Where do women stand?

A perspective based on women’s journey up

till 2020!
Since the beginning of the time, women have had to raise their voice for the rights that they
already deserve as a normal human being. And, this journey has not been easy so far. It is sad to
think that women had to start this journey for the sake of personal freedom as the feminine
gender was badly oppressed.

Fast forward to today, we live in more understanding society, at least in some places, in
comparison to history. However, we still cannot say that women have equal opportunities in
today’s world. Our society still needs to change a lot to maintain the diversity!

We still continually have to prove ourselves to be equal to men. Whereas, the truth is, if we look
at all aspects of life, women are far more than equal. But unlike in an ideal world, all women do
not get the chance to fight for their ego because they have to fight for their identity first.
Right from the childhood, from helping her mother in household work or being mindful about making
too many demands for toys from her father to starting to earn for the family while also catering to the
household chores, a woman’s motto is simple- to see her own people happy! And, even after all that,
women are still tagged as burden.

We live in a society where a woman never really has her own identity. When she is unmarried, her
identity is her family or father’s surname and when she gets married, she is known by her husband’s
surname no matter how hard she has worked to build up her identity. After all, it is all in the name!
Then, once she is married and she decides to or is made to not take up a job and cater to the caretaking
role instead, she is called as just a housewife as if it does not amount to anything! Let me ask you, can
any human being fill their stomach with money? A housewife is the one who uses that money to make
you food, to give a comfortable/ clean house to live in after a hard day at work. She does as much work
without getting paid or being smug about it. So, everyone needs to stop calling housewives ‘Just a
Housewife’. She is your homemaker!

Women leave their old lives, their parents, and everything behind when they get married, and they take
up the new responsibilities with a big smile on face. It is not easy to do that, but women do. That’s how
strong women are! And, this is just one example, just a tip of the iceberg. However, still if someone is
seen crying, our society uses the slang, ‘Oh! Don’t cry like a woman!’ Do you see the oppression tactic
here?
In other areas too, the hypocrisy is apparent. For example, if a girl does well in her academics, then
it is said that she may be one of the gems have good memorizing skills, but if for any reason she
doesn’t perform as well, then it is obviously because she is a girl. The same way, if a woman is
promoted in her workplace, then it is not said that it’s because of her talent; people start implying
that she is getting “special privileges”. And, if she struggles to perform well, then it’s declared that
she just can’t handle the responsibility. If she is outspoken about her rights, then she is arrogant
and dominating. And, if she is shy and doesn’t speak much, then she has an attitude problem.

Many women and men are still taking the initiative to bring the change and make a bias free
society. Bu then again, our society is so deeply flawed that some women have also succumbed to and
agreed to those demoralizing stereotypes. In many families, it is a sad occasion if a girl is born
instead of a boy because that means no one would be able to carry forward the family name. It is
sad to think that some women also back such nonsense.
Women have taken up so many roles today; many world leaders, today, are women. Women have proven
themselves in every forum in life be it media, corporate office, business, politics, playground, family, science,
or creativity. Then, why do we still think that a woman can’t manage something as well as a man? We have
so many examples of women taking care of their houses as well as office at the same time, and that too
more systematically.

We still have to prove that we just as good as men, when in reality, if women do get a chance, they prove
that they have the ability to be an extraordinary. We have to fight every day to stand shoulder to shoulder
with a man because society thinks that the feminine gender is below the masculine gender. For equality to
be a reality, this notion has to end. Everybody needs to start seeing everybody as a human being and not
deem them worthy or unworthy on the basis of gender. That is the only key to diversity. But we are still a
long way behind for this potential zero bias normalization to become a reality.
So, on this special day, we, women, would love to express our regards to all the sensible men who know and
understand the real meaning of equality, and show that in their actions.
–We thank all the fathers who allowed their little girls to chase their dreams without any restriction.

-We thank all the brothers who allowed their sisters to feel comfortable in their dressing sense or lifestyle.

-We thank all the husbands who take care of their babies & families to support their wives’ ambitions.

-We thank all the male friends & colleagues who didn’t let their female colleagues as being anything less from
them.

-We thank everyone who understands that women should not be begging for equality, and that it’s their right
to be equal!
And lastly, I would just like to remind all my fellow girls and women that you are God’s one of the most
beautiful creations. It is high time that you stop seeing yourself from society’s flawed perspective and being
bothered by what people think; start understanding and being proud of your own worth!

Happy International Women’s Day!

Written By
@Bedagrani