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Second Pearl Diving Assignment: ENCE 424, Section 0101
Second Pearl Diving Assignment: ENCE 424, Section 0101
Second Pearl
Diving Assignment
Dr. Webster-Trotman
Grace Russell
-2020
Introduction
Since the first Pearl Diving Assignment, I have continued to learn much about
communication and the problems I didn’t realize I have. There are so many common pitfalls I get
trapped by without noticing, and books like Crucial Conversations seem to continuously call me
out. I have learned how to better my conflict resolution skills past finding a compromise. I feel
more in touch with why I think the way I think through different personality tests and
understanding how to communicate with those who are different than me. My communication
skills have increased significantly as I am more encouraged to stand up for myself in conflict and
understand where the other party is coming from.
Adversity Storytelling
Upon beginning my freshman year of college, I decided to join Air Force ROTC at the
University of Maryland. I wanted to make a difference and serve my country proudly after I
graduated, so the military seemed like a great option. I wanted to join a culture that would push
me to my limits and see how much I could grow. At first, it was really difficult. Trainers were
harsh and my soft-spoken, quiet confidence was not enough to do well. Since I was newer to the
program than most of the other cadets, I had to adapt quickly in order to stay afloat. Hour after
hour I would practice marching around in my dorm room, commanding a team, exercising to
beat my previous fitness scores, and other skills necessary to do well in ROTC. I joined a group
to practice these skills more, essentially volunteering myself to be yelled at on the weekends
when I was free from my engineering homework. Slowly, I began to grow my confidence. My
leadership skills starting improving extensively, and I naturally became a standout within my
academic year. This led to my ability to help out my classmates and mentor them as well. When
it came time to decide jobs for the next year, I was placed in a coveted position. I would be in
charge of 30 cadets directly and oversee 150 other students and training. This was such a proud
moment for myself in seeing my hard work pay off.
The next semester started off well. I was meeting every deadline, producing innovative
ideas, and leading with integrity. Until one day, I was called in to meet with my commanding
officer. He let me know there were several rumors going around about how I received the
position I was currently in. Within ROTC, students choose the other student leaders, and
someone started a rumor that the only reason I had my job was because I was sleeping with my
supervisor. A formal investigation was to be held into whether I can continue serving in my role,
and until they made a decision, I was to be suspended from my duties. Of course, this came as a
huge shock to me, as it was obviously untrue. I thought my improvements spoke for themselves
and was hurt my officers would even need to look into the rumors. But what hurt the most was
when I found out this rumor was started by someone I considered a friend. He was a standout
from the beginning of freshman year and thought he was a shoe-in for the position I received.
Instead of being proud for your friends, he started a rumor to try to get me kicked out. I couldn’t
believe he would do this and didn’t know how to even address this with him. Suddenly the
rumors spread even more and my others “friends” started believing them. No one believed my
side of the story and even voted to have me permanently removed from my job. I have never felt
more alone in my life than that time. The investigation went on for a month, marking the worst
isolation I had ever felt. Even though I felt I had no friends in the program, I continued to try my
hardest and lead people despite what they thought about me.
While the investigation was wrapping up, I decided to schedule a meeting with
my officers. I opened up about my experience and how I felt the entire investigation was
completely sexist and did not put any faith in my abilities. I told of the isolation I felt and how
the investigation only fed into the perception. They quickly put me back in my position,
addressing how the hard work I continued to put in even though removed from my job showed
an integrity that was not often seen. The cadet who had started the rumors was temporarily
suspended and given formal counselings for lying about something so severe. Not only have I
since succeeded immensely in that position for the remainder of the semester, but I now am in
line to be the commander of the entire Air Force ROTC program in the spring. I could have let
the rumors stop me from growing, but instead stood up to the conflict and continued with
tenacity. I am excited to be in a position soon where I can stand up for young girls like me who
are often taken advantage of, especially in a military setting where it can be a common stigma no
one combats.
Conclusion
In conclusion, I have learned the possible lackings within my communication and how to
combat these issues. My conflict management style could render arguments ineffective if I do
not properly address how I’m feeling and not simply accommodate others. My personality also
affects how I interact with other people and the way I can present myself best to accomplish
goals. I am excited to keep learning in this class and find new ways to apply it to my personal
life.
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