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You can use this one no matter what you were just talking
about, and you can refer to anything you’ve heard in the
news, or anything newsworthy related to where you are.
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It can feel like they are waiting for you to say something and
thinking about how awkward you are.
You’re not the only one who blames yourself. The other
person can go blank in their head, give too short answers,
forget to ask a follow-up question, or even just don’t know
how to keep the conversation going.[6]
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this:
– I study.
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– Pizza.
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These are questions you can ask after the initial small talk
when you start the conversation. If you ask these questions
too early, people might feel uncomfortable. But to truly bond
and move the conversation forward, you need to involve
people emotionally.
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“conversational threading”-method)
Let’s say that the person you were talking to said something,
and you have no idea of how to build the conversation on that.
Now, ask yourself what you were talking about earlier in the
conversation. Then, go back to any previous subject and
ask questions related to that.
– I see. You said you visited Paris not too long ago, right? How
was it?
You can also relate back to discussions you had last time you
met:
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So, when it starts getting quiet and you’ve done your initial
pleasantries and small talk, you can end the conversation
politely with a nice wrap up:
“It was so good to see you. Hope you have a great day!”
“Anyway, I’ll let you get back to that. Great seeing you!”
“I gotta go now, see you later!”
“Alright! Good talking to you!”
“I just got here, I’m just gonna go have a look around
and say hi to everyone. See you later!”
“I’m starving! I’m gonna go grab something to eat. See
you!”
“I’m just gonna go use the restroom, good seeing you!”
If it’s appropriate, it can be good to end a conversation
by exchanging business cards or contact details.
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Example:
“I had lunch over at that new sushi place today. I had tuna
and salmon nigiri plus miso soup.”
But even better is to keep talking and let the other person
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With this technique, you give them control to pick and choose
from the topics you touch upon in your “pointless” story. This
both gets rid of awkward silence and makes sure the
conversation stays interesting and relevant to both of you.
“But this feels so weird. I can’t just talk about something like
this. What if I bore the other person?”
This may sound weird until you try it. Then, when it works, it
will feel like the most natural thing in the world.
People do this all the time. And you don’t even notice it
because it’s so natural. Try it just once and you’ll see.
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silence
Open questions are questions where you can’t just answer yes
or no; they need some sort of explanation. The opposite is a
closed question where there is a correct answer.
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The thing is, when you try to make everything you say smart
or interesting, you get stuck in a trap where it’s SUPER hard
to come up with anything to say. Your mind goes blank. And
instead of sounding smart or interesting, you’re just quiet and
stiff.
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So, the next time you are about to censor yourself because
you think that what you are going to say sounds stupid, try
saying it anyway. If you are usually too quiet, it’s better to say
something than nothing.[8]
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interview-trap:
– Good!
+ Oh, cool. I’ve known Lucy since high school. She’s the best!
How did you two meet?
If you were talking about a topic, and then there’s not much
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This one is funny if the other one made a joke/teased you, and
you don’t have a snappy comeback:
Those who love to talk are shoved to the head of the group
and given the microphone, whilst the more silent types are
relegated to the background.
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But many people are slowly waking up to the fact that people
who prefer silence over talking are just as capable of
changing the world.
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On the other hand, those that do know how to stay silent and
listen – often have longer-lasting relationships, more friends,
and stronger connections.
In other words, women like men who are good listeners and
comfortable with silence.
So the next time you find yourself on a date where you seem
to be doing most of the talking, take a step back and listen.
It’s attractive to be comfortable with silence and listen. You
don’t need to fill every gap with words.
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-I’m good.
When you come across people who are not super-social, you
will probably have to fire off a couple of questions before you
can expect to get them into the conversation. They need to
get warmed up.
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-Yes
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(Josh talks)
(Josh explains)
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– What games?
With many of the people you come across, you will be able to
find some kind of mutual interest or experiences or opinions,
as long as you ask the right questions.
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something[10]
So, follow this guide, but don’t be afraid to break its rules –
and you’ll be on your way to having a relaxed, flowing
conversation that everyone will enjoy.
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References:
1. Mukawa, N., Sasaki, H., & Kimura, A. (2014, August).
How do verbal/bodily fillers ease embarrassing
situations during silences in conversations?. In The 23rd
IEEE International Symposium on Robot and Human
Interactive Communication (pp. 30-35). IEEE.
2. Bruneau, T. J. (1973). Communicative silences: Forms
and functions. Journal of communication, 23(1), 17-46.
3. Duncan, S. (1972). Some signals and rules for taking
speaking turns in conversations. Journal of personality
and social psychology, 23(2), 283.
4. Clegg, J. W. (2012). The importance of feeling awkward:
A dialogical narrative phenomenology of socially
awkward situations. Qualitative Research in Psychology,
9(3), 262-278.
5. McLaughlin, M. L., & Cody, M. J. (1982). Awkward
silences: Behavioral antecedents and consequences of
the conversational lapse. Human communication
research, 8(4), 299-316.
6. Anthony, M Martin, Swinson, Richard P. (2008). The
Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook Second Edition pp.
112-113. Oakland, CA
7. Gilovich, T., Savitsky, K., & Medvec, V. H. (1998). The
illusion of transparency: Biased assessments of others’
ability to read one’s emotional states. Journal of
Personality and Social Psychology, 75(2), 332-346.
8. Moscovitch, D. A., Rodebaugh, T. L., & Hesch, B. D.
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David Morin
8 years ago, I committed to build
my social confidence and become
great at connecting with people.
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August 8, 2019 at 2:21 pm
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