Myself as a Communicator – Part 3

        I see myself as a communicator in a certain way that may be biased based on rating

myself. That’s why for this assignment, I tried to ask other’s that would give me a clear outside

view of who I am as a communicator. I interviewed my boss Ester Peterson, my father-in-law

Dale Bauer, and my husband Jordan Nolan. I want to see how these opinions compare with my

own. I personally view myself as a shy communicator when first approached. The more I get to

know someone, the more I feel I can confide in them. I tried to pick others that would give me a

true take on my own opinion. I have not talked personally with my boss on any level and I hope

she will have a different view than the other interviewees that I have known for a long time.

Listening

My boss states that I am a great listener. They can tell be because I give feedback and

reaffirm frustrations of others. This causes them to feel heard and then change the conversation

on what they need help with. They state that I take what they are saying to deescalate the

situation to reach a common goal. She also thinks that I am very coachable and that by following

what she asks, I make the job go easier and calmly.

My father-in-law states that he is not sure if I am a good listen. He states that he doesn’t

try to communicate about anything to often. He does say that when I am asked to go do

something, I am good to remember to follow through with it. He says that there are not many

long conversations to consider. When instructions are considered, I am at hearing them.

My husband says that I can follow a conversation well. That I can remember even old

fights that we have had that he wishes I would forget. He says that I am actively involved with

listening.

Nonverbal Communication

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 My husband states that I have great non-verbal cues when communicating. He says that I

make determined eye contact and that I use my hands to make demonstrations. He says that I

give a lot of facial expressions, whether that’s because he made me mad or not. He says that I

love to laugh and smile when I’m happy. When I am super happy it is hard for me to hide the

smile on face.

My boss says that they don’t really notice nonverbal communication, unless I am super

excited about something. They said that the more excited I am the more that I move around.

They say that I also like to fidget when I am frustrated on a difficult phone call and that I rub my

eyes a lot.

My father-in-law says that he doesn’t notice much nonverbal behavior. He says that most

of the time I don’t make eye contact. Or that I focus on other things when speaking sometimes.

He says that I am easily distracted by movement around me.

Articulating Needs, Opinions, Views or Concerns

My boss states that I articulate my needs and concerns very well. I communicate about

what is expected at me work. I can bring up issues or concerns with time or schedules to make

sure that it does not affect my work performance.

My father-in-law states that I talk too much “baby” talk when I am happy and can be

annoying to talk to. He states that concerns have never really been something that I have

addressed. He states that my concerns tend to not be heard because I am too loud.

My husband says that I express my needs and opinion very loudly and eagerly. He says

that I express them verbally. He says that I express them with a great deal of emotion that gets

my point across.

Communication Weaknesses

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 My boss says that I stutter sometimes when I am frustrated or over struggling to find a

way to explain things a different way. She says that most of the time I don’t seem to have any

drastic noticeable weaknesses.

My husband says that I can never decide, like where we should go to eat. He says that I

need to be able to express my needs more directly. He says that when I am too eager my patience

runs out and I can put a barrier up when communicating.

My father-in-law says that I need to pay attention more and seem interested in the

subject. He says that I do listen. There just is no much concern or caring when speaking with

him.

Communication Strengths

My husband says that I am great at explain how things need to be done. He says that I am

a great communicator at telling him that I love him. He says that I am very outgoing about

communicating about certain matters.

My boss says that I am very articulate when I speak. I can be clearly understood and

professional. She says that I am fluent, considerate, and calm around others.

My father-in law says that my strength in communication how loud I can be. He says that

I can make sure that I am heard when needed even if it’s across the room or speaking with

someone who is deaf.

Having a Conversation With Me

My husband says that it depends on the situation. He says that that if I am interested, I’m

delightful. He says that sometimes having a conversation with me can be very tough because I

am very opinionated. He says that I have a certain way that I want things done according to my

standards.

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 My boss says that I can be very private. I like to keep the conversation professional. She

says that I am a reliable communicator and that the conversation can be very enjoyable.

My father-in-law says that we don’t have too many conversations with one another and

that I tend to just keep to myself most of the time. He says that I tend to avoid people by going

down to my room.

Summary

I really enjoyed this assignment. It helped solidify that I am self-aware of when I want to

have a conversation and when I don’t. If I don’t feel like talking, I will separate myself from

others so I can have my piece and quiet, which is most of the time around my father-in-law. I

feel like however, depending on the day, people’s opinions change to fit how they feel that day

or if they are frustrated with you or who you are associated with.

When I am happy and excited, I can be a very entertaining person to talk to. When I am

upset, I will close myself off and not want to communicate much I can be cold. I try to control

my emotions at least at work so that way they are private. I need to try to control some emotions

that I have around others. I also which I have considered asking a teacher to respond to this. I

feel like I am a great comprehensive and critical listener.