Aftercare

While many people focus mostly on play and training of BDSM,

aftercare is absolutely essential. After a person has been pushed
to their physical and mental limits, their mind and body can
experience a massive drop as they try to orientate themselves
back to reality.

After an intense BDSM session, scene or training experience both

the Dominant and submissive or all parties involved will take some
time to recover known as aftercare. This time is usually where the
Dominant will provide a safe physical and mental space for the
submissive, so the submissive is able to let go and relax after such
a physically and mentally exhausting experience.

This is a truly important part of all BDSM play as it allows both

partners to come down from the scene, reconnect with their
partner and relax into a comforting safe environment.

While aftercare is normally meant for the submissive’s benefit,

aftercare can be just a crucial for the Dominant’s well-being after
an intense scene. It is meant to be a low stress environment where
each partner’s mental, emotional and physical needs are

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 supported and nurtured.

Aftercare can include things like:

cuddling

talking/laughing

stretching

massaging

blankets for warmth

tending to injuries from play

fluids to rehydrate

food to replenish fuel

setting up a special environment

special comforting items (ie blanket, clothes, toys)

Just as everyone has different kinks; everyone has different

aftercare needs. So it is important in your negotiations that you
figure out before your partner is a sweaty, shaking, crying mass on
the floor, what exactly they will need from you for their aftercare

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