SHAMSAN DILANGALEN

12-ARIES
The Effectiveness of Love in a Human Person
What is love?
According to the triangular theory of love developed by psychologist Robert
Sternberg, the three components of love are intimacy, passion, and commitment.
Intimacy encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and
bonded ness. Passion encompasses drives connected to both limerance and
sexual attraction.

It is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to
experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because
one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most
depressed people don't love themselves and they do not feel loved by others.
They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and
depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love.

There is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. As a result, the
depressed often sit around passively waiting for someone to love them. But love
doesn't work that way. To get love and keep love you have to go out and be
active and learn a variety of specific skills.

Most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that
love is something that sweeps us off our feet. But the pop-culture ideal of love
consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so
many of us are set up to be depressed. It's part of our national vulnerability, like
eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification. We think
it is love when it's simply distraction and infatuation.

One consequence is that when we hit real love we become upset and
disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal.
Some of us get demanding and controlling, wanting someone else to do what we
think our ideal of romance should be, without realizing our ideal is misplaced.
The different types of love

Maternal love is only one type of love that we experience in our lives. Psychologist
Robert Stemberg proposed that different types of love involve different amounts of
intimacy (trust, warmth and closeness), passion and commitment. In his
triangular theory of love, he outlined seven main types of love.

Friendship – warmth and closeness to another person (intimacy), but no intense

passion or long-term commitment

Infatuation – “love at first sight” (passion), but lack of intimacy and commitment
(infatuated love can disappear suddenly)

Romantic love – intimacy and passion exist, but not commitment

Companionate love – intimacy and commitment exist, but relationship lacks

passion

Fatuous love – commitment motivated primarily by passion, and lacks intimacy

Consummate love – the “ideal” relationship that involves all three elements
(intimacy, passion, and commitment)

Why is it so important to love and to be loved?

Love is the essence of life.

Love may be between parents and child, brother and sister, two friends, husband
and wife, girl friend and boy friend or any other form.

Without love everything is materialistic.

Love gives satisfaction, happiness, makes us feel special.

Love is an eternal bliss.

Love should not be followed by greed, jealousy, lust.

It was very well said

(When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it
daily).
It's so important to love because it gives us something to do , something to
hope for , something to believe in , something to invest in that makes life worth
living.

Also It's so important to be loved because you get to feel valued and
appreciated; you get to feel special which then makes you happy , it makes you
smile , it makes you optimistic, productive. It makes you be good to others , it
makes you love in return , it's exciting , it's rewarding , it's LIFE .

The positive effects of love

Love has been defined in various ways. From a deep feeling of affection, to the
embodiment of virtues that always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. And
for centuries, humans have found ways to celebrate the existence of love.
Now, with a better understanding of the biology and chemistry of love, science
has begun to recognize that there are health benefits as well. Helping our
patients understand the value and importance of maintain loving relationships
may help them to benefit from love's positive effects on mental health.

The negative effect of love

A person may lead to depression, jealousy, loneliness, and anger when it comes
to love Breaking up with one true love isn’t easy. But due to some reason if the
relationship fails people literally pave their way to self-destruction, by resolving to
addiction, force and even to the extent of committing suicides. Love is also
carrying a danger to a person. or we might say that entering into love is a danger
to a person. Most people today are willing to give up everything or we can say
that a person becomes weak when it comes to love. They are willing to give
everything for love but when they feel hurt in a person's impression and
sometimes they think that they have no space in the world and prefer to commit
suicide.

With the day of love around the corner, most people are worried about the issues
of the heart one should toss a side all worries and know this, that rest assured
Valentine’s day is one of the healthiest days of the year-despite the champagne
and chocolate. That is because the effect of love one the health of any person is
tremendous and has long terms benefits.
Love, or the feeling of love, releases a chemical which act as mood intensifier, so
people feel extremely positive and appreciated. Love leads to an increased ability
to cope with stress. Love helps you live longer. A significant effect of love health
is that it miraculously gives you longevity. When in love you have the someone
too look after yourself by maintaining a balanced healthy lifestyle. Married
couples are found to have lower rates of substance abuse, lower blood pressure
and less depression than their single friends.

Valentine’s Day can be stressful for all parties involved. Regardless of how long
you have been together, from young love to a well-burning flame, picking the
perfect date for February 14th is not easy. The Valentine’s day gift guide below
will help you plan a date and pick a gift based on the stage of your relationship

Valentine’s Day is generally regarded as a celebration for those in love.

However, romantic love is not the only kind of love and more and more people
use this opportunity to express their affection, regardless if it’s towards a friend or
a person they respect. Even though Valentine’s Day is not a bank holiday in any
country, it is celebrated worldwide with open expressions of love. It truly is a day
when love is all around.
Happiness is best achieved through living an ethical life. A good life is a happy
life. Good relations and taking responsibility not only make a happy life possible;
they are happiness itself.

But good people aren’t always happy. Why? Because goodness is an ideal
state; it something you aim at, a kind of moving target. Happiness may be
achieved but mostly it is occasional and fleeting. Conditions change and you aim
again. Even the best archer doesn’t always hit the bull’s-eye. External conditions
make it easier to achieve happiness. For example, an archer is more likely to hit
a target if she uses the best-made bow than if she used a poorly made bow. No
one, though, has everything that is needed—peaceful times, perfect health, a just
society, loving parents, caring teachers.

No one can be happy all the time. But you can approach happiness with a good
family, a good friend, a good government, good enough possessions, and
adequate health. The great archer with the inadequate bow will oust the
incompetent archer with the latest and best equipment.

I accept Goethe’s comment, "I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am
the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my
daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life
miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can
humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides
whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-
humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat
people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of
becoming."
 True happiness is the gentle pulling away from yourself by which you find
a better self that can prosper. Loving the right things and loving them in the right
way is the key. Ethical relationships make it more likely than not that as you look
back on your life you will be able to say, “I have lived a good life.”

Still, there is something about happiness that is independent of virtue. This

is the happiness that is found in the joy of existence, the delight in simply being.
This can be experienced either with others or in moments of solitude. Which form
it takes, I suppose, is a matter of temperament. Individual dispositions and
upbringing will lead people to find happiness in different ways. Some are, by
nature, social, others more solitary. I may find happiness in the company of
people while you may prefer a walk in the woods. You may enjoy the quiet of a
good book, or perhaps it is the conviviality of the dinner table you seek. Some
love cities, others the countryside.

But whichever way you find happiness, it is always accompanied by love,

for happiness is ultimately the love of life, the celebration of living. The mark of
happiness is that you are sensitive to the world around you, that you
acknowledge your dependence upon your surroundings and that you are filled
with loving-kindness.

You want to take care of that which you love, and you are solicitous
toward it. The person who finds happiness through love is the person who can be
trusted to bring happiness to others. This is the meaning behind Lao Tzu’s
aphorism, “The person who loves the world as his own body may be entrusted
with the empire.”