Brittney Aguero Reyes

Mrs. Tubbs

Composition I

25 February 2020
Pleasing the World

A common regret of people on their deathbed is they wish they would have lived a life

true to themselves instead of one for others. Most people are likely to follow a path in life

thinking that it is for themselves when they are just living for the approval and good opinion

from their parents or a family member. People use some ways to seek “validation” like money,

power, fame, and family expectations just to garner recognition of other individuals. However, I

have learned that life is not about pleasing everybody at the expense of my happiness. 

Life is too short to live it for someone else and not living it for myself. Life is difficult

when my family does not accept the life, I want to achieve but doing so is what I must do if I

want to be happy. I should not care about what others want for me because at the end of the day

it is my life and I deserve to live it however I want it. If I try to align happiness with the pleasing

of others, I will not find a way to make it work. Aligning my priorities should be the motivation I

need based on the best reflection of who I am as a person instead of having a hole in my path

filled with expectations of my family and their opinions. 

It is okay when people do not understand my choices. My family usually gets offended or

feels resentful and prefer not to intervene in my choices. I feel like it is a relief when people stay

away from my life, it is like I am breathing again. When I choose to follow my heart, I am

automatically displeasing my family, and I feel that is totally fine.

I learned so many things from my English classes back in high school specially with two

teachers. I can say that I’m so grateful to those teachers thanks to them I would not be able to be

where I am today or the person I became today. They helped me with my anxiety problems
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which it come from my fear of doing a presentation in front of a large group of people, but they

help me out and helped me gain confidence on myself. They were always helping me out even

with my writing by encourage me, giving me more help than the other students because they said

that if I really trust myself and push myself a little harder, I could be a good writer. They taught

me that sometimes is okay to get out of my comfort zone, say what is on my mind or to do not be

afraid of speaking, and that never please anyone at the cost of my happiness. It did not ever occur

to me because I never done any of those things and I would always be afraid of trying those new

things.

I need to learn how to live my life regardless of what the world desires for me. I must

accept the world for what it is: equal, unrepressed, positive, and optimistic.  I cannot have these

kinds of thoughts about my family not wanting me to do what I love because of what they may

say or that they did not succeed in the same career as mine.

I sometimes make drastic measures that are not necessary like wanting to change how my

life is now days, but without those struggles or people to deal with then the life I have right now

would never be as good as it is now. However, sometimes as a person I got to think about the

sacrifices or the prices I must pay in life just to be happy.

I’m unfortunate to have a life where my parents and the rest of my family are controlling

my decisions. I cannot imagine my life without struggling or be stressed out about my career

choices and my parents not trying to control a part of my life that I should be enjoying. It is so

hard to live my life when my family is breathing in my neck all the time always judging my

decisions. I feel that they should let me live my life and let me struggle so I can learn from that

experience.
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My entire life, my thoughts, and beliefs have been morphed into my parents’ way,

leaving me with zero control of it making me hide those thoughts, beliefs or decisions and just

please them gaining nothing in my favor. The hardest case is going to be to break free from that

chain. Of course, it is going to take years to overcome. No matter what, I must make sure I am

not putting my life in someone else’s hands. It is hard to try to convince them that they already

had their life and their decisions, that now it is my turn to live my life the way I want it.

Being true to myself and being honest with the world about who I really am today is still

a work in progress, but I am getting there, and I will overcome those struggles and have these

confidences to speak or write as it please me gaining happiness. The world must accept me for

who I am that is not debatable. The easiest way to do this is by living for myself and the rest will

follow. Pleasing others can be the cost of my happiness and might be hard to get it back.
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Reflection

The purpose of writing this essay is to show the audience that even though you have a

positive person in your life helping you shape up your future and future self, you always going to

have that self-negativity and try to bring yourself down. No matter what you always going to

need to push or get the help of someone else to push your confidence back and put that self-

negativity into a safe box where the key got throwed into a deep ocean. I imagine the audience

could be individuals that are struggling with their writing trying to get some tips or help to be a

confident writer. I feel like my essay will have a positive impact on whoever the reader is

because the reader can try to make their life in a different way than my life. The process of

writing this essay is that I gave a good thought on how I was going to write it and I think I turn

out great. I decided that I was going to write about my English teachers from my high school

because they made a great impact on my life shaping the person I am today and the struggles I’m

overcoming.