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2015 Edge Amp Boundaries8 PDF
2015 Edge Amp Boundaries8 PDF
GOAL ENVIRONMENT
The goal of this Edge Night is to help the youth Put up pictures of the many different types of
understand the Church’s teaching on same sex relationships we have in our lives around the
attraction. room or make a slide show. Have pictures from
retreat of the different youth and their friends,
EDGE NIGHT AT A GLANCE pictures of youth and teachers in a classroom,
This Edge Night begins with a time for the youth to pictures of parents with their children, pictures
brainstorm all the different types of relationships of a husband and a wife, someone at the dentist
they have in their lives. The Proclaim focuses on or doctor, etc.
the Church’s teaching on same sex attraction
as well as pointing out the difference between CORE TEAM FORMATION
temptation and sin when it comes to purity Pass out to the Core Team the teaching for the
and sexuality. The Break will give the youth an night along with the article “Bold and Loving”
opportunity to discuss the teaching and they found in Amplify Volume 10 and then use the
will also have an opportunity to write down any following questions for discussion or reflection.
further questions they have about this subject. Also consider watching together as a Core Team
The Send involves a time of Adoration giving the the video “The Third Way” from the Media
youth an opportunity to pray with their Core Suggestions.
Members and the Edge Night ends with a final
time for the youth minister to answer any further
questions on same sex attraction.
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• Do you have healthy boundaries in all the TO THE PARENTS
different relationships in your life? What are Please see the attached Parent Handout on page 24
some that need to be fixed? to 25. Be sure to send this to your parents along with
the teaching well in advance of this night so that they
• Do you know someone who struggles with are aware of the topic you will be covering and will
same sex attraction? How can you approach this have time to ask any questions.
relationship in light of what the Church teaches?
GATHER PROCLAIM
WELCOME AND INTRODUCTIONS “BOUNDARIES” TEACHING
(5 min) (15 min)
Gather in all the youth, introduce anyone who This teaching can be found on pages 20 to 22.
is there for the first time, and recognize any Here are the main points from the teaching.
birthdays. Give a brief introduction to the night
and begin in prayer. • Every relationship in our life has specific
boundaries.
RELATIONSHIPS • God's plan and purpose for sex is for it to be
(10 min)
within the boundaries of the Sacrament of
Matrimony between one man and one women.
Supplies:
• Paper
• We are all called to live lives of chastity and
• Pens
when we fall into temptation and sin Christ is
• Markers
there to forgive us.
Break the youth into small groups. Give them a
BREAK
large piece of paper and as a group brainstorm all
the different types of relationships they have in
their lives. For example friends, parents, siblings,
teachers, cousins, aunts, etc. and encourage them
to get creative and think of as many relationships SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION
as they can. At the end of the time have a prize for (10 min)
the small group that has the most relationships
listed out. Supplies:
• Paper
As you transition into the teaching – go around • Pens
to each small group and ask them to pick one of
the relationships and tell the rest of the group Break the youth into their small groups, begin
the proper way to treat that person. For example: in prayer, and use the following questions for
parents – we should respect our parents, listen to discussion.
them, love them, and be grateful for all they have
given us.
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• What are some of the most important Along the back wall of the church, have a few
relationships in your life? Why? Core Members available to pray with the youth.
Make sure that there is one female Core Member
• Why is it important for us to have boundaries in and one male Core Member together as a prayer
our relationships with others? team. Explain to the youth that they can go to
these Core Members and ask them to pray with
• What are the two main purposes of marriage? them. The youth can have the Core Members
Why is it important that marriage is only pray for a specific intention or they can just ask
between a man and a woman? to be prayed over. If you do not think that your
middle school youth would be open to this type of
• Why is it important that we support and reach prayer, consider having them write down prayer
out to those who struggle with same sex intentions and bringing them up to a basket at
attraction? What does the Church say we should the foot of the monstrance.
do?
ANSWERS AND CLOSING PRAYER
• Why is it important for us to know the difference (15 min)
between temptation and sin? What can we do
when we sin? After the time of Eucharistic Adoration, bring the
youth back into a large group and answer some of
• Why do you think we will be the happiest when the questions the youth wrote down. Be sure to
we live within the boundaries God has given us? only respond to questions to which you know the
Why is this important? correct answer. If you did not know the answer
to a question, assure them that you did not get
After you have discussed these questions give the to answer all the questions at this time but you
youth a slip of paper and a pen and have them will address them at a later time (be sure that
write down any question they may have about you actually follow up). If your priest is available,
the Church’s teaching on same sex attraction. consider having him help with this portion of the
Collect these sheets of paper at the end of small Edge night.
group time.
End the Edge Night with a short prayer for the
youth to have strength to overcome temptation
SEND and sin and for God to bless all the many
relationships in their lives.
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BOUNDARIES
KEY WORDS Sin –“An offense against Chastity – “The moral virtue
God as well as a fault against which, under the cardinal
Temptation – “An attraction, reason, truth, and right virtue of temperance,
either from outside oneself or conscience. Sin is a deliberate provides for the successful
from within, to act contrary thought, word, deed, or integration of sexuality within
to right reason and the omission contrary to the the person leading to the
commandments of God” (CCC eternal law of God” (CCC inner unity of the bodily and
Glossary)) Glossary) spiritual being” (CCC Glossary)
BOUNDARIES
In our lives we have many different types of relationships. We have
relationships with our parents, with our siblings, with our friends,
with our teachers, etc. There are also appropriate boundaries to
each one of our relationships. (Use some of the examples that the
youth gave from the opening game).
You all gave examples of relationships and then we saw how each
relationship is unique. We do not treat our parents the same way
that we treat our friends, and we do not treat our teachers the
way that we treat our little sister or brother. Each relationship
has a certain purpose in our lives and we act according to the
purpose of that relationship. For example we treat our teachers
with respect and listen to them when they are teaching, and we do
what they ask of us in regards to our homework and tests because
the purpose of the relationship is for us to learn from them.
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Just like any of the other relationships in our lives – there are
specific things that are reserved only to be within the bonds of the
Sacrament of Matrimony. Sex is one of these things. God created
and intended for sex to take place in, and only in, the safety and
unity of the marriage of a man and a woman. When a man and a
woman have sex they create and strengthen the bond between
them, and they are open to the possibility of new life through
Genesis 2:24 conceiving children. Sex is meant only to be within the boundaries
CCC 2360-2363 of marriage because it is such a good and powerful thing (it creates
new life) that it should be saved to be shared through a life long
commitment made through the Sacrament of Matrimony. This is
what God has revealed to us: that sex unites a man and a woman
and brings about babies. We can see this same truth if we look to
the basics of biology. It is important to remember that only a man
and a woman through sex are capable of coming together in this
way and brining new life into the world.
Do you hear some of these words? That people who struggle with
same sex attraction are to be accepted, respected, and shown
compassion and sensitivity. We all need to support each other
CCC 2359 through the burdens and difficulties of life. Remember that there
are so many other meaningful relationships and friendships in life,
and anyone who struggles with same sex attraction is still called to
live a life of fullness in these other types of relationships lived out
with chastity and proper boundaries.
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TEMPTATION VS SIN
The Catechism of the Catholic Church states that, whether or not Key Word
you experience same sex attraction, we are all called to live lives CCC 2337
of purity and chastity. It is through chastity that we will be able to CCC 2359
have relationships with others in the proper boundaries.
When we do things that we know are wrong and that Jesus and
the Church have taught us are wrong, this it is called sin. We are
called to pray for strength to not give into temptations and to not Key Word
sin, but at some point all of us will fall into sin. But the great news CCC 1849
is that God is always ready to forgive us of any and all of our sins. Romans 3:23
He wants us to be freed from sin and gives us the Sacrament of CCC 1422
Reconciliation to forgive us of our sins and to give us grace to not
fall into the same sins again.
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BOUNDARIES HANDOUT
PARENT HANDOUT
This week at Edge we discussed the many different relationships we have in
our lives and the different purposes and boundaries that exist within those
relationships. We emphasized the purpose and boundaries of the Sacrament of
Matrimony specifically that sex is intended only for a man and a woman within the
Sacrament of Matrimony. As a side note it is important realize that the Church’s
stance on marriage is not the same as the laws of many different countries – but
the Church and the law of the land throughout history have not always been on
the same page, such as the case of abortion and capital punishment. One of the
main relationships we discussed tonight was the nature of a relationship between
two men or two women, specifically the boundaries of friendship. Along with
this we talked about the Church’s teaching for those who struggle with same sex
attraction. The Church teaches that:
“The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies
is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes
for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and
sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.
These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians,
to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from
their condition.” (CCC 2358)
We helped your son and daughter understand how same sex relationships go
outside the proper boundaries of the friendships between two men and two
women. Along with that, we talked about how we are all called to live lives of
chastity regardless of our attraction to others – and that through living with proper
boundaries in all our relationships we will find the most happiness and fulfillment.
• “Today, the Church provides a badly needed context for the care of the human
person, when she refuses to consider the person as a “heterosexual” or a
“homosexual” and insists that every person has a fundamental identity: the
creature of God, and by grace, his child and heir to eternal life” (Congregation
for the Doctrine of the Faith “Letter to the Bishops of the Catholic Church on the
Pastoral Care of Homosexual People”, p. 16; 1986).
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BOUNDARIES HANDOUT
PARENT HANDOUT
• “The spouses’ union achieves the twofold end of marriage: the good of the
spouses themselves and the transmission of life. These two meanings or values
of marriage cannot be separated without altering the couple’s spiritual life and
compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family” (CCC 2363).
• The truth is that the Church stands against the homosexual actions, not the
person. She teaches that the actions are intrinsically disordered and are outside
of God’s plan for sexuality and therefore sinful (CCC 2357, Genesis 19:1-29,
Romans 1:24-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, 1 Timothy 1:10).
• The Homosexual Person, by Fr. John Harvey (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 1987)
• Letter to the Bishops of the Catholic Church on the Pastoral Care of Homosexual
Persons, by the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith and John Paul II
• Romans 1:18-32
• 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
• 1 Timothy 1:9-10
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BOUNDARIES CHECKLIST
Environment ________________________________ ⃞ Email Core Team the Edge Night Core Formation
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BOUNDARIES EVALUATION
What is going well at our Edge Nights? What can Would you be interested in leading prayer,
we improve? explaining games, or giving a Proclaim teaching?
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Was there one particular part of this Edge Night Are our Core Meetings effective? How can I
you did not think was necessary? What and better serve you as a youth minister? What can
Why? we do to better serve our youth?
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