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and keeps a lot of his cultural values and passes them on to his children. He told me
that the definition of his culture is not defined by his Chinese ethnicity, but it is defined
by his family’s traditions. They have long lasting family traditions that they do throughout
the year. He said that his family traditions are centered around mostly art and cuisine.
His family has always believed that their celebrations and events should be centered
around their famous cuisine. One holiday they celebrate with a huge party is the Winter
Festival, which our text tells us, is celebrated on December 22 nd and is widely
celebrated more than the actual New Year. (Li, J., 1996) He told me that his mother
makes some of the best food you will ever taste. His food is focused a lot around
different herbs and spices and is also influenced a lot but other countries near China.
This love of cuisine and cooking has carried over to his life as an adult, and he takes a
When I asked Peter how he defines family, he said that growing up his family
was influenced a lot by western values, but that his Father put a strong emphasis on
having a strong cultural hierarchy. His Father was seen as the leader, and he had a
very cold, stern outlook on life. This is very common in a Chinese home. I read online,
that, “in the traditional Chinese family, the man is responsible for maintaining, providing
for and protecting his family.” (Betts, J., n.d.) His Mother was his safe spot, and though
she was seen as the weaker in the relationship, she was always there to comfort him
and his siblings. The rest of their family hierarchy was clearly defined as he was the
oldest, so he had the most responsibilities and chores, and then his younger, and then
the youngest. Each one had less chores and less responsibility. His Father was very
strict like I mentioned before, which is very common for Chinese men. Because his
Father was so strict, he finds himself being a bit less strict with his own children. He
was born in Beijing. Peter is businessman and is very successful, as a Director of Data
Science at a technology company. He said he mainly just attends a lot of daily meetings
and his job is more boring than it sounds. He also said he still travels internationally to
China for business. Something in our readings that caught my eye was the fact that the
Chinese like doing business with westerners and they generally think that westerners
are very honest, trustworthy and nice to work with. (Li, J.,1996) His Father was also in
originally in China. His family moved from China to Los Angeles in the late 1980’s. Peter
never lived with his grandparents or extended family, but he stayed with them quite a bit
when he was younger. He told me remembered them being involved in a lot of their
events when they were young. His grandmother would always come over to their house
and cook more traditional meals then his parents did. He said she migrated to northern
China from Fujian when she was very young, and she brought with her a lot of their
Peter told me that to him, the most important meal of the day is breakfast, as he
is a big fitness buff. He told me he is all about getting the day started right with a
workout and a healthy meal. He mentioned that his parents put a big emphasis on
eating dinner together every night and that they were at the dinner table at 6 PM every
evening of the week. He said this made it harder to have a social life when he got in his
older high school years, because they even did family dinners on Friday nights.
He laughed when I asked him, but he said, “Obviously, eating with chopsticks is
something that is specific to our culture!” The Chinese have been using Chopsticks
since 1200 B.C. (Butler, S., 2013) He said as long as he can remember his family only
ate with chopsticks. His home didn’t have any forks growing up. They had only
chopsticks and soup-style spoons. He said when he was a kid, they would do a form of
what Chinese restaurants do with paper and rubber bands in the middle to learn how to
use them. He said by four or five years old he was great at using them and could pick
up any type of food. A big staple of his diet was rice and a lot of fresh vegetables.
Mostly vegetables like green onions, potatoes, cucumbers and bok choy. He said he still
Some of the holidays and traditions that his family growing up and his current
family recognize each year are: Lunar New Year, Lantern Festival, the Mid-Autumn
Festival, and the Winter Festival which I mentioned earlier. He said, “We go all out for
Lunar New Year!” They rent out large centers, have dragon shows, light fireworks, make
tons of food, and celebrate for multiple days with shows and music. His favorite tradition
that they do is the dragon show. His children love it. It is very exciting and takes so
many people working together to truly be performed right, so it teaches his kids about
being cohesive and working in unison. His family makes wishes and they throw them
into the dragons “mouth.” His other favorite tradition is the Lantern Festival, because it
is a way to remember your elders. His children never met his parents, so it makes them
People in his culture spend their leisure time with outdoor activities like golf and
tennis. A lot of the businessmen, including himself, play both sports. His family also was
very into kites and kiting at the park. They would make the kites as a family and fly them
together.
Physical touch and touching were always shunned upon on his culture. He said
that personal space is very important in Chinese culture, and a lot of different outfits that
he had growing up were to not be touched by anyone other than the wearer. He said he
can barely remember his Mother and Father touching each other and never hugging or
kissing in front of them. If they did, it was very behind closed doors. He does not abide
by this. He wants his children to see and feel affection, as he tries to raise them in a
Peter told me the best thing about living in the USA is the diversity. He is close
friends with not only Chinese people, but with people from all different cultures,
ethnicities, and religions. He has been able to bring traditions and values from his home
and culture to the USA and share them with his close friends. I myself have been a part
of not only his Lunar New Year celebrations, but his Lantern Festival celebrations as
well. Peter is a great person, who I see as a friend, and I am happy I have been able to
be a part of these and look forward to seeing more of his culture in the future.
Appendix
References
Li, J. (2000). Passport China: your pocket guide to Chinese business, customs &
etiquette. Novato, CA: World Trade Press.