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3) Reconciliation- The abuser may start to feel remorse or quality, they fear
that their partner will leave or call the police (think Celeste & Perry from
Big Little Lies). The victim may feel pain and start to feel responsible.
This is characterized by apology, affection, or pretending like the
incident never happened. This marks the end of violence with the
“assurance” that the abuser will “change”. The abuser will try everything
to prevent the victim from leaving (most of the time the victim stays).
4) Calm- During this stage, the relationship is relatively calm. The abuser
may agree to go to counseling. Over time the apologies from the abuser
become less sincere and are stated to prevent separation. However,
interpersonal difficulties will arise leading to the tension building phase.
The effect of the cycle may include loss of love, distress, separation, or at
the extreme, someone may be killed.