Is There A Reason For Everything?

The other day, I casually asked my mother which is her favourite colour.
“Blue” was the instant reply. When asked why she likes that particular
colour she said ‘I just love that, that’s it’

Is there a reason for everything? Is there always a reason for what you like
or love? Or you love it because ‘you just love it’ and likewise with
something you do not like, rather hate!

I love the colour ‘white’! Just love that color! Ask me the reason and I, like
my mom, am searching for words! There is no reason that can explain why I
‘just love that colour’. There is something in the colour or rather lack of
colour in ‘White’ that I find attractive! Some love the vastness of ‘Blue’ and
some love the absorbing ‘Black’. I love soft music as I find it soothing;
some friends of mine find pop music relaxing. Some of my friends find
birds eye-catching whereas I adore flowers. We all have our likes and
dislikes. And many times have no reasons to explain!

There is certain magnetism in the things we see or hear that takes us closer
to them. Colours, the music, people etc are probably unaware that we have
taken a fondness for them. The attraction or repulsion to anything is
primarily a ‘feeling’ and feeling itself is an instant reaction. It does not have
an intellect of its own. The mind is not at play. Logic is distant. The cause
of such a feeling is a certain vibration emanating from that particular person
or thing which draws us to it or asks us to do otherwise. Take the colour
white, I love that colour. White like each other colour emits a vibration
which draws my feeling towards it.

I always, wonder why an infant is comfortable in the arms of some and is

revolting towards others. It is even more surprising that it just connects with
some, even with strangers, at the first sight. I attribute it to some compatible
vibration. The child at that age is innocent and hence does not feel the need
to read a person.

We come across many individuals in our day-to-day lives, many of whom

we meet or see for the first time. Of these are certain people who draw us
towards them instantly, and others who we prefer to ignore or look the other
way. There are some whom we just cannot withstand. All these responses
are immediate. Many a time we have neither interacted with the concerned
person nor observed him in detail to form an opinion but a subtle feeling
about him is created because of which we are either attracted to or repulsed
from him. I believe that if done without any ulterior motive the first such
response is the right response.

Motives influence the mind which sequentially masks or guides

feeling/emotion. Many times we err in reading a person. ‘Reading’ is the
keyword here. Reading is a faculty of the mind. We, on most occasions,
confuse ‘reading’ with ‘feeling’.

When we read a person or thing and form an opinion it would be based on

observation, hearsay and interpretation of events. In all these, the resultant
inference would be subjective and variable. There would be certain criteria
or expectations to which the person or thing would have to qualify for a
favourable judgment. Friends turn foes and vice versa. These are all games
of the mind. Our readings change due to training of the mind over a period
of time, with experiences. Our reading remains constant when our
expectations are met. Thus reading a person is done with a motive and there
are certain subtle expectations. We are disappointed in any other scenario.
Reading is therefore a conditional thought process.

‘Feeling’ on the other hand is entirely unconditional. There is intense love

for a person or thing. One just likes it. No questions asked. There are no
expectations hence no disappointments. I love the colour white, the
rainbow, flowers etc unconditionally. It does not necessarily mean that
white is attracted to me or the rainbow likes what I look like. It is
unconditional when you forget yourself and the mind and intellect are at rest.
Your response is ‘Ah’! You are speechless! Feelings cannot be expressed in
words. The pleasure in the sweetness of sugar or honey is individual. There
is no scientific measure or scale for it. It is exactly the same with love for
anyone or anything. One experiences an emotional connect. Feelings unlike
Readings are never a burden on your memory.

I have always believed that Feelings are more like your inner voice whereas
Readings are mind at work.