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a Father
By: Doug Turney -Nugrohojati
Fathers have great power to shape the emo- First and foremost, he taught me about hard
tional, psychological and spiritual health of their chil- work. Before retiring, he used to teach at elementary
dren. A recent Reader's Digest article called "Life schools. With a family consisting of seven children and a
without Father" shared some informing words on the housewife, you can imagine how hard his life could be.
lasting influence of a father on the lives of his chil- Nonetheless, he could successfully raise all of his
dren. The article explained, "In the early years more children. I recall very well these bitter but sweet memories
than two-thirds of all children prefer to play with their during 1987-1990, when he must fund all of his seven
fathers. Playing with a father is very important in
children’s school fees at the same time. Simply put, he
teaching children the importance of self-control. . .
Children who roughhouse with their fathers quickly managed to send each of us to school until all of us
learn that biting, kicking and other forms of physical graduated from university.
violence are not acceptable. . . Several studies have Another inspiration for me is that my father is a
found that a father's presence is one of the deter-
living proof of a person who achieved his life goals
miners of girls' proficiency in mathematics. An aston-
ishing 26-year study found that the most important through what so-called “the biggest investment is
childhood factor in developing empathy was the fa- education”. Born in a poor family, he was abandoned by
ther's involvement in child care!" his parents, who never thought that it was important to
Are you surprised that a father has such a give their children a chance to go to school. My father, at
powerful influence? God's Word has told us of a fa- a very young age, gradually learned that the only way to
ther's powerful influence long before our modern get out of poverty is to have a good education. He then
sociological psychological studies. "Sons are a herit- worked as a shepherd in order to collect money to fund
age from the LORD, children a reward from him. his education. Sometimes he also made Javanese
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born
puppets and cricket cages to get more earnings. With his
in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is
perseverance, he then graduated from a teacher’s
full of them. . . " (Psalm 127:4-5, NIV).
The Lord has given fathers the power to college. Holding a teaching certificate made him able to
make a tremendous impact on their children. Fa- educate other people—some probably had a similar
thers can use their powerful influence to either build difficult situation like his own. Looking back upon his life
or destroy their child's life. So dads, are you merely experience, it motivated me to always do my best.
putting food on the table or are you participating in
Last but not least, despite his firmness, he is
the shaping of your child's life?
actually very kind. To tell you the truth, sometimes we can
get into a lot of arguments. However, it doesn’t mean that
those disagreements are not constructive.What I admire
the most from him is his honesty, rationalism, and
gentleness.
Source: WikiHow.com
Source: WikiHow.com