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Kelsey's mom called me, frantic.
Her 15-year-old daughter had been caught living a double life. The
details were heartbreaking and involved a troubled boy, sexual sin
and lots of secrets.
It was the kind of discovery that parents hope they never make.
Kelsey didn't want to sin sexually, at least not at first, but she did
want the feeling that someone was head-over-heels, madly in love
with her. She didn't want to lie to her parents, but she was willing
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to do so to be with a boy who made her feel like the center of his
world.
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He want us to make parenting decisions based primarily on what
builds our child's confidence in themselves? Check out the story
from Luke 18 about a man with very high self-esteem:
Jesus said, "everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the
one who humbles himself will be exalted" (Luke 18:14).
Jesus clearly rejects the idea that we should base our sense of
worth on our own abilities. Jesus' ideas about self-worth don't
exactly mesh with our culture's conventional wisdom.
Jesus' Formula
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Jesus' teachings weren't wrapped in warm fuzzies. The idea of
building yourself were never mentioned in any of His sermons.
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Instead, He focused on the opposite.
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"Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with
all your mind, and with all your strength. The second is: Love your
neighbor as yourself. There is no other command greater than
these" (Mark 12:30-31).
The most important lesson for your kids to learn is to love God with
everything they have. That kind of vertical focus has a way of
taking our eyes off of ourselves.
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Jesus says that we should love ourselves. However, that love should
extend to the way we treat others. In fact, He insists that loving
others is the second most important extension of our faith.
Die to self. Focus on God. Love others. This is Jesus' formula for how
we develop our self-worth. It's a topsy-turvy truth, but the best way
to help our kids feel good about themselves is to urge them to
think of God and others more often.
Final Thoughts
Kelsey is not unique in her wanting to be loved. We all want to be
loved. We all feel the desperate craving for significance. What
Kelsey missed was that God is the only One who can permanently
fill that hole in her heart.
Tell your kids that you love them often. Encourage them. Point out
their strengths. But ultimately, you should remind them of their
value to Jesus.
Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have
eternal life" (John 3:16).
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