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Ryan Lee
Writing 39C
18 November 2019
FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) is anxiety resulting from people worrying that they are
missing out on social activities that their peers engage in. This anxiety causes people to compare
their social lives to those of others, often resulting in perceived social inadequacy due to the
negative thoughts a person develops about themself. FOMO1 is a widespread issue that continues
to become more problematic as social media's influence expands. However, it is a tricky problem
to regulate, as legislation does not directly address such new issues as FOMO at a pace fast
difficult to determine whether legislation is truly effective in their methods of limiting social
media use, as numerous loopholes in mediating media use exist, such as the use of different
accounts, devices, etc. Therefore, this paper will not focus on the legislative abilities of
Studies in parental mediation of adolescent's feelings of FOMO have shown that families
who communicate with adolescents reduce the severity of FOMO they feel. However, it should
be noted that even in communicative families, feelings of FOMO were high in adolescents who
engaged in excessive social media usage, which reduced the time spent with family (Lindsay
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For more context on FOMO's influence and symptoms, verywell mind's article, "What Does
FOMO Mean and How Do I Deal With It?" briefly summarizes the issue.
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Favotto, Valerie Michaelson, William Pickett, Colleen Davidson 9). This study proves that
parental communication can mediate FOMO, however, it does indicate that media usage should
be restricted in order to effectively mediate the feelings of FOMO. With this in mind, it is clear
that parents should not only act as a support resource for their teenagers experiencing FOMO,
but should limit the amount of time spent on social media platforms. The teenagers who
excessively use social media likely crave feelings of social interactivity, which they supplement
with social media use. However this would exacerbate their already negative feelings and could
culminate into symptoms of FOMO. Because adolescents are prone to FOMO, parents serve as a
crucial form of support to help get their kids through emotionally testing times. While helping
them through hard times, they also would limit social media usage, a step towards reducing
feelings of FOMO that adolescents often have trouble taking on their own.
Parental mediation is arguably the best way to reduce instances of FOMO, however it has
its flaws. Some parents are too busy to effectively monitor their teenagers' social media usage,
therefore the solution cannot become a standard for every person experiencing FOMO.
Additionally, busy parents may struggle to keep up with the many new updates and forms of
social media, which further complicates the ability for parents to effectively help their teens.
However, the biggest issue in parental mediation is its lack of standardization. Some parents may
be strict on the issue, while others may take a lenient and ineffective approach to the problem.
Similarly, issues of parents being literate in media and understanding the complexities of it are
factors that can hinder parental abilities. It is difficult to even find statistics on the number of
media literate parents, further illustrating how complex media can become, and the difficulties of
However, despite the inherent flaws of parental mediation, it has the greatest potential of
any method to be the most effective at mediating FOMO. Parents know their children best, and
generally have a good idea of what would work best in terms of achieving their goal of reducing
FOMO allowing them to customize their approach to best suit the individual differences of each
child. Different approaches towards handling an adolescent's experience with FOMO stem from
a parent's bond with their child, and the level of involvement they play in their childrens' lives.
The ability of parents to cater their parenting style to their child depending on personality,
temperament, and many other factors is what not only strengthens a bond, but allows their
parental authority to be more effective (Haim Omer, Sarit Steinmetz, Tal Carthy, Arist Von
Schlippe 10-11). From this study, it is clear that the ability for parents to customize their
approach to parenting is crucial to developing a bond with their children that will allow them to
better understand their child and address the issue of limiting social media usage in a way that
best suits the child's individual tendencies. The individual attention that parents can give to their
kids cannot be matched by that of any legislation. Parents know how to react to their kids, they
know what methods would work best in limiting social media usage, and have a good
understanding of the ways their kids may react to FOMO, or the likelihood of further
complications arising.
Given the great potential of parental influence, naturally the question of how effective
their influence truly is will arise. Studies have shown that parents who can strike a balance
between maintaining a loving relationship and a sensible amount of control over their childrens'
lives have the best outcomes with their children, allowing them greater influence over their
children (Joan Grusec, Tanya Danyliuk, 1). This further strengthens the idea of parents taking an
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involved and carefully catered approach to addressing their childrens' issues. Parents who
actively seek to individualize their approach to moderating their children generally have effective
authority. Given this information, it is clear that the ability of parents to serve as the answer to
the issue of FOMO is not an end-all answer. It is simply the solution that has the most potential
Though parents are not a perfect solution to limiting their childrens' feelings of FOMO
through social media limitation and serving as a supportive figure, they are a viable solution that
far outperform legislative solutions that prove ineffective. Here, we examine an instance of
South Korea's government attempting to limit the media consumption that people under 16 years
old could have. The law, commonly referred to as the shutdown law, aims to lessen gaming
addiction by restricting children under 16 from playing online games after midnight (Jiyeon Lee,
1). However, the law has not only been contested as a violation of the rights of affected people,
but has proven to have many loopholes in terms of what the law aims to achieve. Most notably,
the law only applies to online games, having no influence over console games which do not
require an internet connection to play. Additionally, the law can be bypassed when teens make
an account and claim to be above the age limit. Though the issue discussed in this paper is
FOMO in relation to social media usage, this example has many similarities to it. This is an
illustration of what would likely happen if legislation attempted to restrict social media time for
adolescents. In summary, loopholes would essentially render the legislation ineffective and
immeasurable in terms of success, the law would be met with fierce opposition for violation of
human rights (moreso in America), and would fail to restrict every method in which social media
could be consumed. This example illustrates the limits of legislation; it can make laws in an
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attempt to solve a problem, but cannot address every way the rule could be bypassed, and would
likely be made far after the underlying issue has already become widespread and serious. This
strengthens my argument that despite the obvious limitations to parental intervention in their
childrens' feelings of FOMO, it is the current best solution to the issue in the face of ineffective
While legislation proves mostly ineffective, the issue continues to be further researched
and correlated to serious issues. Research has shown that social media activates the same
responses in the brain as other addictive activities, such as gambling, drawing a connection to
social media and addiction (Kelly McSweeney, 1). The connections to gambling and social
media usage may seem exaggerated, but their implications match exactly with the rise in
excessive social media use. This issue particularly applies to unhappy people who use social
media in an attempt to improve their mood. Because unhappy people generally crave immediate
gratification, they are prone to falling victim to the addictive nature of social media. Because
their brains receive feelings of happiness while using social media, they are likely to come back
to it, despite later feelings of increased FOMO. Given the scientific data proving that social
media is indeed addictive, this concern is further exacerbated by studies proving that adolescents
value risk over reward in making decisions. Research studies show that adolescents' prefrontal
cortex (area of the brain that exercises self-control and judgment) is less developed than that of
adults, making them prone to engaging in risky behavior that could result in perceived social
rewards. This paired along with the addicting nature proves how difficult it is for an adolescent
to stop using social media, and demonstrates the severity of the issue. It also points to why
parents are the current optimal solution to FOMO being so widespread, they have the ability to
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restrict how much social media adolescents use, and can serve as a supportive person to guide
them through emotional turmoil. Parents can also help teens consider the consequences of
excessive social media usage, something they are not generally scientifically predisposed to do.
Because they have the experience and ability to judge the situation from an experienced
perspective, parents can illustrate to their kids not only the fact that social media is an inaccurate
representation of the lives of others, but the consequences of believing this to be true that will
In conclusion, the issue of FOMO presents itself as a severe issue that has no easy
solution. Legislative action would likely either be too late or have loopholes that could easily be
bypassed by social media users. Given this, parents would be the best-but not perfect-solution.
They know what would work best in moderating their kids' social media consumption, they
know how they would react to such restrictions, and they can provide a level of individual
customization and care that legislative action simply cannot match. This solution would do more
than reduce FOMO through social media use, it would promote a culture of parental initiative in
childrens' lives and help strengthen bonds between parents and children. This change in
parenting culture could help parents take action against other issues faced by their children, such
as bullying, stress, etc. Though none of the additional perks of better parenting can be foreseen
with absolute certainty, what is certain is that parental initiative in the lives of their children will
undoubtedly lead to good things for both children and parents. Relationships will grow, parents
would become increasingly dedicated and proactive in their children's lives, and numerous
unforeseen benefits would arise. With a parenting culture promoting the growth of mentally
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healthy children, society as a whole would benefit from healthy people, who could not only
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