Christian:
"Yeah.
We
were
there
for
4
days.
It
was
an
amazing
trip.
Definitely
the
most
spontaneous
thing
that
I've
ever
done
in
my
life.
I've
never
done
anything
like
that
before.
After
you
do
something
like
that,
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
you're
like,
'Oh.
This
is
how
a
fun
life
should
be
lived.'
Have
you
ever
done
something
like
that?"
Alicia:
"A
couple
months
ago,
I
went
on
a
first
date
to
a
wedding
in
California,
and
I
didn't
know
the
bride
of
the
groom.
It
was
a
first
date,
so
I
didn't
really
know
the
guy
that
well.
It
was
at
Murrieta,
California,
and
I
don’t
know
anything
about
Murrieta,
California.
It's
total
foreign
everything."
Christian:
"This
could
have
been
the
best
or
the
worst
first
date
that
you've
ever
been
on
in
your
life."
Alicia:
"I
mean,
it
was
pretty
fun.
It
was
more
about
being
spontaneous,
and
like
'Yeah,
I'll
go.
Sure.
Whatever.
You
know.
Great.'"
Christian: "That's amazing. Were you scared at all at any point?-‐"
Christian:
"...
I've
got
to
spend
time
with
this
guy.
Obviously,
we're
sitting
here
together,
so
something
maybe
didn't
work,
or
maybe
it
did,
and
you're
just
not
telling
him
about
this.
Bad
girl.
What
didn't
work?"
Alicia:
"We
ended
up
being
totally
friends.
It
was
fine,
but
there
wasn't
the
chemistry
to
date,
and
totally
had
a
fun
weekend.
It
was
fun."
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
Christian:
"I've
got
to
say
I'm
getting
this
idea
right
now.
We
could
take
some
shots,
we
could
go
to
karaoke,
and
we
could
find
a
wedding
to
crash,
and
wander
around,
and
be
those
drunken
party
revers
that
stumble
into-‐"
Christian:
"Yeah,
exactly.
Be
the
most
spontaneous
first
date,
except
for
that
other
one,
but
this
will
be
even
a
little
bit
better."
"Yeah,
I
like
that
idea,
so
if
you're
down
for
that,
then
I
say
let's
get
the
shots
going
right
now.
I'm
just
kidding
but
a
drink
wouldn't
be
bad.
A
drink
would
not
be
bad
at
all."
Anyway.
Maybe
something
like
that.
You
guys
say
that
talked
about
my
story.
We
talked
a
little
bit
about
her
story.
We
combined
stories.
Talked
about
how
spontaneous
she
was.
I
wasn't
rushing
for
her
to
finish
her
story.
That's
always
a
great
way
very
early
phase
of
first
dates
to
get
that
chemistry
going.
Build
this
common
bridge
between
the
two
of
you.
That's
what
really
accelerates
a
connection
on
the
date.
You
notice,
as
the
date
was
progressing,
or
as
that
conversation's
progressing,
I
taking
the
opportunity
to
do
little
incidental
touches.
I
think
that's
it
for
demos
for
this
section.
Let
me
see.
For
now
we're
good.
I'll
bring
you
back
up
in
just
a
moment.
Alicia: Okay.
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Christian:
Thank
you.
That's
that.
A
couple
of
other
things
to
say
and
do
on
first
dates.
Some
fun
questions
to
ask
on
first
dates.
You
really
want
to
get
the
girl
opening
up.
Did
you
ever
steal
anything
as
a
kid
and
get
in
trouble
for
it?
That's
always
a
really
good
one.
You
guys
talk
about
that
for
a
little
bit.
Did
you
steal
anything
for
a
kid.
I
stole
a
worm
when
I
was
kid
from
a
bait
and
tackle
shop.
It
was
a
fake
worm
that
was
black,
yellow.
I
always
talk
about
that
a
little
bit.
Everybody
stole
something
as
a
kid.
Then
you
can
follow
on.
The
next
great
question
for
that
is,
"Okay,
if
you
could
steal
anything
in
the
world
right
now,
what
would
it
be?"
Then
you
guys
can
talk
about
what
you'd
steal.
Then
you
can
either
tease
her
for
what
she
would
steal
if
it's
silly.
"You'd
steal
a
sandwich?"
That's
always
what
I
say.
I'm
like,
"I'd
probably
steal
a
taco."
She's
like,
"A
taco?"
"Yeah.
I'd
steal
a
taco.
I'm
pretty
happy
with
my
worldly
possessions,
but
I'm
a
little
hungry
right
now.
I'm
actually
thinking
of
stealing
that
guy's
taco."
A
funny
way
to
answer
yourself.
You
can
also
plan
a
heist
with
her.
If
you've
got
something
that
you
want
to
steal,
or
she
has
something
that
she
wants
to
steal,
you
can
create
this
future
reality.
"How
do
we
actually
go
about
this?"
Then
you're
in
fantasy
land.
"Okay,
what
would
we
need
to
actually
do
this?
We
have
to
dress
all
in
black.
I
don't
have
any
ninja
experience.
Tough
word
to
say."
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
You're
just
playing
The
Heist
with
her,
and
get
her
involved
with
it.
Talk
about
that.
That's
a
great
question
to
ask.
Another
great
first
date
question's
"What's
the
most
valuable
quality
in
a
friend?"
See
what
she
says.
If
she
says
money,
probably
not
a
girl
who
you
want
to
date.
You
can
ask
her
what
her
favorite
course
was
in
school.
That's
a
really,
really
good
question.
Obviously,
be
comfortable
talking
about
yours.
Finally,
"What
was
your
favorite
hiding
place
as
a
kid?"
All
of
those
questions,
I
don't
know
the
theory
exactly
behind
why
they
work,
but
they
lead
to
amazing
first
date
conversations.
There's
that.
You
get
your
drinks.
You
guys
talk
with
each
other.
It's
fun.
You
ask
her
your
questions.
Now,
what's
the
next
step.
How
do
you
transition
out
of
drinks?
After
two
drinks,
most
likely
you're
going
to
end
the
date.
You've
called
the
bar
tender
over,
call
the
waiter
over,
"Let
me
get
the
check
please."
When
the
check
comes,
let
it
sit
there
for
just
a
moment.
You're
not
going
to
make
eye
contact
with
her.
I'm
sorry,
you're
not
going
to
make
eye
contact
with
the
check.
The
check
comes
down.
You're
still
talking
with
her.
You're
not
paying
attention
to
the
check.
You
ignore
it
for
a
moment.
If
you
really
want
to
do
the
manly
thing,
all
you're
going
to
do
is
slide
it
over,
take
a
quick
look,
pull
out
your
credit
card,
stick
it
in,
slide
it
back,
and
continue
the
conversation.
You
don't
have
to
do
that.
If
you
want
to,
you
can
say,
"You
want
to
split
this
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
one?"
or
you
can
pull
a,
"Next
round's
on
you,
right?"
or
"I'll
get
this
one,
you
get
the
next?"
Really
up
to
you
how
you
want
to
play
it
in
that
moment.
I
don't
like
to
make
an
issue
of
money.
I
think
about
this.
To
give
you
guys
a
little
context.
When
I
used
to
DJ,
I
was
always
really
sensitive
to,
"Is
this
song
that
I'm
going
to
play
next
going
to
kill
the
mood,
or
is
it
going
to
keep
the
mood
going?"
The
last
thing
you
want
to
do
when
people
are
dancing
is
kill
the
mood.
The
reason
I
don't
like
to
deal
with
money
on
the
date,
is
because
it
introduces
a
logical
transactional
element
to
something
that
should
be
romantic
and
emotional.
As
a
matter
of
not
wanting
to
deal
with
that
change
of
vibe,
"Uh,
okay.
Just
take
care
of
it."
You
can
end
it
now.
You
can
end
it
right
after
this.
It's
a
power
move.
You
can
be
like,
"All
right
I
got
to
go."
What
I
would
suggest
is
take
her
to
that
activity.
Take
her
to
skeeball.
Take
her
dancing.
Do
whatever.
You're
going
to
create
some
sexual
tension.
The
first
part
of
the
date
is
where
you've
built
a
connection,
you've
talked,
you've
guys
have
opened
up
with
each
other.
The
second
part
of
the
date
is
where
you
have
a
more
physical
activity,
and
you
create
sexual
tension.
I
already
demonstrated
how
you
might
touch
her
at
the
bar.
You
want
to
keep
up
with
that.
If
you
wouldn't
mind
joining
me
again
here
Alicia.
You're
at
the
bar.
You're
talking
to
her.
As
the
conversation
goes
on
what's
likely
to
happen
is
...
Thank
you
for
doing
that.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
Alicia
crossed
her
legs
towards
me,
so
her
body
language
is
going
to
open
up
a
little
bit.
I
might
look
at
her
like
that.
I'm
not
looking
at
my
hand
as
I'm
touching
her,
but
I
might
be
like,
"That's
the
funniest
thing
I've
ever
heard
in
the
world.
You
love
donating
cats."
I
might
touch
her
there.
I
might
continue
to
touch
her
here.
It's
going
to
be
light
and
incidental,
but
I'm
definitely
going
to
keep
touching
her.
If
she's
into
you,
and
she's
feeling
it,
she's
going
to
start
touching
you
back.
She's
going
to
give
you
some
of
these.
She's
going
to
give
you
a
pat
on
the
knee.
If
you're
getting
some
responsiveness
from
her
touch,
a
really
good
sign.
It
doesn't
necessarily
mean
that
she's
not
feeling
you
if
she's
not
giving
you
that.
If
she's
not
touching
you,
that's
not
a
bad
sign
per
se,
just
could
mean
that
she's
not
comfortable
opening
up.
Most
of
the
time
if
you're
touching
her,
and
she's
feeling
it,
like
that
sort
of
stuff,
she'll
start
touching
back.
That's
what
you're
going
to
do
at
the
bar
when
you're
having
that
first
conversation.
Let's
say
you're
on
the
way
to
the
next
spot.
You're
going
to
get
up
and
leave
like,
"All
right.
Let's
go"
blah,
blah,
blah.
You're
going
to
start
to
walk.
You're
going
to
do
that
whole
grab
her
hand
thing
again.
You're
going
to
be
like,
"Hey,
I
got
to
tell
you
something."
Lean
in.
This
is
the
next
thing
you
might
do
as
you're
walking
out.
If
you're
going
to
skeeball
let's
say.
Actually,
let's
step
back
so
I
can
keep
walking.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
We're
walking
to
skeeball
and
be
like,
"Hey.
I
got
to
tell
you
something.
I'm
going
to
kick
your
butt
in
skeeball
right
now."
It
looks
like
I'm
about
to
go
in
for
a
kiss,
but
I'm
going
to
be
a
little
competitive
in
that
moment.
"I'm
going
to
kick
your
butt
in
skeeball
right
now."
She
might
laugh.
She
might
do
that
sort
of
thing.
That's
going
to
ramp
that
sexual
tension
up
and
create
that
moment
of
...
That
little
spike
in
the
heart
rate.
for
now.
Finally
...
There
is
one
other
thing,
but
we'll
get
to
that
in
a
moment.
Seeding
the
next
date.
How
do
you
plan
the
next
date
out
while
you're
on
the
first
date.
My
whole
way
to
do
this
is
I'm
flirting
with
the
future.
I'm
always
talking
about,
"Ah.
We've
got
to
go
do
this.
We've
got
to
eat
at
this
place.
We've
got
to
check
this
thing
out."
I'm
going
to
flirt
with
spots
that
I
might
want
to
go
to.
Artichoke
Pizza,
or
my
favorite
burger
joint
in
town,
or
my
favorite
spot
for
sushi.
One
of
those
things.
I
might
also
...
If
I'm
living
a
very
active
social
life
at
the
time,
I'm
going
to
probably
talk
about
cool
stuff
that
I've
got
coming
up
in
my
week
and
month.
There
would
be
times
when
I'd
be
like,
"Oh,
yeah.
I'm
having
a
party
on
Friday.
What
do
you
got
going
on
this
week?"
It
naturally
comes
up.
"What's
the
rest
of
your
week
look
like?"
Talk
about
cool
stuff
you're
doing.
"I'm
going
sky
diving
on
Saturday.
I've
never
been."
By
the
way,
I
highly
advise
sky
diving
if
you've
never
gone.
You're
going
to
talk
about
cool
stuff
that
comes
up.
She
might
have
indicated
an
interest
in
it.
You
can
always
be
like,
"Yeah,
I've
got
the
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
coolest
party
I'm
throwing
on
Friday.
Too
bad
you're
not
invited,
but
I'll
send
you
some
pictures
from
it."
That's
flirting
with
the
future.
She's
going
to,
"What?
I'm
not
invited?"
"I'm
just
teasing
you.
We'll
see."
The
one
thing
I
would
say
is
if
you
guys
start
talking
about
each
others
weeks,
and
she's
like
...
This
definitely
has
been
me
at
various
points
in
the
past,
is
that
girls
have
had
cool
shit
going
on
in
their
lives,
and
the
girl
I'm
on
the
date
with
is
the
only
cool
shit
I
have
going
on
in
my
life.
It's
easy
to
be
negative
and
not
talk
about
...
She'd
be
like,
"Yeah,
I'm
going
to
this
and
that.
Going
to
see
Avicci,
and
I'm
doing
..."
She's
talking
about
this
cool
shit.
"What
do
you
got
going
on?"
"Nothing."
Don't
be
a
Negative
Nancy
if
you
don't
have
anything
cool
going
on
in
your
life.
First
thing
I'd
say
is
get
some
cool
stuff
going
on
in
your
life.
Second
thing
is,
if
she
does
ask,
be
like,
"Oh,
you
know
I'm
still
trying
to
figure
out
my
plans
for
the
weekend.
The
buddies
and
I
are
talking
about
whether
we
want
to
see
a
show,
go
see
a
game.
I'm
not
quite
sure
yet.
Usually
play
things
a
little
bit
more
by
the
seat
of
my
pants."
Don't
be
a
Negative
Nancy
if
you
don't
have
cool
stuff
going
on.
I
had
a
bullet
here,
don't
pry
about
what's
going
on
in
her
week.
Her
feeling
when
you're
asking,
"What's
going
on
in
your
week?"
She
should
not
feel
like
he's
trying
to
lock
me
into
a
date
at
that
moment.
It's
more
like
a
passing
interest.
Let's
say
we
hadn't
caught
up
...
We're
business
associates
and
we
haven't
caught
up
in
a
while,
and
the
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conversation's
wrapping
up,
"So
man.
What
you
got
going
on
for
the
rest
of
the
week?"
We
know
that
we're
not
going
to
see
each
other
the
rest
of
the
week.
I'm
curious
what
you're
doing.
That's
the
vibe
that
you
want
to
have
when
you're
asking
her
about
what's
going
on
the
rest
of
the
week.
Ending
the
date.
The
first
date.
As
I
said,
some
first
dates
will
end
in
sex.
How
do
you
do
that?
Usually,
at
some
point
during
skeeball,
or
one
of
these
activities,
you're
going
to
go
from
light
kissing,
to
heavier
kissing,
and
then
you're
going
to
end
up
making
out.
Making
out
might
be
pretty
extensive
you
guys
are
really
into
each
other.
When
this
happens,
what
I've
traditionally
done
is
I'll
be
like
...
We'll
be
making
out
with
each
other.
Maybe
it'll
be
outside
the
bar.
Maybe
it's
in
the
bar.
I
look
her
right
in
the
eyes.
I'm
like,
"All
right.
Girl.
Got
to
get
you
home."
That's
the
first
thing
I'll
say
is,
"All
right
Girl.
Got
to
get
you
home.
If
you're
really
looking
for
it,
you'll
notice
that
she's
either
disappointed,
or
that
she
excepts
it.
If
she's
like,
"Yeah.
You're
right"
then
cool.
She's
excepted
it.
She
knows
she's
got
to
go
home.
Don't
push
it.
If
you're
like,
"All
right
Girl.
Got
to
get
you
home"
and
she's
like,
"All
right."
You
get
this
little
sense
of
maybe
she
doesn't
actually
want
to
go
home.
Then
you
can
look
at
her.
You
can
make
out
a
little
bit
more.
You
can
be
like,
"All
right.
Look.
I
know
one
more
really
cool
place
I
can
show
you,
and
that's
it."
She's
"Where
is
it."
"Don't
worry.
It's
really
cool."
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
Take
her
to
the
cab,
get
in
the
car.
Head
on
out.
That
line
"Don't
worry.
It's
a
cool
spot."
That
seems
to
handle
99.9%
all
objections.
I
can't
believe
that
it's
something
that
easy.
"Don't
worry
about
it.
I'll
show
you.
It's
cool."
That's
how
you
would
get
her
in
the
cab
and
get
her
back
to
your
place.
As
you're
walking
up
to
your
place,
you'll
be
talking,
probably
making
out
a
little
bit,
because
that's
really
what
the
vibe's
all
about.
You
get
out
of
the
taxi.
I
guess
you're
not
going
to
be
making
out
if
your
in
a
car.
One
thing
that
I'll
always
say
when
you're
going
up
to
your
place.
"All
right.
Two
words.
Pillow
barrier.
We
are
not
having
sex
tonight.
Just
to
make
that
clear."
That
line
...
It
diffuses
the
tension,
and
allows
her
to
enter
your
space
without
feeling
like
you're
going
to
try
to
have
sex
with
her.
That's
one
way
you
can
end
the
date.
Not
all
first
dates
end
in
that
soft
of
kissing,
and
passion,
and
making
out.
In
fact,
very
few
of
my
first
dates
ever
end
that
way.
Usually
they
end
another
way.
This
is
where
I
would
like
your
assistance
again
to
demonstrate.
This
is
where
you're
going
to
bring
the
mystery
back
in.
Most
guys
at
the
end
of
the
first
date
they're
nervous.
They
want
to
go
for
the
kiss
because
they
think
they
need
to.
They
think,
"I
need
to
lock
that
kiss
in,"
or
something.
What
we're
going
to
do
instead
is
go
right
for
the
kiss
on
the
cheek,
and
then
we're
going
to
look
at
her
in
the
eyes
and
be
like,
"All
right.
This
is
great.
I
might
just
have
to
see
you
again
sometime."
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If
you
wouldn't
mind
standing
right
there.
Watch
how
I
go
for
the
kiss
on
the
cheek.
There's
no
indication
that
I'm
going
for
her
lips.
It's
like,
"All
right,
well,
hey.
It's
great
to
see
..."
Sorry,
me.
I'd
probably
grab
your
hands
first.
"It
was
an
amazing
time
tonight.
Had
a
lot
of
fun."
See
how
I'm
coming
in
really
wide.
"Amazing
time
tonight.
Great
to
see
you.
Might
just
have
to
do
this
again
some
time."
Something
like
that.
I'm
going
to
end
with,
"Might
just
have
to
do
this
again
sometime."
That's
more
often
then
not
how
I'm
going
to
end
my
first
date.
If
you
haven't
been
kissing
each
other
up
to
that
point,
then
that's
a
great
way
to
end
that
first
date.
Finally,
I
had
...
This
is
a
bullet.
Be
a
fucking
gentleman.
If
you're
in
New
York.
If
you're
in
a
place
where
there's
a
taxi,
put
her
in
the
taxi
first.
If
she
is
at
your
house
for
some
reason,
walk
her
out
and
let
her
get
a
car.
If
you're
driving
her
home,
drive
her
home.
Wait
until
she
walks
up
to
the
front
door
and
gets
in
safely
before
you
drive
a
way.
Be
a
fucking
gentleman.
That's
how
you're
going
to
end
your
first
date.
The
texting
follow
up.
How
are
you
going
to
follow
up
from
that
first
date.
First
thing
is
you
don't
want
to
overdo
it.
That's
a
big
mistake
guys
make.
They're
like,
"I
had
a
great
first
date.
Really
into
this
girl."
They
start
texting
her
like
she's
a
best
friend.
Don't
over
do
it.
Play
it
cool.
Text
her
the
next
day
probably
with
some
call
back
humor.
Something
that
you
referenced
the
night
before
like,
"I
can't
believe
I
got
my
butt
beat
in
skeeball.
Totally
got
to
do
a
repeat
one
of
these
days
after
we
do
all
those
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE FIRST DATE
other
things
that
we
talked
about."
How
to
text
her.
I
have
this
five
step
process
for
how
to
go
from
first
text
to
asking
her
out.
It's
not
worth
sharing
here.
In
the
members
area
beneath
this
video
I'll
put
those
five
texts.
If
you're
watching
this
at
home,
there
somewhere
beneath
this
video.
Finally,
I
would
say
keep
texting
multiple
girls
until
you're
either
sleeping
with
one,
or
maybe
a
few
if
that's
your
thing.
Don't
think
that
because
you
went
on
one
great
date,
with
one
girl,
that
everything
is
magically,
amazingly
going
to
happen.
Again,
she
may
be
crazy.
She
may
have
an
ex.
Something
may
come
up
between
the
two
of
you.
You
don't
know.
I
would
say
keep
texting
multiple
girls
until
you
find
the
one
that
things
click
with.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SOCIAL DATE
This
date
is
what
I'd
call
Date
2.5,
works
great
if
you're
in
college,
it
can
work
very
well
if
you
have
an
active
social
life.
This
is
what
I
call
the
"Social
Date".
This
is
going
to
be
a
Friday
or
Saturday
get
together
with
friends.
If
you
just
have
a
lot
of
friends
or
if
you're
just
very
active
person
in
your
life
then
this
is
a
great
way
to
roll.
You
don't
want
to
do
a
nightclub.
I
just
want
to
repeat
that.
Don't
take
a
girl
to
a
nightclub
unless
you're
the
owner
of
the
nightclub
or
unless
you're
the
lead
promoter
there.
The
whole
idea
beyond
the
social
date
is
just
basically
invite
her
out
with
all
your
buddies,
with
all
the
people
who
you
know
to
something
that
that
you're
going
to
enjoy.
There's
a
lot
of
stuff
you
can
get
wrong
on
the
social
date
so
here's
a
little
checklist.
Before
you
invite
a
girl
to
a
social
date,
these
are
the
things
that
should
be
in
place.
First
of
all,
you
should
have
very
high
social
value
wherever
you're
going.
It
should
be
a
scene
that
you've
created
or
that
you're
elevated
member
of.
If
she
sees
you
getting
tooled
by
a
bunch
of
other
guys,
like
forget
it,
all
the
work
you
put
in,
no
good.
It
should
be
a
pretty
big
group
and
a
big
activity.
It
shouldn't
be
a
double
date
with
your
best
friend
and
his
long
term
girlfriend.
It
should
be
a
bigger
group,
maybe
10
guys,
10
girls.
You're
all
getting
together
to
watch
the
game
something
like
that.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SOCIAL DATE
Your
friends
should
make
you
look
good.
You
should
know
going
in,
you
should
tell
them,
"Yo,
I'm
bringing
a
girl
who
I
really
like.
You
guys
got
to
stump
for
me."
Just
make
sure
your
friends
are
going
to
make
you
look
good
and
they're
not
in
the
habit
of
tooling
you.
She
should
already
have
indicated
interest
in
it.
We
talked
earlier
on
the
first
date
about
seating
the
future.
Talking
about
other
things
that
you've
got
going
on
in
your
day,
your
week.
This
is
going
to
be
a
common
thing
that
comes
up
in
conversation
and
so
you're
going
to
invite
her
to
this
if
she
already
knows
about
it.
You're
not
just
going
to
hit
her
up
out
of
the
blue,
be
like,
"Yo,
all
my
friends
are
going
to
watch
the
game
tonight
do
you
want
to
come?"
Finally
if
you
two
have
very
solid
repertoire.
If
you
still
haven't
really
moved
things
along
at
this
point.
If
you're
not
kissing
each
other
at
this
point,
maybe
not
do
it.
I'm
not
going
to
tell
you
exactly
what
to
do.
This
a
very
short
segment,
I'll
just
give
you
a
few
mechanics.
One
of
them
is
you
want
to
make
sure
that
she's
taken
care
of
but
you
don't
want
to
overwhelm
her.
When
you
get
her
in,
introduce
her
to
some
people,
get
her
a
drink
but
don't
just
hover
over
her
the
whole
night
and
try
to
be
the
guy
that
protects
her
from
everything.
Leave
her
to
talk
to
your
friends
while
you
go
and
talk
to
some
people.
If
you
know
you've
got
a
friend
or
two
who
are
particularly
cool
and
social,
just
leave
her
to
talk
to
them
and
then
you
go
and
enjoy
yourself.
I'm
not
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SOCIAL DATE
saying
leave
her
forever
but
leave
her
for
5,
10
minutes.
Just
trust
that
that
she's
okay
talking
to
your
friends.
Make
connections
between
your
friends
and
her.
Definitely
bring
other
friends
over,
be
like,
"Hey,
this
is
Alicia.
You
haven't
met
her
yet.
Yeah,
she's
been
hanging
out
for
a
little
bit.
Alicia,
this
is
so
and
so."
Just
constantly
be
making
connections
and
if
one
of
your
friends
has
something
in
common
with
her.
Alicia's
an
actress
if
I
had
an
actress
I'd
be
like,
"Hey,
she's
an
actress
too,
you
guys
got
to
talk.
I
think
you've
been
on
set
together"
or
whatever
I'm
going
to
say.
I
wouldn't
say
that.
"Oh,
you
guys
are
both
actresses,
I'm
sure
you
both
frustrated
but
love
your
job
every
single
minute
of
it."
You
can
also
get
to
do
stuff
for
you.
If
you're
at
the
bar,
maybe
you
got
the
first
drink,
you
can
be
like,
"Oh
hey,
would
you
mind
going
and
grabbing
the
next
round?"
If
you
really
want
to
do
this
the
right
way
you're
going
to
whip
out
$20
from
your
pocket
and
give
it
her
to
actually
go
get
the
drinks
and
not
ask
her
to
pay
for
it
but
you're
going
to
have
her
do
the
work
of
going
to
get
it.
You
can
also
give
her
what
I'd
call
the
"Girlfriend
Experience".
If
you
wouldn't
mind
joining
me
for
a
moment.
Let's
say
you're
talking
to
your
buddy
and
she's
standing
here,
you
might
just
every
now
and
then
put
your
hand
behind
her
and
be
just
talking
to
her,
talking
your
buddy
like
this
while
your
hanging
out
with
her.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SOCIAL DATE
You
might
put
your
hand
around
shoulder
and
just
be
talking
like
this.
It's
not
going
to
be
for
too
long
but
these
are
things
that
you
definitely
would
not
do
with
a
girl
who
wasn't
your
girlfriend.
It's
like
the
two
of
you
now
all
of
a
sudden
are
this
team
who
are
interacting
with
the
world.
Your
buddy's
talking
and
it's
like,
"Oh
yeah,
it's
really
interesting."
May
be
let's
turn
around.
May
be
while
your
buddy
is
talking
and
you’re
gently
rubbing
her
back
a
little
bit.
You're
introducing
and
sneaking
in
little
ways
of
being
sexual
and
physical
with
her
while
you're
there.
Then
depending
on
the
connection
you
guys
have,
may
be
you
just
end
up
back
at
your
apartment.
That
is
a
social
date.
Again,
not
a
whole
lot
to
it.
Just
invite
her
out
if
you
think
you're
going
to
look
good
in
the
room.
Be
cool,
treat
her
like
your
girlfriend
but
just
don't
overwhelm
her
and
this
could
be
a
very,
very,
very
effective
way
to
bridge
a
connection.
Again
if
you're
seen
in
a
good
light
in
this
environment
just
an
awesome
time
for
the
girl.
That
is
that.
The
next
date
we'll
talk
about
is
what
I
call
the
"Sex
Date".
It's
where
you
have
sex.
Not
quite
the
third
date
because
the
second
date,
this
is
the
second
and
a
half
date,
those
could
be
all
third
dates.
This
is
the
sex
date
so
we'll
get
into
that
one
momentarily.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SEX DATE
We
come
to
the
sex
date,
the
date
where
you
do
the
deed
with
her
or
at
least
get
somewhat
sexual
with
her
if
that’s
not
your
thing.
What
are
the
mechanics
of
it?
It’s
going
to
be
dinner
and
a
movie
at
your
place.
That’s
the
way
to
go
into
it.
What
is
the
dinner
you’re
going
to
cook?
Something
fairly
light,
because
as
usual
you
don’t
want
a
big
belly
full
of
pork
belly
when
you’re
rolling
around
in
the
sack.
A
great
dish
would
be
like
salmon
with
angel
hair
pasta,
that’s
just
a
huge
winner.
If
you’re
a
good
cook
you
can
play
around
with
other
stuff.
After
the
dinner
dish,
what’s
the
movie?
I
would
always
say
either
“Ratatouille”
or
“Despicable
Me.”
Those
are
just
amazing
movies,
they
say
so
much.
When
I
talk
about
“Ratatouille”
I
can
talk
about
how
I
love
the
creativity
of
the
characters,
how
I
love
the
fact
that
it
celebrates
striking
out
on
your
own
and
fighting
against
the
odds,
and
following
your
dream.
“Ratatouille”
is
honestly
one
of
my
favorite
movies.
“Despicable
Me”
is
another
good
one.
Because
you’re
not
actually
going
to
be
watching
the
movie,
you’re
just
going
to
put
it
on
in
the
background
so
that
you
can
make
out
with
her.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SEX DATE
Before
she
arrives,
I
shouldn’t
have
to
say
this
but
why
not,
take
a
fucking
shower.
Clean
up.
Just
make
sure
you
look
good
and
you’re
clean,
whatever,
when
she’s
there.
When
she
arrives,
what
are
you
going
to
do?
You’ve
kissed
a
lot
at
this
point.
You
guys
have
kissed
a
lot.
She’s
going
to
show
up,
it’s
going
to
be
a
real
passionate
embrace,
right?
She
comes
to
your
door,
“Hey,
good
to
see
you,”
and
just
allow
yourself
to
enjoy
her
embrace
for
a
little
bit.
Really
just
create
a
little
space
right
there
for
you
to
experience
the
physicality
of
the
moment.
Make
it
a
deep
kiss,
make
it
a
short
kiss,
come
in
and
out
of
the
kiss,
just
enjoy
this
kiss.
She
comes
in
the
house,
“Oh,
sorry,
do
you
mind
taking
your
shoes
off?”
Just
make
sure
her
shoes
are
off;
just
make
sure
your
shoes
are
off.
The
next
big
thing,
this
is
always
great,
is
having
some
champagne.
They
sell
half
bottles
of
champagne.
You’re
probably
not
going
to
have
champagne
for
dinner,
you’re
probably
going
to
want
to
have
white
whine
for
dinner,
but
champagne
is
a
great
way
to
start.
They
sell
these
half
bottles,
and
what
you
can
do
is
basically
you
know,
“Hey,
come
on
in,
let’s
get
a
drink
going.”
You
open
the
fridge,
you
pop
the
half
bottle
of
champagne,
and
that
should
cover
about
a
full
glass
for
each
of
you
or
maybe
a
little
bit
more.
It’s
that
popping
of
the
champagne,
there’s
something
sort
of
hypnotic
about
that.
Or
not
hypnotic,
that’s
not
the
right
word.
It’s
a
trigger
for
people.
It’s
like
it
triggers,
“Oh,
this
is
going
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SEX DATE
to
be
a
celebration.”
Love
to
start
the
sex
date
with
a
half
bottle
of
champagne.
Finally,
once
you
have
your
champagne
in
your
hand
you’re
going
to
be
like,
“We’ll
cook
in
a
second,
but
we
need
some
music
for
the
date.
Let’s
go
pick
some
music
together.”
She’ll
say
okay,
and
this
is
where
I
could
use
you
for
a
demo.
Some
people,
I
think,
like
Diet
Coke
as
much
as
they
like
champagne.
This
will
be
mine.
What
we’re
going
to
do
is
we’re
going
to
make
our
way
over
to
the
computer,
and
the
computer
should
only
have
one
chair
in
front
of
it.
Forget
the
fact
that
this
chair
is
here.
We’re
going
to
make
our
way
over
to
the
computer,
and
I’m
going
to
sit
down
and
I’m
going
to
say,
“All
right,
let’s
make
a
playlist.”
You’re
going
to
be
like,
“What?
How?”
and
I’m
going
to
be
like,
“C’mon,
have
a
seat.”
She’s
going
to
have
a
seat
and
we’re
going
to
start
working
on
the
computer
together.
We’re
going
to
scroll
through
the
songs
and
she’s
going
to
be
into
it,
I
would
expect.
She’s
going
to
be
like,
“Oh,
this
looks
great,”
and,
“I
love
Coldplay.”
So
you
guys
talk
about
your
music.
This
is
a
great
moment
to
kiss,
obviously.
You
don’t
have
to
be
focused
on
the
music
the
whole
time,
you
can
be
sitting
here
and
you
can
be
looking
at
her,
you
can
be
kissing
her.
You
can
be
going
back
to
the
music
like,
“Sorry,
I
just
forgot
about
what
we
were
looking
at,”
and
then
you
get
focused
on
her
and
you
start
kissing
her.
All
right,
thank
you
very
much.
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You
create
a
playlist
together
while
you
two
are
just,
you
know,
while
you
two
are
there,
and
you’re
not
…
This
is
the
key
point.
This
date
is
all
about
sensuality,
so
don’t
be
so
goal-‐oriented
that
you’re
just
trying
to
get
sex,
don’t
be
so
goal-‐oriented
that
you’re
just
trying
to
push
through
it.
Allow
yourself
to
just
experience
whatever’s
happening
in
that
moment.
If
you
get
lost
in
her
eyes,
if
she
gets
lost
in
yours,
make
out
for
a
little
bit.
Enjoy
it.
If
that’s
not
happening,
then
move
on.
Get
the
playlist
going
and
then
go
cook
the
food.
You’ve
got
the
playlist
going,
she’s
sitting
on
your
lap,
you
guys
have
made
out
a
little
bit
–
now
you’re
going
to
cook.
This
is
really
important:
You’ve
got
to
cook
together.
Do
not
just
cook
while
she
sits
there
and
watches
you.
I
made
that
mistake
in
my
early
twenties
quite
often,
out
of
chivalry,
and
the
girl
just
sits
there
bored
as
shit
while
she
watches
you
cook.
Involve
her,
get
her
doing
stuff.
“Hey,
can
you
boil
the
pasta?
Can
you
get
the
water?
Can
you
chop
the
vegetables?”
Whatever
it
is.
While
you’re
cooking,
flirt
and
kiss.
This
is
a
great
opportunity.
You
guys
are
moving
around
together,
you
can
come
up
behind
her,
sniff
her
neck,
give
her
a
little
kiss.
I
love
this
bullet
point,
Evan:
Smack
her
with
a
clean
spatula
or
spoon.
That
is
fun.
It’s
flirty.
You
pick
up
your
little
spatula
and
you
kind
of
like
give
her
a
little
smack,
“That’s
not
how
you
do
it,”
give
her
a
little
smack
on
the
ass.
Take
moments
to
make
out.
Have
her
make
the
table.
You
should
be
the
one
who’s
finishing
the
dinner,
say,
“Hey,
can
you
set
the
table?”
Have
her
go
set
the
table.
Then
you’re
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SEX DATE
going
to
bring
in—she’ll
sit
down
and
then
you’re
going
to
serve
here
dinner,
you’re
going
to
make
sure
that
she
has
some
wine,
and
then
you’re
going
to
just
have
dinner.
You’re
going
to
enjoy
each
other’s
company
and
you’re
going
to
talk.
What
you
talk
about
on
this
date,
I’m
not
going
to
tell
you
what
to
talk
about
on
this
date.
By
now
you
guys
have
good
chemistry.
If
you
can’t
talk
with
the
girl
on
this
date,
you—if
you
can’t
talk
to
the
girl
then
you
haven’t
gotten
to
this
point.
Whatever
you
guys
want
to
talk
about.
How
do
you
wrap
up,
how
do
you
move
to
the
next
step?
Usually
you
can
reintroduce
sexuality
by
bringing
it
back
into
the
kitchen.
One
of
the
things
that
we
talked
about
was
strawberries
and
chocolate
is
a
great
way
to
move
back
into
the
kitchen,
or
whipped
cream
and
berries.
Yeah,
so
dessert
is
whipped
cream
and
berries.
That’s
a
great
one,
because
you
can
spray
her
with
whipped
cream
or
you
can
spray
it
on
your
finger
and
touch
her
nose
with
it,
like
kiss
her.
It
just
creates
a
great
opportunity
to
bring
sexuality
back
after
you
guys
have
been
eating
and
separated
from
each
other.
Another
thing
that
…
This
has
been
just
something
that
I
find
is
fun
to
do
is
when
you’re
in
the
kitchen
and
you’re
making
out
with
her,
kind
of
prop
her
up
on
the
counter
so
her
legs
are
spread
and
you
kind
of
almost
push
yourself
in
between
her
legs,
and
continue
to
kiss
her
in
that
position.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SEX DATE
If
it’s
getting
really
hot
and
heavy
in
that
position,
you
can
actually
at
that
point
just
lift
her
up
and
pull
her
legs
around
you,
and
walk
her
to
the
couch
or
walk
her
to
the
bed
and
just
like
you
know,
toss
her
down
and
…
We’ll
get
to
that
in
a
second.
Depending
on
how
sexy
it’s
getting
at
that
point,
you
may
not
even
have
to
get
to
the
movie.
It
may
just
be
dinner
and
then
you
guys
are
loving
the
pleasure
of
each
other’s
sexual
companionship
so
much
that
it
just
continues
from
there.
I
want
to
pause
for
a
second
and
talk
about
some
things
that
should
be
in
place
at
your
place,
some
things
that
will
make
this
all
easier.
First
of
all,
good
lighting.
If
you
don’t
have
good
lighting
at
your
place,
get
some
dimmer
switches.
You
should
not
have
shockingly
bright
light.
That
is
really
unseductive.
Having
some
books,
souvenirs
or
artwork
that
mean
something
to
you.
When
she
comes
into
your
place
she
is
going
to
be
looking
around
for
hints
of
your
character.
If
there’s
a
couple
of
books
that
have
affected
you
in
your
life
or
changed
you,
have
those
kind
of
out
in
the
middle
of
the
bookshelf.
Have
some
souvenirs
in
place
that
you’ve
visited,
maybe
some
artwork.
One
thing
that
we
had
at
our
apartment
for
ages,
I
talked
about
sextrology,
that
was
a
huge
one,
another
big
one
was
a
photo
book.
We
had
this
photo
book
by
an
artist
named
David
LaChapelle,
you
might
know
him.
There’s
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these
big
photo
books,
they’re
made
by
a
company
called
Taschen.
This
company,
all
they
do
is
make
big
photography
books.
Actually,
something
like
this,
if
I
can
grab
this.
Taschen
did
not
make
this
and
this
is
not
what
I
would
pick,
but
I
am
not
a
designer
or
an
architect.
This
is
like
the
size
of
the
book
that
you
want.
The
point
of
having
a
book
like
this
is
that
it
lets
her
focus
on
something
when
she’s
sitting
down
or
it
gives
her
something
to
just
look
at
in
the
meantime
when
those
little
gaps
between
conversations
or
whatever
is
happening.
You
don’t
want
to
have
like
totally
dirty
erotic
photography.
The
reason
we
love
David
LaChapelle
is
his
stuff
is
really
edgy
and
it’s
definitely
erotic,
but
it’s
still
incredibly
artistic.
Again,
David
LaChapelle,
“Heaven
or
Hell,”
that
was
the
one
we
had.
Find
some
photography
that
you
like
and
get
a
photo
book.
Obviously
having
wine
and
champagne
at
your
place,
you
got
to
have
that.
If
you
don’t
have
wine
and
champagne,
shame
on
you
as
a
single
man.
A
hookah
can
be
nice
too.
Some
guys
I
know
love
hookahs.
I
smoked
the
hookah
way
too
much
and
I
think
it
caused
me
to
develop
asthma,
so
I
don’t
use
a
hookah
anymore
but
it
was
great
to
have
during
the
time.
Some
other
things
that
you
can
have:
A
comfy
blanket
and
pillows.
Your
bed
should
be
amazing.
It
should
be
so
comfortable
to
sleep
in,
a
down
or
synthetic
down
mattress
pad.
If
somebody
can
just
kind
of
sink
into
your
sheets
and
want
to
stay
there,
you’ve
got
the
right
set
on
the
bed.
Amazing
sheets,
yeah,
I
got
that.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SEX DATE
Wygant
talked
about
this,
a
girl-‐friendly
bathroom.
No
pubes
strung
around
the
toilet.
Let’s
go
a
few
steps
further.
Let’s
have
a
few
fluffy
towels
that
you
just
keep
nearby
or
keep
in
your
linen
closet,
a
few
fluffy
towels
that
she
can
use
after
a
shower.
You’ve
got
soap.
You’ve
got
clean
hand
towels.
You’ve
got
some
girl-‐friendly
soap
in
your
shower.
Like,
your
shower
doesn’t
just
consist
of
Axe.
Please.
Please.
Finally,
a
few
other
big
things:
Clocks
in
the
bedroom,
get
rid
of
them.
Use
your
iPhone.
Don’t
keep
a
clock
in
the
bedroom.
If
she
can
see
what
time
it
is
when
you’re
in
the
passionate
heat
of
the
moment
you
don’t
want
to
be
reminded
of
what
time
it
is,
you
want
to
lose
yourself
in
passion,
so
no
clocks.
No
fucking
“Gladiator”
posters.
Like,
get
out
of
college.
No
“Gladiator”
posters,
no
Miller
Lite
posters,
none
of
that
shit.
Get
some
real
artwork.
You’re
a
grown
man.
No
messes.
Keep
your
place
clean.
Do
you
have
to
do
all
this
stuff?
No.
One
of
my
buddies,
Wax,
his
place
is
a
total
mess,
total
disaster,
he
still
hooks
up
with
girls.
Do
you
have
to
do
all
that
stuff?
No,
but
girls
really
like
it.
All
right,
back
to
the
movie.
It
might
not
get
to
the
point
where
you
have
to
even
watch
the
movie,
but
if
it
does
how
do
you
do
it?
David
DeAngelo
said
it
best:
“Two
steps
forward,
one
step
back.”
Every
sexual
advance
you
make
you’re
going
to
push
forward
a
little
bit
and
then
you’re
going
to
step
back.
Push
forward,
step
back.
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You
don’t
ever
want
to
push
sexuality
on
her
full,
whole
hog.
Just
a
little
bit
of
sexuality,
step
back.
Kiss
her,
step
back.
Smell
her
neck,
step
back.
Make
out
a
little
bit,
step
back.
Touch
her,
then
go
back
to
kissing.
Touch
her
some
more,
kiss
her
some
more.
Touch
her
in
very
private
places,
then
stop
touching
her
in
private
places
and
start
touching
her
on
safe
places.
Two
steps
forward,
one
step
back.
How
are
you
going
to
actually
get
to
a
kiss
when
you’re
sitting
on
a
couch?
What
I
would
suggest
is
positioning
yourself
closer
to
the
screen.
In
this
apartment,
the
screen
is
right
here.
People
on
camera
can’t
see
that,
but
we
can
here.
If
we
were
sitting
on
that
couch
I
would
want
to
be
…
Let’s
just
say
we
were
sitting
right
here,
the
camera’s
right
there.
I
want
to
be
on
this
side,
so
that
her
eyes
have
to
cross
me
to
get
to
the
screen.
That’s
the
key.
I
don’t
want
to
be
over
here,
because
then
for
her
to
get
attention
on
me
I
have
to
actually
grab
her
attention.
When
I’m
sitting
here,
her
attention’s
already
on
me,
sort
of
passively.
Anything
I
do,
any
move
I
make
is
just
going
to
be
a
matter
of
turning
my
head
and
looking,
and
she’s
already
looking
in
the
same
direction.
If
I’m
sitting
over
here,
I’ve
got
to
like
call
her
attention
this
way
and
be
like,
“Hey,
I
want
to
kiss
you.”
So
position
yourself
closer
to
the
screen.
At
this
point
it’s
really
simple.
You
can
start
…
Actually,
if
you
wouldn’t
mind
joining
us
here.
Let’s
say
that
we’re
sitting
on
the
couch,
the
couch
kind
of
looks
like
this,
and
we’re
into
each
other
and
it’s
all
going
well.
I’m
just
going
to
start
by
going
like
this,
maybe
scratching
her
hair
like
this,
and
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she’s
looking
this
way
because
she’s
watching
“Ratatouille”
and
she’s
loving
it.
I’m
just
going
to
look
at
her
like
this,
look
back,
look
at
her.
We’re
going
to
keep
making
eye
contact,
and
eventually
with
the
eye
contact
or
the
scratching,
I’m
probably
just
going
to
lean
in
and
go
straight
for
the
kiss.
It’s
just
like
this,
and
then
just
go
straight
for
the
kiss.
You
don’t
need
to
make
a
big
deal
out
of
it.
If
she’s
sitting
there,
if
she’s
next
to
you,
of
she’s
been
kissing
you
up
to
this
point,
trust
me
she
wants
to
take
it
further.
It’s
just
that
simple
positioning
yourself
close
to
the
TV,
the
scratching
of
the
hair,
and
then
lean
in
and
go
for
the
kiss.
Thank
you
very
much.
Once
you
move
beyond
the
kiss,
you
can
begin
touching
her
around
the
waist.
That’s
the
next
spot
that
you’re
going
to
start
to
get
sexual.
Then
you’re
going
to
touch
her
there,
you’re
going
to
kind
of
move
up
the
back
of
her
shirt
and
then
see
where
your
hands
end
up
on
the
front
of
her
shirt.
I’m
going
to
assume
that
you
guys
kind
of
know
where
to
go
from
there.
Again,
I
would
just
say
two
steps
forward
one
step
back.
You
can
guide
her
hands
onto
you.
That’s
one
key
point,
is
I
would
say
if
she’s
just
not
been
touching
with
her
hands
you
can
guide
her
hands
onto
you.
You
can
put
them
first
on
your
stomach,
first
on
your
legs,
and
then
as
it
starts
to
ramp
up
you
can
put
her
hands
on
other
parts
of
your
body
that
you
would
like
touched.
How
do
you
ramp
up
the
sexuality?
I
just
have
a
very
simple
concept
to
think
of
it:
tough
and
tender.
Tough
and
tender.
It’s
like
sort
of
the
yin
and
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yang
of
sexual
tension.
We
talked
yesterday
about
pushing
a
girl
up
against
the
wall,
being
really
dominant,
and
then
just
pulling
back
and
very
seductively
looking
at
her
in
the
eye.
Another
thing
that
is
great
is
you’re
on
the
couch
or
maybe
you’re
in
the
kitchen,
you
pick
her
up
over
your
shoulder
and
like
…
Trust
me,
this
is
really
fun
if
you’ve
never
done
it
before.
You
pick
a
girl
up
over
your
shoulder,
and
you
just
walk
into
the
bedroom
and
you
throw
her
on
the
bed,
like
real
powerful.
Make
sure
her
head’s
not
going
to
hit
anything,
but
throw
her
on
the
bed
and
then
just
kind
of
a
jolt,
and
then
you
kind
of
jump
on
and
you’re
very,
very
tender
at
that
point.
You
just
go
back
to
caressing
her
and
gently
kissing
her.
So
yeah,
that’s
the
tough
and
tender
dance.
I’ll
leave
it
up
to
your
imaginations
to
figure
out
what
fantastic
ways
you
want
to
share
that
with
a
woman.
A
lot
of
guys
at
this
point
are
just
going
to
want
to
get
…
It’s
like,
“All
right,
sex
time.”
I
can’t
blame
you,
but
I
would
just
say
slow
it
down
and
remember
what
we
said.
The
goal
is
to
ramp
up
the
sexual
tension
and
wait
til
she
wants
it
most.
The
goal
is
to
turn
her
on.
The
goal
is
not
to
get
sex.
The
goal
is
to
turn
her
on,
so
go
slow.
This
is
not
a
course
about
sexuality.
There
are
some
great
courses.
Alex,
who
we
heard
from
yesterday,
has
an
amazing
course
about
sexuality.
A
few
simple
things:
Give
her
pleasure
first.
I
always
like
to
think
that’s
a
nice
thing
to
do.
When
it
is
time
to
have
sex,
I
would
say
go
when
she
wants
it
most,
when
she’s
just
like
…
You
can
feel
it
in
her
body
when
she’s
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almost
begging
you
for
it.
Not
the
first
moment
it’s
available.
Sometimes
her
underwear
will
come
off,
the
bra
comes
off,
you
guys
are
naked,
it’s
possible
you
could
do
it
right
there.
Just
wait.
Wait
five
minutes,
10
minutes,
15
minutes,
20
minutes.
Just
enjoy
being
physical
and
sensual
with
each
other.
If
she’s
not
sure
but
you
are.
That’s
the
name
of
the
slide.
This
isn’t
something
that
always
will
come
up,
but
certainly
it
does
sometimes.
Here
are
some
words
to
say.
This
is
the
spirit
of
how
you
would
say
these
words,
you’re
welcome
to
ad
lib,
and
I
hope
you
feel
them
if
you
say
them
to
a
girl.
You
might
say
something
like,
“Look,
it’s
pretty
clear
that
we
have
amazing
sexual
chemistry,
and
I’m
just
enjoying
being
here
with
you
right
now.
I
want
to
make
you
feel
amazing.
If
you’re
not
comfortable,
if
you’re
not
feeling
the
same
way
or
you
just
want
to
slow
down,
like
I
said,
I’m
just
enjoying
being
here
with
you.”
What
you’re
doing
with
your
words
is
you’re
making
it
about
the
moment
and
about
the
sensuality,
not
about
the
goal
of
having
sex.
“I’m
just
enjoying
being
here
with
you.
I
want
to
make
you
feel
amazing
however,
whatever
form
that
takes.
If
we
have
sex,
we
do.
If
we
don’t,
we
don’t.
I’m
just
enjoying
this
moment
right
now.”
That
will
reassure
her
that
your
goal
is
not
just,
you
know,
have
sex
and
then
get
out
the
door.
How
do
you
have
sex?
Once
again,
I
would
assume
that
you’ve
been
biologically
programmed
to
know
how
to
have
sex
so
I’m
not
going
to
get
too
much
into
that.
If
you
can,
make
it
amazing
for
her.
Wear
a
condom.
I
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shouldn’t
have
to
say
that,
but
just
like
showering
some
people
will
forget
to
do
it.
Wear
a
condom,
please.
After
sex
it’s
great
if
you
can
go
get
a
towel
or
like
a
damp
warm
cloth
to
help
her
wipe
off
if
any
fluids
managed
to
get
anywhere.
Get
her
some
water
as
well.
This
is
a
very
simple
but
overlooked
thing,
just
bring
some
water
to
bed
when
you
go
get
the
towel.
You
can
touch
her
and
gently
blow
on
her
when
you
guys
are
in
the
afterglow
moment.
Just
like
blow
on
her
chest,
just
very
gently,
just
blow
some
cool
air
on
her
chest.
Maybe
it’s
time
for
a
shower
at
that
point.
Maybe
it’s
time
to
have
sex
again.
I
don’t
presume
to
tell
you
guys
how
you
should
have
your
sex
lives.
She
might
leave
that
night.
If
she
does,
by
all
means
walk
her
to
a
cab
or
walk
her
to
her
car
or
whatever
it
is
that
you
have
to
walk
her
to.
If
she
doesn’t
and
she
stays
over,
fantastic.
It’s
not
necessary,
but
it’s
amazing
if
you
can
cook
for
her
the
morning
after.
If
she
is
coming
over
and
you
do
have
your
fridge
stocked
with
that
champagne
and
that
salmon,
in
that
same
shopping
run
you
might
want
to
grab
some
tea
and
you
might
want
to
grab
some
eggs,
you
might
want
to
grab
some
greens.
This
is
not
like
…
Again,
don’t
let
me
tell
you
how
to
live
your
life,
but
I
think
in
general
it’s
better
to
cook
a
real
healthy
breakfast
and
have
a
girl
leave
your
place
feeling
really
good
and
light
and
energetic
than
to
overload
her
with
sausage,
and
bacon,
and
pancakes,
and
waffles
and
all
that.
That’s
up
to
you.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM THE SEX DATE
That
right
there
leads
us
through
the
inspection
phase.
That’s
going
through
the
dating
process.
As
her
investment
increases,
as
the
sexual
tension
increases,
that’s
inspection
right
there
guys.
Now
you’re
sleeping
with
the
girl.
Let
me
summarize
some
of
the
big
ideas
from
inspection:
Be
a
cool
leader
of
your
own
life
and
bring
her
into
it
if
she’s
a
good
fit.
That’s
really
how
I
think
about
the
inspection
phase.
Give
her
the
gift
of
wondering
about
you.
Boy,
we’ve
never
heard
that
before.
Play
it
cool.
Don’t
rush
it.
Let
your
intention
be
felt,
not
spoken.
Live
in
the
moment
and
flirt
with
the
future.
Finally,
follow
this
process.
Her
investment
will
continue
to
rise,
the
process
works.
Not
shocking,
you
go
on
a
few
dates
and
you
kiss
a
little
bit,
you
might
end
up
in
bed
together.
If
you
are
an
obsession
worthy
man
and
you’ve
cultivated
the
traits
that
we
talked
about
yesterday,
then
this
thing
is
going
to
go
pretty
damn
easy
for
you.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTIMACY
We
come
to
the
final
phase
of
this
course,
which
is
intimacy.
This
is
the
two
to
six
week
period
where
you
go
from
dating
each
other
to
being
official.
In
this
phase,
what's
happening
is
she's
becoming
very
invested
in
you.
She
associates
good
emotions
with
you
and
she's
feeling
like
the
woman
she
always
wanted
to
feel
like
with
the
man
who
she
always
wanted
to
be
with.
She
feels
listened
to,
she
feels
desired
like
she
found
something
that
she's
been
missing.
She's
starting
to
wonder
to
herself,
is
he
too
good
to
be
true?
That
is
intimacy.
There
is
some
do's
and
do
not
do's
in
this
phase,
so
start
off
by
saying,
"Don't
do
what
Donny
Don't
does."
Simpsons
reference
right
there.
Don't
assume
she's
your
girlfriend.
Very
first
thing
I
would
say.
Do
not
assume
she's
your
girlfriend
just
because
you
guys
went
on
date
or
even
because
you
guys
had
sex.
Do
not
assume
she's
your
girlfriend.
Do
not
make
your
problems
her
problems.
In
the
past,
I've
been
in
this
phase
and
got
shit
going
in
my
life,
I
just
start
to
open
up
to
a
girl.
It's
therapy
hour.
Don't
do
that.
Don't
assume
that
you
get
to
spend
every
night
with
her.
That's
not
going
to
happen
for
a
long
time,
my
friend.
Don't
assume
you're
going
to
spend
every
night
with
her.
Don't
even
assume
you're
going
to
hear
from
her
every
night.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTIMACY
Don't-‐
that
is
a
do.
Do
keep
boundaries
and
nights
for
yourself.
Let's
get
into
the
dos.
Instead
we'll
follow
David
Do.
Where'd
I
come
up
with
that?
I
don't
know.
Do
increase
the
frequency
of
hanging
out
with
each
other.
You're
going
to
see
her
once
a
week,
then
you
see
twice
a
week,
then
you
see
her
three
times
a
week.
Do
increase
frequency
of
hanging
out.
Do
bring
her
more
into
your
world.
Share
your
world
with
her,
share
some
of
the
things
that
you're
going
through,
the
good
stuff.
Bring
her
more
into
your
world.
Do
meet
each
other's
friends.
Do
learn
about
her
favorites
and
her
preferences.
She
likes
Big
Bird,
show
up
at
your
house
one
day
with
a
Big
Bird
Mylar
balloon.
Learn
what
her
favorite
flowers.
Finally,
do
keep
boundaries
and
nights
for
yourself.
Just
do
not
just
jump
right
in
that
relationship.
Do
keep
some
boundaries
and
space
and
some
nights
for
yourself.
A
big
way
that
you're
going
to
make
this
transition
is
connecting
on
vision
and
plans.
Where
you
go
from,
hey
we
have
fun
hanging
out
together,
to
hey,
we'd
make
a
great
couple
together,
is
where
you
guys
have
a
strong
connection
on
what
you
want
to
do
in
the
world
and
in
life,
in
terms
of
what
you
see
is
possible,
your
vision
and
specifically
how
you're
going
to
achieve
it.
Get
her
involved
in
your
vision.
We've
talked
a
lot
about
mission,
about
vision.
Get
her
involved
in
your
vision.
It
could
be
very
simple.
When
I
was
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DJing,
I
remember,
I
would
be
sitting
there
and
I'd
be
like,
okay,
I
really
need
to
make
a
song
with
Take
On
Me.
We'd
sit
there
and
we'd
go
through
all
my
songs
and
we'd-‐
okay,
that
one
works
great
with
Take
On
Me.
Do
the
little
beat.
That's
a
very
small
way
of
doing
it,
but
still
I'm
creating
a
vision
of
this
party
that
I
want
to
have.
I'm
getting
her
involved
in
it.
Maybe
I
ask
her
to
host
a
party
with
me,
we
host
a
party
together.
Bring
all
your
friends
or
just
a
bar
night.
Talk
to
her
about
thoughts
on
your
big
vision,
what
you
want
to
do
in
the
world.
Just
share
it
with
her.
Help
her
realize
her
own.
We
talked
about
this
before.
Help
her
with
research
or
planning
work
that
she
has
to
do.
Help
her
write
emails
to
co-‐
workers.
Strategize
the
business
plan
of
her
life.
Just
don't
become
her
sugar
daddy.
That's
the
key
point.
Guide
her,
give
her
mentorship,
give
her
feedback,
give
her
encouragement.
Help
her
realize
her
vision.
The
question
is
how
do
the
two
of
you
see
the
world
together?
That's
what
is
going
to
evolve
in
this
phase
as
well.
A
lot
of
the
dates
and
activities
in
this
phase
are
about
you
opening
up
to
her
and
showing
her
that
you
share
the
same
experience
of
the
world
as
her.
When
you
guys
walk
down
the
street,
do
you
see
the
sunset
in
the
same
way?
Do
you
guys
enjoy
the
hustle-‐bustle
of
Manhattan
or
does
it
drive
the
both
of
you
nuts?
Do
you
guys
both
love
to
dance
to
Coldplay
songs
or
are
you
just
more
of
a
chill
guy?
How
do
the
two
of
you
see
the
world
together?
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One
of
the
things
I
talk
about
is
I
have
these/
big
DJ
earphones
and
I've
got
a
couple
pairs
of
them.
What
I
use
to
love
was-‐
I
still
love
doing
this-‐
is
putting
those
on
and
smoking
a
little
weed
and
just
listening
to
some
really
great,
awesome,
amazing
music.
It's
having
it
surround
me.
That's
a
sort
of
experience
that
we
might
have
in
a
date
in
this
period.
She
comes
over
for
dinner,
just
gets
stoned
and
listen
to
amazing
music
in
incredible
earphones
and
just
experience
that
sensual
element
of
the
world
together.
This
is
a
phase
where
you're
looking
for
romance
in
everything
you
do.
In
the
walks
that
you
take
together,
and
eating
chocolate
together
and
cooking
together.
It's
all
about
picking
very
simple,
sensual
things
for
the
two
of
you
to
explore
together
and
make
it
about
the
two
of
you,
not
the
thing
that
you're
doing.
That's
what
this
phase
is
all
about.
What
are
some
dates
where
you
can
do
that?
There's
going
to
be
some
others
in
there
too.
Going
to
the
beach
or
the
park,
that's
an
obvious
one.
What
I
call
boy
school-‐
taking
her
to
school
on
something
that
you're
really
good
at
that
boys
do.
Maybe
teaching
her
how
to
skateboard
or
teaching
her
how
to
play
drums,
taking
her
rock
climbing.
Something
that's
a
little
boyish
in
activities.
Seeing
how
she
keeps
up.
If
she's
athletic,
she
might
just
kick
your
ass.
Doing
cool,
weird
combinations
of
things
like
a
date
where
you're
like,
okay
we're
going
to
get
champagne
and
we're
going
to
get
mac
and
cheese.
It's
going
to
be
like
amazing
champagne
and
just
cook
some
mac
and
cheese,
and
see
how
it
goes
together.
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For
some
reason
those
two
go
together
very
well
and
you
can
combine
that
with
a
boy
date.
Champagne,
mac
and
cheese,
and
we'll
go
get
drum
lessons
together.
I
remember
my
sister
went
on
a
date
where
a
guy
took
her
for
drum
lessons
and
she
wouldn't
stop
talking
about
how
amazing
it
was.
You
can
do
a
wine
and
chocolate
tour
of
the
city.
Find
three
chocolate
bars
and
hey
we're
going
to
go
from
bar
to
bar
to
bar
and
sample
the
city's
chocolates.
Same
thing
with
wine.
You
go
to
social
events
together.
We
already
talked
about
the
girlfriend
experience,
the
social
date.
Go
to
social
events
together.
Go
to
classes
together
if
you
feel
so
inclined
in
this
phase.
"Hey
listen.
I
know
we've
only
been
dating
for
a
week
or
two,
but
I'm
about
to
start
taking
this
cooking
class.
If
you
want
to
join
me
for
a
session,
I'd
love
to
have
you."
Going
to
concerts
and
sporting
events
together.
If
you
love
going
to
see
live
music
or
you
like
to
go
see
sports,
this
is
a
great
opportunity.
Also
playing
sports
together.
If
she's
athletic,
if
you're
athletic,
get
her
to
play
sports
with
you.
You
also
want
to
pepper
this
phase
with
little
surprises.
Maybe
you'll
show
up
after
the
second
or
third
time
you've
had
sex
with
her
and
you'll
arrive
with
some
flowers.
A
lot
of
guys,
they
show
up
with
flowers
before
a
date.
Kind
of
gets
the
process
inverted
right?
After
you've
been
dating
a
little
bit,
show
up
with
flowers,
just
to
surprise
her.
Show
her
what
she
means
to
you.
A
book
or
a
movie
with
personal
meaning.
There's
a
book
that
has
a
lot
of
personal
meaning
to
me.
It's
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called
This
Is
Water
by
David
Foster
Wallace.
I
don't
know
if
you
all
have
read
it.
I
happen
to
make
that
a
gift
for
a
certain
special
person
in
my
life
with
a
little
note
that
was
inscribed
in
it,
saying
this
book
meant
a
lot
to
me,
I
hope
you
enjoy
it
as
well.
You
can
send
a
get
well
soon
kit
if
the
girl
is
sick.
I've
done
this
in
the
past
where
you-‐
in
New
York
it's
very
easy.
You
can
just
send-‐
go
onto
seamless.com
and
have
some
chicken
noodle
soup
sent
to
her
house.
You
can
have
a
friend
show
up
or
you
can
just
leave
it
at
the
front
door
and
ding
dong
ditch
it.
Some
chicken
noodle
soup,
a
DVD
and
a
pack
of
Emergen-‐C
or-‐
what's
the
other
stuff?
Airborne?
Some
Airborne,
a
DVD
and
chicken
noodle
soup.
That's
a
get
well
soon
kit.
If
you
travel
a
lot,
sending
her
a
post
card
or
grabbing
a
little
trinket
from
where
you
are.
Maybe
it's
just
something
as
stupid
as-‐
you
don't
live
in
New
York,
but
you
came
to
New
York
and
you
just
get
a
stupid
key
chain.
It
doesn't
really
mean
anything
in
a
grand
sense,
it
was
made
for
a
cent
or
a
penny
or
two
in
some
manufacturing
plant
in
Lord
knows
where,
but
to
her
it
has
meaning
because
you
were
thinking
of
her
when
you
were
gone.
Sending
creative
MMS
pictures.
We
were
out
yesterday
at
this
restaurant
and
the
tablecloths
were
paper
and
there
were
crayons.
What
you
could
do
in
that
situation
is
just
grab
the
crayon
and
draw
on
it,
thinking
of
you.
You
could
do
that
in
the
sand
if
you
find
yourself
on
a
beach,
thinking
of
you,
on
the
beach
somewhere.
Maybe
you
could
arrange
some
rocks
to
say
it.
Whatever
the
case.
Creative
MMSs.
Leaving
little
notes
in
her
purse.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTIMACY
Never
do
that.
Leaving
little
notes
in
her
purse.
Great
to
be
with
you
last
night.
Have
an
amazing
day,
you're
adorable.
Sweet
little
thoughts.
Two
others
that
are
kind
of
funny.
I'm
normally
not
one
to
suggest
that
you
pirate
movies,
but
in
this
case,
if
you
own
the
rights
to
the
movie
then
I
encourage
you
to
do
it.
Pirate
a
movie
off
of
Pirate
Bay
or
one
of
these
sites
and-‐
in
my
case
it
was
Life
is
Beautiful,
I
think,
I
can't
remember.
You
can
edit
the
closed
captions
in
these
movies.
The
closed
captions
are
these
text
files.
When
you
download
the
movie
off
the
internet,
you
get
all
these
files.
There'll
be
one-‐
you'll
figure
it
out
just
by
looking
through
it,
it's
like
a
closed
caption
file.
If
you're
on
a
Mac,
you
open
it
with
Text
Edit,
if
you're
on
a
PC,
you
open
it
with
whatever
text
editor
there
is
on
there.
You'll
just
see
the
way
that
the
closed
caption
file
is
set
up,
is
there's
a
little
time
stamp
next
to
every
word
that's
said.
It's
very,
very
easy.
Just
open
this
up
with
a
text
editor
and
change
the
closed
caption
to
read
something
like-‐
if
we're
using
Alicia's
name-‐
Alicia
is
so
cute.
Oh
my
gosh.
Alicia's
so
adorable.
This
works
especially
well
if
it's
a
foreign
film
because
she's
going
to
have
to
be
paying
attention
to
the
words
on
the
screen.
That's
why
I
like
Life
Is
Beautiful.
You
add
the
closed
captioning
and
she's
just
watching
it.
First
it's
saying
one
thing
and
then
all
of
a
sudden,
it's
her
name.
You
do
it
enough
times
through
the
closed
caption,
maybe
four
or
five
lines,
she's
like,
"What
just
happened
there?"
"I
might
have
edited
that
for
you."
Very
cute.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTIMACY
Finally
if
you
know
a
thing
or
two
about
making
a
website,
you
could
make
a
website
for
a
girl.
The
cute
way
to
do
this
is
just
buy
the
domain.
If
we
were
using
Alicia
once
again,
we'd
say,
aliciaisreallycute.com.
You
can
get
that
for
ten
bucks.
You
can
get
an
image
editor,
go
on
Photoshop,
whatever,
and
just
take
a
random
picture
of
her
and
add
a
logo.
See
look
how
cute
she
is.
Pop
that
up
on
the
website.
If
you
had
some
web
programming
experience,
it's
a
lot
easier,
but
this
is
something
that's
...
It
got
a
pretty
good
response.
You
can
make
a
website
for
a
girl.
Becoming
official.
You're
doing
all
these
little
fun,
cute,
surprises.
How
do
you
actually
become
official?
You've
been
dating
for
two,
three,
four,
five,
six
weeks.
Certain
stuff
is
going
to
start
to
happen
along
this
process.
You're
going
to
be
out
together,
you're
going
to
take
photos
together,
you're
going
to
start
tagging
each
other
in
Facebook
photos.
You're
going
to
have
conversations
about
each
other's
family
members
and
those
will
be
more
prominent.
Every
now
and
then,
they'll
be
on
the
phone
and
all
of
a
sudden
you
have
a
conversation
with
their
family
member.
"Hey
it's
my
mom.
She
wants
to
say
hi
to
you."
You
start
to
have
conversations
with
the
family
members.
Then
there's
the
talk.
How
do
you
have
the
talk?
What
is
the
talk?
How
do
you
define
that
you
guys
are
official?
The
talk
is
usually
something
you
should
happen
casually.
It
should
happen
over
lunch,
or
in
bed,
or
over
brunch
after
you've
woken
up
with
her
the
next
morning.
Not
something
to
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTIMACY
take
her
out
to
dinner
and
propose
the
talk
to
her.
Something
kind
of
casual.
You
have
the
talk.
What
does
the
talk
go
like?
"Listen,
I
just
want
to
let
you
know,
I
generally
don't
like
to
put
labels
on
things,
but
I
just
love
spending
time
with
you.
I
don't
know
what's
going
on
in
your
life,
but
I
haven't
been
dating
anybody
else
for
awhile.
I
didn't
realize
this,
but
I
guess
I've
become
kind
of
exclusive
with
you."
She'll
be
mirroring
what
your
thoughts
are.
She
might
say,
"I
haven't
done
the
same
for
you."
She
probably
won't.
She'll
probably
like,
"Yeah.
I'm
the
same
situation."
"I
don't
know
what
that
makes
us
right
now.
I
don't
know
if
it
makes
us
boyfriend
girlfriend.
I
don't
know."
She'll
be
like,
"Yeah
it
kind
of
does."
Cool.
Guess
we're
boyfriend
girlfriend
now.
It's
more
of
a
casual
thing.
It's
not
like,
hey
what
are
we?
You're
leading
your
way
into
it
just
by
opening
the
door.
I
haven't
been
dating
anybody
else.
I've
been
exclusive
with
you
for
awhile
now.
I
don't
know
what
that
makes
us.
I
don't
like
labels
but
...
That's
it.
That's
the
talk.
Once
you
had
the
talk,
you
can
introduce
others
to
her
as
your
girlfriend.
Say,
"Hey
this
is
my
girlfriend."
One
final
point
is
don't
ever,
ever,
ever
change
your
Facebook
status
unless
you
have
to,
unless
she
just
makes
you.
Until
you
get
married,
don't
change
your
Facebook
status
to
In
a
Relationship.
It
just
gets
messy.
That's
a
minor
point.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM INTIMACY
That's
how
you
go
from
dating
to
official.
Intimacy-‐
again
that's
a
very
short
section-‐
that's
really
it.
A
big
part
of
intimacy
is
just
you
not
messing
up
and
her
not
being
crazy.
Don’t
fuck
up,
don't
over
text,
don't
over
call
her,
but
don't
be
too
cool.
Don’t
give
her
too
much
space.
Don't
over
text,
don't
under
text.
Just
be
cool
and
her
not
being
crazy.
Her
investment
in
you
will
increase
considerably
if
you
do
have
some
boundaries,
if
you
do
thoughtful
things
for
her,
if
you
give
her
space
to
miss
you,
and
if
you
show
her
love
when
you
two
are
together.
This
is
all
about
having
fun
together,
finding
sensual
experiences
together
and
creating
a
canvas
upon
which
the
two
of
you
may
fall
in
love.
That
is
intimacy.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM CONCLUSION
Gentlemen,
it's
been
a
long
weekend
and
this
brings
our
course
to
a
conclusion.
What
about
in
love
that's
a
last
phase
of
the
obsession
story?
That's
not
really
the
subject
of
this
course,
that's
a
subject
of
another
course
that
I
may
or
may
not
make.
The
one
thing
I
would
say
is
that
the
man
you
are
in
a
relationship
is
never
the
same
as
you
are
as
a
man
before
you
started
that
relationship.
As
Alex
discussed
yesterday,
relationships
are
a
beautiful
crucible
in
which
we
can
grow.
I've
messed
up
so
many
relationships
from
immaturity,
stupidity,
insecurity.
I
don't
want
that
for
you
and
it's
all
about
entering
the
relationship
as
a
whole
men.
If
you
do
follow
the
process
that
I've
laid
out
for
you,
I'm
pretty
sure
you'll
get
a
girlfriend.
This
is
pretty
comprehensive.
You
become
an
awesome
guy,
you
follow
the
process,
pretty
good
chance
you'll
end
up
with
a
girlfriend.
I
would
like
to
say
100%,
I'd
like
to
say
I
guarantee
it.
Maybe
you
got
a
little
bit
of
crazy
to
work
out
of
you.
Maybe
the
girl
you
want
is
crazy,
but
it's
pretty
likely.
I
really
hope
that
...
For
those
of
you
in
this
room,
obviously
we'll
continue
to
have
relationships
outside
of
this
room.
For
those
of
you
at
home,
I
hope
that
I'll
have
a
chance
to
meet
you
one
day
and
you'll
continue
to
train
from
me.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM CONCLUSION
As
you've
heard
me
mention,
I
have
a
course
called
the
Ten
Code
where
I
build
upon
all
of
the
personality
traits
that
I
mentioned
here
and
just
try
to
help
a
guy
become
the
best
version
of
himself
he
can
be,
totally
maxed
out.
Similarly,
one
other
thing
to
mention
for
the
guys
at
home
is
if
you
feel
like
you
want
to
like
really
kick
this
into
high
gear,
then
come
in
for
coaching.
You've
seen
Nick.
You
know
how
much
I
respect
him.
You
know
how
amazing
he
is.
We'd
love
to
get
you
in
here
and
have
you
have
a
chance
to
work
with
him.
It's
going
to
improve
your
game
so,
so,
so
quickly.
We've
learned
so
much
here,
but
I'm
sure
that
there
are
many
questions
that
we
all
still
have
about
where
do
we
go
from
here,
what's
the
next
phase
of
development,
what's
the
next
phase
of
life.
You
could
take
everything
that
we
learn
here
and
I
feel
like
it's
totally
complete
program,
but
there's
still
so
much
more
that
I
feel
like
I
have
to
share
with
everybody.
That's
in
the
rest
of
the
stuff
that
we
teach.
Final
closing
thoughts:
I
would
love
to
be
able
to
just
read
these
off
the
screen
and
have
them
be
magical
or
memorize
them
and
have
them
be
magical,
but
I'm
just
going
to
read
them
off
the
screen
for
everybody
here.
Women
are
mirror
that
reflects
on
to
us
the
best
and
the
worst
of
ourselves.
They
can
bring
out
the
best
of
us
and
they
can
bring
out
the
worst
of
us.
We
can
find
the
jealousy,
the
hatred,
the
anger,
the
self
doubt.
We
can
also
find
the
joy,
the
passion,
the
love
and
the
ability
to
help
other
people
grow
by
having
relationships
with
women.
THE GIRLFRIEND ACTIVATION SYSTEM CONCLUSION
I
would
say
that
becoming
obsession-‐worthy
man
which
is
where
we
started
this
is
about
much
more
than
her.
It's
about
being
a
little
bit
selfish,
by
giving
yourself
the
gift
of
the
best
life
that
you
can
live,
as
the
best
that
you
can
be.
That's
truly
the
mission
that
we
have
for
everybody
here.
If
your
day
to
day
reality
is
to
be
the
guy
who
we
described
at
the
beginning
of
this
course,
the
awesome
guy
that
we
want
every
man
to
be,
then
you
will
find
love
and
you
will
find
yourself
reflected
in
the
eyes
of
an
absolutely
amazing
woman.
You
look
in
her
eyes,
that's
what
you
will
feel.
You
just
feel
the
elation
of
having
found
yourself.
That's
my
hope
for
you
and
that's
what
I
hope
that
I'm
able
to
give
you
just
a
little
bit
with
this
course
and
if
you
have
success
from
it,
I'd
love
to
hear
about
it
and
for
those
of
you
in
the
room,
again,
thank
you
so
much
for
joining
me
here
today
and
that's
all
we
got
from
now
gentleman.
Thanks
again.