John A.

Agarpao September 13, 2020

Reflection on Family Dynamics and Human Sexuality

“What you are looking for is where you are looking from”
-St. Francis of Assisi

The five days session with the topic Family Dynamics and Human Sexuality presided
over by Fr. Jhoan Pader OFM was a challenging yet a life changing one. Life changing in the
sense that when I learned about my back grounds such as, how I was raised at home by my
family and during my formation stages, I realized how it affects to who I am right now.
Moreover, challenging because as I learned about it, I am challenge to accept them as part of
myself, most especially the negative ones and try to make some actions about it.

The first four days, Fr. Jhoan focused our sessions about the topic on Family Dynamics.
We tackled about our Family Environment Scale composed of Relationship Dimensions,
Personal Growth Dimensions, and System Maintenance Dimensions. In addition, we also talked
about the role of every members of the family in our homes. But what I liked the most during our
sessions was the time when we had our sharing, where in there was an open forum among us and
it goes like this. First, there will be someone who will share about his family back ground
following the guide questions given. Second, the open forum where in the other brothers will try
to pinpoint some characteristics of the one who shared. And lastly, Fr. Jhoan would try to
evaluate the sharing in a fraternal way and connect it in our topic, Family Dynamics. In such a
case, I strongly admired how the session on the Family Dynamics goes. It was because
personally I really learned a lot of new things about myself that I’m not conscious of before
which I believe can help me to be more productive upon my formation.

After the topic on Family Dynamics the last day of our session was dedicated on the
Human Sexuality. During our session Fr. Jhoan didn’t really give time to elaborate more about it
because he believes that we already get it even when we are at the early stages of formation level
since we are with him. So in such case, he just pinpointed some key points to us and gave some
reviews. He discussed about the Circles of Human Sexuality composed of Sensuality,
Sexualisation, Sexual Health and Reproduction, Sexual Identity and Intimacy. Moreover, during
our session he also discussed about the parts of the body which we are not conscious of that
sometimes when it was aching it was not only because of the physical aspects but the emotional
had a great impact also. In this regards, the session made me realized that sometimes when I had
this head ache, I may not only consider about the physical elements but the emotional also.
Maybe, I was just overthinking sometimes about things which were not helpful especially in my
formation. In such a case, I must learn to manage it.
 September 20, 2020
Schedules:
8:30-10:00 AM- Transitus Practice
3:00-4:00 PM- Picture Taking for our
Directory
Note: I am waiting for your articles
brothers. Pls. submit it as soon as
possible. Thank you!