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Communication
is one of the most
important factors of
human relationships.
V z á je m n á z á v is lo s t
It teaches us how to
first seek to
understand and then
to be understood;
N e z á v is lo s t
it concerns our
communication.
Z á v is lo s t Empathy = "putting
on somebody's shoes",
understanding.
Principle of Empathic Communication-2
Communication has
- verbal (words and their meanings) and
- nonverbal parts.
Words play much smaller role than we think.
Personal example plays a much more important role.
(Words are generally considered to form
about 7 to 10% of communication,
voice (tone, loudness) 30 to 38%
and the greatest deal, 55 to 60%, is body language
(nonverbal communication)
= what we do and what we are.)
Seeking to Understand Others
Levels of Listening
1) Ignoring = I'm not even trying to listen.
2) Pretending = I seem to be listening but I'm thinking
about something else.
3) Listening Selectively = I pay attention only when I'm
listening to what I want, what I'm interested in (this is
how we often listen to small children).
4) Listening Carefully = I really pay attention to words
(I perceive the meaning that the words have for me or I
don't worry about them) I hear words.
5) Listening Empathically = I'm listening with the
intention to understand, I'm open, focus on what is
inside the other person and on their value system. That
gives me precise information of what is being said.
Seeking to Understand Others - 2
Empathic listening is the highest form of
listening.
We empathise with the feelings and thoughts
of the other party by which we create a
positive psychological climate.
If we've created such a climate contrasts
between words and feelings disappear;
people express themselves openly and
honestly.
Seeking to Understand Others - 3
Although this kind of listening
takes more time, it is still less
than having to explain things
after we've misunderstood something,
or fixing conflicts.